Der Rebbe Redt Tzu Kinder — Chayei Sarah

and the name of the sikh is doing shabbos layer of shabbos lights that stay lit from one heir of shabbos until the next which of course was one of the miracles in the tent of the first yiddish mamma of sauriameno as well as her her daughter-in-law her successor rifka and we're going to learn a little bit about that miracle and how it connects to to us okay let's just jump right in our sages tell us that the shabbos candles of both soda and rivka stayed lit all week long now that's an interesting casal that's about our holy emoys but as you know that evan never allows something to just be an interesting fact that ebb has said many times that taita is not a history book although obviously everything that it tells us about our obvious nimoys we believe is 100 accurate history but the point is it's not only a history book twitter is it's an instruction manual and even more than an instruction manual tata is actually it's almost like it's like talking about us it's not just telling us what we should be like can i be so bold as to say that that toyota is talking about what we are like and even if we don't think we're like that we really are this is one of the foundations of teresa this by the way you know when that when the when the altareba was in jail so he knew that the kit was against teresa balshamtiv and there was that minister who asked him the question about ayaka and so the al-tarabha told him rashes bashat he said hashem didn't want to scare all them so the minister said you know what rashi says i already know i want to hear what the deba has to say so the altar said well if i tell you before i tell you my answer i want to know something do you believe that toyota is applicable to each person in each place at each time and he said yes of course i do and the altar was relieved because he knew that was one of the tenets of teresa of shemtif and if this guy believed that idea it probably voted well for the for the trial at any rate the idea of ayaka it wasn't hashem speaking to adam i mean it was that's what hashem said to adam but that's not the point the point isn't this is historically what happened when hashem spoke to adam ayaka is hashem speaking to you right now right here okay so anything we know about our aves and emojis it's not just something interesting to know about them it's about us and by the way let me let me add that basically has the same rule when it comes to the reba'm to the naseem that if there's a story about the rabbayim it's about us just last week we had pashas vallero and they never told that famous story so many times about the rabbit shop coming home from haiti crying when he was four or five years old and instead of making that a story about how sensitive and how holy the shabba was as a child which clearly you know that's that's obviously true but that ever used that story to to say it's about all of us and that today every single jewish child can have the sincere yearning for for godliness and uh yeah so we know something about our hey look at mice and that ebb is going to say this is actually about us or at least um it's about the girls it's about the girls so let's let's read for native shabbos kay de chichong bias the purpose of of of shabbos candles is shalom by some of that that it says in halal it says in rama it's a very very very simple reason and the rabbit remains within the simple explanation literally to lighten up the house to illuminate the house in the finstinish for when it's dark at night why kademas owned it essence to the shabbos in the finstinish verse faschaftsaar because we shouldn't eat our shabbos meal in the dark because that causes us pain so that i was keeping it very very literal very simple um in an eighth other evan gandik in defense that we shouldn't stumble on uh wood or stone going in the dark that's what the altitude says in in that the shabbos candles are so you shouldn't stumble on things like ates and evan and and there are meanings according to drush that himself says in other places but right here that i was keeping it very very simple that the lights are on literally the lights are on so that it won't be dark okay now how are we gonna make that meaningful to the children so let's let's look inside again in them from the eden this light also brings a spiritual benefit okay and that is not going to say metaphorically a spiritual light at least at this point we're talking about the the physical light but spiritual benefits that it brings again the idea here is that it's very accessible to a child this is not such an abstract concept it's a very relatable idea and the examples are very very relatable the examples are so relatable you'd either have to be a pre-1a teacher to think of it or you'd have to be an ashama because how how how would you think of such like relatable examples in the in the life of a little child okay how does the the light of the shabbos candles bring um a spiritual benefit at night it's dark but you have the shabbos lights so you can you can can open a safe or you can learn talent you can use the light to tell what food is kosher and which food is not kosher what does that mean you have food that's not kosher in the house well it means you know a little kid little kids my kids do this all the time right is this kosher i don't know i hope so i bought it you know i paid for it sure paid for kosher they'll you know they look fake okay what else and can cooking inside bench nothing and he can look in his sitter and he'll he'll be able to bench he'll be able to say the right brachus so that's the spiritual benefit of the light again we're not getting lofty here when we say spiritual we're talking about physical light very practical benefits but that you can use to do uh jewish things from stayed lit all week long is there standing so it's understood from this now i wouldn't have understood it on my own but now that that ever says it yes i get it and by the way the deb is training me how to think is there a fun firsthand if something is the way it was by the obvious and the amounts so it must be a similar thing by every jewish woman and girl i didn't figure that out on my own i didn't know just because this was the way it was with soder and rifka that this is the way it is with every jewish mother and every jewish girl but when you learn to to use the deb as logic then then yeah you start to think this way even though the the the shabbos candles that we light don't physically stay lit all shabbos long a little bit abstractly they bring a spiritual light to the house that lasts the whole week so by the amounts the physical candles were lit all week okay so by us they go out after a while but the spiritual light is there all week long and what does that mean that there's a spiritual light all week it means that people have a light a clarity of knowing how to behave in a way that is in accordance with nier mitzvah terra i in other words it just means that people are are acting the right way so the shabbos candle sort of set the tone in the home let's call it like that which makes a lot of sense because a woman is at ketusa bias she sets the tone that ever speaks about that a little bit later she sets the tone so she's lighting the shabbos candles really creates the environment and and allows people to behave properly all week long even long after shabbos okay yeah every jewish girl has the title daughter of sorry shabbos so the same schliches that the emojis had to illuminate their home that is given over to every jewish girl immediately upon her entry into being responsible for mitzvahs meaning at 12 years old mitzvah is and her being trained to do this even before basmati before the actual kiuv is part of the mitzvah of genoch so she so even younger than 12 she's already responsible to light shabbos candles as gleich venzie is shy to stand on them immediately as soon as she's able to understand the importance and then the meaning of this of this luminescent mitzvah zolzy she should start lighting already and you know that ever encouraged girls as young as three and even certain occasions younger than three that if they can make the bracha they should they they should be helped to light the shabbos candles that's a very important idea that even little little girls should light chaba's candles okay now a beautiful thought here about a little girl lighting shabbos candles so far we're saying that the little girls lighting shabbos candles and she's doing something that's the same as her mother which is doing something that is the same as the moist now we're going to bring out her actually the little little girl is doing something in a in in a certain way special even more than what her mother is doing let's see okay so it's emphasized here that she has a personal obligation she has been given the the the obligation to add to the light in the home along with her mother and her older sisters gleich wenzikumt tsum gill as soon as she is of a age to be educated in this so the yorin then me er to make sense meaning the age when she could be taught to do these things he benched them abstinent she makes up she benches hashem she makes abraha thanking hashem for giving her this little right so this little girl is thanking hashem for giving her this duty was the mitzvah in bringing helicopter and she has this responsibility to do to do what to bring light into the home along with her mother and her older sisters but more than that more than that here we're going to talk about how not only she's on par with her mother and sisters but this cute little girl this little munchkin this little three-year-old who just learned how to make a bracha she's doing something special that she is in first place like we're going to find out der ming is the custom is the little girl's light before the mother and there are practical reasons for that the simplest reason is because if the mother lights and she takes on shabbos and she's not going to be able to help the little girls the little girls have problems with the fire sometimes so in order the mother can help the little girl with the fire the mother waits until afterwards and then the mother lights so that the mother isn't chambers dick when the when the children when the little girls need help okay but here the rabbit takes even something so practical like that and brings out something so beautiful so comes out consequentially is what as the claim so the little little girl is the first to bring in the light of shabbos into the house fine for the how long does that last that lasts for maybe a minute and then the other sisters start lighting and the mother lights no no but it goes on video and then even afterwards when the mother and the sisters light bliped by ear discourse she still has the scores susan bring the lift kite from their she was the first and this is so much you know the psychology of a little kid right i was the first i won you know you want to make any kid do anything you say i'll time you let's let's race let's see who can do it first right let's you can put away there twice first you were the first you won so think about the pride this little girl has not only to know that she's bringing in light into the home just like her mother and just like the mice but in a certain respect she's doing something even more than that because she was the first mommy i was the first i started it i started the shabbos light being in the house greater tsu as wendy vette vaccine and vet cast so then this experience prepares her she'll grow up she'll get married she'll be able to do this as the bala busta as the akira tobias of her own home but the way we start her off is by showing her even at a very young age the responsibility she was given that hashem has given her a schlitz that there's a duty she has and that in a certain way her duty is even no pun intended outshining the way her mother and sisters do it when then get benched very with kinder and then when she will be blessed to have her own children and among the children she will have she'll have some daughters zolzie erzien as they say she's going to see to it to raise her daughters the way she was raised that they should also make the house shining with judaism and that includes that the house should literally be again we're going back to bagashimasu like we were talking about literally having those lights and then through making the house light through shabbos candles this has a spa an influence on the entire world to make the whole world a bright place and what does it mean the whole world's a bright place again again we have to assume what does it mean that ebba said what does it mean the shabbos candles are are shining all week long in the house it means all week long people are mindful even though shabbos candles are no longer burning but it's giving putting them in the right mindset it's creating the right environment that they want to behave in a manner of nih mitsubitera art so what would it mean that the whole the whole world is shining with with this light it means the whole world is behaving the way that they need to behave that everybody's acting the way they're supposed to act and that's meshiach anyways another example how the rebbe empowers the children and just shows them what a special skus they have and how much they're doing for us barakah that was me