Rabbi Yisroel Reisman - Tolerance

was the name of one of the most horrible kings in the history of tanach was a king in the time of navi and because ah introduced the nua desire to claudia israel or navi had to decree a drought even if delhio agreed the drought ahmed didn't do chuva he ran after leonovi and wanted to kill him claudia israel had over 40 kings in the history of nach three of them are considered the worst enlarge is one of them a really terrible king yet the navy in zachariah tells us that when achaev died there was nisbaad hadadrima in bibekas megiddo which is a hint at the hesper of akhov it says that when ahab died he was mourned people were massed by him people were sad that he died then marshall says that this means kadaila israel too it's very hard to understand if ah was such a terrible russia he brought up a desire to call israel what redeeming factors could have had the kumara tells us about achav that there was one redeeming factor and the governor says that despite all his avarice it almost brought him into illumina the gemara says was a veteran he practiced patronus and if we can understand what vacheronis is it must be something great if someone with such a various such as akha he'll almost make it to the gemara says he was mercza he missed just by a little bit for making it into grenadine despite all these others because he was a veteran if so we should learn about vatronasis because none of us hallelujah have a veil is like ahab and whatever average a person may have vatranus is a shortcut to allow a person to make it to canadian let's try to understand what it means to be a voucher on what vatronas is not a common word it's also not a common media if we try to do it it'll be a great source for us to have before i explain vacheronis let me tell you that hank nyevsky has a safer anita's divers he said talks about certain medicines and one section is called patronus and there he writes that to be a vatran is the sign of a wise person not just someone as medis but someone who is who's wise understands vajranas so let's try to see what what on this is why it's connected to and let's try to be kind of this media the word vatran cannot be translated into english there's no english word for vatranas because i don't think quite frankly someone who's not from really could be a veteran a veteran who's someone who overlooks things someone who is easy with his money easy with his time easy with his snacks and also somebody who's not easily offended that's a vatra what does it take to be a voucher what does it mean to be a vatra takes a lot of self-control there's a story of a yid who lived in mayasharam 100 years ago he lived in terrible poverty his family they had one valuable item they had fill-in that was said to have once belonged to the shemitah but they called the basham tift villain and these basham tetra could easily have been sold for a lot of money but they wouldn't sell it it was the family treasure and they were even times that there was no food to give to the children there were times that they would be our foot and had no shoes but they would never sell the ball shrimp of children one day this yid saw that sukis was coming he had no lululemon he had no estrig no means to borrow a lullaby in an estric and he was very upset very sad sukis was coming he would miss the mitzvah and he thought about selling the rabino thamesville and finally one day he did he went out the day before sukis sold the rebel times villain and with that bought himself although living in estrich later that day his wife came home his wife who suffered all these years didn't have food to feed the children had to scrap together money for clothing she walks in and she sees her husband has an s rig and she says to him where did you get that asterisk from he was reluctant to tell her she looked at him she looked at the shelf for a ravenous town filling with captains so they were weren't there rather the basham to children were kept and so they weren't there and she understood and she had terrible pain that was never she remembered all the time she was hungry the children were hungry they wouldn't sell the bashem to villain and now her husband sold it she got so angry she went she picked up the asterisk bit off the pit him and made it possible my husband sat there quietly and she said no you're not going to say anything and he replied he said look the basham to fill in i don't have the esrig i don't have shoulder bias i also shouldn't have i may as well be quiet that in a nutshell is about honest someone's a vatra someone did something wrong to him he didn't say a word he was quiet do you understand that it takes wisdom to be a vatra you have to be in have a lot of self-control and be smart enough to know that by speaking up you're going to cause damage in my mind there are examples of electronics that happen in our homes not hashem to fill in stories or estrogen stories the examples of adronis in by midwa rava are examples where someone spills something on your clothing when someone rips an item of your clothing and a person is able to control themselves and not say anything that's hard that's difficult to be a voucher and let things go and overlook things it is hard but after a person does it a person feels very good there's a story that happened that a hundred years ago in the sharing but the number of years ago here in kennedy airport in new york somebody was about to take a flight to terency sorel and she had come early to the airport as most people do i was going to sit down and read a book she went into one of the stores there and looked for something kosher i found a package of kosher chocolate chip cookies so she went she sat down on one of the chairs in the airport with her books spread her stuff out the cookies made on the seat next to her she starts to read and as she reading she takes a cookie and eats it on the other side of the seat with the cookies is another woman also a from lady so she's sitting the cookies and another from lady and as she's reading she notices that that other lady sticks out her hand and takes a cookie and starts eating it she thinks what a hudson she's taking one of my cookies doesn't even ask me for permission but she didn't say anything she kept on reading she took a cookie and ate it her neighbor took her cookie and ate it and that's the way it went for 15 minutes she took a cookie the neighbor took a cookie and she's getting angrier and angrier what a good spot she takes i think she thinks i guess what happened there weren't there was one cookie left she had taken a cookie a neighbor had taken a cookie and there were an odd number of cookies there was one cookie left she was wondering what's going to happen this lady takes the cookie breaks it in half puts half down eats the other half this lady was furious what a footsburg somehow she controlled herself she didn't want to make a scene she didn't want to make an enemy and they announced the plane is boarding so she gets up takes the book to put into her purse she opens her pocketbook and she looks into the pocketbook and she sees that her package of cookies is in the packet book the package of cookies on the seat between them wasn't her package it was the other lady's package the other lady had put the package down she thought it was hers and she was eating one the lady was eating one what she thought the lady was doing her she was doing to to the lady what photranus that lady had what self-control can you have such self-control that's godless what happens when a young man comes home from yeshiva at the end of the day goes to his desk and opens his drawer and finds that a younger brother a younger sister had taken some of his jelly beans some of his cookies does he get upset of course he gets upset because it's very hard to practice patronus it's not easy but it's important it's a great needer to control yourself and it's a sign of a hakam of a wise person people who get carried away and scream and get angry they only lose by doing it they don't gain they themselves get aggravated they get others aggravated and the cookies don't come back to be a votron a great leader an incredible meter meda my rebbie ravpon used to talk about vadronas very often he talked about a person controlling himself and this is what he told us it was before shoshanna palm told us that we were getting ready and obviously we were all fearful how could we do chuva in time for rosh hashanah you have kipper not easy to choose so if palm said you want a shortcut for the maxima table you want to find a way to do it without shuver and that don't get me wrong or paul wanted us to do it but he said there's a shortcut to chuva the shortcut is patronus the gemara says call him here i'll be the serve never even called if you're a vatran what does it mean it means that someone took your jelly beans someone spilled something on your clothing someone did an avla to you and you're not complaining you're going on with life without responding if you do that the rabbi shalom does it to you too the rabbi shalom says he has a various he did things wrong if he's a vacheron if he is says their my initial islam i too will be a marvel midday say i'll also let it go without responding it's a shortcut just like by akhov it was a shortcut to a trip to ghanaian almost i have almost made it because vatra on the moment he was a veteran and somebody that was very very quick to be michael to give up on things and so when it happens to you that someone does something to you something harsh to you something mean to you certainly if someone does something by accident don't respond harshly respond kindly try to be a vatra not necessarily because you're tremendous about balmy this diabetes but because you're a hawker you're a smart person a smart person is a veteran he lets things go he lets things pass and so find your way out somebody steps on your toes somebody bumps into you somebody does something to you let it go swallow it say i'm a veteran i'm a marvrami daisai and with that you'll be zaika to a tremendous madre and also to a much happier life many of you have visited eric's israel as you know a trip and an opportunity to be united israel first and foremost is a place to dive in fitfilla the urbana shrine is closer to the phyllis and there is israel in arizona there are two types of places to dive in this is the kaisala maravi the mokema mig dash the mukham of kadusa and then the other key very obvious of course the mausoleum can have a rocket foremost he didn't have them by both but the mokeda here's a big difference between the two the bay sami dash is a place of giggly upon him a place where the shriner resided a place where people came when they were joyous and happy are places of hester upon a place where we don't see this it's a place to dive in when things are difficult when a person needs a yeshua and therefore colleague didn't go to the harbor he is the divine he went to every office of all the places i've dominated israel no place has such a connection and meaning as kevin rahul of course the mastermind payload too but we know that there's a tumor and it doesn't quite have the purity that kevaraku has for all the diaries at filler in kevaraku is that filler with herzegovide the worries of claudius it's a special place it's a place that's kharif kharif cardiff to the mccarthyla and therefore when kavarako was distant when people weren't going there it was a place that was empty i remember a modified gift of zagreb when he found out that he was terminally ill he went to srow for his last time and when he came back i heard him speak it was during the intifada and he said he went to kevaraco and there were very few people there and he started crying he said the mama rahul the mother licked our lane is all alone how could it be hashem today didn't come to kavarako the makkah was chilla we feel this karvastarabaria island the tremendous ashikaya is due from whole quality israel to those that are isaac and keep kavarako vibrant and alive and welcome tyrod filner a place that we can go and we can feel his scarves on a regular basis ashrae him all of you are isaac in helping kavaraku have access if rav gifter wept how joyful the mama rafal must be now that so many come to darwin to learn there ah we should you