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thank you
uh ralph poston i'd like to thank you
first uh
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and so before i
i jump in i just want to mention one
more thing this is the second in a
series
so if you have a chance to look at if
you're encouraged uh
by what this program tells you maybe you
go back in
and see the first one the first uh
program that we did with rabbi bradowicz
was about singles and encouraging them
about marriage and and all of the issues
associated with that this is more we're
taking the next step now and talking
about raising a family
and the issues today and strengthening
the jewish family which i think was what
all of us
i think is so important so i just want
to follow up as a first question rabbi
last time we talked about uh about this
exact topic
and um you know i've since talked to a
couple of 30 plus year olds
and they really enjoyed the lecture and
thought it was very meaningful
but they say hey we're doing everything
we can and now we're in a corona time
and so it's a little makes it things
even a little more challenging do you
have any any
words any thoughts for them to just kind
of give them some encouragement these
times
thank you thank you gary and again it's
an honor for me to be working with you
your organization is extremely important
there is nothing
as important to the future of the jewish
people as a strong jewish family so
all of your efforts directed to that end
are very much appreciated
i also want to say that we're dedicating
today's
sheer in today's learning to a little
girl hadashira
but who is undergoing some difficult
medical procedures
and may hashem grant her a refuse lama
and the ability to return home
and together with all of the israel
and also those who are healthy should
also have the baraka of not getting sick
in these challenging times
the question of dating or getting
engaged or marrying during corona
uh is a real hard one you know i'm not
sure i have any particular magical
answers
in some ways uh we've become habituated
to
distance learning right shiorim youtube
zoom and in some ways we have to get
into perhaps some form of distance
dating
and although it is not the same as
person to person
but i think at least a substantial start
of a relationship
and more than a start you can develop a
relationship pretty well
and then uh hopefully uh god willing
will be
back to semi-normal or new normal pretty
soon with the advent of the vaccine
uh i guess the one thing i would say is
that one certainly should not have the
idea
i'm putting all dating on on hold until
the crisis
averts i think there's so much that you
can do
and it would be a wasting a waste of an
opportunity not to utilize the
technology that's there you know god put
this technology there
for a purpose it spreads torah et cetera
and it can also be a way of people
meeting each other even when they cannot
get together face to face but you know
again it is it is difficult
but i can tell you i know from my own
personal experience in ursa math
that the people have met they've gotten
engaged they've gotten married
so it is absolutely not impossible you
just have to be a little more creative
sounds great
thank you thank you rabbi bizrat hashem
um you know we'll see more of we'll see
a healing
of the situation and and things will
move forward in a positive way for for
our youth
i want to talk about raising families
and
i don't want to talk about i want to ask
about
about parental roles there's a
today there's a it's not like it was a
hundred years ago and probably in in
many ways for the good
but uh women play a a strong role in um
in in society and um and
in the family and what is the uh
parental roles is is the father supposed
to be the ultimate decision maker is the
mother
what is the torah tell us about this
these are these are hard questions in
in these you know culturally sensitive
times and then i also want to ask about
you know uh what does the torah tell us
about
two two parents working um and um
and raising a child some some uh you
know families feel like they need the
those those two incomes so just about
you know roles in a family what you
think what the
what the torah tells us about uh those
roles
and and about the time spent uh what's
the
what's there certain times when when
it's okay to have two parents working or
not and
and what what does the torah tell us
yeah again these are uh these are
difficult questions
let me start with a verse from the book
of proverbs the book of michele
a very well known biblical verse
listen my son to the moosa to the
chastisement of your father
the altitus
and do not abandon the torah of your
mother
so there is something that is called the
musar the chastisement or the guidance
or the discipline of the father and
there is something that is called
the torah or the instruction of the
mother
and that implies that father and mother
and again i'm generalizing here this
does not apply in every particular case
are there to give their children kind of
distinct aspects of their relationship
to god
and to the jewish people rabbi yosef dev
sullivancic
the final of yeshua university once
explained this in a very beautiful way
he said the father is primarily the
intellectual head of the home he gives
the son
or the daughter the child the halach the
specific
guidance as to what to do the learning
the analytical
intellectual appreciation of the
richness of torah which of course will
deepen
as a child gets older but the mother
provides
the initial foundation of an emotional
connection to god
and a child who only approaches judaism
intellectually
will never be passionately invested
we'll never really love it
and at some point may even get bored may
wander off to something else
it is really the emotional connection
that could be formed at a very young age
even a child that might be one and a
half or two
like knows when they see the kiddush
wine oh there's going to be some good
wine or khala
or cake and shabbos becomes special to
them
and those feelings continue throughout
their whole life their whole life
they'll have that memory
so it's i know in this day and age it's
very hard to stereotype
because there may be men who are more
emotional and women who are more
intellectual so
i'm not so much interested in
demarcating
rigid roles but to simply say that a
child needs
two types of inputs in their development
they need intellectual stimulation
and this is even true outside of torah
but i'm focusing primarily on
jewish aspects of life he needs
knowledge
data information
something that's intellectually rich and
interesting
that's moshe a person that pulls a
person
but in addition they need kind of an
emotional connection
a connection of joy excitement passion
in many cases each parent might
specialize in that particular department
now in terms of who's the boss so to
speak
well the rambam says it very well the
rambam says
every husband is a king
but only if he treats his wife as a
queen
meaning the idea that i can come in and
demand respect
demand submission just because i demand
it just because i'm a man
i think it's very retrogressive and it
actually is against the torah
but when there's a relationship of
respect
of mutual honor of listening
to each other then it's okay to have you
know
president and vice president and i have
to say that generally speaking
in the traditional jewish home the man
was the dominant
authority figure but that's valid and
legitimate
only if the wife herself is treated with
tremendous respect
if you remember very often a mother has
a superior judgment
to a father number one because of the
intuition that women often have and
number two because of
the fact that she may spend many more
hours with a child
when sora saw that yeshmael was a
negative influence on the home
and she said to abram we have to send
him away avram was unwilling to do so
until god told him everything sarah your
wife says
listen to her she knows what's going on
she knows the story she knows the
dynamic
so in that sense i can call the man the
king of the home but only if he's
a listening person only if he takes into
account
everything that his wife says that it's
part of the decision-making process
a man who ignores his wife is not worthy
to be a king
and at that point each person has to
make the decisions
that are best uh now
i'm gonna say something that i may get
in trouble for or you may get in trouble
for because it's not
it's not politically correct and i
appreciate that it's not politically
correct
but i believe that if you study history
and even if you study psychology and
sociology
you will see
he wants a man that will generally be
the one who makes the final decisions
this is what a woman yearns for a woman
yearns for
kind of a benign authority figure
who can take charge and make those final
decisions
if a man is too wishy-washy if a man
does not have a discernible philosophy
if a man simply tells his wife do
whatever you want
that's not necessarily what gives a
woman security
and even though hashem we have women who
are
phenomenally intelligent phenomenally
accomplished
people who have excelled in all
professions whether it's medicine
law accounting academia torah learning
as well
and by all means i am absolutely in
favor
of opening up all of these opportunities
to women
because it would be a tremendous loss
not just to women it would be tremendous
loss to men
to the world to claudius wrap not to
harvest the tremendous reservoir of
talent there
so there is nothing that i'm saying that
is putting down
women at all i recognize their
sublime accomplishments in all areas of
life
but i do think that within the context
of the home
they want a husband that listens a
husband that responds a husband that
takes
their understandings into account
but in very many ways they want a
husband who kind of makes decisions i
know that's an
older view but i think it's actually
borne out so
i may expect some negative mail on this
but i i said what i believe
uh just in terms of the uh roles
of um uh not in terms of growth but in
terms of time
spent uh we talked a little bit about uh
you know two two people working versus
um is there times in life when that's
okay
you know well well listen listen in some
sense
uh having two parents working uh can be
potentially detrimental obviously
because
uh there's less time spent with the with
the kids
if it would be possible for a mother to
defer her working till children were in
school and she would work during
school hours or she could have some type
of profession
that could be practiced at home so she's
available even if she's
working that would be optimal but you
know
reality is reality and unfortunately
diminishing incomes
and raising expenses sometimes requires
that we have
working parents to uh working parents
and also i want to point out too
that there's another justification for
women having some type of working
because women as they say
if they have talents and abilities i
think it's important for their
psychological well-being
to be able to express it and i wouldn't
just say
diapers or cleaning up a a house
so all in all i think there are pluses
and in fact in some cases a woman
working outside of the home
may make her a better mother because it
energizes her it gives you more
enthusiasm gives her an outlet
so in some ways there's a balance on one
hand you know
not working outside the home creates
greater availability
which is a huge huge plus on the other
hand maybe having some type of
profession some type of occupation
may create greater enthusiasm
i think it depends very much on the
particular dynamic it depends how all
the kids are it depends on whether the
kids are in school
or they're at home full time the one
thing is that every decision
that both men and women make men as well
regarding jobs has to have a sense that
the family is the number one priority
and everything that has to be the
fulcrum or the axis
upon which everything else is revolving
and then you make the decisions that you
have to make i remember
a nice little story i'll tell you a
story about drivaran lichtsteinstein
secretary bracha who's the great rosh
yeshiva
of the shiva harvest of gushetsyon
harharets yonin gush
in gush and he used to live
near here he used to live in kathmandu
and he would darwin in deshtiblah
so uh everyone knows the katamanshiti
bless the famous
kataman multiple and one time he was
learning with his
son like his ten-year-old son and
somebody went over to him and said
i'm very impressed that a busy rush of
shiva like you
makes time to learn with his
ten-year-old son
sir listen teen said what do you mean
makes time to live with myself
my obligation is to learn with my son i
make time to also have a yeshiva
and that's a wonderful perspective
right because we all of us and again
this is men and women
frankly we often put our own children on
the back burner
you know we define kresser that's what i
do outside the home
and i go to this share in that chair and
of course that all of that is important
and all of that is important
but the family the children are
relegated to the bottom of the list
of licensing's perspective is your
children your family
husband wife children are number one
and then you create a life where you can
do other important things
as well but it's against the backdrop
of your children and as i said children
were talking about children today but
i also include the marital relationship
remember the marriage i think we spoke
we
mentioned last time that the torah
creates an independent importance to
marriage
apart from having children meaning to
say it's not just
my kids that i need to deepen my
relationship with it's also my spouse
and we saw cilantro says when the torah
says
love your neighbor as you love yourself
first and foremost it's referring to
your spouse and
then it applies to everybody else very
nice as as well
so as i say you know uh it may very well
be that uh
working uh is a necessary evil
but i think there can be some positive
benefits too and uh
as they say when a person is replenished
refreshed more enthusiastic
perhaps their time with their children
could be a better quality type right
assuming they're not too exhausted so
that has to be balanced as well
and i i just want to mention another
point that
certainly uh working moms and working
dads
uh have to preserve their energy so for
example if you're able to afford it
getting help for things like cleaning
and laundry right
is very very helpful because if you have
limited time
the time should be spent in a more
productive way with positive
interactions with your kids
instead of having to do all of the
drudgery that maybe you could pay
somebody to help you with
interesting so one should not feel that
they're a failure by getting help it's
the other way around and
even things like uh using plastic
dishes instead of having to do
dishwashing yeah even on shabbos even on
shabbos
i know some very very khashovah people
actually even golem
who have many many people for shabbos
and they use plastic
and even though you could say well
that's a little bit of a compromise
in the honor of shabbos but if i'm doing
it to be able to be freed up
to learn with my children sing with my
children do things with my children i
actually think that
would say that that's a more important
priority
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rabbi that's i want to just continue
down this path a little bit
one of the one of the challenges
you know that i hear in the united
states and there's different challenges
here in israel is
to raise children and to get them into
the schools you want
uh the jew the jewish schools with the
right kind of education
uh that a family desires um to get them
to
uh you know summer camps where they can
you know uh grow their yiddish kite um
all of those are important and so the
question is
if you only you know uh families only
have so many
uh so much money so many resources
available where do you put your energy
do you put your energy in
making sure that that their foundational
school the kindergarten through or k
through eight
isn't a jewish school or if you have a
choice it's gotta be high school or the
gap year in israel or the
or uh camp and then uh the other thing
is we have people that are listening
that are living here in israel
and there's a whole different set of
challenges from trying to get the right
schools here
any thoughts you have about priorities
on schools
and and and how to uh how to work that
out as a family
well uh you know your question reminds
me of of asking you know uh
what's more important the heart or the
brain you know it's very very difficult
because in some sense you're going to
die unless you have both of them
right and to have to make these choices
can literally be a matter
of spiritual life and death for example
even summer camp summer camp can be
enormously important
to give a child a positive feeling
towards judaism so i don't dismiss it as
simply
recreation or vacation but i tell you if
i had to prioritize
if if a person literally had to
prioritize
i actually think the elementary school
years
are even more important than the high
school years
and certainly post high school and the
reason i say that is and i say that with
a great deal of regret
because i sincerely hope that a parent
will never be forced into making that
decision
but during the first let us say eight
years of schooling you know kindergarten
and then
grade one through eight a child develops
a basic foundation
and love for judaism now it may very
well be that
they didn't necessarily cover a lot of
information
but they've gotten the enthusiasm
they've gotten their backgrounds
and once that's the case then even if
circumstances would force them to go to
public school as bad as that is and it's
absolutely no good
at that point if they're enthusiastic
enough you could do private learning you
could go to
local rabbis even boys in yeshiva
might be willing to act as tutors so
there's a lot of supplementary learning
that you can do but if a child doesn't
have that background doesn't have that
enthusiasm
then they're just not going to be
interested and the reason i say this is
i say this out of my own experience you
know i
attended a co-educational orthodox day
school in hartford
connecticut and most of my classmates
were not shimmer shadows we didn't have
the stratification
that we have today for good or for bad i
actually think there was something
positive in
being exposed to a lot of jews who were
not the same
right okay but some people disagree with
that but i can tell you when i look back
at what were the formative experiences
in my connection to yiddish it's funny
i think much more of my elementary
school years
than i think about my years in yeshiva
afterwards right
now maybe it's not typical i'm not sure
but i think about
how the rebellion and the teachers
inspired me
they made learning exciting they gave me
a sense of joy
and that carried through but let me ask
you don't
isn't there isn't it the case sometimes
that that
when somebody's a teenager they that's
when they ask the really difficult
questions in life
and if they're in a public school do
they do they have their resources right
so my point was this i i was not i was
not envisioning
right that if the kid has to go to
public school for high school that's the
end of his jewish education that's why i
was emphasizing
that you've created a foundation where
he's interested and excited
you have superman you have to augment it
you have to supplement it okay
and in that supplementation he should
ask the tough questions about
how do you know there's a god i know the
torah and in fact the truth of the
matter is
it may be more effective to discuss
those questions in a one-to-one
than in the classroom setting so
the point is you want to spend those
eight years of primary school
giving him that desire to be jewish that
excitement to be jewish
and then at that point you could
supplement you know you could supplement
now again this is a regrettable
second choice but if you have to make a
choice i think this is where i would go
now i do want to point out that the cost
of jewish education
is a major major crisis in the united
states
it absolutely is uh schools do offer
scholarships but scholarship aid is
limited and it certainly may not cover
all of the expenses there are some
proposals that have been around for a
few years
that there are just that that the jewish
community
ought to adopt a model that is similar
to public education public education of
course
is funded by the total community right
well there's a thought why can't we have
jewish education
funded by the total jewish community of
course the federation does some of this
but
but literally do it at 100 basis in
which you spread
the cost of the different day schools
and high schools across the entire
spectrum of the jewish community
now that's a very fascinating uh
proposal that in fact is the way it was
done
uh in talmudic times
today because of the different
denominations orthodox delivery reform
it's difficult to kind of figure out how
to do it
is there enough money in the orthodox
community
to publicly fund within the orthodox
community
uh day schools maybe yes maybe not
of course that probably would mean there
would be fewer
options of schools but okay maybe that's
not all bad maybe that would
require that different types of jews get
under the same roof
so people are concerned i mean as i say
the cost of jewish education is
staggering now in israel
that happens to be one of the things
that's not such a major problem
schooling here is not particularly
expensive
uh so the issue that i think we face
although i did not raise any
children in the israeli schools is the
type of school because broke hashem
there is a proliferation
of choices uh but the philosophies even
within the framework of torah mitzvot
the philosophies can be very different
whether it's
me whether it's a government type of
school mamakrita or malaria
which again there are so many divisions
here
and at the high school level you have
the mairaba different types of schools
and uh it can be very very confusing for
a parent
um i know one parent one family
that literally sent each of their
children to a dif not just a different
school but a different type of school
and in many ways i admired that because
that's exemplary of another famous verse
in proverbs
conocle naropi darko you must train
every child according to their
personality and their way
but it is difficult and particularly
i'll just put in another
observation for north american olim
uh the israeli personality is a bit of a
tough personality
so so a nice american kid who might be
soft-spoken
edel as we say in yiddish and gentle
kind of gets put into an israeli school
whether it's kharadi or dativi or me or
anything any type of israeli school
and there may be a certain toughness and
aggression on the part of the kids
that may be very very difficult for the
american
child to adjust to and
one of the difficulties here is that
teachers don't always take it very
seriously
teachers kind of say um boys will be
boys girls will be girls so
this kid has to toughen up and grow up
you know maybe that's true to some
degree
but that's kind of another problem so
hashem money is not the issue here
for that other things money is relevant
for other things but not for education
but i think the issue of choosing the
school and not just
finding a school that has a philosophy
that is consistent with your philosophy
but also that emphasizes midot's
refinement
derek eretz bain
that kind of you know monitors the
recesses and not just the classroom
so rabbi here this is a problem even in
israel
that i hear is uh it's a very
sensitive culturally sensitive uh you
know
problems is sometimes in the schools
even it can happen in
like modern orthodox day schools
you have uh you know children being
presented with
with concepts that aren't so you know
well founded in torah
it could have to do with relationships
that are outside of torah law
could have to do with the whole idea of
evolution without
without a designer being present behind
the design with all kinds of things like
that so
i mean how do you pick those things up
as a parent how do you address them as a
parent if they're happy in your school
i mean you know some how do you just
deal with that with that whole topic
thanks yeah well initially of course
this will be a major factor in in the
type of school that you choose right
if you have a school that openly
espouses
non-torah ideas you know that's not
going to be the school you're going to
want to send your child to
but sometimes you know think about the
united states there may only be one
orthodox day school
in the community it may be very far to
the left it may espouse
various ideas uh that are inconsistent
with the torah
so i think the best you can do is number
one
parents have to realize that just
because you send your kid to a school
doesn't mean you've abdicated your
responsibility as
educators you have to set the tone you
have to establish the values
granted as our kids grow older and older
we tend to lose
influence but still uh things there has
to be an hope there have to be open
channels of communication
uh you need to be aware of what's being
discussed in the school and you need to
be able to discuss it intelligently with
your with your
children uh if your children come home
and talk about evolution
then i think you know you can discuss
whether evolution is compatible with the
torah
again this is not our subject today i
think it can be compatible with the
torah but uh
at least there ought to be a discussion
they need to know
that uh the torah does have a position
on all of these things and a person can
be a
faithful torah observant jew and still
be scientifically sophisticated at the
same time
i think you should get involved in the
school pta or whatever organization
in terms of getting guest speakers in
terms of hearing
different opinions that might be against
the mainstream political correctness
and at least the children should be
exposed
to the more traditional views so there's
a lot that you can do
and that might be preferable than the
censorship approach in which you demand
that certain things not be discussed at
all because that may
make people defensive dig in their heels
uh
and you'll be less effectual but
sometimes if you say let's have a
presentation you know in the orthodox
world
we have very very eminent scientists i
mean there's gerald schroeder
nathan aviezer we're physicists there
are very great
physicians who are experts in medical
alaha
and as they say there's people in all
types of realms of science and
humanities
who are still faithful to torah and they
can address these issues
and in fact in many ways i think it's
better to address them than not to
address them you know in some for
example
let's take in the kharadi world here you
know the kids are going to go through
school i mean he'll never hear that
there's such a thing as evolution
he'll never hear about age of the earth
he'll never hear about dinosaurs
it's not going to be addressed no one's
going to talk about it
so what's going to happen when the king
is 14 15
16 17 and all of a sudden he encounters
all of these ideas that seem to be
attacking the torah
and he never heard about it before and
his reaction is going to be
they were hiding the ball because they
had nothing to say
and that could take a person literally
off the dare
as we say so i think it is really from a
position of strength
to openly confront these issues at the
appropriate age of course
and discuss them rather than sweep them
under the rug because in this world
the kid is going to hear about it
eventually and if he does not feel
that the torah has a response and if he
does not feel
that or he if he feels that we were
hiding the ball because we had nothing
to say
right then you're talking about a kid
who could very likely simply
abandon the other side
rabbi i just want to close with one
question
just taking us back to
people that are just starting families
and i see this
and i've been asked this you know this
is just
maybe what is the tour i have to say
about
young families they have two or three
kids in there they're
they uh it's just so physically
demanding and they struggle so much
in those early stages do you have any
advice for them
about i mean we've all gone through this
who are older
right who have had young kids but uh
what i'm just from a torah perspective
uh to give some a little co-op to to the
young families
i think maybe you have some thoughts for
them yeah
well uh raising kids is certainly quite
exhausting
um i believe there was a story about a
famous olympic athlete
jim thorpe uh who has a publicity stunt
decided to follow a baby around for one
day just crawl whatever the baby was
doing and uh
jim thorpe dropped out after half the
day he just couldn't couldn't keep up
with the baby
and of course all children have
challenges
whether it's babies school age
adolescence what do they say
little kids little challenges big kids
big challenges the challenges keep on
going sometimes they're less physical
more psychological
but they're always going to be there
number one you have to have a sense of
humor
number two husband and wife need to have
time out with each other they have to
have what you call date nights as it's
sometimes called or they have to
recognize
that you need time away from the kids
babysitters
whatever it is if you have family
members that's the best many people do
not have family members but
you have to pay for a babysitter go
ahead and do it you need to be a husband
and a wife in order to be a mother and a
father you know you need you need that
relationship
number three just know and i can tell
you this because
i've been through this that you're going
to look back at this time
as the best part of your life you know
now it's so hard it's so difficult but
you know you're going to miss it you are
going to miss it
and therefore if you're going to miss it
try to
get the joy out of it as it's going on
because
there is nothing as important you will
ever do in your life
as raising these children you know you
could be
a great rabbi you could be a great
politician you could be on the supreme
court in fact um
i'm actually paraphrasing the most
recent justice on the supreme
court amy coney barrett
who is a mother of seven and she herself
said with all of her accomplishments a
young woman
reaching the highest court in the united
states
one of the most important courts maybe
the most important court in the world
and she said that there is not no
accomplishment in her life
that isn't as important as raising her
seven children
and although she's a catholic i am
perfectly free to plagiarize that
statement
and say that it equally applies to
judaism
so i think with sense of humor making
time for themselves
physical exercise is very important
because that kind of
gives you the energy that you need
taking care of yourself
and just realizing how wonderful this is
how you're going to miss it
and it's really the most important thing
now the other thing is a very good piece
of advice
in raising children generally is
don't make a big deal about anything
that's not going to matter in 20 years
by that i mean the following let me give
you two examples if i have a child
that is cruel that is mean that is
selfish that steals
i got to take care of that because those
are habits
that could you know become permanent
habits
but if a child like you know runs around
or a child is a little bit wild or a
child can't sit at the table
i don't necessarily have to fight every
battle i don't necessarily have to
intervene in everything
because 20 years from now he's probably
not going to be dancing on the table
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meaning the things that kids do because
they're kids
and they're likely to get out of it when
they become adults
so let him do it what's the difference
focus on the type of adult you want your
child to be
and that's how you determine your
interventions
so when it comes to me dots that's very
very important
the bad meadows of a child can become
the bad meat out of an adult
but things that kids do because they're
kids
let them have their childhood and so we
don't have to be so super vigilant in
which we're policing
every aspect of what our children are
doing
thank you
rabbi thank you so much for for your
time here
i have a friend who when he talks about
people what he says about them
is uh if he speaks favorably he says
they're do he's doing wonderful things
for our people
um a friend harold wrote i just want to
quote him as saying that
i want to say you too rabbi posting
behind the camera
rabbi brighton you just do such
wonderful things for our people
thank you so much for taking the time
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