Day 22 - Silence is Golden

[Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] last last we were talking about appreciating the mirrors of your life many methods to apply to the Mishnah exactly two bullets that have been quoting for the last five years over and over and over the Mishna can be found in secular book chapter 1 verse 17 and sizzly this you have to also read the first reports of establish talking about the verse goes Mishnah quote she won't have a dog she won his son which is referring to apology from him Imam he says Gloria might have doesn't even a hawk on me oh my - move amongst sages when I'm not sucking the goof and let me chica and I didn't find anything good for the body just silence now the depletion continues and it's in their lower milosz a cow a llama say then you heard me saying that maybe five thousand times it's not what you learn it's what you live action isn't fair Dallas and the Mishnah answer column available in the beeping if you add too many actions but if it also be bbooing too many talking you will end up sin one of the biggest gems we have in our hearts now listen we know what we're talking about it says she won't know but now it's referring to about you one this is Elijah won't build them here that previous pursue is talking about Malcolm gear when we finally the download in the Mishnah have ban mother beat ban means they reveal everybody this is like the deceit the highest of all of course a abundantly able to follow the top top sages we had and something about this time how much you want how much you want to get banged up be a lot sure you heard the name enacted the dominant who to his greatest he was one of the ten Morris ten martyrs you know don't you already know that it was done with their mothers and during Shabbat if you remember I talked about the fact that Yoshi but Sonny when the wife of what the fuzz grabbed him and he got aroused it you got Quentin stick his finger this for the ground pin drops of semen came out of his fingers out of this organ so then he shall have to come down into the world to be killed and he's one of them and you know fall for the oral torah you can find an ocean of content and usually the commentary in company and next generations which are called auditioning monotheism bond and many others among many others but one dominating commentary have you thought it over and if you have the scent of the Mishnah got most of the company that the commentaries by viola talk about this a lot and he says two things are very very powerful if you remember before we start I told you in one of the previous classes that I would memorize and Mishnah of the TV when I first became a journalist I would walk in the street and like that seong tom is a ottoman teeny so from affected that I memorized with the seventh of all extracted a book and totals of the enemies of the father it was living to follow that really famous to you a road of success in really working on yourself every verse is ingenuity applying in your life you are you are on a spiritual steroids but this mission I was constantly stuck into my my head that's what you hear me so many times said I quote English Mishnah so there are many beautiful interpretations that I want to just a clue from a buddy from about pneumonia but that would like to us how do we work on ourselves when it comes to people immediately so first of all just to be look into the simple the literal explanation of the verse faster now it's not to be quiet and what is he saying I have all my had grown among sages among Giants and months are coming and I only think that I found good for the body excitement just be quiet now why don't you interpret it by saying I just know so first of all first explanation by lovey-lovey of above the Noah he says what is this silence inhibits right to share that show men means you know Vishal dick when a person meters is a disgrace that love somebody comes and reduced him and he doesn't react that's what the first explanation is because usually if somebody's the redundant tell me by your agency oh hell no mask employee dog in my mother in my son in an alarm love it I didn't ask you what's the situation in you with your dog but you're not master why are you late to be late every day I say coming with excuses nobody wants excuses this is one example at any you easily when you're being attacked and receive it as an attempt and somebody removes you you will want to answer that especially the touched a nerve that you can't end so the first explanation that he says is that when a person uses be still no meaning is disgrace or when somebody tells you how badly in something now if it's not true that's a whole different thing but what happens now give you one example imagine you come to the Knesset for sure and you know that's the guy next to you and it's actually somebody turns around duk-soo something leave the RPM goes very high and in your money you doesn't even help to contain us the employee that you do baggages would you be building for sure and then of course comes out the chunk out of the out of the mouth in most cases some cases for personal feeling and one example other many is that most people will not be like oh my gosh foreign accent I don't believe it I am NOT disturbing 20 men I can't believe that normally do it myself rather they would be like up there this guy should shoot me he spoke 2 minutes before also himself and then all these thoughts are coming and maybe later we'll start an argument of violence why am I giving this example first what happens a lot second of all everybody hears this now this is what he said somebody didn't disgrace you somebody showed everybody how loud that you did something that is inappropriate now now how do you react what is the answer don't really listen if a person hears these you know you don't we don't stand they don't say anything the mantra the power of being silenced you know this issue - of us our silence is worth gold think before you say something now this is one one approach which again not say I'm just making even the shorter version of the explanation stake it and internalize it and I just give you one example to show how many times as many other ways give you examples because it could be a box could be a wife and usually most people it can be in so many different variations I just won't give example with the Shh but it can be something as simple that you're going to do a favor to somebody and when you come back let's say a person is sick this is something that happened to me not too long ago somebody who seek we went and did their shopping for the person when we came the person just complained I didn't tell you to get this I tell you to get that I went out of my way to go and shop for you and I paid for it and all this in the heat and you complaining because they didn't bring you the right product this is one example a time anyway you easily can get all hyped up we don't restock be quiet and accept it and there are many many reasons for that and the main thing is first of all don't react because 90% of the time if not 99% of the time the reaction won't be appropriate always learn I learned a long time ago somebody annoys me I react the next like I told you the story with the guy with the this the suit of anger every time he will get angry he says I'm not gonna do anything till I put the suit by the time you put the suit he come down same thing here so first of all this mission is going to tell me know when to shut your mouth it will save you from many many problems the next thing that he says here again also this is Robbie a buddy from Bob Denova he says it in a more biblical way I will say it and then I will tell you the more modern way to say he says dough is very Noma km and if she stock the Washburn omeka yam means he preaches but doesn't do or in our terminology is talk to the talk but doesn't walk the walk better do you shut up so how many times you rebuke somebody and you yourself don't even do it so better to be quiet that's why it's all connected to the same Mishnah where he says loja me to rush a car not the learning is the main part a lama say the action is the cow and then he adds the column a bit volume a person who a increases the volume which the translations will be things but you can twist it and say deep poem talk maybe that you're gonna end up doing a sin so here it's it's the exact same thing talk is cheap actions is what counts and it's very easy when it says column embed volume column I obey when you increase with too much talking is what you argue when somebody rebukes you maybe fit it's gonna bring sin why cuz you're gonna trail in a Shannara you're gonna fail in using your temper you're gonna fail with false language you're gonna fail and so many things it will bring a sin it's a much greater level to put your head down and be quiet it doesn't mean that you are nobody doesn't mean that you are a loser look at motion of a Bedouin call came in and and attacked him you would think that motion of abandon will punch him in his face more than likely this is what's called in the biblical law marry dabba manhood going against the king this is hi Evita this is a death penalty in the Torah Masha Allah ban who could go like that and right away coughs head would be beheaded but Masha Allah bear no it's quite why first of all Moshe banner was such in a high level that he said to himself maybe his rights with all the noise maybe this guy is right and or emotional banner says let's go to sleep let's meet in the morning remember we learned that let's meet in the morning let's have everything calm down that's a charge vice of a wise person be quiet don't he don't be quick to use your mouth why call him a bit Valley movie threats you're gonna talk too much you are opening the the ground for the opportunity to sin don't don't don't do that so I'm going to leave it here for you to really really absorb these fine words sometimes you talk too much you lose the points if you need to watch the video a few times because when you internalize this wisdom and master it that's when you really are ready to start really refining yourself because the only way to refine yourself is to know how to pause let me digest it even if I need three days to digest it because in most cases the reaction will bring you to sin fly that with your wife you'll have a great marriage apply it with your kids your kids will be turn out much much better than you would imagine applying anything into your life that you know how to hold yourself then you'll see that first of all you see things in the right way second of all you don't don't bring yourself to sin and needless to say how does it start the Mishnah lomax act is good the goof talked with Shekhar and for the body you'll come the body is not aggravated you sleep better you digest your food better you don't produce too many inner toxins because of anger and animosity and rage and all this your body becomes toll different chariots to the neshamah this is really one of the key things when I want to refine myself is not to get so don't accept any anything that is thrown to your direction analyze it you might find it whatever the person said is nonsense or no point of even arguing and you might find that the person is just telling you the the gem of your life and you're like wow if I would get upset I would lose the point so I would highly recommend even to memorize the Mishnah and put this as part of your moto let's say we say moto moto motto to live to live by it and you'll see that you're gonna not only become a much better calm happy healthy person you're gonna start going in the path of refinement in a total different level because you are starting to see wait a minute the more you grow in the refinement of character the more you appreciate your efforts the more you see wow I'm actually becoming a much better person Wow amazing and once a while you do a check to see that wow I can't believe how much I'm growing and needless to say that there's people around you they benefit from that in a way that you can't even imagine so totally for you so now again take this information I highly recommend it's Lea specifically this class is short listen it to a few more times let it soak in and you'll see what a powerful what a powerful do that are Sade you say that silence is worth gold if you know how to really bring yourself to our inner peace of silence then you really become somebody like Robin shamone been Gamliel that end up being one of the greatest of all generations to be able to refine himself and needless to say do the biggest kedusha shame because he was able to work with himself all his life [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music]