Darkness in Egypt, Light for Israel—What It Really Means - Parshat Bo - Rabbi Kaplan on The Parsha

Uh we're talking about the darkness and uh it says on four lines from the top uh so we're speaking about the idea of the Egyptians had darkness and the Jewish people had light and we spoke about the darkness coming from Yehan. Now there's a puzz that says in the future Hashem is going to bring out the sun in the future and the sadikim are going to be healed by the sun and the rishim are going to be burnt by the sun. What it says in the future sadikim the sun heals in general the sun heals. You ever know feeling while you go out in the sun the sun has healing >> has healing uh powers. But it says in the what do you call it that in the future the prophet says in the future um I'll be bring out a shemesh sedaka omaree it's going to bring a healing sun out which is that sadikim are going to delight in the sun and the rash are going to be burnt in the sun. So the stipler that's all he asks how could you have you know either it sunburns people or it heals people why why should you have a situation where some people how do you have a situation some people are healed and some people are burnt by the same sun so the stipler talks about it being the light of truth. The light of truth means if you would ask, you know, picture the festmest guy you could think of, the most devoted uh servant of Hashem you could think of, anybody that you could think of, whether it's a Ravim Kyki Zatal or a Mosha Feinstein, any one of these people, if you would get them on a lie detector so that you'd be convinced that they're telling you the truth. They are definitely telling the truth. It's whether or not you you you you you want to be convinced they're telling you the truth. They would honestly tell you they are feel they are coming up short in their service of God that no matter what they do or whatever they've achieved they could be or should be or would be achieving more at a higher level with greater uh uh cavana shamayim a million one areas. Ask your average uh uh ask your average what do you call it? Your average secular Jew who uh you know puts on a yarmaka and goes to the kaisel and maybe drops a coin in the in the he thinks he's a sadic. Ask your average your average politician. Your average politician who did somebody a favor once a guy's a liar, a cheater, a sneak thief and he thinks he's the he thinks he's fine. He thinks he's great. I'll be just I'll just be fine. And what the what the Torah is telling us is that in the future the sun is going to come out the light of truth. And that sadikim who were so nervous that they're coming up short in their service of a sadikim who are worried that I'm never doing enough. The light of truth will shine on them. You'll see the ro show yes you were fine. You were good. You're even better than good. You were great. And you live with a genuine fear that you're not you're coming up short. Those are the people who the light of truth will show that they were actually good. In the rishim who are trying to deceive everybody and make people think that they're good and putting on a charade, the light of truth is going to come out. It's going to burn. They're going to burn with shame when they're exposed for what they really are. And that's the sun. That's the the contrast between darkness and light. Number one. Number two, and this is this is one of my favorite concepts. Uh uh you guys know me well enough to know I' I'm never uh I'm not one for uh for wearing Judaism on your sleeve. Uh you know just do what you have to do and don't put on a show for anybody. That's my uh you know that's my attitude. And uh if you're going to do it and they by the way the acid test you know sometimes a guy's dobining in public the guy's diving like this you know you know almost you feel like you feel like he's on a jungle gym you know guy just just just you know he's all over the place burning calories. It's fine as long as you dive in that way when you're in your own room when nobody's around. If if when nobody's around, it's just kind of like But when you're in public, it's like, you know, a touchdown, you know, you know, you're you're you become a referee in public. Do me spare me. Spare me the the theatrics. If I want professional theatrics, I got other things to watch. So here the Torah says like this page 344. Leave your cattle. Your children will go with you. Oh no. I got news for you, bro. We're not leaving any cattle behind. Not only we're not leaving any cattle behind. You're also going to give us animals for offerings. Why? And our cattle's going with us. Not one hoof is going to remain in Egypt. Not one hoof. We need to take form our God. We won't know how we're going to serve God till we get there. So, we're going to take a lot with us. Like I always tell you, when you travel, take a lot of food because you don't know what's going to happen on the road, right? Pack, take a lot of food. We're taking a lot of cattle. We're going to for bring offerings to God. We don't know what God's going to want from us. And not only that, one of the fortune says he said to parl, "Listen, we've been here 210 years. We haven't been able to offer. I don't know. It could be there's going to be a lot of makeup right now. could be is going to tell us to bring a to bring a massive amount. So, not only you're going to get not only we're going to take our stuff, you're going to give us stuff, too. How do you like that? Right? That's what Mosha says to borrow. Okay? But I saw there's one of the commentaries here, it might be the Kutsker, I don't remember. One of one of the masters, he says like this. Imagine this something that's happened to all of us. You know, you go to the guy, you go to the best example, you go to the kaisel to davin and it could be you have a you have a serious need to dav your could be somebody that family's not well or you need part or you need the should whatever it is you really want to you know you want to really pump up a doing there and you start uh you know you you you start you start your doving and the next thing you know while you're doving and you're really trying to concentrate all suen you hear you right right in your ear and your what do you call you just there's the there's the you know somebody to relieve you of your weight you know and so you just kind of like you know it's kind of you here just take it I didn't come here to get stuck I came here to dive it we're human and it's I'm in the middle of trying to do something you know and the guy's okay and then I ask you a question which one was a greater merit for you. You're davening or giving five shekels to sedaka. Which is the greater merit? We don't know. We don't know. But sometimes in life, we think that we know how to serve Hashem. And when are we going to find out what the truth is of what was the best way to serve Hashem? That's what the PK says. We won't know how we serve Hashem. Edbo a new shama till we come up there then we'll find out what our true service was then we'll find out what our true service of Hashem was we got to do it all down here but what was the real purpose that I ended up at the kisel that day I thought I went there for daving Hashem said you think you went here for ding you came here to give sedaka that's why he came to you to give sodaka I'm irritated because I thought like there there's the big eye again because it's always what what I want what I'm thinking. Coach Ruckle may have a completely different plan for you. You know, you may you may be on your way to schul in the morning to dive and you happen to give a guy a ride to sh you picked up a guy on the way. You get a ride to then you dab and mommy's you bring down mal and while you're in sh you bring down you know it's start thunder and lightning right around your seat. Then you find out after 120 years the real purpose was to give that guy a ride to ding. I once came back from shul and I walked into the house my wife says to me you look tense. I said, "I don't look tense. I am tense." He said, "Why are you tense?" I said, "Cuz I was just in show for an hour. That's why." The guy next to me dabbing too loud. The guy on my other side was shaking the bench. Another guy wanted the window open. The other guy wanted the window closed. The kazandavin too slow. The other the second khazand too fast. The kid behind me nailed me in the back of the neck with a stender and two guys behind me wouldn't stop talking. You know, I haven't even eaten breakfast yet. I haven't even gotten on a bus to go to work and I I just did 45 minutes of of of stress. And I'm convinced, I'm not saying this is a joke, gentlemen. I'm convinced that the purpose of shul is to go and work on our meos. We also happen to davin there. The dvening is the the doining is is the throwin. What I'm really doing in Shaw is trying to work on my meadows. I'm convinced because there's an awful lot to get ticked on in Shaw, right? They what do you call it? the rabbi speech was too long and the and the guy behind me his speech was too short. The guy next to me didn't talk enough. The guy rabbi talked too much. This guy bothering me, kid poked me in the back of the neck with his lulov. Uh if you're, by the way, if you're ever doing the hakoffus, never walk in front of or behind a kid when you're going around because the height of the kid's lul love is right either at your neck or eye level. >> And and and always allow somebody to go. If there's a kid in front of me, sir, why don't you go right ahead? you know, I need both my eyes still, you know, and the kid's holding it like a rifle over his shoulder, you know, and he's poking and he's always got the sharpest lul in the in in the show. So, so everywhere this happens all the time where we think we know how to serve a and then we'll find out at the end we'll find out what was the real purpose in life and sometimes in life a person sometimes in life a person doesn't even achieve his real goal for having been brought. This is just the little things where you where it could be this and it could be that. You know, it could be that my whole purpose last Shabas, my whole purpose of Sha I kept Shabas. I kept an entire Shabas. I ate ch properly. I did every properly. It could be that my entire the biggest mitzvah I did on Shabas was one guy in the shul who I turned to him on the way out and I said good shabas. This is the one guy who was hurting and he feels nobody likes me and everybody hates me and I think I'll eat worms and and you know and he and and and I happened to turn to him. Not that I did. I'm just giving you an example. On my way out of show he happened to turn to guys. Hey, good chabas Frank. And you he walked out and you made his chabas. And it could be that that was the whole purpose that was bigger than all your diving and all your we don't know. We got to do it all. We got to do it all. But we'll find out what it really was when we get there. Then we'll find out what it was. Sometimes the things that we think are big are big issues. And generally the rule is if it was easy for you, it wasn't. We think it's a big we think it's a big deal. We think it's a big deal and we have no way. We have no way. You could be going to the airport to go to go visit a sick friend and fulfill the mitzvah of of of biker. While you were in the airport, some guy asked you, "Do you mind joining us for a minion? We need to make a minion in the airport." and you joined him for the minion and it could be that was the whole reason that coach broke brought you through the airport. The whole trip was just to get you to go to this minion in the airport to be there. There are always minions in airports by the way. You know, if you ever need a minion, go to the airport and if you miss the last stop, she'll just go to the airport. There's always a Jew getting a minion together there. You go on lal. Lal is like by called the flying. You know, you you get, you know, if you fly from LA and you fly to Israel from LA, you could end up diving on the plane four times. On the way to Israel to it's you can't relax because there's always a ding coming. That's right. >> You can't sleep for two. There's always a ding coming on the way there. It's a pleasure. You drive it through the night. You know, there's nothing you do before you get on the plane and then you sleep. You wake up for you wake up for Nates. It's the only time I ever dab of Nates, you know. But the the the the on the way on the way to what do you call you on the way to Israel? So you could end up diving four times coming from Los Angeles. So there the uh the uh the the what? We don't know. We don't know. The person never knows the uh okay take a look at now then it says like this um Hashem hardens Parro's heart and he won't send them out. Then parro uh one sec. I skipped something here. No, here we go. Be careful that you never come back to see me. you see me, you're going to die. They should be bothered by something over here. Parro says to you ever come back again, you're going to die. Anything bother you about that? >> Yeah, he wants him to come back. >> He doesn't want him to come back. He will want him to come back and he's going to go looking for him. >> Why didn't he say this before? >> Excellent. What took you It took you nine plagues to get here. We just finished by the plague of darkness. finally took you nine plagues till you finally said hey power you're either a slow learner right and I mean why I would have said it the first time I would say get out of here you ever come back what what took him nine plagues to say that finally woke up >> grew up in his house >> what >> he grew up in his house >> so it took and so if he grew up in the house it takes nine plagues till you get to that point >> what happened >> no we're before the firstborn he wasn't even told about the first born yet >> so one of for one of says that parro was convinced until this point he was convinced of he said was convinced until this point that Moshe is some sort of either a sorcerer or a trickster or something I want to learn his tricks and it's worth going through the suffering to learn those tricks >> at the point that parro feels either there's nothing more to learn or I'm convinced at this point yeah I want them out >> sometimes in life it's worth paying a price it's worth paying the price in order to achieve something I don't know if you ever heard You ever heard of lofarigno? You ever heard of lofarigno? The hulk. The incredible Hulk. The incredibly wise Hulk. So Luffer, Lufferno is one of these, you know, bodybuilders, you know, trying to get himself to look as much like a gorilla as possible. And uh he once they once asked him, you know, he they were interviewing Lufarno and he said he used to push weights, pump weights in the weight room until he got to the point where he passed out from the pain. >> No. But then he made a lot more money being the Incredible Hulk than I did the Incredible Kaplan teaching at Adors. And there's a reason because he made the he put in the he invested it being the with the Incredible Hulk. And that's where you make he made the money. A lot of other guys would have liked to make that money. He made the money. Listen, I could bench I could bench uh at my peak. I think I was able to bench um two I think 260. Yeah, I could I bench meaning I could I could bench I could say 260 words a minute and in in Berasamosa and they could bench 260. That's the >> the uh you mean weights? Oh, I I could probably get, you know, a good a good 70 or 80 pounds, you know, you know, in two in two tries. It's like I got a By the way, I got a 14 I don't know if you know this. The SATs, I don't know. The SATs are 1,600 still. >> You're up to 24. In my days, it was 1,600 on the SATs. I got a 1480 on the SATs. Thank you very much. Thank you. Thank you. This guy took it twice. So, we combined the scores. That was so the uh so so so what do you call you know, it takes something. You're going to have to invest if you want to get there. Parro is willing to invest at the point that he feels there's no more. He says to Min, "You come back, you're going to die." Look at Moin's reaction. So you have spoken I will not come back to see you. But if you read it that way we're reading it. We're missing the reading here. Moshe is really saying loa I won't be coming back to you but you'll be coming back to me. Right? That means in the plague of the firstborn who goes looking for who? >> Par goes looking for Moshe. Mosha says, "Listen, you said I I won't be coming. You're right. I won't be coming back for you, but you'll be coming back for me." That's the deal, right? What's the implication? Okay. Now, comes to Mosher comes to Mosher. He says, "I'm going to bring one other plague and then he's going to send you out." Par's going to send you out. Um, where is it? Um, oh, sorry. Sorry. I forgot one point over here. What was parro? What was parro trying? Why wouldn't Paro want Mosher not to come back? Parro thought that if I could prevent Mosher Rabenu from warning me, then there won't be any more plagues. Right? The whole point here is stop him from warning me. If I could get Mosherenu not to warn me because all the plagues came after warnings. Some of them came after they were a series of couple of warnings and the third one without a warning. Figures, okay, no more warning. I just got one without a warning. No more warning and then I'll then I'll be okay. says almost as that that's like the guy who said you know guy who used to smoke cigarettes says one day I read that they read I was reading something that says cigarette smoking is extremely dangerous for your health so I immediately quit reading so you're you're missing you're missing the the point over here you think the problem is not a warning over here I I'll stop motion for a bit I'll stop the warning so Mosha says okay listen you've said this Before Cain Debarta, you said it before. When did Parro say it before? When he tried to execute Moshe the first time. Oh, you're threatening me. You tried killing me once a long time ago. Remember the executioner who bounced the sword bounced off his neck on and it killed him? Remember that part? Oh, right. Yeah. Yeah. So, what makes you think you're going to get me now? Okay. I'm going to bring one more play. He's gonna send you out. He's gonna chase you out of here. Now the uh the question becomes like this. Hashem says to Moshe, "Parra is going to send you out." You see in life there are certain times there are certain things a person has to do. You have to do it. There used to be a there used to be a a commercial on TV for muffler for Midas mufflers I think. And this guy, you know, who sneaky, he he just he he says, "You could either, you know, pay now." He's trying to convince you to buy the mightest mufflers. You know, they're the best mufflers, obviously. And and he says, you know, you could pay now or pay later, >> right? But one way or another, you're going to pay, right? And it comes to a hashem, sometimes there are certain things Hashem wants us to do. Now, you could do it now or you could do it. You could do it under these circumstances or you could do it under those circumstances. One way or another you're going to do it. So for example, let's say Hashem wants a person to daven. You could davin now and a person I'm not into davining. You know I don't I don't do davining. So says oh really okay. Next thing you know this person has a relative who's not well. Now a person's going to daven because also now hey this is serious business. Then a person dins. So of course bro says listen you could do it your way. You could do it my way. one way or another you're going to do it. A person's going to give you want you you're you there's a certain amount of money that you're given. The gor says in the course of the year you're going to earn a certain amount of money and you're going to certain amount of money is going to you're you're limited how much you're going to have. Now there are different ways of losing your money not losing it of reducing your money. You could either give sedaka or it could get taken away from you and and it's a good idea. So Raban Zakai had a dream that his nephews are going to have to give up a certain amount of money that they're going to lose in the course of the year. His nephews So Zakai urged them to give Sedaka. He kept nudging them to get they kept giving giving to Sudaka and they got up to a certain point and then the government taxed them or took away a certain the rest of the money which led to the total that Rabake had dreamed. So they were upset. I said, "Don't be upset. Don't be upset." I knew that they were going to lose this much, but you know, you got Mo and gave to Stoa because some of it you now you could give you could do it pleasantly. You're not parro you could have sent them out nicely. You're going to send them out one way or another. You're going to send them out and sometimes in life you're going to do it. So you may as well do it anyway. Did your parents mother ever say to you, "If you're going to do it, do it with a smile." Did your mother ever hear that from your mother? If you're going to do it, do it. Have you ever hear that? If you're going to do it, do it with a smile. I never said that to my kids. I never said that to my kids because mothers always say that. I never said it because I don't think it's fair. First of all, I don't see the mothers always smiling. You know, when a mother goes to start washing dishes on Shabas and she's scrubbing crusty ch pots. I don't see her like, "Oh, this is we do the crown ch you know to you know you know you got to do it. Certain things in life got to be done. You know that way you could do it happily. You got to do it." I used to say to my kids, "Listen guys, we need you to fold the laundry. You can do it happily. Do it don't happily. But fold I don't care if you're happy or not. I'm not happy about it either. Just fold the laundry. Right. Women are always do if you can do do it with a smile. Who's doing everything with a smile? Let's go file our taxes with a smile. What's what's a smile about? Right. So, you're going to do it one way or another. You're going to do it. Now, pay attention carefully. Look at the next B. Speak to the people. and tell all the people to ask their fellow their friends the Egyptians for silver and gold. Uh uh what do you call it? Go tell them to ask the Egyptians. Now if you notice no means please convince the people. Please ask the people please ask the Egyptians for gold and silver. I mean, gentlemen, who we're talking about here? Talk about Jews. Go ask them for some freebies. Come on. Please ask them for some freebies. You know, twist my arm. I was born under the freebie star. What? What do you mean? What? What do you No. Hashem said, "Please convince the people to ask the Egyptians for gold and silver." Number >> what? >> Please ask nicely. >> No, just just just to get the Jewish people to ask. Wait, the Jewish people ask please or Mosh saying please we'll get >> Hashem is saying to Mosher please convince the Jewish people to ask for the free stuff >> number one. Number two is a reu. What does the word reu mean? His friend what? From the friendly Egyptians. Go ask tell the Jews to ask from their fellow from their friendly from their Egyptian friends. What kind of friends? >> Huh? From friends. Egypt all sudden Egypt. Oh yes my friend. Like when you go to the Arab shook. Yes, my friend. Come, my friend. You know, get my friend. Give me your money, my friend. Right. What kind of friends over here? So, first of all, the the uh the uh uh uh I was once walking through the Arab shook years ago, this long time ago, and I remember a guy walking walking ahead of me, and or was it me or somebody else? He said, "Where you from?" It's either me, I don't I said it to him. I said I said, "Chick Chicago." He goes, "Uh, Mayor Daly." Mayor Daly. I think all of why this guy is so cultured. How would he know? Well, that's interesting. Then I hear the next guy says, "Where are you from, my friend?" He says, "Detroit." Says, "Mayor Daily. Mayor Daily." I say, "Okay, I'm not sure he knows what mayor is. I'm not sure he knows what daily is." At the end of the day, where's the friendship? We're friends with the Egyptians. What are you friends with over here? So, the answer is like this. There are, first of all, the Egyptians, the Med says, they got real friendly with the Jews when they're getting smacked around. They got real hi, how are you? They they're just they're just really in. And so when he says ask from your friends, he doesn't mean literal friends. It means these people are acting friendly towards you. But why would the Jews be resistant that Hashem has to ask Moshe to convince them? Two reasons that the Jews would be resistant to asking for this stuff. Gold, silver, garments. The measure says that the garments were even more more precious to them than the gold and silver. Why would the Jews, what cause would there be? What motivation for them to what would they be resistant >> that they now need to be convinced to go and ask for freebies? >> Look like they all the punishment they went through now is evened out and >> you're on the right track. You're Yeah. >> Like reparations don't do. >> Ah, you mean for the we don't we don't want the reparations. Interesting. Interesting. Never saw that. Very interesting idea. You know, don't don't think we're going to make it. It's going to be all all because now you're giving the stuff all hunky dory. I'll tell you the truth. If I was given reparations, I would take it. I tell you, I never understood. What good does it do to not take the reparations? It does it doesn't do it any good. I was once ticked off at at uh at LL because they they they something happened on the flight and I I wrote him a letter. So they sent me like a voucher, you know, for a 50 bucks, you know, voucher vouched the next ticket or something. And I just like, no, no, they're not getting away with that. Either a seat in first class or nothing at all. And I got rid that was stupid. I got rid of the voucher. And it was stupid. I should have taken off 50 bucks off the next ticket. I wasn't going to get the seat in first class anyway, so I may as well take it off. They say, "Well, don't reject it. They're giving it to you." What what good does it do to reject what their conscience? They're not even alive. the people I don't know if somebody's giving it to you take. That's the rule of life. They're offering you take here. There are two reasons. Reason number one is we don't want to give them a reason to chase us. But today they're giving it to us friendly, but we're leaving Egypt. Well, then they're all a sudden they're going to turn around looking for his Rolex and like, whoa, who's got my Rolex? Five old Goldman over there. Hey yo, he's got my Rolex. Take my children. He'll take my Rolex. So they, you know, who knows? They're going to come after them. I don't want to give them a reason. Number one. Number two, let me ask you, human nature. There's a little old lady. You're walking outside. It's a boiling hot day and there's a little old lady carrying packages and she lives a couple of blocks down and you see she's struggling. So, you pick up the packages and you walk along with this little old lady and you carry it all the way up to her house and it's it's a you know it takes a half hour of your time and it's hot. Then she says, "Oh, you're such a nice boy." And she wants to give you 20 shuckles. Would you take it? >> No. >> Wouldn't take it. Why not? Sh. >> First two times will >> Yeah, but you got free. You're right. But you got the 20 shekels. >> I would expect more. >> There's a man after my heart. If she pulls out a 20, you say, "Do I hear 50?" There we go. Nice. Okay. You wouldn't take it. Nobody in this room would take it. And if you offered 100 chuckles, you wouldn't take it either. >> All right. What if you're like, "No." And I say no. Again, she insists. >> We For that, we wouldn't take money. >> For that, we wouldn't take money. Why? I'll tell you what's really going on. On one hand, we don't want to reduce the reward for the mitzvah. You know, if you take payment, you find a lost object and you give it back. You never they don't take a reward. You take a reward, it reduces the reward up there. It's not worth the reward. You you find $1,000 and you bring there cases like this. Somebody found $1,000, you give it back, they get 20 bucks. You could take it, but it's going to just reduce the reward in the world to come. But it's more than that with this. What does this lady now think of me when I brought her when I brought her bag? What does she think of me? A sadic. At sadic. I finally got somebody in the world who thinks I'm at sadic. Now I'm such a sadic. I think I'm going to give myself a braha. You know you seem I'm a I like the idea that somebody thinks I'm worth something. If I take the money from her, I know that that's going to reduce me in her eyes. The Jewish people now demonstrated they were the three days of darkness. They had free reign of the Egyptian homes. They went through a blackout and no looting. Could you imagine? There was no looting. There's a blackout for three days and six days and no looting. And America is a blackout for 20 minutes. You know, every every shop on the street is bombed. >> Is a window windows are gone. You know, there isn't a window left in it through six days of looting of of but no looting. What do the Egyptians think of the Jewish people right now? This is special nation. I don't want to lose that. Don't go asking them for stuff now. I like living with the idea that they're looking at us as we're we're different than you. We're not like you. To the contrary, we're not like you. That's why people say, "What would we do if we if we could get a hold of the Nazis?" You know what we would do? We would do nothing because it would show that, you see, we're not like you. Okay? So, they're going to be punished obviously, be executed, that sort of thing. We're not going to torture and and and enjoy every minute of it because we're not like you. When we have the opportunity, we don't behave like you do. We're different and we like to be seen as being different and we don't want to be reduced. And therefore they're not gonna mo says please ask them. >> Gava >> is it gava? >> It's probably it's a certain amount of self-respect. It's not it's a self-respect and and haughty and gya and arrogance are two two different things. Self-respect means we dress decently. You have to have a certain amount of self-respect. We don't walk the streets looking like a looking like Tarzan, you know. We you know have to have a dress ourselves nicely, clean ourselves up. We don't walk around smelling bad or or or you know looking goopy, you know. We we there's certain that's self-respect. Giva is when you're struting and there's a certain amount of you know I like I like first of all it's not ga because we declare that we are the chosen people and when it comes to other people we want you to see that we're the chosen people and therefore the I think it's the he says that's why has to try to convince them it's okay I'm telling you ask them this is what Hashem wants you now in spite of that Hashem wants you to ask them for the for the good now watch this Yes, >> I have a quick question for yourself as available if someone like say pay for their learning. That's when you should and when you shouldn't take money is different. Now yes, an important question by the way. You know sometimes a person insists on giving you a gift or insists on paying you for something there. I found sometimes you know I'm uncomfortable taking it but sometimes life this is where you have to be smart enough to know what does the other person what's the real over here. Sometimes the is to let the person give to you. I had recently somebody wanted to give me something and I said to him listen you don't have to but if it makes you happy then then okay. Yeah, I have to worry about what they're h what they're you know where this comes up all the time. One couple invites a woman invites her friends family for chabas and the woman says okay what can I bring now every hostess in the world doesn't need help Jewish women do not need help making meals number one and number two there's sometimes I want to feel that you know there are going to be compliments women that's a big thing by women with cooking is the compliments and all the cookbooks you always read you know serve this one and the compliments will roll you know that that's always that's how that's how they which Fine. You want to be complimented and nobody wants to feel that it more than the compliment if somebody else if I serve somebody else's food it makes it look like I wasn't capable. Now the lady called up and says what could I bring? Uh you know just bring yourselves. No maybe I could let me I'll bring the liver. No no that's okay. The gapilta. No no that's okay. At the end of the day, who is doing who the favor here? By allowing her to bring, you're doing her the favor. And that's the hardest thing in life, >> right? >> Because nobody's going to know that because now you have other guests at your table. You have other people. Now you're serving her food or her collars or her thing. And nobody knows that the real motivation here. Well, you can't get up at the By the way, I was doing this as a for her. That you can't do. That you can't do. So who's really doing I remember this when when I when my my oldest son was about three years old and I went out to build the suka. So he came out to help me with his plastic hammer. So after certain amount of time of you know after him helping me graciously for about a half hour I then you know brought him into the house said maybe help mommy in the kitchen now. Yeah. Because now who's helping who? The little boy is banging with his hammer. Who's helping? Oh, thank you. You're going in the house now. I can't take too much help, kid. You know, and now who's helping? You're doing for him. And ultimately ultimately is we're the kid with the hammer. Some said we put on or we learn Torah, we do a mitzvah. Oh, I'm doing something for Hashem. Hashem, Hashem has given us the privilege of doing it. And who's we're the kid with the hammer. We're the little kid. We're the three-year-old of the hammer. That's all we are. So, we think, "Oh, I did Hashem a favor. I put on to fill in. Don't worry, he's got plenty of leather up there. He doesn't need our leather down here." So, what are we? We're that kid. But, okay, one more point. It's very important. Hashem puts the grace of the people, the eyes of the Egyptians. Here, please take my gold. Take my friend. Take The man Moshe was very great the land of Egypt in the eyes of the servants of parro and in the eyes of the people. So one of the ideas here is like this. Okay, this is a very very important idea. How do we select? You know, you've heard the expression he's one of the gdolan, the godlador. He's one of the great leaders of the generation. How do we how do we how do they get elected? >> How did they get selected? How did they become the gdollim? How did Rabos Feinstein become Rabosh, Revelash, and Raim Kyvski? And today you have Rava Raha Nettles. Today we have was it Rabosa Rabosa what do you call it? uh Rev Hersh uh what's his um I forgot his middle name and and you have uh Rav Dovando how did they get a revolval coin how did they become the gdola >> what's that >> peers >> their peers the peers it's not a popularity context where you're elected by the small people because it's really the peers who know that means you had the khanish and the khanish and uh the kafitz and the kazones all agreed that uh the stifler was one of the gdole and the kaz stipler agreed that remoteinstein and all it's it's your peers could recognize the greatness now if you were an Egyptian a regular uh uh you know one of the one of the uh uh uh less intellectual Egyptians and you heard about what would you be impressed with Mosher Rabenu what are you impressed with Mosher Rabenu Oh, the miracles, the miracle man. But look at the puka, the mana, the actual man, not the miracles. Remember I told you always means the sophisticated inner circle. A parro means the inner circle of parro. These are the people who are higher level intellectually. These are people who are more developed, more sophisticated. What do they recognize first Moshe? They recognize the quality of the man Mosheam. And then the rest of the people recognize also. But who sees him clearly more than anybody else is the people who are clearest who are nearest to his level. When it comes to Torah scholarship, you know, the people at the bottom get, you know, they have laavd in sports, they have two types of ways of selecting the all-star team. There's when the fans vote and when the players vote. Now, which one is really an indication of who the best players are? >> When the players vote, of course, because the players know who's who's really worth something, the fans. It's the guys, well, he's good because he's in my city. stuff the ballot boxes. Who's really knows is the players themselves though. The guys inside, they're the ones who know. The Torah is telling you they're not voted. It's not has nothing to do with popular following. You can have millions of followers. It doesn't mean anything because your followers, what do they know? They're taken by sensationalism. Quality recognizes quality. Quality is needed for quality. To to to bamboozle people or to impress people, you know, that doesn't that doesn't take very much. That doesn't take very much. That doesn't mean anything in Yiddish kite. What it means is when the people of quality, they the ones who recognize quality, that means something. >> Okay. And if all the stuff is a it's available at our website.com for all the the review paras and all the other uh all the other important stuff. Uh every tomorrow we're regular session.