Daily Chidush: A Woman Of Worth, Far Beyond Pearls is Her Value

hello how are you hope you had a and also today uh today we're going to talk about the AL of women for their prayers and when and when to use aem's name and when not because as we know the responsibility and role of a woman in Judaism is different than the men's uh un you know and the major uh misunderstanding we have in this year in this uh generation is that the responsibility of a woman is lesser than a man and according to the toah that's exactly the opposite as a matter of fact the woman has a nickname in a tah called bite bite means home because the woman's role is the future success as far as spirituality of the home is is in in the hands of a righteous woman without a righteous woman that's going to teach the children the Torah without a woman that's going to uh make sure that the home has spirituality in it and has a it on a regular basis it's impossible for a Jewish Home to succeed in getting closer to hasem and fulfilling their Destiny now the main reason why woman has different Al is because since she's responsible for such a major task of actually taking care of the home there's no way that she could also be bound to the mitv that are restricted with time meaning that for examp example a man has to pray three times a day he has to pray the each one of these prayers has to be done at a specific time during a day the in a certain time in the morning before Sundown and also uh after Sundown now since the woman is a uh responsible for the house she has to take care of the kids there's no way that she could be at the bitet throughout the entire day so obviously Hashem knew this and he explained to the sages that any mitvah that he has out of the 633 mitv we have in the Tora that is bound to time the woman is not responsible for it she's not she's not supposed to do it only the man is supposed to do it and this is also the reason why women do not lay uh like the men do in the morning because that's also part of sh but at the same token while she is not responsible for those mitv she is responsible to pray at least once per day but since we cannot use aem's name in vain there's certain prayers that a woman is allowed to say aem's name uh because she's responsible for that prayer uh and whereas there's certain prayers that since they're not part of her uh daily responsibility uh then or obligation better said then she's not allowed to say the name so here are the and then we'll go over into the why this is all actually uh even more more of a meaning more of a more of a taste of the why behind all of it because the more we understand the why the easier it is for us to connect to each one of the MIT now as far as the which is the first morning prayers that each one of us does when we first wake up in the morning thanking Hashem for bringing back our soul into our body thanking Hashem for making us Jewish thanking Hashem for all the wonderful things that uh we have and unfortunately take for granted sometimes this is the morning prayers since everyone is responsible to do it men and women are responsible and obligated to do it then the women are obligated to say the name of hem they do use the name of Hashem during these morning prayers after that there's the uh prayers that are before the katma which are part of the prayer all of these prayers since the woman is not obligated to do the prayer then she is does not use the name of Hashem during those prayers and then the and the also called uh since the woman is obligated to do both of those prayers at least once per day then they then she does use the name of Hashem during the actual kma and during the amid prayer um as far as the uh the Hal Hal is something that we say during Roes and also during the MIM during the holidays uh the woman is since this is again a time uh restrained type of mitvah the woman does say Hal but she doesn't do the blessing before the Hal so these so far these are the actual of prayers for the women and now I want to make sure that we all understand the why in today's confused generation there are many wicked women that are trying to convince the mass public that the role of woman in Judaism is a sexist or a chauvinistic type of uh ality nothing could be further from the truth unfortunately some women are trying to convince the mass the mass public that a woman is supposed to be like a man now if I told you that a woman is actually considered more significant than a man in Judaism then obviously this this so-called advice wouldn't make any sense and that's exactly the case a man needs to learn Tor every single day and do all of these mitv and prayers in order to become spiritual in order to connect to Hashem a woman does not and the reason why is because the woman is naturally more spiritual this is the reason why a man can pray for 20 years without ever crying even one tear one tear out of his out of his eyes without ever connecting to hasem truly whereas a woman five minutes five minutes of prayers if she really wants to she can start crying for for two hours because of how deep she connect deeply she connected with hem because the woman is has a much easier time connecting to Hashem and becoming spiritual this is also why in The Book of Jeremiah CH 31:22 it says there's several meanings to this one of them is that the world of the man will be decided by the woman but nonetheless also is that the woman could run circles around the man the woman can actually get to such a high level of spirituality and she is the reason why hasem took us out of Egypt not the man the man actually unfortunately at that time were Idol worshippers they were in the 49th level of two mind some even worse the righteous women of am Isel were the reason why hasem took us out of Egypt and the righteous women of am is are the ones that are going to bring the mhia so all of these foolish Thoughts by feminism by by women by women that are trying to convince women of today that they need to be more like men couldn't be more nonsensical couldn't be further from the truth also says in Proverbs 14:1 the wise among women each built her house but the foolish one tears it down with her hands this is a pretty strong statement that we connect to our this week's par says the wise woman knows what her role is in Judaism and she's going to fulfill that role and therefore build her house but the foolish one the feminist the one that wants to be like a man her stupid actions her nonsense her Illusions are going to tear her own house down how so we learn in this week's par as we always say if you ever want to find an answer relevant to your life today not last week not last month not last year but today right now you want to learn an answer that's relevant to you today you just look at the weekly Paras every single week Hashem with his Divine wisdom will give us specific individualistic customade answers for our own problems in the weekly Paras this is divine wisdom this is nothing like man that's why he says my thoughts are nothing like your thoughts and this week's it says korak son of son of Kad son of leev separated himself withan and a sons of elab and on the son of pet The Offspring of Ren korak decided to separate himself from the rest of am specifically from Moses and Aon and he took these other Wicked people the with him which have been Wicked since the start but also took another person named onit later on the par we learned that obviously this was a very big mistake despite the fact that korak before this foolish action was considered righteous was considered wise and was also very very wealthy before this action everything was good after this move and the follow and the follow through of what happened after it we learn that kak ends up having such a huge punishment that the ground opened up and swallowed him and everyone that followed him and where they went they went to is another name for and according to the page 109b R AKA says kak and all of his followers have no share of the world to come they're going to be in screaming is m is and to is AIT Hashem is the truth Moses's servant is the truth and the Torah is the truth whatever Hashem stamps something that's it it never changes AKA says he has no share of the world to come they're going to stay there screaming there until forever why why did this happen How could somebody so righteous so wise from such a good family get to such an extent but the second question is why don't we see when the punishment is delivered when Hashem delivers his truthful judgment why don't we see on the name of on Ben pelet as the famous Story Goes kazal explains to us that this was all because of the action of two women two women the wife of korak said to him listen yes you're rich yes you're wise yes you're all of this but you don't really have the proper amount of cavod proper amount of respect that you should have cuz look look at this Moses he's the number one guy he made his brother Aron the number one guy the number two guy or number one guy also they're the leaders then their sons are leaders what are we okay we have some money but it's not enough we need more respect he says yeah yeah but look we went we're Le we have a special responsibility we had to shave our uh our heads and our beards right now because as as part of becoming pure she goes no I think they were just making fun of you they made the they they made you shave your beard because they were jealous of your beard and she started putting stuff into his head getting him all crazy and as it says the woman could run circles around a man she can make him run in circles also and that's exactly what happened kak lost his mind and says this can't be I can't stay this this uh number you know this this unrecognized person I have to get the number one job and he went and did what he did went against Moshe which means he went against Hashem himself and Hashem punished him why because of the foolishness of his wife that wanted more cavod she wanted more recognition she wanted Fame she wanted to be on the cover of a magazine she wanted people to take pictures of her she wanted everyone to know who she is and what she eats for lunch she wanted all this Fame okay well now she can deal with Gom forever and see what where that takes her this is this is the foolishness of someone that is chasing cavod but on the other hand we had the wife of onet on pet according to the first verse of this week's par was original founder of the group but later on he's nowhere to be found why explains to us in Yim on the same Proverbs we just read chapter 14 verse1 where the wise among women each built their house but the foolish one tears the house down with their own hands says the wise woman here is the wife of on pet and the foolish one is the wife of korak how so the mid of yuchi says the wife of on convinced him to stay away from korak she told him listen what's the what's it for you if if Moses stays the leader you're still you're still learning Tora you're still fulfilling the will of hem nothing really changes for you but if you go with kak and he becomes the leader nothing changes for you anyway you still on you still learn T you still have fulfilled the will of hem so what's the point of going through this whole battle either way you yourself have the same position why go through all this risk why go through all this trouble even though this wasn't exactly a uh genius advice this is Common Sense on never thought of it why because he was full of the emotions of kak that resulted from his wife resulted from K's wife and he said yes you know what you're right but I already promised them that I'm going to come she says no don't worry I'll take care of that go have a few drinks go to sleep I'll take care of them how you how you going to take care of them she go I'll take care of them and the wise wife of onet went and stood in the front door and as soon as the kak and his 250 followers came she saw them from afar and she took off her she took off the cover of her hair and it's soon as the men of korak saw this they saw a woman a married woman without covered hair they immediately ran away because despite being Wicked and despite making a major horrendous decision they still could not get themselves to ever be next to a woman that's a married woman and is not covering her hair this is also one of the sources of the Mitzvah of covering hair the obligation of covering Hair by married woman and also why it's a scarf or hat and not a wig like we have many people wear today even though there are some Pim askanazi that actually have have allowed it we have some material on it online of even the ones that permit the the covering of the hair it's not exactly by the wig standards of today but nonetheless moving on we see that here the wise woman of pellet makes a major decision tells a husband to stay away from the fight and ends up saving his eternity and our own eternity with a simple decision now how could such a simple decision be so extraordinary so lifechanging thear mentions stories of two women in the gar two major women one is the wife of RAB AKA and one is the wife of R Balan the story of R Bales is his wife was bu R Bal was one of the students of R AKA and bu was also came from a major sage in AAR one of the most important men that ever lived so she came from a good family she married an amazing husband and she herself was very very righteous but she wanted to make sure that she spend her life instead of being the traditional woman that has the role of a housewife that has a role of building the house and building the of the house she wanted to be she wanted to go to the all day and learn T fine you want to learn Tor learn T there's no uh it's not a sin it's mitvah you want to learn T learn Tor just as long as the things at home are being taken care of but don't forget that you have a critical role the primary role is taking care of the house secondary role is learning toah but she made the primary role learning T so much so that she became very very wise she actually became one of the sages and she rebuked some of the sages to such an extent that she even kicked one of the chairs of's uh uh students because she saw that he's studying without uh you know just studying to himself without speaking out loud when you study Tor you should read out loud and move your lips and not just read to yourself because that uses more senses but nonetheless she got to a point where she built this Torah wisdom but she also built her Gava so when she heard the sages which got their information from Mount sa say that the mind of a woman is easier to convince than the mind of a man she started laughing at it she started laughing she go nah this is this is wrong now saying something in the Torah something from the sages something from Mount Si is wrong is a very critical charge so in order to protect the honor of the Torah he said to her I'm going to prove to you that you're wrong and what he did is that he sent one of his students to show her that she can be convinced and this student actually she didn't know obviously he was Rim's student but the student enticed her and to actually become intimate with him and right before she was willing to do it or right when she became willing to do it it obviously the student was righteous he didn't do it he announced that this is all a test and she failed this miserable test this is not because wanted to divorce his wife this is not because wanted to show his wife that she's nothing Shalom this is because he had to protect the honor of the Tor and no one is allowed to say that something that's we got from Mount Si is wrong in order to protect the honor of the toah you had to make this step to show her that she's wrong the pride of man or woman will bring his downfall this is from Proverbs told us this so she failed this test and unfortunately she could harda her Pride couldn't couldn't take it that she failed this test couldn't take it that she was wrong about this thought that she had and she ended up killing herself a big disaster there's also another woman inar the wife of aka the wife of R AKA fa very famous story came from the house of kalba SAA one of the three richest men of am is and she left everything behind got disowned by her father why because she wanted to marry this man that couldn't read Couldn't Write was divorced with a kid but had good midot had good character traits under the condition that he's going to go to Yeshiva and he's going to go learn Torah she's willing to give up everything just so she marries someone that's willing to dedicate their life to learn T and that's what she Dida went to school went to kindergarten learned alet at the age of 40 and as the story goes after 12 years he came back only to overhear his wife talking to this rash talking to this wicked man trying to convince her to be with him by saying look your husband left he went to learn he whether he went to learn or he's never coming back you never know look at you you're so poor you have to sell your hair in order to eat what do you need this for and she said no if my husband could only hear me he would do my will and my will is that he would go back to Yeshiva and learn for another 12 years and because of the honor of his wife R AKA did exactly that and went to Yesa for another 12 years 24 years without seeing his wife for a moment but when he came back he didn't come back just as AKA he came back as the RAB aka the RAB AKA that had 24,000 students were the least of his students the lowest level student that he had was able to have had such Kusa that was able to revive the dead so when she saw that this big Rabbi is coming to town she knew it's our husband and this lowly woman is running through the crowd trying to see her husband and no one knows this is his wife and she goes through the crowd she's trying to reach the rav and the students stop hey hey lady what are you doing this is the holy Rabbi Raba screamed at everyone saying no let her go through because all of the Torah that I have and all of the Torah that all of you have belongs to her and this is why when we say ra menu we also are referring to ra the wife of RAB AKA difference here between these two women both of them came from righteous houses both of them had Tora in their life the difference here one wanted to play the role of a man and one wanted to play the role of the Holy that we learn about in the Tor the one that schl sings about the one that we've learned about sahu ra menu Le RKA Ruth b all of these righteous women throughout history we don't learn about their Torah knowledge we learn about their Kusa their modesty and how they played a critical role in the building of am is so most important part about all of this is to know that when we play our role and perfect it we're fulfilling the will of hem and if we fulfilling the will of Hashem nothing in the world is greater than that nothing thank you for learning to with me may hasem continue to bless you and now we have a little bit more time a little bit more Taste of how special every righteous woman really is