Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 85 by R’ Eli Stefansky

i have a very cute video of a kid multi-y ribs kid who doesn't speak yet but he's trying to do good morning rabbi sci and baby language here it is first time ever check this out you got to hear this oh no one minute we'll wait for the coffee for a second okay good oh here we go oh no yeah it was amazing here how about some volume wow oh by me it's not it's my problem here we go you ready here we go it's zero by me that's also a problem okay here we go we gotta go from the beginning oh it does uh here we go it's a kid that doesn't speak some kids the first words are toy rats some kids are here [Music] umi okay [Music] schlemmy gorstin sent this to me his mother took a picture of their brother this brother you can see actually it says not posed he's in his hospital bed going through the procedures that he goes through this revoice said do not don't put it on the screen thank you all right this is the letter i was talking about i'm gonna read this uh it's in hebrew and um you're safe you have to erase you're gonna have to take it off the thing okay he's he wrote it in hebrew because he doesn't want me to read it to the islam but that's not going to stop me i asked him permission and i convinced him it was hard for me to convince so i have to take out some parts here just to hide his identity but it was a very emotional email for me he says i want to tell you a little bit about my history i grew up in yerushalayim went to a really religious heider over there i went to isritana and a few little yeshivas and then basically he left yiddish kite somehow he went to certain yeshiva and the shemaiah came back to the sky and he got married and he has children he tried a number of times to learn different things sometimes they were more successful than others but they never he never kept with any of the programs and it didn't develop by him accuse now differently than a lot of the letters that you read i can't tell you that from that i haven't opened up a safer since i left yeshiva because when i was in yeshiva i never opened up a safer the few times that i did learn i didn't really connect to complicated suggest and i preferred to learn so yes i did finish a few massages but it came and it was very difficult for me and without a lot of how do you say facial english okay no he's right keisha is the best way to say it okay so i'm at least a half a year into this i haven't missed many days at all [Music] and not only that i do hazara on the daf as well i want you to know that the amount of dapping that i learned by you in the last half a year is more than everything i ever learned in my entire life and it's not just that my entire day changed fila dominion wasn't really something that was had whatever the word is okay but today he says today is the record and this i think everybody can relate to and every time i read this line i choked up just to get up on a vacation in a hotel when everybody's still sleeping to learn a daft kimoro that never happened in the history so therefore it goes on thank you i appreciate what you do i can stick in whatever i want here but i won't um i don't want you to read this to the sea words for you privately hashem should pay you back double yo whoever you are beautiful to me that was a beautiful it was written beautifully i couldn't read it in hebrew to thailand but that's that all right today we're the oh somalia we have some seats here for doyle now here we have at least two seats over here i don't be able to get him to the front wow how'd you get him up the stairs [Music] who do we have here who are all you i see a lot a lot of guys here you can get him in here just make some room here sit next to me meanwhile i'll say the uh sponsorships all of you come up here and tell me who you are the kylo sponsors for all of mdy paris said [Music] hello how you doing no you're excited to be here finally i just roll okay how are we going to do this yeah we got to push that table a little bit he's good he's good his feet are good okay [Music] all right come back a little bit what do we have here what's your name brothers and who's the guy next what's going on here from what are you guys what are you doing what's all your home minion a whole minion wow what a celebrity what a celebrity unbelievable lakewood new jersey you're from lakewood right so we're where it's a record every day somebody from lakewood unbelievable all right talk about how long have you been doing this here with me two years and you told me tell me what you told me that's your dream to come to to mdy so your dream dream came true you came on a plane the whole trip the whole unbelievable when did you arrive yes what time did you go to the castle yet what you didn't go to the place [Laughter] all right uh continuing on you scrambled to the framin boy family i was hoping that the the weinberg children will be here they were supposed to be here today maybe tomorrow okay leland is master billy yo romney yawyer ellie weinberg prior to the holidays by the lack of liberty families nigerians because toy is the best ghoula lakewood today's cheer sponsored by yehuda yiddy schwartz from cairo are you late by lisa bond in honor of my dear husband glenn for our 33rd anniversary it's always amazes me when women tune in and they they realize what their husbands want got him a gift a sponsorship in this year glenn must be a big dapper effie zwiegenhaft dishes in honor of the fellow mdy member ahri grand chao thanks so much for learning tomorrow with me rufus leima lisa in honor of hill boyer for his dedication to mdy and his clients at hd autos today is the 45th day in the imair rapoy sai here we go today's daf pehe and we're holding by guffa he dialed on the base 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 lies in the bottom goof omar have you done this is something we learned yesterday we're going to go into it a little bit doesn't have an issue to marry a hollow okay the khalo has a problem she doesn't have a problem says perhaps that we could bring it right from our mission versus it's not a good right what's the right from our mishno that's what we're talking about now what does shera mean we could try to force it and say that sheila means okay that's exactly what we're talking about our case doesn't have a problem getting married to him um sharing means that she's passionate mma law you see there's no problem now look at rashi for a second mike cherisher lacuna i don't know where it is but you'll find it one third from the bottom my cherry cherry luna de cairo long coin calls manchester lisa bass coin if he can marry okay henness he should not marry or israelis and okahanes shouldn't marry or yisro unless he's atomic so somebody asked the stiper once told them you have a bigger chance of being atomic then that guy has a chance of being a kind what does it mean a lot of times and we just learned it and it became a little bit more clear to me when we learned it when my friend told me why he's a hollow that his mother is a balastruva and in college whatever they did then just being with a guy one time makes all her children halal no no longer queen so who knows in previous generations what happened and who was where from unless you have your rabbi schoenberg of course and he's like not me my family we're dog we have uh he you ever saw his stuff in uh in our uh newsletter that's what it's called or america's and i'm just kidding of course all right my cause every week rubbish so he probably has uh xavier's going back to arunachala and himself but a regular client doesn't know my father is this is that i don't know what happened and therefore that's the stipeler so don't worry about it he says in our generation you're a bigger tom hawking than she's a kohanas you don't like that ravi shanghai huh you said it maybe maybe you're saying you didn't say it okay mike shakes always says no lie israelis no from our victims not a writer perhaps oklahoma's who marries a hollow would be oscar we're talking about israelis or mike sharon so then what is it the word kosher mean sherry look how she can marry any any israel she's cherilykol yes so let's try to prove it let's try to force it a little bit it says in the mishnah if he has a brother who's kosher nami kashi alcahol so lucha the word kosher you tell me question means that you can marry into playstrong puzzle yes if this person has a brother that could marry in he himself cannot marry him oh that can't be why because she married him and she's muttered to marry him so obviously she he's he the brother is mutual you can't say one brother is muthulocal and the other brother is not multicultural had how did she marry that guy that's number two the brother is kasia kahuna so now we want to prove if he's a cayenne then if the man is a kind then she's a kyanis meet the eerie what are you talking about it's a shidduch he happens to be a queen she has to be israelis we can't we can't force him we can't prove it from our minister okay this is just because he's a kind doesn't mean she's a candidate we have no raya that akihenas is allowed to marry a khala muslim robin barnham check out the possibility by igrow says here in the paso that even okay just like the ish the cayenne can't get married the woman the coherence cannot marry a halal no if she herself is a problematic person she's a grusha problematic for him she's a grusha and he is here so why so we said already okay you're learning i thought you just parted the entourage entourage learns too yeah you got these guys free gamoras the whole thing only the best guys only guys that do the death work here okay give all dick so the deposit is saying as follows if the woman is a grusha the kind is not allowed to marry her what about her she's a grusha is she allowed to participate in that marriage the answer is no by her letting herself getting to get married to this cayenne she's over an answer but we're not talking about our case we wanted to say something about our case that she's a chero and he's a hollow no she's a grusha and almana who the kangola wants to marry that's the problem but in our case she has no issue okay so now you're telling me we just said a second ago that this position on the screen leary kahu is how we learn that she's awesome that she has an answer she's like a man that's is now listen to this very interesting last night i was doing schneidermaker i'm not crying that's something stuck man seriously i was doing stunning big girl and i said you know what let me do one more aliyah i'm very happy i did one more aliyah because that aliyah has this puzzle right here i found it in that aliyah it's so it's this week's power show and it's interesting a lot of times we learn these things we learned these alafa's this shabbos you're going to be sitting in chill here in energy stroll the next shop is in america yeah david when did they catch up we just read this pasta in chileji question is like when the balcory reads do we like pay attention oh we just learned even this week we're gonna read it in three four day okay what does it say in the past i'm giving you an aunt check it out oh no i don't need to because it's in the i don't have the pasta if it's written before in the gemara it's only when it's not the first anymore which one the one on the screen the one on the screen okay gary does for carrot we tell him to put it on he takes it off then we're in a different position um many times the kimono brings this particular pasta we learn from this pasta the tartar says both man and a woman in the same position that a man and woman equal rights they both are also in all diverse in the torah so then why do i need the passage of who says that's a general pasuk of hattie something that's specific only to kahanam perhaps a woman is not jaime so that's why like that's why i need the positive glory top of pay hey that's today's duff we're mom-ish not moving very tomorrow the livestream tomorrow now you can see this and it's still on the screen with africa and more likely it says what okay you mean it's always going to show all the way to the next sugar okay i thought it goes off or something thomas you see all the way of the apostle he talks about tomah who is this puzzle referring to only so that's the live chain of showback it's a love that's only harm because in green it says the sons of ara and the positive is very wrong to the man but without that i would say that women are hive even though it's a love in the show about right we just said a lot of shayna shaw called women would not be kind but over here in the past it seems like they would be hive i just have a special day they're not my time allowance and then because of you review of issues we just mentioned before so first you have sizzling first you have the policy of ish that women and men are hiv in everything then you have the possibility kahu to exclude live shayna once you have that exclusion of life change of a call then i'll think that they are hive because comes the positive benefits and women are potter so anything that's a lobster in shabbat called women should be part of commas says the gimbal story rav papa rav or siv wherever it was last year is permitted to marry somebody who's possible does she have it is sir pablo rap papa tinisuwa i'll prove it to you from a famous mishna in conducion i sorry yourself yeah everybody knows the paris sorry olsen might have not learned it but you've seen it [Music] and he tried to protect clyde's role he didn't want the mumsair to stick around the bubble he could have had a nice strip he's going to bring everybody in there to stroll leave the mum's air in behind and show my straw the problem is there's a lot of trouble with that now from zarim i have nobody to protect them or to protect us from them because all the good guys all the doyle and everything they went there to throw she said no no you guys have to come with us we want you okay and once then we could we could deal with you and he made different classes different categories of people kohanim levine visrailm first these are all the people these are all the classes and then we're going to discuss how they fit in with very very simple stuff living israelim halalim gerim the harurim harun meads slaves that are free imam zarim nasim we know in the cinema shtuki is a child we don't know where the father is asufi is that kid that they left by my door on pesach night sufi says and now it explains that's one category regular yiddin australian mutant over here it says the coin can marry israel is not a problem it's better that i'm better this rashi brings that i didn't finish off but she says if a cayenne marries or israelis then his wedding is a suicide show it's not a mitzvah okay that's the sugi over there it's not such a great thing we don't even care about it right everybody marries each other it's not a big deal rabbi schoenberg you're making you have any of your children that married us they were making you're already there and you don't care you didn't say this you hear this now we took out the kohanim are not in this category but a lady a israel and a halal could get married gayrim you said we know we're atlanta married gay rip slaves muttarim laviz so if we stop right over here khalalam it's mashma that the henness is also in this category in other words the quehenes is not allowed to marry a holo she's not brought in here it's not she's left out of this category only a lady or a stroll can marry a hollow it doesn't mention anything about okay headness isn't that what we're talking about that's uh rap papas raya because it seems if a kohenes would be able to marry a halal it should say okay genes so what's the obvious answer to that he was gonna say well it's not the men also we're saying men and women who can marry each other we don't want to talk about half of a category just the women that's why he doesn't say it but maybe women kahanas woman could marry a cult when the man can marry the woman and the woman can marry the man in other words so it says it if it's only half just the women can marry her that's not it's not a category that we're going to talk about but the man cannot marry khalallah like atani even though the woman could perhaps marry a khala so again we have the question what is marry [Music] who says that a kohenes could marry a hollow why don't you know this you must be directly you must be children you should have known this medivh so we had this yesterday just go to go through it quickly on the screen we have grandparents who had a daughter and that daughter married the plumber from muncie and he also had another wife and then the plumber had two sons the two baldwin brothers who are both not here today usually they are i don't know where's avi some different country probably uh england noam is watching from home that i know he told me this morning hi noam described for coming yesterday honestly wasn't there so now but the two baldwin brothers are brothers real brothers from the father they're ebon brothers they just have different mothers now what is crazy and everybody gave me a hard time is they give me these faces reuven goes ahead and marries his grandmother which midday risa all you guys if you heard didn't hear the daf yesterday midday rising you're allowed to marry a grandmother now somebody might ask which people asked with their eyes yesterday why in the world is this guy this guy's me sugar it's marrying his grandmother so i want to go out i want to tell you that the story could be a little different the story could be that it's not even his grandmother it's his grandfather's wife you see here in this case it's the same case but it's not his own grandmother and she's not 90 years old she's 30 years old this makes a lot more sense now it's a grandfather he's a famous drug i said this a little while ago but i'll say it again because we have some new guys this guy most of you guys don't know you didn't hear this one this 80 year old married a 30 year old woman so one of his friends went over and said i don't understand what what had you convinced her what did you tell her you told her you're like 60 what do you do he says no i told her i'm 90. you like that it's get over here dr epstein get over here come here i'm going to come to you doc rabbi said that he's looking for he's 90 years old he said he's a wealthy doctor he did well in life he has a house in america he has asthma and he's 90 years old look at me though you're valving i love it okay or something a few a few days ago in beirut the people from various churches is related to his grandmother he's not allowed to marry his grandmother midrabbha that's called a shnia medivh but his own brother from the father is allowed to marry his grandmother because levy is not related to ruben's grandmother he has a different mother the question is now that rouven goes bye-bye he goes sideways is she entitled to suba from levy so again grandmother all the way in the top m it says mayan o on top she marries levy you see the red line she marries levy does lady have to give her she doesn't get exuber from ruvain there's a penalty there there's a canas we don't want grandmothers to marry their grandchildren but maybe the oven is what's the question even though my marks was so i didn't say balor richard and alex and valerie showing because we learned and this we had in the games after who again this whole periscope says the hazara on the a little bit we're gonna find different talks that we already learned we learned that xuva is the responsibility of the original husband les law and the original husband she got penalized and she doesn't get exuberant by dilma keeping the evil islam marisha to gina larabana shaini that we also learned if the guy doesn't have any money the second guy has to step in islam maybe in this case she does have which is an interesting shia law allah we learned subhasal nixon balor richard it says it's the first husband's responsibility and if she is asked to marry the first one so we don't we don't do uh niskar we don't say oh she doesn't get like super but let her go to the second guy and getting sued she doesn't get exuberant finished the kumar just talks about the lush in here mccloud is a filo so it seems it seems like there is a case where she would get exuber from the album which one is it suzumar okay yeah it's pasha but we just have to insert words or we we we thought you could figure it out yourself that one says typically a woman gets recruited from the first husband be less let me reshine and if he doesn't have that quinoa machine the second guy has to give that's a typical allah however if him about but if there's a issue going on here it's the grandmother affiliate then she doesn't even get from the by the way just i always had a difficulty with it i'm still not 100 sure what the shot is the the always inherits all of his brothers the question even if there's other brothers one of the things he gains so he has to take that money and give her so what's the difference if he she takes it from the first guy never really got that okay next guru we were talking about this right to schneer this is marrying a grandmother you lose everything you lose your nursing home we said that so embarrassing she comes in with a nursing home into the into the marriage she loses it it's one of the penalties she doesn't have super that's super she says she doesn't ablaze nothing but what about an al maratha kangado who does get exuber and we're going to discuss why why is the manufacturing government get exuba but marrying your grandmother you don't get exuber that's the right a little different so but the question is since she gets exuberated hey dummy what's the question eliminated who say if she's still married to him he's beholden to divorce or why should he get any misogynist why should he get um so they can't even get divorced he ran away right he's the kind of thing about it he's the kind governor it's like a it's a controversy everybody is cracked our kind god all he married almana so he takes the next flight he's out of there he booked and he leaves her there and naguna so she had to go and borrow baklava so does he have to pay it like souvenir no it's part of the soup i mean this looks super awesome design is part of the suva so she does deserve it since she'll stick around if she gets support why would she want to get divorced so we want encourage her to get divorced and force her husband divorce her so we won't give her any support amelie leslaw she doesn't get vo tanya yeshla you're telling me she doesn't get support but it says before she deprives you she does he died and in the exhibit says i'm going to support you after i die and what's all what's the concern we want them to get divorced and we want to force it to get divorced by not giving your support he's already dead there's nothing to worry about so she gets from the zionists it says that she does have he said leslie i'm telling you the surprise it says yeshua says he asked him she has subah meaning even if she brings in a nursing home so embarrassing she gets she gets it every she gets everything back pay rise means nip say below very interesting that if if she comes into the to the marriage with a nursing home but she says it's not so embarrassing it's not metal you don't pay me what i the price that i came into the marriage you just benefit from the pay rise because you're going to redeem me so you get all the payers you get all the benefits but at the end of the day it's mine so he has to pay her all the payrolls all the checks he got all those years he has to pay her messiah noise he has to pay her support after he dies we just establish it means after he dies belies it was funny because i brought that uh the beautiful ipad i'm still it's amazing like a 2500 gift that iron hersh gave me crazy so that's just also the thought that he put in and he worked on it to get the logo so i bring it to the coil so the belzer comes over to me goes i don't stand they gave you a used used cover i said no that's it's part of the stick it's called worn out leather i said you know like your jeans i figured he never saw those jeans like he's like what do you mean he said you know jeans is school today you buy worn out jeans it's like it's in style so he says ah now i have the word bliss i was always wondering my whole life why are they fighting over torn clothing oh you're saying cost more you schmack now okay bliss worn out clothing what are they fighting about the belzer understands it she becomes possible and her children are apostle forever the question they force them to give her a divorce she needs me to restart from him the grandmother ain't look super loy paris let me zoom in for like blood she has nothing we we give her a can ass like you can't even believe it could be that we take away your nursing home the chair with a lot of kosher vacuum but her child is kosher but we forced the divorce um says now we have to understand but why why is it that she deserves exuber and and when you marry a grandmother she doesn't deserve exuma says the gemara of neshu apostle veepsula and rashi says very interesting thing she's possible and we and when you marry a woman like that you have he has to swear that i'll have no benefit from her and any time that he's possible and she's possible perhaps explains rashi why he has to give it super because we want them to fight over here we don't have to we don't have to give her give him a pen her a penalty we have to give him a penalty and we want them to because they fight so much and they keep on saying he keeps on looking at her and said look what you did to me i shouldn't have married you anytime he gets upset he goes i shouldn't have married you now i'm possible i can't do a void so there's no concern he's going to divorce her anyways so there's no reason to give her a penalty ah we just turned listen to this one sponsored by my shoehorn in honor of hillbilly pillow bill zen hillbilly hello billsand sponsor honor of le for the countless lives [Music] has to remember that he'll build that hillbilly hill bill hillel zen oh hill billy okay in honor of the hillbilly it always rhymes he's running out of friends this guy and if you were if you're his friend you're not his friend anymore you're running for this you don't know you're going to be posted up there again on that on base okay oh my gosh so how come the grandmother you marry grandmother she loses everything because at the end of the day nothing happened to their status quo and there's no fighting going on he's not saying oh because of you i'm uh i'm a no good distraught nothing happening we there's no fighting so then she gets a penalty rebbe oyomer halal diverter comes brave and says no a gerund almana we always have this that if it's the right stuff you'll say oh it's in the toilet i'm not going to do it you're saying it's only in the rabbana and it's a little mukta not a big deal from we don't want people marrying their their grandmothers or their grandfather's wives so we added an extra penalty doesn't mean a pig it means another shot so margie lawson when put in the thing so when it comes to grushon and almana that she becomes puzzled the children are apostle then he's the one forcing he's the one trying doing all the convincing that they should get married therefore we the penalties on him he has to pay suva when nothing happens to her then rashi says and you know what look at rashi you have to see this inside you're not going to believe me well it's famous gemara uh tandem but rashford says typically speaking physically speaking a woman wants to get married more than the man wants to get back seth you can tell you you're you're yeah so you should write something says i don't want to get married you want to get married fight so mamela she's the one conv doing the convincing she's the one doing the grandmother's doing all the convincing she loses her subah remember yvonne is not pay hey who who said it so we have like this who said it we had two sheets of zika domination the first shot that we said um he's explaining himself he's just explaining that's because he's the one that did the convincing it goes by the convincing um because she did the convincing whoever convinced the marriage gets gets a penalty some say no is rebbe again rebbe was the one that said that this is different between different tyrants suffering you have to do for dairisa she says i had a question look at the positive for a second seems like a kind it's not going to marry a haluta it's my first one the positive says rashi this possibly right we brought this passage it's only an asmr that's in the rabbana puzzle but it since it's loksuba since she loses out from truma so mama that's why she gets exuber because he's the one doing the convincing mike have been regular bishop and allah the the shot of rebbi that said that divitary needs so rabbis i did a quick chart here we could do this in 10 seconds it's the simplest suggest ever the the gemara is going to bring five things that are identical and it's just going to go from one thing to the other because each thing has a little bit of a problem but what you see in this chart is um zeres to marry mamzares to a master guru soy when you divorce your wife and she marries somebody else and you take her back it's israel it's the rights of the kangaroo to marry somebody it doesn't have absolute suffix this is the right to be with your wife if you have a doubt and you you will master her not to be with somebody and she went in and a valerie sawyer certainly you're not going to be with her so all these five things that i raises so what is rebbe holding the dairy sir the rice rebbe holds she gets exuber check arabic and allah says in all these things you don't get aksuba why because it is farah that she was the one convincing in all these cases she had nothing to lose and mela she did the convincing she does the convincing she loses her exuber so now i'm going to ask you what is the difference between rebbe and richard minalazar in all these five cases according to whatever you get exuber and of course you don't knocks off the first four and the mars left with the last one called the valley let's see inside maya given regular register that's this is the razor mandolin are they right so according to rebbe that director my nomination margiela how he margulie in this case she's convincing him right because she has nothing to lose to marie's role it's great for her to marry israel she her entire life in high school everybody called her mom seriously now she's married a regular guy ah her kids will never become kosher there's a way with reptiarphin there's a way she'll sell off her children as slaves she'll do a deal with the guy tomorrow then and after five minutes he'll release them and there'll be multiple kuna she has nothing to lose marrying israel so we have to penalize her ultimately the evidence doesn't say they have a way out and if they don't have a way out this is problematic for her holy margaret lay so she's not convincing him below movie and there's always a fight so we have to go to the next one hello the difference is between the two if you if you return your wife michinis right so nami there is she gets super because you don't need physic for the right my nomination imagine lilly she's convincing him she has nothing to lose in this case she there's no there's no zoina there's no no rash she goes nothing she doesn't lose anything oh you lose a lot because even it's easter though he rises to remarry your ex-wife after she married somebody else and therefore the future children are mumsarim so she gains nothing she doesn't want to so who did all the convincing you did you should lose the tsuba holy maryland there's no way she wants to get into this marriage aloha papa the next one as we learned yesterday uh where's the apostle i say israel say to mary annabella she's the one convincing him she wants to get married more than him any time it's equal that she has nothing to lose she's the one doing the convincing because arashi that says that a woman wants to get married more than the man okay it's green it's an assay but nevertheless it creates a momser holy margaret immediately there's no way she's convincing that the clientele to marry her she doesn't want mom zarim she marks the suffocate oh you stroll tells his wife don't be with somebody else she doesn't listen so he takes her to the mesa mcdosh before he takes her he's not allowed to be with her because she's a suffolk whether or not she chooses mizana mother with the rights right so it says the rise of males she still gets super corny but if she has everything to lose because she became a zain on the way she doesn't want to be a zainab she can't marry another kind afterwards finally give me and that according to rebbe she gets super according to rip shimolaza she doesn't get exuba have a wonderful you