Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 54 by R’ Eli Stefansky

wow i gotta show you this um here just two pictures i just arrived in chicago uh a little bit of delay and everything and uh so it's one of those days not a lot of sleep but riding on unbelievable her geisham it was just to be there is to believe it bazer hashem the plan is one day in chicago one day here we're gonna have six seven hundred people and one building give you it might take a week or two but we're gonna do it i'm not giving up not giving up on the humble town it was it was insane and then i have to go get a covet test now because i'm flying on sunday and hopefully the copper doesn't catch on that quickly you know chances are after shaking 600 people's hands they say there was this much like this the lowest count that i heard was 650 it went up to 800. so then you have you know the the conservatives and the okay but there's 675 no question i even counted here in this picture you see right over here in this picture there's 40 people standing in the back so i don't know there's at least 100 people standing and then you have the second floor also the mezzanine there's a lot of people and some people coming they go out hashem was tremendous um no emails i have emails but they're on my phone which we're using for zoom people said what a tremendous and this and that maybe we'll get to some of them uh the kyle spanzer it's arif chavez i really appreciate the dollar came out i know it's late and uh people have things to do and there's a lot of people on zumba hashem i said linda was my mother roswell whose yard side it is this week get that mafta ready for me marty little musaff once a year music so the sponsor she do or anonymous for shidduchim by the lack of families like with new jersey because torah is the best segulo para sakhali nissan is sponsored by yoy who's there last night jerome from his father-in-law mother-in-law's sister that's what he told me to say i hope this is he's texting me he doesn't get the hint uh same guy told him not to call when he starts here calls i text he thinks i'm going to stop sharing now middle and read his text okay please stop texting me please stop calling we're in the middle of a share it's arab shabbat i gotta get a i didn't tell you on the phone but i need to get a kobe test and do some other things impact anatomy says hashem as a school for continued health and bra so rebellio didn't do a get over here in new york no i didn't didn't do many shout outs and do get over here didn't do emails a lot of other things going on a different time all right so i do need to warn the islam once in a while i do a warning uh parental guidance sheer it's one of the famous daphne and shas we we are we do pride ourselves we have a lot a lot of young children that watch this year so every parent is on their own but i do need to throw that out there at the same time i will be trying to use language that you might have to use a little bit of your head to understand what i'm saying i might not use i'm of the opinion not of the pain i prefer to use a little bit more subtle language most magazines don't but because of the amount of children that we have and things like that so i'll try i'll do my best but anyway it says the gemara tony riv so we learned in the mission that yibum works whether it's and then the mission says even if one of them is or one of them is amazing we're not holding there if both of them was a complete inis says the gemara i want to understand the situation how do you force somebody into relations with [Music] there's no such thing when it comes to relations a person cannot claim a male can't claim that they have nothing to do with it there's a physical change on his body that occurs only if he has the right mindset so nobody can force that mindset you can't put a gun to the guy's head lefisha ain't it must have happened with his intent so how did you say that he's a highness why is it a highness if a person put a gun to himself doesn't mean that his body is ready says his body was ready when he was sleeping and he wasn't aware of what was going on she forced himself let's say but that's also not considered a good boom yoshin like it's interesting because we said yibum works in almost every situation in the shigenus one thing you have to have is a head you have to have a brain you have to know what you're doing when you're sleeping you don't know what you're doing that's rashes you lost your brain you know you're like a cotton you don't know you don't have das taisu says maybe we can understand it a little bit better you don't have kavanaugh you can understand a little differently the point is that when a person is sleeping he can't say that he took action and he was when he making no idea where he was and what happened says this is one of the most famous fortunately unfortunately in all of sha's the person fell off the roof and he was making the mitzvah vibhum obviously it might be very difficult to actually happen but like many cases in yamada we'll see later on cases that are nothing to do with this case but just in general the idea of here the last thing we might learn today if we get if we're lucky we can get there a guy married five women and uh each one was a sister to the other one but one was through the father to the obviously this never happened but we're learning allah the idea the concept guy his body was ready let's say he was he was going to be with his wife and he fell off the roof whatever that means because don't don't forget how our also works mick tass it doesn't have to be a whole okay fight bomb arab if this actually happened so typically we have nezik tyrique chevas boishas does it sorry push of his voices five things so we're going to remove the last thing by just in other words if you cause damage to somebody you have to pay for the pain for the the the monetary laws the the lost wages that sort of thing medical bills and for embarrassment so embarrassment the margin explained doesn't apply over here because you have to have kavanagh embarrass somebody and there's no cavani he fell off the roof he's worried about his own life now he obviously didn't try to embarrass somebody on this unbelievable case so once again you seem a foolish that if a person is sleeping or you fell off the roof not sleeping nit guy you fell off the roof you don't have to die you didn't have to die somewhere time out i did i skipped yoshino economy if he's sleeping no no question but over here he was aware he was conscious just he didn't want to take action the action happened by itself because he fell off the roof um but it doesn't work rabbit says it doesn't work you're not even higher for bushes because you didn't have cabanas if you didn't have kavanaugh it doesn't work by you by obama so then once again what does it mean that somebody forced a person to do evil so what happened was he had kavanaugh for the act with kafasai okay let's listen to nissan against he wants me to listen hold on let's do this live he's probably going to yell at me let's why not he wants to talk him i i have a lot of questions like them he he grew the shield like crazy he's the one in charge of all the marketing and everything what we said this year he asked me ten times what time this year is at three o'clock decided three third i have no idea why besides 3 30 here is 4 30 in new york it's like almost shabbos and this is an hour and a half shirt today no i'm just kidding okay let's go zucker you scratch the sound you have any more messages we'll play them all no problem oh so what happened was his again so we're talking about his body's ready he was kavanagh for another woman for his own wife without seems like she she grabbed him okay so that explains one case that's if one person was a highness the the man was a anus because the obama she's she was madison let's call it because he was ready and she was modest but how in the world you have two people that are awesome somebody has to take action somebody has to be the initiator the aggressive person let's call but both of them how are both the minors says you are very simple okay so that takes care of problem number one how is he ready he was ready because he was he wanted to be with his wife and then the non-jew took took action and put them both together and that's how you have the two people are uh that this idea of ara works that even the beginning of the act is also considered a full act so the tire is telling you that it's a greater mitzvah to perform meebo than jalito khalid is just a blessed bravery nobody wants to do it so you do but it's much better obviously in the torah explains why loki obviously goes through you another shot this is what we learned from you so i learned from you [Music] you just used up this pause it came you can't cheat you can't do tootly move them from one word says um you're right the first one how do you know the mitzvah from the other part of the puzzle that we're very familiar with if the man doesn't want to perform ebon what does he do khalitza meaning that it's only the second option the first option is evil so you see that eboom is more important so then why do i have the positive ability this is the regular way of doing eboom of of doing bio that's kedarka well teaches us a big that even though shalok and erica the unnatural way which you can never have children that way so so you're not really you're nevertheless you kind of it works bob and cassava so the word the ebay as you can see maybe in the green over here yeah that yi bem it's it's a combination of the word there's a hey at the end and now we're going to learn something else that you can do about kharkov but the the basement teaches us that there's nothing that acquires the sivama besides actual e-bomb you can't do mimer you can't do star doesn't work as we discussed many many times it has some sort of effect but it doesn't acquire as a wife even if she's not willing it works unless we had a few cases with the mukushin and according to taisis any good excuse she's out of it okay another shot been showing you maybe amazing i picked a little kadarka but you already used up the word for natural evil like i explained in order to create a name for your brother it has to be something that's rowing to to give birth so it has to be kadarka so i don't need a special posse to tell me that you don't have to have the right intent it's being shy amazing brain i don't know if you heard the tour evan i said yesterday to heaven says certain mitzvahs you don't have to have intent if that's the only way to do the mitzvah and this this object talking about the obama as an object but like a carbon pesach like there's no other woman in the world that you could be making so when that woman says that through heaven you don't need havana yoshin if a person is sleeping like honeybee not specifically her but an act so much so so let me ask you a crazy crazy wild question and i'm not being meshuga here i'm taking this from the gemara what if a person has a unfortunate kavanaugh to be with an animal is that a cavanaugh is that enough carvana to be kind of this ivama and saying oh you have kavanaugh for beer you say yeah what do you say yeah darling says yeah darling was right maybe they peaked that he could be sleeping and he's also yeah you'd say in other words he didn't have cavanaugh we don't care about her consciousness okay about his he has to be awake but this is a checkmate ben er who being ocean who you can't try to change the and the uh grammar it's not gonna work because it says him and her sleeping and awake so that's it it says before that even if he is sleeping it works the ebon works that we're talking about a guy that dozed off so in other words he's not asleep where he doesn't have kavan at all and that we're saying it doesn't work but he's not awake where he has kavanagh she's he's in the in between stage whatever that means to me every time i learn this gemara i don't think i said this in sheer maybe i did but it it the the mashable came to me again so i have to say it it reminds me when i was a child on a sleepover at my friend's house and we used to schmooze to like you know we thought it's like 12 in the morning but it was like probably 8 30 at night and and your eyes are like closing and your friend is still talking to you and also you find yourself saying things that don't even make sense you don't say that's the stage that's awake and not awake sleeping but not sleeping it's like you know what i'm talking about not hypnotized just you think you're awake and you start saying you know you just you're saying stuff you're not there you're hey you're an anesthesiologist you know what i'm talking about is there such a stage what is it called the predominant is delta weight it's a predominant delta way product predominant delta wave stage two says dr martin delbert reviews means he's awake so he's asleep but not asleep he's awake but not awake he's going to correlate vani like they call out him and he answers he doesn't know like where the keys to the car i have no idea what they say did you put the keys on the shelf but if you ask him he's in a different world so that is the stage that he is kinda but if he's completely slight asleep he's not cutting out the ibamugufa omarabanovamenagagnitka if a person fell off the roof and it's me vampire would be vimtellicano however it doesn't work in yeebum damages what does that mean so damages always works with how you sell a slave in the market so if you have absula she's worth more to your slave you have let's say absula she's worth more to your slave if you want to give your slave a wife you'd prefer this it's worth that i know whatever it is there's a certain value to absolute and that's what you have to pay then you have tsar that's pain the pain that a person has you have to pay for that the chavez also i could i could refer defer to dr dauber you probably testified a lot about pain and stuff like that no so how does it work in american law very subjective but there is a concept you pay always a payment for pain there's always a payment for pain so i mean a person says he's one to ten he's nine and he has it for a year and he convinces a jury and he's going to get more money than if he says it's a seven but it's convinced the jury that he's a nine i i believe in the united kingdom yeah that it's a fixed value which is not fear to the person suffering because not everybody says the same way but just uh out of curiosity what's the most you've ever seen somebody receive for pain could it be in the millions for pain or it's a combination of yes families have received money for pain because of the suffering but literally millions millions millions of dollars in pain wow this is chicago i hear okay chicago is different okay zogding amara benezik bizarre bescheves the the medical bills report chavez i think is sitting around the loss of wages and repo is refura which would be to embarrass somebody wow unbelievable i just had an argument with somebody somebody called me to ask me mahila for embarrassing me in public so i said the new whisper shots he said you embarrassed me first you said something that people inferred from that i said but i didn't have i didn't think i would embarrass you in a moment i'm thinking about right now today not joking from in the airport this gemara unbelievable voicious i'm just saying to that person boys it says write to me you have to have kavanagh to embarrass somebody i'm not saying that that person wasn't embarrassed it could be uh i probably do have to ask because that we see from other guimars whoever a puppet's lip was split and written thought he's laughing at him and he killed them because but is who raf kahana says this bachelor what's your name y'all can impose nerfs how old are you thirteen and you know this gemara of god where is it one of the buffers you shortcut [Music] had to run away okay you see how i had a memory like you zogging tomorrow yeah oh my robert is kevin uh actually i'm fine as i'm saying in terms of payment you have to ask me if you embarrass somebody by mistake you had no idea but you embarrassed that person it seems from the goomba you always have to ask even on a mistake on your part but payment is when you intend to embarrass you walk over the guy you smack him in public in the face and you tended to do it then you have to pay for boo boo omarov it's a person had intent to have a relation with the wall so that's not a relation that's not kavanaugh for bias and then he happened to do it with his obama like because that's not the right kavanagh however this is what you were all saying he had kavanaugh for an improper relation but nevertheless it was a relation he had intend to have some sort of bia doesn't matter what and that's enough did i say before guffa hold on so it was a mistake i think we got to take it back um yeah i think i explained it on immediately before as honey no aura nothing to do the whole is talking about just uh how do you know the idea of being miserably being amazed by evil okay so here goes this just ignore all all preparations on plane don't count mine you have to understand you know i got home to the hotel at two o'clock after not eating the entire literally fasted the whole day shaking all these people's hands at some point i was squashed like a sardine they were coming from all directions i got to the hotel went to sleep after three o'clock i was already in a car to the airport at seven seven something 7 30. so when do you prepare after the whole day yesterday preparing for that day share what do you prepare okay okay laguardia somewhere on a plane with i don't do well on planes because the oxygen level like knocks me out i don't i mean i i let's call it the beginning of it is enough to be counted as the whole myself and your coinage obama shinamar so kumar is gonna bring three sukim let's see if i can do this from here yeah okay we're going to get a positive from neither a positive and a positive so it says like this where do we see this idea even the word is interesting the word is taken from the torah here shannen means so it's useless even with a mixtape just say okay it says if i need it so it applies everywhere malinitos a man who's with anida becomes tommy just like anita he becomes tommy seven days and has the same allah as her the whole thing so she has power to give over that tuma therefore even just touching uh it makes you [Music] you're over it's a very high level of of of of isr of thomas okay so going to the next possible so i just put over here if you're looking at the chart chart2 under the word nida it says metamo so i'm just in one word want to capture what is need though different than everything else because each one of the three sugar that we're going to bring has something that is different and maybe perhaps you can't learn from it because it has a special thing to it and then the gemara is going to do one of the famous sadashavas take two out of the three and say okay you're right this one is this special thing this one is this special thing what's the common denominator of the two they answer arias just a mixtape mma law so too eboom i'm going to try from nida finally we're going to go needle okay that's the suggest it's a lee motsugya it's a it's a classic once you know one you know them all says no we're going to learn from the red guy but it says she's like a neither says give more vacations she's anita literally anita ella kenny though the turtle is saying she's liking it that we know from neither that the hero works ah fish and i'm going to learn everything else from israel says anymore but i can learn everything else from israel is a special thing malaysia's actually can be elderly rabbis a person you can get married and do and get married to a million women if you want you know another possum your aunt your father's sister and your mother's sister ants so it says over there is is through marriage now it's something that comes on its own you didn't ask her over here michigan is the classic don't get nervous it's very simple stuff if you look at each one individually look at the green one it has a special homura look at this one so we have to do a common denominator [Music] no merit i see sometimes we learn even from three but now two is enough which two do you want to pick says the gemara and of course the gemara is not going to go directly to the right one because no seriously it doesn't flow well you can't go to the one the right answer right away because then you don't have i need to eliminate the gemara who doesn't ask questions like whoever wants to teach you how to eliminate the problems so it's in a question answer uh format but let's go to the the one that is not going to work we're going to knock out all the ones that don't work and the final one is going to be the one that works okay so i have a slide for that did i just go down are there arrows there now okay so i'm learning from the red and blue has ah and both of them we know the idea of hara that the beginning of bo is enough to be kinder to be us to whatever so i'll tell you but the two of them together also have a problem both of these and are both also because of a relationship what about somebody else another issue that's not because of a relationship you can't learn from your illiteracy neither for instance i'm just throwing it neither is not because of a relationship she has a issue she has a tomo okay so now we're going to go to the next one how about this one the green and the blue two of them together will teach us let's say that also says we're going to go to here the green and the red need the initial i think more explains what's your question the there are no questions on this there's nothing special about these two together there's no common denominator to say that they're different than everybody else but i do have a question in them now we're going to see in a second that the doesn't like the lushen so much the question is a good one but not in its wording right now anita when the one that put the israel on it is still around there's no head there h when the husband is around there's no hat if her husband divorces her she becomes mother even though the husband is still alive let's fix your question a little bit yes or what afterwards there is a hat there if the damn let's talk about anita or dom dom goes away she's still awesome for how long seven days embarrassing yesterday because there's a lot of people in the hall and i said this in honor of joe krause and family and a ton of people started laughing and i realized they never went to the share before they have no idea they're all new guys and anonymously the one who made her ask her who's that the husband he gives her a get and his mata ella mirabi so this is it this final let's remember this ruby i know because it's called rebyno um this is a famous possuck that all that i rise are in one so they all have a hackish you learn a hackish now i want you to think about this for a second we learn from neither that what ma nida bahara afko baro just like nida could is or just the beginning is the answer you don't need a full bia i've called by raw so what did i gain i asked you a question you told me before you have it satishava and i said neither is different because she's and now you're telling me i'm learning it from a heck is from neither so i'll say malinita she came to thomas baillow what did you gain by going to hackish the answer is very simple you can't answer you can't ask any questions on a hackish a heck it's just salad heckish is not logic a hackish is this is next to this and they share the same allah when you tell me logic you tell me as we're learning from needha and this one they they seem the same so they should all have the same the they share a common thread and therefore all are no they don't share the common thread because this one is powerful this one is this is what once you go in logic i'll break up your logic i'll throw out something that that ruins your logic when it comes to hackish hooks there is nothing you could break you can't ask any questions your right needle is very different than everything else if you're right it doesn't matter if you're wrong it doesn't matter the bottom line is you can't ask any questions it's a hackish okay some of these things there's shove it has to be muffled enough to ask questions but same idea oh so what are you telling me that you're learning from the green one so if so red and blue is completely extra the fact that talks about our raw in them we need to understand why says the gemara look at the rav now remember and how do you see the concept of you in the torah menin it's a foreign i don't need a remiss i don't need a hint how do you know that if the husband divorces her she's still awesome hi savari it's logic since the tour says she's permitted after her husband dies telling me basically tara says you only become more to this woman if her husband dies without children meaning before that she's also mitzvah perhaps [Music] yeah how do you know maybe what the toy is trying to tell me is that if dozens without children is a special minster called but if the husband is still alive it's not a mitzvah but if you feel like marrying you could don't ask me don't bring me right from the fact that terror says you should be miyabimer if he dies without children that's to tell me that it's a special mitzvah not because to tell me that if he's still alive at saucers but it's only an assay on my quran therefore i need a special pasok to tell so that's why i need the puzzle tell me that there's a chorus ella the red one what about the blue one why does it talk about it there if i'm learning again question if i learn yeeba man all i rise that the concept of the ra works and how do i know it i know it from nida then why does atari say it by akai says [Music] how about mishka of zakhar just one moment is that also bizarre what do you mean of course the target compares it to being with a woman so whatever by when we said hara is kaina so one moment is asir what's that one moment also also since we don't need it again these are this is so the famous concept in joshua is that anytime you have a lemur in a parsec that we don't use here if it's extra we're going to take the limo and use it somewhere else we don't need it that's the vacation with the ryana that ribonuceti all arise are the same and they all are kaina or asur bahara so therefore i don't need to buy a hussein but i lost my place and therefore is going to teach us that by behavior also same thing like by humans hurrah is enough to be over asked a simple question what's a person that's with an animal has relations with animal he's high of the highest degree mises is so then why did the toyota put his issue in a different category called crisis he's a higher level should be shouldn't shouldn't the tire hint to it you don't want to say that so say by something that's similar to like with the sister whatever it is means is it makes more sense to be in the same category says gemara i did the cooler crawl the joshua see [Music] here since the whole entire puzzle so we have two psukamir on this chart one is in parishioner's deduction by the way i mentioned last night many many of the sukim that we're going to be learning are from this week's powershell this week's trials and next week's paris show it's all afraid the bunch of the open now so we go back to show listen to chris atari carefully and you'll the gemara will pop up this is energy trail this week it's too late i can't warn them it's already shabbos about your aunt who happens to be your father sister and then it says in paris or it should say a little bit before that's this week's pirates i just because here because this was five minutes before share it also says the point is that all the the tsukuma extra okay so what do you see once a positive is completely extra i could learn things from it so what am i learning either the coolest i'm going to talk about also behemoth my draw show what i'm learning from everything what am i learning from this process a it doesn't matter if everest whether she's related through the father or through the mother being maybe the ant is only an ant that comes from the father's side from a paternal ant not a maternal vedin your sister you're not going to be with a sister even though she's only from the mother you share a mother but not a father afkam being a baby uncle could be with a niece but uh a nephew cannot be with his aunt mother so so you see by uh by an end it's only a paternal not a maternal so medication has to be it could also be from a mother says well you have you have an option you can learn from a sister or from an aunt which one is more similar dunami is from the father says so that's we're just getting back to this possibility we said it's completely extra that's on the screen that's what we learned from everest also supposed to be on the screen but not on the screen babe and i have baby name the top one is the one puzzle but the second one um everybody knows for a fact well not all the time but what's more certain that this child is from this woman or this child is from this man woman i mean i think i saw a crazy story that they uh these two kids got uh switched up at birth in ukraine it was like some one of those places and uh one went to the wealthy family and the one that was supposed to be in the wealthy family went to the the and he had a terrible life and when he discovered it 20 years later he went to his mother and she took him back but the wealthy kid didn't want to go to his real mother this is a sad situation my sister but they they asked for abundance of nations i think i mentioned this before there's a reality i think it was really incinerations they asked a question they said who do you know for certain is your parent your mother your father your mother father we don't know so why do you have a key of kiwidab aim if your father asks you for a cup of water and your mother does the here is for the father first he's a suffix she's a father go to the father give the cup of water to the mother no what do you say if i said it before what's the answer that's what i'm saying about your father so he said whoever this illegal was i think it was irobians and agents that it's in the mother's covenant interest to say that we know for a fact who the father is and give him the cup first that you want to be happy with a cup of water but at the same time say oh she was mizano with somebody else that's not very good for her she'd rather get the cup of water second and say my husband this is the guy this is the father of this child and give him the cup of water that's what this kid said almost immediately like like this posner kid kevaldik okay uh but because she came back dice if it comes from her mother we know for a fact this is hers we don't know who the real father is before we said that our aunt is from a father but from her mother how do we know this if a person sells himself as a slave to non-jew so the family has an obligation to redeem him malala on who's the family mean i have a lemon name it's the the father's family comes first they they have to redeem i've come and i believe your name so the day the day the ant is for coming we'll see you here at 10 30. 10 30 basis hashem and if nassau gets his way 11 30. you