Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 43 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning rap boys massimo seriously we're in chicago not him on the line big audience here in the hot solo headquarters i still have to see i might do two shoe room one cheer but i most likely will be in mandala it just it takes like close to an hour to get here close an hour to get back so i think for certain we'll just stay in one line unfortunately but we'll keep everybody updated here you have shlamy goldman in funplex new jersey this was an unposed picture says this royal goldstein who took the picture beautiful david posner pasner my brother-in-law rabdov klein of toronto just started your daf when he tore his achilles almost two months ago he said that he has brought tremendous meaning to his days in bed he's plowing plowing three bombs couldn't walk for weeks and it's now staging here he's in toronto airport traveling to atlanta for pesos on a massive boot learning to dive with you oops where's the picture somewhere else here it is here's the picture govaldic knee rover okay amisha bressler is that isn't this also bressler what what did it say in that box yeah some other bressler so let me show you once we're talking about bressler just got a a gift a halamoid gift i'll read this it says he called us out so we delivered ben bressler so somebody else during the introduction to daf 16 at the five minute mark of hagiga you showed the picture of our awesome custom-made knives we commissioned for our serum ahmad cotton by the way the stakes were amazing a few weeks a few days later during that at 13 21 you looked straight into the camera when talking about mdy merch explained hill of meisser mdy emerge and said if you make a knife i get a knife we heard you loud and clear they come in sense before so enjoy with the theme these are playable and ready to use no that means he made 40 no he made 40 knives look at this her boy's site's unbelievable we have tremendous gratitude for all you do to keep us dafting thank you brachas to boston listen if i really wanted i would ask for other stuff i'd say my wife needs a new diamond necklace it's a knives but look at these knives these are not stump what is this called what do you say it's called who's who explains damascus blade they take the metal and they fold it over many many times and in here is engraved guy with delio a one knife and then mdy over here i don't think darling could see but it's there and then different knives say different things one says nachman one says gary and one says amaritz so you sh i appreciate the miser keep the meister coming when it comes to merch here we go um not much of an email writer he says i'm the head and back type of guy i wanted to speak about that yesterday we're talking about boucha i decided to speak about something that's relevant in the community about bhusha uh with maklas with jenna machala certain communities they they're embarrassed to go to doctors and unfortunately could cause death in our time so i spoke about that but we also had the the idea of boucha when i called out people i said people are embarrassed to come to the live shoe room to come to the summit and then when i i said this once before a get-together in bar park where 300 people got together and maybe three four people came over and said i'm here only because you you called me out i'm one of those guys that's embarrassed okay so i'm saying and the guy told me today also that he's more of a bison he's in the height and the back kind of guy please come forward because it's mchazek other people they see you coming the more people more ever it brings more people out you hear this rabbi goldman thank you okay but nobody knows what you look like because you're behind that mask over there where am i okay um how are you bringing me in the family says joy making part of that for their lives i want to bring some joy as well he's behind six days straight i hurt my ankle couldn't learn early in the am getting ready so he said well i did your vomit says khazar i don't really have to catch up pace are coming all these excuses etc finally he says he started catching up then he noticed the giving from the alps i thought hmm that's weird i'm still sure i'll get home before peso there's this roll i even asked my wife she said she wants to go to sheer i can't i'm sorry to shaka uh yeah to inaudible then he noticed that i'm in chicago not israel well that is again weird but i guess you could still fly back in time second death i'm through that by watching every peso share became pretty clear at this point you won't be in israel for pesach so basically what he's saying is that there's another good reason why to skip ahead and catch up later because if not he would have taken woken up his son really early in the morning to go on halamite mdy trip to see the sheer life akhamai only for a son to be very discouraged when he showed up there and i'm not there i'm in chicago so because he's with the daf he was able to save himself that thing some kids said he didn't want to look silly uh italian i don't know what it says here okay i forgot his name but oh amisha bresla great and here we are from holland the shami goldberg running to do the duff right after the octave i think he needs a pair of ndy socks he says okay here let's see if we could blow that up nope next okay the coilo for the month is anonymous in schools of hillbin sardino rivka bastego they should be there by the bressler austin rosenberg shulman and tobias families i wonder if those are any of the wrestlers that we spoke about today shiva ravi so mayor david bernier seems to be doing great he's even interviewing for the magazine so this thing is working by the lack of families like new jersey because torah is the best gula dish nissan is sponsored by lee lee in continuation and not mr sheer and the second initiative from everybody else and here we are unbelievable still the numbers of the people watching this year in the middle of ivanhoe's is to me was it's very i don't know heartwarming it's it's it's amazing to me we were expecting a huge huge drop off in the involvements in bar hashem the numbers are very very strong and if we can make it through vomits we could do the whole shasta base of hashem says again we just learned the famous if you have an anonymous mission there's a mission that doesn't say a name to it is like that mishnow even well if it's a machike is dennisdam that looks like stop so wants to see if that actually holds true to every single mishna so mario says like this we're going to go on a little bit of a tangent simple simple stuff it's a long mishna like taharis but the point is and even if you space out and you don't get any of it which is very very simple there's no reason why you shouldn't the point is that is not like this mishna what's going on i thought it's established an establishment that allah should be like this okay what is this mishna but not matrix if you look on the screen this is the best i was able to get there's a picture of it in the art scroll i think i yeah i do have that picture later coming up later on it's two rows of metal spikes that you comb the the piston now we'll see soon you know the first row does a little bit more of the job the second one just picks up the pieces it's teeth spikes the metal pieces were removed usually the handle is made out of wood in this case it's a 3d printed plastic okay any times it comes to entire we know the famous if it's something that it's usable it's a cli then it's if it doesn't have a purpose it's nothing it has one tooth what are you gonna what are you gonna comb with one tooth not tommy it loses even if it was tommy the tummy dissipates and goes away the achas tahirah if you have one tooth by itself and as much from the gemara later you have to think to yourself well i want this one tooth if you don't think it doesn't do anything just one tooth broken off a comb is not tummy but since you want to do something with the gemara will describe different things you could do with it you could i don't know use it as toothpick pull something pluck something make something more taut so maybe i should move this i see that it's cut off maybe that's the problem here oh no okay whatever i don't need to see myself if you have a comb for wool of so let's go to the next one this should summer so he explains over here i just threw in a ruler because based on what is explanation it's a quarter of an ammo an ammo we think is about two feet according to the rhinem so a quarter of that is six inches so this this thing it doesn't make a difference to us we'll just give a scale to it this is about six inches wide it has a couple of rows of teeth similar to what we have today like a brush so that is if you're missing like in this picture every other one is missing it's tar it doesn't it doesn't perform its its job it needs more teeth right so far very simple and it's going to remain like this again if it doesn't have enough teeth to perform its malacha it's not a clean anymore if it's not a clear anymore it's star loses its stoma here here you have three in one place however this is not good we'll see in a second if you have three you don't have any teeth just three in one place tommy i just brought a picture of a typical comb in our days as you can see the outer two teeth are very wide wider than the inner ones and that's how it was in those days so let's take a picture here going back to that the outer one was a little thicker that doesn't count as the three you have to have three inner ones there was a there's a corny joke but it fits right into the sugar so say it why not there was a very very stingy guy who tells his friend you know you're not going to believe it i bought a kong today he says you bought a comb today i can't believe it what happened he says uh one of the teeth broke he says if one of the teeth brokes he'd buy a comb that doesn't doesn't make any sense he says yeah it was the last two-third i only had one tooth and this is mamish this right over here he has a comb in the time of the gemara he held onto such combs it only has one tooth three teeth three teeth it's tomato one tooth does not tommy at all says the gemara like this top i know it's a little schwarz it's a photo of a photo if he took two teeth and he put them together made it like a tweezer tomatoes then he has a clay even ajas one tooth biscuit and he uses it to clean out the candle or lumitua to make some sort of leather taut whatever he's doing with it he has a use it's mayo it's just like a needle a little piece of metal called a needle is torme if it has a use okay so we went through the whole mesh now everything is great the point is of this whole sugya is that we have a mishna that allah is not like the mission and there's no name in the mishnah what is that called estab mishna an anonymous mishna and allah is not like the mishnah what do we do sigmaria attempts to show that the mishnah is a mishna mashup there's a big mistake in the mission and therefore it's not a typical mission and don't bring it right from this mishna but the end i'll just tell you the end of the sugiyo it's not just ten lines it's very very simple then we're going to say you know what it's not an anonymous mission there's actually a name associated with this mission and because it has a name that's why that is not like this mishna says my time um i'll tell you why you're racially safe you have akasha it says in the race if it's every other one like this one over here tarp harness diabetes time if if their two teeth next to each other in this picture would be tommy would be a clea only because it's every other tooth is in the comb every two every other tooth is missing every other tooth is there that's why it's not a clean but if you have two teeth together it seems like it would be a clean then what do we do 100 times then it says it seems like only if there's three together it's tommy we have a contradiction between the race and the sever on the one end it seems like two is tommy another and not a good casual i'll tell you why this is different duration the safer so in some cases two is tommy in some cases two teeth are tar why dilmaha the inner teeth are different than the outer teeth the outer teeth do most of the malacha so this is the picture it's just a blow up of what you have in the art scroll and have your shoes to copy from the art scroll here you see the outer row and the inner row you can see where the handle is and the angle of the comb does the outer row the one that hits the piston first semi whatever you're doing that does most of the work the outer row does most of the work so it needs more teeth it needs the three teeth together the inner row is just there to pick up the pieces the strands that are left over so even if you have two teeth that's enough to make atomic so i'll tell you what the problem with the mishna is that's not a problem you ask me a contradiction no sometimes two teeth is tommy something's true to the star if you grab one tooth by itself pull it out it's tommy valve gavel even though you didn't say that it's for any particular malacha it says one has to be there for a candle or to make a piece of leather taut which one is it esquino in skin light if you didn't put it in like some piece of wood you you weren't me you want me yeah yeah you have to like not just hold like a needle but it has to be part of a clea it has to have a handle of some sort then it's tommy mashma without that it's not tommy so that's the contradiction on the one hand you don't have to mistaken it the other side is smash ma you have to so which one is it says my question again not one has a handle and one doesn't if it has a handle then you don't have to you don't have to be if you don't have to think in your mind oh i'm making this so let's let's do the cash again on the one hand it seems like you don't have to be this is a klee a little piece of metal it's tummy whether you have it or not the other hand you don't have to you do have to be my covenant so which one is it this is a bio well if it has a little bit of a piece of wood they can hold it a little bit not a whole handle but a little piece of wood left over that's enough to make atomic huh without any kind of handle then islamic i'll tell you another shot with katniss if it's a very very thin needle whatever tooth then it's not a cabal tumor but if it has some thickness to it i can do something with it and finally gemara says that gives up not because the mishnah is a problematic mishna there's no problem with the mishnah it's a beautiful mishnah meaning they're sticklers they call them sticklers to halacha to wording you know those people every word and then in the so they have a messiah that in this mishnah we have to finish it off the very rebel shemin so it's not an anonymous mission the reason why we don't pass it like this mishna because it's a yakid his name is rip shimon and the raven argue on him that's why it's not like the mishnah so we don't have a contradiction to this like establishment that is like i you found the mishnah that allah is not like it it's not islam every star mission in s you're permitted to get engaged within the third month over here we have to based on the gemara later doesn't mean any time within the three months again we had a whole sega for a number of days we're talking about this that after a person gets divorced the woman gets divorced or her husband dies she must wait for three months basically the idea is one of the ideas is to make sure that we know who the father is practical different things you have to wait three months comes by robin and he says you can get engaged you're not getting married but you get engaged in the the third month i'm telling you this is how he passed in this people that got engaged in the third month they didn't wait a full 90 days they waited 80 days what you do is sixteen days let's say fifteen days of the first month verube and another 15 days in the third month them so shalom the kid so you have a total of 61 days basically and that's enough so instead of 90 he's down to 61 days amir argues and a member says no you have to wait more than 61 days but you don't have to wait 90 days you can wait 89 days i may masharily rsvm teach him you could do it mix his name 89 and a half days is good enough oh my layer of ashland how could you say that you could get engaged and that day but i'm you have to wait three full months in addition to the day that her husband died in addition to the day she got engaged 92 days 91 whatever it is but it's not 89. the boy's side i was thinking when i was reading this gemara that i think a lot of times we're guilty a little bit of this we do something and then we we look for the shortcut we're talking about a person that waited for 89 days so it's human nature said look i waited already 89 days i think gusbo who cares about the last day no i'm already there yeah ready we're going to see that last day is very very important the more makes a whole fuss about it i don't know what it is whether a person waits five hours for flake shakes and then he sees that ice cream and no i really afford to have it a lot of times you take that shortcut and we have to remark if talaga says x we do x until the whatever it is to the last moment says this they have to wait 90 full days it's talking about that famous case that we discussed woman gives loses her husband and she's nursing so now she can't get married for 24 months until the baby is weaned off the milk because the new husband will ruin the milk necklace in addition to the day that he's born the husband is about 24 months and two days now very very interesting because remember when i asked the question and everybody is very sure and they were right well let's say you have ultrasound you know the woman is not pregnant at all you have to wait three months and everybody said yeah you have to wait three months and the gemara in fact said eliana becomes and says she's not pregnant we don't listen to them you have to wait three months however in this case seems to be a little different the 24 months that we wait is is different the pisgre chuva has a shy law whether in our day since women typically do not nurse their children for 24 months yes once in a blue moon you see a case like that but people you know talk about it and they make fun it's not a common thing do you have to wait an hour days 24 months and it's different than that case of ileanavi now this rabbi sai i want you to think about this child that i saw nahrena the there's a famous gemara of a guy that lost his wife and he died in davond and he was able to nurse his baby and they they we said that even scientifically there's there's a case like that in our days so what do you guys think there's a deen in the shiny mirror in him do you have to wait 24 months does this husband have to wait 24 months in order to get married valet plug so what uh and a tana that can't get pregnant we said like plug in aktana she has to wait three months no anybody what you don't have anything to say i made it up i made it up with the shiloh it's time okay fine he almost got me there completely and i i was able to get out of it you almost caught me there okay what um where are we okay so we finished that novel no no no i mean okay i don't want to say this in the room but if you have to like dive in by skier yeah you know it's that's the cutoff besides if you have cabela's and minham different way but whatever okay i don't want to go there that's controversial but you can't cut corners in locker and here this guy tried to cut a corner he tried to get married beyond teaching he didn't wait a full 90 days he waited almost 19 89 and a half you know what happened to him bob said they arrived rather took bleach and poured it all over the food of the kasana ruined it he told him a lesson he said you can't you can't mess around you have to wait 90 days not 89 now says so when it comes to a woman who's pregnant or and in nursing she has to wait 24 months and two days in order to get married and the three months that a woman waits to get married include you have to add to that the day that her husband died and the day of eriksen so you can't cut corners and do 89 you have to wait 90 plus says the mission of khuts minha al-mana rabiyasi argues and rebels he says we're going to see exactly where vsc holds where basically holds we'll see that it basically argues with the idea that you have to wait three months but an almana a widow just lost her husband she has to wait 30 days why because she's a mana she just lost her husband she's an available she can't get married during her veils a little bit so mexican if during a time that you're not going to wash your clothing you're allowed to get engaged meaning during the nine days you're not gonna wash your clothes but you're allowed to get engaged why are you allowed to get engaged so this really threw me a little bit for a loop i'm still not a hundred percent happy with this but rashi says that there's no simcha in irisen now the best i can understand that maybe is there arisen is always one everything they did is one step away from what we're doing what we call an engagement they called shidduchim what we call errorson they call basically their aeroson is our kidusan their aerosols they gave a ring at the irishman but so they knew who they're getting married to they had a holochaim and everything about the shidduchim so they have this middle step called eryson they give a ring what we do is the whole haas and everything but we give a ring but that ring does nothing for them then he goes away for a year it's not his wife so what happened so to know who your wife is and this is fake as he's all excited that happened by the shidduchim but then soon he takes her home what happened but harrison it's not a symbol says rash it's not a simple whatever that means so in may law you're allowed to get engaged during the nine days [Music] a very vital thing it's like also it's something that you don't have to be crazy for so a guy they're dating they want to get engaged so another guy's going to step in no so for that you're allowed to get engaged in fish above so that if you come to seoul and there's a piece of cake there before davening you should be allowed if at a time that you're not allowed to wash your clothing you're allowed to get engaged during the 30 days of a veilos not the first seven of shiva but during this disclosure to wash your clothing and addiction so certainly you should be able to get engaged that's the kawahima now where does it say anything about washing clothes you're not going to take your haircut and wash your clothing falls out on friday on nerf shabbos then the only day available to wash your clothing in the coffee shop is on thursday so now in the beginning the mario understood it's the week of tisha b'av they do less business melisa um from doing business millionaires villantoya these are special we learned about this right the special buildings that the like uh they made a little huppah house for the hassan villantoya they would plant a special tree one type of tree just for the hazard um you could get engaged on that week that you can't do any business i've like coined him but you don't you get married you get engaged vaino isn't suitable and you don't even make a pseudo but you get you get engaged without a sudo right no the the that that's clark that's clark the the sudo is assuming you bring all your friends that's a simple i'm just saying think i was just thinking about myself oh i have a very happy day to get engaged everybody's mom specifically make phone calls get engaged you heard we got a gag it's not a symbol but i i think to take off that symbol we have that symbol by our engagement but that already happened by them by something called him and the arusan is some sort of in-between thing this is a ring what happened nothing changed they're engaging for four weeks they're not they're not they're not going to go home together he goes to yeshiva for a year up to a year we're going to see mamish they leave each other and finish show me as well so maybe that's why it's not such a big uh not such an example okay says so we have a couple so why can't you get engaged during says oh that's a week beforehand and a week before tish above you can get engaged but and you can also do clothing he says you wanted to prove to me look you can't wash your clothes but you could get engaged so certainly where you could wash your clothes you could get engaged in both cases you could you could wash your clothes and get engaged because we're not talking about the week of fish above we're talking about quite the kind of two weeks before by the way the giraffes i thought it was very very the week of the the nine days we're talking about the nine days here the week of and even before the week before nine days he says my entire life people called me up and asked me is there a header to take a shower during the nine days like this like that and everybody wants to know that his entire life his entire career is rev nobody ever once called him up to ask him can i take a shower during the shiva of my parents nobody's ever asking that question why when it comes to shiv of parents nobody nobody has a shiala and everybody's asking to walk around smelly or close to the nine days oh it's only the same dosh i need to know but maybe because i was i'm schvitzing do i have a header says [Music] wait a minute okay you're right you drop the heimer from laundry but i have another car um what about business you're not permitted to do business but you're allowed to get engaged welcome to lisa and then [Music] people go back to business during those the slightest you should be able to get engaged why do you say you can't get engaged during those 30 days thou mana cannot get engaged ruby says right go back to me malef if you want me from adolf the last last words on the ahmad she needs 30 days why if you could do business you could get engaged kava heimer from tish above you could get you you can't do business but you could get engaged so certainly when you could do business of course you get engaged [Music] so all women not they can't get engaged what he meant to say is all women could get married besides an armada and our mother can't get married so i have like this this time like to do a little bit of a seder here it's not hard we'll do it slow we'll see the comment says i did red blue green now it's color coordinated green is motor red is user blue is power in between so we have the tanakama says that going from an engagement to another engagement to become engaged after i was engaged somebody was engaged lost her hussein tanakana says she cannot get engaged again for three months i an engaged woman is not pregnant there's no way she's pregnant we're talking about from people here you know you now have relations during engagement i'm not talking about our engagement their engagement with the ring it's awesome they have to have nissun so there's no hashash of pregnancy no tanaka says liplog if people are going to make mistakes they're not going to have iris in a suit once you're engaged and you lose the husband you have to wait three months that's awesome says and that we learned yesterday and we said that was rebecca also to go from arizona anything that has the word arisen in it is good so you can go from irisin to engage lost the husband to getting married you go from getting married and lost the husband being married and lost a husband to getting engaged again nobody's going to confuse the two but in the sewage and soon i should have made it red is awesome rabbi says even the soon tina suen he doesn't hold up this whole waiting period there's no waiting there's no answer so i don't know the father is no big deal he's not he doesn't hold of it he doesn't care so you could even get married immediately if a woman loses her husband you wait and then you get married you don't you don't have to wait 90 days but everybody agrees sorry that's if that's if divorced but everybody agrees that if it's an almana you have the 30 days you have to wait okay that's what we're holding right now says the gemara returning to daphne given base oh sponsored by moishihorn in honor of jolly joe krause and family and anonymously as a school for your moshiach in both rukhini's and gosh means you should look for the new sponsor what do you mean he says he could go from the sun to the sun a woman gets divorced she can't because she has a technical problem she's not velos a divorced woman just got a divorce show me she found a new tomorrow next day what you don't have to differentiate between who the father is says leslie yeah you're right he doesn't hold of it no he does hold of it if she's engaged she's in a russo engaged in those days who got divorced she could get married because there's no afghana because there's no relations so then what in the world in the mishnah and beyonce are saying the same exact thing can a married woman who loses her husband get engaged review the sovereign assume uterus the artist that we see right over here nothing changed so we'll go to the next chart review the tanaka on this chart don't change at all the only thing that's changing around a little bit is rubio you see review this up and assume terrorists liars review the holds that there's no there's no zero of an aruso we're not concerned that if a ruse is allowed to engage right away people are going to confuse her within a sewer no so you go from nesua to arusan from marusa tennessee put them in red to go from minnesota there's a sir however grusha from arizona that we just said if she got divorced from an engagement then she could get married without waiting says gemara of a sovereign base in asua asura you're telling me that if uh so how could you tell me there will be says in the sun terusan is us or married woman because what's the shash again he he does hold of afghana according to this he holds that if she's married she might be pregnant so she can't get engaged is that true but the only problem is and almond who has to wait 30 days for availables because this is a complete contradiction to what ruby said before but rebecca was saying that you do have to wait before we said remember a top line on the ombud the last layer of the reality of the afternoon he doesn't hold of the idea of differentiating between husbands leslie he doesn't hold a bit look what it says here in this prize he says three months okay says the gemara so over here you see that to go from nissan letters is not a problem why are you asking me from a bryce the same wording in the mishnah and we said that by russo is guru so we said that it's already talking about something else you let it go from engaged and getting divorced from engagement to getting married that's not a problem okay you know so that's what it means over here also the same wording in the mission is the bryson we already fixed the mission a little bit we already explained what the mission means so we'll explain the price element safe here's the problem you have to wait three months in subahu deloitte they can't get married through say shopping dummy they could get engaged so you're telling me that you cannot go from the suin to irison it seems like you could go you could get engaged you just can't get married says this is what you have to explain this is the explanation to the words call arusa is grushoi sinoso all engaged women who got divorced from their engagement you see we're talking about a different type of engagement today we break an engagement over there you can't break an engagement there's a ring it's like what we call today conducion it's a different step that's why it's you can't really call it engagement but that's the word it translates to hebrew arusa is engaged but you have to get divorced but we'll see soon it's different alahas you don't do tuma you don't get the inheritance you're not married yet but it's a step it's a step in the right direction it's different than just engaged kalarusa is and a married woman cannot get engaged until she has 90 days as the gemara monument harrison mee isla ibo how could you tell me that we're talking about a widow from an engagement from anderson she doesn't have she's not have enough if she's only in narusa she got a ring but she's not married you don't perform aninos you don't have the nose and we already explained this to be during one of the shuttle over there was during yantef yantif is like today during then hillary also have to understand what it means that she shouldn't become the bottom line is they're not married there's different alohas mesa in your show if she dies he doesn't inherit her mesu however since there is a tsuba you see there is there's something going on here whatever ariston is there's a ring there's a subah the certain thing is yes what yeah yeah that was also one of it yeah says the gemara you're saying that's what mithamello was no that was something else then another thing yeah very good ella it could have been like three days ago i just don't remember what was it two weeks ago maybe less elote going back that you could go from the sun to harrison so back to this chart not this you see the red one rabiot says red new sun terrorism no good now we're going back where he says in the sun to the sun is good go back so but the problem is that we had to cover climber we're trying to get out of the cave of climber you could do business if in a place you cannot do business before tishbo if you can't do business you could get engaged so certainly during the the avalos when a person loses a husband when a woman loses her husband she could do business so certainly she could get engaged what did i do with this cava climber suzukimarum you have to do less business melissa or melitte noise valentina um oh that's it and the story no carbohymer it says in this bryce and this and this is how everybody's gonna hold he has a tana that holds just like him you cannot do business and you're not you can't get engaged your whole question is you see you could get engaged even though you can't do business so then and almana should be able to get engaged because she could do business no here's a browser that says you shouldn't do business before tish above and you don't get engaged before dish above not like the chicago passes that you could get engaged on tish above itself you shouldn't get engaged finished and ruby i see i was like that humiliates on for of course for getting married the week of you can't take a haircut you can't do laundry room the whole month gets into the nine days masculine me my delores mamesh to the series you see here or was talking about before who said that getting engaged means to get engaged privately i don't know like what we call maybe a proposal you know like a private affair bill le mevosto we're talking about making a whole whole and that's a massive simcha and that's what's awesome but maybe just doing a private thing and saying you're makutish to me whatever the lotion is that's okay but since aeroson in the sun is in the same sentence over here look what it says it's melissa omelite milivinois valentoya and umila rs if you umelisa engage in the getting married so you're telling me to get engaged means privately nobody sees it it's not a party so then getting married means it's not a party tsunami sooner or so maybe you could get married without a without a wedding don't do a party get get married on in the nine days without a party not true the etsum fact that you know you're taking this woman home to your house some people it's the happiest day of the life they get married that day forget the wedding they don't even know about the wedding nobody cares about the wedding it's she became the wife that day ella by the engagement now you know now i'm thinking about it even more maybe in those days without i don't know how much dating they did i don't know if they knew each other maybe a little simple i don't know i push it somebody will explain it to me she was then bound to nobody she couldn't get married to anybody not to him he's not marrying her and she can't get okay the bottom line is we have we still have a cover climber that aerosol should be motor if if eriksen is muted during the veils of tish above so then it should also be motor during that velos of the 30-day available so when somebody loses a loved one shiny available there's a difference between a vegas that's thousands of years old and people are used to it every year we should feel it available of a loved one look you see you see people literally crying and adults are crying and they break down and this and that that's an unveilus that's fresh whereas halaway we should cry for the best amigos so that's half of the hammer where an individual avails is different that's why during that individual veils uh so what's the fear is here [Music] that's the yeah exactly well also it's all all the availas so people yeah but it's you all you're saying is that sad it's a good reason why people are making but at the end of the day hallelujah we should cry for the baby like we cry for the loved ones i have a wonderful day tomorrow we'll try to update thailand but just assume we're not going to be here tomorrow you