Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 36 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning rabbi sai ah lil nishmas mordechai so our very first picture here on the screen is a picture of yeti wolf learning the daf on a plane on the way to miami for pesach then we have a very special picture by zundel he learns with his son in the hospital every day and he says that you know the mats have now there's no visitors in the hospitals these days so it's him and his son and the daf hi rebelli i've suffered this is somebody else i've suffered from fog fear of gemara for many years now several weeks ago i was speaking to a long time friend and arabian mind robbie snow he asked me what i was learning and i replied not enough have you heard of it he laughed and said you have to start that family with rebellious defense after some arguing i said okay i'll give it a try several weeks and many rewinds later i find myself writing this email for one simple reason i just want to express my car satellite to her belly and the entire mdy organization thank you for the countless hours you put in to make learning gemara fun and hoppable you hear los angeles should have lots of continued slacher all the best yaakov goder and here we have a picture of a lot of people want to know who bernard david looks like he's the first guy that came to share in this room this is the room in ghaniche this is where it was this is basically the width of the room it held one table in the center and we had 40 people in that room all the way at the end and somewhere in the beginning he came because his son is in our call today libby david and he decided that he wants to continue learning with the sheer online because we were doing it on youtube and he made a kabura in manchester got a bunch of guys and they were watching the shirt together and he was the first one basically to to learn remotely with us so it says over here the start of bar hashem reby um you've changed my life having made a commitment to limit a toyota into the daf and our managers of the mdy family haburo where you go spreading which is md which media is famous for atheist godzilla you have a grateful talmud bernard david manchester all right raboisai here we are back in chicago that's where it all started from and i want to encourage the islam first of all bring your friends the yeah yeah we'll get there every person that comes here is a physique for other people when people see other people coming they themselves say okay if this guy comes i could also come says you're not just doing it for yourself but you're doing it to be hazard in general in just a few days we're going to volume two of yavamas so we need to mention that bring a friend encourage people you can start in the middle of massachusetts the whole mdy started in middle of massachusetts there's there's something about just starting in the middle daffy i mean no matter what wherever you are it's always a new i know soggy a new pair can um well what's the difference you start at the beginning there you're getting a bracha's beginning of megillah it's all the same at the end of the day it's it's a ferris wheel a car what is it called the uh carousel you get on one place you get off the other your scene will be uh your vomits def mem whatever so bring your friend push that gemara donate some gamoras that's how we spread torah so the piranha sahajas for the kylo 10 000 is by anonymous hill bansara [Music] did he mean parnassa for me and shema for me or for him for him and continue to rebellion anybody by aaron freeman seattle and continue to talk to your belly is it all for me or it's half firm have for me well mccoy is here in the room so it's not it's a good shiloh mark and lynn we're holding by omarova so we added a very very interesting mahogany whether if a person does khalita performs khalitsa while the ibum is pregnant and it turns out that the pregnancy wasn't a good pregnancy was he to khalitz or not because at the time when he did it he wasn't supposed to he did it anyway it's very interesting and as we're going to see today that this is one of the only three times one of three times that talaq is like you're sluggish that it's not a good khalito all over shasta the hundreds of times you're beautiful which looks argue that love is always like in this particular case stalach is like sluggish so then the gemara brings this case as you see on the screen roulette was married to two women rahul in five towns and reuven goes bye-bye and yehuda goes instead of waiting the three months which she's supposed to wait to make sure that she's not pregnant maybe she's pregnant to the brother that died she he didn't wait and he's miaber and we find out that she is pregnant so what do you do so the prices says that the sorrow rocco doesn't get married doesn't get married so the gemara is like this omar robert we had one shot yesterday [Music] rob explains exactly like we read it yesterday uh changed it up a little bit this is no accounting married why shem because perhaps the pregnancy is a good pregnancy there will be a child new so that's the u.s last night so to be a good child i'd rather so she doesn't need mom she doesn't need khalid so let the sorrow let rucker get married whenever she wants what's the problem no i'll explain to you um as a side note yesterday i mentioned about the ultrasound what if what have you seen the ultrasound that the baby's going to die i just threw it out there in fact they found the mafirsham talk about it that if you see an ultrasound that the baby is 100 going to die not going to make it according to tysos this is the machine mafia had to learn but there's a shita they want to say that isis would agree in this case that you could be miyabim right now when she's pregnant because the pregnancy is not viable and the ultrasound tells us this baby is going to not is not going to survive for another five days so today you could be me album according according to the ritual no way fight just i i thought it was interesting that the ul the word ultrasound was brought down so also i have to say i asked the question uh maybe i don't remember when it was i said i'm scared that my chavroos is going to make fun of the question when did we learn the soggy about that was two days ago that i asked what about uh we see that ruvain was gracious irony so you see that you could get pregnant with the first beer so the marshall actually asked the question and he says very interesting parrots he says that first of all maybe leia got rid of the sulim just like tamar did but then still i didn't like that terror so much and who am i to like or not like but then the gemara should have at least asked from leia and not from tamar but another shout out he said if yaakov was able to hold himself back not to see kerry for 84 years so maybe he was able to have b without kerry interesting very interesting shot so so wasn't his first it wasn't the first bill the second beer fight in the first carry zak digimara rebecca and says that khalid sanbia of a pregnant woman is a good khalita and a good beer on one condition that it's not viable that we find out that the baby never survived but if the baby survives even riboykanon agrees that it's a big zero to stockish the only time he says that it's a good yibum is if java leo and they'll tell us the secret that the the pregnancy didn't end up well then it's a good but if the pregnancy ends up a good pregnancy psychiatrist even if it is [Music] maybe you'll be a viable child and even rubiogram admits that it's no good um [Music] and here's the here's the punchline vlad you asked me but if we're gonna find out there's a good baby no so let let the tsar get married let rachel get married today the answer is if we see a woman who's pregnant she's in her seventh month the obama her tsara cannot get married until is a birth zara in-law means that she must give birth it's not enough to know that she's going to give birth she literally has to give birth and only then it's no anybody ever thought about that there's a widow and she has a murder she cannot get married until her co-wife gives birth might be eight months from now just to wait patiently until there's a birth thank you jose de rava this is a stick of freebie our case somebody is miyabami obama and she finds out that she's pregnant harrison looked and also sarasota so the co-wife can get married she may have lived in kaiyama because perhaps she'll give birth a viable baby there's a level and it's no good until she gives birth [Music] seems like we're concerned so to speak that she's going to give birth to a viable baby vlad [Music] it says what does it say sif how are you thanks for coming i should say get over here i should start bringing people up here yeah not the old safe huh barack babers yeah okay but we don't have everybody one shot when they shoot davis and it's but those guys are steady good zog listen to this kasha where where what's the concern maybe she's going to give birth to a real baby and if she does you still have to wait until she gives birth birth marshmallow that if she doesn't give birth what if she loses the baby then everything is good then the khalid said that you performed four months ago is a good khalitza the ibum they performed four months it was a good evil because the baby wasn't viable and that's going to be a bomb question on who are schlockish rashford says that during pregnancies so he's learning not that maybe he's going to be a viable child maybe it's not going to be a viable child but wait a minute if the concern is according to your stockish that it's not going to be a vladivo yama so we have to understand what's the lashon it says in the safa that it's going to be a vlachakayama so which one is it he's concerned that's not going to be of logical yama but it says in the bride says it is going to be vladimir which one is it so let me explain to you what the bryce is saying i'm anticipating your question here that's what the bride is coming to answer she's pregnant and if you take statistics 51 percent of women for sure give birth rave you have to go over the rife maybe it's 80 percent i don't know what the percent but it's more than 51 so if i'm viewing this woman collateral cooler we go with thrive so let's just say that this woman is going to give birth a viable baby so the turrets is yes and that's what he was saying last night well she's a survival baby a viable baby let the tsar get married this is the zazera here the the brother that died has no problem he doesn't need it he doesn't need to even there's no need for khalido the answer is you're right but you have to wait vladim payta so that's the shot the price is saying two different things it's jumping a little bit first of all we're concerned that the the vlad is not going to be kayama and nakayama the khalifa and everything that are you doing in kurdish is no good but on the on the side that it is going to survive ah this arrived it still doesn't help because you have to wait all the way until then omar belazar we're pascaning like krishlakish that what that the khalitza during pregnancy doesn't work if the baby wasn't viable turns out the pregnancy is not a good pregnancy and i perform khalita during that pregnancy it's not a good khalid so and i'm going to pass can like your schlockish how is it possible is there's no hint to this amazing allah anywhere in any mishnah this bothered him until he ran through and he bumped into a mishnah that reminded him if a woman leaves town with her husband and leaves behind the co-wife uh your husband died without any children now what about there's a couple of options here number one maybe perhaps in madina saiyam the husband got married to another woman maybe maybe they have a child maybe this woman left behind we're not concerned for that that's not a concern but perhaps he went on a trip with his wife and maybe that wife is pregnant and if she's pregnant then the woman that's left behind doesn't it so what's that she cannot get married until she finds out if she gave birth or not she would bear suits her also because perhaps her sorrow is pregnant says i can understand why the woman left behind should not have i mean if the woman that's that was with the husband in medinas on a trip she's pregnant and she gives birth then this woman the co-wife here that remained here in chicago is a iso called asia so of course she can't be missing asking mario but here's the bomb question why shouldn't she perform khalido what's what's the worst that could happen let her perform khalido and then when she finds out if it's a mazeltov great if there's not a mazda she gets married through this khalido why does she have to wait to perform khalid i understand she can't do khalid get married right away hinosa maybe [Music] maybe the the co-wife that's the chrysler is pregnant and that doesn't work her pregnancy won't work until she actually gives the gives birth but let her at least perform helita today and then she can use this khalitsa mimar for after nine months so what do you see from here you see that looks like you're sluggish the reason why you don't perform khalita today because today is zero it's a big fat zero the only time you can form khalitsa is after you find out after nine months you can't perform khalitza during your pregnancy says ruslakis you have no right because during pregnancy it doesn't work of course they're schlockish it doesn't work even if it's not a viable baby it didn't work and that's why you're not going to be able to save any time by performing khalifa today and waiting for tomorrow do the khalifa tomorrow asking that that's the reason why we said we can't do jalito what was the case over there i don't remember anymore what's the case stop me asking that this should be some sort of zero maybe that was the zero it seems like it's stronger than that seems like that it doesn't work she has to wait not because of xero uh she would have mentioned something about xero it says no you don't do you don't do khalid's you have to wait until after you find out that it's pregnant look see it's even worse than that the lotion is so strong there's no khalifa forever look what's going on look at this here says what kind of rai is this you bring me a ride to ashlakis that the price that doesn't say anything the mission doesn't say anything about doing performing khalifa before you have to wait but wait a minute it doesn't say anything about khalid period why does the mission not even mention khalitza after nine months it says in the mishnah what does that mean wait and wait and wait you can wait 25 years until you find out that's what it says in the mishnah it doesn't say you should perform khalid says and listen to this don't bring any right from the mishnah baraboo vlad there's another concern over here that perhaps the co-wife that went with the husband on vacation she gave birth and we'll find out that there's actually a baby around somewhere in the world and if maybe it's similar to what simi is saying actually it's a very it's a similar you hear this it's similar to what you're saying she is going to need a special cruise they're gonna have to announce an announcement telling people that she could get married to kauna that the khalisa that she did is nothing people are gonna say how in the world did she get married that kind so we have to make an announcement you should know this woman can marry whoever she wants even a cayenne you know why because there's a baby somewhere in the world we know we found out there's a baby says no so you'll make an announcement some people will know about the khalifa they won't know about the announcement was you might people might get confused what comes out i don't know i didn't really find much about this it almost seems like from here and to me it's a tremendous pillar that this woman can never get married because of this screws for kawuna we don't want to do it we don't want to confuse people and maybe what actually that until she finds out that's what it seems like i don't know what else does it mean right until she knows and then she doesn't know because there's no phones there's no cell phones and they never she never got back it's ten years she's not getting married it's not fair almost i mean i'm saying it's no it's like how long could it be nine months after nine months let her get married no how's your day though exactly i don't know that's that that's part of the problem so let her not get married to kite and let her get back to somebody else no even that not i don't know that's part of the problem not almost i feel like she is you know that i feel that lotion i feel no it's not a field it's like mamish yeah i i that that's that's that's one of the things that bothered me it's like so let her get married to non-coin unless it means dafg in a case where she i don't know all right we have to look into it a little bit more oh yeah now obayo comes to argue with rebelizer also you're bringing this whole mission as a right through sluggish then it says in the in the in the mishnah that she shouldn't have khalito why can't she just have khalid in the third month of pregnancy and wait patiently for six more months and then use that khali to later on it seems like the khalifa doesn't work immediately satellites where does it even mention the word of khalid so we're not even talking about khalid that's not part of the issue here the light is doesn't say like this we're talking about don't get married and don't have but without we're not talking about in other words don't bring me any writer from that michelle thank you for saying and now it seems like this you see there's a gimbal here this is how because this is how we passing like you're sluggish bottom line end of the kind of is not in this if a person performs khalid pregnant and she lost her pregnancy she has to perform khalito again and we said yesterday points out man could mean even the guy that performed the first khalidza he's one of the brothers it's interesting russia okay the bottom line is that's how he passes this three times in the entire shasta looks like the first one is right here now that if you vamog receives khalid while she's pregnant even if she loses the pregnancy it's not a good khalido talking about a guy on his deathbed if a person as he's dying he gives his inheritance away to his children but he doesn't use a lotion of yerusha he uses the lotion of matana riballah if he gave one son more than the other the israelites and he said the bihar shouldn't get two two shares of the arusha only irregular whatever he said the varav kayama and why because it's matana if he said it's a yerusha i'm giving yerusha i want my bihar to only have one khelikiruja it doesn't work why masuna mashaka sabathara you can't change what the terror says to do the third says everybody gets equal and the car gets two portions you want to give one son three times the amount of the other kids because he took care of you and because of this he goes to that asser it's massima kazabatar in fact the gamora always talks about not giving one child more than the other not playing favorites and even if a child is off the derrick to give him because you never know what's going to come out the next generation you shouldn't play around with the tava with the urushi however you could give me you're permitted to give a gift when you're alive not in seva you should it should not be in salvador that this kid gets more uruz another because that's massimo okay and if he says the word yerusha he doesn't say anything now interesting i want to point out the gemara inbound base says that a person who gives away all his nakas and his children when he's alive it's not a good thing in fact i heard literally horror stories it's unbelievable children who completely mistreated their parents the parents thought that doing a nice thing they gave their the the the kids awesome the kids literally took the i heard a story of myself kids took the parents kicked them out of their own house put them in a nursing home never to see them again just grabbed all the money and invite them people kids will do crazy things believe it or not it's a terrible thing so but we're talking about over here he's dying anyways and he's not going to live much and he wants to do it so check this out right over here this is just arashi the green is telling you where he put the words if he put the word matana tinasen in red so here the first one is in the beginning of the sentence the middle one is russia of atinas rasha so he it's a sandwich yerusha is mentioned twice in the one sentence but since the word matana is mentioned that's enough to not be over nigh in the torah this is considered a matano as as bottom line is as long as he mentions the word matana anywhere in the sentence whether it's the first word the last word or the middle word it's kosher okay if you do it you russia also good it doesn't matter how great dwarf and we just turned to the lyman woman-based moisture horn dedicated in honor of jolly joe krause and family in honor of eddie kinski brankinsversky and harry miller for learning the daff bomber sluggish oh so in order to understand ruslakis we see rabbi akanam first here's rebecca if he says alif let's say i'm just a little bit of my lush a little bit of whatever or saw the bait so here you see one sentence says reuven should get a yerusha the second sentence says shimon shigeru matano says that's fine because just like over here he says the word yerusha and he says matana yerusha the it says and the price that's okay so what if he said different brothers different sons reuben is complete yerusha shimon is a complete matana that's enough it's like beginning and end of a sentence you see the beginning says yerusha the second sentence says matana says ruslakish no no no don't get confused there that has nothing to do with what we just said in order for this to work it has to say so the allah finas and saw the beijing this is the second time in shas that allah is like rush lokish that's it you need a gemara [Music] you need to say the word matana for each child yes the prices says it doesn't it doesn't matter if you use the word urushiol also as long as there's a word matana but for each child you need to mention the word matana only then does it work as a matana if not it's yerusha and yerusha you cannot do me can't change from what it says in the torah okay and what's the third time in shas that allah is like you're slackish it's not a person tells the son i'm giving you everything when after i die but he leaves for himself what does he leave for himself pay rise all the produce all prophets go to the father today so what is he giving the son he's given the real estate but real estate is worth nothing if all the prophets go to somebody else so if i sell you real estate but no profits could you sell that no you could but what are you selling there's no profits all profits go to somebody else you get to own the land you get zero though but the value goes to the person that gets the pay raise all value all everything goes to the to the father everything oh so let's see he's saying that after the father dies it should go to work lanley's yeah okay real estate people nursing home people yeah or maybe there's no other sons i don't know but yeah maybe yeah no no it's matano i'm saying there's ways to get around it first of all i was saying look it's not recommended the gemara says it's not recommended to do that it brings to a lot of the kid the other kids are not going to say cabbage on you they're going to hate you forever eternally the guards is not a good idea but if you want to do it it's your right to give a gift now nobody can stop you from giving a gift you can give all your stuff to i just read a story literally the other day that this uh this ballast trouba her mother died and her mother gave every single dime that she owned and she was wealthy to research on birds bird research she got zero but then she found out that the mother forgot to sign the will so she got everything at the end so i imagine all the wealth goes to the bird research she'll hate birds forever okay here the father can't sell anything because the real estate is owned by the sun the abandon and the sun can't sell anything because at the end of the day all prophets go to the father if he the father sells it then it works until the time that he dies because he's selling prophets and that and if the sun sells then the buyer the purchaser has nothing until the father dies but what happens what happens if the son the big he thinks he's going to sell is waiting for his father to kick the bucket and at the end he died before the father died he sold what did he sell the real estate the real estate there's nothing there until the father dies but he died before the father now what are they calling according to back the money the buyer doesn't get anything that's the icker who's considered if you have to view right now if i ask you who's the owner who's the real owner the guy that owns the real estate it's on his name or the guy that gets all the profits says rebellion the guy that gets the profits the icker balaam is the guy that's making the money today and therefore it's not a kenyan because the ikea guy is alive and well the guy that sold whatever he sold he died he argues okay and over here in this case talaha is like sluggish that if the son sells what he owns which is the real estate and that's the icker according to and he dies before the father it's a good kenyan we learned aina vladick i am brand new sugar boys have you just joined us right now brand new soggy eno vladio if a ovum goes ahead and it's miyabim here we'll just show si here we go we have let's say this case not really this case but similar we have a jump the gun he was miyabim the obama after ruvin dies rubin died left a wife and yohudah should have waited a bunch of months three months to make sure that the five-town woman is not pregnant but he didn't wait and it's miyabammer and it turns out that yes she was pregnant but she lost her pregnancy now what should he do he was either is sir he shouldn't have married her but it turns out retroactively had he had kaidish it was a good marriage it was a good evil but he doesn't have rojo he could keep her tara lee has her um argues he says not true we have to punish this guy why do we have to punish him because he was over honored he was over he shouldn't have married her not the rabbi yeah he shouldn't have married her so what does he do yoitsy beget he gives her user get omarovo okay so this is this is a canas theoretically you could have stayed married to her but said you know you're a bad guy you didn't listen what why on her class on everybody okay she also deserves a class why is she getting married what he's worse than her does that she can't she cannot get married until she knows for certain that she's pregnant or not pregnant and finished why is he any different than her they both get a knack you like to forget omar over me verbally sometimes you have to have patience you don't have patience that's it you're punished for life says rava ramayana says a very similar thing to this in a different situation that we punish a person remember rebels is what we just said remain the same yeah so this is very interesting we just mentioned this the other day that we know that in those days there's no formula so nursing mother it was very important to nurse the baby and they would nurse the baby for 24 months and if the milk is ruined it gets ruined the baby could die by getting pregnant the milk gets ruined the baby could die so they made it if a woman is pregnant or she has a baby she should not get married for two years two years so you're going to ask me because i asked the question what about a married woman a married woman was a baby so she can't be with her husband for two years this woman's dialogue says she can't get married to another man because she might get pregnant what if her own husband gets her pregnant she can't be here so that'll give her discussions on deaf and basic based on the tap it's a whole thing when she's married he'll make special food and eggs and this he could knew and then this guy could also kiss her there's a difference she has a tiny baby she can't get married for two years and she gets married mama showers no same kind of so and if he gets married her yo tivoli sorry did i skip something like other mubarak he should get rid of her noise get rid of her today as imam is going to explain give her a get but in 24 months you can remarry her so look here says rava just like over here we penalize him we say don't you're not going to get married to her forever says ramire you get married after 24 months but ramirez says can i ever get married she shouldn't have been messy album she should have waited a few months and she was missing what's the connection didn't i maybe there's no connection and i'll tell you going both ways [Music] when it comes to eboom you marry a vamo you're not supposed to marry her she's your brother's wife and her brother's wife is a herbal like any other ever in the torah and if you produce a child from that marriage it's a monster the rights avalhasa i'm the rabbana but over here is just like xavier there are a button that shouldn't harm the child so we said 24 months she shouldn't get married i will assume there have bought on severely maybe he holds like a bun on that what that after the 24 months it's not a it's not a penalty it's a 24 month break they'll force you what yeah we'll see you know it's very very interesting that you mentioned that because all the way on the bottom we'll see that sometimes there's no penalty to a cayenne because he's a kind but yes you're right awesome there are bon on carabanas villa inami and if you want to look at it the other way i think like awesome it's xavier they're about honor when it comes to their abundant we have to be more careful as michelle tyra have to strengthen their own takanas everybody knows how to marry mafresh everybody's going to stay away from her there's no need to make a special econo take a 24 month break we're not going to penalize you at all you have to wait 24 months you didn't wait so we're going to force you to wait so separate now with no penalty at all however you'd see a baguette it has to be strong it can't just be a little bit of a of a break it has to be a real full-fledged get or take me and i'll prove it to you separate it says take her out new you here sadik what does the ac mean again let's do it again inside listen to this beget that the word means means with a get like tony africa doesn't say you should separate me when it comes to an animal it's one allah says rashi but when it comes to adam 30 days is not an eiffel so interesting as she points out sometimes i i don't think i knew this until recently maybe like a year or two ago that if a baby is a full-term baby this aloha doesn't apply at all a baby is born after nine full months full term then even if it lives a day it's not an eiffel it's called maybe more than that maybe three years ago whatever i think i always it was under the assumption that a baby that dies within 30 days is an eiffel shall israel not true so it's a baby that didn't that didn't that's not full term and then you wait 30 days okay so call susha you hear this you have a baby that survived 30 days and then dies let's say on day 32 the mother does not have to be messy album it's as if the father had sarah he had a child yes the child died but he had a child if the child died after 28 days then the wife who had the the mother the wife of the the person that died she needs ebam she didn't have a viable child so if there's a suffolk now whether or not we don't know exactly if the mother was full term and the baby didn't survive now what happened exactly so at the last line of texas the baby fell off the roof in other words if the baby died okay then then it's like an eiffel but over here we don't know if the baby would survive or not survive it didn't survive because it was in a car accident not because we don't you know what's going on here if there's a baby that would have survived we know for a fact it would have survived a normal baby full turn baby and it would have survived so even if it only lived for one day that's enough to patron from ebon but this baby we don't know if it was full term and it died in a weird way so that says this is if she got engaged or she didn't scottish ravino schmidt of omar images surely he lets us if she got engaged to you stroll khalidi you see that that's what you were saying that if it's takaya and don't do khalito why because khalitza is going to make her apostle now to him and she'll never be able to marry [Music] you're right at night very interesting lotion a night rather said like in the morning he said that it's mother she doesn't need khalid sharithu what you're just going to allow her to get married like that yehi rava the tishru of tarbo so you might as well be mater asurim bimater isurim and say that even of his mother what are you doing okay so we'll talk about it tomorrow we'll go back to this rabois square for coming islam about the new value tell violin about this year bring more friends i think tomorrow tomorrow we're doing barbecue tomorrow big time barbecue so if anybody wants to eat your schmack come early and bring your friends don't be embarrassed have a wonderful day you