Daf Yomi Yevamos Daf 113 by R’ Eli Stefansky

we have a few very special guests in the house first one that i know of i mean there's others i didn't get to meet yet but do we have a husson he's getting married tomorrow what's your name again daniel turk you know get over here your grandfather also no where does he live he lives here chicago chicago [Music] beautiful view what does the huston do comes to share it's unbelievable yeah who else do we have in the house here we have uncle phil next to you who's next to you uncle phil david what is are you the guy that we showed a picture yesterday that's a true story the guy came over to you and took a picture or you sent it yourself a costume comes over to you closet comes over to him this guy take your picture unbelievable that was the picture we showed yesterday what's your name again david hess show my lifetime so you really you're having the wire you're wearing the capped all thing learning styling on the plane in action not posed unbelievable david hess is in the house we got a kid here from silver spring maryland what's your name you the keller nice to meet you what do you have digging all in the back what's your name husky briar from bottle park we should really bring it to the front it says what this is the a memo one out in bar park every cluster from barbara has to sit in that left corner what's the shot they all said they all picked they're all out of them they all picked the same seat is that the mizrah okay whatever wow we don't we have to get a special camera on that spot avoid sites 11 days to subus i want to start a new thing i want to tell you how many people signed up so far the number's not great and i need your help 305 people it's an amazing number actually you think about 305 new people by tomorrow we have to get to 400. help me out don't let me down everybody where's mendy he's working on some guys tomorrow 400 hashem eleven days to tsubas subus again is one of the most fascinating talking about the scene in new york and the reason why that's also actos and bringing everybody together that's why i'm going there's a serum here in arizona by the way dr factor's usual is running a seal in the forest barbecuing the chef the one and only benny from benny's meat over ten thousand shekel worth of meat they say so sign up base hashem you'll have more people than they have in deal new jersey so far in deal new jersey 785 people signed up over a hundred buckram yesterday i read an email from a bachelor who says he can't afford it and on the spot somebody donated 20 tickets to bahrain who was that somebody who's sitting right next to me i didn't know he texted avi mordecaire enough 20 tickets and also hoodie newman donated 10 tickets to bakram so if you're a buck or you can't afford it we have a ticket for you the one and only one of my favorite people in this world was caught learning torah alazarian the one and only from marsha sadi i'll tell you about a different time this sentence by jack kessler not related to you right no okay that's keller here we have a few interesting good mornings here's one okay yeah no that's because gary's on youtube he's watching something else now watch if we do it again it's probably going to be value now okay good morning okay now we're taught we're talking about uh and sign language and stuff like that as a heritage goes in with sign language he goes out he could get divorced sign language and this gentleman made me realize that i've been doing it wrong all these years it's not it's ah what do i mean by that good morning okay so now you know a bunch of coffees needed here's another guy that uh says that finally apple watch i didn't know this apple watch you can watch the sheer and apple watch now through youtube they just started they just have a new app and here it is on his apple watch if it interests anybody that's on his arm he says he goes with him everywhere can't get away from me laurie from flatbush and finally at the avenue m field yesterday one more time okay and this is the one and only i'm showing this picture because he needs a shidduch he's in his 20s but he's a phenomenal guy one of his miles says that he's very very smart he's very very nice but i think one of the biggest smiles that he has is he has a lot of free merch so if you marry him kylo the sponsor of the cardinality was the higher ben framingham continued families like new jersey because thursday's basic and because of them by the way other people signed up to be courtroom sponsors i don't even have their names but another three people i think signed up and the mdy family is my aunt libba bass ruben allevi lobo yesterday by the way there were two people here shmuel and yasi goldberg says bert with a d right with the diaton and i said hello to them after shir they told me they were here for 14 hours only they came to bury their grandmother and one of the things they did was they came to mdy by the way malaya come again david vadil is in the house now sitting nice and close sean malaya it's so good to have you all right rabboissa here we go the cuff base on the base we're holding by the gemara like seven lines from the bottom the gumball goes through a series of short questions and answers shimaka stuff and we're getting into some very cool sugars why is it that they instituted marriage nissuan for a death mute death mute we said has a gether of a shaita so there are two other shaitim that are in the category cotton and what else and a shoiter a shaitaan says why is it a man a woman who's a shaytan they don't have marriage why aren't they in the exact same category as the deaf mute who's also a shaytan the sagna shayta vikkad and shinosu nashville if the man was a shaita or he's a cotton who married a woman and then they died and she's saying there's zero going on here you don't even have to do it says the kaimotakantha without rashi we probably wouldn't understand what's going on rashi explains since a deaf mute could live very happily you could have a very relaxed marriage there's no ups and downs it's a different type of shayta so taking a rabbit therefore abandon said it's possible they're marriageable they don't know how to live normal you don't know when you're going to get wept over the head with a frying pan or something you know it's unknown you can't live with the snake in one basket let the kid run butt and say you don't know when that snake is going to bite someone says it's not a good idea to get married with them says the amara if that's the case we might caught on and you're not concerned that it's going to hit you over the head when you're not looking so how come they don't have marriage says who can never get out of the situation well not could never but usually doesn't get out of the situation they should have a decent life they should live with somebody so should marry them caught on us the closest sooner we don't have to worry about a cotton he's said that the mother and the brothers can marry her off everybody knows the answer to this right we had it a hundred times in this afternoon why is it different the answer is we don't want her to be heifer in the street we need a father figure or something to take care of her um it's all the rabbit we're talking about a marriage that was instituted by special takara that you get married so why is it that were misaki and yaakov why are you sitting so what's going on here come come inside this is not the really vampires that these are even for adidas the whole thing and not that you are edd but i'm saying this is simple stuff come over here look you have a whole table for yourself it says tomorrow so why is it that rektano has meow she could revoke the marriage retroactively um but a deaf mew doesn't have the ability just to go over to her husband and say shalom israel says because over here we need rashi again to explain that aheresh is a long hireshes is a lifetime experience and no one wants to marry someone that 60 years later also she says oh i'm out of here and then all 60 years goes to waste barrages something very interesting when it comes to tana he's not concerned why is he not concerned because it's like dating you know everybody's on their best behavior and he opens up the door for her and he does this we had the whole discussion why we do it and why we don't do it but people they're fake a little bit during the dating thing and the same things as rashi when you marry tana you don't want her to snap her finger and leave you so you treat her nicely you know you don't have to you don't have to be a nice guy forever it's going to be over soon a year two years you can force yourself to be nice for that long rashi says it not me i'll be nice to her as long as she can't she do me on it's a threat when she gets older she realizes she's talking about his fear that she might snap her finger says the amara another question okay we're done with that question another question who's married off by her brothers again it's their abundant marriage an adult already but she herself we said her marriage is at the robotic marriage just like a kind of they're up on a marriage the adult hires is a there about a marriage how come she doesn't eat trump no no we're talking about are you sereless she is the israelis marrying a cayenne the cayenne the cayenne usually gets gives his wife truma is she considered a wife or not she's only married to midora boron if she's a katana married in the but her husband is a cayenne she gets to eat but who's also in the same category as ektano does not eat rumor this naan hey it been good right we learned in our mishnah and we said hey it means the testimony that's it it's salad that's the allah if a father marries off his daughter which is what a marriage that is raise a marriage she always beget yeah she's a deaf daughter but it's a there is a marriage she gets to forget she goes out with a get that was the kiddush even though later on she grows up and she's remains of hiresh she still goes out with a get their eyes together because the marriage was the other iso this is aktana was married through her brother's mother this is the rabbana marriage shanice is the coin who marries a coin those are the two now we can follow through these and make our own it doesn't say that in the mission but why didn't we'll go back to this we'll take it step step by step the concern is that the husband is and he's a cayenne he might feed his wife who's ahiresha's now what's the big deal the reason if a regular guy is married to hireshes which is only the ramban he should not feed her truma because maybe another durabaran case a herish in a hireshes he'll feed her truma you didn't gain anything where did you go with this rashi's question we'll see in a second how this works out as the gemara of alejo khatta on the velasu and this is a beautiful amazing surya very geshmaki surya that's coming up not really going to get to today maybe if we're lucky but the question of whether we i just had it two weeks ago where the lights were off on chavez are you allowed to pick up your two-year-old son and bring him next to the light switch and you know he loves pushing that switch you're not even taking you're not even telling what to do you just lift him up a little bit next time you go like this you look at the ceiling you know before you know it lights on mutter or osser anybody have an opinion here everybody says mother no some say uh sir what saucer no it's not like first of all cleaning lady very good mordecai says like telling a cleaning lady no over here he did it on his own you didn't you didn't say anything the kid did it by himself okay hey it's a very good point that avigar gear brings up there's a very big difference between your own kid and somebody else's kid it's a good point but let's go on that's that's the tsugi for for tomorrow i think it's amazing i i myself don't know really what i have my own feeling and i told my son-in-law what i thought and he argued with me i thought it should be uh sir but everybody seems to argue with me i just it was just a feeling of how do you let your kid do something awesome would you let your kid do a video and he's like well it's a hundred times different seems like it's muthur but i'm not passing it in we found a high item that says it's also fine what okay here we go huh that's right if he does it for you you're in a very big problem gary says he's right if not andrew turns on the liver you can't eat there okay it doesn't matter it doesn't matter if he if he did or you didn't tell him but non-jew also if you don't tell him he comes in turns on your life no you know no it's a mice no no we learned in shabbos if the non-jew and i'll do it that's the whole thing that's the problem and i'm here lock them different time different time let's go right there again what are you doing seriously [Music] now if you see a miner eating a cheeseburger you know stop according to the gemara now don't worry about it it's not the end of the suggest the problem is that the deaf mute who's a client is going to feed his wife who's a user aidless and she is if she eats truma what is her does she have miso but why because since she's married to this guy to this deaf mute mithira bharan let her eat midda abbaran what's a truman rabbanan a very light room let's say somebody grows a tree in a utz's in a vase a pot a pot that doesn't have a hole on the bottom so with the rice you don't have to give turmeric it's not attached to the ground it doesn't usually so it's only wrong let her eat from that zero demo de raisa we're concerned he's going to give her the rice and i just want to show you this chart that i did over here real quickly to understand what rashi is saying this is just rashing it goes like this rashi asks what is the difference the mark says i can't do the the light blue if a pikachu is married to hires which she if she eats truman nothing happens she's a shaita because maybe you'll do the light green it's also potter what's the big zero it says rashi the reason why the gemara sticks in harish and herishes the center one is because it's to get to the red one the red one is miso the red one is if a heritage is married to pikachus if uh if if the wife is a badass she and she eats truma or vavan she gets miso but i i'm not says rashy listen to this unbelievable thing i won't get confused between the blue and the red if the husband is a hundred percent regular and the wife is i won't confuse that with the husband being and the wife being a picachas the flips the flip side what i will confuse pikachu and karash is the blue i'll confuse that with the green and once i get confused with the green i might confuse the red with the green you understand the two sides the right and the left are not confusable the middle get could get confused with both so i need the middle to get me over to the to the to the left okay why exactly rashi says that you don't get confused if the husband is normal with the wife being normal i'm not exactly sure he says that's not a problem nobody'll ever get confused if the husband is normal and the wife is not you won't get confused with the husband not normal and the wife yes normal well you will get confused is in a case they're both not normal and once you say that you they could feed truman occasionally they're both not normal that's very easy to say well if one if the husband is not normal and the wife is normal you might get confused with that and that's a miso yes no now one other thing rashi sticks in i just want to point this out is that if a goddamn marries a kitano there's no concern that you might confuse that with a cut on marrying the dolo with the reverse case why because it's impossible for cotton to ever marry igoilla that never happens there's no conducion when the cotton marries agola so that's why i don't have to worry about a goddaught who marries iktana okay next another question okay a bunch of these short siri questions series questions like little question answer but good ones um if you marry aktana she deserves oksuba the 200 zozos that i cannot get um but a death mute doesn't get a super when you divorce her why not them kane mimni villain because here's another svara since she has a big handicap she's a shaitaa you're gonna on top of that you want to pay her out nobody's gonna ever marry her they're barely gonna marry her as is leave alone the money part if a girl says i don't want to be married to this guy she does not get exuber why because she initiated the divorce it was he it was against his will why should we penalize him and make him pay for her decision vashniya if somebody marries a second ervo meaning like a grandmother right there is he let him marry grandmother only there about so the grandmother doesn't get a super from her grandson why can't violinists you marry a woman you find it later she's not capable of having children you don't give her aksuba why mega taus you would have never married her to in the first place put this in your gamer write it down this is one case beget but she goes she's a katana that goes goes out with the get in other words versus aktana that left with me on zaktana that you divorced oh it's your fault you divorced her payer if she she didn't initiate the divorce you did no if a deaf mute or shaytan married a regular woman they don't have subah i'm telling you this only because i'm looking for the end of the riddle the end of the the muscle i remember a beautiful muscle i couldn't i couldn't remember then there was a a woman who was really really ugly she couldn't get married and there was another woman who had a problem she would curse and curse all day long so they made a beautiful shadow they took a blind guy and they they gave her the ugly one and he married her he was very happy they took a deaf man and they gave him the the cursor one day a miracle work worker comes by town he says i can heal anything so they bring the blind man in and they bling they bring the deaf guy in and he heals them they both go home the blind guy is born schwarzeneggen i couldn't believe what he saw like he runs back to the guy what did you do to me you ruined my life he says no problem i could blind you again the way i made you you want no i don't want the woman the other guy said what did you do to me suga i'm hearing all these things i don't remember what the nimshil is make up your own punch line i don't know but it fit right over here i just remembered here they were healed everybody's great and you should appreciate it with everybody who gives you ta-da whatever i don't know [Music] chanel and a regular person who marries us even if he does a hundred times or uh 50 times the regular super he he has to pay it up why because he wants to damage his own his own bottom line he wants to give it to her so it doesn't matter if she deserves it doesn't he wrote it in the tsuba that's what she gets taimou the rats uh the marshmallow it's because he decided he wants to give her hallelujah but if he doesn't want to give her he doesn't give her anything so what's the why is it that hires doesn't get any super but against aksuba them kane mim niva people are going to not want to marry the kersham they have enough issues as is again when we talk about acharesh we mean a death mute that's that that's what the mark was somebody who can't hear and can't speak so therefore they can't communicate with other people what about the herish guy why would anybody marry him so they should institute in order for people to marry him this should be oksuba because a woman wants to get married more than a man in the neighborhood of ramaki ansabi as we saw he married him off to a woman because of the law he gave he he forced a shaytan that doesn't have a radicular he says this guy is wealthy got a nice inheritance we're gonna give the new wife 400 why 400 usually it's 200 and if she's an almana 100 what's 400 so the belzer told me beautiful zomchat he says that let's continue inviters to understand what he's saying he says the gemara says look how smart he is the gavirabo he's a genius kosovar ilo wrote the shift if this guy wanted somebody to help him out at home to do the dishes and take care of the kids and that miley's have nearly wouldn't we purchase a slave for him he has a wife and he has a slave now well timeout now obviously a husband is also a slave okay it goes both ways he goes to work he brings in the money she she takes care of the house lemar says everybody needs help the man is the woman to help him she needs him everybody is great they say in the the childhood classes you treat your wife you treat your husband they tell like you treat your husband like a king he'll treat you like a king you treat him like a slave do you like like a slave fight so says the belzer of nakamendo fenster he told me it says in the gemara in baba bastard if you know shots like this it's easy says that a slave cost a hundred hundred zu's that's how much a slave usually cause but look it up he says there's another gemara inksubus talking about super stuff says if a person doesn't want to if if the wife doesn't want to work she doesn't want to do any any work in the house too kashif to do the laundry so she's hive to him to bring in four slaves that's how much a woman is worth that's how much housework you have four slaves and mela if that's why he's buying a slave he had to buy four 400 that's how much you had to pay for her now why oh yeah i thought about that yeah it's a good question no but right but she has to know that she's not gonna get stuck if he dies she's going to get all this money okay amazing if a guy by mistake was with the wife of this herish so he doesn't have to bring asham talk about carbon you bring a a male a isle that's worth two slime it's an expensive carbon it's more expensive than the hottest kata says no price could be one dollar ashram has a you have to pay at least x amount it's more hummer why because you did a suffolk here you don't know if you did that or not so he's saying that aharesh the the wife of aharesh is a zero it's not that oh maybe she's smart maybe she's not smart someone says no it's a zero harish is a zero and if he's a zero then there's no suffix so if a person was with this wife of the cherished bisok he didn't he didn't have intent he doesn't have to bring this carbon that only comes for esophage what's a typical case of a suffix you have two pieces of of half fat and you ate one and then later on you found out one of them was caleb i don't know if i hate it or not bring australia over here it's not even a suffolk because she's never married the wife was never married to the irish hersh doesn't have a business being married at all now says gomorrah let him say lay i'll prove it to you hamish there are five people that don't give troom at all they're they're trump is not a trump of him tarmuh muslim trump that's it what do you see from here if a hair should we stop right here forget the rest of the rice if gives truma it's zero it's not oh maybe it's truma maybe it's not truma be careful don't eat it it's a big zero why because he doesn't have das to give truma so you see he doesn't have dust next show the cotton because it says in the pasta check the pasta out here's the attitude of shanina if you want to see what it looks like if you can't picture in your head you have to have a heart in other words you have to have das heart means das you have to have das doesn't have das it says in the past what is gum came to ruin you should bring truma gam is if i make a shriek you have no business coming to my house and taking fruit off my pile and giving it to the kayak for me it's worthless that kind of trauma huh this that's right thank you i wanted to say that bamas in america is this week's parachute is so a guy the same from the same possible teaches us you have to be a jew to take truma venture mossoy ancient was a tribal it's nothing okay see see for mere hershey's nothing even his wedding is nothing this is gemara who dominate the laws of the sound you're musically ever sir [Music] okay according to lazar there is a soviet here a haresh is a suffolk i don't know if he has seiko or not so as long there's a possibility that he's somewhat of a of a yeah so when he takes truma it is a suffolk astor gemara if he also comes on a suffolk so if you were with the wife of akharesh you should bring ashram dali it's a suffolk whether or not the parish when you had two things in front of you the only way it would be is if there were two women in the in the house one of them was your wife and one of them was this other wife the aisha shish and you don't know which which one you were with that's one attitude then you'd bring a carburetor along it's an animal that we don't know if it's if it's a behemoth or a kaya okay it one of the parents is a goat the other one is a deer what's the difference the heiler caleb of your larid the hail of the fat of the behemoth now what do you do but the kai is one single thing it's not two objects it's not two plates of calif it's one animal nevertheless on one animal rivals it says doesn't hold like a lazar that you don't need but he holds up like you said before if somebody's with bishogi with the wife of karesh he has to bring ashram tali it's a suffix vey kamish i it says that he's a zero hershey's no he holds there's a suffix and he holds your blossom a big suffix here what is the reason there are blaster holes that a haresh is a suffix what happened there um here's the shiloh the heresh has a low iq let's call it but is that low iq clear or the the little iq that is does it that he has is it clear or it's not clear at all or exactly the 10 brain so to speak that he has is it clear like today you can make good decisions or even that ten percent is weak what did i do but it's very consistent it's just a consistent brain that he has no the little when he's he doesn't have a very clear mindset [Music] he goes through different stages one day a month he's he's smart like anything but but 29 days of the month he's he's he's out of it so what's the difference oh hold on what's the difference the mind of kimino why because we are concerned that when he gave kidushin maybe he was 100 percent smart he's a normal guy so the condition then turned into what he do now he can never divorce her because now he can't prove that he was smart that he's normal on the day of the divorce there's a there's a big vagina in yeshiva and uh the regime said i have a great cheddar for you this girl has every mile in the world the only problem is there are three days out of the year that she's not missing but every other day everything this is a guy that every that he knocked off everything this girl has every single milo in the book everything three days a year you think you could do it he says yeah i think it's a good three days i'll worry about it i'll leave whatever so the guy goes okay you read the he says read the off for that i have to wait until she's the three days that she's sugar why would she marry you fine after me so this is the column we don't know when it's going to happen we don't know when those three days happen so mellow he can never divorce his wife no matter that we get what everyone who was with she was also talking about normal exactly we don't know we don't know why we said the conditions no harris could do the rabona harris could be makage durabana but it's a there's a possibility if it was a derisa maybe it's those three days you're right from that suffolk he can never divorce her because if it was in those three days no no no no no no hersh could be me no that's not nothing to do we that's that's the suggest we said but perhaps it's more than a thera-bottom perhaps it was during those three days of the year that is 100 normal and then it became a derisive and then you can't get divorced at all because maybe you don't know when those three days are so that's it he's stuck in that in that little that's luke martin if you're saying that he's consistent throughout the whole year than just the way he got married with remissa or whatever he could go out with sign language the amaris but if sometimes he's yes something he's not hidduci matami kaddish he could be mcallister they want to make irish mai what do you do sponsored by moishihorn in honor of hillel zen sponsored by nissano la slacha ruchin gashmi from radnakash introducing me to mdy if a woman becomes a shaytan you cannot divorce her we already said the shadow mishna over here no you don't need her das you could divorce any woman in the world without asking questions you could do it balkan [Music] why why did you say you cannot divorce to protect her not that halal you can't divorce her you could but we need to make sure that somebody protects you hey hitomi says what's the case she knows how to protect yourself and she knows how to receive the get me about who's going to who's going to treat her who's going to violate her she knows how to protect herself or no she's such a shy that she doesn't know how to take care of herself she doesn't know how to watch forget she's [Music] you have to give it to her in her hand one shot is she has to have she has to be able to receive the gut yeah but this comes excludable what's the gether of a shayta so it says over there in the mission entire spirit gimmel it says reveals always like him right it says a dog is very smart dogs are the smartest why see he's right in the bathroom because i'll just add my own thing when the dog goes to the kiddush he doesn't go to the drinks he goes straight to the food because the food gets used up and people you run out of food you never run out of drinks that's what he says you see a shot if a guy goes straight to the drinks he's a shaytan go to the chong first as i say that's that's together yeah there's a there's a guy one of these uh a guy that donated a wing in the in the crate in the the loony but he called his he comes in there they they show him around here this is the windy this you see this bathtub full of water yeah you see this pail you see the spoon this is a test we do bring the guy in here if he can figure out how to remove all the water then we decide whether or not he could stay here so guys ah i got it i get it i guess he uses the bucket and he takes out the water because no use scheiter if he lifts up the drain the water goes out he says which room do you want you want the one with the view or not okay vitor you don't have to laugh at that one it's fine you can do what nacho does to me sit over here you'll see it when it's funny is we said this already right matamoros no we're way past this no we have the next plot voyage rabiana [Music] if she leaves and doesn't come back yo to zoo she has no boucha he gives her a get five minutes later she's back show my way come on back so we're says about a different case we're talking about in between you that's lush morgito she knows how to receive the get she doesn't come back she has busho benny that's the shirt but she's not good about protecting yourself dubai oh is gracious you could divorce her you could divorce a woman and she knows how to watch her again we said but let's be careful with this one don't let her out you can't divorce her forever you have to take care of her so nobody violates when he talks about the woman you shouldn't let her go you shouldn't you can't be miguel but it says another word it says he becomes a shayta he cannot divorce forever so the quran says why does it add on the word llamas let's see if i have this oh here's the case in the mishnah you have a picaya who marries a pikachu's two normal people later on in life she becomes meshuggah she goes crashes so he could divorce her why could he divorce her because you don't need her dust what if the opposite happens he becomes crazy then he doesn't give a not a crazy becomes a herish he can't give her a get forever so the kimura asks she but what was this question the pink or the blue which one wasn't he sure of why could you divorce a woman or why he can't divorce now the mark brings two reasons why we say one or the other there's a reason for each one she delayed uh was it ibrahimovic she delayed she committed by lay was he asking the question on the ish she delayed she commented the question was on the woman but not on the man i'll prove it to you with the camera light and adorama ish i'm a garage leash when i answer you you answer what's the difference between uh night and day and i tell you well they is different so i'm talking about i'm trying to explain to you why day is different than i not why night is different today the first thing i talk about that's the thing i'm that i have a question i started with the woman he started with the man the man is different so that means the question was on the man says but they calm roulette look what it says here this case of a pikachu pikachu says that she turns into hireshes this case also when the woman becomes a crashes she's she could you can give her a get in other words we're bringing it right to the question what was the question could she receive a get not could he give a get if he becomes but rather could she get a get that's the lassen in the mishnah [Music] in order to get the get you have to have some seiko but the question was maishni in other words the question was on the man healing says the question is on the man and they answered him you're right the man is different the big difference the man doesn't need that the woman needs das have a wonderful day you