Daf Yomi Taanis Daf 31 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] i gotta tell you yesterday was a very very special day but before i go into that i wanna talk about our bar mitzvah boy our misfit boy akiva solway who did a fantastic job i'll keepa get over here for a second please where's your father shouldn't come come here come here as well akiva as you know was in a choir he's a soloist great voice beautiful beautiful laning but more importantly akiva has been an inspiration to all the adults in the sheer he's been here with us since bronchus dave base the baker sits there with his finger on the place day in day out and the adults see it and they're inspired by him so first of all i want to tell you this is a book a safer that musha hirsch and what's his first name mustafsky what's his name they put together all of akiva's divi torah that akiba writes every single week in our hamirkaz they put it together made it a safer and it's a mdy production eight minute and they gave it to him as a gift and i gave out to everybody volume one more to come but if you're wondering how how do you have a kid like this well jeans help a lot but i gotta tell you every morning when i walk here from my home down the block till here i see akiva's father rip shimon standing right over here driving away from the basement in other words he drives to these measures drops off his son and then goes looking for parking he doesn't tell his kid come with me he wants his kid to be in the basement on time and then he looks required usually parks a block away in the parking lot over there not to disturb the neighbors and then and then at the bar mitzvah the rough said the same exact thing the ralph said that rip shipment comes to davening early he has a and when david is about to start he walks back home i don't know how far it is maybe 10 minutes to wake up akiva and bring him back and he said the rough said he has daughters that could do it he decided himself so mazel tov shimon should have a lot a lot of knockouts this is the future gallaudet by the way akiva he's not in but he's accepting offers right now his wife who's my wife's best friend drives more than him okay yes there is tremendous tremendous uh it's the inauguration and the start of something brand new see where the picture is i gotta show you this in a picture oh here it is [Music] we're trying to get yeshiva's involved so the first first achieve i ever spoke at was rationed i said with a group how many guys were there 70 he says out of the 70 boys i mean i'm no rabbi ari ben shushan who got 24. but out of the 70 boys we got 50 guys to sign up 50 guys and gitzi schleifer who's the alumni he's sponsoring all the gemaras i also promise them besides the gemara's we're going to take them to a nice restaurant i'm not going to say the name a nice restaurant so we're looking for a sponsor for that maybe bitsy will jump in on that here's a picture of me and the guys afterwards they're all signing up grabbing gamoras i was also at levatoro unfortunately i don't have any pictures i hope somebody took pictures there you have pictures yeah you should please send me i would have printed tomorrow bazer hashem levatora is a little worried because it was number two in line so i went there also they had about a hundred guys in the room they didn't disappoint over 50 guys signed up from levator as well it's crazy and this is just the first two yeshivas isha torah asked me to come speak to them so maybe we'll speak over there we'll see what happens it's a a new beginning a new page yesterday rabbi sai barking we have a very short draft today it doesn't mean that we're going to get out early today i guarantee we're going to go over time but it does give a little bit of an opportunity to uh do what i typically do on the first daf of the miserta and that is show the human the global seal around the world so over here we have toronto this is what you're talking about oh okay so i do have the picture of toronto over 80 people showed up to the scene in toronto it's a giant screen a nice haul we have what it happened already that's it it happened and today david feinberg the statistician says today is the second year whatever we could just celebrate every day so we started sunday monday this rabbis is a very big big sim club i really wanted to be here unfortunately the trip was cancelled this is the manchester seal but very important if you look right over here this is julie weisfisch he's been a big part just like akiva he's been here from the beginning of brachas he sent in emails we heard his voice he sent him videos so and it was boy by him it was bar mitzvah last night at the cm so tremendous mazda shmuley this is his father over here yid our our in-house sends us the pictures etc in the five towns we had an ico this is beyond schwartz the coordinator this is common of the five towns he's doing his own little thing also he's going to have a nice seal five nancy and here is the one who's pushing that hogan mark campaign and brought mdy to where it is today nassan again is addressing the guys in the chinese restaurant this is like the side room i guess here he is here's the islam so you sure kayak um [Music] i do want to thank by the way behind the scenes just the actress that's going on guys from muncie uncle phil mark pushing this human driving to the seam in the five towns it's it's things that we don't understand but the reset is unbelievable we we very much appreciate it talking about cu mim our assume is tonight right next door in prusian i'm not sure how many people signed up i know i signed up i paid for my family so you don't have to worry about it you can stop sending the emails i paid yeah um i signed up yeah i did it through the thing do you see it avi let me know if you get it all four of us you oh he says he got it gary says all four of us even the little guy even though my two sons don't eat anything just how i pay that what diego's not coming oh maybe maybe well pay afterwards mine is a different story i gotta actually request from arusha shiva that i should bring mando to the scene not joking we'll have to talk about it um [Music] okay um no this is not it this is from david lowenstein hello i wanted to express my appreciation for the donors who sent the copy of myself to mcgill by mail to me guimar's never been a strength of mine i decided to learn again a small way found that they left behind me the last few months okay i didn't know i have to read that i came across a few clips of a valley share after seeing it all for the other day from michigan okay they're from michigan um by the way the first ever cm in melbourne tonight huge go to mdycm.com find out the where how when brooklyn see them raffling off a full art school shots for those because you didn't sponsor it mandy mande all right so look up the broken they sent me a video of the meat it's a table eight feet long and three feet wide just full of meat that's going to be served there ribs and don't ask new york style um i want to read something else here but i don't know where it is oh here's from mike vanmela you guys remember him his house he's the guy from miami he was part of this year and he his house burned down very long email i'm not going to read the whole thing it's been a while since i communicated with you and the camera i just want to let you know that since my house burned down miami was four months ago with hashem's infinite kindness we start to rebuild our lives and everything is going great i want to thank you once again for being my rock during these difficult times and having the merit to partaking you're incredible that's since bragas it's a blessing for me and my family the kitser uman bresliv that's what saved this house i think he's saying over here because it's a school of a lot of stuff uh spiritual material i'll save the books hashem bless you inspired messages in the shamans to learn and grow and tear hashem may continue to add keep adding students daily to ashrae kamehameha much love to you and the team michael bemela and finally those are the swarm up there okay those are the ones okay that's what he said okay hey i'll be in cancun this coming week if any md wires would like to join i see them i'll be sponsoring you kiddish launcher of cancun chakras 945 that's milka in israel followed by the seo and then over here it says a different one i get it from rand need 11 gemaras i just gave out in cancun i got 11 guys in congo and he says over here natural ram but trouble ran his friend friend leon i forgot i pronounced his name f r e u f no that's that's rand all right today's share is sponsored in honor of shimli white's visitors by bar mitzvah piranhas with us today if you don't mind anybody from ray please come here to the front we got here you come come come come everybody's calm you guys there you go in the background let's go with your coffee it's preciated don't worry about it you can get awesome strike i'm right here no no get over here get over here great guys raise your guys and i have to thank tomer levy for coming with me giving out the guimaras who else is from ray guy in the red t-shirt let's go come on he's not ready oh that's levatora levitara you guys levitar lavatory guys come let's go this beef doesn't matter no let's go no come on little thorough let's go what's going on here you got to represent what not oh there's other torah no no not now oh that's right that's that's tomer levy's son you know the totally sound okay fine so ishkar for being there how many guys signed up for real that's 43. 43 i said 50. you make me look bad oh they dropped that somalia fan what's your name ezra we're going to finish shots together or just megillah what is that shot shots all right sit down man let's go [Applause] [Music] by the way dr listaus sponsored 25 000 towards these guimaras but guess what it cost us over 70 000 so if anybody wants to bridge the gap and be a part of this tremendous mitzvah marcos is about thirty five dollars a gamer i don't know what it is online we say twenty five thirty whatever it is every gemara donated well every person that donates a gemara not every gamer every donating one against it so it's double that one gemara please join us sponsormdy.com i think it is yeah let's see mdysponsor.com mdysponsor.com okay now finally you could donate for yeshua bakayin who finished his only messerta rosh hashanah with us last day mistakenly's highness is dedicated by the kessler and davis families refused layman for miriam esterbas the hannah's brothers in honor of the hennessey zebia i'm going to miss that name crispin venezuela families and lazarian for inspiring us to join mdy parents not the last day in honor of and kevin tubby for introducing me to rebellion you guys have to get used to it there's a lot of numbers here solid guys and parents i just saw a picture of this kid it's unbelievable so it's a small little kid how old is the kid a year and a half and his altar zeda vaser shem is going to be messiani themselves for us he's going to say the hadron it's his first first sem ever a very emotional thing gabriel benjamin ben cyril fruma aaron goldscheider schneider of schneider iron girl schneider says here another my son sv for finishing his first daf yao mi misef de gemar tinus mars have been many more in good health and happiness by barry bass he is the mayor of lincolnwood that's where i used to live in honor of my son jordan and maya ba bass naming new baby boy gavriel best now rebecca was fixture in our show he was a holocaust survivor i i was very very close to him for many years and he says he's in henry mitzvah he uh he says over here that he had to learn 200 blood to be accepted remember shapiro's yeshiva lublin and then he survived he married his wife okay against russia here that we all know special man from a special generation i'm just reading this because i knew him very well i i was looking for the picture i have a picture of him and his his uh tattoo on his arm and my children around his unbelievable person um okay by michael bemela in honor of the art side of the russian of wrestling after the hurts stern howard amazing having a leo please read my email i did shirley wasserdale in honor of my wife's nashamah uh no that's not how you read it superior echo edna bass mushroom enough malaysia came out backwards here testimony aleph anonymously but commonly the five thousand we saw israel mendel tuesday night and bring seven new people to learn the daf in common number two for private co-sponsoring last name for shauna and happy birthday my son uri zev by mary rosenberg in honor of f146 and we're talking we're going to get to the learning soon f202 finishing in hopes that f238 joins by david dimbert i love this one in honor of all the people who have brought someone else to the sheer yes all the sponsors and now finally for the last final daf it's a tremendous day for us it's a beautiful day we're holding i don't know count it 12 lines from the battle we'll call it guessing on the two most special days of the year yom kippur and tubal and on those days the mission goes on to say by the way huge mishna which actually equals up to eight mishnais if you open up the mishnahs but an hour kumar is only one and it's all the way at the end of the mishnah describing these mishnai the these days now what's so special about these days is that the girls that needed shidduchim they would go out and they would dance they all wore the same clothing they would borrow clothing from each other it was a situation of shidduchim if i even said it as a joke recommended such a thing that would shut down the sheer but that's how it was in the time of the gemara bishop what's so special about yom kippur it's a very special day we're here in this world to accomplish to grow closer to hashem to do mitzvos and if unfortunately we do have various we need to atone for those sins and various and we have a special day called him kippur obviously with chuva but with that day we achieve atonement we achieve pure mercila rashi goes through the whole judgment if anybody wants to see mushroom was up for 80 days came down any kipper in fact rashford says the reason why yum kippur was established as the day of kapara is because that's when you mushroom came down from shamayim and was assigned to christ while hashem forgave him for the eagle that was the sign he's down he's back he's here he achieved he asked for chuva for 40 days straight he asked for forgiveness hashem listen to him and that's why that day is him kipper turns out on test this right now you think that on a day like yom kippur we're fasting and we go to show these girls that are in shidduchim have no business dancing in the street looking for shidduchim this is the beginning of yoga asking it doesn't make any sense it's not it's not purim it's your kipper from here how important it is to get married the kashivas of the mitzvah of getting married and even on the holiest holiest day that's what they did [Music] hello of mahi what's going on with tubov so the gemara gives us six reasons now it doesn't mean that they contradict each other just different traditions to the reason huh yes mindy hope ever it's just to say over oh okay you don't even know what i'm saying but i got rashos you heard him you heard him the first answer is that it's such a special day because that's the day that the shvatim were allowed to marry each other that's the day that binyamin shaiba biyamin khleistral swore that they never marry into the yemen we're going to get into it that's the day that they became mother that's the day that the generation of the midbar stopped dying in the midbar that is the day that clydesdale was allowed to continue being utterly regular going up to the base of mikdash that is the day that those who died and murdered in battar were buried finally i forgot how long it was over a year that their bodies were laying there we'll see that and finally tavr mago that is the day of big yandev and we're going to that as well that clay straw every year stopped cutting the wood for the miss bath and it's a big sim card we'll talk about it for me and mendy it's a huge those two words we spoke about these words many many times it's a thing and i'll go into that also tavr mago mindy and i says now the day that the shivatim will see over here it says in the passover the third tells us israel even the women who inherit part of earth israel we didn't want that their land should go to another shaven we want to keep it within that shavit so it says you don't want to move you want to keep the real estate within the family if a woman doesn't have brothers and she inherits her father's real estate and then she marries a man in another shave it what's going to happen the real estate is going to move he's going to inherit her her children will inherit her and it's going to go to another shavit will i see something and the gamer says in a second that that only applied to that generation but later on claire's role was able to marry each other so what happens is the karen oyer says keronoira that this is the idea and we we understand if you look around the room here you see all sorts of yarmulkas different types of people ashkenazims fired him young old hasidim lit fox lobovichers we have bresla the whole thing this this is a day that when all of clydesdale can marry each other you have pure actos it's not oh we're sticking we're going to be snobbed to the other schwa it's only us everybody marries each other that actos causes the shrino to be shahira when there's actors throughout all of claudia's role that's the sim card now i can marry somebody else there's plenty of people to marry in this shape it but when we have that actors we all get together and we we enjoy each other's simchas that's when that's when the shrina is going to rest on khloe israel what's that what do you mean no it goes by the father shave it always stay the real estate is going to disappear fine that's what happened today there's no everybody's everywhere you could buy any any property anywhere my dharush why did all of us on a change says a few it says that this is a commandment that gave to the daughters of he didn't have any sons he had four daughters five five daughters and that's it this is a special day also to above because this is a day that all of clay israel were able to marry shiva bin yaman what happened the famous story pillages but whoever doesn't know the story will repeat it what happened was there was a man who married a p leggish concubine thank you i knew something like that but i have whatever it didn't sound good concubine yeah she for whatever reason she had some sort of dispute with her husband and she ran away to her father's house so he went after her he tried to get her back and her father his father-in-law said stick around there for a few days so he stuck around he wanted to leave he kept them schlepping him out stay another day sir finally get up he got upstairs i'm leaving and he left at night and he tried to find a place to sleep and he was in bin yaman and nobody would take him in he was sitting outside over there and nobody would look at him and he had food he had his donkeys he had wine everything he needed he didn't have a place to sleep finally all the elderly man took him in and as he's getting ready to go to sleep some bad guys in the neighborhood said bring this guy out like he's done they wanted to have relations with him and manage like light the guy said take my daughter and this he said take my pillage instead finally he gave his p leggish to these men and whatever they did to her she came back dead she ended up she ended up dying after the night she he opens up the door here she is lifeless body this guy married to the luggage takes his p leggish woman chops her up into 12 pieces and sends a piece to each part of classroom teacher says look what they did to my wife to my p luggage i guess if you just send the messenger and say hey they killed my wife hey nadashmi when you have a chart you have something you see it in with your eyes you see a bat what is this is a arm why is your arm here because somebody killed my wife and that really upset clyde's role and they said give us they demanded to give christians should give up these people these bad guys and they wouldn't they protected them so they said if you don't give them up we're going to go to war and they went to war and they destroyed they wiped out being there's hardly anybody left maybe 600 people whatever it was nobody left and that then they swore and here's the possibility nobody can marry nobody could give their daughter to the yaman and then it was bad news for beyonce they're going to be wiped out so they had to change it but they swore maidorish omarov me we swore about us but our sons the next generation could marry in they allowed that and then mela it was a yanta again actors bringing back the yemen into clay's role and that's a jantiv that we celebrate two above and that's why i guess it's like uh because we are because it's a day that they married in so it's a day that we also do shidduchim et cetera [Music] maid okay we said rabbit khanom this is the day that the people in the mid bar stop dying so it's one of my favorite shot and favorite divi torah but here it is mufous in the gemara so we got to repeat it and we have a short almond so what happened was we had 600 000 men from the age of 20 to 60. and because of the khada miraglum every single year there was a cruise that went out and said dig your grave and all six hundred thousand people with the graves six hundred thousand graves go in and fifteen thousand of the six hundred thousand wouldn't come out and every year another 15 000 people would die until finally the final year there's only 15 000 left they dug 15 000 graves they knew they're gonna die they went into the grave and they didn't die even though hashem swore that they're all going to die and they're not going to go into there's israel and then the big question is why didn't they die and the answer is because they divined really well but the question is did everybody diving and what about the year before when there was only 30 000 left and 30 000 people dug the grave and only fit they knew that 15 are gonna die the answer is that when you know that you have zero chance then your fila is so much greater than when you have a 50 chance even though you know you have 50 people say it's not me i'm going to be lucky today i'm not going to die so the fila is not that powerful when you when when you know for certain you see it happening for 40 years straight every single year 15 000 the fila is unbelievable we can take that as a lesson i don't know how how do you come to that massive but if you can say this is it you understand it says shem and only hashem and there's nothing else you could survive even then nobody's going to survive dominar actually call of macy midbarlow deep hashem refused to speak too much when everybody died off then hashem started to talk to mushroom again why so the tysons and baba bashar says and believe it or not it's a little rallying that pisces is a breast lift because paisley says that the reason why hashem didn't speak too much rabbenu is because mushrooms us they were sad and when christopher said there's no shrino yeah why she says [Music] no just i'm just referring to the rabbi adler who uh mentioned me and by the way i didn't leave i had a i was not feeling well and i left before his speech i didn't even come back from myers so it wasn't personal but i heard that he mentioned that he said something about simcha and uh so i was addressing that it seems like simcha existed a little bit before uh but okay whatever fight so i want to tell you a beautiful beautiful thing here i wanted to say the other day but park hashem i left it for today because now we have some guests i want them to hear this unbelievable asks what happened there with the with the miragum this is all because of the head of miragum but what happened you have to understand you're talking about clydesdale who saw the greatest nissim that who ever performed everything so all of a sudden the moroccan come back and say hey this giant center is strong hashem says you're going to move go there it's all everything's going to be fine so because a couple of tall people over there strong people you're all out of whack they saw all the needs and so what's the giant person it's nothing hashem could take care of them in a second he split the water they saw matara they saw so why are they so worried so science is an amazing thing he says that and this says is the khetamaraglim of year 2021 we are in the head of miragum also he says why the miraculous avaria was that they doubted themselves they said we sinned and because we sinned we're not worthy we were worthy yesterday when we were mitzraying but not anymore we're sinners we did this the egg alright we're not worthy anymore if we're not worthy we don't deserve to go on terrorist trouble says that's our sin what do people say say oh the torah is not for me for that guy not for me people have to understand that it's for everybody all you need to do is hop it you grab it and you'll be a benoit on my ball and i want to read to you this little piece that has to do with us it's a mistake to begin with the torah didn't obligate tyra didn't say that you have to learn all day and night you shouldn't go out and work rakshi basically the torah is telling you work but put set aside time for tyra first make sure your business dealings are with honesty and then set aside time for daffy i mean and he goes on to say but that's the end of the piece all right that's in uh if you want to look up the whole piece says the amara russia but he allowed clag israel to go up to the bay san migues and worship hashem bring her bodies the big russia of him involved was a greater russian than him put out the marshals the cops on the way you couldn't go up to usually this year two yalu by the way you know why gossip service has struck them happen because yes hoshide been ela allowed kaiser all to go up to the base of middle school was great but they didn't go and because they didn't go so from a good thing came out a bad thing actually but why don't you take the opportunity when you have an opportunity jump on it do it there's another's after you see you got to jump on opportunities there's no turning into that rev master omar okay this house sponsored by iron stroke in honor of my parents josh and he almost stroke it's a half a sponsorship sponsored anonymously as a suppose for shidduchim for my siblings and myself you know what we already said it so arabic the first time we did a turning of the daf not the turning of the deaf says no omar listen to this one we're finally we're getting to the end another reason why why we are celebrating two above so we know about the bakokova rebellion and it's right here next to the chemist if you go to the baklava cage right how far away is it by car seven minutes away from the chemist you can go into this case don't recommend it highly claustrophobic you have to like crawl on all four and go but that's how the jews lived and right after that revolt there was daruge batar they captured bethar killed everybody if you look at tyson's over here tap taiswas says something incredible very sad it says leficia haywood they took the bodies and built fences with them and they they didn't smell these bodies they didn't have so um the bracha that we see in brick and summers in the fourth part of burkisa muslim was only invented by by when they were able to bury the rookie marches this is good on top of that he gives us even more goodness than what is the entire year that these bodies are laying around and their defense of the enemy they didn't smell the hammative and they allowed us to finally bury all these many bodies rabbits this is the day that clay is roll finished cutting the wood for the misbehave no my boy they stop chopping with chop chop chop today's stop chopping so so one shot is rashbom says that it's the end of a mitzvah and how appropriate is it for today when you finish your mitzvah the taises young says it's like when you finish a part of the torah that you make a big seal that's what he says on this shot on this gemara it's the same when you complete a mitzvah a great mitzvah of bringing wood to the vehicle you make you see it reminiscent of einstein says so if they made a big ceo why wasn't there a big meal like we're having tonight in prussia like they did in toronto and the faraway and all these other places no anybody have a good answer why didn't they make a sudo it was a big mitzvah but they didn't make a suita why listen to this cop because not everybody did the entire mitzvah everybody did a part of the mitzvah everybody brought one piece of wood you needed all that wood when we make a scene we finished the entire messerta it's reminiscent not me the villain guy improves from here you are there regimen vault that when you do finish on this when we finish you make us from this gimbal right over here so says ramaisha based on on the vilnigan any time a person finishes a safer of tanakh you make you see him that's what he says but gershom says when gershom says that the reason is because they were busy chopping wood and when you chop wood you can't learn tara and when you finish chopping wood all of a sudden you have all these extra hours in the day to learn tara that's the simcha it's tremendous i could start learning a small portion of clients from because they were able to celebrate it became young if everybody the girls go out and get married says again from the 15th day of and on the sun gets weaker starts becoming winter cars and invasion we know if the wood is not dried the worms worms are possible for the mizbaya so they stop cutting the wood then they occur in innovation it's the day that they broke their axes they don't need axes anymore they put the axes away they're able to go to the vice marriage and learn tyro four and a half years ago over four and a half years ago i'll play the exact date may 23rd 2017. i was sitting next to ramen the arab who sitting right here next to me there's been a partnership from day one right over here remember give me your hand so they see in the video this guy right over here that your head is in it go back a second oh he's he's remending the guy with the beard yeah we're sitting and learning how to remember the day because i made a sign from i used to do simone gemara hazel a bunch of times and my cement for that daf it's a bad cinnamon it was just for me it's cardum ice it's the the these uh axes i don't even know if he knows it that was my thing why mandy turned to me and he's like ellie i want to do what you do he's busy selling diamonds every day i'm telling you a true story my sister i don't know he gave me rashos he doesn't even know what i'm about to say but he gave me rachel's i'm saying it i know that he's he's a very private person i'm going to be moving robin but it's going to be latte ellis he's sitting right over here you can ask him he told me he says ellie i want to do what you do you sit in real estate you have passive income i want to sit and learn more hours a day he was learning the whole first saturday with us you wanted to learn second say there also he he was learning with mike then if you do the kramer and then i started learning with him and we used to sit together it was a nice that itself is a nice i walked into the beast membership and he small i didn't know what i was doing i didn't know what show to go to i picked maeshua i don't know why i sat down and i sat down within a kylo that happens to be the cu the club that we run today for mdy sat in the coil right next to these guys learning the daf i didn't know i want to learn daffy i mean he started he tells me he wants to do it he wants to be tougher muggle he wants to spend more time learning torah so that became the thing cover mango mendi what are you going to do with tavr mango power mago one day he comes he says that's it i'm tougher mago i sold every diamond i own and he had a lot and he had these diamonds that he couldn't sell for five six ten years did you ever sell that diamond no way the yellow one the big giant yellow one show a new vaio we got to learn he sold it all and he bought real estate i don't know if he's doing well or not but i know that he's sitting in my spanish all day he's part of yeshiva now his dream came true because he put his mind to it and he said he wants to spend more time learning torah less time in the business he still does business he's that but more time learning torah tavar mago or boy's eye you could also do it fine next let's talk to kimono i wasn't even going to say meant to get over here there's no way we get over it no way in the world you have to know mehndi only guy everybody else here yes not mendy corelli listen to this from this day on the voice of yosef if you add torah you're going to add life to your life real life with deloitte myself and if you don't add torah you get those extra hours so you retire and what do you do when you retire you sit and watch the stock market what does it mean yosef um his own mother will bury him in other words he won't live his his full life you got to take advantage of what a qabar who gives you next shabam i promise you that we're not going to finish early today don't worry about it should have been nice you shall enter about the basement in order not to embarrass those who don't have clothing each girl borrowed from another girl even the daughter of the king the daughter of the king with the whole wagon and the throne the whole thing she goes and she borrows okay not from the peasant but from the one below her she tells me about coin goddamo from daughter that's going to be gun and it goes down in line uber's you know there's no now it's part of the announcements whoever is fearful of going to war ever built the house whoever got married whoever planted it vineyard don't go to war so part of that was every jewish girl borrows from each other today look at this idea is me there's a concept and we can use it for our life as well don't embarrass those who don't have by the way i just just hit me now i don't like this rule but in my son's school in america they won't understand what we're talking about but in my son's school you're not allowed to bring snack to school because there are many kids in the class that can't afford snack so that they shouldn't be embarrassed and your school's also akiva you you all could afford it okay great but at my son's school my son is very upset because that's all he eats basically so he's about to machine call i came to him so all these dresses in the time of the gemara and the time of the misamidas they used to take their clothing and put it in the mikvah like we put a cleaner mikvah if there's tuma carry need or whatever it is you have to be tied with these caleb so all the dresses had to go into the mikvah um even if you buy a brand new dress you put it in the mikvah why not embarrass those who actually really do need fila so instead of a girl asking the other girl do i have to be titled this dress across the board every dress goes into the mikvah no questions asked you're just title they they dance in the vineyards literally dance tana mishael isha niffnelsham if you don't if you don't have a wife you go over there this by the way there's a big school today if you don't have a wife you go tamuko and they say that ever since they put the majitsa on the bus that's ghoul doesn't work so well anymore i was looking for a good shot here i didn't have a really good shot in the sugar how does it work exactly did they really say it not but i saw one i didn't see this inside i'm just to me it made sense that no matter what you see you should always look for the positives everybody has a myla and look for the positives this one has that this one is this sorry the ugly ones what do they say literally mikhail is ugly i saw that in the time of there's no such thing as a as a jewish girl that's ugly but it just means out of poverty they're not put together and that makes them and that might explain right what's going on here in the next line take your mecca your your mecca your purchase whatever it is not the the what acquisition very good that's a good word acquisition do it for hashem listen to the chutzpah marry me i'm very ugly please marry me but by the way give me a lot of gold you have to give me a lot of jewelry what is going on here so first of all according to that shot that they're not really ugly just they don't come across very put together so give them give them a little jewelry and they'll be put together like the rich ones but rabbi angela golinski says he says this girl is diving so hard for shidduch she knows she doesn't have everything going for her and she needs a lot of seattle once she's dialing for seattle shem you know what give me guy that has a lot of money also have a wonderful day guys skype for joining we'll see you tonight we'll finish up the message what time is it tonight i don't know but look at mdy.com 7 30 see you myra you