Daf Yomi Sotah Daf 5 by R’ Eli Stefansky

Mordecai so we had a guy a couple weeks ago I read his email he was a very nice person who offered a thousand dollars a thousand dollars towards uh the mdy kids and he signed off anonymous and I read his name so you wrote me an email yesterday because we learned the sugilities shouldn't hate your friend and I said the Rama says it shouldn't be in your heart and if you say that loud then you're okay not over the the thing so here goes his email your belly I hate you you wronged me on the Durham daf 90. taking the death on myself okay asking if people send me emails they should know that I will sometimes use their name even though it says anonymous especially when it's deserving John pickle John pickle happens to be I see this from Barbara Parks and shops that's how he signs up I'm still in shocked for my Abby mandelbam's hero when I heard the news the first thing that came to my mind was the line we heard from him on Zoom are they after the big state of minded see him he said this was one of the most beautiful events I've ever experienced in my entire life again Abby is a big part of this year always a cute story a good line to Share was always in good spirit but this shows how the that's changing person obviously knowledgeable person a pharmacist expressed this that this was one of the beautiful beautiful events of his entire life so let's try to hop around the precious times and learn to die with Joy's mentioned lately if a guy with stage four cancer can do it everyone can side note he was also about the quinoa should help us Tommy from Barber Park since Chavez oh I just wanted to thank you and all the mdy staff for all the wonderful work you're doing is I have a wonderful day of Danielle that's it I have to ask I mean if you're watching this tomorrow that's one thing but here in Chicago has a lot of technical difficulties razor Hashem is going to be a lot smoother of Remy landed in Houston and for Ramirez I'm asking Michaela for holding you up for at least a half hour last time we'll try to make uh I'll try to make it up a little bit the kylo sponsored by Anonymous from Lakewood the coil is sponsored by Ruben Kleiner my daughter at least becoming College from Toronto Paris by his West Side friend foreign now that I see this for the very first time that I've already sponsored today I have to give him public I got a box of beautiful wines two wines very expensive wines Eric Chavez and I told my wife this must be some guy from New York I don't think Chewy Davis from Chicago sure enough operator sent me the two bottles very expensive stuff will use them to stay there and reception Avenue he's actually related to my mother somehow like a cousin or something to successfully pass the fire inspection tomorrow graduate and he was passing the fire inspection third of the day the Zach family I mentioned this at the seam and I want to mention this again if you are new to the program you just started you one of the 700 people that started and maybe we'll get more people today at the uh Shiva House of our good friend I'm gonna give out some Gamers over there because it was his gemaras he sponsored them so give them out we had a couple of boxes left so if you're one of those people we have uh three thousand dollars for an incentive it's a thousand dollars maybe let's call fifteen hundred dollars for if you start and finish site them you finish we take your word for it you go into a raffle for fifteen hundred dollars and if you're the person you're the molandi or the other guy out there that went out the Champions who got people to join you also enter into a raffle fifteen hundred bucks if your guy is still doing it now the reason why I mentioning it now because we know we're going into yantev a three-day Adventist it's extremely difficult to stick with it that's where a lot of people fall off the bandwagon so keep that in mind some ways to overcome it and do it but if you can't do it you really feel behind skip ahead that is the number one trick that I know of and so many people said if you skip ahead you don't you're not a perfectionist I need to finish everything if I don't finish every dive I won't be in the Wrath or whatever forget that skip ahead and go with the island wherever they are eventually you'll make it up right before the end of this image and everything will be good now a lot of people because I'm in Hoots Lawrence and there's issues with the recordings and so the big trick is if you subscribe to YouTube you will get the unedited version at any time even before it's uploaded a lot of people are waiting for the uploaded version of the share so if you subscribe to YouTube I'm not just saying it so we have more subscribers if you subscribe you get that added benefit they just go in there and you can pick up the share this year that's being uh what's the word trans whatever it is what we're doing right now we're uploading now you'll get this version before you'll save edits it the unedited version if you have to be subscribed though we're also on Old off but I don't think they have that that uh the feature color Sean Tara anytime the whatsapps all that but that usually comes out Spotify telegram by the way everybody say finally tonight there's a cm in Miami and the reason why it's tonight for Michael bench push it off to encourage and welcome all the New Yorkers and all the out-of-state people that are coming to Florida they could have a CM tonight so tonight check it out at uhmdycm.com you'll see where it is some Sparty show it's tonight and it's only I think 18 or something mdycm all right today we're doing a beautiful sugya of all about guy van of course guy that doesn't apply to any of us in the room it's that other guy that we know we're all on the highest level and out of another so we're just gonna read why and learn why that other guy is a bad guy nothing to do with us now what is gaiva discuss this all the time maybe do me a favor sit over there please okay we can't sit over there so everything's good what is Guyver is what a person thinks to himself this physically in his mind he thinks himself that he's better than somebody else that he deserves more than somebody else that other people should respect him it's not going to do with the way he acts although it is part of it the way he acts but it's in his mind so a person is very wealthy and he thinks look at me I have all this wealth people should respect me when I come to the show people should honor me they should give me the better Aliyah that is guybo you know better than anybody else because you are wealthy you're no better than anybody else because you're strong you're better in basketball because you know a lot of Torah that does not make you better than anyone else but the second you think that you are better than anybody else it's my shove in your head your boys say think about if a guy goes with his nose up in the ear it doesn't necessarily mean he's about Guyver but means that he thinks in his mind that he is better he doesn't realize that every human being is created equal and we're all the same gave somebody a gift he's a certain way and he has a certain gift that does not make him any better than anybody else and as soon as he thinks that he's better than somebody else who has a beautiful voice and no one in the room has a voice like him and he thinks he's better than them that is gaivana's path okay you see a lot of wealthy people that walk around like this they can walk in the show whenever they feel like that is diver okay now that we know that we can uh let me just go back a second I want to share with you today's art oh here we go so we have here a few people on the days and this guy he's the MC what an amazing voice I have why do you think they chose me over the other singers that is Guyver this guy right over here look at all these networks these peasants in the in the audience there's a reason they're honoring me oh yeah you know better just because you're better looking you have more money than the other guy doesn't make you a better person and finally the Russia himself what is supposed to be the greatest me the recipient that was his tire reward look at all these amaratsim over here okay that's guyvera boys I think a lot of people make a mistake and they think different people are about a guy but they don't realize that it has to do with what the person inside things a lot of times we don't know what the person is Thinking Inside oh my God you can't give a person uh a punishment thank you unless you warn them and we spoke about how terrible Guyver is and a person of agaiva they'll do this to him that to him I'll take him away from this world all these things but where's the where's the Hazara where's the warning I'm a series listen carefully don't be Hardy you're you're going to be haughty your heart and you're going to forget about me 10 word pen hence be careful don't forget Hashem [Music] anytime it says one of these three words either is it says there was a Yeshiva guy who they read him a lot he went nah nah so finally the chaplain said you know I have the perfect girl for you he said listen no says you know you know what your problem is you're about Guyver you need to take some lessons in Anova so you went one of the special classes in Anova Anova finally he graduated with a diploma of another comes back to him and says no what about the girl I read you all the way then right before you think of the classes he says what are you crazy if she wasn't good for me then now that I'm on off of course she's not good for me foreign [Music] he heard this shot from both Reviving and revasi but when he was directly in front of the river Asis told me the music's name is a person who Swati Hashem will put him down who loses money he'll be another like all the other Nevis those people those peasants he made fun of the guys that sit and Coach when he sits in the business class those peasants he'll be one of them at so here's the possible so I'm showing this person because we're going to be directioning the last words the Quran what does that mean has it affect us the guy who's Hardy mad is gonna be low okay Hobie one of the peasants it doesn't mean that he's gonna be dead the third word over there Nano means he's gonna be gone gonna get rid of it but if a person is true of a person that's true from anything is however long life like a ramaphino says oh I just did this real quickly so you guys can see I have problems we say it in benching right but call Miko call what does that means oh that the word call by by it's like a room live but if he doesn't do true then the top of the barley is going to snap off my roshi boilers what does it means so I I just I put it here so you can see the barley has like on top of the kernels you see on the right side it says she boilers those are the grain that's the grain but then you have hairs that stick out the salsa that's like a beard is what it means that it breaks off what's going to break off exactly like to hear the beard of the shibalas of the barley no like the actual barley itself on the right side if you're selling this is like the head of the Bible is person farmer comes in and looks around she's gonna take the barley that's well done that's the largest one and goes around the field and takes the highest one who looks around whose nose is highest up in the air who has the highest Hamburg or whatever it is that's the guy he takes he takes away from this world okay I'm just I'm saying over the most famous mices when it comes to guy about there's a a new bakra that came to Yeshiva and they were working like it was in Keller working on our novel so the Elder bucker says Ah I'm such a nothing and I was like the other story but in a different way I'm such a nothing says the guy that was there for two years he says I'm also such a nothing says the new guy he hears them say he says you know I'm also nothing so three guys they look at each other and say what a he's only here for two days he already thinks he's a nothing Monster Legends some people got it some dinner very interesting Athletics what is this yeah beautiful is listening but if he is you should know that the buttons on my computer are not working today I don't know why it's only your butt it's great I'll just show you real quickly a Remy made me this little guy it's called a stream decks I have on this is what I use in the spiritual so I have a little guy I'm able to control the screens from distance it even has I don't know if you can see him it has a little picture of me here so that means if I push that you see me okay made it very easy you see this person my Marvel College it's a famous person you say a lot okay whatever I forgot this is here because who says I'm gonna be with the one that's down tried and maybe that's the word I'm gonna be with him but where how is he gonna how is Hashem gonna be with him we have two options either Hashem is going to uplift that the guy that asked by another is gonna uplift him to him bring him up so to speak to shamane or that because who's going to come down and be with him down here which one do you think it is Hashem decided to do matantara on this on the lowest mountain and our Sinai he didn't bring harcina up to him he came down to the low all right a person should always emulate voice it's beautiful this boy who came down to harcina so you go down you you try to be go down also I don't even know why it's in parentheses it says an aside that's in parenthesis because it's not brought down in the Enya but the restraine do bring this game who made the snareware on the lowest kind of bush on the little uh on the secret you could have done a beautiful nice tree no could have been on the nice trees by the way I don't know here in America do we have uh London see out here not yet another nice so just as a reminder a person who has haughtiness we said yesterday that a person that acts with haughtiness is like asherah is a tree that was worshiped as of a desire you have to chop it down he'll have any hand off from it you take the guys that are horny chop them down and there are trees that share your trees you have to chop them foreign so this is very very severe voice like this when I saw this this is shocking a person is about gaiva doesn't wake up to three is amazing we learned about all these punishments against this they are even death no but at least he has a future person who's a guy who's about foreign and he doesn't have an answer as places if it's true it doesn't have tsmasim so how come he's not brought down and when you say these are the Jews that don't have Chris amazing one two three it doesn't bring down I don't know this is by the way I forgot to tell the oil it's going to be another share tonight I don't know exactly when uh you say I could come here 10 o'clock because that's always doing something in that solar room right here 10 o'clock I'll be back if anybody wants to join great not not I'll be talking to myself I guess it's better than talking to myself in my in my house but really by myself well at least I pretend there's a big rooms you guys are pretend you're still here okay but I'm just saying that because one who gave me a tremendous matano unlike three years ago when I was giving three room and then I pushed it off all the way to airpeza I don't know why I had to give three sure passive literally and it was in Chicago now I had a little bit more Seiko I started preparing and I'm gonna do like instead of three air paid stuff I'll only do whatever pesos and tonight I'm gonna do that test and tomorrow I'm gonna do that field also and then that will be for the three-day yantef it's a three-day under anyway but the Nay says that it's all I've got it flows it's easy it's just easy stuff Doors Down did I say this yet hold on foreign from a distance doesn't act like us humans a person who's in high stature we see this all the time we see in the show we see it in our communities the millionaires hang out with the millionaires the so-called Navas there they might be on a higher level in a million but you know who I am I own the X amount of this and I want that you know I'm not going to choose with you you're nothing so that's how humans act that clicks you know it's normal that clicks in school and Yeshiva in business and life in short s the guy who thinks he's high up there right yes Shuffle he doesn't look down at the the lower people who deals with each and every one even the little ones when I say low I don't mean people without money I mean low in terms of what Hashem looks at low prison so if you have various you know about life Hashem still deals with him he gives him and gives him hell and and if you go over that person's life person has Holiness cannot live in the same world guess who wins if he can live with you you're not going to be pushing him out my friend it doesn't work like that person who is holiness I can't be with him some say this goes on people who speaks interesting myself that I saw once a guy can't understand said Robbie I need help I'm about guy if I need help what should I do he says what should you do you know what sit outside for a few minutes it's outside the guy comes in I ask him a good passion learning so Russian said oh good question let me go request that guy outside he could answer he goes That's the guy outside and the guy's like uh five a few minutes later another guy came into their statement and asked him a Shiloh about nursing homes this study says you know nursing home is the guy outside he understands about business well ask him those asks him I don't know if nursing homes this nothing the kids are like this he left in the cooking there for like 20 minutes the guy comes back in entertainment tells him no oh he says she was sent the guy to ask me cash and learning so other things I don't understand learning Universe money you don't have 80s in in Psychology you don't know so why is this about guy but what do you have that you're such about no but it hit home like and what do we have why are research about a guy but what do we have it's the same thing oh because you're a little bit wealthier than the other guy you're nothing you know nobody sitting next to the Bill Gates you're nobody in learning you definitely hear nothing I'll show you 25 people they're a thousand times bigger than your learning and so it's in what are you you're such a big problem that's why you think that you're better than other we're all nobodies we're all on the same level in China fight next call on them person has gaiva he gets all messed up by little wind Jonathan stupas he will love this one because he made fun of me and I'm putting that the wind that came that I have to close the the Windows like now you know that a b because he was making little noise bothers me okay the guy has a little a little that's a ruach the the even though wind will knock him over like we'll mess with him we see it all the time people about one little thing doesn't go well for them a little delay they start they they throw a tantrum that's what it is shot him are like the like the ocean um ocean is made out of at least a few reveals because if it doesn't have a few uh reveals which is then it'll be just like a puddle so in order to make it yum you need a serious amount of water a little storm is created by by wind and the big massive waves although I'm sure anybody else well the person only has one reveals says Rashi we know that a person can be sustained by one review is dumb and that's why one reveals Dam says because that's considered enough fish that's considered let me get out of here okay if a wind can mess with the ocean certainly the wind will mess with him the famous famous foreign why because to be a pushover every guy is going to give him literally make fun of him he has to have some stalks a little bit once in a while to imagine a rock that's Mama you know everybody laughs at him and he doesn't say a word so once in a while people have to know that you have to respect him I saw a beautiful going the villain going says now it says the famous puzzle saying that I'm worried that perhaps my husband things that I've done in the past got me to here so that's the villain going doesn't that guy have a little bit you say wow look what I did for Hashem says that it's permitted to go backwards and say look I've done XYZ five but to go forward you can you can't use it for the future you can say Hashem I did XYZ so give me this and this and that you say look I understand that perhaps because I learned a lot of Tyra all these years so Hashem saved me from that terrible disease I had whatever you could go back and make a husband but to go forwards and take myself so therefore save me that's not good says the villain of God why because the eighth Parish Empire in homos braces and it's the eighth parcel that you're allowed to have because I have but he can't have something else you can't have the future another girl some completely unrelated related very much related but in a different place completely he says that higher C9 was 500 ammo like a thousand feet tall heart Tovar is is for paracetal for parcel each Paris is 8 000 ammo four times eight thirty two thousand ammo divided by eight divided by it again is 500. is an eighth of an eighth of Heart of Art that's where you see the SRI vishwin is finally I just want to tell you I myself from I I was very moved by this myself story not uh I I appreciate these stories that are not like that she saw this and it didn't mind if it's that just a simple story somebody told him that there's a a person that was nifter and there's a lot of you saw him and maybe you could call up and uh they call them up now you have to know never used his title of rough never said I'm a robe cause of these kids this kid excuse me with him he says you know I am no my name is harav Shrine from your saliva you ever heard of me he says no he says well when people talk ask you you say you tell them because he wanted to be Menachem the kid he wanted the kid to understand that a hush of a person called him so for that he used the shmina's in life in general he never used it but to make a kid feel better he used the The Smiths I thought it was a beautiful thing in other words once in a while you have to know when to take it out and use it don't always be a serious honor like that um foreign if a person has zero Giver put him in here it's interesting you would appreciate Josh you might even know what I'm talking about you probably will yesterday I had a conversation with somebody here in Chicago I said you know you did me a crate you know you changed my whole life my trajectory of my life and I want you to come once to this year live share he never wants to come so you got to come once and I want to introduce you he said no never so I told him listen if you come and I tell the story because oh let me think let me think after half an hour he tells me I thought about it no so I told him this gamara without even knowing that was here I didn't see it yet I told him this idea and I think it's the same so listen you're big on off we all know you're big on off but if you never ever use it in any situation then it might pass a spell on all your novel if once in a while you use it and 99 of the time you don't use it now you're a lot of but now if you can't even do this you're not none of us okay so you have a personality defect that you're always you always you know you never do it that doesn't doesn't mean you're not off here also if a person has a lot of guys if a person never uses it not even a little bit sometimes you have to know when to stick up and say hey no numbers have zero zero anger it's also not good sometimes if so if he sees somebody yes you know get angry to be zero if something's not good put him again for that all right I don't have anything to do with gaiva not even us why it's dangerous I'm going to use the shmish you never know I might not control myself I might go even more okay and he explains is it so simple what it says so small what it says Abomination it's the it's disgusting I don't want to have anything to do with it I'd rather be in here he says then that's what comes out I'd rather be a hair and then use any guy put me there I don't want to be able guy a person's diving doesn't work elom K Mason Levi okay boss let's be soft like flesh if you like will be heard so here the sukim when it comes to taras that we discussed the other day well yeah well both if you see over here in this position it says butter and also says heal the the actual Terrace will heal but it says Buster Buster heals the other one says the kids are it doesn't mention anything about healing when it comes to assassins what does the word Adam stand for dust ashes dumb Moro bio basar so a person has to remember when a person starts becoming horny look at me look at everything I achieved think about how bad you are going to smell it's a terrible odor nothing's left from a person it's just blood bile and dust that's it bus or what does Buster stand for Rima it's an embarrassment smelly wormy you're saying the bus or base sin rage stands for smelly is a sama a lot of times samach and sin are interchangeable but I I rather use something a word that starts with the sin and that's sha oil means the grave deep down Columbus all the way in the bottom of the amod the person that's wanting this at the end he's gonna there's gonna be a demise he's gonna be go lower and lower is a lotion of being high up acas voice it's the lotion of being hot then subservient to be TOEFL to something to be secondary your family is no longer going to do that right over there you're gonna have to come and ask for them so you're gonna be subservient so in other words if you're so let's look at the two first words of them Villa says when you are haughty you think you're all the way up there it's going to bring you all the way down you're going to be subordinate you're going to be secondary or maybe should have been like the kids the bottom line is at the end of everything it doesn't pay to be about Guyver himself who rewards the on of and punishes the MacGyver all right we should have been lady I'm seriously look around you see people die but you don't understand what's going on here the guy because he has a little bit of a Stella so he thinks he's gonna wear a different type of a a jacket and a different this and a different dad and he has 25 hasidim and now he became it's it's almost humorous you look at it it's like you're laughing this guy he he's really better than everybody else here in what what made him better and it goes as you can really and there's three good boy I'm holding him up because his mom's gonna fall down he's 25 years old he's about to fall he's holding him up the sugar was like what's going on here or maybe show up and leavey boy Ray comical darling oh the sponsor you want to stop your camera and then keep on going we'll stop for a second and go turn off on um the members of the HPA group and their families look how much loves those who are humbles a person brings one carbonyl he gets whatever the award is for bringing a carbon Island you bring something that costs less 100 points you get 100 points but if a person is does everything foreign path he has a special um frequency that goes directly because it's not going to be embarrassing this person who has a late nishbar a broken heart vinitkin is downtrod very shortly call Hashem it's a shin over here Shaw means to evaluate to praise if a person looks at his deeds and says am I doing okay how can I do better he does [Music] a person who takes accountability of his ways how what's the way to warn the wife how do you how do you warn her not to be missing so what does it say it says if he told her don't speak to somebody that's not it but you you asked me how is it how do you do kinoy if I said don't speak to someone that's okay so something is off a little bit hug over gosh he tells this woman don't talk to so-and-so there's a teenage girl who every one of her phone conversations he's on the phone every conversation was for three hours two hours three hours one day she had a conversation for 15 minutes and the conversation is over so her father said what happened she says oh I dialed the wrong number so he says don't don't speak to Pliny she he warns her I don't want you speaking to him I'm a deeper stereo so so you're starting off saying what is kinoy don't speak and then a second later it says if she spoke to him who tears the basement there's nothing happened to her husband so so talking is nothing so you're asking how do I do kinoy how do I wander I wonder not to talk and then you say oh but if she spoke it's okay Marbella the obvious answer Holy Ghost so Tyson just points out I just want to make uh so he says here that sometimes Deborah is a lush and Nikia you're instead of saying she went and she was she sinned she went and she spoke sometimes speaking the lotion to speak so I would think that maybe what what the mission meant is I told her not to speak quote unquote you know it's a it's a lot in the key but that can be because the second layer of the mission says and nothing happened is that she's okay she's good to go so obviously in our mission the word Deborah doesn't mean this throw so I told any time so the kids are advising like this anytime the word talking is involved nothing happens because talking and speaking to another person is not also to the point that she becomes us with her husband he wanted don't speak to someone she spoke or after that and even if she spoke to him he said don't speak to him and she went and she secluded herself glue nothing happens but and if after the history of the debris and he already warned that don't seclude yourself and she spoke to him she didn't seclude herself she just had a conversation with him on the street a diamond there's the basement there's a lot of drawing nothing happened it was just speaking but if after he or she was worn don't secure yourself and she went into that place your shots okay they too much she was there for whatever this year too much but boy said what's the sheer too Mom these guys know how many nine-way magoicus I was very impressed we have three and after share the each each one asked me they're holding these guys are holding her voice top of the Top If someone send me on the top guys the maze lets us okay so all the way at the end of the mission that says that if the husband warns his wife says don't seclude yourself she went secluded herself and now they're gonna go and do the my mama he's gonna bring it but he had such tired of this guy that he had a heart attack and he died now what didn't have any children says no evil halitza says why can't she do evil I think everybody understands the answer right what's what's the real answer here it's at the end of the day even the husband can be with her and the brothers instead of the husband so why should the brother be better than the husband okay so we we're very familiar with this puzzle which is right before the possibly margin is brought about success person gets married he doesn't like her why him in other words he believes he's mizana he's bad and then what's the next person now now that we know this person so now let's see this possible foreign she should go marry another man what's after the word is a little extra says I learned from here from the word after she can marry anybody in the world she cannot marry her ex-brother-in-law it says that you could go you're using this plastic literally should go marry anybody and not her brother-in-law the of them so why does she need Khalid so why does he have to do something why do they have to take an action using a positive tell me if Allah she gonna marry another man wait a minute if her own husband the guy that died was still alive merely by again you can't just say oh since you're Messina since you secluded yourself with somebody I think you're missing I'm not even sure just go out and marry anybody no you have to give her again or water so at least at least that this could do is give him Khalid which is instead of the get there so listen remember we learned the other day that this woman is causing a lot of grief through all her own family to her children not only to herself and to her husband but to everybody right we said it's like a worm eating up the sesame's the bad news listen to the basic but amres down over here it says the last last words of places on this armor live noise here to build and not to destroy this is this woman is a destroyer she destroys marriages the target said go ahead and build for your brother don't bring in this terrible woman who's gonna destroy for you bro wait a minute she's such a bad woman she shouldn't marry anybody in the world did I tell anybody did I force anybody to marry her I said she could go out there and marry anybody they want it's on their own risk but over here you're telling the of them go marry her you're forcing the other sort of to marry her that night I don't want the arm to suffer like the brother suffered it doesn't mean she should be awesome to the whole world maybe she'll do two of them maybe this maybe somebody knows how to deal with her but for the other I'm not going to put him in that in that predicament I'm not going to force him a boy's eye have a wonderful day amazing Hashem right here at 10 o'clock or 10 45 with all the technical difficulties