Daf Yomi Sotah Daf 27 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning boys I ah maybe it's supposed to be smart today is my alien mother's yard site she devoted her entire life to allow my father to learn title all day she was she excelled in even when we had a very very small apartment in Far Rockaway we had a guest that lived by us for months months at a time actually I once I think I said this in sheer I was once tossed out of my bed I was brought to the couch in the living room I slept there for over three months I think it was there was a guy that got divorced he needed a place to stay in my bed of course on my husband but that's what it was the house should have in a Leo yesterday was last night well it's really two nights ago I was in Borough Park for Life share for me it was one of the highlights of my life this year it was an unbelievable moment I don't know how many people this is different you know you count yourself some say it was thousands others the the one the the mahmirim they said it was only 700 800 the kids are let me show you I couldn't get it onto my computer we have a little bit of a technical put it your safe will will show it was unbelievable it's huge I'm not gonna the singing was it was basically a solo because he didn't like the scene with lit facts so I think you're Child by myself and not Imam by myself and one guy threw it off tune a little bit but okay we'll show maybe Joseph will uh it was unbelievable unbelievable my mid huh you want to see it again why I want to zoom in in case he doesn't show it okay here oh yes it was in the house [Music] today is the 19th day in the oymer boys um I don't know okay you could show this it doesn't really matter but it's email um the email doesn't do this Justice I'm gonna just read one email this individual who actually um enhance the I have to tell you in part of why I enjoyed Borough Park so much is because of the people that I met afterwards I met like one of the highlights was I'll send you the pictures of also of remember I read an email from uh Yeshiva guy that his father punished him and took away his cell phone a smartphone and he got he was so bored that he had to do the dive he decided and then he got addicted to the dive and then he told his father you know what I don't want a cell phone anymore just give me a flip phone so he comes over to me as they were passing by quickly goes I'm the guy from the flip phone I'm like ah yeah he goes no I'm the guy from the football I said I don't know what you're talking about you know the email no and finally explained to me and then I realized who he was he pulled out his flip phone he showed me his foot he still has it a few months later he's still stagging it was like things like that so one of the people that came over to me wrote me this email but I spoke to him on the phone beforehand somebody asked me to speak to him the story the way he writes it doesn't do justice I asked him to put it in in writing when I said it over on Chavez there wasn't a dry eye in the room and here's the email explained a little bit more he doesn't he took out a lot of details so that he could remain anonymous he's a he's a well-known person as I write to you I want you to know I am well now however it wasn't always like this on the morning of September 11th 2001 September 11th what 22 years ago more 23. I was at my place of working Manhattan Financial District right across from the World Trade Center what I witnessed that morning changed my life forever the trauma that I went through that day the things I saw and witnessed the many people that chose to jump I asked them did you see the couple that was holding hands and Joey says yes I saw them too people fell right next to his feet I'm not going to go into detail because the certain details that he chose to to take out of here the subsequent collapse were too much for me I wasn't able to get those images out of my head my doctor only had one tool for me and that was medicine when I started taking the medicine I thought it really worked until just like that it didn't what happened then more doctors more medicine or hopelessness I was withdrawn depressed always anxious and I couldn't focus on my family my Judaism about a year ago the kids are it changed his life without any details many many things in his life went bad because he was addicted as with 200 press always anxious and couldn't focus on my family in Judaism kids a year ago he's at the end of my rope suicide actually made sense that scared me so much that I told my family I needed help it was explained to me that if I choose to go off the medicine would have been extremely painful and potentially life threatening process everybody made it through would be better more equipped to handle life I chose to go cold turkey with all my medicine I started a long recovery app program a few months prior to asking for help a friend of mine had introduced me to this year now Hashem definitely sent my refuel before the mock-up although Rehabilitation programs do not allow access to computers or phones I told them that I required my film my daily rabbinical lecture on YouTube to practice my religion after begging for a few days they finally consented it was one of the happiest moments the kids are they said this no there's not there's nothing you can't bring a phone you can't watch an issue he said okay so I'm leaving and they they said no yeah the kids are a big fight we're talking about a lot of money or you know two thousand dollars a day and they realize they're gonna lose the fight so they said okay we'll let you watch the sheer if we could put you in a room in this video camera on the screen and you can't go anywhere but this year and he said that was what took him through the eight weeks of Mama so the the way that the withdrawal was so unbelievable but the shears what kept them alive and going to have a respite on an oasis of Torah while I was going through the great emotional physical pain was an unbelievable gift after months of work I found what we're looking for I didn't find My New Self rather I found what I was a pure Jewish and Sharma Rebellion I cannot tell you a great volume to rebellious for myself my family my friends are for what you provided for me your beautiful shift tire was there in the chaotic and stormy seas and you handed me the daf the Daft that floated me to safety I guess he's referring to her Kiva and the TAF that saves the reikiva May Hashem bent you with health health happiness may protect all of them Israel okay I'm not going to say that word or Main Anonymous for the email really appreciate it the coilo if anybody that has an addiction and it should be a physics for us sponsored by Anonymous from Lakewood sponsored by Mr Ellis family leadership and the fourth sponsor of the month unfortunately more revelio benzold viral Paris wife's birthday she gets all the credit for my Yiddish guide and tairo the Austin grandchildren English mass Leo schachter is fourth yard side and finally in honor of Shaya benaremont we sang before you said this is art of the month for a complete reformsai it's so good to be back I really I Mama should love it here it's my home I had a completely different not that Chicago wasn't good in New York it's just very different even this year in New York with so many people just different energy because I was sitting so far away from people didn't have this this hug of warmth I feel the love feel it so I know I'm missing something but okay you know what first of all Remy Cohen who all those days that we were in Chicago some days he was in there to stroll and he woke up four in the morning to remotely help me out on the computer to Gary Ben Moshe to Yosef biliac who crazy hours me and Eric Church the editing all sorts of hours we're talking about pesos there's no vacation on the dove there's no vacation and a lot of people enjoy it every day and they don't realize how many people work behind the scenes we're doing kahoot I have no idea what it is I have to talk to you about it and get it going but a lot of people doing khazar a lot of people are working good making the questions putting in there's a lot a lot going on behind the scenes so you stress everybody if I'm missing who you are you know who you are as a matter of fact that Remy Cohen was helping us he was in and out of the hospital in in America with you picture of him in a hospital bed and he's he's logging in because I didn't know how to finish there's like a 25-step process to get the sheer streaming live with the pictures and everything and only he knew how to do it in Marcus Mark also Mark Ashkenazi every single year all right so now we only have 28 minutes to do a whole daff a little bit more than enough that's more than enough laughs a guy goes on a solid call he's walking down the street he sees a guy that had this spontaneous combustion so it's a real thing spontaneous combustion nobody else in the world had it besides this man a male guy what happened what happened there body explode yeah but I said nobody he was with the saita but nobody else no a woman didn't explode anywhere else in the world he's walking down in Borough Park all of a sudden explodes [Music] welcome back RBS all right so anyways I I want to also uh there's a lot of children in the room uh the first five minutes of the share first five ten minutes are adult related and we're gonna go the Simone so if you're sensitive to that I'm giving you a warning right now the there's a positive that we learned here goes we want to say that it has to do with thesaurus that this person comes to excludosaurus from the Parish of assaita and we said no if a person could have relations but he doesn't have Zera he's in the pirate shop so what does why why what's the words there what is it what does it come to teach us so I always I I one day I have to get to the bottom of this many times in Shahs says sometimes it's referring Toyo someone's referring to sometimes refers to zachar and then says a lot of times it says and then it goes right to explain what it is so just say what it is I don't know yet my daughter over we're talking about unnaturally he's warned her not to be not to vinished it says a plural all throughout the Torah there's no difference from natural and unnatural it's always awesome person is foreign he said don't have kirov bosser he says the gamara um if there's no relations so stand pritas it's inappropriate but it's not is third didn't say that this is awesome this I'm sure there's some issue but we're not not the issue that we're talking about over here of exploding the word the water of the sun is not going to work in this case it's just bus with the buzzer this is kirov there's no actual relations there's no Miser but this cure of avarum a varum is different than Basa Toro Avenue okay that's great if you hold that just touching is not is not awesome says okay he didn't do anything so Mayla there won't be any sight to hear Hello my but if you hold that there is an issue of just kirov doesn't have to be actual Miser just touching is already considered relations Michaela maymar then then the site of water should work in this case we're talking about where he warned her not to what the tiger says is Usher he said something that's not awesome I am telling you I'm warning you not to be with that person only even that I'm warning you I'm out the same in other words the third says this is usur and this is not Usher I'm telling you even the thing that's not us I'm warning you um sir it just has to do with what the husband and therefore it should work for instance if the daughter says I don't want you talking and she spoke maybe even talking should work to the husband said no it's in the Parish of her eyes and I don't want you talking and if you spoke you should explode no commas Milan that it does not work unless you do something that's awesome and that's the end of that so yeah type of um very interesting Rashi explains we're talking about a guy that doesn't it's not going well in Shadow him has no offers zero he has two offers one is a Duma and one is a daughter of a Duma what's a Duma a Duma is a person that everybody in the street talks about her but she's mizana she's my naive she's no good you have the daughter of a Duma and the dumer herself which one do you marry it's unbelievable Shayla don't marry anybody that's not what it says you have to get married and if your choices are limited you get married also it's unbelievable that's what it says here if those are your only two choices maybe you should remain single no get married to Duma she has a terrible reputation Doom is a lotion of of of speaking that they we don't know anything for sure we don't know for sure that's the toilet that's the room in the street this is her reputation it's a reputation the daughter big tadakis but she's the daughter of this reputation maybe she's a manager I don't know what should you do it's interesting because it's good to know it's a good point people are very beautiful so when you went to Ruben kaneevsky to ask you the names don't are not good the two fathers have the same name you know different things he said how old is the person ah you're talking about a 30 year old no it's not a review husband 30 year olds that's what he said I'm not saying the age I just threw that age the point is when it's not going well and today you're 19 and a half forget reviews Old Maid at home 19 year old at home see it's all relative it could be you should be not going to review I'm just thinking out to myself you should be not going to be able to not the shaver besides when it's the middle sphere you know there's a certain times you just okay do more values something more explains the first my normal holds shizum this girl she's the daughter I'm sorry this woman the Duma herself she's kosher she's a kosher person she just has a bad reputation about her daughter was the daughter of somebody has a bad reputation so the daughter is already no good Ness and this is marry the daughter excuse me don't marry the actual woman why the daughter says so now he's kind of talking about one of the two cases okay doesn't matter but it's a general idea foreign she's married let's say she could be unmarried she could be married let's say she's married so she's married Roy people talking about we have to say 51 percent of the time she's with her husband her daughter has arrived that she's caution 51 with the husband but she herself what there's a good chance she's gonna be Miss Anna she's she's a she has a reputation you don't want to be with somebody that's mizano which is interesting yeah because it could be miguela Mesa unfortunately if you know for a fact that somebody's wife was mazana should you go tell the husband are you allowed to tell the husband you say no why not he's going to be no you could prove you could prove it you saw you know you know what you know 100 huh I know what you're saying you're saying it's just going to be like you know you can't prove it what you know she's awesome but the the guys who oh oh you understand what I'm says over here Willie listen will the husband listen that's what time says you know for 100 sure I have what is this hot cool cold [Music] before it turns around that's good so because he's going to listen to you and he's going to prevent himself from doing you sure because every second is what his wife is awesome but if he's not going to believe it then there's no point of saying it then he says also that if you could get away without saying the name you say listen I sold my own eyes I'm not going to tell you who it is but he says I want to know who it is no don't say then there's a problem but if you only listen to you if he knows the name then tell most of the name says okay so we're talking about over here if she has a reputation tomorrow she's going to go be misana she'll be also to her husband so don't marry her sister she doesn't have a good reputation should be no good so again what's the point the point over here is that she'll be mizana tomorrow not today we're concerned don't marry this Duma lady who has a terrible reputation because you're going to marriage you're going to continue your reputation tomorrow you'll be also there but the daughter the daughter you could be relaxed the daughter 51 of the time she's with her husband 49 of the time I don't know what she's doing she's outside somewhere but the daughter came from a relation that was with a with a father and a good condition she's kosher for normal people stay away from this if these are the only two people left in the world for you go ahead so now if you were writing what would you write based on this you should marry a Who a daughter of a Duma so what should it say noisa bass Duma three words what does it say in the Bryce uh don't say it says Duma it's a big difference doom and bass they sound similar but they're very different Dumas the woman herself just said marry the daughter don't marry the mother um we just explained Rashi says you're not supposed to marry a woman like that if you have no choice if you married her you don't have to divorce her but don't you don't go marry her so then why does the price is saying no you say go ahead and marry her anybody in the world can marry her shot is it's a mistake this whole price is so if it's a mistake then there's other mistakes in the price of therefore just fix it completely and end of the story by the way Even in our generation sometimes we curse people not me I heard in the street the in Hebrew let's say Ben whatever in English son of a what does that mean it could be it's uh is it what's worse that you are the son of you're the daughter of somebody famous you're the best Duma is worse or the Doom itself is worse he goes through this again fine um foreign you could assume that her kid is kosher and not only that we're going to see something amazing that the husband knows that she's a no good Nick so he kind of protects her at certain times and you get pregnant when you see the second Mao if she's more she's 51 with other people not even with their own husband they once came to ask him he said this coin guy he wants to marry a group show what should we do he says don't worry about it let him let him marry her I know the parents he's for sure a hollow or something don't worry about it it's just say the Venice that's my son she's approved to be oyster foreign when is the best time when when does a person get pregnant is it right before she sees them or is it right after trilo I'm assuming that it's already in the time of the gemara where they're already Mac been on Ziva so it's a minimum of 12 Days five for real and then seven of of uh what do you call it so it's it's what so every month it could be in a different day so he has no idea when to protect her I when I'm reading this I was like I was going crazy he has a wife I mean this is the last in the world for him and they don't get married don't worry about it but he has to make sure that she's not Miss Anna on certain days of the month because then she might get pregnant and it won't be his kid I don't understand what's going on there keep the body lock I live in my domain hello but if a woman gets pregnant after three law so then he knows exactly what it is protects her make sure she doesn't go out or do more give me the person like maybe it says Rashi could sneak out when he's not paying attention and we have a problem it's very interesting that in our days the doctors say that it's more summer so which really means 14 days before she sees dumb which there's a very interesting problem which happened to rib Al yashif's daughter and that's an akara in other words she can never become pregnant because if her vest is less than 26 days and the only time she could get pregnant is 14 days before her vessels it comes out that she can never get pregnant and they try to find the issue uh a trick when we're learning neither we spoke about it okay just into very sad and uh very today I think they could fix it with medicine and stuff like that but she never had children actually okay so the mishna says that sometimes the president steps in and as makana for the husband that's the keynote he warns the wife the president walks over the wife because the husband is in jail whatever he's not capable mentally so they go over to the wife and say listen we see that you're talking to so-and-so we're warning you don't talk to so-and-so foreign president steps in why do they step in to get rid of her to get rid of the tsuba now let me ask you a question is coming to tell me that ish the extra word is is that she loses let's touch this question so yeah it says the main the main limit is we'll see a little later guys on Zoom we're still holding get valedict foreign says even to give her to drink bezen is allowed to will she says sorry the what that the The kinoy Peasant does and when he comes out of jail that Kenny Works that he could slap her to give her the drink but Michael Memphis as you've seen the Apostle get says impossible and then it says in positive behavior ish so he does the keynote he does the the the the the the steering exploding bikini bikini it's not the one that does the king who does the stereo does the the heavy if president he could continue on their job and bring her to the basement so take take a look at this for a second because I know that there's some confusion the word Isha means the man is a man you show without it as a woman so try to remember that foreign it sounds the same but it's spelled differently that the woman will stray when she's under her husband he saw her husband is a heckish between the two for a number of things that if something's wrong with the husband and he can do kin and stira so whatever that thing is let's say he's blind so then if she's blind she you can't do Kingdom either that the eyes of the husband didn't notice what's happening so he has to have eyes he has to be able to see so he's not in the Parish of Kingston the whole Parish of Satan doesn't apply to blind woman of course he's also to her of course she's missing miso but the waters are not going to make her explode ravasio there's also an exemption for somebody who is lame deceive the hermit she has to stand that Communists so take a look over here up down front and back nufa and if she can't hold it she doesn't have hands she can't do nuva so she's not in the parish she needs to have hands to to lift it and go up and down she also has to stand it says it's interesting in this you'll all remember this when we learned this has a question how could Akai and put his hands on a woman's hands so what are those places to say either there's a towel or he's very old yeah no no Yates isn't that Tyson brings or you show me that says if she doesn't have hands you could bring a separate coin a second coin to do her job had him do it your shot me argues over here on this sogio what is a problem in them he doesn't have eyes he's not inside us so if she doesn't have eyes she doesn't see she's not inside over it says if she doesn't have hands she's not inside though and therefore we go to him Joya thank you again if a woman cannot speak because she can't say the words she must say so if he can't speak you don't give her the waters by the way real quick before I say hadron real quickly if once you have an old man doesn't know it doesn't know it's flying he says shahako on his water then it says shackle on a candy then sashaka on a piece of meat do you say um the answer is yes why because in his mind he thinks he's doing the right thing for him it's a he's not supposed to but because he thought he's supposed to make a bracha you could say Amen similarly I heard it once about that somebody made the brother and he said oh man he says even though I'm not worthy but you are a shot in amaret you thought I am and you said it to Havana so I'm going to say oh I mean okay with that we say so real quickly in the beginning it shots everybody learned this because the beginning of shots and not only that I I in the last few months I spoke to dozens and dozens of people who are going back to the beginning of Brothers in their mind they are going to catch up to the rest of cholesterol we're holding middle shots now but almost I saw this so they're going back to brothel so everybody goes to breakfast and they get the Shabbos they I didn't anybody I didn't hear from many people oh I also finished Shabbos and everything oh I just finished raucous you just said from Lock just Brock I'm starting for Shabbos I'll advise you go in the beginning of broadcast the famous famous story was the Nasi and they kicked them out and they put who revelation we just sent him to stay there everybody knows this that was the day that I read he also got a white beard even though he's very young that day and that our mission is going on that day tomorrow over there says they open up the doors they let in all the time even though either 400 extra Saleem uh benches or 700 gamara there's a lot of stuff going on in that day but what happened was they had a lot of baklaikusin you're sure and they settled everything boy bye some of the stuff that went on baby yeah because you're actually says all the way at the end that even this part of the mission is so take a look at the uh boom okay she explodes great you guys know what that looks like and then okay fine he was wearing mdwayamaka I don't know why because it says an apostle so here here's the tube is going to say the reduction from the extra valve in the beginning the two words of bow real quickly tices points out here that the word is 496. 496 divided by 2 is from foreign hurray varum and his avarum the only problem is that they speak about it that a woman has a little bit more a forum than a man she has two 52 I think but it's only those that I'm a time of oil which is remark okay fine another very very important thing that Tyson says over here is the story of the guy walking down the street in Barber Park exploding has Apostles if he was amazed and she was a shy gig and she drinks the water he will explode and she won't explode it's also possible and so she points out that she could explode three years later because she has a source that's Tyler and he'll explode right away says she is also her husband from now on and she's also answered to the north so yuz also points out a very interesting thing just like a woman is also to her husband's Brothers a woman's also to her brother-in-laws she's also author to the neues brothers foreign this is more it's a three times a different different uh Limu Demas will see the verification that's the way is so uh where are we two times foreign knows this and it's very easy and doesn't scare anybody the way it works is the worst worst Toma is a dead person is we're not talking about a dead person talking about a dead chariots one of these uh let's call it a mouse is avatuma and the way Toma works is when you touch the avatoma then you go down one level you become a reason if you touch the reshone you go down one level you become a shiny you touch the Shady you go down one level now only certain things could become a shady only certain things can come sleazy there's a fascinating Allah when it comes to clicharis earthenware earthenware becomes Tommy just just by the ear if the ear contacts a dead Chariot the whole plea becomes tummy so think about it if you have an oven made out of earthenware and in the oven there's a loaf of bread being baked and a dead Chariot is hanging by a string into the oven does the bread become Tommy or not well the only thing that should become tame is the oven the heres because becomes Tommy from the ear not bread not food but the bread is touching the Harris so if the hares touched the avatuma the Chariots the hairs becomes a reshine goes one level down the oven so what does the bread become a shiny let's see inside how it looks on the chart here's a clejeres earthenware Assurance goes in it's avatuma the Chariots it goes and it's not touching the clickers at all it's just in the air so what happens the whole clitoris becomes a re-shine what happens to the bread history comes a shiny now what happens if that bread touches another piece of bread so we always learned that food cannot make other food tummy Rebecca over here in the mission says it does become Tommy so if that bread is a shiny and touches a bagel according to rebecciva the bagel goes down one step becomes a shlishy not only if it's truma even if it's cooling because usually schlichi is reserved for very high level things like truma remember because it says even Hulen let's inside very very simple now we don't know how to read it you can say yitma it could also say it teaches us that it makes other things the bread was a shami shimitama essentially she has the right another piece of bread even Hulen or maybe he was going to take off the dirt from your caver he's already buried who will take it off make his amazing when you were alive he was all concerned Raj explains say later that he only learned that a shady makes a schlichi through a cover is concerned that later generations is going to slug up in and they won't believe in the slishy foreign so now um is going to say the trap for us is that the only one is that the only one in the Torah Menachem karni Paro you see the the memory knew how does it go no say it okay you don't want to say it put him on the spot you can do it one last chance bite there but it says like this it says that they get a thousand ominous they get two thousand armor which one is it um I'm gonna show you a picture you'll understand here it is see this picture it's beautiful all Yoshi um they get just grass a thousand that makes it beautiful it beautifies the city don't clutter clutter is no good open open area is beautiful and another thousand armor not two thousand another thousand ammo is the red bottom that's this picture right over here according to the other time Amanda Omar is a thousand arm of grass and a thousand animals that they get to plant their trees to have food right boy so let's stop over here my boys I have a wonderful day