Daf Yomi Sotah Daf 26 by R’ Eli Stefansky

Good morning, Ra. Wow. We're here in this 100-year-old Schula Snows. His son was a huge part of this year. A big video guy. I just heard I don't know if this is true. I heard that Mayor Shapiro was initial. Is it true? Anybody hear this? MS. They're saying it's MS. Romero Shapiro. Rome Shapiro. The massid of was in this sh. I don't know how many years ago. 1926 almost 100 years ago. So was just brand new. Unbelievable. Tremendous to the RV. And the truth is that told me it was basically I was supposed to fly back tire on Tuesday. My flight got cancelled and then my niece decided to get engaged on Thursday. So we said okay we'll stay for Shabas and it sounds like what are you crazy going to take a 10:00 flight to get to this year? I said don't worry about it loves here I'm not going to miss my flight. So we came to O'Hare and of course they canled our flight and we're not going to make it to New York. There are no flights. There's nothing available. I have to give a tremendous toes travel. I think it is skies travel. Yes, he got me on the last last seat on a flight. I barely made it here. My mishbuck is still in Chicago. Somehow we're going to get to but the amount of work from the time that we decided to do a shir and which was basically Thursday till now people were working around the clock. So it's tremendous. It's an ass. I want to say G. He's in the middle of a big program right now that's going on this minute in his office. I was in his office. They're all sitting around there on the phones. They're going they're doing Castir. He's doing a whole big program for Yadl and he runs that. But he ignored that program. I shouldn't tell his bosses but ignored it in order to you know what but more so we have big singers here is he in the householder come up where are [Music] What am I going to sing solo? [Music] D. [Music] You got to warm up her voice. D. [Music] Come on. [Music] for [Music] [Laughter] [Music] everyone. [Music] Oh, your name is all d [Music] the boy side. A few years ago, more than a few before I moved there, I was tricked in to being the honore, guest honore in a mo in Chicago. Okay. So, I took it. The problem was that it was a Sunday and that Sunday Jakobi came to Chicago. I didn't want to miss Yakobi's concert. So, I told my you go to the dinner. I'll meet up with you. So I went to the concert and people were staring at me. Misha, there's like a thousand people at the dinner for one of the biggest misers in Chicago. And I'm sitting next to concert today. It reminded me because there's a guy here. His name is Liby Sternberg. I don't know. Where are you? Ly, are you here somewhere? That's you. Come here. Get over here. Livy, get over here. Livey is making it to N tonight. He said, he told me he's broke. I'm not going anywhere. I got to go to the shear. Mazle. I I also want to thank Schlammy Rosenberg. Nobody knows who he is. He's a big lad. He puts in many many hours into this year. Schlami Stroll Goldstein. Of course, you'll see him on the camera, but also he's a big help. Aka Ziggler, Molandi, [Applause] the sponsored by Hill Boyer, Lema, Ellie Weineberg. The last picture Ellie Weinberg took was with me at the last year in Brooklyn and he was nif the next day at a very young age. I think he was 54. I'm not trying to scare anybody off from pictures with me afterwards. And as Nissan mentioned, if you join the shir today, you'll be entered into a raffle to win a shas any shas, even an art school shas. So you go to join.com and you could sponsor Gmorris mdysonsor.com if you want. Okay, I know I'm missing something, but this shim for me, I'm very very I'm full of his palace. The the comes together at such short notice. It's a tremendous tremendous for me and I really appreciate it and it's a tremendous for the when you look around and you see all types of it's a tremendous. So, thank you very very much for coming out. I had a [Applause] it's been almost a month. I mean the first day I came to America was the last daff of Nazer and we're holding already dav. So 25 days on the road in Chicago and so this is the final one. Hopefully I make my flight there to final one you know like saying goodbye to me. Thank you very much. So, I saw a beautiful V. I could stick it in middle, but I figure we'll start off like this. Beautiful Zar. Ah, whose yardite is tomorrow? I better make it to Israel on time. The zh says the were going somewhere and they came across a yid. They thought they weren't sure. They saw a guy that looked like a matra. And says who are you? He says I'm a Jew. So he says very interesting thing. He says you know when a person has usually covers them so nobody sees them. What you have is not chalahava. You have to do chuva. So the guy did chuva and he was crying. Son comes and says why are you crying? He says he said I need to do chuva. You don't you don't just get harassed for no reason. You did something wrong. So the son comes to say I don't understand my father is a yid who sits yila in a room and learns to there's no where's the why should he why should he ask why should he do chuva so they told him an amazing thing they said sometimes the is that you don't talk to people, that you don't give to people. You have to have positivity, inclusivity, all these fancy words. You have to you have to be inclusive. You have to take people in in behav. So they told him. So I read this in a in a thing and he brings there a misa. I might have said over the story. Simple misa. He's in the supermarket. He sees a guy in a Bluetooth calling somebody up and saying, "Do you need help? I clean hallways. I do sponge and every you don't need anybody." Oh, you're happy with the Okay, sorry. Another phone call. Another phone call. So the balabos of the store felt bad. So he goes over and says, "You know, you could do my store. You know, I'll we'll figure something out." This guy says, "No, I don't need peros. I'm fine. and I have a lot of so why you making all these phone calls? He says, "Nah, I'm just calling the places that I work at. I want to see I want to hear a good word. I want them to tell me that they're happy with the people that they have already. And that makes me feel good." One good word, one good one phone call, one one compliment goes a long way. And if you save those compliments, you save those those nice words to the other person that that could be that could be a like the said that could be a problem. First of all, we're talking about and everything. And I was just thinking about how the of MDY what's a lot of people say why how is it h what happened here 20,000 people? Yeah. because it's a close-knit mishb it's close if people make each other feel good that they say a good word some people send each other matas and packages and and differentiz behind the scenes that we don't always see and we hear about it once in a while but it goes on day and night those good words those words of encouragement the the famous perisim who brought more than 400 people to the shir he calls up people knew he's still doing the da if you're still how's it going words of encouragement. All right, we also came to learn a little Tory. So yesterday I did something that's illegal in the dafomi world and that is to learn onto the next um and we basically did a half of the um so real quickly just to oh I have to say sponsor sorry is sponsored by anonymous from Lakewood the sponsored by myself Mr. The spans of the month the entire MDY family today in the 18th 18th day in the here in America it's the 17th you didn't say it's to say it now Benalia Miller from Kesheri The famous Gdali Miller. Is he in the house here? Gdalia, how you doing? In honor of Elliat Bor Park. Yes, I need it. The art of the month for complete refor. And of course, Ellie Weinberg join. Oh, I was asked to say this is very interesting. Let's see if this works. No, it's not working. Do you guys see it? Are you able to put it on the screen? Aha. Okay. We have a Khazar program and some of it is done through Cahoot. If you get this barcode, if you have a traphone, you could do it easy. If you don't, I don't know what to tell you. I don't even know how it works. But basically, it's a program at the end of this year. that gives you questions and I think this is some sort of raffle today. Special raffle. Okay, so real quickly yesterday we're learning about an islandist says I'll just read it inside real quickly. But islands says when it comes to an islandist an islandist is a woman who was born physically not capable of having children. She cannot be a there's no she doesn't drink water. She's not shy and she doesn't get exuba. This guy should not be married to her etc. So the Gar goes through a very very long bry until we get to the bottom bottom word in the bry it's 20 lines long and that will be a kasha an islandist you say islandist cannot be a saita the last word in the bra an islandist could be a saita so let's go real go through it quickly just on the screen here does not drink daughter. She cannot be a why. She's only semi married. She got the ring, but she's not fully married. Has to be a wife. Also, her husband died. She's waiting to see if the herita not fully married. Doesn't drink. You have a person married a woman he shouldn't marry because she's pregnant or she's nursing. You're not allowed to marry for 24 months. He married her. young man who married an Akara Akana. He shouldn't be marrying an Akaro because he doesn't have children and therefore uh well we I skipped here uh we have Musor says that he can never marry her according to you could marry her say he could fine you wait the 24 months you could theor tells But says you could. Why? Because you can marry another woman. Just because you don't have children and she's old doesn't mean that you can just marry another wife. Now, okay, I don't want to skip here. It's not on the chart. That's if it's his they got and they got married, then it's the regular, she drinks. If it's his own wife who's pregnant and nursing, of course she drinks. The kadesh is that she drinks even though it could kill the Vlad. TS argues you have to wait a little bit. Okay. What? Where are we holding? As Mamzer H. Okay. Asus Mamser. A woman who can marry a Mamzer. As Nenas and finally we have an islandist and all these I just said okay what's a ram and this is the woman that we had from Nadarim. This is how the Gimmor depicts her. She has a very round face, round eyes, giant lips. He put her in there today park as the island. It says she could drink. So what do we do? Says island can't drink. Could drink. Okay. [Music] This is what we finished off yesterday. We even said these words. It's smack in the middle of the tano. It's in fact. So you ask me from a Bryce. The Bryce says the Bryce says that you could drink. Island could drink because there's a mand that says you could. I hold you can't. I hold like another Tana that says you can't. It's not a cash. I like I just realized it's you for the wine and that's all I'm trying to say. It's beautiful bows. Thank you. There's a special and that's what we had yesterday. Even though others could could drink islanders special she can't drink because the says what happens if she's innocent her husband was and she drank the water she gets a we know she's going to have children everything's going to be but she's an islandist that can't be muim in her so since it can't be so therefore the waters don't apply to an islander she doesn't get to drink it misha [Music] Okay. They argue. So what do they learn with these words? It doesn't come to exclude an islandist. So then what does it come to exclude? This comes to teach us this that a woman who is barren she can't have children physically and she drinks the water she'll have a special nest she'll be so we have a trick somebody who can't have children for 15 years the is unimaginable right there's a guy that lives right next door to meuri. He came, he gave us a whole speech in the sheer 21 years. He didn't have a child. 21 years. So his wife could seclude herself and pretend she's a saita. Her husband will get upset at her. Bring her to the B mikdash. They're going to erase Hashem's name into a cup of water. She'll drink it and there'll be an S. She'll have a kid. It says in the pu. There's no there's no jokes here. That's it. And this one because she was a sad and she didn't seclude herself, she should miss out. Doesn't make sense, does it? So, first of all, I'm in Bora Parks. I want to tell you the famous famous mice, but you have to help me out at the end of the mice. I'm telling it to you for something else. For the end, but you really have to help me out. Not like before. I think his name tell me cuz I'm not I'm liter [Music] What do they really call him? The of the BMP. Yeah. sitting and crying. Comes and says, "What are you crying?" So I'm crying because I was playing hide-and-seek and I hid so well that my gave up on me. So I'm sitting here for 3 hours and nobody's looking for me. So started crying. So we the asked z why why are you crying? So I'm crying because the bunnam is hiding from us and we're not looking for him. We're not looking for him is here. We just have to find them. We have to look for him. And therefore I'm asking you to help me. Amen. I need [Music] no sh [Music] Say everybody together. Even the guys in the back. [Music] Shame we sh [Music] Yeah, I found peace to his [Music] impos. Oh, there [Music] was Okay, we could have done better, but was embarrassed, I hear. Okay. Lisa at the end of the day if you think about it she threatened that also when she was dinging she saidum if you don't give me a kid I'm going to become a explains like why should I become a just give it to me I don't want to be maf with somebody just give it to better like she was telling if I become a then I have to erase the water. I have to erase Hashem's name and that's awes that that route. sort of like a threat like a cover threat. Oh [Music] interesting term that no you can't do this trick this trick is not fair because then every single will will go bey husband is does kino then she'll be again she'll do and then she'll get a she'll have a baby. Not fair. But what one thing? Yes. She'll get a bra. But not such a brah. Somebody waited for 21 years for a child is not going to get a child. If she usually had some during the the labor, that'll go away. No, for that she's not going to be mist. She's not going to go through the whole thing of reminds me of the all my jokes. It's like we're just doing repeat. Sometimes it's every week, sometimes every six months, but it's on repeat. This guy was waiting for his wife to give birth. So the doctor comes out and says, "Maz, Maz, it's a girl." He says, "Oh, Bashem, I have a kid that's not going to have to go through what I just went through for the last three hours. You let this guy well not this guy the the woman had she's not going to have now I don't know if I should say this in English I don't want to get cancelled you know in the generation of cancel if she had a lot of she's going to have she'll have taller kids this I have to be mish careful But it means what it really means is if she had not good-looking kids. It's not a color. It means not good-looking, she'll have beautiful children. You live on it. So for that, just for that, it's not to go through the whole but we do have to point out again the very very important is there. We know a person is to conduct himself in a way that other people don't suspect him of wrongdoing. We say we have to look good in other people's eyes. So this woman who didn't behave well, her husband warned her, she didn't listen to her husband. And after all that, we award her with good-looking kids, tall kids, all these things. Why? According to Rika, she didn't have kids. She's going to have kids. What's the said this, just have to say it again because it's that the idea is not to fall into the not to bring yourself to the messiah. But what happens if you do fall into the messiah? That's when it's almost impossible to get out. This woman, you're right. She did the wrong thing. She was in. She shouldn't have. Okay. But she did. Now what? Even though she went all the way. She was mist, but she did. She wasn't even a she was able to control herself. When a person is like all the way down. Yeah. The person got up late. He didn't miss Shakist. The is upset at him already. The mash is about to kick him out of yes. His wife is mad at him. What are you doing? He's schluffing in bed. And then he gets up and he dams. There's no gain here. It's only It's only one thing. It's between him and Nobody knows about it. Everybody's upset at him. But he's doing it for himself. For him, for that you get tremendous. This woman, she's in the pits. Her husband's mad at her. He warned her. She was she wasn't even a she did it for one thing. I'm going to control myself. That's tremendous. You shouldn't bring yourself to there but if you do that's tremendous and the sky is tremendous also. So if a person marries a mamzer she's allowed to marry she's roy to marry the mamzer. So why shouldn't there be a saita? Of course, of course he should give her to drink the same uh I think that the again if you're new to to Saita, this is your first day in Saitas, I just want to reiterate, we don't give a woman to drink water to see her explode and to punish her. We give her water in order to see whose child it is. We have to decide what's going on here. So this mam this mam is going to have children that we'll see soon. So what's the point of giving her water? Either way, she she's going to drink the water. It's going to come out that she's taught her. She never did anything. So, she gets back to him. And what is she going to have from him? A mam. So, maybe we don't want in the world. Don't give her to drink water. Get divorced and show me Israel. No, there's still there's still water here for this for this couple. I mean it's obvious if a person is a mam he's going to have children that are in other words the hashbah that parents have on the children is we know that somebody came to to vula and said my kid is 18 years old do you have a good for me had um he said you know he came 18 years too late the biggest hashbah a person has is before different whatever it is now it's already too Wait. So we had the three three category that they do drink. She's the wife of a mash is a regular Jew an island. Of course, this drinking water she could be the same is like says so maybe is not a but it's interesting points out that from all the that we're going to have this is the only one says it's not a 5050 says Okay, here's the chart is enough. Tell what's you shall say. So that that's a extra word for well to just I don't stop saying words. It's a boy to say maybe not a no. Why should the wife of a drink? Well, there's no the whole parish of only told to ma say he is a meal. She only she wasn't caught not caught sorry that's the word in Hebrew means forced. She wasn't forced that if this the reason why she's also her husband because it wasn't forced. She did it willingly and what if she was forced? She's let it go back to her husband. But we know that by a kayen doesn't work like that. It's one of the saddest things in the Tyra. But if a woman was forced against her will, she can't remain married to her husband. [Music] Maybe she's not in the par at all because it says that there's a difference between forced and not forced. There's no difference. So she doesn't get to drink and she does. By the way, I forgot to mention before this year, it's kind of late now, but we have a little bit of for adults more and I'm going to try to [Music] this is allowed to go back to her husband Omar Omar. We're talking about a case where her body starts changing, starts exploding, starts withering, maybe the opposite of exploding, starts, you see that something's going on. So again, this Asia's client, she's the wife of she, she drinks the water. Uh, let me see if I can find it here cuz we put it in late in the game. Okay, it's over here. Anybody? Oh, so this is [Music] what something's changing in her body after she drink the water. That means the water is working on the spot. She should never be allowed to go back to her husband. says. So typically you have the one on the left and her thighs and her stomach where the a was done that that's that's what explodes over here. It's it's other parts of her body, face, hands, whatever it is that that's what's exploding. It's not because she was Maybe thehat is that she was over the but the reason why the waters didn't check it like it typically checks from the stomach. Maybe she did it. It was against her will. The Gar understands it's very interesting that even though it was against her will she did something wrong. Maybe she should have watched herself more to the point that her body is going to change. against her will be and since there was a that was done you're right she didn't want anything to do with it but because she's married to and she's also to her husband that's not what's going on here there's no Isra at all there's no even she's her husband is the wife of a sorus a man who can't have children says rashi we're talking about kama because we know this is also it's interesting one for me one of the saddest things in the tyra is a guy's in a car accident and he can't have children after the car accident he's not allowed to be married to his wife why he's it happened from a says we're not talking about we're talking about it happened naturally who caused it says so therefore he's allowed to be married his wife so then why shouldn't she drink the water I just have to it's a little bit out of order here we go here's the puzzle you veered you strayed away from your husband someone else other than your own husband says but he is not capable no I think that you don't drink because it doesn't fit into the words yeah you're married to him but he's not a he can't have children fine very interesting that I asked many people over Shabas including including a Dian bunch of people in Chicago. I asked them this the following question and they all answered basically the same thing. I asked this question live in the shar in Chicago. They all answered my I never had this because usually when you ask a question half the people say this and half the people say that or three everybody said the same wrong answer. Can a husband tell his wife I don't want you to be misled with your own father. So everybody says no you can't do that. Why? because she the father's already user he's ava. So we learned before Mishna that you could but my issue is the reason why I went around asking people is I don't have a great answer for this. Now asking people what do you say? How do you how do you understand by yourself? And 99% of the people told me that they understand that it's you can't you you cannot do kinui to your father to the wife's father to the wife's brother. So then what's in the next word in the gam you could make a kino and warn your wife don't be mad with your father with the and if she does you bring it to the mish and give it to drink water ask doesn't even have to be in the mishna but everybody that I asked said it's not so I don't know maybe we're all and I don't know what the data is okay must be some sort of shot. I just want to see. Okay. I mean, real quickly, I just thought it was fascinating stuff. It's not really the place and the thing, but I a very interesting thing came out. We're talking about so there's a shil somebody asked the shily a woman gave birth to moms and she felt really bad about it and she didn't feed the baby until the baby died. So they went to the and the said that what she did is because a mam is a Jew for every in fact a mam who's a comes before a mam could be a but then the question was listen to this this is what I thought was fascinating the question was what about if a woman is pregnant could you do something to get rid of the vlat So the y says that since the if was done if the wife if the mother is amazed she was over is so she's mis so the baby is mis she's a bar the baby's as if he's dead because the mother is supposed to die killing a dead baby says Even though the yates is a godlad, but he doesn't know what he's talking about. He says a very shy like he made a mistake something like that. He says why he says he says that if a person comes to Bezdon and Bezdon knows that he's they're about to say is 100% there's one thing missing that the best didn't say didn't say those two words but everybody knows they're about to say it and then there was a a storm and the lights went out and they comes a guy takes his gun and kills that guy. What's that? He's the guy with the gun is so this woman there's no from Bez that she's Yeah, she did something. There's no So no, so it's not Baraka. So you can't kill the baby kids. Most people I think most I just thought it was interesting not. Okay, move on. If you just one second, let me see if I could find this new sponsor because I got yelled at yesterday and I didn't do Chuva and Yose Biliac is not going to be happy with me. Oh, turning of daff is sponsored by Greg Habber for Bri, my entire family, Rai and everyone learning the daff. Oh, soar says what what's the kdesh? Of course, of course, a uh you could do kino to a father, to a brother, etc. So, just go to this sheet right over here. So, that's number one. So the Tory is telling us that not only is she user her original husband, she's also to the and that wouldn't apply here because she's already her own father. Great. text it says that the husband cannot warn his wife not to be with a even though it's possible that his be is considered a be above age n but there's no drinking water on that why is and he cannot warn against somebody that's not a human not a not a ish what does it mean so now we're going to go take us into maybe because there's a t here and and a big t so maybe we'll finish uh and then we're going over time also so maybe we'll finish before that we'll leave a fair to what what's this is goes maybe means an animal not is maybe it's a maybe it means this so let's see what it is So seems to be a person that could have relations but can't have kids. You do do kinoi on somebody like that who plays with truma and if a woman is with a she can't eat truma says why shouldn't they be the same of says the word doesn't have the see okay we'll leave that for later so the question is what does mean maybe means are not true there is Okay. So, it can't be a but let's just talk about what it means. Of course, this we had we had this on top. If you look at the top words on this, we had these exact words. Maybe it means where the the becomes user through this but not where the was already from the day he was born. He's not Jewish. So she's always and if she has relations with the guy, she can't eat the same So maybe for next time in it means when she married somebody that's in the parish of kadushian go he's not in the parish of kadushian let me see if I have no not this. I'm just trying to see here aloud what I want to do. Okay. Uh I'll show this just because we passed it. It could have said is two lam the extra lam. Okay. does passel a woman from ever eating shroom again. If she's the daughter of a she can never eat shroom again if she's with how do we know that they made her apostle? So we said here let me just see now I know what I'm looking for. No, it's a little out of order. I apologize. No. Varnished. Okay. Oh, no. Okay, forget it. It has to be a type of marriage that you become an alman you become a obviously if you're going to marry there's no get there's no you're not considered an alman the says here's the you want to see I think that's what we were looking for by the way if you want to see a little animation that Yoshi was working on it's not complete but I'll show it to you anyways part here's uh a potato head guy something happened over there. Okay. So again, we're going back all the way like five lines from the top of the we learned in the if a person is not a man, then there's no water. He told his wife, don't be with a she didn't listen. What does that mean? Let's not confuse this. It's 100% awesome to be with but it's not considered. It's just like talking different but so it doesn't make her to her husband. How do I know this? Unbelievable. There's only one animal that if you trade that animal for a sheep. So you go to the sheep dealer and you give the sheep dealer a small dog and he gives you a sheep, you're not allowed to bring it as a car. It's a switcheroo for a dog. It's awesome. Is if made money on she can't use that money for a carbon. Now listen to this. So let's see inside. He tells the So we just take this case. It says that you could use that money even though she's misana with a behemoth with a kelet. You could use that money for a carbon. So what do you see? You see it's not because if if it was no then any money that she gets from is included in zina. But kev this weird case of kelv is not in the why because it's notus it's user thousand% terrible terrible she's not getting out of butnus it's not that's the that fine we'll stop right over here have a wonderful day so much for coming And don't forget to sign up if you're not part of the shir sign up. Hold on. I think before you leave, if you don't mind, everybody, if we can take a picture. Yeah, that's what you want. You Nobody has to move. Everybody stay where you are. I'm going to come down. That's it. But don't move. The guy's on top. Is what's your name over there? Ishk. Hold on. I got to take this in for a second. It's unbelievable. Wow. Should I let you see? I recognize faces. Okay. After the group photo, Reell's going to come back on stage. Everyone can go meet him one by one. We get everyone take a v individual picture which you'll have access to after this year. No problem. So again, if Ellie's going to come back up on the shar if any can help help make sed after that. If Ellie's going to come back up on the shar afterwards on the on the stage. Oh, go Ellie. You going to make sure the mounts are there. You'll take pictures of people. Yeah. Also after this there's Chillant and Ko downstairs sponsored by Moi Lisha. Now here we go. This gold team everyone look over here. Beautiful. [Music] Good morning. [Music] [Applause] Okay, for the picture. Five, four, three, two, one. Excellent. I'm not in the picture. Somebody want to get me in. Yes. READY? [Applause] [Music] There we go. Ready? Okay. One, two. Okay. [Music] Okay. So some I need someone else up here as well. We go one by one. I get some more over here to help me here. You stand right over here. You stand right here. Go one by one. You need some people. I know. I know. I need some people here. Surely. Can we get more people here? Okay. Go. No, you'll do it. Sure. Let's open the All right, it's going to come up here and just exit over there one by one. And remember, there's children downstairs. Tons of children downstairs. Sulie, get me some up here. Next, next.