Daf Yomi Sanhedrin Daf 53 by R’ Eli Stefansky

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think he did five missas in prison the K of the month sponsored by hyk Ventures which is Hill kamansi for the success of all our clients and the pizza of the day yard of Aunt Zigler so many of the month inan from Mon and markazi from Mon and Phoenix for all the work that they do we're holding by Mish but let me ask you some questions over here before we get into it what's a bigger AA what you get a bigger o for what's a worse AA to curse your father or to beat up your father ah you say curse who anybody say beat up you say curse if you know the answer to this then you you win why ah so you learned the already you win that's what a such a memory galic okay this a this is a question you can't answer this one you can't answer this one you get a th000 points but you get minus 1,000 points cuz you cheated you already learned it once I'm asking people they didn't learn it unfortunately this happens here in a r it's not a one-time thing it happens let's say a woman who's the daughter of a Cen marries an Arab marries an Arab and then she was misana what does she get what what does she get for being misana all right here's another one what does Bola mean okay now last one last one what if a person has a daughter-in-law and he's Mis with his daughter-in-law while his son is still alive is he over on Two of A and A or only on a huh you say both it's only one of the two you have 5050 50% chance all right so let's see the mishna how do you how do you Han somebody or choke somebody to death I showed this already but why not we don't have a whole lot going on today this is a bathtub full of manure you take the guy you put him in there and then I showed you already with the the belt the thick belt and the the scarf over that so you have a combination of um hard and soft because you need in order to kill him you need something harder but the hard will will damage the skin we don't want that so we do it soft and hard one Aid grabs one end the other Aid grabs the other one and they pull hard somebody that's not part of the shear was came in from MV came over to me after MV everybody has their Aus he said it looked like you enjoying it way too much you showed it like you were excited to kill him okay have no problem listen it's a Mitzvah I enjoy Mitzvah all right he takes the harder garment and puts it under the softer one until he goes is here's a question another question when can a 9-year-old's kushin be tyus 10year old you can't answer anymore you're done for today it's one question one answer you can't you can't you can't open your mouth anymore you sit on the side all right iom anybody else want to guess or say something what else when else could a 9year old old that's the so that I'm saying the but very close very very close no now that he he gave it away oh how could the Father be madesh is well first of all what you said is the father marries off the brother and S mother marry off a girl I'm talking about a boy a 9-year-old boy oh oh remember what he said me is when by you have the father could give the son okay so let's see what he said okay yeah yeah he just threw me off I said you but okay says the isoud so here's the P first of all we have to understand like this uh a child under the age of bar mitzvah can't get married only those two cases of and but typically speaking can't get married so when a Kon goes ahead and is misana you can't be he's not he's not he's not so so it's nothing but let's say a woman who's married she's and she's m with a coton with a 10-year-old is she yes because and finished so says is he's not so if a woman who is married to Aon that's not considered a marriage so since it's not considered a marriage and she goes ahead and she's m it's not it's nothing she's not considered a is right not to be confused but if she's already as and she's with Aon she is if her her her husband is a coton then it's not and if she goes with somebody else she's not M it's not considered or it's not considered I should say to be more says in the same means that if she's married to a like you all said over here he seem to know this that married to an Arab is not considered marriage garnished so typically speaking we had this CL in general that if a person is and we don't know what it is you give why maybe it's the other three in fact is not the other three are but is not mentioned there at all so maybe you should give something that's mention you can't give a person if you have a choice to give a person two Mis you give him which one you give him the lighter one so over here also so if we take a look at this chart on the left side the left side we go with not and is all the way on the bottom of the chart so if we don't know what to give that person so you give that's no in fact the explains what does this mean cu hold like so is not on the bottom of the chart is on the bottom of the chart if I have to give somebody a Misa why should I give him maybe I should give her I should go the lowest so what's the you should know there's a general rule nothing to do with happens to be is not the one no but when the Torah says without explaining we automatically go to says and I'll explain to you says the talks about you don't when kill somebody takes his there's no wounds nothing you don't see that something happened the person is whole so therefore I give the person nothing happened to his body what else is a nothing happens to the body goes inside right away but when it comes to others specifies says the other she's not must be she's here's another one that a lot of people know but it's K to talk about is this is going to shock a lot of people M you allow to marry your own grandmother from your mother's side h m you allow are you allow yes what are you crazy are you allowed to marry your own grandmother from your mother side who said yes huh and what about from your father's side you allow to marry a grandmother from both sides well you interested you let her marry your grandmother the came along and said it's a it's a I told my wife today she almost fell off like stop stop whatever okay she has a grandson so like you know she's already thinking like whatever it gross her out anyways so says re explained now that I learned from learn who told that the list mean there four things on the list maybe maybe there's only three things on the list all three of them are in the to it says it says it talks about but doesn't talk about says maybe go down to the this you don't you can't ask any questions on that there four in fact Rashi on says over there he sticks in the word what do you think you're coming where do you think you're going what are you doing it's an empty seat this is reserved for who Eli over there you just kicked him out he still going you going strong I'm doing it one day one day the helicopter ride one day good yeah we'll put somebody you know we'll find something really crazy to do it'll be magic okay so anyways today's Su is perfect for you trust me you're going to love it yeah yeah you're going to love it which one with the the guy no we're good are you allow to marry a grandmother yeah we said that in your vas woo all right I said no talking my says not only did not only did that four he told them in what order okay so what did the mean before Oh not because it's not the easiest but for different reason I explained it over there that he holds like that is not the easiest one since it's not the easiest one the what you should go to immediately if somebody's in the you should right away go to S because it's the easiest one no the reason why I go to k is because I have either I have this reason that reason but I have a reason there are many Mis in the toy that say Skil here here's a list all they say and that's the one we're going to talk about now like bringing Up's magic stuff and the rest of the get you learn from curs without a means to oh I actually have a picture of Mo here it's not just a great picture but it's my least favorite AA in the world if somebody has a least favorite one let me know it's barbecuing your own sonar it's a terrible terrible a I just just told zei today in uh Park City um they have these uh outside they had these these fire pits very expensive fire pits you made out of limestone in the middle there's the fire and there's a from family there cooking marshmallows on the fire I'm like okay whatever it's like it's not meant for that it's meant to heat up if you drip some marshmallow it's like it could cause whatever fine different Stu I hope they don't watch this year ER next I guess it's better than barbecuing your kid or whatever okay which words there's two options in the POS see it says and it says says so from which two words do we learn it because if you learn it from different words from the wrong two then you can have different questions which two words we learn from it has to be you learn from otherwise what you do with and if you learn from what are you going to do with that's the question no no no that's not a question because that I have something to do we had this but it's a very interesting that if somebody inz let's say he's a murderer and as they pass in that he's he escapes he runs away oh we actually here we have a video why do I have to give it away here it is they'll never catch me we're looking for a voice what do you think looks like me great it's you you have a delivery from mdy oh the sock from mdy finally arrived what but this is not one of the Court deaths the skila straight for her but it doesn't say in the mishna a ticking TI bomb Oh [Music] no a kiss from hasem just today we learned in the that if there is no other choice you can kill him in any way think you could say that they sucked him all right they sucked him okay maybe you have to give the maybe if he ran away he could take out a gun and shoot him so it seems like from and other that this is referring to it's not necessarily all um all other some say that the is in other things let's say a guy let's and get ski and he runs away or you don't have Stones you don't have where to so you could choke him but a you can kill with anything you want in other words other Mis if you can't do one you can do one of the other three but you can do anything you want you can kill them any way you want okay there public service for a lot of things M okay and let's say you learned from what was your big question maybe that's your question if you're going to learn again if you learn from you don't have the question why because itn't say but it says so if I'm going to learn from everything in the Tor that says it should be so I have a problem from that it also says and she doesn't get she gets well that's not a question you're right she should beila but the Torah says specifically that only an Engaged woman gets skila so may I understand from that that a regular married woman doesn't get Skil how come somebody hits his father gets somebody that curses his father gets what Skil why because it's more why is it more because there's two things going on first of all you're cursing a your father and second of all you're using the Shem AEM to curse it's not just a curse you say a bad word a swear word like they say in English it's you're using aem's name in the curse and that's why your M also but anyway how come you don't learn from that that you should get but now I have a problem you have someone that hits his father I can learn from that he gets I can learn from that also says get if I have two options it says says you have this thing in the middle hitting father over the head with a bat what should he get go with the lighter one go with okay so finally says no the problem is if I learn from I'll have a question for all the other ones that get okay so I have a question on all other in the why would I learn from that you get learn from that has the same exact two words that will teach me that you get the answer is because I'm not learning from I'm learning from and the only place that says is by and not by so therefore I'm going to learn from all the other stuff in the we don't know what all all we learn from if it says I learn from says the M these are people get he has relations with his mother and with his father's wife which that is going to throw us in the whole almost as we're going to see in a second the your father's wife which is basically also your own mother so how many and on your daughter-in-law relations with animal a woman who has relations with the animal curses so this is an interesting it's a riddle also but I had enough riddles today what in the are you over and you get but you over a second time or depends in a certain second time you don't get anything you don't get skila that's answer is a person only has two kids and he he puts one kid in the fire and then he puts his last kid in the fire he doesn't get SK because it says from his children but not all his children he put all children in the fire it's even fire some say it's not fire but okay that the kid doesn't die that's the one that we said that we learn the whole T to it he he talks to to with bones and a person he curses his own father or mother and over here we said rash says he he uh he uses we said this is like the the epitome of the worst a because she's young and she she's never with her husband but she's and a person who convinces individual to do a person who convinces an entire City different the the young kid who's already stealing and and Fring and we have to kill him it's interesting interesting because we give him a very even though he didn't do anything wrong at this point wrong he stole but you don't get Mis for that we don't just give him Misa we give him a very very severe Misa the worst Mis interesting says the M that if person has relations with his own mother so we're referring to over here to a person who does it he doesn't realize it's his mother so he's have to bring two caranas one for being with his own mother and one for being with his father's wife obviously if he if he knew what he was doing you can't punish him twice because it gets me so you can only kill somebody once thear says is forever it never goes off another riddle which AA goes off one AA goes off actually besides which ARA goes off anybody besides the person that's not supposed to answer huh sisters so that answers the question remember the only ER that ever goes off is a sister the your wife's sister not your sister that can never go off your sisterin-law so you ask what about is is never goes off you could divorce it never goes off no ever goes off only if yeah we're not going into the details but yeah sister-in-law only if the wife dies this is our big just it's not a hard just rud says that a person is only one and there's a debate in the gar did he say it in a certain case or in all cases the only if somebody has relations with his father's wife who's not his mother yeah his father remarried somebody else had two wives he's for two one for his father's wife and one for a if she still married him I didn't say over here when we said be I could say it later but Bea the the styler says a very interesting thing I thought it's interesting that it says about that the learns that b was with his donkey so the styler says that that is the reason why B was such tremendous am drus in Tuma in in Kish in in in his n because it came from and he reached the lowest madri in other words the the the greater the person does have varus the more Tuma he has so the more madus in T he gets interesting thing and if somebody does tremendous mitzvah the bigger madre in what kind ofar is that just I can't wait until after to that what is that how old is it ah garnish no I bet you doesn't have audas it's hard to read from okay says the and another important thing is that we're talking about somebody has relationship with his mother so the ram says that the reason why somebody that has relations with his own mother he gets such a severe o is because he's not doing it for he's doing it to to upset the he says a lot of the the theas have the same reason there's no tie in it so why you doing it you're doing it to upset oh you doing you get a very very s [Music] here says b oh so if someone has relations with his father's wife now obviously you're not going to be over if his father is not alive but the of remains forever even after his father dies even even if she was only engaged to the father is still considered obviously if they're married and a person has relations with his own daughter-in-law two he has to bring even after his son dies is still considered his daughter-in-law he still on the daughter-in-law his son only got engaged to this woman engagement great so this is different than what we have in our Mish the says remember said that if a person has relation with his own mother the T says what should I stop I talk to himself again okay MH says that a person is on his mother to and his mother and says only one says the Bri talking about because the father shouldn't have married this woman but if the father could marry this woman then you too we're going to go away from that but at this point the gar is saying that she's not your father's wife why because the father wasn't allowed to marry her let's say a Cen with a gr whatever it is he shouldn't have married is going to go into it I'm just throwing an example on top of my head which might not be right but if the father can't marry her so she's not a as she's whatever a she happens to be his mother you can't deny the fact that it's his mother so he's over on a mother but not over on your father's wife cuz she's not your father's wife she's not allowed to be married him now goes into it what kind of woman is this that she's not to marri the father talking about somebody let's say he married his own his own [Music] sister what so he's arguing say no even in such a case it's your father's wife how could that be everybody's going to agree that there's no here and she's not a wife hell so we must say that we're talking about somebody let's say a divorce or Al so the father shouldn't have marry this person and the father did so according to she's not your father's wife but she is your mother have one not two we had the other day that according to there is no it's not like oh it it grabs the is good you're doing no it doesn't even grab problem is says so before let's do a tiny let's say Z you're not going to like this sorry yeah two brothers Ruben and shim not related to zei Ruben is married to the five town and ruin has a daughter now in the time of the gar the greatest ever and the best ever was to marry your uncle niece the uncle should marry a niece so goes ahead this guy shim and marries his niece we know this whole thing is false cuz if you think it looks like Noam the top guy he doesn't have any daughters so the whole thing is not not EMS I'm just trying to calm zy down now close your eyes now now he marries his niece who happens to be ruan's daughter then he goes bye-bye he goes to America a little bit for a month so now ruen has a problem ruin has to be uh wait a minute this his own daughter so that is in this case it's zero zero there's no connection between ruin and his own daughter it's impossible to marry your own daughter so he doesn't even have to perform a nothing zero she can go marry anybody she wants now there's no even no KH what if that's that's normal that's a regular case what if let's see how this work I didn't see this yet oh man I don't know what this is I didn't check this out oh guy's married to two women and he has two sons oh and this Safta marries one of the brothers now she's allowed to marry the brother right cuz this check this out it's it's a paternal grandmother it's not it's not a it no no no no we're talking about we're talking about the now marry grandmother this guy's allow to marry her because it's not his grandmother it's his brother's grandmother they happen to be brothers from a father be but the one on the left it's not his grandmother I had to put it back there it's his brother's mother's mother not his mother's mother and he marries the his brother Safta the problem is what happens when this guy goes bye-bye he's also on a plane now bye-bye so now this guy has to do KH but with his own grandmother so do we say in this case no it's a grandmother I can't no Kal go home because it's only the he's allowed to marry his grandmother so he must do that's called a his grandmother is AIA it's not really him we call it a second not not so let's see inside when the woman who Falls to you is either a Mitzvah or which the is going to explain on then you have to perform KH you should in this case Mr shim should not marry his grandmother per what does this me like a grandmother that only said you shouldn't marry her why we call it's a to listen to even if they tell you on the right that it's left and on the left it's right what if you know they're 100% wrong it's also you have to listen to the is what does this mean let's say the's brother married a he shouldn't have and he dies so now the Cen a regular Cen cannot marry grusa and he his brother didn't listen and she he married a gr so he has to perform KH you see the question here the question is obvious now who says this rabuda rabih Huda is saying that if ausa fell to you how did ausa fall to you how did you get into the position that you have y AA because your brother married one but the the kushan is not good it's not a good Kian obviously it is a good kushan hold on we're going to see in a second it's re how do we know re it comes up in a second but you hear the question it's too deep let's do it again if we just grab this case we have a brother who married a divorce he's a he should never marry divorce but he didn't listen to the T and he married her so you could hold like that it's not a marriage at all zero not or you could hold it it is let's say you hold it isn't zero so now the person dies and he's he thinks he's married to divorce but he's not really legally married to her so that divorce doesn't fall doesn't become his brother's Yama at all nothing nothing happened from the fact that this Bry says that she does become just you should you should not be you should just give her tells me that the K is a good K when the did a bad thing and he married a divorce it's a good let's see inside sorry why is it called here let's just go here check this out sorry no no no no no let me go away from that okay now I can show it to you what's Mitzvah we said we just said isz me a grandmother what's check this out what's you all know boom okay so in other words rud the one we just said that believes that when there's a iser to marry a woman alive just alive it doesn't work at all over here he's saying that does work look I just changed the Mitzvah to Mitzvah but here it says over here that these women you should give them a not a evil in other words the the brother who died the K was a good K he just flipped him around but he still agrees that there if you say what holds that it doesn't matter if a if the woman is the the woman is like she's it's never a marriage to her you could scream all you want and say that you're you're married but you're not married and since after you die this woman is not even your wife so she doesn't become your brother's wife or she doesn't require very simple answer no reuta doesn't believe in all of this the switcheroo that he did this thing that he did not because he believes it just he was just trying to explain according to you got it wrong not the opposite I'm not involved over here I don't believe in it I don't think they they they're married at all you that believe that they're married you should just know is referring to that's it but he doesn't believe it what sponsors thank you to Global the quietest guy in the room experts in International Financial Services anonymous sh so I I have to I have to tell the in case you didn't hear from anybody in case you weren't in benra because if you were in benra and you don't know about this then you're blind in benra on every post on everything I got like a 100 people send me a guy made a 16 meter wide uh sign and put it up basically the owner of AR is a very popular Hall he's giving us the hall this Thursday night and he's doing all the advertisement and the food so there's a Shear in Hebrew you guys are invited what his name is m yeah M from kazami the the CEO of kazami he's doing a a Shear in Hebrew over there so you guys are welcome to come it's going to be an interesting mind what he's expecting a thousand people I don't see how it could be less I mean it's on the radio station it's on the people just going to come to see what is going on and it's free okay they don't care about you want me to come if you don't embarrass me I can't I can't control that yes I want you to come all right I'm in there Thursday night also okay so anyways says listen this everything we just read that what theud says if a person is with his own mother he's only we brought a BRI it's referring to in a case where the father wasn't landed married his mother no no no no no say no let's read it like it says in the mishna that a regular mother who's married to the guy's father everything is good in kosher they had a they had r at the they all said it's a great wedding and a good K and the son was over with his mother he's still only one according to only one is Sir in other words even though there's a kushan and the father is married to this woman we don't we don't we don't give him carbon for only for and now we're going to try to figure out what the reason is and we're not going to have a good reason today tomorrow is the reason until the m here it's an exclusion I only give you one carbon one is for IM for mother and not for the second one as the I have a little bit of a problem why because if you look at this chart it says so do the same exclusion when it comes to the the the father's wife so what's going to happen I'm going to have no you're only for a father's wife no you only for a mother so you're not for anything so a person who with his own mother is going to be Potter makes no sense says the same thing he it's an exclusion now that comes to the bottom PA the bottom line comes to say they you're not for her mother IMA and the IMA comes to say you're not for her father's wife so have on a regular mother who's married to your father well that can't be that you if you have a mother your mother is not your father's wife how is she not your father's wife RAB Boi married huh married oh yeah they never got married it's called nicer kind of out of wedlock they weren't married they were never ases of she's his mother so that why because it says in the and then the other case it's impossible if she's your mother who's not your father's wife then have but if she's your mother plus she's also your father's wife you should be P completely makes no sense wait a minute how could say going to explain later this this is not for this oh so we have to come on to a new why does say only one and not two you're new over here no not really five six times like him okay Ze I'm telling you he doesn't believe me he's arguing with me whether I remember stuff or not here's a question what is the the game on the game the he ruins every crash what do I do with him okay fine you for sure you're not allow to answer okay Israelis are starting to come which is only going to last for about a minute and we're going to go away from this also again we have a person who's M with his own mother and this mother is also his father's wife so two or only over on a mother says no only one it says the same word daughter-in-law and we all know that a daughter-in-law [Music] twice and doesn't even argue on this so you have to say Okay the reason why it says cuz we're talking about one person but there's two at this point we can't learn from the word we can't learn from the word but I will tell you a quick story for the new guys and there's a lot of here so I'll tell you with me I got to tell you this to you don't be upset at me but maybe you will appreciate it a little bit more than the L here in the room I was inat a long time ago I was on a uh on a trip with um with it's called the mentor's mission a trip and I was in a crazy mood was on Chavis and um we went for in a and the guy was he thought he he was like a you know what I'm talking about so he starts reading the Torah and he says instead of who he says he okay didn't say anything that's a problem is that a few pum later it said who again and then he read it who instead of HE so I starts screaming he the whole start scream no who he who I'm saying no he get her I I so I go over to the guy said say listen if you're going to be consistent you're going to read every who he that's great you can't do one he and one who cuz then the first one wasn't good get out of here they started yelling at me okay anyway it's true story anyways have a wonderful week St no it's true