Daf Yomi Pesachim Daf 113 by R’ Eli Stefansky

today we have three sponsors we are still in pikiin hakadasha i'll get to that in a second in honor of my wife miriam tara on the occasion of our twentieth wedding anniversary mazda shmuel thank you for caring for the children every morning so i can learn at mdy yeah that does talk to the wife she'll be masked let's learn to die for the children avi mandelbaum last night it happened to be by abby mandelbaum's home i think this has no connection this is way in advance that he sponsored but it was a beautiful time in murashet in memory of my great grandmother mrs eva freeman on her 17th united my grandfather and his 23rd yard site and the eleanor mother on the third sponsor lilianism was our mother fago bastivi allah 25th your site and asia's niftares at 42 years old [Music] 42 years old wow so we are here in pakistan i was going through a little bit of a rough spot by goodhaverim fix avacamianski and gershon vamosha they took me out to simmer north and still here it was great times throughout the shabbos ever kept on saying well we learned how to do zimwin kept on bringing up stuff from the gemara until we got to abdullah abdullah was a little bit of a boo-boo as you see today you're supposed to make abdullah in being that the island was having such a great time there's zero yay in left and you're supposed to leave a little bit of the iron it's a little bit of a problem so i need to read this email we're slightly late here but it's a great email dear email is from sv medetsky how could we think you and the members of the mdy team noam avi gershon yosef yoshua reuven who else am i missing there's many moshe hirsch on the americas this sell what i need to do to excel at my job your unique ability to pause and engage everybody in the room and even those on zoom is amazing and i found we've not been very good on the zoom we have to remind me we have to go to the zoom guys i found myself listening to share exclusively for fear of missing another personal story bad joke or tidbit that make it possible impossible to tune out additionally i've been forced to rethink the charts that i put up on the board because they don't measure up this hasn't looked out for anything i can use as a prop to enhance my giving over the paragraph kid to my after all not every talmud is as easy to engage as in the risk of the right says jesus farkovic but i do have one complaint here goes there's always one thing it couldn't have been a perfect email without this but it's god's fine joseph vermin is my first cousin and the moment i discovered your sheer the strong resemblance to me the problem is i think all the shout outs are getting to his head i'm afraid what would have happened if the emailer from the other day had mentioned as a supporting character on your tv show he's handsome but not in the same league as you and by all accounts you'll understand how great this line is i have to say it again he's handsome now why am i saying it again because i once told his wife that people say that he looks like me and she goes what you know how much better looking is than you so here's his wife i didn't say this he's handsome but not in the same league as you maybe maybe he means he's much more handsome okay assume by all kinds of equations not nearly as talented on the basketball court thank you i'm very much looking forward to giving you a personal issue maybe even dancing together at the five-time temp socratium tsv hersche medetsky looking forward valdez here we go another full death of agadata formerly ravasi sorry up asking yourself you got to make sure that the youtube and everything is working because any second no we don't have very good connection here up north so raf says there are toddlers you have to make sure that you have dogs and horses you need to know where you need the sound because if not the thieves will come in there and the thieves come in there and you don't have a horse to chase them down you're more likely to get hit up by those thieves [Music] it says and it says here you should not live in a city that the mayor is a doctor now the point the point is that the doctors visit the doctrines seeing patients and everything we'll let the let the city go this guy is a bigger shed yesterday the guy that didn't know that this guy not only is he marrying two women inaudible if you should marry you shouldn't marry two but if you marry two that's the clown you gotta marry a third one wow crazy crowd one of them is going to snitch only ravelrov kahana again rav tells ravkano one of the most degrading moments in my life was when i worked as an electrician i wanted to go into the real estate field but i wanted to learn from the bottom up everything i said recently i don't have any new stories besides one from last night which i said two years ago five i was what's up and the guy the my friend boss he got a job which required to dig one foot down into the ground and 60 feet long to bury a wire the only problem was now he wanted me to do the work of course so he gave me a shovel and he said go to work i only found out when i got to the location that it's my father-in-law's home so there i am digging a 60-foot one feet deep one foot deep and it was the middle of the winter and there's snow on the embarrassing time like i'm there with the shovel with that the point is that sometimes you have to start from the bottom now and i also want to say that one of the most inspiring things that i've seen and i've said this many times i spoke to the guy this guy i don't want to mention his name because i didn't ask for shows but he comes every single day not the best memories and i was extremely inspired by him i mentioned this to many people he used to clean the streets right where our basement dresses in that neighborhood and i lived in that neighborhood and i see a firm guy a little bit of a beard with headphones cleaning the streets with a broom and they said he does a great job he did it for a living so i went over to him one day i said what's going on here he says i listen to tyroshire shirum he's a very serious guy my son my 10 year old is his son's best friend your son's best friend the three of them are best friends um he says i listen to torah and i'm able to work out and clean air to strong and i couldn't believe it here's i'm so used to people only only working in real estate and nursing homes and me he's cleaning the streets of various room all right anyway you have to start from the bottom sometimes you have to take any job that's available and basically very good at it by the way they drive trucks they drive buses they work as cashier registers it doesn't matter you do you get it done bring a little paranasana this your heart is going to desire you're going to get addicted um always and you're going to spend a lot of money on the medication and on rehab will they teach negro you shouldn't jump over the rivers because it causes we say that if you take large steps it takes away 1 500 because you should make sure cause different people learn different things in those days if they had a headache a lot of pain in their teeth they just rip the tooth out he says don't do it because the pain is going to go away and you'll be stuck without a tooth which reminds me of i read once beautiful thing that there's a soldier or soldier but i read about a particular soldier in the russian army who didn't want to fast i am kipper who wanted the fascinating kid i should say and there's no way out the only way out was if he pulled the tooth out so in order to fast he ripped his tooth out and he showed them that he [Music] one tooth the day off and therefore he's able to fast they kind of don't it's not a lotion of kinna of being just don't provoke a snake i'll attack you like the kind of varma and don't provoke a guy there are three that you don't provoke explains you shouldn't provoke a younger guy if you try to provoke a younger non-jew what happens when he gets older than with the with the palestinians they teach the young that's what you do so you think guys just some kid eventually he's going to come and take revenge thomas caught in the same thing you see a guy that's not that great in learning you make fun of him a little bit stuck him and all of a sudden before you know it he's better than you and he'll put you in your place omni ravel ibubray sarav had another son we were talking about he told his son i tried really hard to teach you kumara it didn't work so you know what let me teach you a little bit about business let me teach you something about the world so step number one is when you buy the produce the product don't hang on to it sell it immediately so you buy and sell buy and sell like this you'll have a little money you'll buy a little more don't be able now it goes into other things to detail call me this when you buy something interesting regret selling them try to hold on to them so this two things this is your business obviously you want to sell but other things don't try to sell barramundi since it could spoil you quickly your wallet in other words receive the cash and then only afterwards then give the product cabo me arrow coiro me igra so this is a big sight for you avi it's for you specifically to you try to work close to your house even if it means you're going to make less money fascinating thing here because he says the numbers that apply today in today's day and age how much money do you typically make on a real estate deal and he says invest in real estate you make about five percent whereas somebody comes over and offers you twenty to three percent great stay away those are risky stick to something solid and that also applies because a few times people came over to me what quit yeah but a lot and there's a stroll there's a lot of these people they advertise you can buy a house in philadelphia you know for twenty thousand dollars just invest with us and we'll get you the money and you can make big returns so i always tell people the same thing if anybody asks me i say invest nearby don't invest and don't don't trust all those scams better to make little it says there cabo ma arrow but i 180 times the size of a cap it's better to make one if you know for sure you're going to make the money it's it what do you do what's going to explain soon is a beer maker why is it nicole is going to talk if you have something in the basket go right away and make your beer vatkamo omarovo atlosa saw 432 eggs worth get rid of it omraa papa eloi ramoy shikharo loyatri or papa the famous beer maker if it's not for the beer that i made out of dates i wouldn't have been wealthy this is a beautiful secret you take something cheap like a date and you make beer out of it you become healthy to the point what do you do with your money you could give others [Music] when you have debt people owe you money they but so you're gonna have to go knock on door and this is you know it's i just realized now rough pop off from the floor and he had to sit on a bed and then he had to run away so this is probably telling you listen it's better to get cash up front whatever it means however you can get it don't give credit it's always problematic cry in in lush in hebrew that's right you don't know if you're going to get it less cash today than a lot of credit for tomorrow with the aussie moyes royce if people pay you back they pay you back 100 here let's say you lend a thousand dollars the guy pays you 100 today 100 tomorrow what do you do 100 bucks you give it away it disappears it's better to get it in one shot in the name of the people i'll try to go in some sort of platoon that goes in last year inaudible if it's possible if it's in your hands to do so however whatever that means and however that means if the general is not i'll tell you exactly how to go try to come back first vase stock labries so we had this number of times once again don't borrow money from people if you can't afford it in more beautiful shops now right on the spot tyson says but we say so that you could whatever you spend on travis barco is going to pay you back just tyson that you have if you have the money and you spend it hashem will pay you back but if you don't you can't borrow money then we spoke about yesterday what does that mean how much you have to have etc once again the same idea try to do business with somebody that's successful that has good luck to you says revel don't review things in the open mushrooms yoyo the famous story of shaw he went on the roof top and he saw her bathing the whole story he shot an arrow on an apple on a bird trying to get bird and the and the arrow went off and hit the sheet and she was exposed that's how the whole she was married to uriah and the whole story he sent him to war and died the weber says he doesn't know what he's talking about but the whole proc over there and uh there's some mess up and happened because she was on the roof in an open place in a public place where she shouldn't have been they didn't have the uh what does it call you know when you get your license to carry which i have concealed weapon carry they teach you these things i don't know they had those don't shoot in the open okay here's the biggest side this is also this we might be able to apply this to today's day and age to the shidduch crisis i'm not kidding if your daughter gets older you have to see you have to look into what the gemara is saying here you are saying literally let your slave loose and he should marry your daughter in other words in our day and age we don't have slaves so instead of going to ponovich to have the best shidduch in the world so you go to chris you go to chevron but you know what i'm talking about sometimes that you compromise you don't want your daughter to get older in those days the march is literally bug rush you became a result because that's when they marry them off really really young you don't want it to get too old what m your you make sure your wife because the immortality says that a woman loves her son-in-law so it's problematic you're not allowed to live in a mother-in-law's house because because of the closest that they might have raf khan and she'll spend a lot of money on him [Music] these things exist got to be careful um these three people get oiled if you live in arizona and if you bring up your son's future what does that mean literally what it means is if you see running low on wine it's better to leave some over for matsi shabbas rather than making kids on she can make on bread but i estimated the i lose not kidding not exaggerating probably the best smears i ever had in my life is i'm not kidding it was for hours to what time without guzma to what time did the guys go straight the boys after midnight straight smears non-stop beautiful voices each guy here um did a phenomenal job the adults awesome um [Music] firstly you didn't do anything you're just not drinking although you leave over from killer stuff and certainly just to have another cup of wine we had plenty imagine a single man who's single and he has all these temptations because he lives in a city and he's not quite which reminds me of jacobs who found seven thousand four hundred and sixty shackle i mean we take it for granted but imagine the the messiah a person who has no money considering learns and kylo makes a couple thousand shackles and nothing finds seven thousand shekels like that no boxes you have to give it back you give it back and it's not the biggest sign in the world but it's it's it's up there it doesn't have a cement because the kumar says if you sometimes you're hustling if you give back money because if a hundred dollar bill falls on the phone it doesn't have a cement so this you could argue that it wasn't real cinnamon or somebody's handwriting is not true but it said exactly a wealthy person does things quietly doesn't pray for them it goes for other things as well it's not we have to we have to learn from this it means if you create a look how much i'm giving to to to do this you do a good sinner ref safar rava khadobe krakow says gimbal of safra was a single man who lived in a city returning to dav coffee gimli sponsored by ellie dykeman brought that slugger for all the mdy team in their everyday lives i wish i had a picture here you know i could take a picture i'm going to take a picture real quickly the mdy team a big part of them sitting right in front of me in the middle of share here's the picture here's the clock giveaway okay funny time i for all the heart avoid this they do which they do it's not it's unbelievable especially from our mdy family please consider joining the md white healing group telum.8mindaf.com come join sit down what are you doing up so early so he said he just said this over he said that if a person person is single and he and he's in his gabber and he doesn't he's not quite tremendous cross saab upon of the rough suffer of suffer so excited i'm single and i live in a city it wasn't speaking about you okay part of their job require them to make shoes for the designers [Music] they wouldn't even lift up their eyes to look at these they're in such a terrible position and they still control themselves the designer went design noise when they would swear this is what they would say look at these holy rabbis i'm swearing on the hush of the tamid the holy tamil bears israel maybe that gives another meaning to kind of that long cottage i don't know if we say that i just remember something oh the astra kadisha okay that's a different thing okay this is a bonus [Music] yeah it's a problem a person doesn't get mad a person doesn't get drunk and you hear this gary person that doesn't get drunk because your boy who loves him talking to myself here i got a little bit more tips last night two nights ago that i did on on put him because i guess because i didn't have to give sharon thomas the shops i'm sorry person who controls me because who loves them he thinks one thing but that's another thing he can testify his friend but refuses this is amazing this is a big share you know something terrible about a person terrible guy's a ghana of a guy did a terrible thing to kid whatever it is you it's just you are you going to testify about him on your part is the only one that saw it so he went and he tested turned around instead of punishing the bad guy he punished the witnesses i don't understand he sinned and i get punished since i cannot accept your testimony testimony is only two so what do you do you came and you said something sam you said los angel i can't accept it because you're one person and it says you didn't gain anything they tell me the story unbelievable you have to know the the different circumstances and if you're saving other people that's that how it works but stop telling my papa a mice a juicy story and you were single member by alcoholic all you're trying to do is give him a bad name and you didn't accomplish anything i don't know how to we have to apply it to our day-to-day lives no you think you know if a guy is a stickler ghana are you trying to help everybody not the right thing to you show up in the do not the rabbit son if you just show up your local rabbi rabbi you shouldn't be a tattletail but what if something you got to say it i know i'm saying a guy a guy is he's inappropriate with children so what do you do you keep it to yourself you don't have the sayings you have to know here's an amazing thing um you cannot testify about it [Music] no you don't have to help a non-jewish donkey you have to help the jewish donkey of course we're talking about a jewish donkey owned by a jew and you hate him um you shouldn't hate a jew in your heart because of it i hate this one guy but i hate him because he's causing me to hate him that's why i hit him not because that was too deep i hate him because he's making me be over on the assistance of the vehicle okay whatever ella dick is handed over it's true though the what happened is there were witnesses that he did it is so this is witnesses and if there's witnesses everybody has to hate him so why are you special why is it why are you hating him he's the whole world's enemy you are the only one that saw that he sinned and made law you are the only one that is permitted to hate him now there's an amazing tisou it's a very deep tigers i love this this is tap thai swiss says place of him tomorrow the elements see sabrina in mitzvah you have in front of you your best friend and you need to undo the his donkey but you have in front of you uh enemy that you have to load up the donkey they look awesome so you in the mitzvah you're supposed to help your enemy in order to overcome this bad inclination that you have to hate people what are you trying to overcome we just said it's a mitzvah to hate this guy why do you matter this guy you hate are you obviously not talking about russia talking about sadiq is a really bad guy so then why does the gemara say that you should help him in order to overcome your bad inclination which the tire told you to hate you're supposed to hate it you're not supposed to overcome that inclination he says tyso is an amazing psychology here i came through you're supposed to hate him so you hate him how much he's supposed to hate him the turtle tells you to hate him so no how much hate could you already build up in you because you you hate him 20 700. so now the bad guy this ganov that you hate he realizes that you hate him because i'm upon him upon him can't leave them so now he hates you 20. oh he hates you and he starts saying things about you so now you hate him 40. oh that extra 20 that you hate him that's what the torah wants you to get you're supposed to hate him a certain amount not like wow like you're like you hate a nazi you hate him because he's a bad guy because he's not listening but now you added your own personal vendetta that's what the wants you to get rid of you completely hate him you want him to die a guy that doesn't have air you don't want to die you should get cancer no you don't want that he's a bad guy yeah now your mom and she resented me that's what it's unbelievable tomorrow no if the worker immediately [Music] if a person doesn't act properly he's not making the torah then you could hate him you could talk him and there's different things you gotta do here's hashem you have your mind [Music] if you know that your review or whatever it is it's going to trust you one hundred percent then you'll say it oh we love so here it goes that's what we're talking about before if somebody's gonna really trust you or if he thinks i'm a guy that makes up stories so then you know how to tell them the three people that their life is it's miserable people have honest on everybody and people like cats to get angry people are super sensitive everything everything bothers them he says i'm messed up i have all these things and he's blind [Music] they have to stick together because the the bottom of society that they look down at so to speak today but people you know gary so they stick together valve of them and slaves the irving and crows i of aldum the four that nobody could stand up so this is the reverse of what's supposed to be you have a pauper that runs around his nose up in the air he's so usually deserves for for the wealthy not that it's a good thing cooper that says i can't pay you back i don't have money the the guy could pay you back so why so he's acting the reverse of what he what we expect and people hate that for old person that runs around doing isurum uparonism and somebody in charge of the of the community and as the rashban points out he doesn't take care of the community all he does is he uses his power and the presses a person divorces wife once or twice and then he brings her back back that says doesn't talk about a person that divorced his wife twice he's become in the midst shots of any divorce again it's a terrible thing people hate that guy so because the vasa aruba the reason why he brought her back is because he couldn't afford it he had too much of exuberance like you know it's better if i marry her and then he realized okay money i'll get rid of her means he doesn't he doesn't want to he doesn't want to he doesn't want to divorce her because he doesn't want to remain divorced because he has children with her says there's five things that told his kids now the rajab says he didn't really tell them but they act in such a way that's obvious that this is this is very acceptable by them you should love each other you should hate your master because none are always slaves so if you hate your master and you love human gesso you get you you get along in life about everyone miss and don't talk to the truth don't speak the truth he loves war he's about guy with a horse whom he says he hates sleeping like the mountain bro talks about that he slept in this room like a horse he eats a lot of he deposits less views he wants to kill his master he doesn't run away where he won't run away from danger or some say that if you come back to the you don't say i have a horse here has bought a horse a horse and he's he's very into eating and he that's the horse you can't give it back to me or say i went to the war with him and he's a terrible horse no that's it well as long as they act like horse then he's a horse the seven that that are menuda they're excommunicated by male 1 if you don't get married if a person doesn't have children now tyson points out when he doesn't have trouble because he doesn't want to have children it's up to him and he decides i don't want to have children he's a pusher again he's appreciated he doesn't send them to the shiva umichian lights filling everybody show you film destroyed this is so this is interesting it even says scissors over here you should go your way to the mitzvah to where it says [Music] okay so go and put fill on your head at least for these things and you sit down you don't want about or like this points out over here on top of kofi dallas of a cayenne [Music] know you don't ask the stargazers what's the future now we said just the other day we mentioned that yosef was told by the stargazers there's going to be a reshape for two and a half years he realized that he's going to die after two and a half years he said rabbi should be first for 22 years and i'll be second so that's stargazers the answer is he didn't go to them they came to him they offered information you're allowed to trust their information they had it's based on on on on on real science but don't go and ask them what the future holds why you have to accept everything so don't don't worry about what the future is over here you can close your ears it's not this is not good if you know that your friend is greater than you i feel like if he knows one piece of target more than you should have learning you have to treat him with covered shenanigans over here on top of kofi dalaran this is why i told you you can't listen to this second place is down so covered if you didn't learn anything from this guy he knows one piece of information more than you you have to treat him with respect if you learn one thing from somebody then certainly hear gary okay that wasn't respectful say that nicely again [Music] let's just finish this one line here so a woman who gives birth to a boy she's tummy for seven days and then she gets 40 freebies even if she sees dumb during those 40 days she's not tommy she's muted to her husband and then she goes to the mikvah uh 47. so on that day 47. now if it's a if it's a girl you double it up so she's stomach for 14 days and then from day 15 to 80 they're all freebies and then she goes to mikvah on 81. so if she is tar through those 40 days so she doesn't care about them that means nothing to her because dam is mother dum is as if nothing happened so we're concerned is the rabban and alex we're concerned that she's going to be confused she's not going to realize that that dam is something that time creates toma so we tell her to wait one one period of time in other words a one twelve hour period that first night let's go to the mikvah she's also to her husband for 12 hours just to make a break from her freebies and now from now on she's used to her husband every time she sees them have a wonderful day cheers foreign you