Daf Yomi Nedarim Daf 89 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning rat boy side we're starting a brand new we have a few guests today we'll introduce them soon last night I felt I just thought about this morning it's good that sometimes you guys don't show up in the mornings we had 22 guests yesterday 22 20 came to the front and there's two in the back they don't want to come to the front 22 so I was thinking like if everybody comes to Shabbos for being considerate it's us and giving yeah you saw a wettenstein hi Shia porgas on a trip to Poland daffing away their belly as a proud he's Boca resident this is he's broken magnet cheer Aria esterson I'm so excited to finally the main menu I sitting on the door will be taking place so close by when to break the timing couldn't have been worse for me at least wife and I are arriving at Australia Monday morning what is the sheer schedule in RBS the next few days until you leave we had a lot of inquiries I am leaving base rosham Tuesday night so it's going to be a shared Tuesday morning so I guess I.E esterson could come Monday Tuesday huh yeah there's a CM Tuesday night here remember Chapman so you come to that as well one time I don't know what time does it see him 6 30. I will be there base for a little bit because I have to catch a flight 11 o'clock flight so we'll be there when am I coming back that we don't know yet I know I'm gonna be in Miami for three four days Colorado for three days no shoe room in Colorado Sheeran but not live and then I'm gonna be in Los Angeles for like four days but I don't have a ticket back yet my kids want me to stay in Los Angeles for six weeks I want to stay for one day I guess we'll have to work it out uh uh my father-in-law son will be attending the CM in Miami your shirt continues to be my last review before I give the doctor in the morning I'm one of the many people whose views get wiped out when the edited version is posted with tremendously for the daily sheer because I can laughter Arya esterson East Boca cheer where boys are here is nakamustowsky uh from lachman Seltzer's old CDG friend nachman mustafsky it says like this kaddish stories how joining legendary Maggie cheer from America's defense don't talk 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for noser ah yeah that was laughing on my account thank you thank you subscribe for Monday didn't around talk about it nope so I reminded moti that the Communist is very similar to nadarum there's no Rashi another and the issue is the issue over here we have the run and it flies as you saw I was able to read thousands of words in a couple of minutes another it's all tysus as much run as we have here that's how much tices we have over there so yeah I'm gonna be automatically forced to say I entice this it's code but I mean yeah tices tices talks about it go go figure it out go look through the whole map if you can't find it by the end of this year we'll talk avoid side here you go there's a seum in Lakewood guest speaker Rabbi Shawn rabashkin and the swuggers that should be the new name for atan G atan G said he didn't know what a figure is he didn't know what schwer is so his band should be called the schwaggers it's a nice new name for his new band but anyways it's already taken 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location so they cannot join us they could watch they want to be part of this because they don't have a location yet because they want to be part of the the whole thing the raffle of this they could be we should put it on Zoom everyone the question is how to maybe the raffle part so they won't be in the raffle the raffle have to be here we'll talk about it different time let them figure it out on the bottom and the continuation of the Posse think about it if an almano makes a nether then nobody can be made for it well yeah of course nobody can be made for who could be mayford her husband is dead who else could be made for another a father but it's too late once she gets married completely the father is out of it so then what is the positive telling us says the mishnah says this case doesn't have to be necessarily Romano but let's say she's an armada and she says I'm going to be in a zero in 30 days here here's an azir you see for all the new guys you two guys yeah you can tell you didn't do nothing special I'm gonna turn it into zero after 30 days after operations then she gets married within the 30 days so she says I'm gonna be in a zero let's say this other and she gets married in the middle of so does it go the question is does it go by when she becomes in a zero by the halois or it come goes by that mirror when she said the nether she said the nether today and today she's not married she doesn't have a husband and she doesn't have the father she's she's a her father's out of the picture so who could do that pharah no one that's why the tire says yakum I just saw a very interesting maester not related but related to the word almano reviews things safer said there was an albana that was a seamstress that made a Kala uh wedding gown and they came to try it on right before the wedding and it didn't feel right so the mother said I'm sorry we can't take it we paid it but it doesn't fit right we're not taking it so Donald said okay the one then they got to address from another place that fit much better and everything is good the day of the khasana the the collar was choosing with her aunt and they're drinking coffee and the whole coffee spilled on the dress so they had a great idea this address available by the almano let's go buy the dress back on us they went to the Armada they bought the dress the mother went to her daughter and said listen tell me exactly did my sister spill the coffee on purpose and turns out that the color spilled the coffee on her own dress on purpose because she was upset at the mother that she did that to them you can't start up with an armada like that so but the reason says it was a big question what she did she tried that she owes her mother the money yeah exactly but at the end of the day she meant for the good but the point is you got to be careful with harmonious that was the point of the story I guess fine oh says the mishnup salvationism a guy from the sheer told me today that his brother is married to a daughter of an almana and anytime they read a of Mana they say so why don't you want to go out why don't she says no I'm just waiting because the longer I wait the market for widows widowers how do you say and and divorcees grows and grows I'm just waiting for the market to get bigger law huh videos about if she made a Nether and she's in she's she has a husband made for love in other words we go by the Amira we go by when she said the nether okay sad top of his house again I'm becoming a zero in 30 days from now half operations Association I raise the move for since at the time of that mirror again it goes with that mirror so since at the time that she uttered the nether she was married so her husband has the right to be made for it even though it took place it became the khaloys again I'm not I'm not making up this word I didn't find this in Passaic which they used to use a lot over there Durant says the word hallo is it works great over here the Allah is I always stayed away from that word my entire life but now to say because the round says it the hallo is happened after the death of her husband and he's not around to be Mayfair it's okay because it doesn't go by the khaloys when it happened when it starts when the zero starts it goes by when she said it and when she said it she had a husband and that husband has the ability to be Mayfair foreign what's going on here there was Nissan they're completely married us I want to show you before I go over here here this I forgot to show yesterday Yoshi made this I might as well show it this is the guy knows that there's such a concept called aphara just he wasn't sure that this nether has anything to do with him it's in the category because it has to be an Indian fesh or it's confused he didn't know if that fit the category and here she is saying something his wife is saying something and he's confused so we're gonna use that picture here in small basically this is so she's married after the she made a nether and then they got divorced and then he decided to get engaged again all on the same day even though it's in the same day so step one step one is she's married once she's married what happens father goes bye-bye there's no more father in the picture if there's Aeros in the round says if step one was just a real Sin then she made another then you can involve the father but the father's out of the picture because they're married now the husband in step four is also out of the picture why because when she made the nether in step two then she got divorced so step four now they're in a new relationship this is already called kaidman These are this is a nether that pre-existed the new marriage yes they were Once Upon a Time married but today we don't care about what would happen once that marriage is dissolved there's a get so the fact that they used to be married in the morning has nothing to do with us now they're starting a new relationship in step four there's another pre-existed a new relationship he cannot be made for the nether soon Vince gershow that is dissolved through again that's in step three and then he gave her kidushin Zach Cloud now every time it says it comes to add something is that cloud culture because she was on her own she was not married for one moment during that day in step three any other offer foreign just to review a little bit when this kidushen only Everson could a husband be Mayfair no he could only be made for together with the father but the father is bye bye ready in step one there's no father anymore that's it for the rest of her life the father's not involved once she gets married once so mamela in step four even though it's just aerosene foreign the husband can't do it on his own no we're not talking about this we're talking about I thought it's not do not look in the round it's not in the Run Tanya I'll say look in Iran when I see somebody looking in Iran and then it gets up um I have a Casio you got it from the round take the tires in the run I'm just guessing you got it from there I don't know why somebody calling me now oh okay even our mono or said I'm gonna become a zero when I get married but it's not I'm coming zero when I get married Vinnie says and she got married so again it's the same thing as we had in the mishnah student Amira and then there was she made it tonight on Sunday another on Sunday she made a Nether on Sunday that that had to do the night that when she gets married on Monday or next year then there's gonna be then the another will take effect but when she said it she didn't have a husband so we have a mcclegates why because Ruby Smalls of the opinion it goes by the Halo is it goes when the nether is how later on when she has a husband so if she has a husband the husband could get rid of the nether lawyer Rubik's Cube is of the opinion it goes by the Amira and Amira she didn't have a husband nobody gave me maven says very very simple here it is stands for the offer limit stands for layover so all these cases that we have I'm gonna have is joffreya fairly offer you offer okay huh so it's it's an it's a nigging what did he says a rice he said I should leave the singing for nothing he's using my medicine this is what I tell love at all time and then again I deserve it you're right foreign a married woman said I want the nazirus to be how when I get divorced marriage basil Hashem I'm going to get divorced very soon I reign in a zero then I'll be coming to zero venicegar and she got divorcedure again because over here it's the opposite Ruby schwalz says loyal Fair why because it goes by when the the nether's hollow in the nether's house he's already divorced there's nobody to be Mayfair even though it didn't happen yet but right now she's married and it goes by that mirror when she said the Nether and when she said the nether she had a husband because we could get rid of the nether I'm very small hurray I'll tell you why he says the neither means the khaloys when the nether happens the nether not when it's said but when it actually takes place foreign and we keep it holds your Australia it's with the issu the Amira when you say when you say the nether that when the nether takes place in she then it doesn't work if it was done by amulus vigoration but as long as she's married and she made a nether then the husband could be my favorite um says what everybody's thinking probably that our mishnah Mysteries our mission must be Rebecca because our mission says that it goes by the Amira and when she's when she said it she wasn't married the word says when she said she wasn't married she didn't have a husband to be made for so even though she got married within the 30 days doesn't work somebody told me yesterday he says your voice is very raspy it's true because I I'm I think because I give every day I can't it doesn't cure so it's an ongoing raspiness for the last three years this is not my real voice you have to go back to when I didn't give share all the time [Laughter] Donald Duck yeah that's why I don't sing anymore it's correct I buy all my sister bye you know it seems like breakfast is right that our mission is really kivo but perhaps we could put Ruby small in our mission as well [Music] our mishnah is about days in 30 days listen this is going to happen foreign in other words when we're the when it's dependent on a stage in life in in some sort of being married not married and she remained in the same situation so then it could be that rabi shmal will agree that we go by that mirror that's what everybody wants to say if it has to do if it has to do with days okay but if it has to do with switching stages in life going from being unmarried to married or married to unmarried and she remained in the same in the same massive stage then it could be that Ruby Schmo will agree that we go by a mirror what do you mean she stayed in the same stage what what she's not married she's got the same stage anymore no when she's toileted in getting divorced let's say and she didn't get divorced so now she's still in the same situation so reviews will agree that it has to do with a mirror you only change to a Halo is when something changed in her life but nothing changed in her life Zach cloud so we saw in the mission of all the way down the mission I mentioned that anybody says that cloud it comes to include something new something different that the mission doesn't talk about Zach Cloud why would I say this is the rule we already said all the rules so we had in the mission another thing about just jumps to tell us we had enough Zach Cloud culturally yotso remember here's the case here's the case the famous case the I like from this entire case I like the ring machine that's my personal thing you could buy a ring for a pruta here's uh sitting there with a bunch of sides let's say you could be kind in the midst of Ariston and Garrison all the Shema and all proceeds go to the badats so here they all line up the best thing comes the mouse flies through you cannot even remember the story okay great and that says the cloud is that if she didn't leave if she wasn't in her on her own for for a moment then her though it goes to the last one her father and her one of those hundred Hassan and the last guy they are made for the nether together but it says Zach cloud and Neymar says what's the cloud what does it come to tell us it comes to include new Allah if the father went together with the shliach of the husband I need some volume here for a second nothing special but just this here we go [Music] and now you have another case [Music] and now the father gives her over to the schlichem foreign good what's the point the point is like this when the father when the father releases his daughter what you never saw this one you weren't here when it happened um you never saw this oh that's right they both didn't see it these guys okay I don't even know what this is now I'm going to get an email from missile againz the Streisand Effect the whole massive you can't you mentioned the more you mentioned the more okay oh yeah he's right the clouds like this when the father gives his daughter over to Ashley that's it he releases he releases his control over if he's a accompanying them then she's no she's she's still in his resource so that's all the mission is trying to say is that cloud the word about if the father goes together with them no good then it's considered that she's still in the resource of the House of the father is she still didn't leave in that case the father and the husband still have control there the husband has control because he's he's the arrows the father still has control because he never released her had he given her over directly to the schlichen to the sleekham of the husband and left that's a different story but because he's still involved there I think it says about this gemara maybe he'll help me out the muscle he says that this is a muscle to Asana that when you when you still hold on to to the gashmias you're still holding on you're right Hashem he's still holding on you still have your father with you not Hashem in this case it's the father holding on to his daughter so he still had he still have the newspapers the the the different uh what's going on in the world our harusa for instance the certain things that you can't even imagine he doesn't know he doesn't know who BB is let's say like he knows but he doesn't he didn't realize that he's the involved in politics the last 20 years there's no no clue people this when you still have you look at the nice you look at the desert so you still connect he talks about that's what he I'm saying what he says so then you're still connected someone to that gash means and then your relationship with not complete in order to be married to your auros you have to have a complete disconnect to your father to the listen that you had before as long as he's he's still there he gave you over to this but he's still in the background that you don't have that complete relationship with man thank you uh so the gamar says cloudy so what about an hour mission it says that clap because it comes to say about once the father gives her over two of the husband in other words he gave her over to the husband doesn't have to be the father but the Agents of the father gave her over they passed her over now the father is not involved anymore that's it so now the husband can no longer be made for because he needs the father and the father's out of the picture so now the husband can be made for either monster Ave let's just do this one second if the father got rid of her that's it she's gone you see the father stayed behind so that's it now the husband can't either be made for her original Nadar because for that you need both the father and the husband and the father's out of the picture Emma Mela the husband can't do it on his own what's this oh Masters okay got it that's it oh says sponsored by all Freeman nishwas my dear father is the mission says there are nine girls that you can't be majored in the dark says the ran and this is very important to understand what's going on here not to get confused says the round is only three it's three three categories it's easy she reaches a certain age 12 and a half usually Simon and plus six months father has no control is also very simple and that is if a father marries her off even though she's a katana and she gets divorced or she loses her husband that's it she doesn't go back to her father even though her father is alive she's considered a yes she considered an orphan in now that we know those three categories the mishnah is just going to tell us things within those categories now some of them are redundant some of them are literally not necessary so why are they here says the ran he brings you xiaomi them if you just said could you come up with some cases let me hear Let me hear and don't tell me them couldn't could it was it was a riddle it's it's to sharpen one's mind what are the nine cases so we start off with the first one you sawima the one on the right the one in green we're gonna give three cases for that three cases for these soy milk three cases for the big errors and you're gonna say to yourself obviously I get it we just said it it doesn't matter it's all it's nine cases if she's already an adult and then and she also lost her father this is right because we're in the category so not talking about that she lost her father it means that she lost her husband but she doesn't go back to her father because that's it once she's married she doesn't go back to the father okay so the point is that she says but you'll add to that a big Garrus and then when we have bigger so we're going to add to that so you didn't gain anything it's not really nine cases naira she was 12 years old and then she became very gears via she lost her father an awkward she started out in naira and then then she became vegarez what for the members of HBA group and their families are made it's the last last day huh one spot available for next month if she remained the nairo and she's not a beginner speaking so much second category she's a bigger ass and her father dies literally dies naira then becomes a bigger as somebody else first he started out as an Ireland regards then the father naira um okay three cases another three cases after her father died then she became a bigger boy Garrison she's obgarious doesn't matter if her father's alive or not alive you can't be made for her in the dark naira she was a naira that became a bulgaris there so of course okay going through all the cases doesn't argue according to Iran otherwise he does but according to run we go with Iran there's no argument here so here is that even though she's a katana she still leaves her father's imagine a 10 year old girl she doesn't have a husband anymore husband died also so what now what still not in her she doesn't go back to her father's resource foreign [Music] in other words forget about all the nine cases all you need is these three says the mishnah I I'm not I'm not sure exactly what just happened huh do not argue they're just saying you could reduce it make it easier to the three cases and in those three cases contained all nine yo Friedman leading instruments my dear father is I won't have any benefits from father from your father if I do for you okay see if there's anything here what I this case question in the lab I don't want to have anything to do with my father if I have to do for you Cheney 's what's the difference between in-laws and outlaws Outlaws I wanted someone just wrote me yesterday I have to say because it fits right in there said why was Java the perfect wife because of the Maury showing didn't have in-laws Tanya oh no Shady net is now this is the opposite case it's the same idea though maybe so the first case is doesn't really have okay even though I won't benefit from one person in the world we said that's also a little bit of a problem so it's like a memory I can't do for you which is I can't do for my husband so what do I do I'm stuck here if I do for my husband then I won't be able to have an offer my father I want to have it on for my father and that's and if I don't do for my husband that's dorms over here it's a little different I won't benefit from you my husband so don't do for the father if I do for my father then I won't have I won't be able to benefit from you my husband so don't do for your father the answer is is the Run because she's going to trip up one day it's a nether it's very interesting the reason why you can do how far right here is only one reason is because she's going to trip up since we know that she's going to trip up so it's as if she did her nether already it says if she did it over her lifetime she's one day she's going to give her father a cup of coffee something's gonna happen they're going to bump into each other at a wedding and she's going to give him some benefit MMA looks today it's as if she's made for right now today Tanya foreign why can't you do a pharah because the nether was a McQueen yet how can I do a fire if something that didn't happen yet how might remember you could do that for based on what Iran said it makes sense you could do it for today because you're gonna break it I won't have any relationship with any Jew and now when we spoke about this earlier it means her husband also because right now she's also to the whole world so what is she adding she says I can't have anything from the entire world means to say even her husband if we have relations then I automatically become Master to you so now she's stuck now it's in your nephesh she can't have relations with her husband because it should be also in her husband you know what before we stop I just want to say I've never done this before I just wanted to show my life to the guests I didn't have it I wanted to see if we can finish instead of sharing what's your names addict another problem from Staten Island New York Uvalde hold on we had another one more than what's your name you're like oh you're Jacob okay they all said Brothers uh cousins cousin that Jacob and Son of Simon and you you warmed up I know you from London all right my voice I have a oh your name sorry sorry what's your name Lightman oh oh yeah you're looking for a ride you for your side well from where were you from Lakewood New Jersey again like who else the bottle is trying to be good you let him hide from boy say have a wonderful day