Daf Yomi Nedarim Daf 74 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] I got it boys we have some very special guests tonight finally you're here what's your name Glenn Ackerman from West Hempstead Glenn Ackerman you can see it it's fine you want to show the oil on your socks your socks his hats he's all decked out in gear or should we shirt the shirts the shirt oh hopefully we'll get new one's in Miami how's your daughter doing I don't mean like how old is she she's 21. is she still ranked 26 in America 26 in America from girl pink box yeah oh she no we're doing exercise after today is you can see he's not here yet maybe he's coming in from I don't know where he is but uh he's making you see him and we're going to put him a pizza and women are going to come so keep coming and that's your son right what's your name who's the guy sitting next to you he looks very familiar what's your name yup the famous Yasir raw from the sushi he's here he's you should know I went I was eating sushi there once with Tomer and he was playing the sheer you still do that once in a while I was coming to put it on Sean what's your name Joseph Raja from Brooklyn and the guys next to you or these guys also from Brooklyn and yeah Brooklyn representing and then somebody what's your name gittleson from whoa yeah from North Miami Beach gonna be there about to see him did you sign up yet uh so you're one of the 400 plus we have Adam from Chicago who else hello oh Ethan G from L.A is representing here he is over there hey tan okay it says like this I was really moved by the opening video of Shabbos of a young student completing safe operations with Schneider micro my blessing to you and all your card and future descendants and all the ndy values contained in the attached Kovacs from Hollywood Florida you know him is he a cipher because he sent something here I don't know he said it's a Cipher from Florida I guess not him you're awesome um [Music] whatever that means oh she lighting there hi my friend parrots Pollock who listens to rebellious every single day just got engaged he's a massive host of her belly we're wondering if Rebellion can announce a mazelt for him before the sheer he will really appreciate it this mom is fresh fresh off the press email I was planning on being you sure live this mothers so instead we have an email but unfortunately on my way there to stroll my flight got canceled but he sees hashem's plan why because Thursday night is khaburra having to have a film check session and they realize that his children weren't so kosher had he came Thursday straw you would have been wearing nonsense potions fill in some mail of the Ziad Hashem for me tomodeli Goldsmith since Manchester seal Avi you love these mices here here's another MD wire trying to learn the dive and take a selfie on the train from Jerusalem to modin I thought I enjoyed my visit to mdyrbs for the future visits meanwhile it's back to YouTube Samuels the brynmore Pennsylvania how's it going is uh are we open across from the Waldorf night no okay [Music] I 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it happens to be uh real a easy daf but a serious so if you haven't learned ivamas this is a beautiful way to be introduced to the Obamas and if you learned your thumbs don't worry it's not one of those complicated you've almost stop him but a lot of who saw him maimer zika seriously it's I'm excited about the stuff she marries you of them it sounds like a fancy term but it's actually just means the evama so here if you never saw these charts before we have with us one of these Baldwin brothers the Baldwin brothers are people from the sheer that are bald and very proud of it and we we decided when we're learning about this that we're gonna do four Bowman Brothers from the sheer one of them is I'll be Factory one of them with my son and he's not So Much from the cheer but he's related to the guy that gives the share and we made them brothers Reuben Jim and lady who though so here you have I was kind of excited when we're done with the Obama's I don't have to kill off no I'm fixed every single day but here Hashem is not here Shabbos never is so here you have ruvane married to Rojo what about it and that's good here Reuben goes bye-bye so what happens Rocco Falls liebum and she has something called zico we could talk about it now zika means there's a bond there's a bond between the two of them he has to do something he could either be Me album or pull yourself any Obamas this is the real deal again she removes this from his foot this is a real one we got this from yaakov ayal you all know Yakov y'all just got married last week Manish made this we asked it two days later made this great so that's zika zika means nothing happened yet but there's a bond how strong is the bond now we're going to see in the sugar does the bond make her like an arusa like an asua like like what what happens exactly then what we have is the same story but if there were two brothers alive so one brother went bye-bye and now she falls to Two Brothers the Zeke is equal to brother number one you hear yeah brother number one brother number two if you do have a phone it's probably a good idea to put it away and turn it off so it doesn't ring during yeah this is a case of two of them so let's see inside she marries if she's the Obama nobody's me having her nobody performed khalidso to her whether she felt to one brother or two brothers now we have a three-way Mark like this anytime you have three o'clock not any time but many times you have the two extremes and you have the center you have the middle so we're gonna have rebellious you could perform ahafaro the yavam is like what we'll see how strong he is he's so powerful to see of him that it could be made for the nadaram of the Obama sort of like a husband even though he's not really a husband yet why this is no there's no Khalid there's no even done uh the Mr sponsored by Yo Friedman my dear Father Allah maybe she was in the Middle River so what we're going to see in the gemara really is where liezra says this is how Farah there's actually three conditions first of all you need a mimer uh-huh we're gonna get into mimer mimer's nothing mimer's a very very simple term it's also a fancy term but all means is condition means that he gave her a ring it's mimer the other thing that we're going to see in the gamara is that that there was a sack din that came down from bezden that this guy that gave the ring he also has to give him a zionus okay okay and um just trying to think what the third one no there's three one brother yeah the Run says it here he says only two um I thought it was here okay anyway that we'll see okay says the mission of actor oh Michelle this is the father and member but also daddy right so it's three things father mimer and the rather doesn't bring this one but the Gamora talks about that is okay fine says thank you I missed you or every Lazer no so now we have baby if their two brothers then one of them cannot perform a foreign why because we don't know which one of the two brothers is going to end up with her now what about breira Bray means retroactive clarification so if one of the brothers does hafara and later on he's me having her so comes out the retroactively he was the real husband there is no retroactive clarification this only applies when there's one brother so the zika bond is really strong so he could do alpharo he could get rid of the direham like a husband like an artist the cube is very powerful and as you see here the sugar passes like him we're gonna see the last words of today's sheer are oh remember Kiva you're so amazing we how come we didn't think I didn't learn about you in other words the Gamora understands that that love is like rubikita okay is not engaged he's not married he's not engaged he has a little bit of a zika he has a connection in other words what's this connection she can't go out and marry anybody but they don't have a marriage connection it's a zika it's a bond we're gonna get more into it to understand a little bit more but this is mamish foreign foreign if a woman who Hashem well obviously Hashem has to do with everything but Hashem didn't force this woman onto you decided on your own to go out to get into the whatever it is and you married her that's your own thing is there yet you still have the power to get rid of him is so really as it says I'm the extreme of every kid I hold that I don't care how many who gave you this woman he gave you a connection with her then you should be able to be made for the dark um no way Isha so I was like does anybody know who which woman besides the Obama was what other case do we have in the Torah who is Machina a woman and he had no choice book very good of the Mauritius they say that it's it's all other motions fault why because probably said it a week ago but as long as we're learning your promise now told that the reason I have the perfect matches there the kids in the audience no no because take your kid out of the room I'm saying a joke now that you can't hear she never gets upset she cooks the best food the whole everything everything he says how much is going to cost me it's going to cost an arm and a leg she said oh and what can I get for rib you get what you pay for anyway nobody's laughing because their wives are waiting outside you're walking yeah I'm a lady of Akiva Martin Beach foreign the other brother could go in and be me she's not yours there's no exclusive exclusivativity exclusivativity whatever the word is she's not exclusive to you okay part of its big time who said wow that was you a tanji so who did who did uh compared to Rebecca foreign that's great when you have a case of two young woman and that because what was marking the both of them to you she I'm saying she is she has a zika to both and each one could could be kind to her completely so you see that's not such a big canyon that coach who gave you here a matamation but what about the case of one of them they're exclusive to each other there's nobody else involved there it's the same thing as the arrows oh my law he told him there's no comparison's gonna explain what this means but basically the bottom line is there's no connection there's no comparison between an Engaged couple and a yoga the engaged couple the much stronger their connection is much stronger and because it's much stronger therefore the husband the arrows the engaged guy has the the shows and the and the ability the kayak to be Mayfair but now that you have arm to your mama says again oh so zika we spoke about a little bit again what does zika mean zika means just to explain a little bit more everybody holds that they're zika okay zika is a bond that's a tire that you don't have you can't get out you can't wiggle out of that the player said if a brother dies the sister-in-law falls liebum to the brother-in-law to the guy that's alive that's zika so what does ain't zika mean and zika means it's not as strong as arielson it's not it's not like marriage it's something it's a little bit she can't go and marry anybody she wants but it's not in zika it's not like an arusa when you have one Obama what did you say you show us the middle one the middle sheet the realize it says I don't care even if it's too yavamas one of them could go and another tremendous you have two years waiting in the wings they have to decide who's going to marry her while they're waiting one of them comes and it's Mayfair that's her Rebecca says I don't care even if there's one you cannot be made for your nothing you're nobody says I'll take the middle ground if there's one yabam and one yavama so they have some sort of connection she can't marry who she wants there's no other brother here who's gonna ruin things so especially between him and her so he can be made for another the zika between one yavam and the ivama is as strong as Harrison okay and as we said before because the point is according to be sure there's no Brea your mom is going through Concepts and shots if you're a kid like a 12 year old kid sitting here and learning these are things that takes years to get until you get to Yeshiva to hear these things rayro what's Bray raw retroactive clarification when one person decides to marry this ivama so it turns out that she was always married and she was his and when he did the he did the hafara even though he had a brother that could have married her but he did that pharah he was the true husband because he married her the next day and retroactively we figured out he was the husband no it does that doesn't work who's Amber hello ribly yes sir my timing how could we explain Ripley has her how does it work how could you have a situation you have one your mama two men two brothers and one of them could come and be made for the nether how in the world does that work even if you hold that they have a tremendous Bond and the bond maybe is almost like aerosene how could it be everything because the next day he married her or five minutes later he married her so it turns out that five minutes before he was actually engaged to her through zika but abrero you can't hold that so how could we really as a whole that you have two men and one of them does have fun um now this reminds me we're going to deal with him today tomorrow so what does he say let's remember what he says [Music] now the ratchet Springs is possible I need to mention it brings it earlier but we can mention it here is in other words that there's a special parcel that tells us we had this person many times but we're learning something else from it who is the one that's able to be Mayfair Isha somebody that I know is her husband not somebody that through retroactive clarification through breira you figure it out as her husband I need to know at the time of the hafara that that it's the husband not tomorrow I found out this is the husband I need to be clear okay so now what's mimer this is mimer very very simple I took the picture that I used just a few days ago for Arizona and it's mimer that's it just erase the word errors and put a mimer it's a fancy word to say that this yovama is engaged the mimer the bikidution he gave her something every money he gave her a ring the reason why it's called mimer because it's not the third doesn't say this the third says you have two options there's no there's no condition so it's a durabada kind of thing and what does it do exactly so um we'll see that's not so simple that's the rabbana really is there holes like Michelle the amri mimer Kohinoor Kenyan gomor that if yavan performs mimer he gives his ivama a ring he doesn't have to we can just take her home and be me although we said it looks like like it's not so good okay fine so the Rebellion said it shouldn't look like his nose you give a ring but we shot me hold if you give the ring it's king and Gomer meaning Now khalisa doesn't work anymore once you gave that ring what do you need if you want to get rid of her you get what's mimer have you ever heard of the word mimer before never today see a lot of people's the first time they heard the word he's only 12. probably took me until I was 18 to hear that right my mother is is kadushan he gave a ring to a yavama and Rich hold it creates a pure Canyon where Khalid is no good you need to get foreign oh we're not just talking about that this two-year vomit and one of them decided to be made for the nether no one of them performed the mimer first he's engaged to her it's a Kenyan Gummer the only way this one brother could get out of is by giving her a get the other brother's like nothing ah now that I have a real connection with the sivama now I can be made for the nether now it makes sense okay so you have two brothers but if once you perform Madness is really guys are one of them could perform a Faro enjoyment when do we have this idea of Miami when it's one you have a moment there's no there's no even if you before nightmare it's not a king gobar it's not enough to be Mayfair I can't be made for just because I did a little bit of a king and condition and it goes it continues there's no such thing because at the end of the day if you think that you're so powerful that you did a mimer here but if the other brother comes along and gives her a get or or his bioler he ruins it for him so if you if the other brother could come along and ruin it for him then you don't have the power to be made for in order for you to know the door him you have to be the only one there the only husband you can't have a situation where your brother could come and ruin things for you and just because you performed nightmare doesn't exclude the brother completely and zico what does azika mean again of course this is a band but it's not strong enough to make her like an arusa and therefore the ma even maimer doesn't help to acquire her like a husband does and that if he's like a husband what would happen like Sean she said before you you need the father oh shmacher ivana's case we just said that it's going according to really Ezra Reviving says I'm sorry I believe as it goes it's going to be shama you hold and when you give a yovama when the yavam gives a yavana ring he acquired her completely and that's why it's powerful enough to be made for another what about the sheath of the holds even according to bisham I give as many rings as you want it does nothing doesn't do anything what does it do one case in all of ivamas that it does a little thing for us but not for our case and if not for our case the question goes back then how in the world could one of them attitude be made for another again you have one Obama and two brothers and any one of them or one of them with a mimer could be made for another why the mimer does nothing how do I know the Mind does nothing because he according to my normal he holds it only does a little tiny thing in one case what's the case check this out we have three brothers two of them are married to two sisters you see the two top guys one and two are married to two xiaomi ladies they're like twins basically right what happened and there's a third brother Avi on the bottom sorry I'm doing this in front of your child here so he's used to it huh number one goes bye-bye so what happens yeah I don't remember what it is Reuben that was reuben reuben you're right oh he's no he shouldn't hear right you are right so Reuben goes bye-bye what happens Ruben's wife falls liebum to the brother Shimon couldn't she Fall leave him to the brother number two absolutely not why because there are two sisters and a man cannot be married to Two Sisters the number two's out of the picture she falls only to brother number three what happens is I don't know but this one used to be my son not really this guy is Yehuda usually goes bye-bye what happened to you that goes bye-bye the other wife Falls to Sherman has zika to two sisters is that a problem it's not a problem with the Horizon with the Raisa he could marry whoever he wants one of them obviously only one he could pick and choose it's not a good thing so what do we do he has to give them both khalitza what happens though if instead of zika when the first wife fell to shiman he decided to give her a ring he gave a ring what is that called mimer oh in this case that he did my mer he can marry her even though there's another sister involved there the zika but because he did my Mary as a connection to her and he can marry her because when the rice so you can marry either one of them and only rabbona came along and said don't marry any of them but because he went ahead and he gave her a ring in that case sebi shama is very strong no that's that's in one case a case we have three brothers and two of them are married to two sisters then the mimer's so strong that he can marry her one minute I'm not done but when but when you have a regular case and and a guy one of the brothers did my mirror doesn't mean you could do that first and darn there's no connection this is one case he said you can marry her with a mimer allows me to marry her it doesn't allow me to be made for another what are you asking do my work only the one first because once it doesn't help once the sisters it becomes awesome yeah before the second one fell plan so here the quote now we go back to the question I explained the question before we'll do it one more time but if mimer doesn't really do anything so the question is what is this case it says you have two brothers and one yavama and one of them could do as far as the dharm how this time I I throw this out there there that if you have a vama that felt to you it's also for you to marry a woman you know in our days there are more when did you live I don't know 400 years ago so again a person's brother died young without any children he didn't have a chance to get married and then this yavama felt him she happens to be in the United States he's an artist's role and he hears about it until he's gonna get to her and do halitza who knows when meanwhile he wants to get married says the remote you're not gonna get married you know why because at least in his days four hundred years ago today we spoke the game is gone but we were capable again whenever that lock is not getting into that detail which is but he says but let's say the guy was engaged he was engaged already and then to see if I'm a force to him and she's a very racist his engagement we're not talking about engagement at the time in the gamar engagement of today then it's okay he can marry he can marry the girl he's engaged to he doesn't have to worry about his ivama so the villagan explains because and it's very interesting to know this I mean we know but he says to break a shith is also this is it's later on they came and they said whoever breaks a sugar I guess if there's no if you don't have a mutual agreement to it it's not a good thing to break okay says the gamara oh so inside we have to say laws are here because we're talking about is that the whole power of a mimer according to the shopping only what it does is it pushes off the sister the tsara and allows you to marry the other sister that you did mimer too Michael and Bieber how can my skin okay this is what happened the ivama was getting fed up already the brothers are not making up their mind who's going to be me who's going to do khalitza I need to know I need to move on with my life either you marry me I have to get you know I'm looking for now I need somebody to support me so she brings them to business now the one that did mimer Ram brings to two reasons let's say one of them did mimer so best is going to point the finger at them and say Hey you have to pay your messiness so what did he do he ran away he ran away controls the rant sticks in here so oh and that that Allah we already learned the ones are Hassan is obligated for messiness what happens that once you have that connection of Messina's now she's making him the Durham with that you have um there's two yavam this Reuben and jimin she has Das for Ruben why because he's the one supporting her he's the real deal and therefore when she makes a nether she has him in mind and therefore he has the right to know the Nether and that's the shot in Revolution sponsored by Greg Haber for broccoli for his entire family and everyone learning the daf that means us and also lots of for the members of the HBA group and their families amen what do you want to see my little note here it's unbelievable three years velvet because actually Matt's you're almost halfway shots half half a shots with us oh yeah thank you thank you Omar rebellious um this is what we had already a little bit of we call this a freebie Darrell [Music] foreign he lived in Egypt right and he says that in mitzrayim there's a Minogue that they wrote that if a man decides to marry a second woman I guess this is if a man well maybe it wasn't well how many years ago did rambam live okay fine but they had they had another trick so how long ago was that beginning of the restraining but okay I guess it's not 800. so uh what they did was the women were smart they put in they forced their husbands erratic super in those days and that said that if we marry another woman you have to divorce me and give me all my compensation you move to divorce me it's a tonight she says what happens if a person is married in mitzrayim and then he has a yovama that felt him could he marry the Obama he says he's in this gemara he brings his gemara that's not part of the tonight the night is that he's not going to go out and acquire and marry another woman this wasn't him Hashem gave it to him so she if she she if she demands the divorce he's not a queen to give her a divorce [Music] something more asks you're telling me that Hashem gave her to you but if you're telling me that's talking about a situation we gave her a ring o he did something he he initiated the whole King in here not not Hashem gonna lie to me they should mind what do you mean first Hashem gave her to him and then he went and he did a he gave her a ring but first Hashem started off she was four he forced this woman upon him and then he went and he did the Harrison the the hedushan my name says gamara from here new attention Dubai rabo we had a question and from here perhaps we could answer the question the word my mother is so not to get too confused there the basic words are what is mimer accomplish accomplish arielson or nassoon the Rango is a little explains it a little differently based on the gemara over there and ivamas he says does mimer make her like an arusa and therefore she requires or she's like in a sewer and you could skip the whole Hupa and go straight to ebook okay how does the fitting tower gamara is a little bit hard to understand the answer I think about is a little bit swear but he wants to make sure that we understand says around that rabba's question wasn't literally is it aerys in a suing but do you need to do a hook or not okay so the the question is why don't we prove from here that it creates a full-fledged marriage the Arizona but because if it only does everything we learned in the mishnah naira balam if you're in India ubala so you see from here that it's only it's only him so you see from here that it does ensuant or not when it says that far doesn't mean that the guy himself could do it and that's why the Rand says one of the conditions is you need you need the father to be involved but we don't have a Riya if mimer does erosun um your whole right was from the word God first I'll tell you the word the offer means a partnership you actually have to ask so what are the things again let's see if we remember we're talking about mimer we're talking about a shootfus and we're talking about what's the third thing anybody remember in order to be made for another anybody remember besides you Shaq in order for one of these guys the one of these to be made for you need mimer you need a partnership with the father what else do we need that's now I'm now she feels like she has she doesn't in the dorm together with this guy and not the other of them yeah yeah everybody we're talking about everybody else but that's the top word on the Almond here okay but how right now what else what else how else could we explain rebellious or we don't have a good explanation what yeah but the Gamora asks on that the Gamora says the question is only according to belong who says the mimer is not a king gamer very good he's holding the man is holding but I think but Iran doesn't say that it goes accordingly why is Iran saying the mishnah that you need these conditions hello Caribbean again what does Ruby Army say Rami says that when you have two yavam or your mama fell her husband dies she falls the two brothers one of the two brothers could do a first how does it work but here we have Amy's says this is a mimer the reason why it works is not as simple as you think you know but boys like if we didn't have gemara we just had a mishnah would be completely lost it makes no sense yeah the mission says two words we will answer holds one of the environment could do afara if we stop right there without gemara it mean nothing what do you mean how could the oven do that far up now we're saying ah you need conditions maybe not Missouri at least mimer it doesn't say anything in the mishnah impressive by the way this mimer okay that's a huge that we have gamara for involved there because it says yeah you have you know what because we don't have more charges we should just go back and do it over again why not now that we know the whole song here we go she marries the other you had two brothers one brother kick the bucket so Mila she fell down to the other brother and the zika that's one one yellow or if this is a second brother involved she fell to both not married either no even done know how he's done all we have now between the two is zika now we appreciate this a little bit more than before I may offer any one of them can do aphara argues with just the freebie yeah we're doing the Mission Again Yeshua says not manage the mission but the same blessings I'm sure it says only in a case not this case decide to do only in this case when this one brother one brother could do hafara to one ivama even in this case when there's only one brother sister he doesn't have the right to do how far away because he's not as strong as as an Engaged man as a husband he's nothing he's just the other lessons a woman who had nothing to do with her until he brought into her shots you should bustle said what does it mean what's your shows Harrison Nicki Minaj she's done meaning he could be maintenance look at look there's something going on between the two there's something called zika once he performs what mimer and it didn't come early oh here you see the idea of mimer that's what we're trying to say that we're talking about mimer well if you don't want to say that Mr Boston means my mirror so you can prove it a little bit more later of the receiver when a person is kind of a wife he gives a condition nobody else nobody else corroding for him if somebody else comes and gives their Condition it's nothing if somebody else's boiler nothing s anybody any one of the brothers could be kinder so she's not exclusive to you foreign your svara is great when it comes to two you vomit and one of them could do anyone could could be kind to her could acquire her but what about one of them you don't have your Sparrow on my lawyer so I Rebecca tells his rebby rabies there are other things that we could prove and that's that's the difference to you that we could prove that even with a mimer she's not an arusa she's never as strong as an Engaged woman don't bring me any right he says River Kiva and the same thing would be by afara just like this other situations where the Obama who's there there's mimer and she's not as strong as an arusa so if she's not as strong as Santa Rosa if the relationship the bond between the the other and the event is not as strong as between Aris and arusa our Senator so he could break her nether but not enough thank you the Los Angeles on himself what a shame that you weren't Michelle look how smart he is he just got us good beautiful stuff so you should just know that in picky office it says that one of the memory of King and toyer how you credit and the gemara says in brachas that even if somebody was kind of China he knows and everything and he doesn't he wasn't what is he is comes with a Kiva and says not only is there miso because he said about himself he said that Once Upon a Time he found a corpse a mace mitzvah so he took the mace Mitzvah he lifted up the basement and traveled with the Mason for four mil I'm assuming it's a very long distance yeah I don't remember we once did the measurement okay a few miles let's say it's heavy corpse and he comes and he tells his Robin it's interesting because that's keep all three of them in Arizona and he tells them well look what I did I did a tremendous invincible so they told them Chanel every step that you took your oil it's like and you argued them and then he realized you know I have to be with somebody and says from that is so from napping the shamish he thought he's doing a great deed and it turns out he wasn't so yeah it happens to be himself huh we give us on Allah interesting but as is the one that said on River Kiva it's interesting that that's how he talked his father-in-law he said call Israel besides so in other words we're talking about binasai who held that he is the greatest of the great but yet he wasn't as great as Rick Eva he should have he should have been shamish him should we stop here I know it's the middle of the second we have to continue the sugar we'll uh okay let's just stop here I know management of a word my voice I have a good voltical week we'll see you tomorrow at 7 15. and now Lazer Hashem we're having a SIM from Moshi Utah very good