Daf Yomi Nedarim Daf 67 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] I want to do something I've never done before but I need the participation of the island since we have probably at least 10 guests here in the room I'm gonna ask all the guests to come to the front instead of me calling you out you come to me show him get over here yes let's go get over here you know what maybe maybe the people that are in the basement should come to the front and they get like come on let's go let's go get over here everybody everybody well we'll do this slowly here everybody come come wow this Taco I don't want to count but there's a lot of guests come let's go and somebody takes status to show them Wren okay if you weren't here installation young you're a guest come out then we gotta go like oh yeah I'm gonna get up for you guys here okay you ready come you come here come come all right what is your name we'll start with you what's your name show them no no but you know these these markers from New York Charlotte new games already your guest though so what's your name yeah you're not you're not you're here very gross from London son from New York no from here okay whatever you figure it out what's your name somebody take a good picture here stand over there yourself get up what's your name new wife Jonathan you're friends with Hill on that book okay whatever I'm from Hollywood Florida wow a lot bar vegetables but young man how come you didn't come over here there's another guest there ah and we have who else is a guest that didn't show up here there's more you don't get over here your guest your guest okay you guys can go back to your seat we can start this year in a second you're not you this is Jeremiah's who finished shots bubbly and your xiaomi Emerald sevens forum okay whoo I just want to show you I don't have a lot of emails that's why I did that um if you look at the screen you'll see gedalia Miller from also a big part of this year and he's pumping the duff at testronomy that's a beautiful place they have there this year this week and that's of course first time live in now all right I'll just say this real quick you spoke about the importance of encouraging us with donating to DACA on anonymously it's not this might not be a real word unless you're from partnovich I was thinking this probably applies to learning as well last night I was at a family nephew asked me if I still did the dot because you used to hear my emails told over to him by the cabrusso and now he only hears about Jocelyn's emails about Rafi the barber so here's my email saying hello I'm still partnership doing the dive you know what you have what tonight is everybody say tonight is three years into the daf three years that means three years ago today we moved into the space mattress three years old and we're doing the job for three years some of us brachis Brock is that base three years ago it's unbelievable so he's still doing the dive and she couldn't fall you do and honestly it's cool as he has good chops and good buff from Lakewood Howard white says how do you not ask your father for bracha after you spit at good Chavez all right we'll go straight into the sponsors the coil sponsored by Anonymous from Lakewood the Mississippi sponsored hey Google common well we'll do another one common wall Chuck in honor of Engagement of God elbaz I remember he used to do this I don't know if he still does some Mazel Tov and the recent wedding of Milo cone mazel tov maybe it's a joke yeah you know what we're still taking sponsorships for Milo's wedding happy happy Sherman just three and a half years until the cruise on occasion of Chris Davis Mazel Tov to all the brochus DAV basers and temti wine especially Rebellion our third year anniversary to complete shots together with you and the art is sponsored by anonymous revoices since most of the shops I want to tell you a story that happened to a few of us here in the room just recently when we were on a safari and that's to do with the Powershell I thought I didn't do the a parish of art this week and I wasn't going to say this one but as it happened it hit me I gotta tell you it's unbelievable I told it to Benjamin today so you already heard it but other than that I didn't talk to anybody really we're on a safari we're in Kenya and the way this fireworks you have to get up really early because the animals are they go to sleep sort of when the sun comes out they don't like lions all that stuff they they don't like the heat but they hunt during the night and during the night you can't really see anything so you get up really early and you see them as right before sunrise so we decided we're gonna get up obviously really early Davin Davison and as soon as we're done diving we made up a time let's say 6 30 we're gonna owe me by the Jeeps let's meet by the Jeep but we're gonna go so we're with diving and everything is good and we get to the Jeep and there was one guy in the group there was a big Ovid he's a big Ovid he loves diving long davenings everybody knows he has 20 minutes from the x-rays the whole thing big Ovid now we warned him the night before we're not there's no Ovid now we're we're on a safari you'll do your even later yeah yeah of course of course we got to the Jeep and there's nowhere to be found so we all got his room and of course he's smacking middle he's he's dancing I'm serious he's dancing up and down we hop him we slap him he said he says so he comes with his thousands feeling he goes on the Jeep series on the Jeep and he's standing and he's stopping he's diving and we hear him he gets to your Starbucks G's in the house reverse another another guest gets her the guests are coming in they're flowing and you missed it you missed it are you guessing he was lying you missed it fine so we go out we're going we're going we're going and he's diving and Diving all of a sudden the driver he says guys there's a serval server I'm going to show you what a serval is real quick is Servo there it it's larger than a cat but it's nothing close to like a cheetah inside it's like a one and a half size times a cat twice it's it's actually my son has the grandson of this cat whatever this is F1 kids a whole people that have gone to the safari 20 times 30 times I've never seen this thing it only it's during the night you can't see it it's very hard to see it this is the picture that we took and actually Gary took some I don't know if you still have it he has a video of it hunting right next to us he decided to hang out next to us and it was doing all this stuff as soon as the driver said serval the guy with his towels and filling he gave me your shoes to say the story he started screaming a circle a circle I'm like dude you're middle of diving General everyone seen a server you have what's going on in the servo like so it's a Servo Gary actually I'm not Gary tells the driver keep on going it's just a cat like Miss Sugar it takes 20 years to see one of these survival and we're sitting there and he tells the driver you got to move forward everybody quiet quiet you you could scare away the serval your milk diving this is going on am I exaggerating Gary say that so I'm exaggerating okay hold on say are you want to do it what until the server okay okay so after we we left the servo the guy goes oh I have to start over from your Starbucks now so and as the story happened I was thinking to myself wow I finally understand when we learn in Hamish every single time that when you said for the first time after 22 years so the third says the joyous have jumped on Jacob and he hugged him and kissed him and Rashi says yeah but yakovino didn't kiss him back because the middle of the power that the guru that that is here's a guy that didn't see a serval and he couldn't control himself he knew he's weren't feeling everything he started screaming that you lot of talking out of talk I don't know even I'm not even right now I gotta see the serval he didn't see his son we there was a guy a few times we had children that were lost you know for a day two days and you go on searches and the whole Community is going crazy with this kid where's this kid and there for 22 years he doesn't know where his kid is 22 years just to picture it he finally here he is what does he look like Let me Give a Little Kiss okay I'll say sure later no he didn't move didn't move he's a middle Christian it's unbelievable I'm sorry from that okay what is this who had a grandson you oh Mazda that's right we actually mentioned in cheer didn't we I think we mentioned it all right if we didn't mazel tov Rosie have a brand new parakeet one of the most famous procurement shots naira marasa you'll see why I said the story before share now I gotta be serious though it's not hard stuff a lot of London stuff so foreign there's noise like that Finish Line same guy he follows wherever I go whatever he likes to do it fine yaakov yada's grandson but you got to take care of your phone my friend before you come in here thank you okay here's the power boys side I don't know if you can read it you probably can't I'll read it a lot of it for you and basically what you have here is yellow green and blue this is the parisha of nidorim he spoke we picked out a word here or we're there it has to be every single word okay here it goes here's the yellow Hashem if a girl a woman made another talking about a girl when she's still a naira I could show you this real quickly here we all know this it's gonna see it again is from 0 to 12. naira's from 12 to 12 and a half depending if she has C minor or not but let's just call it 12 to 12 and a half and from 12 and a half to 120 she's a biggeris so we're talking about a naira but Garrus is not in the is that she's not in her father's domain at all are so when it says naira means naira it's all the same kind of neither is one category for today okay so her father is Nidra he heard that she made another voice and he was quiet become what does Kyo mean the nether is mercury so what a father could do is if his daughter makes a nether he could be made for the nether has two choices could be Mayfair or it could be mikayan Mayfair he says it's nothing what you said continue living your life as if you didn't make another or you could say no that's a great idea you should be on a diet you're not allowed to eat any food anymore and he has to do this all within one day the first day he hears it okay now if he was Mayfair he's made for someone is strong that's a parish of the yellow is the partial of uh naira okatana in the household of her father now green you probably can't see it but I'll read it for you it says there's a valve so that verb it's if you probably can't see but you look there's a little yellow line there I made it highlighted there's above myself alineyard so it's a continuation of the yellow there is in addition to the yellow the what the series now she is what is it so we're going to say the number is going to be massber like this the green is irusa the blue parisha is in a sewer is after Arizona so here this is Harrison erisa means he gives his kala a ring yes she's wearing a wedding dress but I just did it on purpose to show how powerful Harrison is he's considered a husband she's a wife but not fully the father still has a say over here nissuin is the final stage of hopa today we do it together we do Everson and assume together in those days there could have been a year between Arizona but aerison is not to be confused with what we do today engagement although we could call it an engagement just the Sabbath Eisen but it's a lot more powerful they're married in a way they're married with everything only with Harrison with a ring there's a ring no hopa huh she said it's the cold Dover but it doesn't kick the father out of the parachute he's still involved he still could decide that he doesn't want this his girl to have a nether but she has a husband so who is he to decide so what that's the mishnah that both of them decide together we need both of them to say that the nether is not another okay so we go back yellow is when she's completely in the father's domain blue is when she's completely in the husband's domain green is where she's in both of there's the main she's in arusa so we have the father involved and we have the husband involved and that's what it says and if she this naira she's not a big Eris yet she's still a Tano or naira means her husband he heard about it that day we only has one day they're coming with the river he could decide to be mikaime to say that it's a good night is he breaks it foreign once a woman gets married with hopa the father goes by but he has no connection to his daughter in terms of of control the whole thing again that's the big long Powershell says the mishnah now we're only dealing with the middle pirate show the green Arizona again is naira is between 12 and 12 and a half let's see but Iran explains to us that it's not only talking about a naira it's talking about from zero to twelve and a half it's telling you even a naira foreign you need both of them the father and the husband or the Hassan we can call them just not to be confused because there's only everything here both of them have to together decide that they don't want the nether okay now if I stop right over here and I ask you a question what if only one of them decided it's not another another one said it's a good net there it's not it's not a good Affair you need two people to be Mayfair so it's a good nether so then the mission continues and now just as to make to make a point here it says in Iran that we're talking about even nadarim mugdame we're going to go into that so it's a New Concept I know a lot of new stuff here and love this today is just the concept of nadarim that were before the husband's time there is no such thing as by a father because the father usually knows his daughter from the day she's born yeah so anything that she does is moved them by the fact there's no mukda by father but there's another let's say she made a net there on Tuesday morning and Tuesday afternoon she got engaged so the nether pre-existed before she was engaged even that we're going to see in our silgio while we're at the end that the father and the husband get together and then made for a nether that didn't exist in the husband's lifetime so to speak okay top of San Jose if only one of the two now what's the obvious question why is the mission have to say it we already said you need naira so you need both the father and the husband so the mission had no reason to repeat itself and say oh and if only one of them did it it doesn't work and then the mission says you don't even have to say like sometimes people say I shouldn't be speakinghara but anyways you heard about ruva and he did this and this and that or in Chavez Garrett I shouldn't be saying this on Charles but we might I want to sell you my car you don't have to say it but you know I'll say it anyway and of course I shouldn't I don't need to say it and I shouldn't say it we should know that if one and out of the two let's say the husband decided the nether is a good nether I'm a kind another oh it's a good Nether so it's redundant so don't say it if you don't have to say it why are you saying it says tomorrow the fact that we said the top words you can learn from the first six words of the mishnah that in order for another you need both the father and the husband now of course if one of them doesn't so you don't have both of them hi neration available it says my first narration you need both of them for afaro am I the same I would have thought that it's either or it doesn't mean you need both sometimes that's the lawsuit means or so let me ask you a question so if you're riding the mission just right now remember also a video of biolum if you're in the rail and not one of them just to continue and now one of them so the Run says you can't say it like that because then you can think it's only referring to one out of the two maybe and not the husband but the father could do it by himself or or maybe it's only the father he needs to but the husband could do himself so therefore we say these extra words if you're having a ballot if you're a Bible ever that's basically what we're doing here so you don't think it's one and not the other okay fine the entire Oklahoma so the last words the mission you don't even have to say that if one of them was mikhayamit he said the net there's a good night there of course it's a good nether nobody could break that nether land you don't have to say it Allah if you're telling me that if forget about being mikayan one dirafara let's say the father does that far he says I've been knowing the Nether and the husband was quiet what's that Allah it's not a good it's not a good nether so and if the husband Not only was quiet but he said it's a great nether of course it's good it's within it's not even says the run it's worse than Allah sometimes the mishnah says and then says a large over here it's not even a large it's already said it's within the same words when you say that the husband was mikaimeth in those words the husband was quiet but time is even a step further so it's not even a it's not you're not adding you're not adding a thing zero it's within the same words why do I have to say it kids are playing foreign I just did a drawing here why not make it interesting here we go so one two three four five five steps in we have a Kala we have a girl she made another comes the father it could be the father or the husband doesn't matter let's let's say it's the father it says he's mikayan the nether he says great idea you want to abstain from you don't want to eat chocolate for the rest of your life great idea no chocolate okay I'm asking comes the husband we call him the Hassan he's a Hassan because he's holding a ring we're talking about Harrison now he's not she's not after the sword it's only Arizona so you have to say we have to remember he's holding a ring he's the ring guy not the hopa guy and he does hatara so the way I just took this from Yoshi gave me some assets I put them together he said Kim it's a good nether it's like a lock that's it it's locked in you unlock it and then he has a photo you break the lock okay we'll get there in a second so what happened was in step two the father said it's a good nether good nether Israel comes the Hassan and says well I want to know the nether but you need both of them goes the schwer the father and he goes to best and he says listen I made a mistake I said it's terrible for marriage whatever he found the new things chocolate is good for her health so they say okay we're gonna annul your Kim we're undoing your key and we're breaking the fact that he didn't kill and then he wants to do a Torah step five the swear goes into that Torah so now what do we have we have in step three the husband and step five the father Atara so you have both of them both of them said the nether is not another I would think that it's not another why because both of them did have Tara and why is it not good because they have to be able to do it at the same exact time so oh do it again do it together again that's a magoicus if they could do it together again so what happens is the husband did Atara and because at one point it wasn't a good at Tara why because the father did a Kim so it's kilo it's Atara and step three is nothing and because it's nothing so that Torah of the father doesn't is Atara that's what's going on here so let's see inside cancer of I haven't had to share keep going keep going the heifer one of the two either the father or the husband in this case in the picture it's the father he was mikaim he said it's a good nether the um one was Mayfair and one maybe I should have done it differently let me see maybe I should have done that the team have to happen after ataro okay because I don't know if it makes a difference but just to be together and the makayam the the father went Venus he went to bed and he said I regret it that I was makaim it and they said okay let's Undo It Mao the same the fact that he was that we undo it's kilo he wasn't mankind the mysterious name of Assassins explains that they don't have to do that far at the same exact minute but within the same period of Time same the same day okay so number of things here so the Run asks well that's a very big killer share look it's five steps you can combine three and five that's a nice finish and you're telling me that those are the words you don't even have to say it well you do have to say it it's a nice Kiddush so what's the veins yeah it's a good question yeah yeah the cash up foreign so he says engine lightmeyer is just going on the fact that if one does a kium then the other one that does aphara is nothing okay that's inside right if I tell you is this if the father says it's a good Nether and then the husband comes along and says it's not a good net there then the husband can't do anything the fact that he says not a good another it's not enough that ain't our climber I don't have to tell you that this is the round that's what the mission is saying the mission is saying the simplest fact I don't have to repeat so then why did you repeat it oh you repeated it to tell me this that three and five doesn't go together yeah it's a little bit hold on let's let's just get three and five first then we'll talk three and four all the round is saying is that there is a big kid to share and veins obviously is part here but so why are you tell me not illusion I'm telling you so that you should figure out there's a big hiddish hidden behind the scenes that's Ain't So climate I'm I don't need to tell you anonymous is that two and three if the father does Kim and the husband doesn't know that I don't even tell you also so why did you tell it to me because you're and you can figure out yourself that it means that if there's four and five it still doesn't work that's that's what's going on there well there's another question we're doing uh we're doing a question let's just say something stop the rasper asks what's that Allah if a woman says not to confuse you but this is simple stuff if the husband says I'll marry you I heard you have a little bit of an issue that you do nadaram you like to do nadaram every day I'll only marry you on condition they have zero in the dorm on you and she says no don't worry about it I don't have any of the daughter and then she runs to the ROV and she says listen I just got engaged and I lied to my cousin I told him I don't have in the dorm but I have a lot of dorm could you know all of them for me and he says no problem they're all notes what's that Allah engage you're not engaged huh not engaged engaged the father and son are arguing now let me tell you both both once you go to the ROV and he knows the nether it's as if there's zero nether she never made another so she didn't lie retroactively she removed the whole new daughter engaged you're not engaged is engaged Also let's go back to to that chart step four the father goes to the best then and they say you never did step two step two never happened so step two never happened why can't they combine step three and five hatara natar is great step two that he the father's makayam I already went to Peasant and best and got rid of it oh so Joseph is saying good and that's basically what Iran is saying Iran is saying it's different than kidushin over here it's a question of how do you com you need to combine and he says maybe we should see it inside this is a beautiful thing here it's like four lines from where it becomes wide we have some time here a little bit he says four lines from not not the first why the second the very very wide lines four lines above that right but if she does go to the rub I mean the global demikara Kylie I'm just doing this inside because it's so beautiful he says when you go to the room it's as if it never even happened so she could be engaged to the guy I have a lot foreign but when you do over here in our case is different it's weak or why when it comes to in our case you need a father and you need a husband together they both operate in Union and uh and more this is a beautiful line here my favorite because they have to be right to to combine okay this side you know later on it says enough um you hear this it's unbelievable in order for the husband and the father to do our father to the nether they have to be alive at the same time and do that Farah what if the father does that far in the morning and then he croaks he dies and then the husband says let me do my FR right now no good they both need to be alive at the same time so based on this idea they both have to be alive at the same time and they both have to do it at the same time so it doesn't help me that I went to a best then and I know that I took away my Kim because when the husband did as I thought in step three it wasn't at the same time as the husband because at the same that time the husband the father did a a kingdom and the husband did a hatara so they didn't have it's like it's as if the father was dead then says the robin um maybe she could we're talking about that the the husband is doing for her the father's doing four she doesn't obviously she made a note she doesn't want to go to the roof her father is forcing her but okay couldn't probably could be keeping her fine let's go back there so that's the Terrace on the rashville the naira maroso there was there was a safer I just I remember now in Brooklyn somebody wrote a safer somebody I know very well wrote a safer and he wrote their uh he had a question from the Cuba and he says I don't the the government's cash is nothing and he says an answer so there's a receiver in in New York in Brooklyn he read that you know he's learning with Islam is the the sugya and he opened up the Savior says look what this guy wrote he took the safer and he threw it on the floor how did he talk like that you can't talk about the Ricky Vegas anyways you see we're showing him [Music] nothing doesn't even start anyway says so now we're going with a little bit of a soggy here and very simple let me just tell you what's going to be here the fact that let's go back to the spoken a second how do you know this idea how do you know that a husband needs the schwer to combine together and go to be made for the Nether and we have these three parishes yellow green and blue yellow is a father by himself his daughter is not engaged green is the fact that the daughter is engaged and blue is that she's married now how do we know that the green is engaged and married how do you know what and that's what we're going to be discussing here it's very interesting that the Rand says he says that I'm with base he says Allah like this is the Derek of the gemara we go nice and slow we know the idea we know the concept we're going to say it right now we're going to blurt it out and then we're going to go reverse engineer it and we're going to see how we got to that thing it's a very short subject actually for today how do you know where does it say in the Torah that you need both a father and a husband maybe one of them is enough foreign she made a nether so it's a continuation of the yellow the yellow Parish show is when she has a father and the father's in charge and he could take her Nether and throw under the garbage can be made for another now she added another man to her life so now that man he is made for the nether but together with the with the father not by himself foreign how do I know from this parcel look it says first that the father can be made for then it says that she got married she got engaged so male means the father and the khasa and now we just have to figure out why it says maybe the whole green Parish over here is no matter married woman whoa that can't be why can't it be the obvious because we have a blue parishion that that's talking about a married woman foreign so green can't be married woman has to be engaged woman because blue is married can have two parents were saying the same thing this is well maybe we have two parishes and one is they're both saying the same exact thing you're right both saying that if a woman gets married her husband could another nether revise that question If a woman gets married with a Chupa everything could the father of know the nether why not because she's done with the father for life she has nothing to do with him he has zero control over her so in Mela the parisha says that the husband who knows another so I need a second person another that happened before he even knew her before they were married Shane about Mayfair because we can't say tomorrow um entire family and everyone learning the Daft and also let's talk over the members of the HBA group and their families foreign that a husband cannot annul a previous nether the message is there it says my first over here you cannot know so once it says that it's already the the nether is already there let me see the Lord yes [Music] um who's that lotion I think it's a what because the the nether is there and and if I already have this from the third power show then I don't need the second parachute it says that a husband cannot be made for okay them and it says the husband can be Mavis I don't need a second power show so I don't need right so that's the cash why do I need the second question so that's that's one third see body's name another one having the second passage says that's a lotion of errison not necess that's how I know that yellow the first part show is a Girl by your father and nobody else is involved the second Bible is talking about in arusa third batch is talking about [Music] um so this we need a little bit to see what the round says I'll just spear you I'll say the run outside maybe it's referring to the fact that the the father has the controller he's the one that could be made for him what about the person that say that the the husband also has control no what that means is that the husband could be mikhayam he could ruin it for the father the the only one that could be Mayfair as the gemara maybe the only one that can be made for no we're going step by step in these parishes how do we know that we're talking about the father and the husband together how do you know what each one could do I'll prove it to you very very simple perhaps now we're in the question perhaps the the father is the one that says I'm annulling the nether I'm made for the nether the husband doesn't have the right to do that but the tires talks about a husband ah the husband could decide it's a good nether he can't decide it's a bad nether he can do one thing it's a good nether then the father could jump and scream I want to know the nether too bad on the father that's how much power the husband has that's it the Run says like if we're gonna go say we could go to the smalls of the khilation that would be the smallest could this year in this part that the husband has the right to say yes not to say no foreign maybe the father alone has declared to be Mayfair so you could if you have a pencil stick in there but the the husband could be mikayan it doesn't say anything about it says the father could be made from what about the husband that for that you need to run the husband could do something a little bit what could he do he could say it's a good nether but he can't say it's a bad nether McCain foreign why is this possible day wait a minute the father has the right to know his daughters nether all by himself so of course when the artist is not around Sigmar says but wait a minute first this is the Safari that we said before a little bit maybe the father let's turn it around maybe a father needs the arush the husband who told you that the husband himself doesn't have a power the the posix says if she gets engaged then the husband could be made for another now you want to tell me that the father is also involved there why because a little of here the valve connects the two parishes don't forget about the Father the father had power very good maybe the father has power only in conjunction with the husband but the husband has more power than the father that's what we can do by himself the father needs the husband but if the father needs the husband then he didn't gain anything what does he do doesn't he do it by himself and the father can't do him by himself he needs the husband so the husband does everything uh then what does the father do here that's the Safari we just said a second ago remember that he does have a little power that he can ruin it for the husband he could say it's a good nether he died but he cannot he could say yes he can't say no foreign if it's true that the orus this husband could do it by himself this is this is the answer to the game mark base Isha nadaro this is the parisha the blue parishion this is the parisha of anusua La Mike SIV why do I need that parisha if the engaged husband could be made for his wife's nether all by himself without the without the father then why do I need a parish of an asua if if you go back if in the green partial the Parish of the orus the husband is the only one in charge so of course when he's the only one involved and there's no father at all because everybody over here said before that once you get married married the father goes bye-bye so of course it's only the husband and he could do he could be made for the Nether um if he's engaged he doesn't need the father so certainly when he's not engaged when he's completely married Amor now they want to ask the question in basis maybe you'll say no the passing basis is telling us and by the way these are all steps to get to the bottom line what's the bottom line how do I know that I need a husband and a father to be made for the girls another how do they know you need both so go through all the steps here now question in basis you're almost done right boys side three more lines and Chama Israel Gary could go home foreign Maybe this possible it's going to say something else it's going to say that a husband doesn't have the power like we said before to be made for another that it pre-existed his marriage oh and here we are um but from this goofa this is a beautiful couple there you know what it says oros Mayfair recruitment if I can get there oh so this is like this right we've learned the positive she already has in the daughter before so this possibly said is talking about erosion it's the green right I don't remember the colors anymore the middle one Everson and you're ready Darrell allows you already has an adore him and the Hassan husband whatever you call him he could be made for it koitman he could be made for Kleinman um so how's it possible the Torah says that an Engaged guy could be Mayfair pre-existing in the dark and a married Guy cannot so what's going on here someone who's married has less power than a Hassan has more power than a married guy how's it possible when you're married she's yours and only yours there's no you're not you're not sharing your Pursuits versus so when you're married you cannot be made Fair let me understand this anymore when you're married you can't be made for a pre-existing mother but when you're engaged the code it makes no sense so how do you explain it how does it make sense it makes perfect sense because you're doing it together with the father and there is no question by a father he's with this girl for her entire life he's a he knew her before she existed so may love that's the shot this is our Ariah this is a riot that what it's impossible logically to say that the Hassan could be made for a kaid them and a married Guy cannot be made for acquaintance so the only way to explain that causing human is if it's together with the father who he has more rights than the husband because he was there before there is no question and here's a Raya that a father is Mayfair together with a husband before we finish I just want to say real quickly because this is the word and I was thinking about on on Friday night it says when you say by Hulu by who on Friday night you're not say you become so those who say that when you say kiddish stop throwing it out there it's a week late you probably forget next week when you say Kiddush you it's it's Google to think in terms of asking for special things because you should have them you can ask your children for things it's a special timers right buddy side welcome to all the guests have a wonderful week we'll see you tomorrow at 7 15. 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