Daf Yomi Nedarim Daf 21 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning round boys back in the summer I sent you a video of my friend Mendy who's battling ALS for 15 years today unfortunately it was lifter when I came to the hospital in the morning his wife had informed me not to worry because he already did the dot for the rebelli and they sent me a picture of him doing the duff this morning with his eyes open doing the daf with so you know they asked me not it says is the wife monkey asked me to share with you the picture from this morning please do not share this photo in big letters he's being buried in there to scroll see attached for info jackness Bell the value is in urgency stroll 6 30 today in Benjamin dear belly man make a suggestion perhaps once a week could be more often you leave the island with a question based on the week's death stop him and encouragement to send in their answers the Islam has like a lot of stuff for me to do I need like 50 hours a day I like the suggestion it's not a bad one the best suggestion could get a shout out the best suggestion you could get a shout out and possibly a free pair of mdy socks just a thought David halter Manchester everybody say you can send in your div retire for the Pirates of javois because I'm still looking I still I still need help if somebody has a good one ah David is your cousin not a bad thought s why is he why is he sending you a thing yeah he gives he gives 80s without even doing the dumb okay love it love it love it where was I uh yesterday I decided finally after a lot of persuasion uh especially from a guy on this table to go to cashier now she this the Shabbos is going to be an amazing thing this uh hayasara up north um and Rabbi why why Jacobson is coming Russell it's an amazing amazing Shabbos for anybody that has kids that are off to there or heading that way it's a whole new way of or not a new way but the right way to be mechanic children to to show them love and support even though there might be in a different place than you are so it's very very highly recommended I really wanted to go but I was struggling with the sheer how to how to do the sheer and they were very very accommodating so my wife really wanted to go and uh I think it's going to be a great time so anybody wants to join us it's still they're not sold out yet I don't think maybe they are I don't know I have no idea they didn't even ask me to say this I'm saying it because I think it's very very helpful and very it can help people and uh there's a little bit of a stigma oh I am like this and if I go people know there's nothing to worry about it's a great Shabbos and what I I spoke to at least I want to say seven or eight people that went there and told me people from the sheer people from out of this year said it changed their life the whole Shabbos it's a whole system of how to deal and how to just make things better in the house the house becomes a normal house there's no more depression no more sadness it's all taking in the right way and then and and and seeing tremendous results to somebody that sits on this table right here every single day told me it changed his life and he he was the first one to introduce me to abdom and Russell and the whole thing so anyway So based on show I'm going I hope I didn't make the decision too late and uh she was not gonna be regular time they put me in the schedule as uh they did their own thing but sure is going to be 7 15 in the morning I'm probably not going to be there Friday even though it's a big program Thursday Friday the whole thing Friday I'm still gonna be an mdy multi Shabbos I'll be there regular time like two hours at the Shabbos and the Sunday morning I'll also be there 7 15 in the morning from there from up North all right um I'm still saying out the names of the high donors repeating them we got some new ones also about Hashem of the mdy monthly there's going to be a gift for Hanukkah they say by the way we didn't forget about the Slime Bikram I got the picture there's a safer homes 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yeltobasa a young Al model with three children struggled and opened up the first Shimmer Shabba store on 13th Avenue in Borough Park wow special Partners the Locke family the force Lima I didn't say listen what happened I said instead of me Ira Bass basheva the surgery happens to be today so we wish it's a young kid before sleeping sponsored by oh uh the Rosenberg Lang in Kagan families filburn in honor of the other side of Mary Byrne Miriam bat yoseave here we go brand new Parrot easier suggest especially tomorrow one of these is [Music] Lee Lewis official mission is three lines from the bottom of the base the mission is going to describe and not really explain much but that the different machines going on all the way to have Zion or so I'm going to explain the words coming up we're going to explain one of them but basically these are terms of a nether that in your heart you think something completely different you say one thing you mean something completely different but that's the Derek of people to speak is like this that without us without our Torah so we said there's something called that Tara that you go to and he has two options either you could do harata harata means I regret today what I did yesterday I'm standing here today I'm calm I'm collected and I have carat I regret how I acted yesterday when I was under the rest I was upset yesterday I was really angry yesterday so today I'm regretting what I did yesterday I'm not regretting today today I'm regretting today what I did yesterday it's easy to do and there's a step that's more difficult to do called The Passage and that's you're looking at yesterday you're looking not at today you're looking at yesterday had you known a piece of information yesterday when you did the net there what do you have done that nether like you said Cowboy had he known that his son-in-law would turn out of Akiva yesterday 25 years ago I don't have many years how many years later it was many years right 24 was exactly 24 that day okay so 24 years ago had I known then so the the past Act is really going all the way to the time of the nether where is harata you're doing the regret today because I'm collected today and I have Das today yesterday I was because they said you don't even need these two things you don't need a PESA you don't need a harata it's null and void never happened this nether what are they mid crazy Russian to be Miss Cyrus to motivate somebody so the mission is going to describe it in a second basically when you do when you negotiate now it doesn't happen so much in the United States and in England what happens a lot maybe in Israel in Arab countries a lot in in China I thought there is negotiation right Gary China hello Gary do they negotiate in China this is a negotiating somebody told me not but I know that's what I thought that there is with that could tell you a high price and then you chop them down in the Diamond District of Vada there's negotiation that's the whole you start high you go low some kids are you're making the Durham to push the guy in the right direction yeah I'm not going I swear I'm not going I make another I'm not going lower than 100 and then let me see go lower but it's a haggle but it's it's it's it's a known what it's a known tactic free store in Africa when we were there he said no negotiating really you should have taken a picture no it says in the store no negotiation in the duty-free store no negotiation it'll be funny to go over and start haggling so we're not going to go into these things because the mishnites are going to discuss it later you stop exaggerating your forced ninja is what's the case foreign I'm not going to go down less than four dinner so first of all going just if we want to familiarize ourselves or at least myself I'd like to remember this one Cella equals for dinner so he says I'm not going down less than a Cella which is four valence I'm not going I'm not paying you more than one there's quite a difference here he's willing to pay one he's not willing to sell it for less than four okay but it's one in four shekel is two you're right you're right you're right 100 right shuttle is too there thank you it doesn't say the mission is dinner it says sheka is okay so it's not double hundred percent he says I'm gonna I'm selling it for two I'm not gonna buy for more than two I'm only selling it for four so I just did a little chart here because it's going to be one of my last charts because Hashem Yoshi's coming on board full time next week so it'll be a lot nicer than this but basically you got you'll see Klein on the right he's selling that donkey Schwartz is the buyer and he has money in his hand this guy's a donkey in his hand and he has money in his hand so the Iran explains I just did it to show what the round is saying what is he making in netherron exactly what on the ear no this is the Run he's making a nether shot I'm making a nether that I'm not selling it to you less than four and if I do sell less than four I'm making another with the red arrow I'm making a Nether on your money it's on something it's on a loaf of bread it's a it's I'm not gonna sleep I'm not touching your money if you're gonna try to give me less than four dinner less than a seller I'm not touching it the other guy says beyond the dentist says I'm making a Nether and you're a donkey I'm not touching your donkey if I pay more than two what uh what what ended up happening they settled on three that's normal instead of three so because that's how people talk it's not a joke the whole haggling is a joke he swears this he does that he walks away You're supposed to walk away in the middle and then the guy comes running after you and then sometimes he doesn't and he the kids are like the knife in Africa I'm a terrible Hagler a haggle that walked away from the guy I said bye-bye then I come running back please sell it to me anyway so the bottom line is that the coinum the nether is on somebody else's object he's saying I'm making an ad there I'm vowing that if I give you if I give you my donkey for one dime less than four I'm not touching your money and he says if I up my price more than two you see as two in his hand if I give you three I'm not gonna touch the donkey he has a major problem he can't use his money and he can't use the donkey the answer is no it's not a problem you don't even need a Hector for this it's still some what he's saying is she does him I'm not gonna sell to you for less than four dollars dentist says I'm not gonna give you more than two this is the norm of this is the the Minogue is to lie and to make nidorim and to show that you're serious about your haggling but it's all a big joke so a number of things here first of all the brand says that even though this is not a nether says Duran you're still over on this Posse Grant over here the famous Posse interesting it's not a real possum it's a possible it's only has the the power of a durable he's saying nevertheless don't just say things that don't that you don't mean it doesn't give you a header now to haggle and to add in the Durham to your haggling because you're either on a durable words for no reason a few interesting allahs in the round this is that that's why the run is very different than Rashi it gives you all these Allah so let's let's just say that out quickly if one guy I think everybody knows this but it's good for khazara it's it's on a practical level so a guy is selling a donkey and he he says in one sentence he says I swear that I'm not going to take from you two uh whatever it is and I'm not going to take from you three but he was serious to one and not serious to the other he really meant it because the Rand says if they both admit that they were serious both of them come come up and they say we weren't haggling we were serious I really made another okay so it's a nether then you have to go to but what if he says I was serious the seller of the donkey says I was serious to him but not to him in one sentence so Duran says the obvious if you're going to be Movado nether a little bit so you move out to the whole thing you can't have a a half a nether can't be how from one person not for the other person okay and then he says a very very interesting he says but they could do everything up to the number that they announced in other words the dentist could give three he could give three and a half 3.9 but he cannot he cannot give four he cannot pay four because that's already that guy's nether then then the nether will be how and the other guy can't take two he could take two and a half three but he can't take two because once it takes two that's the dentist another because you don't want the nether the number that they that they mentioned will become real if you take that amount of money so you can only take another amount not that amount okay says ligamara abundant um you told us in the name of review not review that now see baby hoodie so here's the story here you look at the cartoon it's hard to see I'll read it out for you the guy in the blue says so the guy you see a guy walking oh thank you guy walking from a distance he says his name is and then the guy closes his eyes he's like what's happening and then you see in the third picture it has a long beard and long hair okay that's that's the story that we're about to say then what foreign [Music] so the point is that they see a guy the story this is the story the whole story in a cartoon they see a guy from a distance and they both argue with each other who the guy is and one of them is so adamant that it's his friend Schmidt he makes another she makes it it's not it makes it the other guy makes sense it isn't so here we have we spoke about the story a similar story and then the guy shows up it's really him so says repeat typhen then that's not another because you need a flaw you need to be clear when you make your Nether and if you're not clear when you're making another it's not another but basically what he's saying is you can never according to retirement very interesting everything we know about Nadar doesn't exist you can't make another out tonight you can't say if this and this thing happens then I'll become another it doesn't work no but both because nether very good thanks for bringing it up he's talking about the zeros and we're talking about the Durham they're both the same that we learned to be himself though whatever we have by another we have by another by us also but tonight it wouldn't work she says by us he makes a fly if I sell this to you for less money I won't touch your money so that's a deny if if this and this happens then I won't touch your money okay that's in in five minutes from now when I sell it to you when I get to the haggling point and you knock me down on the prize and I agree to sell for three instead of four then all the money in your hand becomes answers to me retirement says that doesn't work it has to be something clear right now when I make another not tonight laflow so the rightness of beautiful Kasha then why does the mission say that they ended up selling it for three even if he ended up selling it for the exact price that he wanted it's not another the the seller says he wants four he's not going to go a dime less than four the buyer says he's not going to go up a die more than two so the buyer ended up paying for his nether he messed up but the seller didn't mess up but at the end of the day why do I have to say that they they both messed they both messed up if one of them messed up that's enough it's not a nether you know why it's not a nether because he didn't know what's going to happen and at the end something something different happened it's not a nether so the Rand says a beautiful thing then there's a big kid this year that with the cartoon one of them is 100 wrong it could either be shmaya or Italian it can't be both it's one or the other so one of them is 100 wrong one of them might be 100 right I don't know but one of them is 100 wrong so since one of them is 100 wrong and his net there is bottle so then the whole thing is bubble both is in the Dharma bottle they're both saying it together they're both talking so if one is about the daughter's bottle but in our case says the round that's why we went to three we're saying that there's a there's a way to make that both in darm archaim they both messed up he went lower than he wanted and he went higher than he wanted both the Dharma kind of PK in the tradition is no nether that's why the mission says three and not even four it could be four but the mission is telling us a bigger okay by the way very interesting if you look in the rambam is under does anybody know where else in the darm is found in the rambam very good foreign which means yeah so why does it make a difference [Music] oh you're saying just in general the whole um according to Robertson that tonight doesn't work so you're saying why do they have to be serious and not serious just any Knitter shouldn't work what's up that's what it really tonight yeah but how do you answer how are you answer these questions yeah but the guitar is now saying nothing more saying that the whole missions review the point of retirement you really the other series no no sorry sorry you're right we have to read the mission differently the mission is not about being serious and about being serious and we're going to see that in a second here that's what Robert points out that's exactly it our mission is that you don't need a a Taurus you don't need uh it's because the whole the whole thing because it's at night the whole method doesn't exist but not because it's seriously not serious I don't like the fact you're going with with that cheetah you know let's go with the red bottom foreign that they ended up with something else at the end they were agreeable to three so it makes sense you're going like with retirement there's nothing to do with them being serious and not serious they were serious at the end they were agreeable to a certain price from beginning to end they never had intent they weren't being serious you see that's the point you see from the mishnah that it's about being serious and not being being serious that's exactly the point you see the retirement doesn't fit in Tower Mission because if he does fit intermission then the mission shouldn't say a situation writes in that from beginning to end they they in their mind they were bluffing they never had any any intent that's not the point they're going to terms it's not about what they had in mind didn't have in mind the fact that they attached a condition to the nether that makes the nether void but that's not what it says in the mishnah it should have said ratsu it doesn't say that right all my layers fine the mission is not retirement it says says Robert the mission is robot on and it has to do with the seriousness or not all malaria vanilla revashi Omar Leo it's famous shekel so tube shot them in the round let's go I think this one is a little easier right and I said already the there's there's a company I believe that every time I get a memorandum whatever it is whatever it's called a little booklet about a certain property so it says electric seventy thousand dollars taxes 150. this it's always a round number and years ago I asked the question how is it possible that on the property it's exactly seventy thousand dollars for electric not 71.956 so he said no we just guesstimate okay when you have an exact number it seems a lot it's real it says seventy thousand one hundred ninety two dollars and thirty two cents ah he got it right off of the electric bill that's what it is so as the gimoro what happens if the guy does that he says I'm not selling it for less than four shekel and 22 agurat now the guy the guy's serious he's not just throwing a number he has a real number in mind they're having a guy that that sells car said he said that um I don't know if it's true or not but this is what he claimed he said that they always have they do forty thousand six fifty Seven because they have a there's a uh ashita like a psychology that people are going to try to take off the 657. they forget about the 40. that they're okay they already give in to the Forty thousand that's Monday I don't know if it works in Big Numbers you say 40 657 the guy goes come on just let's round it out let's round it up to 40. let's go okay fine I'll round out there but it's it's populated automatically by the by the computer this is 657 so that somebody has something to negotiate about fine but when you add that exact number you say four shekel acella not just a seller but a cell and a bit now you're serious now you're not messing around you're not bluffing perhaps well I bought some Michelle Ninja is he trying to motivate the other guy or he's being very very serious we have it right it says in the brightest a guy says come on you never eat by me Comfort me or for Shabbos come on come on you're here you're only here for one day and I just saw you better come to me the guy who's so fed up with him he says I swear or I make a nether I'm never coming into your house yeah the famous Miser with the sugar swing your knocks on the door the son-in-law is like huh so she sees the the pahad in his eyes she goes what's the matter like you tell me when to leave I'll leave he says what you're not even going to stay for a cup of water yeah so that's what happened over here he said nobody's laughing in the jokes anymore there's all the Autumn jokes you know when it's dead like this a bunch of English people here I just came back from London just came back from Madison by the way seriously I wanna people wrote to me a lot of people wrote to me those English people they weren't laughing at jokes it's not true the mic didn't pick it up I'm not joking they were laughing at everything much more than you guys they have a real sense of humor those guys okay [Laughter] at least you're masking that some of this is funny okay guy says I'm making another I won't even drink a drop of water not not even a plastic cup of water it's a real thing foreign you see that even a small thing a person even when he says a small thing like a little cup of water no even that he wasn't being serious about the whole idea so male over here just because he added a couple cents to the four sheko doesn't do anything this is common languages how people speak it's a normal thing for people to talk all right this is how people speak there's a concept revoices Concept in Allah this is how people speak for instance in the safer uh tireless is a very interesting say because the beneshkai says that he found a safer and he just copied it down and he wrote it a lot of people say it's not true the bench himself wrote it and for whatever reason you don't want to put his name there fight but the it says entirely small let's say it's the vanished it says he says it different on the senses but you could say it also a kid is riding a bike and he said you know without his Yamaha it happens so the father catches him so the kid says I'm making a I swear I'll never take off my amaka never take on my Africa so now he comes to the benef he swore he's never taking off his yamaka now what do you do so then you have this concept he brings this gemara there's a way that people talk I'll never take off my Amazon never never doesn't mean 100 never means when normal people don't let go of the anchor I'll keep it out when I ride my bike I'll keep it on whatever but when I'm in the shower of course I'm gonna take it off it's this is how people talk on my leg s by the way 20 deaths into the dark Highway thank you the design there's an idea that sadikim they said they they say very little and they do a lot it's interesting the uh involvement see it says that it can just continue they say a lot and even a little they don't do what I thought it was I thought to me it was fascinating I got this morning that we're on Tuesday you can still do schneid mikra of purchase vegero what is the same person so I'm saying we're a little bit in vayera a little bit sorry you could for sure but you could also do by air in vayera you have the ultimate of this which is rabbis I know anybody yeah I'm going to give you a little bit of water very good just come I'll give you a little piece of bread and what did he do well we don't even know about these things to Chef three animals and give them three tongues is a lot different than giving a little piece of bread so he's a sadly going to Harbor in this week's pirate show new this week's pirate show yeah from very good air Freud ah come on take it for free no problem in Russia and at the end he takes up which is I forgot it's like you're shook an amount of money more than uh more than all the money in Kenya or something I don't know over the sofa very good so thank you very much um foreign more of a spago build my apartment visiting we don't know we still don't understand what what is true cavana was was he being serious or was he trying to be Misery we don't have a we don't have an answer yes I'm pointing out over here his name is ravasi ravasi means he's in a Moira what does ravasi say I want to do these foreign that we say in the mishnah it doesn't mean that their mutter straight out and you just continue on with your business you have to go to a rabbi can't read the commitment it says motor means nothing you don't have to do anything you don't have to take any action why in the world do you say they have to take action reviews it's not what he said it didn't say that in our mission of these four types he was haggling not that if you're haggling you have to go the rabbi but if you go to the rabbi stop your wives she made another she's not gonna eat chocolate so you go to the rabbi the rabbi has a c if it's similar to these four the dharim is there some stuff in what she said it was she exaggerating what's she haggling well she did if you have one of these aspects one of these things then it's a good hatara then it's a good PESA you should make sure that when you're doing a passive here of you're like these four in the dark why because sovereign you have to come up with had you known a certain piece of information yesterday you wouldn't have taken action you wouldn't have done that neither oh I would also become a guy comes so now we have a bunch of these stories of haroto PESA he asked him he comes he says I made another I need the out which I do she says was your mind there did you have were you all your marbles with you it's a faith I was in a crazy mood that's harata harata I'm standing here today I'm looking at what happened yesterday it's like I regret how I acted yesterday he says karate is enough second ago he said you need a PESA no Harold is enough um if you have 10 people your mother was there and she was calming you down and everybody's there and the reppi chill out you know because bark was doing it for a reason don't be so upset that's all good would you would you do it no it's actually they say it's a nature if a person wants to do navera he should imagine himself certain people in his life his 10 people that he has his mother his father staring at him is ready looking at him certainly maybe he was maybe I'll give him a kiss like you won't do uh he won't do uh he won't do that there I don't know they say rip Knight Weinberg used to have I think it's based on a song or something I don't know what it is like in New York the the the the the law the slogan of the radio over there is give us 22 minutes and we'll give you the world so remember one reason to say give me 10 men and I'll give you the world or something like that huh no that's 1010's wins 22 minutes I'll give you the world what give me 10 men and I'll change the world I don't know exactly the shot but that's what he used to say so give me 10 men if he had 10 men over there and they would calm you down would you make the Nether on my lawyer I wouldn't make the net there the tiroi and the story review you have the same heart the same the same emotions as you had yesterday your mama love material no yesterday I was completely I was a wreck I was not that's why I made the nether so okay so today you're having karate regret you're out of it foreign and he said that even the notoram in our mishnah you have to go to the rav over here we have rebeass omelette loyal what's going on here uh so you have to stick in what I don't know somebody different yeah okay but how do you know how do you I don't know what it is you know rebuilding a towel called ribiase I hear it from Terraria yeah I hear okay that's what I'm going Shabbos it's very good it means that red Beyonce here yeah this could be probably right correct okay but it's somebody else it's not ravasi unless in they used in bubble they called rebiasi ramas I doubt it okay but you see over here that it's somebody else because he says a different cheetah all they can do to Ace on my way you have to put in a nigging over here I'm like what not I shouldn't have haroto vashary what um of course foreign like this real Israeli guy goes I'm not upset this is just upsetting me that kind of thing yeah so either like magazine Lee if they didn't get me upset I wouldn't have made another on Malay to hey good voice it should be like you want in other words she made a nether that she's not gonna have anything to do with her daughter your neighbors is if you knew what your neighbors would say about your daughter that was you know we say in uh I think it's the same Motion in uh what do you call it I mean uh things that she said that she should she deserves this Harem why would a mother why would a mother put a daughter in the Nether and I have nothing to do with you obviously the mother knew that she's a terrible person I would never make such a nether with Sharia and based on that they made a Torah a boy's eye have a wonderful day [Music]