Daf Yomi Kiddushin Daf 31 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning rap boy Hashem we had a very very successful first day our moon Hotel what this one the cord okay but we have over a hundred rooms booked bottom seven first day day one out of 440. uh you could see Michelle Obama because yossi just made Aliyah no let's go three well it's like three guys in one week [Music] all right so we have a few grocery guests from Malaysia what's your name happens to be that I met with him for a few hours yesterday he's a very famous caterer he did the deer shoe events he did cashier and which wasn't him about uh this the you have to see him by the way a lot of people were asking if you can't afford because it is it's an expensive thing and some people can't afford there is a musty Chavez malava Malco we're doing the actual physical scene what Chavez is open to everybody obviously it's going to cost the stickle depending on with rib YY Jacobson as a keynote speaker so that's that so um it's a nice place this is our own place no how many how many events do you do the year enough okay evolve it beautiful place um yeah so it's gonna be a Shabbos of why why everybody uh just kidding just kidding that was a joke that was a joke if not fixed well all these guys there the kids are the whole the whole who oh Benny oh yeah yeah what's your name destler from Cleveland what's your first name and your name is I met you five minutes ago and five months where are you from Woodman New York who else who else do we have here all right so I want to show you this email real quickly hi rebelly been learning the daf with you since I don't know if he cut it to make it onto the cruise ship because you have to be there from Brock's the base you gotta be no no let him in not only I enjoy am I learning now more than ever is much more than I get out of your share I've been a fifth grade rebby for the past 30 years and I'm amazed at your creativity and understanding how to pull in and interest that you tell me them I have learned much from your style it's going to be a video about his eye in the closed loop you could see that I tried to use the same nuttiness with my students can't wait to spend Shabbos with you in the ganshipacho by the way is there maybe a ready discount yes there should be I don't know what it is but there is going to be one thank you and please keep on teaching me how to teach moisha Steinberg her voice I check out this video give one of the best videos my name is fifth grade and I have to tell you you changed my teacher I'm watching you the enthusiasm the way you get over this year where they tell you the truth you really changed the way because you see my day used to look like this [Music] [Applause] now because of you my day looks like this [Applause] all right [Applause] [Music] he should get a discount just for that whether he's a review or not hi I sponsored the art for five thousand dollars this month and I think it ends in a day or two I think it's passive in the next two months I'm curious if I can get 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gamara like I do I got up introduced myself and learned that he recently started to learn that yeah I mean he asked me he's learning with it and he said the random people online I asked if you ever listened to her belly and mdy and was surprised to hear that he never heard of you I told him practically he pleaded with him and at least give it a try fast forward it's givaldi fast for the week you can see from his email below he checked it out and he's totally hooked you have a talmud and I have a new friend message to Tequila no matter where you are or where you go there's always an opportunity to get people hooked on the dove even at a resort pool on the Gulf of Mexico wishing you on your home I'm doing my family hope to see you at the CM in New York P.S the picture by the pool may not have been the most appropriate so that's why he's telling another picture that calendar at the pool parrots chasil and Hermann PL um okay I I think we should uh I have a lot a lot of emails here's real quickly here's a guy uh in the show Manchester doing the daf and I noticed that the stender up in the front looks exactly like my standard right over here so I'm assuming that Jimmy leafman is the one that made the center it happens to be imagines that makes sense and over here he says and then I got an email from okay fine we'll just I have too many things going on here okay the coil of the month the call of the month maybe we married to Crown Hashem the coil of the day very gross Mazel Tov the bar mitzvah Yeshua gross he's been with us since 13 year old is sponsored by lacking loving families like New Jersey because and all the MD wires as a source that tests return normal and my family and I are 100 healthy for 120 oh man today where is he get over here [Music] Wednesday September 13th from his parents show him and Karen Shepherd wow Mazel Tov Mazel Tov remember today can you give me a broker please no not in front of everybody she lived 120 beautiful brother thank you for coming Rosenberg The Hop Orion for this year's account you hear he's giving Ryan for this year's account by Benny rennert thank you Rebellion for being such a good Maggie cheer this is written by a 12 year old who saved up his money to sponsor the share so again his name is Benny rennert thank you rebelli for being such a good Mega cheer I hope to learn more with you yeah wow okay 12 years old and a fourth sponsor by Fishel and Brookie Klein lillianismas Daddy odded yesterday and the Art of the month sponsored by YK I guess that's his name I don't know who he is do you know who he is no it doesn't say his name it says YK yes and I'll tell you after this year Robert we're holding unfortunately behind on the flamide base 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16. 20 lies from the bottom we're talking about the real of a father to a son um yeah I just I I forgot to mention that the program on Chavez I have to say this is very important because a lot of people are it's very much going to be geared towards women there's gonna be special speakers for women it's going to be special activities for women so okay you could give that one since he's the editor I can't tell him to edit he's just he's gonna people ask me if your wife is good so then privately maybe if they're lucky so a father's to help a son get married you yourself should get married and you should have children and you help your children the same King that you have to get married to marry of your sons and your daughters foreign a father could help Assad it's not up to him yeah man looked for the woman and not vice versa so what is exactly how is he helping me he should give her a little bit of of money make a nice nodding she know that this uh as I did not prepare this so it could be it's inappropriate but I was once came over to me I was a bucker he said I told you this is It's appropriate over here because this is a girl from I don't want to say what country is the best in the world and you should know that the father if you marry her the father is going to give you nine million dollars that's the naden so so I guess I took down the numbers okay I thought I go to my father said this guy uh offered me it's nine million dollars he said listen if you could take the nine million dollars and bring it home and take the wife put her in the bank it's a great idea what he's trying to say is like what you marrying the money what's the so so over here it says will have asked you give her some nice clothing buy her new new clothing a new wardrobe what did he say [Music] [Laughter] I did not bring the 9 million dollars home that's not out yeah despair the spare very nice from my cousin from all people everybody had to be quiet and you had to throw that out there you followed it okay so anyways you what you do is you set her up so she's attractive to other people you buy the Nice Clothing nice nothing my own shot of this Mom this is not even gonna make it into a guy vidilio it says over here midi and in in the Hebrew mby is if you go it's mdy and you learn that's what you're giving her an end because it was that it's not even going to make it not even gonna make it okay fine you have to teach him a trade I mean literally the translation in English is a living is living to live you should give him a living in Isha with a woman I share a hafta that you love so the mother says there's two ways to look at it if referring it could be either the third is referring to a woman or attorney so we know we already established you have to marry off your son so that same here you have to become in the word you have to give him a living employee if he shot is referring to Tyra like slim and Melody that we also established after teachers to marry off your kid yeah some people say you have to teach your son how to swim why what if he drowns what if the the ship capsizes yesterday save himself so like we said we're saying anything that has to do today is things that capsize things that are dangerous driving a car Etc to make sure that your son is safe if you don't teach him a trade you teach them how to steal this is by not teaching him a trade he's not gonna have what to eat so he's gonna steal from people somebody sent me an article from Yeshiva World News yesterday that in New York this guy is teaching his son how to steal that that's how he's doing like they're going to New York little kids they send them into the stores and they they break into saves they they with knives and the restaurant they grab food all things so what's an Africa whether you teach them a trade or teaching business is very good if you teach them a business teach them how to trade stocks or whatever so one day doesn't have money so he doesn't have money what is he gonna do but if you teach him a trade I personally like Plumbing as a as a thing I think plumbers do well like there's always a job there's always a toilet to fix there's always a building to teach them a trade there's always she's always has he always will have paradise and he won't have to steal but business you teach them real estate make a taste of today there's money sometimes it's dry sometimes it's not diamonds etc etc Comics is available so this is the same kind of Suga that we had earlier it's just to establish what we're talking about so if you read it backwards every middle that you are required to do like to your son like Mila Ben it's interesting why the gamara repeats this whole thing we already established the reverse okay is what a woman is foreign him the fact that the tiger said both tiro plural a woman so why do you start off it says because there's a difference a man is always never has a day off because he he doesn't get married to somebody that controls him like a woman to keep it of her husband so once a woman gets married her husband can say I'm not interested in you doing you have to even have me year or something else that she might have issue she's sort of under the authority of somebody else jurisdiction or somebody else this guy or show but once he gets divorce name shove him then she's equal to her brother turn around says there's a there's a connection between the way and I think it's obvious and I'm sure they speak about this that the whole reason almost that we have parents because otherwise we wouldn't even know how what does it mean once you have a parent and you have a child and you see the relationship between you and your child and you see how it makes sense that that child should respect you and fear you so then then you could have a it's a muscle of maybe of how you should have that same sort of a cursive tacos it talks about keyboard Hashem hi rip the the claimer said look what you choose the Tower of God so he looked at him he said okay so do the same thing to our God what's the brown if you could kill a God so kill that obviously doesn't make any sense fine it makes a lot of sense this connection between parents because all three the parents and Hashem are Partners in the baby so sorry that the mother gives the red and the father gives the white so the bones the the white of the eye anything white the brain is white the father the mother gives the blood the skin the the meat the Buster that's the mother what is all the things that are not tangible eyesight the eyes is just a piece of rubber but the fact that we could see through it and we could hear with our ears we rather than say hearing but I'm sure there's a smelling the ruach the shama all these things that and intellect that's from yeah yeah it doesn't say the whole thing though it doesn't say the White and the red [Music] um yeah I'm just saying the brain the more of this explains brain is white just that when a person is [Music] she persuades him with words she speaks nicely to him she's always giving him stuff so he gives her more comments so if you look at the pasta it's very very simple very interesting when it says it's going to explain why because when it comes to covered it's natural to be Mojave mother first so that's why has to tell you comes before coming Hassan is more fearful of his father I think because he has a a bigger whack no maybe tomorrow because it is that's why the Torah flips it when it comes to Europe if a person causes pain to his father or mother um like we said before it's a good thing I don't dwell with client Israel in their place if I would live with them they would cause me greater Saturn it's interesting keep lucky because doesn't know when he's up there it's all what whatever we don't understand um if a person thinks that nobody's watching and he won't do let's say a very in public but it doesn't have very own private so it's as if he's pushing away hashem's feet up there have Yoko and his feet are resting as a as a footstool the world the planet Earth is like a footstool so if you dwell in various he'll be pushing his feet away you're not guards him nobody sees me not even Hashem so this is Yoshi did this a few days ago so here's the Clement or a person you know walks upright and you're not gonna walk like that four Ammons they take out the four hours you're not gonna walk like that because fills the world and you're walking with haughtiness reviews so this is interesting if you look at the wording the simple wording and they discuss this it seems like they didn't go with the yamaka back then because ravuna was very mock but not to go four hours beginning he wouldn't go four hours without without a head covering and explains because if it's talking about like it's a a Talus with an Atara it doesn't seem like that because it says the skin is above me I gotta separate me in the screen it seems like they didn't wear yamas to walk a few steps he was smacked with even a few steps and one here's my could not walk at all he was back but anytime he took one step he was just not even once of course he did yeah because this is so cautious other people didn't even on one step nothing says right even a little bit and other people other people would walk and when he's when he's sitting no it's not hello it's not so partial you're right it's not it's not so pushed it's not a clear Riot but it seems like that like we had yesterday also uh orphan who didn't have a father yeah so basically he's playing a little bit of a game here he's pretending as a father when he doesn't have but it's okay he's asking what do I do if both parents ask me to do something which one comes first you should take care of your father foreign this time he's a little smarter um if the wife is Hive in the comfort of her husband okay so you go directly to the husband what if they're not a wife and a husband anymore they're separated they're divorced so now she's his mother he's his father maybe they have equal if I just look at your eyelashes I could see Rashi says you cried so much over the years that your eyelashes are missing I could tell that you're awesome and what are you doing to me why are you the the 23 years ago says a very interesting shot here it says like this colloid Meyer if you look on the left side not literally the eyelashes I could tell from the whole way that you talk that you're Street Smart depends why is a orphan smart Russian he had to go work at a very young age at the age seven eight he's right in the marketplace so he comes off as a not as a little child as a as a mature person he's a 10 year old he's asking questions and he cut right away You're you haven't been in Yeshiva for years you're out there you're Street Smart what why is beyond yours in that so it's very interesting what does he say hotel in Miami take a picture of water and start crowing like a rooster cockadoodle do whatever in other words he said what are you messing with me I see you you're you're an orphan so what do you even asked me oh if I have a father it's not even a guarantee why are you coming here so I'll play again with you so you think from here from the gemara that if you have a father and a mother you should put the water in between and run away that you still go you pick whoever you want pick whatever you want you have a divorce parent if they're married give to the father divorce the big whatever you want everybody brings them our child who says that it's literally like that that he's trying to say you take the water put in the middle I'm sorry I can't get involved that I can't pick you over you I might insult you I'm putting the water down and that's it yeah maybe maybe it's talking about high Governor if Charlotte Thompson robots are heading into some of the most famous suggests ulo at the at the doorway of the nursery the all the kings of the world are gonna are gonna praise you because they heard himre imray is plural many things that you said instead of said the words the one cent the one statement that you said I am the only one I shouldn't have other uh Gods um it's only me chanism but once in the asserts it says you should honor your parents husband how are you doing my mothers are you showing noise that's imray there's two statements first he said Hashem we're not taking that and then once they have that there's another here you should respect your parents then they said okay we'll take it the same idea but from a different person the the first statement that you said is true what do you mean only the first one it says then I can tell that the first part is true that's what the government said [Music] unbelievable we should try to remember these gamaras just to give us an idea we said that Yeshiva bought him back in the day when they used to go home for yantev they would open up that Allah and learn this soyi right here like just to give you an idea of where you need to be foreign six hundred thousand golden coins says Rashi didn't resolve one I don't know how much a golden coin is worth but 600 000 of them the key of this safe was under the head of his father related and he didn't it wasn't Cyrus gonna say it's for the jewels of the question here's the question so the Jews either I think it was Yoshi there's a taste of someone that says but could be it's on the top but I just want to show you the art that usually did he worked very hard on this yet by the way yesterday's art was completely hand drawn no AI whatsoever the entire thing besides the background but the actual artist this robot and everything this is more AI but it took many many hours to take like literally hundreds of pictures and put them together so this you see the father on the on the [Music] see the father sleeping on the key I don't know if you can see it so maybe can you blow it up a stickle the king uh the key is right there on his head is in the background okay that was that's the piece of art so thank you Roy let's see the good morning they wanted the stones today huh yeah 60 000 coins everybody eighty thousand foreign now the big question is and I don't have a good answer for this why didn't you wake him up if it was my son and my son could make 600 000 coins you wake me up and if you don't wake me up you know what sorry I'm gonna have what do you mean sugar I put you in the basement there was number Messina but a father wants his son to make money of course understand okay whatever the shot is we go back there is right he had a paraduma and as we know even bism that guy in New York was willing to pay over a million dollars imagine those days it came once every what 70 I don't remember how much it was a very very rare thing to have a complete without a single white here on it no oil nothing came in yeah if I ask you for anything in the world that's amazingly you'll pay me hello all I want is nothing just 600 000 coins that's it not a big deal no so I have a child um can't answer because I told him why why can they do business on clients what's the big deal let him charge 1.2 million what what why does it have to be exact 600 000 800 000. he has he has it's it's whatever the market is doing the best okay so I'm sending it there oh that's all very good very good so I think that's the simple shot I think uh most people say that a little with a little bit of a of a of a suffer to what you're saying that once saw the tremendousness who has a part of Duma and and the fact that there's no there's no market for it there's nobody in the world that will pay more than a thousand dollars for a part of doing it besides the Jews the same Jews that came last year that came today to buy that same thing so once he realized that there's a husband in this world that everything he came to the hakara that everything is with a freshman that what you lost last year is not a loss because it comes from here when you gain last year is not a game because it comes out over here everything is equal so if everything is equal and everything has a husband so what's the point for me to ask for more money it doesn't even make sense well if I take more it's going to go out tomorrow I'm gonna lose another thing sending me a sign almost like what you're saying with a little bit of a twist s when a person is and he does this he has no he of this is beautiful and I can tell you from these last weeks when I started to do Dave and the death again the it's the how I used to do it in the past when I had this pressure that I have to do it then it's every time I did it it was pressure now that I know there would be they could do it and it takes over once a week for me and if I ever need it he'll do it it's a completely different animal so when a year no I have to do it I have to do it that's the scar and every every skier is is based on on how painful it is and how how hard it is when you have that psychological thing it's a horror otherwise yeah okay we gotta go it's almost five eight o'clock oh what that does make a difference but oh you tell me why it made it that was easier now okay well that's a different discussion for a different time don't ruin my shot though all right guys we know the reviews became blind later on his life famous restaurant that say that when Rob was Nifty he has to be blind so when I heard that Allah that a blind person doesn't have to do any mixes than last year but which he had ever celebrated never all we do is we celebrate Mitzvahs scissors I know that I'm Asuma I'm putting from myths is therefore I have to make a tremendous celebration I get much more let me forget okay so male I get a lot but now we just established a blind person gets less now it's not good enough you tell me that I love is for being blind and doing the Mitzvahs because I'm part of midnight mixers and some of his positive immenses gets less High according to than somebody's kind of businesses was wearing this garment that had children that had gold on it but he is sitting there Rome he's sitting there with all the important people and his mother came correct them in meno do we have to learn from these stories she ripped off his clothing in front of everybody embarrassing the tough Khalid she gave him a nice gazuntus zets on his head we are going to be funny then she spattered him on he didn't he didn't say a word so he says why over here it doesn't say what ah then I'm not gonna say it biter number remendi says that the reason why over here doesn't say that he got awarded it says before he got Awards he did all the stuff because you get awarded money when it hurts you in the pocket and in the story with the jewels it hurt in the pocket over here he's being a nice guy he's doing a tremendous there's a person who gives his father the the most expensive meat from this question of a bird without them in Ireland but it's worthless it makes him work hard labor um and it brings him Tyler the what says Rashi that is a person who gives his father all the Smith and his father says where did you get the money for this it says he tells his father be quiet continue chewing don't worry about it so he gave his father a very bad feeling well my son can't afford it so all is gishmaker and all that he gave him he gave him is worthless go to get him for this there's another guy that is about he's dealing with his father then they come from the the king they say you gotta come they tell the father you have to come with us to work she tells his father you know what I'll go instead of you I don't know how many years it's going to be you stay here and you do the reheim that's the guy that gets uh so I thought about a little muscle the coverage a guy goes to visit his uh father in the hospital his father's sick in the hospital comes back from the hospital says you know Ty is very upset at you you came to visit him but you didn't even look at him you went you're shooting with the guy next door another bed she wasn't even found out he's also scared they did the same thing this guy went to visit his father this guy wanted his father but this guy another guy we all go to show everybody we had we were all in the streets go to show we we spent the over hour a day and we go and sometimes we speak to the guy next to us and we're not honoring the Republic we're showing the reversion we're not really here for you we really prefer to be somewhere else so she wasn't my friend it happened to me that uh I'm here and he said okay you can manage lose the the whole the lesson to the Mitzvah it's all in the head it's all how you the the presentation presentation oh the sponsor is an honor of Rubicon Pressman and as of course we're here Phil Miles for his family rebellious keyboard my son he knows how to do it available he had five sons that were in other words when the father came to the door royalty himself would run to the door open up the door of his father of Ozil who possibly and he opened the door he wouldn't let his sons open you say yes I'm coming I'm coming hey wait wait wait in other words this key would have an A not only in the mice of opening the door but by Amira through schmoozing him through saying things you could also be mankind he says give me some something to drink at the isolated until they got him a cup of water you know in those days they didn't have sinks he fell asleep he bowed over whatever that means it was a covered his mom is there waiting for him until he woke up says and because of that he had a big source of Rashi says one of them it says it should be a lotion of why is it mismar why is it a celebration is Aquino should say kinolosif and you know what he thought he said himself and uh he's doing well and the restaurant burned down they didn't have insurance and when you got the call from the fire department he said thank you Hashem and this this right boy said this is you know why it's a tequila it's a beautiful thing because he burnt down your restaurant and he didn't burn down your body you know what the broccoli that is that Rashi says it could have destroyed us and we wouldn't have a single year left instead he took the the stones and he destroyed the stones so the person has that akara you said it for different reason give me Paradise from a different place listen even deeper who wanted to show you here's a punishment I'm not going to punish your body I'm going to punish your stones when I come back from Yeshiva automatically my father pours the wine and my mother mixes in the water to make it diluted what should I do um your mother wants to serve you great but don't don't take something from your father the kid in the Bartolo since he's something feels bad why am I serving my son well your mother does it out of love you got to come here this robotic if this works out I didn't I didn't rehearse this but maybe we could do something here retirement move this Farm here for a second move them away this is let's go that if this fails the biggest fail of mdy ever ton Avenue every time she wants to get on a bed he bailed down at all four Robert said we're going to show you exactly how it looks here come Dave I found the uh carbon Goku and the solid play and every time she got off come come come sit right here on this table I got a sock hello here loud on the stable here climb back it up let me show you what it might look like I have no idea what's gonna happen here this is gonna be bad it's not good though wow [Applause] I need you to go down a little bit whoa that was mine is beautiful [Music] the guy went on the back of the whole thing wow was it painful you're good your boy said Dave is coming through this role to America he's gonna be in Iran meet him huh we have plenty of time what do you want to say tomorrow oh I have to put my mic back yeah right um but he would get down they got to see Tyson say I know there's no time but xiaomi we had this choices I'll just say about that you xiaomi says that one time his mother's slippers fell off in the mud and he put his hands down on the floor and she stepped on his hand so she didn't didn't get her feet dirty then he says another Mighty would be Schmo mother would wash his feet with water and then drink the water how great he is and he said no ma I can't let you wash my feet said you must let her wash your feet and drink the water let's give it away tomorrow different different generation where are we I have no idea where we are what are we gonna do we got to do a little bit a little bit more oh also coming starting with Russia he came he said look look what I'm doing over here I'm such a I'm a big habit I did what Dave sharpman did he got down on all four on relay I dyingly got the hottie keyboard that's not even half of what you need to do what did she throw your money you didn't lose anything so you put your back into uh a sticker a little bit maybe but that's it you didn't let's see you if she destroys your money you don't say anything to her review when he heard his mother's footsteps um this is unbelievable Rebecca says it's a tremendous Source not to have parents why because it's almost impossible not to be tired of them to be over here when his mother is pregnant myself if his father died just a real quick thing who which are Moira was younger than his wife so it goes like this says was older than he called him yanuka who is older married sister who's older sister obviously sister because mother died at childbirth so she had a sister it has to be there were sluggish result is younger than his wife all right you know what what no no no no I thought about that I don't know why but it is um okay fine let's just stop over a boy's eye have a wonderful day