Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 96 by R’ Eli Stefansky

foreign behind this wall over here there's gonna be a minion here as well but that's much earlier seven no cheers I'm gonna ask the Islam as you leave today just bring your chair outside so they can take it to my soccer it'll be like 10 cheers we'll leave 10 shares here um because my circle only holds about 70 people I'm gonna have to ask the ilum I hate to do this when I ask the ilum maybe don't bring your children this time don't bring your guests and your neighbors for people that watch the share let's be fear I know it's a free breakfast that's why last last year some guy had 13 children he did us a favor he brought 10 out of the 13. [Music] and he himself doesn't even do the sheer if you see a guy like that coming up the stairs give him some eggs or whatever and tell him to come back a different day Rose I want to show you three pictures from three different sokas please send these in this doesn't do anything for my guy but whatsoever here you have this here's sucker number one here's Suka number two and here is Suka number three here's my son Ellie trying to arrange meetings in the after 11 and the woman going against from Nathan say anything here oh how do we go two days without you have a wonderful yunt of Alan gross and but all three that's the only picture available is the Army cover okay don't worry don't worry when you come to my Suki you'll see I also have something about myself in there too on the wall no not to be outdone the voice that we had the honor of having at facts here um I don't know it was yesterday two days ago and uh I wish I would have noticed his uh someone sent us in sponsoring Shear in his honor and here he is I remember this showing this he was going through treatment in the hospital if you notice a guy here two days ago maybe with her we're sitting right behind you with a with a Mac with a with a mask here he is this guy it's unbelievable but hilum sorry for coming and um before we get to some names you should quite for everybody again thank you I know the Americans are not watching maybe you they will watch afterwards but we're getting scratched for participating over 530 people participated in this and I'm going to read the names in a second but you know what I'll do it now we spoke about it Daniel Coker 50 shekel Dan Cohen 180 Dr Alan rabbinowitz I think I said his name but it doesn't matter 18 Mr Abram dolte is 10. if I said your name twice I see a bunch of names I said already shim and pepper Ted sweet medesky 18 Silverstone 18 shy palak 100. Donald cohen18 Abba Reynard was like I forgot what it was 100 a month I think huh 100 a month the title Pollock 18 is real Mandel 50. 180 Akiva konansberg 18. are you big 18. Israel David's son 18 Pearl Hannah 180 Israel caller 150 Sarah Jacobson 10 Ralph Jamal 101 Jonathan Fox 18 LeRon McCabe 18 Ronald Freeman 36 dubid strolling 36 Alan Kessler 15. Ellie turns 216. yaakov Siegel 18. I gotta I gotta say this number I found this fascinating I'm going out of line here y'all save just one one name Moshi kinsbursky 83 and 33 cents does anybody know why thousand dollars is it a thousand dollars I thought because okay maybe maybe I'm wrong I think we're learning to Sugi then and it came out that the guy gets 83 and a third that's what I thought okay I might be wrong you remember that you also remember it was 183 what it it's a thousand dollars it's very interesting okay but there was a Suki we just learned I forgot the Sugo we're learning it's 183.3 and or 83.3 okay fine I'll go back where am I holding I have no idea cougar 180 I could start from the beginning Connie gross 15. Gregory Lowe 36 Beauty Ryan 15 getting Riders from Chicago young king 72 Martin zaytet it's not zaret right 26 Elliott math scores 18 Arie kogel 18 Mark brookson 12. Jonathan Berg 36 he just wrote me another email he's the one he's a big marketing genius and he wrote me another email about Swag that could work he holds all the magnets okay Weinberger 10 Joel swimmer 10. shapiri 101 Yona B Weiss 207 afshin heck mati 18. Abraham Heritage 54 much of Finkelstein 50 Sam Samuels 36 Stephen Melnick 10 Sheldon Sheldon zundo 26 I believe this is Sheldon that we spoke about he wrote an email it has zero money minus twenty thousand dollars in the bank who's giving 26 dollars a month Sheldon for slim into the sun oh we have to we have to at least say this name slimy Klein the famous famous laming Clyde 26 000 I thought I just left him a message I don't know if I told you guys he gave me a set of Ventures 10 Ventures beautiful nicest I've ever seen it has a samach embroidered on the front so I was at somebody's house in South Africa I said let me get these people a gift I'll tell you to myself I told you the mice I told this year no so I go into the front and it has the name of the place embroidery something okay great so I go online 400 dollars he gave me a gift a fortunately he didn't say a word he just gave it to me so I'll get an Adventures I've received benches before you know the sudden acrylic and it comes 10 but this is out of this world I'm like I don't think I'm getting that kind of 400 gift and I like him and everything maybe I should okay fine foreign [Music] we're running out of sponsors cereal so I think everybody's giving all this money this 18 a month to the thing that's it they're done [Music] you do Shira cefowitz lelandish masks on his yard side and the second sponsor of the day said Wellman in honor of my mother's first yard side first day of circus at the age of 101 Meredith to see children grandchildren great-grandchildren and great great grandchildren who followed in the way of Torah and Mitzvahs and hashama should have an Ali oh today oh there is a sponsor by the way uh just as uh again not for the people that bring the children but you should know that there will be music videos we're going to sing it's gonna be very very smart there might be a little bit of a sheer 20 minutes or so the rest is all food the official mission is sponsored by Moshe Cohen lasauce for illuminators so brand new Parrot that the husband is going to support his wife after he dies so she gets supported from the assignment we know that a husband gets the Messiah gets her handiwork whatever she earns goes to the husband because he gives her messiness so since the seven take the position of their father they're not necessarily her children they're the Asylum of the father they have to support the father's wife but because they support her they get the mice who died on the flip side a husband who has to bury his wife they don't have to bury her the husband buries the wife because when if she dies he received he receives riksuba they don't have the bury her your shell your but her inheritors that they Argent hurts they are Hive in the Quran what does it say here what does it mean what's the difference in other words she's no matter what you have to feed her you have to support her like we learned is between what's the lotion of the tsuba well is no there's no choice in the matter over here you have to feed her and because you feed her you supporter you get them I see diet or adilma honey if they don't want a supporter they don't have to and therefore they won't get the mice to die it's not it's not a force stop because it's circus and this word triggered this I'll share with you even though it has nothing to do with the tsugi really but just this idea of being forced there's a very very interesting awaka that I saw at once I'll share with you obviously if I ask you the question you'll know the answer because I wouldn't be asking the question if it wasn't so obvious but I think if you thought about it you would not answer what the mug and Abram answers and that is a guy put aside a lot of money to buy a little of an esri in Europe I'm going to come by a little bit nicer so easily so he's saved and he saved he finally purchased this little Vanessa he was extremely excited and he let the news out which was a mistake and the city this Village next to him sends him a letter we would like your little of an essay because we don't have one and we have dozens of people and you're a single person so as soon as I saw that I was like okay Fife what do you mean you don't have I paid for it I spend money I'm looking up from pasigan that they he has to give them the little Vanessa he doesn't have a choice doesn't have a choice I don't remember if he they had to pay for it or not that would be really unfair if they didn't have to pay for it but the idea is very very powerful like this that we're not living for ourselves we're in it we're here to serve their bonus level what is the best way to serve the Buddhism in this case that the whole city should shake a little of an answering that's what the revolution wants from you I would not come up with this by myself this is the mug that I brought I thought it was a huge to me it was very till this day I'm a little shocked by this but it's it's a it's a powerful idea it's better that the city should shake a little of an answering that's what you want we're all a raven whatever whatever the okay you can't force anybody to learn yeah yeah yeah but starting with you you go outside and start recruiting people on the street that's what Hashem wants tashma the top of Sonic volume now so do they have to give them a designers in them because they're having a resigners or perhaps they don't have to if they choose not to support her they don't support her and therefore they won't get the hermions she finds something in the street she gets to keep it for herself if it says with a hey that if they choose the supporter shapir then okay it makes sense why because we're talking about in a case where they're not supporting her they're not supporting her so she gets to keep her media she gets to keep her messing today Ellie I'm design is now but if they're forced to supporter never cabal then they have to step in they should be stepping into the shoes of the father my bowel or the husband my Bible we know that if a woman finds something he goes to the husband why does he go to the husband you remember Ava we don't want a dozen to be mad at her I'm supporting you I do everything in there you find you find the diamond we're gonna just spend on yourself hey foreign [Music] people to think that we're trying to keep them out somebody comes late welcome you're gonna see it soon hill hill is going to show up any minute anyways what yeah yeah so you see from here that it's their choice they could pick and choose they could say we don't want to support you and if they say that and she finds something it's their loss she gets to keep it says gamara what's the right of the way no it says they're forced to support her time in Miami why is it that a husband gets the key the findings of the wives shouldn't have a fight but we don't care if they fight with the ocean with the assignment because they're forced to support her anyway it's not going to be Milo Myron if a husband gets mad at his wife we have a problem we want someone bite but if this is some get upset at her let them get upsetter foreign does for the husband she cooks bakes cleans all the stuff so she has to do it for the assignment as well for the ocean is these are three things that we learned back then as well that these are for Heba this is the increase love between the couple to the point where Anita doesn't do these three things for her husband so it doesn't doesn't make sense as you should be doing these things for your assignment for care she should stay away from it this brings closeness she doesn't want to be close so you don't want her to be close to the excitement she shouldn't be making their bed washing their face no way well maybe you should have been lady now listen this robotic side this is a case for me I hope I hope I remember this my entire life I thought in a certain way and when I read this one line I decided I have to change my mouth a little bit I'm not kidding around there I if somebody tries to to do me a favor says that Ellie I want to help you my first instinct is no sorry no no I don't like you most people like that I think try to help try to give a gift no I'd rather not but no but please I want for the shield I'll let you know when I need it from here I learned to know your side maybe it's not kadai to turn down help somebody offers help it's not so could I why says so before we get to this uh right I'm telling you uh avid has to do everything for his for in those days they had a review not it's not what we have today oh Rabbi muvok do everything you've seen the gamar at least left it close to the Mikvah obey them like uh get him dressed all the things everything besides taking off a shoe system so this is and what's the reason so the reason is if you do something that evid does which is taking on and off the shoes people are going to think you're an avid they think you're an avid will be a problem okay now but if everybody knows that you're the son of so-and-so they know your last name you know your uncle Cohen so nobody's gonna be hushing that you're never so it's okay welcome Maison very I thought it's a rev High going and going they're on a massive fight not a big fight now the Schwab Hoffman he was of the opinion that there's no such thing as Nissan he's a guy a guy not uh use of the opinion that certain ISM even in Navi he had shot them for it I don't know if that was the fight RAF High going was in a huge fight with him they hated each other sort of but rev High going wanted to learn Tyra by him and he uh he dressed up as a guy pretend he's a guy and he's this and he's walking around the house back and forth and once in a while when she was wrote asked the questions about me then raphaigon would slip in an answer he'd write it down and slip an answer that nobody knew as as the ever had dude like just leave it until one day who could write this and he came up he came with the conclusion that has to be replied going the whole thing and they discovered that it's like every good story Discovery that's him but once he discovered his him he loved him and he married he married his daughter look it up if I go married if you don't recognize the person it's only in a place where you're not wearing films villain less Lumber if a guy is going to wear to Phil and then we know he's a Jew how do we know he's a Jew he's villain what about Evan so place his ass we learned and this is after we learn that used to wear two and also but he doesn't but he says he doesn't wear children all day long in those days that people used to wear tone all day long like the zilbermans in the old city all day so you could tell the representative guy is wearing to him all day so you know as good if he only wears once in a while then he said so some Cipher explains because very interesting he says somebody wears filling all day long can do everything in his filling besides taking out garbage on his head but he can do everything including taking off somebody's shoes but if you only wear two once in a while then you can't do everything can't think of you can't do things that are designed so there's a it's time they discuss this are there things you shouldn't be doing with filling like eating let's say let's say you're waiting fill it is like uh what's it called the yard side thing take it so they say it's not such a big deal some of them used to maybe some are Muffler what about smoking with filling so some huh you're right you're 100 right but as an additional problem additional problem additional problem of designer till and some say that it is it's a design for this film fine what yeah [Music] remember something when was that in brokers it sounds like years ago oh yeah [Music] yeah exactly and you know what you do remind me that in that shuva when he said he says but if he's learning Torah and and he needs to smoke a cigarette well let's start with this film then yes okay but I know what you're talking about I know now it's not what you're saying but it was a long time ago no please don't tell me his last week it was a year ago 20 balls you vomis you almost is a lifetime ago okay fine no bro no no I wasn't bro you're right no the urine wasn't broken on here we go here's here's the thing if you have a talmud and atomic wants to serve you guys with you you're preventing check out this fossil so in eov empiric valve positive given says the second part was I don't have the help that I want and then it says so we're learning that he's taking he's preventing from his friend Hassan it's unbelievable if somebody wants to do so you hear this idea somebody who wants to do with you don't be such a nice guy don't say yeah I don't need now he wants to perform Crescent so but you say no you're preventing a person or doing a mitzvah this Friday a seminary girl knocked on our door but sometimes they knock on our door they say can we see Ellie because my father doesn't die for her bellies my wife says he doesn't live there whatever sends him away but this girl knocks on the door I'm not kidding she knocks on the door Rose from Baltimore my father sent me here to help you he wants us to share I'm here to help and for some reason my wife my wife okay great here take care of the Anoka because he's like running between you know in the kitchen I would have said no no it's great thank you so much but come again a different time took her up she knows the person my wife is a Bucky me oh that's what they say yeah what so that's that's not that's what we're talking about over here from uh no he's saying helping a a god of learning from uh from a reaction Freeman wants us Bianca Freeman from tiffra that uh I used to live in his house for like a year and I haven't seen him in 40 years if he you guys know what I'm talking about he opened up a lot of yeshivas in the Nega so he once asked he said there was a uh I think this is Posh I don't think it's even a child but there's a woman an elderly woman who used to who used to cook for her family she's getting older so the family was thinking that they have to stop her from from cooking it's too much for her so he said obviously I think the answer is obvious that if you have good meters you let her cook you let her cook you help her you this because that's what she's living for that's what she wants it okay what else did I see here um oh there's another there's another saying they say yes you think that you're giving the the poor persons Dhaka no he's enabling you to get his DACA you think you're giving that that guy is you're letting that guy do Hassan he well I guess you are you are enabling him to do a Mitzvah that's what it is okay fine but but the few things the Paleo does here uh just don't let it with you it's not a good idea to let somebody that's it and only if you know that the person really wants to do it he's not just trying to you know my father sent me and maybe that's not such a good one okay fine you're preventing the guy because in the same person it says look at the end of this person serum below she has she knows she has support coming where does support come from from Real Estate she goes ahead and she grabs movable items mashita if she grabs okay that's all you can do stuff she grabbed a full sack full of money a lot of money they couldn't get it out of her how long so once you're happy you have um that's because she grabbed her designers for the support I have like Superman that only applies what's the difference to real estate but not to metabolism is so for the same reason you shouldn't be able to grab from a zyness we argue we say if she grabs for xubo will he allow it is whatever she grabs whether it's for the super from zionus it's a good grab all right you don't hear from her she's not demanding mozillas she loses out on her messiness I don't need this chart anymore now as we're going to see it only means that she loses the messiness the back massage but not forwards Aston Martin what does it mean two or three years if if she loses out on two years certainly on three what she's in the house yeah she's she's eating from her own food she's not demanding uh she didn't take anybody to court if she's wealthy she could last for three years I don't know what that is what is that don't worry about it okay two years unbelievable it's crazy we don't relate to this lotion she's a pirate she's a prusa what's it puts I mean she has the audacity to go to bedding and demand messiness she's a loose woman a regular woman doesn't do that she's too embarrassed to go even though she doesn't have support this one is a prusa um we're talking about the back oh yakim from the coil told me myself with him that I hope I hope this is the right story because he told this to me a while ago he said when he was he's a tiger bunny he's a you know uh a lawyer for for dinner so there's a woman in the group she wants to become a time in the red body and I was just thinking like fruits are talking about according to this gamara this one was a president because if she demanding Missouri is going to court you approaches so you can imagine if you go to court to this I don't know I'm just throwing it out there I hope she doesn't listen to share so but basically the the in so basically what happened was they asked they asked the question they said when a father marries off her daughter is it there abundant or their Isa and she said it's the real bottom so they said get out of here I actually started crying whatever but it's not in the Homer it's not in the Hummers like I'm not supposed to know it even though it's uh it's in the Torah I don't need to know because it's not part of the stuff that we're studying for that whole thing okay fine camera um so basically the question is who on on the belongings here the husband dies he leaves over assets he has a whole what is it called a State thank you that's the word is it a state who controls the part that she's deserving is it her or is the excitement that these times just give her from this thing it makes a big enough Give It Up if they're taking out of her then they're the multi they have to bring your Rio so you say Nano we gave you already we supported you at least for this who for whatever you're talking about this year we paid you very much who has to bring a riot Sonic Boom in the base in honor of my uncle or the holy president and another sponsor as a suppose to continue being able to support Toyo and to finish shots with her belly about the yeah but they said they paid already well who's the ma who's the maximum you have to know what the market is if it all depends who who's in charge of the awesome if they're in charge then they don't have to bring it right she has to bring it right it's very hard to bring Uriah that you didn't get something but Rashi says what what do you mean every height it's a hive it belongs to her you owe me a hundred dollars it belongs to me yeah so but who has to bring the rice that's it's just a question of who's the mighty and who's not the mighty if I'm if you owe me a hundred dollars I have to be much if you I have to prove that you owe me a hundred dollars it's just how it works I just before I forget to say this myself Rebecca golinski brings it's awesome at the shop is he says he walks into the show my amazing he walks into the show and he sees a Maggie chair that if you have a guy giving this year Roy Olaf nothing um and he goes right okay you make up mices like that also it's okay they don't show up but when they do show up they learned because he dies he leaves it over for his wife he says okay here's the tsuba here's your thing is it hers in the back seat she just has to go get it or is the assignments and they're gonna divide it and they're gonna give it their tushma foreign so maybe says as long it depends this this is how it goes cause Manchester United a regular almana who didn't get married yet then she's the most of do you saw him you have to bring Ariah and the story here's the answer she's the most likely sound of the Ring right nieces for one she gets married now once she gets married she loses the paranosa and what is she what does she want she's married but she wants the back the background also the stuff that they owe her from before she got married well they'll all be right and then she has to bring a ride tonight it says because if she takes her husbands her late husband's assets she starts selling them off so she should explain in the memo you know there's a memo the check in the stack she should write in the memo I sold off that building for my kusuba I sold off that farm for my Messina's she should explain what it's for foreign so now if she didn't write what it is she could go after people that bought property from her late husband but if she explains what it is she'll have a problem depends what it is so says the gemara um [Music] she should explain not explain literally because she should explain kindly because he holds that the music over here are the assignment it's the the belonging the assets are in their possession so the soyman could claim that everything that she sold was for the Suba now she's stuck without anything and if she's because if she says now okay you're right I sold everything for the Suba but give me my messiness you owe me a whole Year's worth of Zionist ah she's the mighty she's the mightiest she has to bring the right so that's why review this says right in there what it is right that it's from zionus and they're not going to be able to claim that you sold the building for xuva if again if they claim that they sold the building room super you don't have you didn't write in the memo we know that she sold the building she went she sold the building she's allowed to sell stuff to support herself she sold the bullet they're going to claim that it was for the Suba you don't know it's not really Suba and then when she comes to claim designers they'll say we already gave you missiles and it's up to her to prove it but she can't prove it therefore right in the memo that what she sold the building for was for Messina's now for xuba they can't claim it she shouldn't she doesn't have to explain they're in her possession she's the mighty belly is better not to write anything why because if there's no other costume let's say she'll say that everything that she saw what is she gonna do she didn't write anything if she didn't write then she could say you know what everything I sold the books I sold were from designers oh it's from zotus now I'm coming to claimiksuba we're going to use that this idea a little bit later as well says the gamara but what's the big Rio how do you know that this is here you're telling me if the the assignment or the maxic or the harmonica who's the mighty over here who and whose possession I could say no I could beat and say I'll say a different shot there's no Force here to tell you to tell me that is maybe everybody's on the same page everybody holds down Mana is in charge value seven Lobby right no if the mother's in charge why should be who to say write it in the Cuba right in the memo the whole point was that one is not in charge and therefore he says to write it in the super so she could go collect later on they're right in the start it's a type of commercial on he's not saying you have to he's giving you good advice another reason you know I know a guy myself shot a guy here the the reading him and they said the uh great girl and everything but she's high maintenance he walked away serious walked away from the gym okay he's very smart but he's in his 40s never married no I'm just kidding fine yeah talk to yourself Abby we got to bring you know what we got to bring your wife in here one day and see what's going on I met her she was huge she's got not not as bad as you make it out bad but not as bad no just kidding I will be covering in the corner like no no I was in your house once by the seam you made a bunch of Steel but one time you made a scene where uh what's his name agorig did the thing hey Tom it was all it was back in kova Taco where he did it Outdoors over there the whole street is crazy yeah fine tomorrow so so again raftanuso she look at her she she presses all she does she she spends a lot of money on his own she's very high maintenance it says Rashi she's not gonna go welfare and she's good foreign she writes she writes in the memo you see like what like review that you're supposed to write in the memo says Rashi very very push it but it's good to say it over again knew Allah every time every admirer knows there's no such thing as an admirer not knowing a Muslim but it's possible for a mother not to know a Bryce Rashi points that out so if if I'm bringing you a permission oh that that you can't say Rebecca didn't know about the Bryson knew but not the mission [Music] so I'm going back to explain what I was saying before why didn't prove from the mission of what he didn't know mission of course he knew a mission he knew every mishna remember and he could have proven it from the mission no he couldn't why because it's a typical Ashland the mission is saying that she wrote it in the memo that's a good idea it's very good to be to be on top of yourself and to write memos this is for the super a little bit for the super I took a little bit from the Zionist don't say that I took I sold off all these buildings from Zionist what I eat so much I go out so much to restaurants terrible nobody's gonna marry her so it says don't prove for me the review the holds is it Ruby I see because you can also say that everybody agrees and then hassim are in the in the resource of the you saw him and she has to bring Araya before we said in other words there's no Force you want to tell me the mcclike is here I'm going to say either everybody old the model is in charge or everybody holds that the summer in charge how do I say these are on charge so what would we look like this by the time uh interesting we just had him the other day here we have him again the Elder abide Norman bike shisha most of them whoa It's the muscle of reviews let's shim around I'll give you a muscle scream around guy on his deathbed a guy in his deathbed I locked up a guy doesn't have to write anything whatever he says goes foreign money he's saying in addition to what I borrowed he's a great guy he always used to lend me money used to take me out of my problems I want you to give him 200. now I could do two things with the 200. I could either pay off the loan or I could give him a gift but if I give him a gift I have to pay off the loan if I pay off the loan I have to give him a gift it's it's it's two things he said I'm giving in addition to the loan I'm giving 200. now the the loan you could you could go the guy that he gave the guy that lented the money could go and and take me even karkais that he sold before [Music] so listen to this very passionate says again the guy the the receiver the lender he could decide on the spot what he wants to do with the 200 he could say either I'm paying off the loan and I'll come after him later on and take a gift what would you guys do what would you do if you had the option okay why gifts first coming up oh very good the run is right first you take the gift get the free stuff first get that out of the way later on I'll come after the guy for the for the loan I haven't come after I have cars I can come after don't be Meshuggah if you're gonna go after the loan pay off the loan first it sounds great deployed and then you're going to want to come collect your gift everybody there's nowhere to collect it from we're going to collect it from oh foreign I need you here for a second not kidding this is Frozen my boys I give a round of applause of Remy car and he's taking over from Gary he's a genius in computers we're trying to hire him for mdy we'll see if we can get him should we say that he's also that seller is that solo what we do need more sponsors every day we're hiring more people uh I just need that that chart where are we in the thingy here what about your year was he where is he riding his bike though company it doesn't come oh I got it okay [Applause] okay so it goes like this there's three three things I just put in writing why not there's no other chart so just like we said by this guy where we're finished with the night just finished this little piece here this guy that has the option of getting my tunnel getting a gift what should he do just take his gift the amount of also when she doesn't do anything she doesn't write in the star then her she becomes about Square she has power why because if she writes that she sold that she sold the property for xuba she won't be able to get messiah's like we said before so what do you do I just wanted to point this out there's another step here that actually sticks in she has to have Aiden that that Witness that some of the stuff that she sold was for messiness in order that if the swimming come and claim the opposite she has at least a riot she has items it's interesting that she brings that but actually talks about the whole thing look around she will be here she talks about bringing so again Amana her kayak is to be quiet not to write down then she'll have the coyote then she can do whatever she wants like the guy who takes the uh the the gift and then he can do whatever he wants have a wonderful evening