Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 90 by R’ Eli Stefansky

keeper Yom Kipper while shopping forever meaning in the Beautiful Day store the Babbage Center West Orange New Jersey I noticed this beautiful sign shout out to the South you placed it there and shout out to Robbie Clark of the Obama Center for welcoming the sign 100 listen if you're going to put up a sign and push fire up I'm gonna push you only 15 000 people will see this and they should go to I don't know the Bible Center if you live in Essex County go check it out Staten Island 81 Square penny and then there's another sign in another as your place our dear however no I'm fixed I have no idea where his place is it's not in Queens somewhere right don't fix this truck I've destroying myself and know him the window not in the window it's a home that's kind parents Levine and Avi Sherman the one that's closest to us I want to show an example of something you've discussed before which the child will mirror behavior from their environment my child and many children have proclaimed good morning my boys say ah my son now insists that he no longer he's he is no longer Superman Batman he's now a cape wearing Gamora superhero please see picture of his cape best regards David Sutton hatsala F20 is his name is avrum and this brought tears to my eyes baser Hashem no tears now but this is a response from the tag Kash nude I was peaceful just after watching you read my email all I could do is take Hashem for letting me have a review who cares so much about me it was amazing to see so many I'm reading this badafka today that we have to increase traced and I'm so moved by the amount of fester that goes on in our kaburo to see so many people from all over the world calling me texting me sharing their personal stories and giving me a kiss look I really appreciate you and the entire mdy family as you can see an attached photo this Savage he's a true God willingness to this person the static picked me up took me out to eat and gave me so much needed Rebellion you should know hi okay here I go again you should know your son is in very good hands lazarian showed me there's a lot and I have to learn when it comes to Pinnock and I need to take a step back and chill focusing on the relationship instead of the you describe similar to it's not about the dive it's about the oymy my new mantra is it's not about the Yiddish guide it's about the relationship as a parent it's hard to do it do this when it's your own child but I guess Hashem made me go through this past year it's hardship in order to learn this valuable lesson you talk about a person who's very very successful he's very wealthy very he's on top of the world he's a very famous DJ he gave it all up for you this type and then he comes to stroll and he's he loses his house loses everything and his mom is like he said he's homeless it's unbelievable for you this guy though I shouldn't she give you nagas from all your children and strength to continue spreading tire and guiding us all Nathan Kash nude here's a picture of lazaren on the right and Natan on the left and a lot of knockers from the kids Robert strasinski 36 shekel ronaby Sterling 36. oh so what I want to say is as I walked in here at 7 14 7 14 is when the no I asked for 100 people to be midstariff to this 100 was messed up at 7 14 a.m share starts at 7 15. maybe somebody's pushing on the groups I have no idea anybody see anything no Ronald B Sterling 36 Adam B Kaufman 36 I'll call him Preston 36 you see girls from 36. just like I had a problem I said that Alex Mermelstein is my nephew which she is but there's another Alex merlinson who gave money I said that Avi mandelbaum gave ten dollars it was a different Avi mandelbam but the avam also gave ten dollars interesting a lot of people Sean Steinberg 36 Canadian Friedman 10 Jack Worman 10 Jay Berman 36 EC grocery 36. where am I holding ISRO solitski 10 hila kamianski 36 Alan Blyth 10 we're going to get to all the names Ezra Abrams from Australia 10 Brian Kessler 52 36 Jonathan nitsko is 36 Marvin Diamond 10 Mark High pilot 36 Isaac suede 36 James E wolf 10 Mordechai binder 101. did we say his name yesterday that's somebody else Alan gross 36 Isaac vanmergy 52 another Ben Murray Beast Glenn 10 Eton Weinberg ten Yeshua Greenfield where boys have tremendous life to every single person it's an unbelievable thing I forgot the number we're at three 67 that was the number though that we needed to get to get to uh 100 people in one day 24 hours 367 people were starting just in the last few days Yeshua Greenfield 36 slimy nuisance white ten yeah it's 36. he's like her school is the famous Ellie oretsky ten Maurice Mendel 10 Harris 36 Days of Alabama 10. David 52 Mr Jeremy Cohen 10. zebi Grossman 36 Eduardo jacobo triesman 10. Amisha bresler 10 min 101 tell me what to stop no I'm just kidding Mark Meisler 52 Mikhail Amino 52 David Denver 36 kaim shoot 36 and sign off guys we'll stop by the sound guys the signal against 101 your shirt everybody said we're holding my brand up with sponsors for today the coylo sponsored Anonymous donation yeah you got anonymous before we start what's your name tadiq multi wire from monsie I see a little guy there hey someone like what's your name Donnie creamer Anonymous donation for the coilover for the day leadership Elizabeth official missile motivators sponsor of the month is Lakewood New Jersey because we just had his name over there and a year of health and happiness coffee man we'll wish you all the best now thank you for all your support have an easy fast everyone brought it to everyone all right so first of all I have to ask mahila from the island it's Urban keeper I sure and talk to a bunch of people between Sean and Kipper so please forgive me huh yeah Lauren I'll go through every name now okay you don't want me to do that just be you have to be Muslim Javi don't make any tonight I just want to say the quickest word ever for the covered Yom Kippur the SAT me Rob because I'm litfish I want to say something hasidish sadlerov says that in our days we don't have to do sigufem and tunnation it's not we're not we're not in the level it's the biggest seagull of entitus and it's unbelievable what he says is to break a bad habit to break one bad mini grad that we have one bad habit is the biggest seagull of Tinus it takes it takes a cake so that's something that we have to think about onion Kipper the helium is oh no where do we get to where oh almost eager yeah you have it it's like two four six eight ten twelve lines from the bottom if we say that again with a get you collect the main part of the Suba the 200 Lakers so now she has to get in her hand she'll keep on going and collecting 200 in this city 200 in the next city I have a great idea take a punch hole and then punch a hole in it I want to get married with it I need to use this get foreign we do here I brought this here's a license here she put my finger here there's a license from Chicago so what they do is they punch a hole in it what does it do I can't drive with this but I could use it sometimes and show the Department of Motor Vehicles look I had a license I I you could this stuff you could do with this you can't drive with it it's it's it's expired as a punch hole but there's other things you can do with it it's not it's not garbage 100 you can use it sometimes you can prove they used to have a license whatever it is me myself I'm gonna take this I don't I don't even have an Israeli license yet every time I get pulled over I speak in a perfect Hebrew and I give them my passport and they say I just came in they never they can't give a ticket but if you want to bring I'm trying to bring a car in now and I said well you can bring a car and also my insurance in my car doesn't really exist because I don't have a license it's a proud so what they're saying is show that they but you have to have five years of experience now my I have a new license so this will be proof that I used to have here look five years I'll fill up the hole then you just ruined the whole share so what I'm gonna say this is worthless it works it works anyway I'm saying I only drive from here to the color back for another color that's I don't like go okay who said that okay but if you say that it's red I'm Robin delay because feeling I got bad you're right on the back of it we ripped this yes it has a punch hole in it it's it's not a valid get you can't you can't take money with it but at least you can prove that you were divorced there's two things going on here the reason why we tore it up we tore it a little bit to show that you can't collect money from it but you can use it as a get the official mission the hay again mission called this course for limitatorial and Casino if a woman shows up with two kitten and took service here's the picture she has aksuba then she got divorced and to the same man she gets married again super same clothes in everything each cat is going to show another date one is in the 2020 what is in 2022 two different dates so she could collect tuksubas her husband gave it to exubus for two different marriages steak two boys but what if you have aksuba after Suba and one get uh or Juan tsuba was used for two marriages you can do that you get divorced the person gets divorced and they slip it out it doesn't pay up the tsuba and then they decide to get married again so the basing the marriage in the first Suba or you see what's going on here there's a tsuba in step one then they get divorced and step two step three to get remarried step four he dies so by him dying he owes her aksuba by him divorcing her in step two those are another tsuba Iva Alex in these cases there's only one zero when a person divorces his wife and he takes her back he's using the original tsuba and that's it says she has two subs the first one says the 200. the two different dates one has more money than the other she could pick and choose it doesn't say which one she has to use it if somebody produces two documents one after another Beatles obviously if there's a second document the second document takes precedence why because it cancels out the first document it's it's a renewal of the first time I'm explaining what the first document is I'm adding whatever foreign what's going on over there uh oh let me do that again that was cool the whole point is that's hidden so I hide it behind the the mdy thing now check out what happens if something to the super oh yeah you always be Diplo with a cephas he made it he's at he's showing that he he wrote it because of that Deco Konami would be the isef law he added to it turn around foreign [Music] let's use this guy okay I'll get hooksuba she has again the husband dies and now she's claiming that he owes her two subas so depends [Music] if there's a second marriage here in other words there's a get and then another marriage and then another tsuba garbage steak supers then she has the right to collect two subas why because there's another another occurrence another what is um something happened there there's another marriage it's not that in one marriage he had two subas and the second Super cancels out the first there's a get and there's another marriage so she gets another tsuba so she got another tsuba she could collect two supers super crazy however if it's like in the case that we had subuksuba get Alexander then she only is entitled to Wong subish I mean because if you divorce your wife you take her back I'm gonna ask Subaru should have zero so it depends a person could come with two supers and she can collect two subas the same person comes with two excuses and doesn't get like two zumas because it depends it is a second marriage in there and the second two becomes after the second marriage so I know that the second Suba was in addition to the first Suba but if she's not she comes with her two subas together in one marriage so the second subo was to cancel the first kusuma says the Haley image no sponsors this year this is the year that's it well we kind of missed it no Mr Sana Roshana how can she see how you could still do Mrs and still flip that scale Cottage is CI oven you have a cotton whose father married him off mom is not a not a legal situation and the father wrote a subo the this marriage is not even the rapuna marriage a father has the right to marry off his daughter but he doesn't have a right to marry of his son and then the sun becomes a god though the original Super that was written when he was nine years old keeps on going today shamanas Kane Kima the marriage continues that's why he kept her when he was 13. like that woman that was complaining to her husband says you never say I love me so I just said listen I said I love you in the Euclid room if anything changes let me know until that point I don't have to say it every day okay so I'm asking chemo you you're keeping this wife based on what happened five years ago and five years ago I wrote you a super yes I was a cotton it was not a great that but you could say oh yeah P Melissa because it's Irving Kipper got to be serious uh the posix says right that's the club who gave what's this anybody Rashi says it over there and your pregnancy what comes first first you get pregnant then you have a kid and tell you the bottom but the player says it's wine at first and then based on this Mission you can explain it for she married a nine-year-old so she's gonna she's a targeter bottom and then she got pregnant when she's older okay fine same thing with the gear he was married to him he's a goddal everything's good he wrote her is they became garium together they had to transition together that they had when they were continues into the marriage even though he didn't rewrite the Suba it's the same suit foreign you know what continues into the next marriage when a person becomes a goggle when a person becomes Jewish only the basic the standard hello the added stuff the extra million dollars A600 that doesn't go along with them why the tsuba is considered a piece of Shard it's nothing it's stamina a piece of garbage there's no value at all just what we have a nice business best then come along and say listen I don't care if you wrote a super or not we had this yesterday automatically a person gets a tsuba whether he writes it or doesn't write it the tsuma is there so maybella what is best than right that's the rest of the standard 100 and the two hundred josefs Texas sticks in I'm just saying it quickly it sticks in that then would be over here that even though this person is especially if she's a guy that became a Jew or a cotton who's married for a few years and then became a goggle she's a buula best soup of 200 not a nuke soup of a hundred it's nice Ville but I have a question it says huh very very sad thank you very much she does have the extra stuff the extra million goes along with her as she grows up as he grows up as they become Jews all the X-ray goes with them says hit you if they added something to the Suba they added some extra stuff no Italian then she gets the extra as well ravihuda says that she has the extra she gets extra but it says only if they added it after they became Jewish only if they added after it became 13. not if it was there originally a little bit it doesn't mean even what they added up but certainly what they had before says but there's a bracelet that says not like review it says if they were if they added then she gets you that's out if they didn't add anything extra now today she only gets up to 200 she only gets the standard it says before she in another Bryce so used to the review though in fact it's a good casual ties says simply was mistaken by the Lord when it says that she has there he thought it's literally whatever exuber is it's kayam it's good you could use it with the Muslim men the Mr meant was the standard part of the Suba not the whole entire exude foreign person who's married to two women and he died I wonder why foreign so his obligation to the first wife comes first he was married to her first so he owes her the money first so if it's only a certain amount of money left over it goes to the first woman for exuber not to the second one and we're gonna see that sometimes it's the opposite sometimes it goes to the second one after the first one the yard series The yardstream of the first one are before anything that has to do with the second wife even the wife herself her yardshim one set of yarshim the mothers died so the the the the yard shouldn't take over they come the first set comes before the second set now the mishnah is going to be discussing a concept that we learned and maybe we forgot a little bit about it but at least well it's somewhere there in our brains the idea of subas button different remember that okay it's in the bottom two lines over here Osman promises his wife that any boys that you have from me are going to inherit York Suba meaning not the other boys from my other marriage your boys are going to inherit York subba meaning as we explained then when we learned it that if anybody wants to look into the base we want her father to produce to give her even now I'm recalling like the father will stalk his own daughter not give her because he's scared okay fine but we want him to give his daughter and be large with her and not worry that other children from another marriage are going to take what he gives her gives her a nice car and then comes a boy born to that father but not to his own daughter and takes half the cars not fear so anything that he he's going to be guaranteed father whatever you give her you put into the marriage you put a nursing home into the marriage it's going to go to your descendants direct the line from her to her sons and then everything else that that her husband has will be divided equally between all his boys that he has from different marriages but whatever came in from her marriage goes that's bun and different we're going to be discussing but I'm Different very extensively today the bottom different is a yerusha you see years soon you see that word all the way in the bottom line the the right word yearsum maybe you also if you could highlight it it'll be beautiful something to do today everything keep her years so my mom's like the shortest day of the year years old it's a yerusha versus what comes first alone the father owes money to somebody and the father owes this yerusha for instance what comes first alone comes first you have to pay off the debt first so in May law we're going to see there's enough Kamina here says the mishnah not say sorry he marries the first one here so let's see if it's the strength not this one oh here we go Step One is he marries a woman Five Town step two she dies so when she dies this is the the the the conversation here does she deserve this bottom different perhaps the classic example of Bonham different is that the two wives die then the husband and then we make sure that her descendants get her proper but over here what happened was it's a little different she dies before her husband and he marries another woman and then he dies one two three four he married one woman she died he married a second woman and he dies when he dies he owes the second wife he owes her aksuba that's called the Hive that's a loan sort of it's she's about he's about Hector but the second in step two when she dies the husband in the green jacket he owes her a yerusha become it's a eurusha not it's her belongings I have to go back to her so what happens is and then he marries another wife who may Sue and he dies in step four the second one China the your xiaomi lady is before the five town or why because the usami lady has a foreign we're not talking about a bottom different for the usami lady we're talking about a straight out so about 200 he also 200 zoos dungeons is alone uh whatever it is what's the difference he owes it to the xiaomi lady or he owns 200 just to the grocery store it's alone it's only meter Alabama to appease the father it's really the husband gets it and he and then she goes to his kid it's a direct Bono this is uh I heard a story here a guy something called the reverse reverse mortgage reverse mortgage they call it in Hebrew basically it's for elderlies they have a nice house apartment they they take money equity on their house on their apartment they don't pay any mortgage they don't pay anything until they die when they die then they have to pay the whole thing up so what the gain is they gain a lot of money right today but it adds up the interest starts accumulating and and every month instead of paying the mortgage they throw that into the pile and that you you pay mortgage on that mortgage on that piece that you owe and it could it just becomes sometimes they lose the entire house the whole value of the house goes to the bank but the old guy he needs money he's over 60 years old and he's like so a guy went and did a reverse mortgage on his apartment on his house so he could buy one of his children a adira so the other child came to this attack it's not fair because everything that you own your entire apartment is going to go to the bank we're gonna get zero so that this guy can get a he says you know what I'll make it easy for you I'm taking you out of the will right now completely strong the point is that when he dies they have to pay the bank 100 the bank comes first you have to understand that comes first your rules should come second firstly so first lean exactly first lean so first lean goes to the second one so the second one comes to be first and first okay says tomorrow wow we have a nice Sugi going on here Tony how are you showing it because I'm positioning of like Tony hurry shining yes it says she's before the second is before the first darshan make a deal and the Gambar is going to flip it also you could go both ways she's just before kind of but let's say the first ladies her they come in and they grab stuff great okay whatever you grab you grabs mom you know what no what oh yeah midnight oh yeah because we're talking about duration he's right because the first one is before the second one was yesterday long it doesn't say that the second one has zero it just says that the first one is before the cloud the economics near the same idea but we're talking about the original safe if the first one the the call machine the second one comes and grabs it's a good Visa you see from here you have two yo two people money first lean and second Lean Like you said one lean occurred ten years ago the second line is today so of course you have to pay the first lien first but the second the Second Bank came and grabbed stuff you see from over here that's okay it works it doesn't work well my condemnis and what is it the lotion before that this the first one comes before no it doesn't literally means completely 100 and I'll prove it to you this Nan it says the famous thing when it comes to inheritance a sun comes before a daughter what if the daughter grabs stuff you take it away from her zero daughter is nothing when there's a son so they're also the second lean is nothing when there's a first thing ignore me and some learning from the fact that it doesn't say that you take it out of her because for the fact that it says we don't take it out of her you see because you didn't take it out why doesn't it should say you don't take it out of it no because you do take it away from here we'll say the opposite of what we said a second ago from this Mission you could prove that if this the second lean comes and grabs we take it away from him says not true there's no proof of maramisna we're working on the shyness on wording the reason why the wording is a little off is because we want it to match either Tony of yourself in the safer it says the second one in the yaroshima are before the first one now in the safe on this case that you see on the screen then we have a yerusha and we said there's no grabbing here yarshim can't grab they can't go before the bank shows up and grab before the bank no bank is first and there's nothing but a bank so here obviously there's no Visa but we use that lotion so you're gonna mimic that lotion also in the ratio even though it's not the best lotion in the world okay so now sponsored in honor of my Uncle Robert Pressman as Joseph A year filled with Mazel broken being able to support Torah to finish shots with the Rebellion so again bottom different the the assets that the wife brings in to her marriage they go to her male Sons well sons are usually male they go to their sons but usually the way it is is a person has two wives one wife brought in 10 million dollars worth of assets the other one brought in zero and they both died before the husband so then we have Bonham we said don't worry about it we'll take care of the wife that brought in 10 million dollars would give her sons all the assets then whatever the husband has left over we'll we'll divide equally between all the sons from the first marriage to second marriage but over here what happened he's in the picture the first one died and the second one didn't die the husband died before the second one is there a bottom different in this case we explained the mission that it's a case of Bonham is there a bottom different this Mission you could explain the mission differently that it's not talking about the Super Button different we're just talking about regular eurusha in the mishnah perhaps and we're going to see this does the does the idea of Burden it exists when the only one woman died and the second woman didn't the second woman outlived their husband and what happens in this case the guy dies and step four he dies now there's a Suba for this for the for the second wife Annie yerusha for the first wife is the first one I should get her yerusha when the second wife is still alive maybe it's when they're both dead then the first then that each one gets a eurusha each one gets a bottom different huh because she's only the rabbana but the difference only they're abundant and the second wife has huh yeah yeah there's all there's only there's only of course there's only there's only enough money for for for whatever we're dealing with Olivia so mommy know class we can learn about Mr three things to start off with um this case that we see on the screen that one died when he was alive one died after uh one died later yes that the woman the in step two her sons get like what's going on because hold on one second make a difference no no should make a difference when he married the second wife the point is when the first one died compared to when the second one died anyway so real quickly we have a series still here in four minutes okay now what's the concern the first wife's kids are getting a yarusha the second wife's kids are getting paid off with tsuba that's a hive perhaps and that's it that's all the money that's left perhaps the the kids of the second wife are going to be upset we didn't get to inherit our father at all the only people that inherit Our Father are the kids of the second wife of the first wife in step two that's not fair they got it yerusho unfair that's what always happens right that's the biggest fights in families he got a Irish I didn't get erosion no we're not hoisters for that you see over here they get the urusha the second wife's kids get paid off why how do I know this is China from the fact that it says that the second wife and her narratives are before the arsham of the first one make the Moody Cosmic they're only before whatever they get the tsuba before but if there's enough then the first one the first wife gets the bottom different and we're not concerned that they get erosion they don't get erosion ushnamina 's okay we had this Allah don't get nervous we had this Allah already when it comes to supa's bottom difference since the bottom different that whole idea concept is the robotic concept so they made xera remember this we learned this the only way you could get excuses but I'm different if there's a little yerusha left over called let's call it a dinner a certain amount of money that you can invoke with that money split it up take the dinner give a little bit a little bit then I could do with the rapunan yerusha but uh the rabbana yerusha can't take over everything and and get rid of the entire Russia completely where's the extra in our case the only there's no money left over he got his bottom different and it's not worth the dinner doesn't say anything about a dinner oh you know where the dinner is I paid the second wife for xubo there's money left over I gave it to her so you see from here paying off one of the kids is considered that there's a dinner left over we'll see that there's a Manama that says that doesn't that doesn't count because one kid is getting something but not giving you need to have a dinner that you can give and spread out to everybody equally over here one kid is getting aksuba and you want to count that as a Arusha wrong she was born in different way how do we view this is it's alone then I could go after people that bought property beforehand if it's the Arusha whatever he has now that's it over here you see that it's all my Israel why this is okay you give everything to the second look at the over here this is okay you pay off the second wife after the guy dies so let the first wife come and grab everything from the second wife there's a Sheba and who was first in this marriage who is first of the height the first one was first so let her come and take it oh you see no you can't go after people that collect already whatever's left in the pot that's it challenges this and throws it away in this case we see this step one one in step two she died first and then in step three she didn't even die in that case Ayla she was born in different at all there's no there's no concept of one in different that whole idea lets appease the father-in-law and that doesn't exist in this case only when the two wives die um so but but we've read it in the mission no it didn't say in the mission of this idea no I was talking about something else just regularly Russia the what the father left over yerusha the second wife gets her kids get not the first so then why is it called the inheritors of the wife they're not inheritors of the wives they're not not inheriting her assets they're inheriting their father so why is it called your Sherry China that no connection to the first mother no we're just trying to describe them to identify them who who gets what the sons of the first wife the sons we're not talking about the yerusha of the first wife we just identify them says lamara [Music] we're just identifying them is counted as extra money left over that dinner no right from here dinner the mission is talking about a case that there's a dinner on the side why is it not mentioned Rashi talks about it because that's the next mission later on okay we're gonna learn tomorrow 9 30 after I eat you schmuck and I have to make all my charts come back here maybe 10 o'clock 10 30. don't worry about it we'll start don't worry also if you can play your bullet Okay so CA buildings afterwards because slovana mainly says the whole thing the bottom line is that we're talking about a case of a dinner who said the mission doesn't have room to say all that law cause that's not the point of the mission there's extra dinner that's the born in the mishnah There is extra dinner we're not using the tsuba as extra wow we're gonna have a lot of work once the young Giver okay says this idea whether there's a concert abundant do you give money to the first woman who dies her sons give her back her asses do we do it or not available foreign we want everything else all the leftover we want for ourselves in other words they're the only ones that are getting a what an inheritance is what he's saying they lost it there is no bottom difference there's no abundant different step two there's no step two equally no problem but they don't get a suicide my lives so the woman says in a case where the wife the first wife dies and not the second wife or myself should we go two lines more agrees that if the wife dies first one wife dies another wife doesn't die there is over here what's going on it's a case where there's no extra money involved no extra money but we said you can't do abundant different if there's no extra money because then it comes after what that other gets rid of a director idea of eurusha the tire says come and not do that the answer is there is a little bit of eurusha and that's like this is a considered a yerush or not what I'm paying in step three I'm paying that that woman's kids herxuba I'm taking assets from the dead man all his remaining assets and paying exuber her kids got something the kids of the first lady gave something is that considered that there was a dinner left over that everybody divided equally you hear some people got some kids got some don't like us that that's exactly what like is here but I mean although I know just one more line is now when everybody comes together all five children from five different marriages come together and pay off a loan to the bank that's considered a dinner why because they all did it collectively but over here three out of the five kids are giving two kids that's not Collective that's why it is uh um have a wonderful day I hope you're all my homie seal muscle motor [Music]