Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 83 by R’ Eli Stefansky

all right today tonight we're gonna do that pay gimmo and as soon as the share is over we'll take a few minute break and then do that pay base whoever's interested in sticking around I do want to thank the ilum I think it was a tremendous tremendous Hashem over 70 people showed up for live share on Rosh Hashanah after a long day of diving and a lot of food heaviness being tired people can't sleep coming here and learning Target I think is going to be a tremendous tremendous Catholic Smite for the rest of the year thanks for the physics people waited outside for a while because the certain people that are responsible but they weren't here they didn't really care so the door was locked okay whatever We're Not Gonna Be My People straight out in the new year I mentioned yesterday I want to say today I I could say it in the next year but I just want to say this little piece which was very very powerful for me it's a very simple idea if you weren't here on yantev I'm just going to repeat it real quickly I saw this the Victor Miller's idea and he says that a person could take literally three four minutes of I don't like to call it as budgetus because that has different people go different directions with it sit down and think to yourself in private without anybody around without any disturbance think about all the good that because bestowed upon you this year start with your children with the grandchildren with health with health and all the good stuff so much good so much good yes we all have a little sorry here it's already there but think about all the good it's so powerful when it all comes together a whole year of learning Torah and then family and all the stuff it's unbelievable all right it is and a lot of people are in a rush so we're gonna get on here just I wanted to reach out it says it rips the fansky I thought it's unbelievable we're we're people learning tired we have a haburra we have a family you can't even imagine look at this he wants to reach out to the rest of the mdy crew and family to express my gratitude living in a rural community in North Carolina as I do it's hard to find anyone to learn with I've started the deaf a few times with the usual outcome getting behind and eventually giving up thanks everybody's approach to teaching and support that comes from the mdy family I'm learning daily since the beginning of subas now my whole family learning together even incorporating gimora and homeschool for our children there are no words to explain how it feels to know that you're studying with thousands of hidden together once again thank you and all you always enjoy many blessings and sweet New Year Jonathan Benton wish I could meet this guy North Carolina yeah see I'm in North Carolina all right you have some volume for this [Music] it even says Ah on the kid's shirt this guy is a big uh physic for me katril Contour Roberts he he made a CM for us it was his first my second he's in his 30s his first mastecta ever and now here he is like a year later Israeli thank you very much I'm just translating on a year of Torah almost 400 Days of Torah that I was I had to learn in years from all your children and grandchildren is wondering where he is here he is it's good for once in a while once in a while you stop in with an email it's good to know that you're still alive everybody the coilo is sponsored for the success of our family that we Merit to always Crown Hashem the message sponsor your boy sites unbelievable Jeff Rosner of my sons we don't know okay rest of the receptor official Mr motivators heard from him also he wrote to me he said that he never cried so much by the sound of tiger and his beard is starting to fall out and his hair is starting to fall out again he had no clue last year his 40s last year Roshana okay another Roshana had he known had he known a little bit of different than Santa taking last year the Wy family by the lacking loving families Lincoln New Jersey because Toyota is the best segulo fourth parents should watch over me and ensure that I'm completely healthy or Maine took about himself 35 Daven Rosh Hashanah I know I myself was the word um right before test you cry I crammed today a lot a lot of daff y tell me that he crammed how many times you do 22 thousand Roshana okay listen but when you do that you realize you could do it on other days also it's not just today you know you're on a flight RV you can hop around 22 deaths huh it's a much higher now huh put our phones down all right our boys here we go this is top Shin pay gimmo daf pay gimmel in with the new year yeah I just got it so you're you're a few less staff and players talk about Rosh Hashanah and somebody who just told me that he's learning for Avi just wrote me an email he's learning for Avi and he was in I don't remember what masecta Irvin and we're discussing um the Purim stick that they did for me they put my my face on the bus and then I took the revenge and I put their face the bald man I gave this is so he was learning it in airvan and then we just discussed it the other day and he says you see even the nicest line up for the brand new year so if you look at the chart here there are three things that a husband has in the Nixon he has the fruit he has the produce that comes out of it he has yerusha he gets it after his wife dies he gains control also he has the right in other words if she goes ahead and sells it he has the right to annul the sale he has these three things these are three things we're going to be discussing says the mishnah when a person tells his wife I have nothing to do with your belongings he he writes it is going to say even if he says it the Mesa Yasha check this out says the mishna what do you what does he get after he says I have nothing to do with your belongings he he still re he still has two out of the three things he has payrolls and he has yerusha very interesting if I were to ask you what is the least important thing on this list the least important thing what would the Islam say the least important thing in in terms of value what's what's the least valuable and what's the most valuable selling should be the most valuable thing because if she sells it the husband gets zero forever so the ability to another sale should be the most valuable thing payrolls one year pay raise maybe not so much yes tomorrow says no the Mario says that the least valuable thing is and that's why since we don't know what he meant exactly he must have meant the one thing out of the three so he meant the least the least valuable thing which is the green bitumacher yeah because now what happens when she brings in money while I'm ready I hear right here until you buy until you get fruit until this until then okay he still gets to eat fruit even though he said I have nothing to do with it the Mesa and even though he said I have nothing to do with during the Hassan yarsha he still gets to inherit her belongings even though he said before which I have nothing to do with your belongings so why in the world did he say these words I have nothing to do with it what he meant is the third thing on the list that if she sells it it's not bottle it's Kaya now what if he adds a few words to the first line that the mission says and he says specifically I have nothing to do with the fruit with the produce so now we just added you see this chart leave it on for a second he just added another thing not only the Beatles but he also added the blue it's two things he said before us I don't want pay rents she's not going to have any of the income of the property the Mesa yard show One Thing Remains the middle thing the Arusha is contribute and he argues you don't see it in first in the mishna but there's an argument here in other words if he goes ahead she's he takes the fruit and with the fruity bar is another tree and with the fruit of the second tree he buys a house that's Perry pay raise the second tree is periperos the houses all he said is I'm not gonna have payrolls one level of produce one level of income I'm not gonna I'm not gonna bother with that's the apples that come off the first tree let's see if I could it's very far down here I don't know why that happened okay here I just did if you look on the bottom there's a tree an apple tree and the apple tree has a pile of fruit he took the fruit and he bought an orange tree that's periperos that's the fruit of fruit he he earned he made a an orange tree from apples and then if he sells the oranges and he buys his real estate with it that's okay so review the argues and he says that you do have pay repairs no once he says there's no pay rise I'm not using the apples so then he doesn't have the oranges he doesn't have anything [Music] um so the only time the only time that he cannot buy an orange tree or real estate as if he says mafurish I'm not gonna have anything to do with pay repairs he keeps on going he says and listen to lotion of the mishna until he says periperos m forever what if he doesn't say forever so could he buy on the fourth level Pro income that came from income that came from income is that okay or perhaps it's because he said pay rate pay rate Paris Uber is saying maybe that's the law show or maybe no it's because at the end of the day we need both the shiners same and the words okay next because of Lord Donald if he says I'm not gonna have anything to do with any of the income and not from the income of the income and not in your life and not in your death he's very very exact here in his words he knew exactly what the mission says so he decided to cut himself out of this completely yeah of course he doesn't eat the income the Mesa and his wife dies in a yard Shah he doesn't even inherit her why because he said specifically but myself after you die foreign if a person makes such a condition and he says I have nothing to do with any of you the produce any of the income and if after you die I don't want to inherit you we don't listen to him it may See Your Shadow what are you saying is I have to go all the way back here it says impossible we may not love Isa that a husband inherits his wife his wife so since the story says that a man inherits his wife so the man has no right so forgive that you can't disinherit yourself he was very into that his grandchildren should get married at a very young age so one of his grandchildren got engaged and he was learning so they want to throw him out of the Yeshiva got engaged you know 17 18 years old it's a get out of issue sometimes send a message to the other pills that it's a it's a mixer to get married so he said what do you mean but that's one of the conditions that I make a condition you can't come to Yeshiva if you're going to get engaged early you don't have a right to do that all my stories are true and if they're not they could be true know why would this be made up it sounds it's so typical of everything first of all the rule is that you get to one of these shoes that I know I went to tiffraff the ishutano when I was 10 11 years old I learned there laughs that's true Gary's up he had to get schmucking Dominique okay what Ben oh you were together with him Yeshiva wow did you guys do the Duff get over here no if you do the Daven Rosh Hashanah it's a school who left the whole year you don't do it on Roshana you have a guy up there whatever I hope you can get the value because I don't know the jokes what he's loud enough okay good time period and the story in other words everything we just said in the mishnah you know he made the prices say everybody you don't have to write the first word of the mission the first word of the parrot he said you don't have to write it if a man says I have nothing to do with you so then we don't give him the uh what is it the third thing the Metro bottle and if he says I don't want Paris doesn't get parents asking him so the way you read it is okay first you don't have to write it you could even say it but that's like a mother even if you wrote it let's go to the extreme he wrote it foreign you have partners and one partner looks at the other one he says you know what I have nothing to do with you I don't have anything to do with the the building you take it well if he says take it it might change things but if he says I have nothing to do with this that's not a good Matana in order to make a Matana you have to use a lotion this this building is yours as a gift if you just say these words he says I have nothing I have no business with it the other is I'm removing myself from it that's nothing like all my clue so over here when the husband says to the wife I have nothing to do with your stuff that's not Allah you should have said I'm giving it back to you as a gift or whatever but this is not a good enough lotion I'm at the very beginning because of Love agrees to this problem it's a big problem and everything tomorrow says we're talking about they're engaged and before he had any in her belongings he says I'm refusing to receive it if he received it already he's a partner a partner cannot you have no right if you own real estate think about it you own real estate you can't just uh I'm walking away from it you can't do that there's rules you have to write a star you have to give it to somebody you can't just say oh I have nothing to do with this house so what if you said that so if you're a partner with somebody you're partnering with your wife you can't just walk away from from half you could give it to her as a gift or sister Mara you never received it in the first place you're you're you're engaged you're not even you're you're engaged and you never got it so you say listen when we get married and it's supposed to come to me I don't want it I'm refusing there's no entry for your stuff foreign a second ago we said that it's Mastermind that's a different type of eurusha but sirusho when a wife dies or they were talking about a wife inherited she's still married to you she's still alive she inherited something from the father doesn't even say listen I don't want it it's not it's not something I want oh boy what if I need a chart Gary if if this is like this it is how we went Shalom bye he's back did something to help you you could say I don't know I want it it's for me show him like Mike you're going to do what does it means to help the wife that she shouldn't be stuck without any food so we made a deal she gets she has to give her salary to the husband what if she says I don't know I'm making a salary I'm a lawyer I don't need your favors I'll support myself I don't need support and you don't touch my salary she can do so why because that kind of harm to help her if a person has such a right I feel it in tsunami why do we have to say that she's oh they're only engaged and before before he it even felt him the yerusha he says I refuse to receive it let's let's talk about a case wait where they're married and that's it the husband has the right to say I don't want it um no the problem is because once they're married then they're equal Partners 50 50. partnership you can just walk away from them it's not 50 50. it's 60 40. it's 70 30. actually the husband even though it's her stuff the husband has more power than her Silva where it says there's not enough Community Towers so yo the point in an hour or so is since the husband has ownership here he can't just walk away from something he owns unless he put it in in a in a star you do something well the tsuki that we had earlier on chimer's album we had a sugar where there's no simple look mix him a look right you have property that goes in and out of the marriage and this the Chimera Sivan we have a woman whose husband died and she's waiting in the wings to see if her brother-in-law wants to be me herself and then she died she dies and she has all this Nicks in the look she has all these properties who inherits the properties so a buyer I'm just telling you overration real quickly a buyer who learns that the bishop is in a case where she inherited all these nakasim when she was still married to her husband so a bio over here says that she's equal it's her husband her husband's equal to her so now we have maglikas do we split these nuts even look 50 50 because they're equal or no we go by the kazaka to begin with whatever but Bravo holds I was just going it's not so important throwing this out quickly but rather holds that the husband is more powerful than her he has a problem he can't learn that she inherited while she was married because if she inherited while she's married who gets everything his your shin because he's more powerful than her at 70 30. so it wouldn't even be a shot it wouldn't be a yeah you can't nobody would hold you would be completed that's why rava has to learn that it happened after not while they're married after the husband died five there is enough because just you should know this Camino whether the husband is 50 50 or the 160 40 70 30. okay Ebola interesting you have a partnership and one partner looks at the other partner he gets fed up with him and he says you know what I don't want this business I have nothing to do with this business what do we say it's a big zero let's not let you talk if the right end and the star you have to give a Matana I have nothing to do with the business it's not a lotion then the partner adds insult to injury he takes his yamako off and he he does one of these here Khalifa you have nothing to do with this business take my yamaka go like this you might want to know did he add another zero to the zero which equals what zero or perhaps he did a new kind of Canyon over here and maybe does have some power it wasn't just words have nothing to do with the business he added to that he also did a king all right in other words he made a king on the words so he added a zero to the zero words and it's a big fat zero nothing happened there I've not been on my goofish nope he made a king in on the business itself not on the words that he said five minutes ago when he's mad he actually made a real Canyon so the partner gets to keep it um okay Mr of Joseph when Boyer when what happened was he says I have nothing to do the business so the partner says okay I'm going to do business he goes into the business he starts changing the locks so the guy says no no no no stop so then it makes a difference reversive says it's nothing so even though he made a king nothing because he made he made a Makkah so to speak so even though he made a king and it's nothing but if after he got upset and he did khalipe it stood like that for a couple of days and his partner went in there changed the locks fired the the manager started doing all sorts of things in the business for two days and nobody said a word so interesting Rashi sticks in a Lush in here interesting villain the reason why it stands is because the only reason he wakes up two days later is because somebody taught him to make him a hug oh somebody taught him okay fine and that that doesn't count because he really meant to give away the business and he made a king and because somebody said what are you crazy you just gave up your entire business go back and say they didn't mean it it's too late go back when he comes back he says I didn't mean it that means somebody taught him to say that we turned to pay him on base in honor of my uncle Pressman and as the scores for you're filled with his mother was to continue being able to support Torah and to finish Shaz with Rebellion again what happened he said these words he says I have nothing to do with the business nothing and then he did a Kenyan it works the king does work it's on the character it's not under words if he made up of right away if he made two days later says who cares look at the Refuge I said what we just said I never heard of such a thing because spiritually in other words I don't hold that there's a difference between making my heart right away thinking about later the bottom line is the khalifian works hush now the mission says okay in Loma cost of law why did this husband write the wife Allah I have nothing to do with any of your belongings and then we say you know what he didn't really mean it he could still eat fruit he could still Yash in her the only thing he can do is he can't be moving look at this chart a second maybe he meant all three things that's what he said what what makes you think that it's only one oh man you know because we have no idea what he meant and we don't know what he means so the one that has a star in other words the woman the wife she has to prove what he meant and since she can't prove what he meant so we have to take the least valuable of the three so maybe what he meant is the fruit the produce maybe that's the least valuable um [Music] why is it the least valuable because it's one year one one one year of fruit no it's nothing like not having food forever letting her sell it says the gemara the very famous saying in English a small gourd in the hand is better than a giant gourd later on if somebody offers you now you season on the ground there it's a one pound gourd you want it or if you wait three months I'll give you this that guy it's gonna be six pounds what what do you do you take what you get what you have right now a bird in the hand is worth better than two in the bush again a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush if you have it right here you take it he has payrolls you take it by the way I have I wanna coin a phrase right now you heard it here 20 birds in the bush is better than one bird on my porch no living 20 birds in the bush is better than one bird on my porch if you live in that show you know what I'm talking about suffer from these birds never mind you clean it and you come back a half hour later you know what I'm talking about you know no spikes Israeli birds sit on the spider if they could sit in the spikes or next to the spikes they sit in the spikes then you have this coming from America they write me uh rebelli you should buy spikes spikes really work no they don't work they sit in the spikes I don't know how and where they sit in the spikes it's a very machine yeah yeah my neighbor has that it wakes us up it also works against our neighbor has a machine the crazy noise that the birds are really scared of it but guess what human beings are also scared of it people don't come to my building anymore we're middle of chakras yeah it's night all day he finally gave up the entire night now he starts at 6am he's masking to the building we had a whole thing with him we brought him in meaning he'll do it from six to nine it works it works for his supports but they come to everybody else's porch able 20 birds in the bush better than one bird on my porch fine we'll talk about a difference now somebody else has different I have a good age so I'm not going to say it online whoever wants to know what to do it works I don't have Birds on my on my on my thing anymore they do but this is better mkane until okay by the way first of all when it comes to Rosh Hashanah I said this before Sean it's really kind of late because everybody's with capital Kabbalah but it's better to have one small couple in your hand than like a giant cabal that you can't you can't get to but another thing that I was thinking is it's better to learn dafyami today than to learn Eon in 20 years from now these guys that go out to work and then the the only e on Eon I get it that's what they taught us and it's that might be the better way to learn but you got to learn today if that's what you have that's what you take okay Mario now who told you when he said I have nothing to do with maybe meant the middle thing yerusha is foreign let's take the generation of the gemara when this was written how many women from that generation ended up dying all of them how many women from that generation ended up selling their fields I don't know 20 30 not every woman that owned the field sold their field so what's more common death is more common if you're going to talk about Rosh Hashanah death is very common what happens is you talk about it all the time people think that death doesn't apply to them they're not in the category of that this is over there yeah happens to that guy over there we don't really know him it's the other guy no it happens everywhere unfortunately death is everywhere if we realize it and we we live it it's not it's not an uncommon thing unfortunately when a person this husband he said I'm removing myself from one of these three things he removed himself from something that's not very common says what do we have here that's what he that's what he was missile himself from this is a different shot it's not the shot we don't know what he meant and we just process of elimination he didn't mean payroll he said I mean let's figure out what he meant no we know exactly what he meant says ravashi why let's look at his words he says I have nothing to do I have nothing to do with your belongings but he never mentioned the lobby Perry said he never mentioned fruit he said again he said he wasn't referring to death after miso okay so he has the Arusha he has the parents what he meant is I'm giving up my ability to be movato a sale if the wife goes out and sells it that I'm giving up just the explanations Ellen payrolls the elu Payne Perry Paris if the field produced fruit Hare and Paris that's what we call Paris that's one level of fruits if like in this the bottom part of this chart he bought he got a apple tree and he took the the fruit and he bought an orange tree and that had fruit and with that he bought some Hare and Perry Perez that's going that direction so when we learned the mission we explain it right there and then so now it's easy for us to understand there's a whole line that review the says in the mission he says unless a person says the words I have nothing to do with the parents and I have nothing to do with the Perry Perez and then he adds forever wants to know what was the key word here what's the magic word Adam forever so in other words all the levels the orange tree the house everything I have nothing to do with or it's because he said the words per repairers he didn't stop at Paris he stopped at pay repairs so what is it or maybe it's both them together which one is it then why did review the ad in the mission of the word maybe the Shadows keep it because of the Perry Paris command because he's just explaining that payroll pay raise means you know I don't have to say in the Middle East I just say I know them because I'm trying to say two times just say the words and that means forever it's just an explanation and maybe you'll say no it has nothing to do with the words pay repairs it has to do with the word that's all rebutan wanted to say so therefore the question is pay repair is then why did he stick in the words even though he said Perry bears he's trying to say another Allah the main thing the main is Adam and even if he said the words it's nothing you have to say it's another for another if somebody writes in a star a pair of Paris and goes to Rome hero Bears what should I do I learned from this image now that the word Islam and you didn't write that items it doesn't work uh did I skip uh maybe you have to have both he has the right hey repair and the words because of a Perry Bears because I have a payroll the payroll I would think peripero is he can eat but a third level like in this picture over here it's three levels away maybe that he couldn't he only said two generations of income he didn't say three because maybe it's like this over here I just did top to bottom maybe it just meant fruit the income but every year but it's the same fruit coming off the same tree that what he meant is sideways different generation different income that that was created from income what if he jumped he says I have nothing to do with your belongings and have nothing to do with the second generation income but he forgot to mention the first generation of income the apples of the tree what he meant is the orange tree that comes afterwards but he never mentioned the apples that come off this tree but very very silicon he removed himself from a second generation but he did remove himself from the first generation meaning the actual fruit that comes off the original tree or demon Community maybe it meant everything says the gemara I'll prove it to you she didn't let me call me of course he meant everything even the first generation the arm is talking of shame because if you mean that he the this pile of apples he he's okay with keeping that clean up the parents so if he consumed all the apples so then how did he buy an orange tree he has no income if he's allowed to eat the the apples that come off the tree so how in the world did he have left over to buy Perry Paris says says even though he can't eat the first generation he could eat the second generation so you asked the same question from you though how did it even get to the second generation if he can touch the first generation hello but the Cyrus are you talking about because there's some left over and he actually purchased with it okay it's in a certain situation where he left over and he was able to buy other stuff with it we could start this song even though it goes into tomorrow we'll start it we'll repeat it tomorrow I guess let's see if we have here yeah okay that even though the husband says have nothing to do with your stuff and if you die I don't want the inheritance Michael tyvis we don't listen to him and when she dies he inherits her why he says a reason in red it's National Master course about Toyota okay so there's two things going on there he says that if she dies he inherits her and it gives a reason because it's a master comes with iron it says before is an apostle that a husband inherits a wife you can't argue with that possible comes around and says I agree to the blue I agree that if she dies the husband inherits her um but not because of his reason that's it's for a different reason goes like through four steps to see exactly how to understand this foreign that if she dies he does inherit her even though he said he doesn't want an inheritor we force him to narrator but not because of reasons what it says in the Torah for instance Rashi brings if a person makes a deal with his wife says in the tire you have to give your wife sherik susvino so if a person makes a deal on the two momentous ones I'm not gonna give you I'll marry you on condition that you don't sue me for support you don't ask me to buy you any clothing is it a good marriage and not a good marriage does it could he could it could he keep that night ravals he could why because it's muminous I'm allowed to be my father somebody if somebody owes me a hundred dollars I'm Michael on the flip side I say well you can't really be my home if the Torah says that that's what she deserves after she gets it she gives it should give it back but you can't make let's say she makes such a deal and then she has harata she's a lot of harata because she made a deal against the Torah but rather holds so therefore RAF cannot hold like the red let's match on Masters he holds like that if she dies he inherits her but he can't hold like the reason because he argues with that reason he holds you could make it tonight against oh so it's not because it's not about because he argues that the inheritance that her husband has in the wife is not a possible if he argues with that he always sorry we had a number of times people are very lenient in their abundance okay that'll accept but Roberto gonna have the right to tell me that I I can't touch muksa well I'll be careful with most I'm not gonna no so we're gonna do something we even said sometimes you get Misa on the dura bottom because it's so Hummer so RAV is going to agree that if she dies even though he said he's stipulated I'm not taking your inheritance he must take your inheritance you can give it away afterwards when he receives it why because they're a button and we made a very strong have a wonderful year let's see