Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 81 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning round boys [Music] it's everybody and I was debating whether or not I should say this Miser but of course I'm saying this now because I figured I have to be true to my sheet though and that is I'll say a story even if it's [Music] on the borderline of gaiva or whatever it is if it could help somebody I'm gonna say it in this case it makes me look pretty bad it makes me vulnerable but I want to share you with you the story for a purpose it was before I started giving the Daffy I'm here but I lived here in this neighborhood I used to drive in Peninsula every morning I said take my children to school and then go diving one morning I come downstairs to the parking lot and there's a truck delivering water blocking the entire parking lot it's never happened before it's never happened since one time guy blocked the parking lot so go over to him and say you're blocking me he does like this to me I'm like dude just if you back up 10 feet I can get out then everybody could get out 20 cars parked there I need to deliver the water so I'm furious I have to take my kids to school they're gonna be late I'm gonna miss the minion nothing I can do he delivers the water he comes back he comes back like how do you do this to me and as I'm talking to him he starts taking out more water like you get another delivery he says yeah I said no I can't you're not gonna do I'm gonna make sure you don't deliver the water he says try me she starts he takes out these big five gallon jugs he fills up his thing I lost it I go over to him I take the thing and I flip the whole thing over and these five gallon start rolling down the hill he starts chasing them and he delivered the water sorry might have been to you I don't know it's like one of those houses over there where you live over there I go during the day the morning the story bothered me a lot and by minute time already I said I need to find this guy and ask him ifillo so what I'm gonna do I'm gonna go to these houses where Noam and shamshi live I'm Gonna Knock in the doors over there and find out who gets water and find out what company and and try to find the truck driver it's going to be a mess but I have to do it over there and lo and behold the same truck passes by my car like this is a sign from Hashem this is great so I start chasing him he pulls into a building I pull into the building he gets out of the truck I get out of my car and the guy like thinks himself oh no this guy's nuts he tracked me down so I see that he's like getting in this defensive I said listen no no I came to asking Michaela I don't know what came over me I didn't sleep much last night I gave my whole speech I want to ask you Michaela and he goes like this to me I I don't remember who did what but the kids are I get came over to him gave him a big hug we hugged it out this is a non-religious Jew I let go I see he has tears in his eyes Patrick crying so the reason I'm saying this story I look like a meshugana okay little anger prowl but sitting over here all year long I know that I insulted people I made fun of people made some jokes on different people's accounts I made people come late to show to to dropping off their kids so I want to askila and please say be pen Malay say I'm Michael Ali sometimes I didn't act appropriately and I'm asking Michaela with that being said [Music] from the kids why is my water cold why is it hot it is a fast thing you know I was hacking that was just a just like after the principal you're supposed to lend a little money so so after asking Kelly have to insult one person and like this if you're going through a Shauna since Noam wasn't here last night I need to tell you that we're going into option gimmel to pay gimmo and leaving tough Shin pay base guess what to do that for learning about Rosh Hashanah pay base on the first day and pay him on the second day unbelievable do we have we have a second here so everybody said we're gonna there's a video that came out it's Eric Rosh Hashanah it's a time that people like to give to Dhaka so we have come on in Doc mdy monthly is a concept where you can give mdy on a monthly basis the Mitzvah to the highest degree check it out Indy monthly.com I'll show you the video different times no not that one says CS from Staten Island I've not missed the day listening to your shears since you vomited That Base I'm really worried for this coming month since I'm in America it's very hard on to young to have to catch up in the night listening to touch Europe I know I can learn it myself I don't want to break my record any chance you can pre-record for the Americans thank you and your family for all the time you give us man Hashem bench all of you CS not Nyla now if the sheer took me a half hour to prepare no problem I'll pre-record six Euro no problem but usually takes me all day and that being said and with the next email just read the first line here because it all ties in Rebellion I use a YouTube khazara and I've done so consistently now so going back to the first email yes this is when people fall off the bandwagon during young Tiff this is a two-day yante it's hard to learn on Shawna davening is long and there's no sheer that day and there's no machayev make it your business to do that and if you don't not a big deal what stuff paid out a new peric no no pay gimbal is a new pair okay jump ahead jump ahead I use your YouTube has already I've done so consistently since and couldn't have done any of them without it having our Rejoice since his days in Essex I know it's technological skills that I'm truly grateful so I want to say you're a boy's side we have to have tremendously all safe he's here here this morning she was over late last night he goes takes him like four hours to edit the shooter and he's here now but mate Rosh Hashanah this job is going to be crazy he has two shoe rooms at it so it's all night so I want to pre-think him and I think the island really appreciates it on Friday you 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Lima on his 49th yard side Mason show I'm having Aaliyah I hope that's oh maybe it's Ben Jacob Lima that's what it says s-i-n doesn't make so much sense but okay huh creators yeah but it's the same amount of letters Ben and sin Jacob I'm going to say Jacob Ben blema but if not Jacobson blima on his 49th yard sideways and shama having Aaliyah we are holding on the bottom of pay on base by the gemara five lines up characters I don't know if we have to go to the okay she may receive them all it means is she's a yavama so a woman is married to Reuben on top Reuben goes bye-bye she falls the e-bomb she's in a state where we don't know if one of the brothers shim and Levy is going to marry her not marry her give her Khalid and she dies huh you're watching wow so you heard about top champions oh you did hurt so why don't you come here live first uh hey hey bro okay who must bury this woman now the person who gives the typically the husband has to bury her right but who buries her in this in this case you have a of them you have her family his family who buries your bowel meaning the yoga the Korea because now that she died who gets the tsuba that she deserved so the yavam should pay for the burial or maybe it's her family has to bury the Korean because they get the same look foreign [Music] foreign what does it say about you what state art scroll somebody you're actually about okay meaning of the brothers we call them the oven based on the you know yesterday's mission for us we also learned is Simon so you're talking about a regular almano this is Simon here and this time we have to support this almana because they support her they get her mice you're dying to get her salary but they don't have to pay for her burial your shell your bossa the yoshim it's a double ocean now what is this Mission talking about we're not talking about Ivana here we're talking about a regular alamana how do we know so if you look at tices on the top he says like this we're going into a Duke in a mission it's unbelievable there's little orphans here now a person who dies when he has children there's no ibom here Nixie is Simon the assignments the supporter if they have the supporter that means there's no ibom going on so we're not talking about however because there's an extra lotion here you're awesome what does that means it's unbelievable the mission is talking about this case but the mission they used a double lotion like we were Dyke in a plastic almost like this extra wording in in the mishna which is going to give us a hint to another case of Ivana which person which our money has two people that inheriter have the other musician married three of them we have her family we have his family it says here that his family has to pay for the burial oh my brother I don't understand the brother the of them should say I I'm gonna be selfish I'm gonna take everything from my brother because I'm a yoga yeah we're talking about one one of them how many of them and therefore I get I'm entitled to the entire inheritance of my brother why should I have to bury the wife foreign why do I have to bury why do I have to bury the wife to bury the wife because I get exuber right that's what we said before the whole Sparta is the yavam who inherits the Suba when the wife dies he no longer has to pay attic zuba so he gets the tsuba so in return He has the barrier says rubber but he's not getting like super from her he's getting the tsuba from his dead brother he never got he never got like super from her she doesn't know her anything tomorrow I'm gonna buy y'all no Robert you're wrong you're saying that the tsuba comes through the brother and never went to the wife never went to the dead woman if it went through the if it went to the Obama then from the ivama to the avam then the of them should pay for the ivama's burial but never went to the ivama it went straight from his brother to him this is a buy you know the Bible we have a rope here with two ends you can't grab both ends it's a moment of shark we call it a monosha if this yavam the guy that's alive the brother steps in instead of his dead brother then he steps in one for one whatever his brother had to do he has to do you expect so therefore he should have to bury the wife and if he doesn't want to bury the wife you think Tsubasa the subas and the Coors instead of the exubusuba um this is what I meant to say Irish I am going to inherit the brothers but I refuse to bury her why and what are you tell me oh but you get the super league it's very interesting this is becomes a little bit uh where this is possible over here sorry back up it says in the soup of these words when you get married to somebody else then you're entitled to the Cuba now it doesn't mean literally when you get married it means when you're able to get married to somebody else when you're able to now since she is foreign okay now this guy he wants to marry her Raji explains he wants to be me so she cannot she can't marry somebody else she can't marry if he was going to divorce her he's going to give her Khalid so she can marry anybody in the world okay so I could be Makai and what it says in the Suba you wanna see in a second it goes according to the mandama that he literally darshan exude we had this before YouTubers do we Direction the words of the super like we just Direction the mission so if I'm going to Direction the words in the Cuba when you're able to marry somebody else then you get your tsuba when is that when she gets khalitza but if the brother steps in and does he boom he marries her so she doesn't get it you don't get a tsuba so I don't owe you anything I don't owe you anything then then when when you die I don't have to bury you my child says and who is this who says oh so so that's that's the time now comes a buyer back and says no Manchester but you're directioning these five how many words six words in the Suba not everybody that holds you Direction words like super literally who says you could Direction oh so I'm gonna give you a reminder Chef now only according to David Sharma I die of some words oh there's another problem here it says if I'm going to take these words literally and say she doesn't deserve the tsuba because it says in tsuba that she has to get married to somebody else or at least be able to get married to someone else and she can there's another thing that Michelle is that anything that's oyman League voice if I owe you money and it's I have a star it says I owe you money so it's as if you're already collected that money you ready Rashi uses an interesting lotion it's as if you have my field more than I own the field she got me though it's already collected so this woman who you owe there's a future super here she collected it it's as if it's in her hands don't tell me it's not in her hands it is in her hands she has a cubo how do I know this it's not me now we're talking about a woman whose husband said he he was hoisted her I said he suspected her that she was mizana she was with another man she says come with me you're gonna drink some water and then what happened was also she got a hit man boom they got rid of the husband he dies before she was able to drink the water now it's not Allah does she get a super or not is even though she doesn't drink the water she can't drink the water it's gonna say in a second he's dead no she doesn't get a why either she drinks if she drinks she go together that's the gamara on the spot do you show yourself what do you mean she could drink baby is she cannot drink if she wanted to because her husband is not alive hello I'm attention what it means is bottom line is she doesn't get the tsuba and says she does get a tsuba because he's not around there's no drinking he owes her exuber finished now we have to understand what happened again the husband says suspected his wife that she's mizana he says we gotta go to the Bayside mcdosh if she was missing no she doesn't get super and now that he's dead the husband's dead now we don't know excuse me or not so why in the world should she gets to get more of am I something Louisiana because he suffering foreign she never took it out of his bank account doesn't matter when somebody owes somebody money says if they already collected it so to an hour sugil it's as if already she collected it even though the Z of them there Emma Mela since he doesn't have to pay her the subo subscribe to barrier oh now this is an interesting question I know I can't claim I understand that 100 because we said that this question is based on if you darshan these words on the screen but nothing more saying even if you don't Direction these words but it says it in the Suba you can't ignore the fact that it says in tsuba that you get a tsuba if by the way Lauren Mazel Tov Mazel Tov I never mentioned in public should have a lot of nothing sorry I keep on meaning to say now I see you marriage daughter right daughter got married I don't wanna okay at the end of the day even according to basilo you need you need his words how how is it that she it's as if she has the tsuba when she never got married to somebody else she's never able to get married to somebody else you have a you have them in the way yes she married somebody else she married her the brother-in-law that why is that not somebody else do you might understood that the brother-in-law steps in instead of his brothers it's not Mom or somebody else no it's another person you're fulfilling at least the words the literal words of the tsuba she's marrying somebody else huh she's able to marry the of them and if if she doesn't marry the Army gives her khalita she can marry anybody in the world foreign I looked it up it's not 130 billion only now about 103 billion that's what he's worth today he's very very far from number one where he used to be Elon Musk is almost 300 billion unbelievable okay she has under three billion dollars and he dies without children and Melinda Gates is the evama so now Bill Gates Mark Gates whatever his name is he has a big dilemma he wants to use the 103 billion dollars but he owes Melinda three thousand dollars and because he owes those three thousand dollars of exuber the entire 103 billion dollars literally is and he can't touch the money unless he's Michael but she's not she's smart no can't touch it I'm concerned they're going to waste 103 billion dollars I'm not gonna have money for my three thousand dollars Israel my asses what does he do what's data you know can't divorce her because if he divorces her he can't marry her back there's only one it's a yes a little bit food sometimes food goes a long way we see it you know different I don't know what you take out a client a meal or the match causing you give them a few barracas and also on the donating thousands whatever it is you you chill the guy chills out with food don't be careful where you eat robotic if somebody offers you a meal be very careful be weary thank you if his Israel he has a better idea mcgourish beget he gives her a divorce the answer okay Suraj says right away later we're just returning the page who's the last day sponsor motion horn wow Arizona full of if according to you you could collect the super when the album's still alive so what is the big deal he wants to access the 103 billion let him take three thousand dollars they'll be large make it six thousand put it on the table and say here here's exuber and may I can use the rest that's amazed I don't understand something you asked me a question on the browser we just learned the last night in the mishnah the lights listen it's a much bigger question from the mission in the mission that says do not do that don't put the money on the table and say this is yuksuba Allah all 103 billion is part of the tsuba this is I'm telling you a good eater I'm saying put the money aside you know why because most people's if they don't put money aside they don't have a special account you know what's going to happen it's going to disappear the money somehow we'll use it for something else it's not gonna have the money for her so put on the side what happens if it disappears you're living in sin you can't remember says you can't live without a so you have to another one the kids are so I'm telling you husband so don't sorry so don't set this money aside because if you set this money aside then the soup becomes that money like this you'll have it it's over to everything that you have electronic because if you don't say so what about the end is a person should not do his regular wife forget about it everything is his wife why can he sell who what what's preventing this person from selling things hello so obviously we're just giving good advice by us also but at the end of the day why does say his ETA that what you should divorce divorce her for a dare to and then remarry her I have a much better idea take the money put on the side according to you that you could you could you could go back because it'll be a big fight so you have to see this Rashi over here Michelle maeva like literally next to where we just left off if a person sets aside and tells his wife here's your money don't worry about it if we ever get divorced here's your money you can take it right over here it's in this closet I love that lotion there's a hey uh the the fight lasts for ever why the Sovereign now listen to this Evolution this guy divorces her no that's not a big deal that's not a fight a fight is if you say something you hear what you're saying you say the wrong thing to your wife you're done forever forever it's Eva silo you could divorce your wife and then take her back and she's fine with it why because the other she understands that's why he divorced her because he wants to do business it's good for him to get into the 103 billion we'll pakalea even okay she was mad at him for a few days because his divorce and the whole world knows she's divorced now it's very embarrassing but at the end of this she cops but if huh he remarried her yeah okay you ever stick a dinner you made a cousin for her you say the wrong thing to your wife they never forget they never forget they'll always bring it up but you can divorce her it's better better divorce and then fight with her as I stating Rashi it's the fancy said divorce the wife okay oh God yeah do not take some some buys advice from me you know what I found out yesterday that the guy that wrote Men Are from Mars and worm because I never know he's divorced four times nice to show you what he writes in Academia I wasn't saying I don't read like Thomas I go straight up chapter one yeah it's like he's I I heard that he writes that I'm working on my marriage my fourth wife and then he divorced her also later on he saw that and how many millions of copies me you guys my wife has a relative I'm not gonna say it's a famous relative he wrote a book Meister shot is on Amazon he wrote a book how to get a job the guy never had a job in his life never had a job seriously hell guys don't don't believe these books that they they sell this guy of a book for me how can I write a book like that when I have no scientists no scientists oh god really know so true I don't care enough listen to this there was a Yi bomb going on there's a yeah fine we have the famous case Reuben is married to Russell and it happens to be that after ruven look what happens here check this out by side when it goes sideways he leaves a very big eurusha now who who's older you or or uh avi avi how old are you have a year older you have the white beard okay so harmonically AVI or lady in this case is he should we go to the oldest brother shiman is a little nervous he half is going on here there's a pile of cash here now if this khalitza what happens to the cash they're divided 50 50. but if Levy marries her the abomer lady gets the entire pile of cash what does human do he's smart he goes to a cipher he writes a get and he's about to he's going to toss it to her he's just gonna throw it at her and that gets me the rabbanon is like a khalitza right that we learned in ivamasa you can't be me he gets 50 of the million dollars great idea is about to happen he sees him running running towards the Obama with a get in his hand no no what are you doing I want to marry her what do you want you want half of the money I'll give you half the money no problem here let's make a Kenyan they do a Kenyan uh and then when it's all over he marries her lady says a is that anymore great myself these are great Brothers I'm Malay so boy so the brother shiman he decides he's going to give her a get and he gives it a get he's going to gain half of the Arusha on Malay so Levy says what are you trying to do here say all you care about is money you oh you're kidding he's such a selfish person what's the big deal I'll give you half even did a canyon on it yourself in since this opinion says no right to sell anything Africa he had no right to give anything at that time to his brother it's not his to give away what so Levy turns to show me says you see that Lake over there go jump in it and from that day on came to say jump in the lake right otherwise I don't have shots from here from this guitar okay so the Bahar doesn't owe anything like it doesn't have to give him a dime it says um yeah by the way it's time I I didn't Target vomits I control myself I didn't say this Miser everybody knows the story but now covered Arizona I think it's some true story a kid you could you could put that thing back on it's good for the story a kid in school the the rebbe S do you know what a gibo is he says yeah if a brother dies without hair he's bald then he says both what are you talking about he says yeah says the art scroll hereless h-e-i-r-l-e-s she's hairless and now I was thinking because we have the Baldwin brothers past this mice past he saw it in the Arsenal he saw the scream he sees everybody's bald hairless bold people okay huh yeah what do you expect from him huh like in the 80s he played for the beers yeah it's only only me you know what's going on in a couple people in Chicago okay right there obviously it's the best investment you get a billboard like you pay them one month and they say okay take it off and it just stays there for 17 years like those buses the buses nobody knows what we're talking about only the old guys okay to be on the back of a bus unbelievable so true when it's happening they got a advertisement from the back of the bus and it was supposed to be for how long a month and it stayed for two years and then covet came and nobody's advertising the buses and the bus is going around and around and they got the biggest bang for the buck normally I'd buy it everybody said from then that's how they wrote the book only I buy it now is that true huh oh this is a person who dies and he leaves and he left a hundred times the amount of Peace 100. he left her a hundred times a hundred I don't know what that is he cannot sell anything even though he has a hundred times the amount of money to pay Eric super whenever he feels like zuba he shouldn't like the Bill Gates thing 103 billion and the soup is uh three thousand dollars he could pay it up no everything is now out of cells of the opinion you can sell Abaya argues if he does sell it doesn't count what's Nan remember we just learned this in the mission I'm doing this for the rest because he wasn't here here we go but I did show them you have the three stages in life you have before everything after Harrison and afternoon soon so what happened was the this kala after she became arusa she got an inheritance and then the she sold it now she's not supposed to sell it according to Basil according to be so she shouldn't sell but if she sold it was hello it works so here you have a case where you're not supposed to sell and you sell that's our case that if she went ahead even though she wasn't supposed to sell it's a good sale so by us also even though the of them shouldn't sell it should be good probably if you sell it's nothing um Allah what he made it how did he dress it up with someone with it with jewelry like he didn't explain why even though he shouldn't have sold his brother's stuff but he did it works the armor of the ice of time and if you know a good reason why reverse he said is that doesn't work let me know another review he himself reveal Joseph himself by his Rabbi he went out to find the place to arriving for himself The Saga you have two brothers so we have here okay yeah you have two brothers you have the brother ruvane lent money to shiman and Reuben goes bye-bye Reuben is a malva shimra's alive he borrowed money from his own brother now what happens very interesting what happens after the brother dies the brother goes bye-bye on the one hand shimmy could say to himself I get everything all rubin's money comes to me so why should I why should I pay up the loan it's going from one pocket to another Horizon and he left exactly and many ways gonna inherit all the money Ella might see me of them because now we have a tsuba that that has him so we have to take this money you have to take the money that shipment owes his late brother and buy a field with it okay so the gamara says listen to this is if I'm going to take money away from shimming and put it on the side so certainly if shiman goes and sells his brother's character I'm gonna take it away from shiman you hear the husband if Shivan owes money to ruvane I take the money out of shiman's wallet and what do I do with it I buy a field so if shimmy went ahead and sold something that already has Aquarius and a shibud to the ivama and he goes ahead and he sells it I'm gonna grab it away I'm gonna take it out of him it's a beautiful ride when I buy your dummy who says we take it out maybe we're just trying to be nice and give him a good eight to put on the side to have something to pay later on on Malaysian we use the Lush and might seem we take it out but I'm just like that's a nice that's a favor um by the way this whole ride that you just brought reversive you just brought is not a good bracer my timer because we're talking about money and money doesn't you can't you can't make that a Shiba to uh it's not uh doesn't have a what you don't use that as a guaranteed looks over there okay let's stop over here because I have to do stickers but boys I have a wonderful day tomorrow's here at 4 30 right here in the basement just one hour before 9 30 to your room