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ah see me show Fourth King that was uh the guy that got the cap yesterday hi everybody I want to say thank you so much for the cab it's a genuine pleasure coming to mdy he's an attending responsible plus this great coffee here's a video of me and my father learning the deaths here we go go to the videotape let's see we need volume hold on we got a new guy in the booth today because you ready you got some volume [Music] that's the father that's the Father the video is on his handlebar okay we got the idea Ramapo Rafi the barber has Brooklyn let's greet Emmanuel The Barber on Main Street in Queens is that where the story the Noam fix is throwing in business on Main Street mainstream queens and go visit get a free haircut by Emmanuel the barber no no that's that's the whole thing and do I bring so many people together I grew up in tunic and mandelbams and the mandelbams and my family down in the same row at best arrow I hadn't seen or heard of Abby for years until the Grand marcium in RBS hence the picture I sent this was avi's all the way to the right I couldn't believe it when you made that announcement about his diagnosis that's Hashem as Avi said he's got this he mentioned will hear of his Reformation bukhari how could I not do what's in my power to help and Mr Trump I'm setting a goal to learn thank you for all you're doing for cloud and your it's uh in the realm of some bias I don't know I guess Alex Gilden so Alex put us over five thousand he's the one that put us of over five thousand dollars if you come every day [Music] good morning Rebellion I bumped into your Tesco moisture class last night and had to make the most money please see attached wishing all because he was even talking about Jimmy leafman or lifeman here we go yeah so I think you ready good morning boys [Music] okay now this I like a lot got to Newark earliest I could do the doc before my flight to Miami but listen to this started at 62 working catch up the 60 daf he's doing 60 dab of the first 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only 70 guitars left in America for volume three which is very good I don't know how many are left in here Comer we got a bunch of chicken bars I I ran out if you have any extra you have some more no I took from the kitchen yesterday the more your Valley okay because some people wanted Mars yesterday came into me so I have to share you could if you have a friend or somebody you want to go to Great okay so here we go revoice side this is what we had yesterday on the screen you'll see it's two braces one Bryce says we have a contradiction if a person tells his Kyle long condition I'm getting engaged in condition that you don't have an adult so one person says it's a good condition another Rises says it's not a good condition if we're talking about a case where the matter okay okay on condition you don't have nadaram and she goes afterwards and she gets rid of them through is that considered that she didn't have the dorm or not so we said like this and it's good to pay attention here because it might get it's a little tricky we're going to say two Allah but they're very different Allah number one is she goes to him and he gets rid of in the dark says remember since a person doesn't care means I don't care if my wife goes to bed and Spills the beans and peasant tells bezen about her hernandarm doesn't bother me it doesn't bother me so it's a good condition I don't care if she went if she's gonna go she went that's not part of the night if it really bothers me so the fact that she goes to best then that's part of my deal I said do you have any darm she said no this is going to do something that I care that I don't like to help her out that's not going to help the condition I don't like when she goes to Basin so it's not a good condition I made a deal with her she doesn't have the dorm not only does she have an adore him she's going to do something I hate which is she's going to Spill the Beans in front of the best that doesn't help me she says River laws are a person doesn't want his wife or his college to go to bed great now let's look at this next hello it's almost counter-intuitive is that if you divorce your wife because she has a net there stop this is not talking about a Hassan getting engaged on condition is that a married couple the guy finds out that his wife made another she divorces her so if it's a type of nether they have to go to [Music] then you can't take her back before Remer is the one that says it's a good engagement now he's saying you can't take her back for the same exact reason though what makes the engagement a good engagement tells me that you can't take her back because since he doesn't care that she's going to go to best then that's why the engagement is a good engagement if you make a condition but that reason that he doesn't care if she goes to best and ruins it for us why he concerns he doesn't care that she'll go to best then so he'll claim later on after she gets married to a second man this is what we learned yesterday she's gonna go ahead he's the he divorces her then she goes marry the second man has children with him and then he says wait a minute if I would have known that she could have gone to best then and know the whole night there I would have done so Emma Malo the second marriage is not a marriage and those kids are not there I want to avoid that whole thing but that's only because he could taina oh she could have gone to Rob and gotten out of it but you can't you can't go to a rub and get out of it if I care if it bothers me Vermeer says it doesn't bother me so then I have a problem he might claim that if I had I known you hear what's going on there so that same svara that I don't care going to best then ruins it if you're married you hear Mandy it's counter-intuitive it's almost on the one hand that's that's varro says that if I get engaged to a woman who has a new dorm on her and she goes to Mayfair it doesn't bother me in my mail it's a condition but since it doesn't bother me if I'm already married then it's you can never get back you can't you can't marry her again like four lines down from the top of my name we have to finish earlier today because of Sleepless like at least one minute before eight there and if she doesn't remember yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah it's like zero it's nothing to do with anything it's exactly because some guy might one day decide that he would have never divorced his wife and it'll be Mighty shamra whatever it is okay remember I may call me this is what we're talking about over here a guy is married to a woman and he divorces her if it's widely divorce because there's another if it's a type of a nether that you need he can never marry her again agrees to that go back to the chart for a second it's says that it was just if we just had this idea of of this basil a person ever doesn't allow his wife to go to bed so the whole thing is the reason why it's awesome is because of another case if I myself could have nulled another why could I myself another it's a certain nether has to do with the husband and that I could say that's the smart I could say oh had I known that I couldn't know that I would have annulled it and therefore your kids now your second marriage is not good so maybe even a case where I need it's also awesome we might commit flicky you mean right now yes yes and afghanina is um uh yeah there is one a very simple one but I don't remember right now I think no one case which I don't know wrong remember yourself remember yourself okay so this is not literally she that he wanted to be embarrassed but he doesn't care he's not MacBook and therefore a kill goal is going to come out of this because a person doesn't want his wife to be embarrassed and best and it's one it's one because of the other it's ought to the case of where he himself can end up now rather explains it differently you know now we have going back to this case right it's the Oliver Bryson base who said that the a guy said to the to the kala I'm getting engaged and conditioned you don't have any Dart first of all he doesn't want a woman he finds out that she made another so now he really doesn't like this woman he doesn't want this cow but you're gonna tell him go divorce her he doesn't want to divorce her why because now I'll be Usher on her sisters he still wants to marry the hustle you know it's like like if you see this you can understand this I want to marry into this specific family I don't care about the girl I need the seahorse I care about the grandfather and great grandfather the whole thing so if this girl is no good I'll take the next one in line but I want to be part of that family as the Mariachi saved the Tony I will Who what about if the problem is him not her who's said that she doesn't want to marry a guy that has a darn she really went through this once guys that have in the door I'm not good I don't want a guy that makes in the dorm all the time so he went to I mean he got rid of his daughter it's a Rife or he had a mom she doesn't want to marry a guy with Mom she makes a deal with him I'm only getting engaged to you I'll get this and you don't have any moment equal rights and he went to the doctor got rid of the mom mukudashes it works I see Martin Luther Kardashians when it comes to her we said she comes from a prominent family so when it comes to him that has the match the mission has to match everything matches so he comes from a prominent family so if she he comes from a prominent family should say the same exact Sparrow why I'm Kardashians I want to be able to marry your brothers says the guitar note there's a big difference between him and her why this is swaro when it comes to women and the I think they say today this doesn't apply so much but now those days it's one thing I remember from craters this line Pablo Maze of tandu Milam a woman prefers just to be married even to an inferior kind of guy than to sit single okay for sauna we gotta do chuva we gotta get the singles it's a very very bad for a woman to be alone sometimes she'll um what's the word compromise thank you she will compromise so she will compromise more than a man will compromise we don't use the same logic when it comes to women says the same we're saying the same thing here this if you married an ant in other words a very short guy romila she still she's able she comes around she says I'm a married woman you know Mary look at me I'm married so she takes her chair and she puts it right with all the prestigious women as long as she's married she's not married she's the singer she's single sit on the side don't don't bother us woman wants to be married she wants to have Hashem of being married but Papa are married same thing then I put together she has she's married to a guy that has a terrible job he comes wool for a living Bubba she's going to call him to sit in front of everybody on the doorstep she'll sit down with him she wants to be married she doesn't care at the whole she could be you can work in the garbage department to get anything he she sits with him in public without you Omar the kalosa Gabriel if the person has bad egos there's a shemra about him somewhere she won't even ask him to buy lentils she'd rather be married to him a guy that has bad yikos the guy that's short in stature shortened doesn't matter she wants to be married and the story says the gamara incredible thing Tana we don't understand this because these women they're okay for the chef Dover they're okay being married to these guys but on the side they have other men that they're mazana with is there tomorrow is people Cold War should poison Zaya okay so now we're talking about the moment of the possible woman a person says to the catalog unconditioned that you don't have any more Donna we added a few moments they are if she sweats the Schumer she has a mole bad breath says okay I won't say the bad breath joke one bad joke after another is not good parsley yeah later later I think I said it already I should have said that one okay so edit that one put that share whatever joke 172 add instead what you tell me that these are three things but by a woman we learned and this is an animal understands that Mizu um smells bad it's like Zaya like sweat with none movement every weather they come and go where they're permanently sulin these pastelocaine so why are you telling me there's a special thing when it comes to him we have three extra suleims we see we find it also by quite foreign when it comes to sweat that's temporary that passes by a woman can possession reverse what passes by a coin is someone had sweats constantly that's a moment um I hear I don't know maybe it's a different type of over different types different constant constant every day for a few hours I don't know but that's not it's not so much when they've been over I hear amazing you you're trying to say stick in the mizua means Isaiah it's not the same thing I got him F sharp eyebrow BQ the camera so first of all when it comes to xiam means like the whole body it smells like something but when it comes to gehanam you can take that that sweat or whatever and get rid of it with some wine thing some some deodorant I'll never this the word deodorant by me once I was by my aunt in benebra and I said this also but a long time ago I think and she was telling me about these kids that went off to Derek and I was like how do they go off to there she says you know they will do the hunt like what in her mind a guy that wears deodorant of the Derek this was this was a 20 I hope it changed since then this is 20 something years ago famous it's like it's like almost like perfume how could you do such a thing because there was there was a couple that they both had a mum terrible mum the guy had a very smelly feet smelly socks she had very bad breath but they hit it very well from each other so finally they get married and the guy wakes up a middle night in a panic he realizes that if you got to hide the socks she starts searching here there under the bed everywhere all of a sudden his wife wakes up She Goes what are you doing he goes oh why did you eat my socks foreign he could he could eat a pepper like we have mouthwash we have toothpaste they didn't know about these things back then but you get there's a way eat a hot pepper avoid so for that little amount he could do an Arvada the same thing but by a woman like Abshire you can't tell if the guy has to be with her his entire life so every conversation maybe she is gonna have to use a pepper right before okay and he knows he's going to do that he only does it a couple times a year he only has two weeks the entire year and when it's his turn he pops a pepper okay get away with it if you can't tell a woman 365 days a year to eat peppers he doesn't want that so it's not a good though what's this mole a lot of people have moles so it's a little bit of a problem according to the gemara here a lot of us are ballet movement if it's a mold that has it here Apostle doesn't matter cutting a woman both cases are quite as possible a woman and if it doesn't have a here some sort of coin whatever the size is a pretty large amount that line is if a mole has here it's a month if it's very large Mom okay so what's going on here either this mole is possible for everybody even a cloud or it's not even doesn't ruin it for a woman so what kind of mole is it says we're talking about a mall that's on our forehead in other words anywhere that's visible on your face is on her forehead foreign he obviously met her once before they got engaged sometimes it's through but it's something noticeable and everybody sees and he saw it and he says okay let's get engaged with the mo or a puppet that's why I don't know I need to speak to Rabbi Schoenberg about this I don't know exactly what happened in those days the the single girls used to wear something on their head they didn't wear the covering on their head she had some baseball cap on so it's on her forehead and it's like covered by the by the Hat whatever she's wearing visit sometimes you see it sometimes you don't see it that's why the guard says on her for it because if it was on her cheek let's say so that's not covered by your hat we're talking about it in a place that sometimes is covered by the head sometimes not somewhere right around there and we're talking about it's certainly not a one with a burka although they had those then you know because it smashing like that that's what I'm trying to talk about it they're trying to say specifically if it's in a place that they covered their head completely I saw it so they used to cover their completely in Arab countries they cover that completely they have to it's chop their head off nothing to do with Judaism this is Dominican Arab countries they have to yeah yeah no no no I didn't say Nazi places in Arab countries yeah I've talked about it I don't know how many years a thousand years ago again is talking about again if it's very large it's a mum if it has a hearing it it's not large it's small it's small without here but it's smack in the middle of her face that could really bother the guy and he can break his up but if it's in spot in the middle of her face so he saw it no he didn't see it because under the Hat sometimes it's there somebody's not there I'm gonna have Papa oh boy I heard this from a great man um if she has a scar from a dog Vanessa McCormick salad that's considered a mom then she has a very thick voice she sounds like a man I raise a mom doesn't want to marry her didn't they go on a date with her wait now he wakes up she has a bad voice so his cousin says you know women they fake it Hi how are you here it's on the day or since she comes home hey take out the garbage slow down a woman's voice should be sweet and remember Victor Miller says why why because Brock will do like that so she convince her husband like rebecciva to go learn tires she says it in a sweet way she has a sweet voice she could convince her kids but her father is more of a disciplinarian he has the thick voice it's great it's right there in the same in the same moment the Kama and what's considered the opposite of among a great um three fingers if they are larger than her friends I raise a mom that's a mom the karma all right larger such a thing I saw it with my own eyes an Arabia says she had her child on her back like in one of those things and he's hungry so she gave him she nursed him backwards how did he see it exactly maybe just so happened to see it was like his style it was a millisecond they bumped sometimes says I don't know sometimes I remember the emergency ones Karen's office exactly thank you the governor says how did he see this woman he was walking in a corner and they bumped into each other and caught a fight whatever there's different things or some Macarena want to say that we learned in the gemara and that would be like shura if he took her on his shoulders and danced with her so there's a music that a godo could could look okay foreign the game are going to see different Jews around the world they're going to say ish the ish you you don't belong here let me take you up territory I'm gonna I'm gonna establish you I'm gonna take you back territory um we just spoke about him whether you're born in Arizona whether you're dying to see her this role Israel illegally and the Turks caught him and they wanted to deport him back to Europe so he said what do you mean I was born here so they said okay so swear let's see if you can swear so he sent the ruggage off a question he says could I swear falsely it's also he has to say shemashem you can say here take a tire swear you're not going to swear just because you want to live in Arizona so Robert brought him this right here from Iron Hill model of he says it says then a person who yearns to be in their disrupt as if he was born in Israel that's what the posix says it's just you love the ball you were born there says what do you mean you're born there it means even a person who's a mitsapularisa the posix says you were born there you could swear that you're born a nerves Israel all right I saw that in the resolution and give him credit I saw that adif Inon one person from America's role is greater in his in his harifas his sharpness and his pickles as Rashi then two of us bablim that's why maybe I have a headache to learn by myself if you're an artist Israel in the khus you have to learn maybe if United Israel I could use this Heather I don't know one is equal to foreign thank you says huh no he looked down at them he says look at you like oh and they're destroy all together yeah only two people only them are brought down in shots and both of them made Aliyah they both came from Bothell they used that lotion it says the mishna foreign foreign she had movement when she was still an arusa still engaged in her father's house now Donuts is on the father I've talked Lobby Rayo mission is that it happened it happened after she got engaged and he lost out his field was ruined Nicholas others was about but once she comes to the to the husband's roshos now it's on the husband to prove child that they were there before she got engaged and therefore it's a magnetos he doesn't have to give Exuma so in other words we're fighting over the soup over here if the father wants the superfer's daughter he has to prove that the movement happened after she got engaged and they happened under the domain of the husband if the husband wants to get out of his super once he's married he has to prove that it happened before they were engaged every roommate these are things that he couldn't figure out before he got married for things that are out there in the open he can't have a claim Rashi seems that this is here Tyson says remayer would agree to this he's not going to argue on it if it's a mumps what is he going to say it's hard to understand Rashi if Rashi argues entices we had these Allah if there's a bath house a communal bathhouse he could send people that he knows to check out her mom should be say sir and he has no claim we just turned our inhalement base sponsored in honor of Yankee Bama Moishy horn in honor my uncle says so this is a classic Immortal question from the racist management one thing from the safest mashem from the ratio it says that it the father has to bring Uriah but if he doesn't bring the riot what happens and he doesn't have to pay super the husband money all the way in the beginning we have the question a person says he got married to the woman and she's not absula she says you know when it happened yes I'm not Absolut of my skin it happened after we got engaged do we trust her or not trust her we're going to be talking about four kazakas that are possible over here here's the first one means I have a body I was born absula so you proved that I'm not absula same thing we have a person uh um a person we're not talking about movement that people were born with because if they were born with it nobody would have an argument you can't argue with the father and the father can argument the whole she was born without a hand you see that she was born a certain way ears giant ears whatever it is can't say it happened after she got engaged so we're talking about a mom that happened later on in life but a person is the status quo over her body it was it was with animal so you prove when the moon happened she could tell the husband oh see they don't have questions to go figure according to review factors we don't care that she was born absula he says we don't trust you in other words there's no heskasagov this there is no status quo the body status quo okay this is also something called there's money here that's owed aksuba has that fit into the picture or for carrot he the husband is holding on to the money of the Suba it's his money you want to take it out of him you have to prove something but he has money so that the ratio so here's Jessica's moment green money is gonna win says the gamar like this Emma safe if she gets married the husband has to bring the riot time of the might say about right it's only because if he can't bring a riot then it goes back to the to the Father the Father the fathers believe the son of becomes [Music] so now we have a problem we have oration to say for let's see if I have this no okay the race she goes like the save it just went like groomingham Leo that this is yeah yeah you're right it's broken we have a race and one doesn't go like the other okay one goes like I'm sure one goes like it's not good to say that in one Mission a half goes like this one half goes like the other one they contradict each other foreign that he owes the money so it's one against the other blue against Green Green wins then I don't go however foreign you have a white on your hand and one of the Simone of the Nega that Saras it has two hears in it when did The Hears appear the ears appeared as the Apostle says [Music] the hair came into the white part in other words the white was there before the year it Bears playing with Sarah love on Tommy then the person is Tommy IM Sarah the two white hairs were there before the white spot tar Suffolk what if we don't know what happened first Thomas comes with Yeshua says no this is a goof a body usually doesn't have terras so what do you see when does any hold of when there's something against its moment or something else this is another sort of here called when do we find it where do we find it wherever we found it that's when it happened if we found the mum by the father's house let him prove it in other words the mishnah the entire business why is the entire steering wheel it's better for us to say this because we possibly give him Leo so he says is important but over here if we find the mom by the father foreign but if we found the moon in the in the husband's domain that's his problem Solutions if they get engaged and they get married the husband has to proved that the moon was there before they got engaged and there was a magnetos actually thesaurus but as a bio now it has nothing to do with engagement in that engagement that's to do where you found it if you found the mom in the husband's house when he when she was already married them then it's Austin's problem so what does it have to do with engagement and not engagement I actually like the desires in Mr Tara's law after the engagement not by my limbo Khan into kanoi Rob as far as we found the where in the father's house so who cares when she got engaged it was before after Malay mission to sarso after she got engaged up another hazaka in red there's another status quo a person doesn't drink from a cup anybody that drinks from a cup looks inside first doesn't like what he sees takes another cup so a person has Nothing questions this guy he must have checked her out by raw and he saw the mom vinipayasu and he was okay with it tomorrow if that's the case actually Thor's not me so then what's the difference even before if the moon happened before he accepted upon himself person doesn't give in to Mom a moment something he can't get over movement this is here now check out this chart we have to we we said four has office here we have two against one because are on the girl side and we have another on the guy's side what about Jessica's moment says Rashi it's insignificant I made it very small we don't care about it it's not important when it comes against these kazakis we we don't consider it at all so we have two against one so when cf2 gets one what wins the two times but you have one against it the purple comparative foreign you're the only guy waiting there 'll be my heart actually this is now if the boom happened before she got engaged she ruined there's no status quo she had a boom on her body way before when she was born you know before she got engaged so what do you lose you lose the blue look what happens if you lose the blue so you lose the blue now it's one against the one [Music] Michael uh pull out the moment now to be two against one fine let's stop right over here at boys I have a wonderful day