Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 71 by R’ Eli Stefansky

i don't want to forget this because as i was walking up the stairs i got a text message from reprime stegg from lakewood he said that the question that i asked yesterday in the video is actually rebellious question just send it to them as i was walking up the stairs so i don't want to forget and rebellious says maybe ahusabo and i said i told somebody this yesterday also we said i said in chair navi so yeah nothing knew that he knows the answer and he asked them anyway okay fine i also wanted to mention yesterday that there's a little bit of a remiss in the question he asked him there's his situation okay when we learn the next cycle we'll talk about it you better be careful that's going to be on that's going to be okay was amazing having you along for the ride up front and in the flight deck a boy said he's a jet flying was way better learning tire with you at flight level 43 000 and scanning those instruments all the best things captain benjamin marks and captain kaz two from pilots 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he's such a character had everyone uncontrollably laughing by the shabbos chevy bronchus now it makes sense that he did the khalita thing and wore shaytal at the see him please find attached clippers saying good morning where a boy is at the wedding kid said it's unique to have avi factor saying good morning boys he says and this clip was taken after drinking a little duh looking forward to coming next weekend hashem to mdy and rbs for the first time with the only simche salmon here we go [Applause] now you know if you ever hear that longer ah you know where it's coming from right over there [Music] listen to this this is mo landy's favorite saying he says that kramer's philosophy of not giving too much is similar to that of investing legend warren buffett who plans to donate 99 of his fortune to charity rather than passing it on to his kids listen to this line you ready bhava prefers to give his children enough so that they can do anything but not enough that they can do nothing just 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seaport joseph lillian ishmael shanna bass mauricio leo then should have been a leo all right you have the place actually so we have three cases in the mishnah a person makes a nether we're starting the durham a little bit he makes a vow and he tells his wife you can't have any hana from my possessions nothing that's case number one so if it lasted lasts for 30 days so okay you should put a paranoid somebody in charge to feed her ask the gemara the obvious question he hired him he's paying a guy to feed his wife so what's the difference if he feeds he gives her food directly or he tells reuben to give her food he doesn't tell him directly he says it beremus if if you're going to feed my wife you should know it's going to be worth it for you okay stick around you're not going to lose any massive you're not going to lose isn't that being direct now i have to say this story because i haven't said it since mr shabas and a lot of people are not here weren't here during himself shabbos but my father loves the story he's telling me the story like at least once a week so i can tell to you once every two years maybe i did say just a month ago who knows there was a guy whose lights were off in his house so he goes outside and he looks for for a shop is going so i did say it how long ago it was mama it feels like yesterday no he also is looking the other way look at him the other way he's like i don't want to hear the story okay i said it okay i'll say it again love you there's nothing else under that so not the jokes and yes it is fine so he he looks at the shop is good and finally he sees a gevalica shop as a guy with the tattoos the whole thing he says okay come on in i have i have a favorite new what do you need he says listen it's very dark here yeah i noticed it's mama's just very dark so yeah but you know we're jewish and can't turn on the lights and wow this crazy real crazy laws you guys have said no yeah i knew knew what you know again it's dark i can't do it but you could do it so i know like it's crazy you're you i'm not jewish you do it okay fine finally he says you know what turn on the light he says a mirror lock him awesome okay this is one of those software guys that went off to derek and he decided to play stick with the guy wanted to see how long will it take for him to be macaulay say it out straight okay so over here i have no idea why i said the mice but we go back to now so over here also he said it in a certain way that it's still slightly tell a guy in this way that way was not a guy is about to die he realizes he's not getting out of this he fell in and nobody could save him he says if you hear me yesterday i want you to write a get from my wife so she doesn't have to follow yeebo harelu based on he didn't tell somebody specific he said in general but we write so you see that it's considered it's considered the only way somebody could write a get for somebody else if you make him a shaliah you manage him over here by just saying a general thing to the public is considered what's the comparison possum he made a command he said right if you hear me write again me comment he didn't say feeder he said call us on if you feed her you're not going to lose asking my calling [Music] if somebody has a fire on chavez so you could say anybody that comes in otherwise is talking to the non-jews anybody that comes and puts out the fire you're not going to lose but but it says bidleicher only in a fire isn't that coming to exclude our case of another with leicester so in a fire to save my stuff i allow it but to feed my wife it's awesome it's coming to nothing to do with the rest of the tire not talking about nadar we are talking about shabbos shabbos people go wild when there's a fire like i mentioned i'll mention again this i actually didn't mention within the last month but i was in a hotel on chat on yantev and there's a massive fire in the dining room and people went crazy they started stomping each other and and i saw a mother running over on children it becomes sugar people they panic now you got to panic also when you see that all your belongings all your money is going up in flames so you start making a terror into yourself you stop being mario didn't say it's awesome who wouldn't want me to lose my he started copying stuff so he said in that case you're in a panic you gotta call a guy you're allowed to call out and have other people but you cannot say hey whoever plows my field you should know you're not gonna lose whoever builds my house and does construction today and fixes my bathroom you're not going to lose that's awesome in a case where there's a big half said we made a hat there but nothing to do with the door room don't bring it right from here to our case when a person says feed my wife somebody said roofing says shimon i don't like him i don't want to have anything to do with him he can't have anything from my possessions he can't eat in my house he can't take my food up but then he looks at his friend and he starts having rahmanus he says wait shimon is not doing well i really wish i didn't make such another it's kind of late i have harato i want to feed him what do i do rabbi say this is one of my favorite stories that ribayaki friedman from the shivam beta over here one of my favorite yeshivas also because they finish an entire mesefa every year they're the whole issue they learn crazy asmada and they know it they learn beyond it's not because they learn the entire day like ahmed but they learn and learn they're all masculine they know themselves he told me a mice and shy that there was a certain person i don't want to give it away because maybe the guy is watching this year certain individual who had a nice amount of money and that individuals his let's say his son married another person's daughter that person that had a daughter was right the the wealthy guy he made fun of him he he told people stories about him he he destroyed this guy tried to destroy him wherever he went he used to say what a russian my makuta is bhava one day the makutan was making a shadow and he couldn't do the off like it was very hard he needed an apartment and it was a great guy and his enemy is not doing well with the shidduch he knows he heard that the is going to fall apart so this guy that was the near-death the one that was being made fun of and had money he went to this rush of shiva and he said listen i'm giving you i hope i'm not giving the story away i'm giving you money to buy an apartment on condition that my major never finds out about it he doesn't know it's me his enemy he gave money for the whole apartment his enemy through him and i went to another rov with another thing and all of a sudden the guy the rabbi called him up says listen somebody we had a thing at the yarusha here's an apartment for free and they go wow and he kept on making fun of the guy and everything else over here you have a guy that's mother and now from him but he says he wants to do mativa he wants to feed him so what do you do but his mother now he's not allowed to even somebody made a net there they also said either it's the whole world heard it's on these screens watch you'll say we'll get it out it's up to you tomorrow you won't be able to do that i don't care i know exactly very of them asked like who nice and larry the guy that has the money let's say the guy that made the nether he goes to a shopkeeper her ugly let's like that he knows him the melody is many that guy doesn't have any food and i am not allowed to give him food hinting tint very damn and i have no idea what to do i can't give him food so the guy hops the hint who knows in life the shopkeeper gives him food gives him whatever he needs and then he comes back to the guy that told him to do so yeah is the story understood now how logically the rich guy doesn't have to pay the shopkeeper he told him listen i don't know what to do so shopkeeper understands he didn't tell him straight out so logically he doesn't have to but he pays him back that's okay even though he's mother i know he said i'll never allow that guy to benefit from me [Music] only in this case it's motor why because he didn't he didn't say whoever feeds that guy i i'm you're not going to lose he said i don't know what to do he was very indirect hong kong you have to be a big a big genius like the storekeeper and know that the guy is wealthy he pays me on time he'll pay me for this also i will call it a massive light but to scream out in the street and say whoever feeds my wife is not going to lose that's too much it's direct it says more limited by a coma loyal body called zoning to maps of the alma coma not only in a case where he means it to the whole world apple high keeping the rug let's say because of the commercial commando valley at dummy no so we're trying to say no even in the case the worst case possible digmar is now saying that going to a shopkeeper is even more direct than just screaming in the street screaming the street no but they go to the shopkeeper and say listen you know i pay on time he doesn't say it but that's what he's inferring over he says when was the last time i was late on a bill you know i have a i have a standing credit with you in the mac call it i'm telling you so and so needs food doesn't have what to eat i can't help him out because i have uh everybody puts 101 together and he's going to go this is very direct i think in that case you're not allowed to do it marshmallow even in that case there's not a lot of benefit from somebody else hijacked the company so someone else goes to the store keeper that's playing with that if any of them actually i don't know how to do it who knows and lawyers at the store keeper gives him food and he comes and he collects from the guy that told him the story basically he doesn't know where to live but they really aren't defense this is the elixir and the plow or whatever do his field joy look it's he goes to his own tractor guys the farmers and he says listen there's another guy over there down the block i can't help him out but um i have a nether i can't do it hey noisy mimo they could build this fence they can build this house oh buy him the neighbors then they come and collect from this guy what if their three guys are walking they're they're on a trip and one of them runs out of food but the guy that wants to give him food there's a there's a nether between the two of them they can't he can't he said i'll never give you food you're terrible guy noise so the one who has food gives to the middle guy his food he says listen i'm giving you my sandwich as a gift you do whatever you want to do with the sandwich and he'll understand that he means take the sandwich it's a gift and give it to the guy that doesn't have food and if he doesn't if there's no if it's only two of them he puts the sandwich on a stone and he says this is hefc he screams out to the to the to the coyotes to the birds whoever wants there's nobody there in the middle of the desert whoever wants a sandwich could come take it and the guy so becomes hefcker and it's mutter you know this is this is real trickery before it's mama matan i'm giving him a ton of health care so this is like what uh daily used to do during corona i never did it take your pot what yeah with three people i'm saying hefke is not so good of course uh it's a machoist first of all okay yeah first of all healthcare is a shy law when does it become after when somebody else takes it or when i say it so we pass you when i say it but this is real trickery well it's half gary a certain person he used to do this all the time take his buy bread or caleb put her in his porch my caleb our hefcker for the next two minutes if you want to come take it take it he knows nobody's coming to take it and if you can't take it it'll chop your head off so so that's healthcare what that's where you put it i hear i didn't see but he put it on his whatsapp and if nobody else is there [Music] okay sir why on my rava my time in the review what's the what's the reason that it's awesome mice at the base hoyron i feel like cheers over now now this is where we usually get wow okay we'll do another dab myself is hard so what happened was basically a terrible story maybe it's not so terrible a guy was getting married this part of the story is certainly terrible a guy's married with his son and this guy had a fight with his father and he said told his father your mother know for me you'll never have anything to do with me my children you can never eat by me so you certainly can't come to my son's wedding uh now all of a sudden he starts having a lot of karate so what does he do the father of the husson goes to his friend and says listen the hall all the food in the hall everything everything i'm giving to you as a gift because and he tells him because i want my father to be able to come to the wedding says this guy i don't like your stick you're sticking my hair this is not this is not a we're we go straight you're giving it to me thank you i just gave it to the base of mikdash it's all the best i mean it's all koi this could take this so now nobody can come to your casa now was he being a mean guy not really he's trying to make a point is it really mine you really mean 100 percent of the money well if it's really mine give the business hell am i you're lying you're not giving it to me you just want your father to come to hasana and what do they passkin they're passing yes in fact he doesn't have the right to give it to haggadah because he told him specifically i'm only giving to you on condition that it that my father could come so was it trickery the guy was right the guy knew it was it was the time of so mellow over here also that's our concern concern is that this is trickery that's that's why we don't go ahead this is everybody understands you only being mafia sandwich because you want the other guy to eat it that's not healthcare review though that's one way to learn so we have the beginning of the mishnah right this case that a person says my wife is not for me she can't have anything says review though and the tanaka says you get 30 days remember the lotion 30 days cubs of even says if you're you saw a woman if you're a kai in two months ask the gimmara nutanakama now of course review the added something and he said if you're italian two months that's a big critic but why did he have to repeat that the israel is one quite this you just should have said tanaka says 30 days contributing says yeah but if you're kind we give you an extra month because you can never get back with your wife why does it have to repeat it this is about you're right a little bit of a problem your cash is a good question his only hiddish is the coin you're asking me why did he repeat it no sometimes you repeat things just you know with the flow he's going with the flow rather doesn't like that rufus says why did he repeat it this must be a reason why he said he says i'll tell you why it's very different tonic comment says 30 days very specific 30 days review this says even a month that is 29 days it's about a month it's not about the days sometimes months have 29 days and that's also too much for this woman so some months it depends some months you wait 30 days and then give a gift someone's 29 days omarov when he says and you bring a piranhas for 30 days that's only when he says specifically how many days it is but if he just says without saying how long you it's everything suba so now here i have a little bit of a chart not that it's necessary but okay whoa here we go so from one day to 30 days there's no much like this everybody agrees if he says specifically your mother another for five days for 29 days whatever it is that everybody agrees you don't have to divorce your wife everybody also agrees that if a person says 31 days 92 days you have to divorce we have it is here what if he didn't it wasn't farish he didn't say he didn't say how many days he just says your mother now mother no means forever but when do you have to divorce her after 30 days do you get the 30 days that you get in a regular case of when a person says you're if a person does his wife your mother for me for 32 days so he waits 30 days and then divorces her but he waits 30 days so if a person says for me basically forever so you should also wait 30 days maybe or no since anyways you're getting divorced get divorced and they're number one so we have if he doesn't say an amount of days out of eating super right away on day one if he doesn't say how many days his mother not his wife loyality wait 30 days shall we interpret israel maybe he'll have some sort of way to get out of it and see if i would have known xyz i wouldn't have done it asked him why would raven shmuel argue the same thing twice they don't do that there must be a reason what's the majority that's the same exact thing it's not hamada we had this literally 10 days ago if a person tells his wife i'm not having a relationship with you anymore now we said already that he can't do that right because he has a gifter but he could say that he won't have enough from it and that will be a problem then it will be hal says so we learned bishop is up to two weeks it's okay you don't get divorced if he said specifically how many days but if you didn't see how many days it obviously means more than two weeks so give her a get today don't wait two weeks like in the case the the the extreme case even more than that give her a get right away don't let her go after a week according to basilica two weeks ago michelle shamim himself maybe they'll get out of the nether so why do they have to have mahogany in two different cases if it only says so therefore if you can't tell the slayer you have to divorce right away al-baha but by feeding her there shall be paranos she's not so uptight about it what's the big deal okay so he's not going to feed her but he's going to send the shliyaak by screaming in the street whoever whoever gives you pronounce it's not going to lose there's a way out of it that you don't have to divorce right away beat me behind if we only said the case in our case of that his mother anna from balcoma if a person tells his wife you can't have strawberries chocolate now rashi in the mishna over there yesterday explained to us the mascot of the mark what was the happy mean of the gemara that a person says well he can't say think about you can't say you cannot eat strawberries nobody has the right on anybody else's mouth you can't say you can't do this but you could say if you have a strawberry then i won't have relations with you i won't whatever he could say another like that so [Music] we call it you like if you think subah he has to give her aksuba give her a get when immediately now we have two cases we just said the k we're talking about the case where a person says a mother hannah from all of my nakasa that's case number one now we're talking about just strawberries one pre i could say when it's talking about when you have to get divorced right away by the fruit by the strawberries because they didn't say it wasn't specific how many days can't be me farish but when he says like in the beginning of the mishnah when he says irish how many days so there's enough communion between i'm a fighter why do i have two cases in the mishnah says what happened was she made another and he said okay again she was asking she said if i eat this i'm answering cashews on you and the husband said good go ahead with it right now because it's up to her and she wants to get divorced so over here rashi points out that when he makes the net there he is looking for a pesach he's looking for an opening but over here it's her he's not she's not looking for an opening audrey became loyal because now we have to just be familiar with this terminology who knows by means it's his fault here's the picture if we have ah who noi sen means it's his fault he nasta means it's her fault who knows what does it literally mean he took her finger put it in her mouth and she bit her finger off bitter finger now what do you mean it's her fault but she bit her finger yeah but you put it in there so it's your fault so whose fault is it it could go both ways over here she made a nether she did something very bad she bit her finger she made another who started it who whose fault is it it's the husband's fault you could look at it because he was making it he said it's a good nether he could have been he could have said no i'm annoying it it's going to go through all the tanoin three in our mission though we have three telematic mishna we have ramayana reviewed the review i see and plus there's a fourth town and called riba lazar and we're gonna go through three of them for them and see if they actually hold who's faulted it is it really his fault the sovereign mayor who knows we learned a woman who says i'm never gonna drink wine again in my life bishop mabala and her husband heard about it the lehigh says yeah you know what it's it's good i'm having issues with with her and she's going to aaa the whole thing she's little drinking problem she made another good stick with it we got to pay attention now just remember it's two two against two remember you though they both say he knows knights of a machine ah so you see here mayor now it's interesting because in our mission we don't have the name ruby mayor we have the name rev yehuda we have the name rabioisi we don't have a mayor because mishnah in all of shas a mishnah without a name is remy mayor so the beginning of the mishnah says is remar okay so how could you say there were mayor holds that it's his fault over here you see the same exact case when she met an ad there it's her fault he knows that's what machine learn says gemara if he doesn't if he says i don't like women who make the daughter tasty so it's her fault it's completely her fault her fault she doesn't deserve aksuba and the other two rabbi i see very lazy who knows it's his fault for you he could be mommy if he says i don't like women who make nadar you like to be thinking super since it's his fault he has to give her so let's just take a look at this chart for a second over here it says that remember holds hinos now you see remember she's the one at fault it's ribbons said that it's his fault this is the original bryce i mean korea i wrote this is the original bracelet this is how it says two against two right sullivar says you gotta do one of these okay actually remember it says our mishnah who knows and it's his fault okay but let's take rabbi icy riviera see now is in the column of it's her fault he knows no that's not true why but we learned yesterday if she's poor and she's she made another there's another that she's not going to wear perfume her husband said okay i'm asking to the ned there so if it was unlimited forever then divorce but what do you see that she made the nether he was quiet whose fault is it his so if it's his fault it's who neisen it's his fault so why are you putting herbicide under the hinos in the column yeah it's his fault why is it his fault because he's became the neder so it's his fault so what's what's the kumar's answer going to be over here where's the answer is uh no so this is the original fine okay you add a little bit to the other column so you have all the tanoy minera mishna so it has to go like this sorry this chart this chart okay sorry it's this shark you're right remember we proved before it says hunison and we just proved bibiac says it's his fault who knows so hey let's two guns two what we have to do is before remember though against republican vladimir we're switching the names a little bit around it's remember be honest it's a new peer okay hey mermaid [Music] let's go to the third one does he hold it it's her fault in the case of you're not going to taste any strawberries inaudible your mouth again she made the nether and he made he said what did he do he didn't do anything either he he wasn't made for it he's making the nether it becomes his fault so why is reviewed in the column of it's her fault emma remember the review i see okay now you have to go to this one i ruined the whole thing now it's three against one you're right rem okay so it's three against review now the problem is but look let's go back to the original bryce there's a rise those pairs two against two not only are you changing up names but you're also changing the amount of names per mahleikas and that doesn't sit well with me says the gemara so what you're gonna have to do is remember so let's do it like this remember laws are against what just happened wow okay let me go here remember and loser are on the column against review the review i see remembering [Music] and if then if that's the case look at what calendar mayor's on hinasana what's our mishna who neusen everybody in our ministry is and it's her fault so it comes after mayor is not our missionary usually our mishnah it doesn't say who it is no mayor but it doesn't say who it is it can't be remarried today says in kitsu so in the case the last case of the mission that a person made a nether she made another she's not going gonna wear perfume and when she's poor if it's forever divorced alma baumbots and mafer so we have everybody thinks right we're going into mistaken dorms everybody thinks there's a general clout that if a woman makes another a wife makes another the husband he's the boss if he wants he could be mafia it's not true the kimura says this is a pasuk and says in the position that's the key word it has to be inunefish what does the eating efficiency mean pain it's physically painful it's ishay kimeno you show over here doesn't mean a woman it means the husband isha the husband is going to be either say that it's okay or not but it's only when it's lani snowfish is that our case not established she can't wear perfume is that so painful yeah okay almost put on perfume not perfume or maybe i see and then comes okay so here the camera says it is you never realize your arguments that's not considered some of them is not considered such a terrible thing what is steaks i drink wine usually this guy should be a big day savannah i'm not going to wear nice clothing in other words it's a big design she's going to wear dress what is it called what up shmatus whatever it's design so just explain it when the says that the only way you could shave is if you use the special cream you put on and you just you take like a like something sharp not a not a blade but like uh you know something has an edge a little bit and the hair comes off that's so that he says that's a machine could be a a tar so when i was younger fourth and fifth i used to use it so for my brother's bar mitzvah i said i'm gonna i need a really close shave so i left it on a little bit longer than necessary i came to the bar mitzvah is the i mean i i wish i could have a picture i'm sure this picture that i didn't read like it just took off it went all the way down to the to the meat to the it just came right off it's like everything i was like red tomato all hair okay so that's what we're talking about jamar says there's something called sama masher and this means anything that has to do with intimacy with relations at the same time it's basam so what does bassam have to do with intimacy so it's in those days if you know the story of plagueis we give uh different different things tomorrow there's different things in the gemara they were very concerned about cyrus that could be very damaging so if she makes a nether not to use this sam that removes hair it could be damaging to him during relations that's what bloomberg understands so it's a combination of benellivena and kishort in honor of yankee baum and moisha horn bro in honor of my uncle rebel khan and president we got to talk about this one sponsor so yeah especially this one this one is like a megillah in honor of my uncle rebecca pressman as this close for a year filled with muslims but i'm chopping this down to half you heard it it's from your nephew okay [Music] should we know okay again this is and if it's something to do with their relations then the husband according to one month are you could be mayfair el manuel and about mayfair but he doesn't if according to madonna says he doesn't have a right a fox has never died in his own foxhole in other words the husband is very familiar with the territory so we're not concerned that he's going to get damaged over there zombaelo he doesn't have the right to be made for such another a lot of my skin on we're talking about going to tolino but we're talking about perfume we're not talking about cyrus or whatever we're talking about regular perfume but she said she it was it was a deny in the perfume if i don't wear perfume if i wear perfume sorry if i wear perfume then tashmash is going to be awesome so it is dwarf and it's kisho now that exactly is a let's see how that works if i if the woman says i assure myself on you over here doesn't mean literally forcefully it just means what you're saying is not true just like a husband of aina to the wife the wife has a heel to him also it goes both ways so she doesn't have a right halaqualy to ask herself on him however hannah over here is different this is similar to what we were discussing the entire time she says you you're not user but i am not going to enjoy i'm not going to benefit from you that's a problem she could answer on herself benefit any any kind of ana machinima now he just became the offer oh very good thank you he must annul the nether because otherwise he's in a big trouble here why because you can't force a person to eat something that they themselves made at us in themselves ask the gemara what's the problem void discussion relate to us what happened there whatever was she used toilet perfume antachmish she said if i'm going to wear perfume then attachment becomes awesome so don't wear perfume ribbiosis is the one that says remember i asked the question if a person says i'm not going to wear perfume is that indian efficient not a lot of people said depends for oh okay but according to reality he says it's not indianaphish remember the older in the bottom of a medal he says it's not a big deal she doesn't have to wear perfume for the rest of her life not everybody agreed with that but the tanaka said like you guys and ruby i see argue but review argues so what's forcing her into the nether the only thing is forcing her or another is if she wears perfume then the nether is hot so don't worry perfume says people are going to call her a menova look at rashi unbelievable here in ken karla novelis right next to this line of gemara the vasu and if people insult her mikasha she's going to break her nether peer pressure mammoth like teenagers it's unbelievable what kids do because their friends are going to look at them a certain way they don't care about the parents but hello the friends over here also i don't care about my husband i don't get rid of shem i made another oh but if that lady is going to call me a maneuver i'm going to have to break my nether okay in parallel with with the ulcer why does he have to give her divorce right away let him wait a little bit like everything else like in the case of the first case of the mission if he says your officer and all my belongings you wait 30 days why does he have to give her a get that minute at least one week says if he made the net there like i explained yesterday everybody loved it if he makes an editor so she could rationalize it and say the server he had a a little bit of a temper issue of a ami imagine he'll calm down tomorrow but over here when she made a ned there and he very calmly said to her you're right you have to go on a diet so my mela sovereign ish or he was quiet miss know who decidedly he must hate me he wasn't upset at me and i told him i'm making a net there we're never gonna have relations and he looks at me like this so melo i want a divorce right away says i want to tell you this line that he says he says tik vastu isha what a woman yearns in this world sheila balsha ayava all she wants is one thing they should have a husband that loves her um and when it's not she doesn't have a husband that loves her or she thinks like that cause writes beautifully and he's very very mercator so what do you mean over it's close to being piccolo so somehow said because if he wrote people if a poor lady doesn't have and a lot of times she says i'm i'm never going to wear perfume but she doesn't say how long but there is some limit right become a kids youth if it's more than 12 months let's say get divorced like a life sentence we know in america life's like 20 years 25 years no life sentence is 12 12 months or 10 years she came beneath the strong miscarriage it's one yantef because that's when everybody puts on perfume purpose what's this 30 days by a wealthy one why 30 maybe 15 maybe 35 because this perfume is very very strong and less for 30 days have a wonderful day you