Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 70 by R’ Eli Stefansky

just want to read a couple names here well more than a couple we're at 4 600 i'm rumi leibowitz i want to go brother good morning i'm romney yehuda ludmir i think his name is i'm saying about pests 70. because he's in a different part of this chart moisture rivkin vermin wow jack worman nathan harris steven rand morty rasby yes joseline david sultan david carno i think it is i can't read car no you'll save cr corn oh that's his name david carno shkoyak idalia waldman here's a big one hershey weinberger zalman jaffee uri fine the whole time step is nida david cohen you remember uri his brother used to come every day back in uh nige it's hollander shraga melnick parrot's rappaport we're almost done with boise glenn ackerman 18 daff okay now we go to the emails it's a big day today big day no but check this video out do you have a oh i have to do this i don't all right so here we go the the the shiva guy contractors again but pay good attention the guy all the way closest in the screen pay good attention to him this might be the last time you see him [Music] okay unfortunate situation happened but we'll get into a few minutes in a few minutes we'll talk about it dear belly i have a video proof of the home is a customer of mine jb jacob was on a flight to fort lauderdale a bunch of yeshiva guys started from the front of the plane allowed to get in on the plane they started from the front of the plane great story and they went through the entire plane asking people if they want to do the daf with rebelli and if they want to put on filling no that was my i get a free gemara the phenomena that you start is like nothing else i thought it's great double feinberg he's in the house today believe it or not where are you david we miss you by the way i know you just love having your stories verified and corrected since my wife is a friend of the subject of the shapeless story that you referenced on matsi chavez daff 980 yeah i think we made a little i took it off the um americas we said we already got to a thousand days but it's not 100 accurate we got to go with david when it comes to i referred again in the day in 983 kisser this is how the story really went down and this is like the story i keep on saying that a guy said when you uh returned the broom i lent you you returned the broken he said first of all i never borrowed a broom from you second of all when i returned it was fixed third of all it never broke the kids are one of those here it is first of all the story of the shaytan wasn't in israel was in a jersey second it wasn't a gun it was a knife third they didn't shoot the guy when she was taken hostage during the bank robbery in new jersey he was holding onto her hair he thought and then she under the clips and she ran for her life and he couldn't stab her so mellow that's how she saved her life great story on its original form too that having a trouble with a gun and they killed a guy rabbi seplowitz says the story about the dhaka distribution the sophomore reminded me of an experience i had a cable rock called several years ago so many years from away from american soil company called the rockhold synthetic i was overwhelmed by the duchess and tears were rolling down my cheeks in the middle of my filos a hand was thrust into my face with a request for zakka i was devastated why couldn't i why can't he wait until i finished diving he killed my carvana and now i couldn't get it back back in the states a friend of mine suggested that i should look at it differently he said we aren't hush enough to have our tears accepted on their own did it ever occur to you that maybe was sending you an opportunity to further elevate your feels by a company known as dhaka i saw that the next time it would be different on my next retire to stroll designate a packet full of 510 chateau coins and readily give to anybody approach me so there i was back at cable rachel i began to dive and again my moroccan worked through magic on me and i began to cry as he dived suddenly from my left a hand was stuck into my face requests with dhaka without missing a beat i put my hand into my pocket took some money and placed it into the hand you're not going to believe this rabbi the same man who had asked me for this duck a few years before sometimes hashem gives you a second chance i said that that was my audition be well rebellion thanks for all i have seen muncie new york reminds me of this another story i don't know if i have the story right the guy is rabbit told him that if he goes to the mikvah and does xyz for 40 days straight oh yeah i know he'll come to him so there he is waiting on the fourth day and the guy knocks on his door and makes him sugars he said get out of there when he fell in another and he comes to the river he says and that was he's at cabo rocco he's dying to hashem you know if he comes to him because get out of here you're ruining my cavanaugh it's promised a story unbelievable iron charming i'm wondering if you know of any mdy coil guys harusa in the flatbush area arun it's a great idea i mean we thought about it one day there will be satellite mdy kyluma all over the world but for now we're just not going to go to the other guy's idea get a cabrus online somewhere all right rabbi said this month's sponsor for the kylo the success of our family that we married to oyster hashem themselves is sponsored by official missile motivators for slam i should say reformed shlaimah from nashville reforest leima who's back home baruch hashem finally out of the hospital just that alone is being in the hospital for weeks at a time second sponsor or first bouncer of the month ii the mdy family lingers from scissors all right his father told me today that he's catching up he did five daf already and at the ten but he's i shouldn't worry he's holding with the islam the third one by the lack of olympic families like new jersey because teresa's best gula rufus leima parana sahidis before islamic and this one i'm not sure did you put this on in purpose to hoodie newman's choice hoodie newman in honor of south africa send rebelli home safe and sound that's what he wants to say okay i don't care whatever hoodie newman in honor of ellie wearing the tie i bought him in june june july august i know he gave it to somebody to my daughter i don't know he gave it to my daughter was doing the here ad i think that was one of the stories unbelievable that's what he did okay i hear elton pressman in honor of rebelli and yehuda and rifki pressman's bihar baby boy and then he writes hummus sheer please nothing oh i have to open this up a gift another gift who's sponsoring this it's on it's going well i feel it you're gonna need to see when you see the video soon that i took by mistake of that contractor guy wow wow what is this this is from ellie dykman from brooklyn this better be a good one whoo how do you open this thing okay it's packed your teeth yeah tier 4 is 2006 my friends 2006. wow that is hush of if you guys know what your tier forest is you know what 2006 is wow this is for you what who's coming for chavez all right guys [Music] why today we're going to see how the daf could save your life and not learning the daf could cost you your life says the mishna hamashiach we have the official mission sponsored by moishiko and the libertarian continent a person sees that he's dying by the mishna yeah we're a little bit behind so a person make somebody in charge of his assets and he says i want you my daughter buy her a feel buy her something etc and after she gets married via mares and she says you could trust my husband trust me he's a great guy there's a reason why i married him you don't have to purchase the field you just go ahead give him the cash cash is king why why go through the whole process buying a field then we're going to have to sell in it just give him the cash he's a great guy he's not going to use the cash for himself he's going to take care of me there's a mitzvah kind of me says ribby mayor when a person is dying even not that he said to do so but there's a middle of the kind of amaze so the mayor he must purchase the field ruby what's going on here what is he going to accomplish he's going to buy a field and then she's going to sell it harry mccormack should just pretend that never happened just give her the cat give her the cash why should she go through just because the father admits it to do exactly what he said those words and at any rate she she needs cash and it's her right to sell the field and she's going to sell the field and get the cash she'll give you the cash up front you should know that can't do anything and think amar is going to explain what this is referring to [Music] so basically it seems like this is the same case that we just learned just a different wording he's he's buying he's telling a third party another guy take care of my daughter i'm leaving this world take care of her buy her a nice field so that her husband the hassan should also benefit from it now it's not directly to the son-in-law it's more to the daughter-in-law but the admirer calls it to the daughter but the mother calls it a son-in-law here's a trustee take care of my daughter says the gemara um huh you never know you never know how quick we do it you know no actually we went pretty long today we're waiting for you via rimers you know bali forget the field forget everything just give him the cash directly why should we go and pay brokerage fees and we're going to lose money on the whole thing just give him the money soon if she's married she could do whatever she wants she could take the cash when the aeroson if she's only engaged so over here we're saying enough communion between harrison and suen ramirez says the difference between being married and not being married if you're not married just the khala there's aeroson there's a ring but you're a coward you have to listen to the trustee whatever the trustee whatever the father told christine to do trustee does theory remain if you see everyone okay so here's the chart for a second machlak is according to every mayor it goes by marriage and not marriage so if you you have marriage it's green box check she gets the cash if they're only engaged no cash red box ruby is gonna say it's dependent on the age godoyla is good she gets the cash tan or not okay guys harrison doesn't matter whether she's married or engaged herschel's be all dull she could tell them don't buy the field i want the cash tana a baiman and soon batman harrison but if she's a katana it doesn't even matter if she's married ask the gemara might be what is the difference between the two chitos now take a look at this chart oh take a look at it and now we're going to show you one option we're going to take one out of each sheeta i'm going to go like this tana but she's married according to her mayor since it has to do with married and not married so she gets the cash according to everyone she has to do with the age since she's a tanner she doesn't get the cash that's one option says the gemara even mcdonald's there but that doesn't flow well with the rest of the mishnah because the last line we had in the mission that says that doesn't have the right to purchase do anything now who said this line element you see if it's rejoicing we're referring to now homoresion that you could already decipher from the beginning of the mistake in the mishnah what is your voice tell her mayor why should you make force the trustee the chalice to purchase a field and then she's going to go and sell the field and take the cash give it the cash directly who's going to sell the field she how could she sell the field how old is she she must be abdallah so you see that we're talking about this video has to do what the father tells him to do only if according to her mayor depending if she's a married woman or not a married woman so mina airson i'm gonna soon when she's between the two of them rebecca ramayana if she's a tana if she's tan according to everybody she doesn't get the cash so then what is the difference between two of them if everybody agrees on the red box that if she's ectano she does she can't demand the money we must listen to the father and the father said purchase the field so he purchased the field so then what does enough community and review is if she's a good doyla but it's only heirsen before we sang katana in the sun now tyler never seen okay don't come after and tell me wow the chart really helped me don't tell me that okay no i'm just talking to mandy we have a private thing going on yesterday told me the charge we were good sometimes he has something not sucked in [Music] so that is the enough community that what since she's a law according to her beyonce that's all that matters to us and she could demand the cash but according to her mayor she's not married yet she's only engaged harrison and eris and she doesn't get the cash even though she's a good dialogue fine it's my review though omar shmuel carrier that all that matters to us is whether or not she's ignoring him that love is like your mayor that all that matters to us not this one is whether she's married why because mitsula kai and dibridge may's remember holds the missile kind of remakes says gemara unbelievable story ufo zatanna called ulfa i don't know if he's he's probably not because he was together so the gemaran titus rashid brings together not the entire story well a fascinating story that rabbi yokon and ilfa were very very poor they didn't have anything so they decided to leave yeshiva go to work so they went to work on the way ribjech hears malachim saying let's kill them too why listen to this lotion we could make fun we could say we could answer this lotion as ever we want but it's a gemara it says they're leaving the eternal revenue of torah and and and trying to make a couple bucks in this world unbelievable we got to kill them they're going to work who leaves kyle to go to work gotta kill them rebecca returns to alpha he says did you hear what just happened and i'm missing a piece here i think he heard oh that one of them is going to make it big one of them is going to be a bigger shiva so he turns to he says no did you hear if he says no what are you talking about so realized that he's the one so he said i'm going back to yeshiva he went back to issue later on ilfa shows up so they told them ah what a shame what a shame you didn't come back you're the bigger time of talking about and you would have been the rest of shiva had you come back so ilfa got on to a sail mass to you know those those dr i have a video of it i could show you what he did exactly here here's a here's a mast right he went on to this thing and he said what are you saying that i went to work and i don't know how to learn i remember everything fear me if there's anything that you could ask me that i don't answer if i don't answer i'll jump and i'll drown that's his russia it's just very very strong lotion here i found this video i thought it would be interesting just to show you the the height of this thing it's so tall that could actually parachute often hold on this is the best part though that's the makashi didn't know the answer it's ad for red bull now doing red bull ads so that's a that's a uh ilfa tolan after biscay is there anybody who could come to me and tell me something the be rebecca verbe who's the famous mahabram of the brices if you could bring a braiser and give me a bryce let me master and i can't make the connection to a mission and tell you where here which i got there joshua nafilda means kyrie tavano i'm jumping off this mass and i'm killing myself i don't think whatever that means it's a very very tough lesson also usable she comes along the old man tais is in cool and i always quote it says some say that ahusab so he said okay let me try you tonally [Music] a guy says give my sons every single week their tanim their youngsters give them a shekel is a half a seller we saw what a seller is for dinarim two dinarium is one shekel i have a sellout give them every week here's all my money give them a half a half a a half a seller guru in linton sella now the prices went up he didn't realize when he died price is going to go up late maybe two years later they're only 10 years old two years later you can't afford you can't buy inflation in america you can't buy anything with that so what do you do nice little seller he didn't mean starve my kids to death he meant give them a normal allowance it's not enough give them a little bit more your mom altitude elo shekel but if he told them before he said give them now he says don't give them before he said give them a half now says don't give them more than this that means he's putting a limit a nice umbrella shackle only a shackle and who's going to support them now it's dhaka so what if a guy dies and says a guy says about himself he's dying and don't use any of my money to bury me i want the money we don't listen to them you don't say doctor should pay for his funeral he has money so here also he has money give the kids says rashi no a person on himself doesn't have the right to go and take from from zaka but a person for his children he has the right to give all his money away and that's basically what he's doing give away let's deal with it he says specifically that if his children die without children says rashi there's nobody to inherit his own children and i want as a backup plan all my money to go to so-and-so to that chill to that organization then being champion even if he says election give my children a nice mellow shackle you listen exactly to what he said because he wants the leftover to go to that organization omar lei hamani ask the old man who said it i'm asking you i'm daring you to jump if you don't know the answer you've got to jump he says remarry he answered it's remar that the guy has to listen to exactly what the father says the chalice now i have a video here a voice i very unfortunate situation a guy just did this to me last yesterday i was going by here in the neighborhood he played a trick on me here we go don't try this at home it's very good that you know good morning rabbi sites beautiful i mean it's one of the increments of daft but when are you going to really learn torah why are you going to come do the dab i don't need to do the doctor i know the entire syrup can i say what do you want i know the answer about torah and everything you know let me ask you a question how can i ask you a question if that's gonna cause you to jump off the roof that's my ability to do that how can i do something like that whoa such a good question i didn't thought about this why i didn't learn that all right anyways that guy didn't make it it's a good idea to do this everybody so everybody should learn deaf if you can learn that huh you guys didn't hear what i said over there i said what a shame you didn't do the daft eight minute death come eight minute dab eight that whatever i said okay fine describe yourself i have to say because last night at one o'clock in the morning i asked him if he could put on the subtitles he said he's he's basically sleeping but yes he'll do it and like an hour later he sent it to me so it's not partially scratched okay [Applause] nemesis no seriously when i was in base marriage i said i have to get a guy to jump off a cliff this cliff's in a stroll will do the whole thing so i go to oatmeal he actually does the daf every day with us every day this guy so i said i knew i told his brother my caruso i said if i ask your brother to go up north he won't even hesitate he'll go right now to do it just for the shear so i come in there i said hell he's the managing middle working mixing cement all thing i said i need to go up north to to do a thing because i'm in where right now i said now okay let's go he tells the cover let's go and then as he's leaving i'm not joking as he's leaving he's gonna drive five hours to video that i said you know what maybe just do it over here we'll cut it a little bit so it won't be perfect okay anyways he's still alive and well he does the death zombie mario oh so we're over here and that's i am [Music] you tell a third party buy a field he must listen um it doesn't matter what lesson the father used if he said in the positive or in the negative give them money or don't give them more than an x amount you give them whatever they need hawkeye milan asked the gemara but we passed in a lockheed mayor dominguez he says mafurish give him x amount hanamili bemilia other things because before i forget the famous famous miso i forgot what wealthy person let's call him i don't know uh rockefeller okay fine because he wasn't uh what a big veer said i want you to bury me with my socks on famous famous myself not a true story so let me tell you they're not the true story so there's a very wealthy not true story guy who said i want to be buried in my socks so they went and they they they told conditional the condition says absolutely not even though he gave him hundreds and millions of thousands of during his lifetime nothing and then they opened up the tava later on because he said not to open it right away and it says in zava you see you can't even bring a pair of socks to the next world do the right thing but anyways here mitchell kind of amazed so on the socks you listen to him or you don't listen to them he wants his children to have food he doesn't want to starve him to death okay so why did he say i'm only giving you a half a cella this is awesome i learned in passaic with paul reichman's son i don't remember his name and i remember that his father gave him a very very small amount of money because one time he he uh put his money into the candy machine and the candy didn't come out so he started shaking it i was like husky come on no famous you know put another what's the explain to me he says his father puts him on a very tight allowance oliver shalom paul reichman then he's worth billions of dollars and this is in the 80s in 1987 or eight and he said he told me that his father had a jet parked in newark but his father made him take a commercial airline home even though he could have gone on his father's debt you don't go and that's what he told me then bill gates marshall it's famous he gave his kids 10 million dollars each he's worth 130 billion dollars he gave 10 million he said it's not good to give your kids money it's basically not giving them a urusha maybe now with the divorce the things changed i don't know but back in the day 10 million each lizard though you don't want your kid to sit and then just trust fund baby and not do anything you want them to work hard not awesome 10 million for somebody that grew up in a 100 million dollar home 100 is nothing okay it's all relative not awesome it's literally not giving them anything it's giving them one cent the polutos the eight and nine-year-olds i wish there was like a caputo the the eight and nine year old children when they sell something they go to macaulay a nest for this they go to my call they can buy uh candy they could buy you bread and eggs because of the salah very interesting rashi tell me how you learned this rashi rashi says four lines down when it comes to real estate it's a whole different story they can't be eight or nine years old actually if you stay silenced until they are let's say 13 years old what does rasheed say a second later which one is it 13 or 20. what it means is birusha when they inherit property they can only sell it when they're 20 years old i hear what you're saying yeah there's okay fine says the gemara so that that is me taltalen omar from leicester if there's nobody in charge of these kids aviation mapping trophies then they can't sell and buy anything even metallica and mimei medic tony i'll prove it to you the gemara doesn't like this proof but what's the proof from our michelle the last last line in the mishnah of a bigtano a youngster a massive town in colombia she does nothing so igumar wants to say that you see from here that aktana doesn't have power even to buy metal says himar no there's our mission is talking about that he put a trustee a trustee to do one specific job go buy property for my daughter but over here what's the whole point of vamping troubles to make sure that they that they're alive make sure there's food on the table it's a day-to-day job about rubbish so that doesn't the father doesn't care if they go to the mccullen and buy stuff this is normal to sustain themselves so it's different okay listening not only when this is trustee but even when this happy trophies says perhaps that's the shot and with that we finished the period so now we're talking a little bit about nadarum if you have about a dart a lot of times we find that like at the end of the musefus unfortunately we're coming to not really then november's then but it's such a beautiful masefta we're giving a little bit of a teaser of nadaru and being that we're talking about a teaser in the dharam i want to lay it out there that we don't have a sponsor yet for misakis and dharma and it's going to print very very soon so anybody wants to donate you know 5 10 20 30 official money 100 whatever it is we're looking for sponsors by ms and it's a tremendous tremendous close the cost is thirty dollars per demark that's what it costs us we have to pay we have to pay our school and we have to pay for shipping everybody else works voluntarily for the the shipping the saul rosenberg works hour he runs the company but he has hours on the computer with the emailing that's the cost thirty-eight gemara yeah people could go to uh sponsormdy.com and and give onegamer also one we'll take one tomorrow i'm saying if you want the front page the your name in there embed it forever a person says i am not i'm making an editor making a vow we have to use more exhibition terms neither because this is the english vowel okay fine we'll say it once and show my easter all hamada resistor he makes another that uh miligenous law you're not going to have enough for me it's points out to you right away it can't be announced to somebody you owe somebody something you can't say i'm not going to pay you the money i owe you you you okay so what exactly is he doing mizinus how could he do that also isn't he hive to get the to give him a zionist to sustain her actually if it was only for 30 days yamid parnas okay so let him put somebody in charge of her and he'll feed her how does that help yamara is going to explain also yesterday tv think soup if it's more than 30 days she could demand a get an exuberant just so yesterday in the jewish news there was a woman who didn't want to go didn't want to receive a get from her husband for four years they threatened her threatened nothing worked they put her in jail i never heard of such a thing but literally they put her in jail here and i just roll for not receiving it yet okay it works both ways if the guy doesn't want to give a girl we could do all sorts of things they took they froze their bank account they could they took away a driver's license nothing worked i don't in her mind she still married this guy she didn't want to divorce her okay huh no you can't force it not the claim the organization you could the the monatorium yeah okay and as they're taken to jail they said you could you could get out of this no yeah uh yo tv thinks uber she demands of get he has to give her rebuttal be strong depends what depends if she's not a client says rabudo because of cayenne we know that akai and once he gets divorced he can't take his wife back so in order to make sure that he knows what he's doing we give him a little extra time one month and into the second month after divorce give him an extra month he thinks you might miss this if a person tells his wife you're not allowed to eat strawberries now that's not the chat in the mishnah because a husband doesn't have the right to tell his wife what she's gonna eat oh you know you gain a lot of weight when you eat chocolate i'm not allowing you to eat chocolate too bad you're just a husband what happened is she said she's fed up she got off the scale she goes i swear i'm never eating chocolate in my life and nothing says good idea that that boy's eye is the worst thing your husband could do bamis if husband says you look like a hippopotamus stop eating chocolate i'm either you that's not a big deal no he got mad for that second but if she comes up with this nether and he sits there and instead of annulling the netherwood she has the right to be mayfair he says you know what i was meaning to tell you but a good thing you brought it up that that's the biggest patch in her face she hates him for that cyanide she hates him for that and for that she gets divorced that minute so again nakamura the larger than the mr seems like he's making the nether no she's making the nether he's just being high in the nether and the same thing would be in a minute he has one day the second day he has to be mighty visit two day nether you think suba she asked the question wow rabbit she could withstand she doesn't have to eat chocolate for one day so why get divorced because she she feels he hates her it's not about the chocolate anymore it's about his attitude do you think super bakayon mikhail two days it's up to two days she goes do you think so her mother is she again the same idea she says i'm never going to put on perfume i'm not going to use deodorant in any type of deodorant oh if she's poor she doesn't have perfume anyways expensive item so it's only if he does it forever but about she rise is enough if the nether is a 30 day nether divorce says since he has to give her messiness he has to support her why does he have to support her a boy's eye because he gets from i see a dying so since the supporter how can he make another against something that he must do kokomidimov does he have the right to be mafia to uproot something that is not and we learned this many times if the woman says i'm making another that i'm not working i'm not bringing home a salary and it's our law firm he doesn't have to another nether be made for another why alma because the reason is give them a shout delay the she's not allowed to uproot his his ella says beautiful thing i see that he does have the right to say listen you take your salary i don't support you so now that he makes a nether and says i'm not supporting you in essence what he's saying is you just have to translate his words he's saying i'm not going to support you anymore what he meant to say is you take your salary support yourself on your salary and i'm not going to support you didn't make another against what the tires said what he said is something he's allowed to say let's do a deal you keep to yourself you keep your own salary keep your own bank account and i keep to myself that he's allowed to do it's ke lu he said and to finish learning shots of the rally amen the rock is really for me that i can finish shots with says the gemara miss but wait a minute asks a very simple question it goes both ways her boy's side don't revolument the bullet in his eyes so what if she's a lawyer and she makes a million dollars a year she can tell her husband you know what i don't need your thousand dollars worth of food i'm gonna take my salary and buy with my own money and that works quite nicely so if so why if she says those words she says i'm making an editor that i'm not gonna work maybe what she means to say is my salary is for me and you don't have to support me exact same thing that we said that the husband has the right to make a nether on her because maybe what he's saying is i'm not going to support you you use your own salary maybe she's saying to him i don't need your support i'm going to use my own salary why don't we put those words into her mouth it's as if she said i don't need your food i'll just use my salary ella loite monasso the first word on the song it says it's as if don't say it's as if he said that i don't you don't work and i'm not going to support you merlot he actually said it he said see myself inside you use your salary and i'm not supporting you and then he made a net there and by the way i'm making another that i'm not supporting you so then why does why does that have to send her a third party to support her he told her use her salary so she's using her salary she doesn't need support from a third party sapco because she only makes 50 of what she needs so if she doesn't have enough money she doesn't earn enough money so then how can he make a nether and say i'm not supporting you it only works if she has enough money and she doesn't need him and then the nether works but now she doesn't need him because she only earns half omar of ashi amazing chad pekka is the dwarf she earns enough money to sustain her on the basics bread water pizza venomous peck is the varmiktana but the the extravagant things the the extras the vacations whatever the extras are the lamborghinis that she doesn't have enough money for it's called varun because life is gudle bread is gotham yeah you're right but caviar and sushi that's drunktanim you might we might look at this during that but it's the stusm of life it's not the main thing in life that she doesn't have money for and that he has to send her ashley out to support honey dummy so what's going on here eat the regular if she comes from a family that eats sushi every night or gila boo so he has to do it right you don't go down you just go up the lorry gila boo and if she's not used to it panasonic's then what is this to send her a third party she says no she was used to it in her parents house becca become a goggle a bad day she's my column she rolls with him she's like you know you don't eat sushi every night fine i want to be married to you i'm okay i'm ugly domerle until this point where you didn't make a nether against me gagalinabad i'm willing to roll but now that you're you're mean to me you hate me let me see anything now i do demand that you give me what i was used to there's a beautiful places here we're going to a different time a hiddish in this whole marlin and you're damn it's the dependent on the husband's family and not doing okay fine now after 30 days if it's if it's a nether that's more than 30 days yes divorce or what's what's 30 days says congratulations 30 days nobody knows about it so she doesn't have an embarrassment from it she doesn't want people to know that her husband saw minter and that he has a an immediate a third guy that comes and drops off food every day it's terrible stuff it's very challenging she doesn't like that she wants a divorce if i say mom okay so until now we're talking about see my sister diapers on the side he made a deal with her he said right you earn your money i'm not going to give you paranosa but if it's more than 30 days and there's a there's a third guy that brings you the extras [Music] what happened was he made the net there when she was engaged mma law it works he doesn't have a kill yet to give her the food she's only a russo as a gemara aruzumi islamizing but there's no what's what's going on here says kamara she gives mavelinis to the first missionary tsubas that they were supposed to get married but they didn't and mma law is high but still she's not in the sew yet if the time to get married came and went so she starts eating trauma and she she gets supported from the from the class 30 days the guy the guy that's in charge of her and dropping off food after 30 days get sick and tired of it so mellow demand the divorce we boyce him another shot she directs she russo venises she the the nether happened when it was able to be hal when she was a russo but then she got married asked the gemara how in the world this woman get married how does she get married she knows that the moment she gets married she's gonna be married to a jerk who doesn't want to support her doesn't have anything no no not from him you can't have anything from him so why in the world she get married and if she did get married that means she's okay with it she's abused a woman who's used to that that kind of stuff so the how could she demand the divorce she agreed to it she know what she's getting herself into her sovereign vicible says she thought that she could deal with it actually i realized i need to eat a little bit she thought she'd go through life without eating she'll get used to it not eating at all and then she realized hey man i mean you gotta be a moment i can understand if a guy has a terrible mum okay she thought she could live with it now stamina is a quick joke that uh a guy was on a date and every day he came with his ear muffs so like after three four days the girl's like what's going on she says she says listen i have one very very large ear if you promise me that you're not going to laugh i'll show it to you she takes off like one of his earmuffs and she bursts out laughing she rolls on the floor she says you know what because he left i'm not going to show you my large ear okay i got him she thought she could live with such ears and then it came back to bite her it hurt her so i i when my kids got married and i told him this when they were dating and i think it's good advice for everybody that's dating people don't change and if it bothers you on a date it's probably going to bother you for the rest of your life and you're not going to change that person you're not going to make them not have a temper and not at this and go on this diet and this it's not that stuff doesn't work so if it bothers you today you have to you have to understand you're going to have to deal with it through the rest of your life people fool themselves and say no you know i'm going to get married put them on the diet he's going to be a gym every day no it doesn't work like that okay something [Music] oh that he gave her nether we're talking about he made a deal with her you work for yourself you take your own salary she earns money but not enough so you have to have another person charlemagne stroll rabbis i have a wonderful [Music] you