Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 68 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning round boy frozen you're really fixing oh okay hold on can we do it over look it's frozen from brooklyn great news to the alum once in a while we do this there will be no emails today because of a tremendous tremendous hit that happened started all yesterday and we don't have zoom at all so you start up zoom we got to get uh oh because we want to talk to avi over here for a second so yesterday it was literally a minute or two before sheer i got this email from mark ashkenazi he said he's doing 68 daf avi mandelbaum abram menasha benjano so i said maybe we should do a thousand dollars and people in the sheer start saying 30 10 15. rabbi sai here's the announcement i said whoever gives dap him i will mention his name you know how many people signed up for this over a hundred and sixty people signed up and you know how many death we have more daft than the entire shots 2889 daf as we're talking right now there are people right i got some messages i'm in for 10. 20. they don't have google sheets like nothing seltzer but 300. from thank you we appreciate it anyways let me read off these names because it will take a good few minutes here somebody went in there it's a google doc it's open to the public somebody went in and decided to change things around and it now goes from the most it was in order of people putting in so he knocked me down 10 spots because i was the first one to sign up very upset at that individual do not touch documents that don't belong to you but here it goes it goes from highest to lowest 150 daf you did your kramer there's koilo michael benjatree and i said i want to get some hasidim involved because we're talking about the tilumi person that has a ring on his finger there is no such thing in mdy we're all one mishpocha and people the biggest misnomer and then the biggest hasidim they all went in michael benjatree who's sitting right here 104 daffodil yokum iron off 101. you'll see the hari 88 ellie goldberg 82 mark ashkenazi who started it all 68 elise stefanski 67. shoei osborne 67 is not going to go so well mike greenwald is 68 yossi klein your hasidis your brother he says 45 ashi itzku is 45. shulem goldstein 40. i'm reading off my screen because i i didn't realize i don't have my glasses actually i do but i'm not going to put them on there no way ellie hafter 35 i mean jacob thirty-four big default thirty-four sv sheer thirty-two moisture steinberg thirty matas from manchester thirty-one and the sun said i'm hasidish and i'm doing this for avi fifteen daf mendez thirty dollars joe sharp thirty dave scharfmann 22. gideon jaffa twenty-seven sean felder 25 akiva ziegler 25 let me read from here it's getting too it's crazy pause we're pausing here we go david gladstone 20 pesos wax and red piece of waxman 20 phil rosenberg uncle phil 15 yaakov garfinkel 15. barry's here we go barry skland 15 jamie stettermeier 15 nom fix 15. oh these are all the 15s guys from now on 15. i'll be coming on ski 15 he'll 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much from y rib eddie treisman moshe engel yaakov shikoyakyako nakolaska donny mo walker do i have to say all the names yes joel mizrahi bob libman crying friend hill bernstein philip dreiliff mark duke joseph cohen yo bergman from chicago richard prays gabrielle e zach burke by the way if you sign up today i'll still read your names tomorrow we're already at 2 900 right now as you speak adam lobato you scroll goldstein mend the learner justin ibrahim two days ago yaakov shama's 30 daff yoni renard yar ziffer simko hershkovitz oh yahya zifferz30daf yahil davis craig goodman now it's not in order anymore schlammy klein ishai strau shirley bernstein not bornstein bernstein yes luck webber charlie field sv falmbaum a.b joseph he's a young kid 12 year old from chicago i believe shkolin 2 daphne shkalim yussi siff ellie dykman 36 daff yesterday when it went like this it must have been like one of those xalman kreiman am ah remar avermedia mafakovitz musher kinsburski the famous moishikin zuberski idan moshkovitz forty daff jay nathanson abby berger shai maskowitz yossi klein another person maybe suko tendav and here's the last part of the list duvet raich shmuley katz elian neiman nachman seltzer 400 daf steven bernstein leger mikhail we already said moishe greenspan yaakov we tried to get in there twice let me tell you mice about my remote shazaret when i sit over the mice about rebecca and when i was 40 years old they gave me some hirou tube he came over to me after sheer and he started crying mama tears in his eyes he said when i was 40 years old i learned the story and i said if i could do it i could do it and it changed my life i started learning torah then and because of that he told me all his kids abhinay torah and magidi shurim et cetera and said right my child is crying right now i don't want to embarrass him but it's a physique for everybody moisture greenspan yaakov herbert 31 daff david scheinberg david brandis dobby fink small cocos yehuda axelrod axelrod oh you're the axelrod david dimbert from chicago dalia miller elio neuberger rob arnold maisha braun david kramer martin lipschitz and yankee baum to everybody when avi i spoke to avi yesterday he was i mean i didn't speak to him he left me a message maybe i should play maybe i shouldn't he was he's my mission tears he's he's choked up and that was only that was less than two what he said to play it i he said i could play it uh okay i don't know until i get it it's a 7 30. you know let's we'll do it a different time okay you know what avi send me another one where you're really choked up and i'll play that one you marrow we are holding on everybody unbelievable because it's a physics for everybody first of all we're doing a great thing for avi but we're doing something for ourselves around the shamans for roshana we're coming in with extra dap him so you can still sign up it's not too late actual hazard didn't hurt anybody and it's a it's a show of achtush it's people from all stripes and colors going in for one of us okay and it doesn't mean that there's other people that are hailem and this and that it's somebody that's on zoom every single day for two years straight everybody knows him he's always on the top row so it touched people a little bit differently it doesn't mean that we're putting other people on the side okay it's up to you tomorrow oh i have to go into this thing now okay there is our sponsors today all right a 25-minute cheer boys oh i don't have it where is it here we go you saw my video my children this is perfect timing avi and rachel kamiyansk are out so i made it a little shorter second sponsor jeff rasmus host of my song a very young kid comes home from camp with a very very swear mata rest of my set official mitzvah motivators family says and the third sponsored by the black and living families lake new jersey because third is versus gula financial college number four before that's a new one and the paris area in one partnership woody weinman in honor of chewie's baby girl morty moscow with his baby girl okay where are we holding i have no idea somewhere yeah we gotta move this oh he moves us that's where we are yeah yeah we had we had yesterday we had a whole thing okay marookfor great story two four six eight lines from the bottom there was a poor person we're talking about marroqua and his and his midas it was ani in his neighborhood from his own money he would give him 400 zuzi every arabian keeper yo he made the mistake he sent it with his son he's busy also malay so the son comes back with the money light sorry he's in no need he got a cut he had a yeshua this year he became very wealthy oh my closest wha what happened i saw him taking aged wine he's so wealthy he took castell sprayed it around this house instead of drinking it he's going like this to make the house smell better so he's right he's very wealthy omar mephanikuli hi whoo he's so poor yet he's such an istanas he's a maphonic ifino he doubled it up now it's 800 zoos and he sent more money omar when marouk was on his deathbed he said i want to see how much money i gave throughout my life seven thousand gets her millions of dollars ten million dollars gift is the 100 million dollars omar so he says about himself i have very light suitcases i'm only bringing a hundred million dollars worth of daca that i gave terrible the trip is a very very long trip it's not enough money to go on such a trip i don't have enough says marokwa come back so he took half of all his belongings and gave it immediately you're not going to spend more than 20 on your mitzvahs now you know the we mentioned the i don't know a few weeks ago that when it comes to limited torah supporting torah you could you could give more than a chemist of course there's different things so of course you go to mdysponsor.com and support torah right before shauna happened not consulted seven thousand dollars and seven thousand dollars by the way still survivors no last one last one is today doyle was invited what's the answers sucked together that's what we're going to do you know what when you weren't here it was little schwa i'm happy you're here you put me on my spot you know i need it i need it yes oh says if a guy's alive we're concerned he's not going to have any money left and it's going to be a problem then he's going to come out to this he's doing this on his deathbed now we once learned the best way to get to dhaka is if you don't know who the poor person is and they don't know who you are like here in mavichames we have the the koopa shots daca which they don't take a cut at all you give them the money you don't know who it's going to and the person receiving it has no idea who's getting it who we got it from rebbe but there's another way to do it you take the money you put it on your shoulder you put it behind them he sees the poor people goes next to them and they grab from the back now he doesn't know who they are but they do know who he is so it's a very high madrego but not the top top madriga um but he would speak to make sure that the cheaters the the the con artists they're not there in other words you at least pretend that some say he's pretending he's chased them away shoot him right here had a honey he'd give forza a week he sent his wife not the greatest idea i saw y'all realized she comes back with the money like sorry he doesn't need it anymore my house is what do you see shout out to the avocado i heard i overheard them saying what are we going to put on the table vitale case should we put the gold table cloth on or the silver now over here we're not even talking about now we're talking about just complete ashiros it's not we're not talking about food we're not talking about my phonak namaphono we're talking about a guy that doesn't you don't need to have a golden tablecloth omar heinrich alvarez let's let's give thanks to these cheaters we have a here if any comes to you in the middle of the zimmerman it doesn't matter if he comes to you and asks you for money you have to give him you have to give you have to give at least a pruta if you just turn away you say yeah you have no right coming to me now i'm busy you have to be careful you might be it might be like a but now that we have cheaters so now the guy loses i don't know if he's he's the real deal maybe he's faking maybe he's a multi-millionaire he's actually a guy that comes to show everybody loves him and i like him a lot and i actually give him but he tells me straight out he has a brand new car and he has a job he said i have fivers he comes no problem but he's open about it great but there's a lot of cheaters out there so those cheaters they save us schmuck he says oh it's good that these these cheetos bakashami is a cheater because now the other times they didn't give it to dhaka because not going to be don me famous myself with i think the satmirov big you know on saturday duck is like the top thing i think you go into the basement there you everybody gives you a dollar that's how it goes so if you walk into the especially shockers you come out with 300 or something every single person has to give you no matter how many there's like lines of they're very huge in terms of so i'll get now tomorrow's on the right no it's four or five hundred could be it's managed hundreds of people you come in you come out so the sacramento once gave somebody the guy came in he says you know my wife is this and my like just reminds me another myself a guy came through the show he goes uh my wife is an almana and my kids are you soymen and i'm a guerr and i'm also the the aid nicole of the and you know the whole thing fine so it comes to the to the southern rockies this is my wife terrible and i lost six kids the whole zach and he lea so the sadness gave me a lot of money and as he goes out the guy who comes over the southern river says you know this guy mum's a liar he's nothing his wife is healthy like he goes wow hashem unbelievable like i was so sad for this guy barak hashem he's not he doesn't have any sick kids and all the everybody's given okay so that's what it says over here hashem is a liar he saved he saved my life this guy turan hamasama is saying a person he pretends he puts on one of those uh eye patches like a pirate well it reminds me of mice because we have a lot of time nobody got to say this myself there's two pirates the pirate says wow what happened to you he says oh don't ask i was on the boat and a shark came grabbed my leg and said i have a peg now what happened to your hand the hand i was fighting with another pirate and then you know he's chopped it off with the sword so that's why i have a hook yeah that's what happened so what happened to your eye so i was walking the beach and a bunch of sand again in my eye sand i cannot see the shark and stand the sword but sand says yeah it was my first day with the hook okay he pretends that he has a big stomach you see this in chicago on every corner everybody said these stories every corner he goes with the past he goes into this what happened over here my boy said this i have a video of my sister check this out let me let me set this up here's a guy on the street on a board with wheels he pasha doesn't have legs doesn't have legs so he's collecting money comes a guy and says you're a liar you're my sister behold you're in chicago this is not in chicago here check this out mice to show you he's checking out if he has legs not legs [Music] okay that's literally the suggyo he pretends he doesn't have legs and he collects money mamish oh no they they make there's a guy in chicago he's mama she's a millionaire sister they're ready for the last 30 years he's on ever since i moved he's on the same corner every you know i'm talking about the same guy and he has different pants you see him go to the side he puts on nice pants he gets in the car and drives it's crazy this guy's a mammoth chakra on him anyway and enough you fake it till you make it so you pretend you don't have feet that because will help you out you need you can't have feet in order to make your pronunciation i'll make sure you don't have feet schlemmie client told me that the baltania says that in rukhnis also you fake it till you make it if you fake it that you're saddick that you're hustling and you're this then we'll help you that's what you want that's the m is what you want then you'll make it hey if a person doesn't needs dhaka and he walks around collecting money will make sure that that's in fact what's going to happen to him not awesome we have to understand in order to accepts dhaka you need to earn you have to have less than 200 zones in your bank account so what if a guy has 190 in his bank account but he has a piano he has all sorts of things he could sell and that will go above the threshold no he doesn't have to sell anything he's at 190 but he has a golden bearer so sell it and start using silver play cassettes go down to mondragon cash i force you to sell your bed sleep on the floor and a table hub of crisis cars or you'll buy a cheaper you don't need a sealy whatever that you'll get the other one huh because the cars but i don't force you to sell your cups and your plates my questions of course the like why not the the um easily you know if you ever drink even today silver is usually coated with something else inside it's disgusting to drink from silver you want to drink from gold so you can say i don't want to meet [Music] this is interesting if that's how you guys sit he has a silver plow in other words you know a decked out tractor like the top of the line you don't need it to play out your field you can go even lower than that so sell that papa oh my gosh explains very interesting when he took from zidaka when he wasn't supposed to he had 300 in his bank account he had no right to go to stock and he took it then we're going to cut we're going to come and we're going to grab him and we're going to sell off his stuff he has to pay back he's a ghana of okay so if you look at this plastic right over here the official mishna is sponsored by maisha cohen for eliminator and continue so the pasta guys we had when was it like two weeks ago maybe less it says in the past if you don't remember this part but anyway it says in the past over there says how does that remind you how does the father have the power to to give off his daughter to a man how is he going to find the man it's usually the man looks for the girl the is the opposite he can't go on the street and say who wants my daughter so you see from here that the uh the father does have power in a way by giving his daughter a dunya a dowry he gives her he gives her some money so you see from the positive there's a concept you know not not going to force the father but it's very common common practice that when he marries of his daughter he gives her something says the mishnah and she lost her father and her mother or brothers they marry her off and she agreed to it because of the love of me they gave her a garbage dowry not the real value they gave her you know 50 bucks here take 50 bucks get married now she's only 10 years old she doesn't know him she could go back says rashi what's a dowry so we're going to see in the gemara there's two options either it's of all the father's assets that's a that's normal or we figure out how much the father would have wanted to give this daughter but it's not hamishim it's not well sometimes it's like the guy has nothing but we're talking about a guy that's a you know he has he worked his whole life he has something in the bank account he's not going to give his daughter hamish that's that's too little so it's either 10 10 or we're going to figure it out we're going to do it we're going to assess the situation i have a great way to figure this out let's see what he did with his first daughter right nachman whatever you gave your first daughter you're probably going to get the second daughter you know schneiderlin it's a great uh it's a great indicator the hum iron man palmer shot them uneven or ushered in so we're going to sing the gemara doesn't really mean that it becomes poor a rich person became poor which is true also what the mission is saying is he became poor in his mind he became stingy people over time sometimes they they relax you know when they're younger they save money they're very tight and then later on they you know what am i saving all this money for let me give it to my children so it just causes his first daughter a lot of times also you see this is very common somebody saves up money you know he's in cuddly saving i'm gonna marry off 20 kids save save saves comes the first kid all of it on the first kid he forgets to save a little bit for the second that also happens hello that's right whatever it is but it all goes to the first and the second kid is zero hello no so what you do is according to review though let's take a counter what's there and based on that we're gonna give the girl omar le paranos that's interesting with shyness here but don't get scared paralysis just means it means a dowry panoso the word parnasso we we know it as pronounced support no it means a dowry what you give your daughter when she gets married the paranoise is shaman we take a look at the father is he a stingy guy or he's a large guy large meaning he gives that's what not the hosom of the father his personality what is he i found this very hard to understand the whole comment i mean if any one of us take your best friend think about your best friend could you figure out how much you'd give his daughter i'm not even in not even close i have no idea i'll take any one of my friends here i don't know ten thousand dollars a hundred i have no clue for the best to figure that out it's just it's to me it's it's unbelievable i don't i don't know how they do it okay may he's dead he's dead he's gone he's done look at the average of what people normally give a certain amount of money how do we do it today so if the father was around hello so you give her 10 of whatever he has but it says over here 10 percent and not what and not like shmuel says to see if he's a compton not a compton i know how much the fans gave i know this guy's this bracket no that's not how it goes you take the total amount and 10 percent it says over here we're not talking about on the dunya or that were you talking about missinus but it says both it says the zionists that would be messianis and bisparus is like you started off the sugar parnassa means in the dunya my life isn't literally food that goes into the mouth is another lotion talking about clothing he became wealthy or became poor allah my ani umayoshi what does it mean literally like we call a poor person doesn't have assets argues and he says if he was very wealthy and he became poor kid what he has to give the million dollars he gave his first kid ho leslie he doesn't have it how could how could they argue on a fact it says over here you give 10 percent you don't go by how stingy is this like by the father what he is what type of person he is with the youth of the world in fact there's a good question is his first daughter he should give the second daughter we should give the second daughter like he gave the first daughter says gemara if that's the case if all he's doing is he's copy pasting he took a sheeta of rabihuda of atana and he says oh so you should say that looks like a viewer why is he pretending that he's making up his own cheetah says he would say that was like i think it's only in the case where he married off a girl before the galadaite now we know what bracket he's in avila you see a lie but if he never married off a daughter we can't start assuming things come we go and we try to figure out what he would have given how large he was look how much luck he gave you married off if you saw me over here he did this so if his own daughter certainly would give x amount of money and that's what we do not a 10 day not not a 10 percent across the board no matter what life in the sea of revelations so then why does it say a story about a that he married off a daughter like the first daughter and based on that we do the second order to teach us how they argue on him that haven't got this seal even though he married off one daughter and gave her a million dollars because he died and he showed us what he what he likes to give his kid we don't go by that end of story maybe why because maybe his personality changed i don't know what the matter is today maybe he he realized that he has to save money it's not a good idea to make such big hazardous whatever it is yeah you want to talk about my daughter's class and my son's cousin of course the quarter of my daughter's counselor but that's because he's a boy and uh you know whatever what i'm saying so think no just saying things change you have to bring it right from daughter to daughter that's okay fine they say in your name what i didn't want to say the raven but it's true yeah she's yeah of course i'm not worried because she's the only one that watches my son doesn't watch hello though so they say in the name of you rava that you passing on your behood you do not the new dunya is a 10 percent cut vomerova you don't go by um you don't go by each person in person it's ten percent across the board like hashing ho da midnight we see if he's a stingy guy or not we weren't able to see we don't know his personality he's from a different country i don't know what so mellow we go if we don't know then we just do a ten percent cut okay establish once remy went ahead and gave 1 12 which is about 8 it's not 10 percent and it's not um what's 8 where did they come in here kasiana daddy so we have a contradiction in rebbe himself rebbe says ten percent knows an eight percent election we know that midnight when we assess the guy we saw that he's a very stingy guy she said okay let's give the girl only eight percent how do i midnight but typically we give 10 percent if she still gets support from the brothers she gets 10 percent or le rebbie so he asked the question ben he has eleven children ten of them are daughters of ben bakin bunny's club so he dies with a million dollars in the bank you give ten percent to the first daughter now you have nine hundred thousand ten percent of the second daughter eight hundred because you give a hundred thousand to ten girls the sun gets zero big problem um it's a very simple thing no need for a chart but why not so over here in the chart we have 100 apples so the first girl gets 10 she gets 10. now what do we have left we have 90 apples so the red line represents what she gets she only gets 9 because 9 is 10 of 90. but once you take off the 9 now we're left with 81. the guy's dead he's not earning any more money so now you only have 81 and you take 10 of 81 which is 8.1 and you keep on going down to the last last daughter she has this only 35 apples left no after we're done with her she does 39 apples and she gets 3.9 apples number 10 gets 3.9 apples so how many apples do you take off the whole pile 65 apples so now you're left with 35 apples so the boy gets 35 apples but here's what the gemara is saying top now you go back you take all 65 apples the first one got 10 the second one got nine the third one got eight seven six five whatever you take all the 65 and you recalculate and you say each girl gets 6.5 because you have 65 apples and you only get 10 percent each girl gets 10 to 65 apples but the heisman starts 10 9 8 7 6 5 take the total and redo it so if one girl got married in two thousand the other girl got married so in 2021 the other one's gonna do you readjust hey you got a hundred thousand dollars you got ninety thousand dollars you got 80 let's put it all in one big pile and redo it everybody gets sixty five thousand dollars somebody's wrong and the boy he gets is thirty five three hundred fifty thousand dollars okay the heiser is the hawkers you come back and your metallic and beautiful we're exactly where we need to be the whole of the base should only take us about a minute says the game oh sponsored the sponsor takes more than the whole law but in honor of yankee batman brothers to finish learning shots of the rally i don't know what we're going to do what do you mean the first girl got 10 the second girl got nine percent the third girl got eight percent how are you going to re everything redo it says oh no if all 10 girls came and they want to make one hassana then each one is going to get six point five percent they say there are mass in the daughter of master that's not true it's impossible why should 10 girls get 10 percent of all the assets together ella is they take 10 as one they all get one temper the same amount six in our case if there's 65 percent to divide between 10 girls each girl gets 6.5 percent six and a half percent habano iso actually bug there's two things that could complicate matters for a girl if a girl becomes an old maid in other words she becomes 12 and a half she's a bagueiras she's super old she and she's not married nebba so she loses her entire new dunya uh we'll see in a second bamboo actually obey nissa actually or maybe if they got married at the age of 10 before they became birthed they no longer get support if dupont but they don't lose their dowry says okay as well they have something similar there's a there's a group here called the raven every it's usually for avraham every person puts in a little few shekels every month and if there's a tragedy then they give each kid like two hundred thousand shekel provided that the kid is not over 35 years old look at martin it's 12 and a half an hour there's 35. you have to be showing retirements et cetera okay it's an interesting concept fine vibrate rabbit ribs so now if you look at this so what we have right now in the suggya it gets a little interesting we have tu machale in in white and in black according to rebbi a bagueres has in a dunya according to shimon lazar or bagueres does not get into you no matter what but there's another macholic is here whether the naira not a bagueres a 12 year old does she have the ability to forgive and say okay according to rebbe she doesn't have that right so she could go back and collect that's the that's what the gemara understands now that the black the little part in the black is also ripped you talking about another case she got married when she's a naira hey look doing even a strategist and she agreed to it if the parent saw she lost it another like this now this is a shocker of all shockers you don't want to leave now cycloids legend balum if a girl doesn't want to lose her dowry and she's not married she's about to lose it 12 and a half old maid you lose your diary she wants her diary it's a million dollars she finds a fake husband like somebody getting a green card in the united states you look online you want to get married for two days you're my husband child malayan you pay over here it's for one hour be my husband that's how the messife learns that i couldn't believe it i looked at him sifted that's hillary but the art squirrel learns a little differently he sticks in like to be politically correct so that's what i like to do you you increase what you're willing to give your husband so more people will jump on her and want to marry her okay fine but that's not what it says in rasheed you hire a husband because once you get your dowry you get a divorce so you get you get married for three days you make sure the brothers pay you up get paid okay adios here's your cut i'll see you later um here like you see on this chart there isn't a dunya for bagheeras and now we're saying that there's no muhillah for an ira ac it says in our mission we just learned you services she's 10 years old that girl could come back and sue for the rest masturbating dictano but that's because she's vitro at the end of the day you see from our mishna that iguodyla who does have the right to beam avatar like ripping middle lazar says on the bottom of naira there is a merciless susie marley cassio so now that mark goes back and says this it's a little interesting i want pointing it out it's good to see this there's only one like this now one more like it's forget about the mojito even rebbe agrees there is a maquilla you have to come out to mela you have to there's only one she says i want my nadunya she's going to get into you but if she was quiet then she loses it all and that it makes sense then kane cashed the review otherwise there will be a contradiction the signing in review words what's in his zionists that she's a tana or a naira design is light uh shane in his zionist light but if she's a bagheera she doesn't take support not should we stop here unfortunately yes we have to stop here it's too late boys i have a wonderful day you