Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 61 by R’ Eli Stefansky

family jonathan stefanski and of course mazel tov the kind parents levin who's at all these casanas putting up a sign and the khasin simcha milwarm and aj rothstein simcha is next to the sign this is very very moving actually thanks this is from tony the father of the two-year-old who's lifter thanks to all the calls and texts fdy family has given me the biggest so far so thank you i was told the story on friday that there was a year who drove in from toronto just to ask my brother how much money we need for expenses and when my brother had no idea an amount this yid gave a big amount right to the hesset fund and signed his name and left i remember asking him who he was he was one of the first to come it was the morning after rebelli mentioned it the first time all he wanted to do was be there for me and my family and help out i didn't count every mdy member but i would say over 40 people came in person and over 100 phone calls messages voice notes and voicemails from all over ishakh thank you to all now says the father tony pollock now time to catch up on the last 10 da from rebelli here's a picture of edie schwartz and shmuel carmelo from boro park in lake george on vacation i'm just thinking not bad mess i didn't think about this before but the only time i ever used my rv i bought an rv the only time i ever used it was to drive from chicago to lake george that was the time we pulled into the hotel and my wife said there's no way i'm sleeping in this rv so she went into the hotel and the guy the owner of the hotel said this is the first time since he owns the hotel that somebody showed up with an rv but spent 500 in a room in his hotel but tire learning never ends yiddy schwartz this i love this video mamash love it this is a very young girl i know three years old or something listen what she says all the way at the end happy she uses the words happy happy listen to this full volume please very very geshema unbelievable this mama's just penetrating to these children i want to speak about it during i want to speak about the penetration to the young child uh it's been a while since i joined the daf i cannot explain how much the learning daily impacted me and my family i hope the patch video will explain for itself with appreciation manny pilcher oh the boys that we have from yoyoli halevie duple it's that time once a month at least one year later i'd like to share an update about my habit of walking around during davening i guess you can call it an update to my journey the point that many people don't understand is that for some people it's not voluntary no matter how many times i tell myself to shuckle and play seven minutes later i find myself across the room being whipped in the face by some unseen towel strings you may be the best jewish basketball player but i have been recruited to the pacers nunu the limits and what i offer is that there is not much pira involved it is just as voluntary as ellie singing harmony when singing with the eye lump just as voluntary as ellie blurring out the punchline in the middle of saying a joke just as boundary as ellie bringing upon average when he mispronounces a word i tried chaining myself to this ship i found myself carrying the chair around while humming my hazardous it seems like i have no other choice but to open up my own show for diving walkers although the insurance will be expensive we will have exciting features such as the cousins omelette having high functioning 8-inch rubber swivel wheels so he can see here a bit during tsuki zimra clearly marked one way and two-way aisles adult-sized bibs to catch walking coffee drinkers splashes we should be zoyoka soon relocate the harabayas we'll be too crowded for diving walkers to engage in this negative habit yoyoli halevi doppel today's 99 years since when ramirez shapiro in the aggressive role in the concealed came up with the idea of daffy me 99 years old what wasn't his idea oh okay well that's the difference that's a different thing it's if he's the one that said it it says like that he's the shotgun when it comes to us he gets it's been over a month already all the new people that joined [Music] it's very important stuff this second sponsor of the koilo wow we have all three of them here a voice say take this in it's not very often that we have this second sponsor unbelievable a memory of rachel's mother raisa guito bas esta rita should be military on the map of us and our children the third sponsor for the koilo for the success of our family and that we merit to always crown hashem ah we have a new coil sponsor i guess again oh i didn't notice this third coil sponsor for the month avi you showed that you could do more than one coil sponsor for the month ten thousand dollars for the success of our family and that we merit to always crown hashem the messenger sponsor for my children the second sponsor is jeff rasner also a nine thousand dollar endeavor it's not a joke jeff rosen's hosting my son joseph and sarah connor foolish lama sponsor of the hoydesh michael bellamotti pearl and iron hershey to make it up to women this year's second sponsor third sponsor the mdy family ezra pollock oliver daf sponsored in honor of ellie stefanski alef ali stefanski as in appreciation and the third sponsor please david for reforged foreign in the nicu in new york city for slamo we have here a very i gathered the kind of gemara daf samakhalov so it goes like this we are holding four lines from the bottom dimension if a woman has relations next to the mill havelo body nick so these are all we're going to see these are things we don't really understand sometimes the gemara inserts kabbalah things that are hints to different things as we had many times the marshall explains she'll have children that have epilepsy the michelangelo she has the relations on the ground havilah bonnie shimmuti i have a picture of this what it might look like somebody with a long neck it's a it's some sort of mum rama if she steps on manure when she's pregnant the camera of a donkey have the bonnet you're done she'll have these as children bald children the akhla khardullah havelu bones al zaline shall have freshers for children mustard it gives you an appetite maybe that's the shot she'll have children that are that love to eat the oklaho if she eats cress this is chris havilla bonnet del funny she'll have dolphins as children dakla shall have teary-eyed children if she eats small fish have a little bunny with ana she'll have like sardines or whatever she'll have children that their eyes flutter around dr gargusta if she eats clay while she's pregnant have a little banana and she'll have very ugly children the chassis she drinks beer oh that's you know that on every beer there's a warning that pregnant women shouldn't drink it if they do drink it have the bunny if she eats a lot of meat and drinks wine have the bonnet bar barrier very healthy children she'll have children with very large eyes the ocular cavery she eats fish have a little boner she'll have very charming children the alkali carbs if she eats celery java bunny ziptone radiant children the aqua gusbarto this is barto kuzbara which is coriander mamish she'll have heavy children doctors if she eats while she's pregnant they'll have good breath interesting just uh pointing out shameless welcome back you live here already it says in the tour that on rosh hashanah one should eat an estrogen i don't know if people are familiar with that it's an indian to destroy him on rosh hashanah says brother and they brought her she she smelled so good they would bring her the top of the salmon this is a good psalm tested us to see if we know our stuff here is what if the husband says i don't want you to nurse why because it'll ruin your beauty she says i want to nurse my child so i'm in law you listen to her why it's hardly though she'll have a lot of time but not nursing it's her body she need nurses who am in lahonic vietnamese if he says i i want you to nurse and she says i don't want to ma says we had this already if it's not her minigame in her family to nurse in other words they have money and they're able to afford a wet nurse then we listen to it okay what if it's terminog and not his bosses okay so he finally got to the question she has the minute of to hire wetner's he doesn't have the men she goes up in status with him so if he his family the to get a wet nurse he's going to give his new wife and if not vegan you read the scenery but she doesn't go down in standard so he has to keep up whatever family standard she had so if they dominic wants to have a wet nurse he's muhly have to pay for the wet nurse or i wonder my crow where do we see this we had this already it should say via whatever the what's about double ocean valley but aliyah going upwards you're like the husband villain doesn't show about you don't go down with him you go up in status was the mother of all living beings now it's not really accurate she's not the mother of all living she's not the mother of elephants and lions and all that so does it mean it means she's the mother for life but not to give her tsar again a very good possible a way to look at women in a positive way they're for life to give life and not to to be tired of them so we learned that if the woman has enough money she comes in within a dunya she brings in money for so she doesn't she has seven obligatory functions that she has to do in the house just to clean cook bake now she doesn't have to do three out of the seven if she brings in one says gemara sharia avatar but the rest of the seven she must do four she has to do says the immortal law either so it almost seems from the mishnah that a wife does as much work as three slaves is that is that accurate now why can't the woman say why do i have to do four out of the seven things i already brought somebody in instead of me i brought in a let that shift i'm good enough for seven so why can't that chiva do seven things says when it's you and i when it's two of us so one woman could do seven jobs for two people now you're bringing in a third woman the third woman cannot do seven jobs for three people she could only do seven jobs for two people who's going to take over the other the other jobs that she can't do the slave also has to eat the slave also needs baked food one slave can't make enough bread for three people and cook for three people and this for three people says gomorrah okay so many vegetables so now if she brings in two slaves so now adam with shells venom nico she gets away with five out of the seven jobs before is three out of now the woman doesn't have to do five hosha abdul but the other two jobs now you said one woman does seven jobs for two people so i brought in two people two people could do seven jobs for four people and now we're four so it's good why does the wife have to do anything if it's just the wife it's one person that does seven jobs for the husband and the wife now the wife brings in two slaves each slave does seven jobs for two people the slave and the husband and the slave and the wife and the story why does the wife have to do anything what's going on here is as soon as you have slaves then all these shiva guys call you up for shahbasim all the seven day girls want to come over and all of a sudden you you have a ton of a ton of guests now who's going to do the guest now you need another slave for the guests okay that's also something says more okay so when we learn in the mishnah when she has three slaves she doesn't have to do anything really but she has to do the smaller things rasheed brings an example if he asks her okay could you get me something she'll go get him something hoshiro she has to get stuff now there's way too many once we have all these slaves now we have more people more there's even more guests i feel are nami says then what you didn't help anything if you have four slaves then you have 25 guests understood that each slave took over a certain job one slave was in charge of the cookie and once they were in charge of the baking now they work together so if they work together they can get everything done when they have four slaves says doesn't mean that the woman actually went and bought a slave like this she has enough nadunya she comes in with enough money to buy slaves then she doesn't have to do the work tonno that when the husband gives her like small gifts like perfume whatever she hoards them and now they're they have enough value that's with that she could buy a slave so that's also a way where she could get away with not working arba yoshevis piccadero or janana even though we said that she could just sit on a rocking chair or whatever just chill avo mesegas lloyd coyze so rashy over here says this is a eta taivo this is not a key of this is just a good idea for a wife to mix the wine add the water to the wine um and put on the linen rashi says it's different than the mishna the bishop were talking about heavy duty work making putting up a bed don't we talking about putting uh turning down the bed like they say you know like easy easy job this is shows heba from from a wife to the husband good idea to be on his good side point of view the virag love wash his face his feet great it's a good now that we mention all these things which bring kiba between our husband and wife or rabona come on lobster you show us a little bellow neither is the bella a woman can do anything even though she's in need of what besides these things now her husband to the other raglove is obviously not talking about that she's touching him because she's thinking that it's another issue so we're talking about even in a in a way that's just pouring it over him or something it's not there's no physical contact she cannot make his bed in front of him if she doesn't when he's not around that's okay um so to pour the wine to mix it dilute it the way they used to do it shmuel says his wife would change it around the other smaller she would use her left hand so what's going on so rashi says that what we're talking about is in the days of libel in other words midiraisa a woman is only anita for seven days so we're talking about after the seven days that's already there but on so we allow with the shinri tyson says that what happens is what's going on here is in the time of the gemara they would go to the mikvah after seven days as mikvah number one they didn't use it for anything just in case they touched tahara's it shouldn't become tame on their iso level so they went to the mikvah oh so now it makes a lot more sense you're talking about me there is uh she's only in either seven days she went to the mikveh some of the races she completely tar now she wants to pour the wine for her husband and she does a machinery with her left hand okay you did see what's going on man your father told you i showed the whole okay says okay we're just saying about different that miranda how they did it with the shinoi puma his wife put the wine on top of the jug uh rava not in front of him but like in back of him by the pillow rappapo ashar shifo on the bench next to him on the stool on rabies okay those days used to have a waiter and it's a problem because you don't want to get this waiter hungry he's carrying all this great food and he's starving and it could be it could be a psychonaut for him there's a bulmoside big problem if you smell food and you don't get to eat manchester um this is sir how come hashama she could let him wait and eat until afterwards that's already too dangerous if he smells like a steak and good wine um it's talking about only very fatty meat that has a great smell bee yoshin and really aged wine omerova it doesn't matter a good steak doesn't matter in the winter in the summer yaya is the good aroma that a wine has is only in the summertime they brought him some sort of mushroom dish we laughed the yardley it stacked me and i it got to me so much i had such a what's the word when a woman no there's a better okay no craving at such a craving that it would have been a sakona omar avashi have a game in the camera rav khan of iceland garglide the lift of bachala unbelievable food turnip heads in vinegar so if he laughed the yardley starcne and if they wouldn't have given me some it would have been a big succulent this is a prelude this is uh the unbelievable story we're going to have soon that an amaro got a craving for hazard and they fed him a little bit of hazard they let him taste it at least but you see the sakana ra papa omar tomato [Music] where am i a filo tomato even a fatty date it could also cause this uh sakana cloth here's the here's the rule the general rule called the isla if it has a good smell good aroma this like it has a like a a good sharp taste whatever the lotion is that it that could cause big problems without even being asked because she didn't want to make us a connor yeah okay are you here people are acting on it at least she wasn't marketing she at least she didn't go knocking on people's doors hey i have a craving i need some food she would give the food okay that's so that's okay yeah i'm a big hustler i would like to have a piece of your potato cool because i it's a mama says a condo for me avoraby from every dish it was a five-course meal he gave every dish he gave to the waiter and one said you know what let me just give him some steak would have to give him the potatoes and and the soup and everything else says the gemara and this is the biggest soy in life comes from good meadows not so much from fasting the mikvah and the good meanest if if if you're nice to your waiter you treat him with respect i know he's the low guy on the totem pole he's the he's he's not the waiter but you give him every single food and you treat him then you know he comes and speaks to you if not not one hostage told the the guys you know my rebbe had gilda leo so the guy says how do you know so he says my rabbit told me she said and maybe he's lying he said you think if he's lying if he's a liar you think you'll know he'll come then by the way you know that laugh i just got an email today i should have read it i'm not joking seo say you've got an email he says i listen to the official shaft or something and every time he says joke there's one guy that laughs really loud do you have that same guy yeah is it over here somewhere over here okay before anything he would give his waiter one of everything before everything before himself eight and the other one would wait first he would eat the cotton safe the kids are a boy saying you don't lose out from being nice to other people the one who was first who said let my waiter eat first mister bad day leonardo will be coming to learn with him the microsoft and the one that prolonged it a little bit let me stoil your bad day i know we wouldn't come talk to him i may remember wherever you have a call you ask me here's the story you have the three americans they were sitting there by the entrance to the persian king khalifa aturango the malcolm there's a guy in charge of the food over there he came by with the food for the king of ashley the marsupial ravage noticed marzuccio the pain he turned pale the food got to him he really needed a fix of that food immediately shook up his bosses his finger right into the food as he's passing by the waiter went like this he put it in his mouth it seems like from the gemara very interesting it's not a deal he didn't have him eat it he put it in his mouth a we're taste why say so the guy tells him what are you doing i've said to the sudden he the king can't eat it anymore somebody took a red with his finger omelette then the cops come he says rasheed the side trim what are you doing now it was another guy maybe they would have chapped his head off but it was ravaging he knew that this is an adam khasho they had they had to ask him first what's going on omar alohu suravashi immediately says whoever made this food did it wrong it's terrible i i did it on purpose i had to ruin the food so the king doesn't eat from it basically he's lying to this to save himself to save his friend or malaya what do you mean this is interesting i just mentioned i don't know a few weeks ago that when the gemara says means saras it means it sometimes it means different things over here it means both of them together it's hazer with saras unbelievable i forgot i want to ask fence to taka if there's any time in chats like that okay because i did the search came out a thousand times but nothing to do with our suggest for that you need something really no shots not the the baryland i saw a piece of hazer but not just khazr it has suras on it and the king doesn't want to eat pork that has leprosy but okay so they take it back to the kitchen and they couldn't find any leprosy so they bring it back to him what are you talking about chocolates bosses grabs the finger of the chef ana okay whoever it is over there the guy in charge and he puts his finger on the piece of meat did you check this piece of meat both people asked who so they checked that piece of meaning they found umbrella on my time at san franciso very nice they could do a mifas but you know one should not do nissan should not do i saw there was sarasota over here going on with who was in memoriam or who the one that was merzotron yeah so i understood that if i say that saras and i see i blame it on saras i'm going to be saved this is going to save the two of us says there was a roman who told the woman and we added shyla in the kylo still don't know what the shot is who is this woman was he jewish or not jewish some said this way some said that one it doesn't doesn't make sense that she was jewish to me the roman told this woman miscella mints of his league are you could you please marry me i'm relay light no way ozil i see money so he had a trick he brought a bunch of pomegranates pali valco combo he started eating in front of her call my desire the saliva that she had in her mouth from wanting to eat the pomegranate and she swallowed but he wouldn't give her adhd so rash says she became like transparent why because when you become bloated your skin stretches it looks like as if you don't have skin so the kids actually became bloated she's about to die let's say vomit love winter sleep trick if i could heal you will you marry me overlay in yes all the lights are your money so you brought more pomegranates off of that most you started eating from the viral any saliva that you have immediately when it comes to your mouth spit it out enough came out some green again i'm not saying that this is it this could be a story which is a hidden kabbalistic message within the gemara sometimes we have no idea what's flying and sometimes there's a whole book the uh the king and the juggler and the king and the different gemaras like this that they explain what everything means fine it could be a muscle to i don't know what to diaco and then she spit out some green things with vitasis and she she was healed did she marry him or not i don't know depending if she's jewish not jewish maybe she said maybe she married him who knows says the kimbard it says in the mission of isabel temer that a woman nevertheless even if she has all these slaves she should still do a little wool who came over to me after the sheer and told me ah until the time they were showing him it was every woman even queens they had a kiev so to speak they had to do needlework who told me that somebody told me that i have to see her the huh she had to they had to because you don't want to sit idle no matter who you are maybe that's where the whole minute of this needle work came from not to be idle it says the marvin summer inn but pisces but you can't you don't tell it to work with flex why semani you can't force your wife to do work for your father for father-in-law and not to serve your children so rashi says very interesting you don't want to tell her to give food to the behemoth meaning only a horse and a donkey because they have a tiger for women you don't want her to be around them avocado eating tablets but cows don't have such a taivo then you could ask her or force her to feed the the cattle rebuild velocity is because every time you you try to make thread with fishing you put it into your mouth to get a little saliva and then the mouth smells um and it stretches out the lips i have a picture of that her boy's eye you shouldn't look at this if you are feign of heart there you go there's stretched lips i'm not saying that it came from doing the piston but that's in some place in the world this is a beautiful thing and the adayama said they do it and that's with the special roman flags okay even if she brings in a thou a hundred slaves she still has to do stuff why because being bored being bottle brings to zima brings the bad things um comes with malchioi yodvalve lash and zakhar omar vadava hava halakha curabilizer now love is like him okay so we have red malkid is one of the times in chats that we're making paskins here's number one by shivra even if you bring in a hundred shebachis he says no a woman has to do something she can't remain idle origami here here's the the chart there are three things maybe you can take away that there's something on the screen that's blocking oh i did not say the sponsor sponsored inaudible and second sponsor is being able to support illuminator and to finish learning shots with rev ellie so now we have a chart here you have rib alchemia on the right and remain with the aleph on the left malkia is more of a like a mauka like uh in a los angeles just so three things were making and three things where malkia said in chat [Music] if you have a skewer that had meat on it so it's much so it's disgusting so you're allowed to move it like we had the other day you got to move it like with the shinui gum ice is the the third thing is that uh or when a kid becomes a bar bat mitzvah with simone now even if there's no cyrus if there's a guma there's a poor that's also a raya that they're they're goggle okay so those are the three on the right the three on the left is glorious blairis is in in hebrews like a chop like a long hair but the gemara says that uh the game used to have a minute they would have like uh a ponytail sort of in the back and a what a mullet very good a mullet and a jewish barber is not a lot of it's more like of a desire thing so he has to distance himself from the mullet three finger breaths okay that's what i locked monkey very interesting person has a wound he shouldn't put ashes on his wound because the ashes will go in underneath the skin it'll be like a tattoo and that's awesome and vena is the halakha of you can't buy cheese from a guy because they put lard on the cheese okay so those are the three on the left says um blairis afer mikla and vermiculites one thing red that's the author of those three is ramakia don't confuse it with rav malkio which sounds very similar so you look over here anything that came from a mishnah ezra and anything that came from an amaro is ramaki so now now if you look at this chart versus this shadow before it's three and three now we take the schwarz from the blue and we give it to the red so now it's four against two okay so nafta aren't they saying the same exact thing he says if she has like little puppies to play around with that gets rid of her boredom but it doesn't mean they'll get rid of zima it's like needlework so she's doing the the simplest of the simple so she's not bored she's playing video games doesn't mean that video games doesn't bring to zima or bring to something bad listen to this one vinnie darsher what here is chess there's another time in chance that's brought down i asked him in the fence everywhere else and he said the market brings the word it's a different word over there um it's called this kumadri over there also chess and it's brought down he showed me it's brought down that's 16 pieces against 16 pieces black and white and then the whole thing so i just since we said the word chess i want to say a few things about chess very very important this is my mind for a very long time i'm not joking first of all what you said about chess is that if you know how to play chess i used to play a lot of chess when i was a kid the soldier the pawn thank you the pawn because in hebrews i played aladdin the pawn is the simplest of everything however if it makes it to the end it becomes a queen becomes the most powerful thing so a martial tashas if you you're a simple human being you're simply yidd but you go when you go and you keep on going you avoid all obstacles you get to the end you become a goddamn you know shas okay so that's one thing but i want to tell you are you sorry unbelievable you saw it in harboring the seaside forever i actually mentioned it once and shir i want to tell you this you saw it that i saw a whole documentary about it there was a guy in the 60s early 70s his name was pogart let me just get his name right i think it's paul yeah and he studied geniuses and he decided to do an experiment on his own children he decided that jesus is made not born he studied over 400 geniuses and that's what he decided and he actually had a very hard time getting married because every woman used to meet said listen i want to get married but i need to do an experiment on my children and you mask him and they all finally found one michigan that said okay what now he decided that he's gonna teach his daughter chess and chess is something that you either you're good at it you have rankings in the world you can't just say oh she's a genius and he wasn't good at chess so he took her and he homeschooled her even though it was against the authorities were against it and this there's no such thing he homeschooled her and she turned out to be the sixth best female chess player that ever lived however the british is that they had three daughters and all three were the top chess players and one of them was the bet the third one judy became the best female player that ever lived she actually beat kasparov she beat all all male champions bigger kadish is that she only had like 140 iq versus um what's his name uh what's the michigan of the play chess bobby fischer that's 170 casper of 190 geniuses she was not a genius so he proved this point and it's a huge huge decide for tyra also i believe if you pump your child with torah at a very young age at age five she already beat her father she was already all these girls and they said judy who's the dumbest out of the dumbest she was the least talented out of all three sisters she's the most successful because she put in the most work the hardest workers it's a huge huge sight you could train your kid to do anything he wants to be if he trained from a very young age you saw it awesome so you think a different time vitamin oh with that being said we have two minutes left uh i had to say oh the next time i can talk about chess is in conducion all right it's okay tomorrow [Music] if a person says he's going to be mutual from his wife explains rashi since it's a person cannot say literally what it says in the mishnah because it's madame so what he's saying is he's mother himself he can't say that his mother's wife bosses give him two weeks and then get divorced wait for one week so we're going to see what the exactly says if somebody wants to go learn torah he doesn't have to ask his wife permission to go for 30 days now we're talking about oh you know of a of a husband have relations with his wife each person has a different heel depending on how hard his job is how what it what it means how long does he have to stay away from home etc so hapayalam if he's a worker a laborer shabbos he's allowed to leave for a week without asking for permission says the says the mishnah more about the husband for his wife depends if he's a retired guy he's all he does all day is he travels every since he's on the road he's he's far away in the desert only once every 30 days as upon him guys on a on a ship ah once every six months very interesting is that if a person got married a certain way and then he decides to change to be a sap and he doesn't have right yes that's his wife it's talking about in a situation where she got married at dieter she she agreed to this my time will be shaman where where does this beshaman learn this allah two weeks gamma miles in the cave you see the urbanization says that if a woman gives birth to a girl she's anita for two weeks so you see that a person could could with withhold for two weeks um gammari say no let's learn from the zachary which is only one week says but at the end of the day you see that is two weeks so maybe it should be two weeks it says gamora emily's gaming you're right you should learn but we're not learning from your letters at all not from a boy not from a girl he learns this is hard to understand maybe you could say a little chatter but it's common for a person to get upset and when he gets upset he makes a nether against his wife i'm gonna have nothing to do with you and to be anita is common or maybe the shot is that kind of person who gets mad and makes voice then adore him it's common because i don't know anybody that makes sashindarian but okay um the nether he himself caused you learn now from immediate law he caused her to give birth omarov like it says when a person specifically says i'm a mother i know for my wife for two weeks i was standing there i called you to love everything but if he didn't mention the amount of time he should get divorced immediately maybe he'll find some sort of loophole in his nether if i would have known this and this and that i wouldn't have said it it goes to rav and rob says it's not another says that's the case i believe we already have this much like this is not a matter of if a person says i'm not letting my wife have any benefit a monetary benefit for me now this is not talking about taxes we're talking about stomp food stuff like that actually he should put somebody to give her food rash he says the obvious question is that's also hannah it's coming from him the camera over there discussions if you think super but more than 30 days it's already embarrassing for her that she's getting the food through into uh yes the divorce is and the store has to get give a guess i'm sorry if it's bestam has to give a get right away if he said two weeks wait ushmollom is by by uh by making another you can't you can't uh you can't bring somebody else in to to to have relations with your wife they have to be financed but with food you could bring somebody else in hey my mother so maybe i'll be mighty to wrap have a wonderful wonderful day tomorrow is the crush of the day you