Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 53 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] to eat a special suda today like to add a little bit to yesuda because it is a yantef [Music] i've never done this before but you're going to gain from this because i was so impressed by this email it really touched me top 10 email i decided just to read this one and that's it to emphasize this email it comes with three pictures and let me just give a dummy to the email what oh okay yeah i know this person i met him a number of times he's a wicked person he's a kylo younger man he learns full-time and he also does the daf so that gives a little bit more of um of understanding what's going on it says sean rebelli this past tuesday was my mdy first anniversary wow what a year a year of hundreds of that in gemara it was since it's seriously mind-blowing and amazing anyway so tuesday afternoon i came to my yard i was gonna head straight down to take care of something when i see my family all peeking out of the window wearing shabbos clothing on a weekday wearing shabbos clothing my wife is motioning that i should come in so i parked and came in and boy was i surprised the whole table set up nicely with food ordered from a cafe shop with slurpees for everyone in dessert but that's not all on the table there's a tablet with a rebellion on it an mdy centerpiece and then a bunch of balloons tied to my chair and streamers hanging on the wall that said 365 made from streamers or anniversaries see attached pictures but that's not all then came the gift i opened it up and was really surprised to find a custom a trophy in the shape of a fire to show the glowing schmuck this brings to my family with a personal note from my family and ndy logo on it see attached pictures 23. i realize how so important it is that one's family should be involved and excited about him learning the daf and that it is a fundamental part of learning the doubt it gave me such a feeling of backing being proud but you can't imagine and of course it makes the kids look up to such things and want to be like kathy instead of looking up the studsum concert the main thank you goes to your ability for revolutionizing the jewish world tiring in such dangerous times i hear the pictures here's the trophy i was on a spot that the wife went out of her way to put this together and look what it says on the trophy mazel tov the daf with mdy has truly made a difference in our lives thank you for this priceless gift we love you and so proud mdy making a difference 365. what can you send that picture to our wives that's up to you guys i'm putting it out here you know where to you tell her that there's something going on with mando this dad and then there hag if she sees this that's how you do it there's a tablet on the table with the sheer going the slurpees the mdy centerpiece unbelievable to me i was i was very very moved by this email and therefore it's your gain we're going to go straight in to the sponsors the no it's not bad mama's unbelievable a trophy with the etched glass coil younger man not a guy that doesn't learn anything he learns the whole day holo sponsored all the new people that joined cleveland sponsored by avi and rachel kamianski i just messaged avi this morning is gone he's already in america for who knows how long but bizarre hashem fixes back mendy is back we're starting to fill up the front seats yeshkaya the sponsor of the cuddle for the week is the refuas ester ben portona bitton and parasa coil for the day before slaymo there will be i'll show bazel sham if we get there i'll show another video that has to do with those and guys from the share later on along with baze towards marriage towards the end of this year foreign israel and family in memory of our zed and three cousins who were killed in a plane crash sarah klein ricky and raquel menorah on the 12th of the yard side that inshallah should all have an aliyah of maine in the memory of my precious southern belle wife mother and grandmother rita gayepstein happy birthday to my former classmate and fellow md wire borrowed bernie bernfield bbb triple b by heim tara bello in honor of my daughter getting married today he's one of my best friends kind of tarabello i didn't know you see i somebody has this he spot somebody i guess should have been at the casino he came to all my kids class and all all two of them already flew into chicago in honor of my daughter getting married today should be opinionated and mdy sponsors leela nishmas nissan against his father kai mayor ben mordecai ganz who's your side is today we are holding the afternoon base on the bays all the way in the bottom ra papa a miso rabbi yazakale libre he was busy marrying off his son bei abbasura interesting story he's marrying his son he did a shadow with his father-in-law his own father-in-law had a daughter from not related to his son because otherwise it would be us of his son to marry an aunt so from another marriage he had another daughter here papa knew this girl well by the schwarz house all the time and he saw this girl he said it's a great chill for my for my son but it's the schwere you know you have that pachada of the schwer so oza le out of him to there should be some good stuff there shama yehuda by miramar rashford yudhoyono heard about this that pop is going to his father-in-law he appeared through a pop he says okay let's go can i come with you could i accompany you i want to i want to see what's going on here when they got to the door of abu surah have a commitment what's the what's the name oh you the bar miramar you the barramurama asked permission from from rafapapa if you could leave you didn't want to go in on marley naomi what's going on here why don't you come in i want you you're already accompanying me all the way here why don't you just come in with me republican noticed that yuhuda by meraymar is uncomfortable to go with omale uh let me figure this out on my own why are you uncomfortable you're the sharp one right that's ravi huda's name shmuel always called him shinano don't be a witness to people being mad taking away yerusha from one to the other don't don't be there don't be part of it so you don't want to come in because you might witness the schwere giving nihasim his daughter and that's no good he's taking away yerusha from the sons and giving it to the daughters and this is where boys a very important halacha to us also if if somebody else has a kid that's off the dara he's upset at this kid so i'll take him out of the urusha the gemara says you don't take a kid out of the urushi even a bad kid let me let me maneuver stuff no what the torah says you give you give the lawyer and the gemara says the reason the idea of nothing nobody has any idea what the future generations hold who's going to do chuva and who's really going to be the real goddamn and who you're going to have the most knackers from you never know because you don't know what kind of children this supposed not good kid is going to have emma lo you don't be don't play rebel slay them over here don't you decide who gets the urushi and who doesn't get your show you do what the terror says the car gets two parts the other boys get one part but certainly the cause came in brother bartholomew you have no business taking yerusha from a son and giving it up to the daughter today is different but he's going to witness rough papa squeezing his shiver so to speak to give riv papasan mourinho and that's taking away from abbasura's sons and giving to the daughters yes he's still alive but it's from the urus somebody came over to me last night because we were talking about this like oh it's my arusha what are you buying your fries it's like i forgot it was like oh yeah was it yo safe somebody told me yeah it was somebody said that is um his brother-in-law's tell the schwere all the time stop gambling you're gambling at yours away you know like the guy's still alive but hey they feel like it's their money it's their it's theirs they're entitled to it okay typical kids this is what we had yesterday that we want the father to give his daughter a lot so that people should marry her should go easy in shidduchim says you the baby remember i don't want to come into the house over there and help you force your father-in-law if your father-in-law gives on his own rotten okay because he wants to make it easy in this but you want me to help you out that not i can't help you out i didn't tell you to come and help me when did i ever say you should you should try to convince my father-in-law i said just accompany me be there all right when i just walk up there if i sit down in front of your father-in-law that itself is going to squeeze your father-in-law because of the covet that is going to give you the by miramar i guess he was a known personality and imagine you show up with retirement kanewski and you share his house talking about no i don't want to give you give you give nicely says republic convinced him he forced him with with words and he was you're successful in convincing you by miranda to show up with the schwere so you was worried that he's going to be forcing the shredder to do something that he shouldn't be doing ish because if he was he kept quiet the entire time and he sat there savar so the father-in-law abba surah thought why is he so quiet all of a sudden he's probably really upset at me he doesn't like what i'm giving almighty so based on the shtico i gave him everything there's a gemara i couldn't find it today i looked all over i found in marcus and that's an arashi brings his shelters but i thought it was a gemara so it might not be a gemara i couldn't find it but whatever i didn't look that long but he brings the rafsafra i thought maybe it's in brachas or something if somebody remembers but it's in the sriracha that's look it up refsafer was once in the middle of krishna and somebody said some of your donkey i'll give you a hundred whatever it was and he was involved krishna said he didn't answer like i said i got 200. and he still does 300 he keeps on negotiating with himself and finally when he was done with krishna said no no don't worry about it i'll give it to you for the 100. i was just doing priesthood like you might want to say that he was so careful with his words where was this aquaponics it just reminded me of that you know somebody's quiet he starts negotiating with himself the guy you the by miranda didn't say a word but the swear thought and in his mind yeah okay i'll give you everything i own says what's going on i gave everything i own and you're still not saying a word you should know i'm like like i emptied my bank account here what do you want from me why why why are you still upset at me on my legs it was up to me i feel high not exactly forget it the original whatever amount you gave in the beginning you said 100 even that don't give it's against my my what i want i'm just sitting here i'm i'm doing papa favor i'm not upset at you i don't want you to give all your harassment oh so could i take it back if you're not even upset at me i would have never given every dime that i owned no once you said it it's not a good idea to take it back you said you're right i logically take it back but words are words and it just reminds me i was talking to um donnie who's not here now i don't think yeah there's a there's a minute again there's this troll i think it's a mini graph when anybody tried to buy an apartment here and i just troll knows a word is not a word like people say yeah i'll sell it to you and then you even sign a document and tomorrow no i want more money what happened to a word here a word is a word you have to keep your word even words forget about signing over here it's a terrible thing so somebody has to do something about it it's like it's not it doesn't pass you the attack like this no you guys know what i'm talking about in real estate it's nerve-wracking i decided to tell somebody else last minute what happened what happened to the dimensional attack whatever okay fight but i just want to point there must says over here very interesting this is important to us also ramos says not to squeeze your for money because if you do it's like you're marrying a woman for her money then you're showing you marrying her for the money and they have a bottom move on so if you sit there at a at you know that that that initial uh what is it called that meeting that you have with them you know listen to this and you start that it's bad it's not a good it's not a good thing he says come we saved you see that right over here all right the kits are to be careful with your words it says in the game i could take it back i didn't i didn't sign the document i said i'm going to give everything i own everything you own that's tom a lot of money everything he owns don't take it back it's not gonna die if the woman the wife if the wife you could also take that paper it's been there for a few days i don't know put it there oh yeah but we're going to be here we're starting today the coil here yeah somebody put out that there's going to be a minion 9 o'clock no we're starting here okay yeah take it off for me well unless until we get kicked out tomorrow we'll start we'll see what happens okay you hear a woman for whatever reason she sells her tuba to her husband her own husband she sells it in the tsuba you have the dunya you have everything else she sells it but in the super you have supers bottom different you have different different tonic super different things it's not just the 200 that's in the other stuff question is yes it was different did she sell the ability of her sons to inherit everything that that she brought into the marriage or by her giving up the ksuba selling the suba let's just use desperate she needed money whatever it is she sold the two with her husband she sold the whole pack it's a package deal it's everything even the tsubas bun in different says the gemara omelet rubble why jumping to interesting case of a woman selling your ksuba to her husband that's very rare that a wife should do a business deal with her husband what's more common is a wife being michael her husband saying listen i know you're you're not doing well don't worry about it if we ever get divorced if you ever die i'm michael xuba take it easy that that's a lot more common omelette no you didn't understand what i'm saying is stronger hashtags over here this is sad to say that she was forced she mama shot her highness she was against her will but she really was desperate for money for whatever reason she got hit 100 times with the uh i did my own little uh picture over here here's a whip with an ukla i added the oaklaw ukulele is a weight like a small piece of metal at the end of the whip so you imagine you get whipped with this whip but at the end you get desserts i just saw a whole video of a guy getting hit with uh some uh so there's a lawsuit the guy getting hit with an antenna a tv antenna so they were showing that because the top part of the antenna sticks out a little bit so that part caused the most damage of the whole whack you got wet there's a little bit of thing a little red but that little piece like just blew up and whatever they're suing for a lot of money cops whatever i go about this this is much worse this is like a it's not even it's it's swings and it's a piece of so man she got hit a hundred times in other words even though she got hit a hundred times you know she has such annoyingness nevertheless she she's so she's michael on her own certainly so that's why i said that's why i said that she was forced with money i'm i'm going on the on the on the furthest side that she's such a highness tremendous sinus like getting hit a hundred times and even so with the big highness she loses everything she can't say well i was a highness you should still pay me does it sad to say that one of the student is that she loses her ksuba so certainly if she was michael and nobody forced her to be mindful if she didn't get hit a hundred times certainly she should lose her tsuba i'm going on the worst of the worst says the kumara amarava sheetali okay selling the xuba touch stranger she's only selling a little bit of it she's not telling the whole thing she's saying that if her husband dies then he and she gets like super then he'll he's buying that from her again she's going to be alive her husband doesn't die she deserves the suba it's like they do this today right people buy insurance policies if the guy dies you get the if my husband dies you'll get his insurance policy that he owes me holds me the 200 you'll get that but what if she dies that she didn't sell she's only selling the schools if he dies so mamela the bottom different the part that has to do with her dying and her son's yard and her that she didn't sell i and now rashi keeps on sticking this in this a big part of the sugar this idea of zilzo she was missiles of nexuba was she and how do you say zeal's only not embarrassingly disgracing the soup okay thank you doug disgracing luke super so she's not disgracing this super why the mark explains my timer zuzia this is coming to say to take away from your your you're having maybe she's disgracing this whole super she's she's belittling it oh that's even a better word i like belittling she's literally niksuba so she's belitting them and her sons don't deserve it no she was forced they put a gun to her head she's getting wet she needs money there is belittling she was miss ouzil and her sons she said i don't care about my kids get out of here you know let's put this over here doesn't block your we're not talking about the husband here we didn't get to the husband yet robert started a new thing and merciless to the husband yeah that comes in that while she's married no it's first off it's her stuff it's not it's not that she found it in the street yeah it's still hers she's always sell her her nixie milk and something like that i mean or whatever things that came in it's hers she didn't she didn't pick it up during marriage this is before marriage okay now boy rava comes rava and said asked the question that we had before now we have two alarms selling her tsuba to a stranger being michael orksuba to her husband what about the third case selling the tsubo to the husband again she she's not selling the whole super she's selling that if the husband dies first he doesn't have to pay her there's other things after he asked the question he answered it like it doesn't explain what he asked a question and then he said okay he answered in other words it made more sense than to say that it's like selling to a stranger and therefore she doesn't lose the tsuba it's not a zil zulu subah mazur avidibarov mesa question from a far-fetched case the gomorrah wants to say it's similar to this case this is a case from your vomit mesa isn't your bummer i made it up let's say here hey yeah you're vomiting fine what happened the famous case we discussed a lot in the involvement that her husband went to medina her husband left and she wants to get married she's desperate to get married she's he hasn't showed up 20 years a death comes and says that her husband i saw doesn't dead she's allowed to trust a death why because if she doesn't if she doesn't do a good job verifying his testimony she's going to get punished how many things 19 what was it 16 night whatever it is okay now it says over there the guy shows up the original husband shows up so she has to get divorced from both husbands and then we say hey yo now it says over there that she doesn't get xuba and then it finishes saying and by the way the urgent don't get exubas if you if you maybe if you don't remember how many things then you might not even remember the whole sega but okay i think you will remember this ravina box it wasn't my vitto we already said she doesn't make supers of course they don't inherit exuberance she doesn't get exuber all right papa she was born different we're talking about not the super super that she doesn't get but what about her sons her sons from both marriages she has sons from both they should get to tsubasa that they also don't get it says the gemara isn't it similar to what do we say that when she's forced there's a gun through her head it's like she got wet whacked with this whip she really needs money she's so desperate so there's no zelda's on the tuba therefore she's not she's not michael she still gets the suba what about over here also same kind of savara hakonami layman yates around she really wanted to get married so she relied on a testimony of one aid is it so bad why should she lose her exuberant for that it should be the same kind of idea by us she should at least she should get there should be a bottom difference she should get something based on that that we had to lay it on with 19 things 16 things whatever it is more than 10 punishments that she gets if she messes up here here's aydah do what you want with it but you're going to have to verify because if you don't verify your sons are going to lose out you're going to lose out everything is going to go wrong so you're going to make sure 100 that what he's saying is true and then only after that you're going to get married to the second guy you also have robin barcanino yes if we call him lazar said in the name of rival it says rashi on the spot mizonis is in the torah so it can't be that means zones that we're talking about that you have to support right cher susvana it's either share it's uh oh you know what yeah but we said maybe it's all you know there's one man okay fine whatever it's in this position so even she's michael xuba which is the rabona doesn't doesn't doesn't absolve the husband of zion so says you're actually talking about the zionists of an almana the husband died and the sons are obligated to support her but if she's michael and this is a night in the exuberant after the husband dies you have to support the wife that she loses amelie you'll have to comment let me show you guys and if you wouldn't have said it in the name of rebel lazar what's the saying in english no good ever goes no good deed ever goes unpunished mama shall be here may she bro what did she do she's michael laksuba she did a favor to the husband and you're going to take that favor and use it against her and say you don't even get support yes you're sitting by tragic stories kala died after the irishman before the suin and he wanted to know is he obligated to bury her maybe the shredder he was never married to her i relay they told him you know what's a good idea silk fire barrier you'll come out cheap why or you have tsubasa because either you're gonna have to give her to the family 200 or barrier i think it's cheaper it's just barrier honolulu africa there has to be relations in order for kain to be metamod can it's not you not matama to your arusa to your cow we we brought this rashi a number of times rashford says a woman has no issue to be matama if she's if she dies he doesn't inherit her mesu [Music] if he dies she gets exuber time with the mesu says the kamar but that's only because he died her mesa he but if she dies ain't locked suba so why are you telling me now that you better bury her and that you're burying her instead of the tsuba why hey look suba you don't what does index super mean that he doesn't have to bury her that's what enoch subba the touch of enlight suba if she dies what are you going to deposit the cube in her grave no ain't look super means he doesn't have to bury her so why did they tell this guy that he has to bury his cow my time bomber why doesn't they have to bury her because in the subway says okay when you get married to somebody else then you'll you'll take what you what it says over here ain't look super again what does in look super mean he doesn't have to bury her uh akala who dies the hassan doesn't have to bury her says he didn't like this why because we just finished saying this it's like a guy who says over a shot and then you find it in the arts role like okay peeked over there and then you tell me i'm shocked what are you telling me it's a visaya that says take your favors just throw it on the thorns if i think you're really shy okay says the says oh we just turned to the new gimbal on bay's new sponsor in honor of yankee balm and moisture horn and the schools being able to support libertaria and to finish learning shots with aruba [Music] the girls that you're going to have for me rav tani so we have lukoiro we're starting off thinking that we have this mahalakas it turns into something slightly different that they the boys have to support the girls until they get married the lavitani add the thief until they become a bagueres big rice what age bike rice till 12 and a half support till 12 and a half 12 and a half years old they're on their own says gemara i don't understand the wrap i think i have the guy or levi africa both of these things becoming your baguettes and getting married removes a girl from her father's domain so if removes the father domain then she's on her own so why why would one argue on the other they should both agree to each other that either whichever comes first marriage or bagross says the gemara um ello bug reliance of incivility buggy right one of the other liquidly ambulati that's it she loses her misogynist when she becomes 12 and a half or she gets married keep pleagi but arusa villabaga if she got engaged before she became 12 and a half according to rav raf says marriage oh you have to get married arusa is not marriage says rashi points out the levy had his own prices just like reprieve shahia had their braces they were based on the sheesh cesare mishna and he also had his own ton of levi until the point that they get married he points out marriage it's not about getting engaged irusan it's about nisuan says just ask them this what do you need both you need bagrus and marriage that we said before it's one of the other tartini it's time in the wording okay it's one of the other you're right says market annoyed like we had a macho style atmosphere is joining us when do you have to support the daughter actually the rs until again you can take that to slide off stand again now mushroom rib allows your armor actually debugger here we have that mclaughs harrison or bagrus tony raviosith until this is a hawaiian so here's the famous possibility of the heist who's engaged in those days the real aerosol gives her a ring arusa but then they take like a break up to a year does he have to support it or not i know this i didn't hear but i could tell you from logic less law he doesn't have to support why even the irs that the whole point is that the reason why that a father has to support his daughter or you support the daughter after the father dies is that she shouldn't have bizarreness okay well very good you're saying your own logic i have my own the reverse logic who says your logic is better than mine i'll say isla because it's very possible that at the end of the day he won't want to marry her he'll find someone vigodamri and he doesn't want to stop throughout his money viking army the opposite the whole thing in the reverse same thing i didn't hear that islam she should get given i made a little chart here because it helps anybody suck zarov is in the center and it that's the names of the people shin is for afshayshes kofi's first now if you want to remember who said what all you have to do is you have to remember the five things on the left okay remember that and then you know and all five shiloh's will be clear to you okay listen i don't understand anything about memory so this means nothing to me this means yeah it's great everybody can remember this besides me i don't remember anything else but you guys probably understand how this works so somebody sent me an email today that he heard that i said i don't have a good memory i should try zuckerberg the zipper that's what levy freeman uses that he read out and that's alcohol i saw him here before okay zombie morrow boy many reps is here if a girl young girl katana her father dies her mother can't support her he doesn't want her she doesn't want her to be stammer prusa so she marries her off to a guy she has the right to be my mind to absolve the marriage to say i don't want to be married to this guy she has to go in front of two of them say i don't want you now a beautiful shiloh when a girl gets married she loses her misogynist from her father she's no longer in his domain but this girl was she married an admirer she was married for three years but then she did me on so retroactively she know the whole marriage to begin with so she was never married or maybe no maybe the fact that she's married once that's it she loses her misogynist when she never left her father's house meaning she was only in naruso who grew so big seville she got a divorce when she was still vicious maris yo and she is a vama or she was about to be obama in the house of her father when she was a russo yesterday she has missionaries she gets miserables if she's still in her father's house she hasn't designed us now pay attention he's not saying anything different than we just said but it says when she's engaged she has mizonas that's exactly what tanaka said yes he doesn't add anything says no this is this is our shia law this this is our proof why would review the argue because he's arguing in a different case he's arguing the case of enemies of our islam review the sovereign islam says has messiahs because she was never married we look at it as if she know the marriage to begin with she was never married melissa she gets herself this is no the point is she was married i don't care that you know that but she once you met get married it's like uh i don't know like somebody's not absolutely anymore you you're you're not i had a little fun this morning welcome back to norm fix here he is so we have a guy maritor back to your box and take a look if you never if you never learn with us ibamas check out how the charts working involvement then he goes sideways you see i i really didn't know he's gonna be here so i thought i could do this when he's not here so she falls leave home to another bald man this guy shimon who happened to leave the other day to america fine she falls so she's just she falls leaving him what happened was oh look how nicely he goes and he's married to her and they produce a child it's the daughter of a yovan okay they have a daughter now it happens to be that this guy shimon has another wife and that wife had a son yasiklin from monsi now shimon goes bye-bye so shiloh is does yossi klein have to give ms zionist to his uh she's not even related to him or her stepsister yes it's a half-sister half-sister but she is the daughter of the of them and maybe she has the responsibility for her is actually you no i'm fixed no no no the guy that went sideways the first guy so i just now that i'm here we have one minute i want to show you this video that i got this morning this rabois is unbelievable and this i only clapped after i did this chart of yossi klein yossi klein is a husset who lives in muncie is a big part of this year he invited two people from the sheer who he only met after he was doing this year the son of gans and my partner betsy friedman to come for shout outs because he females in chicago went to him flew his entire family to go to you'll see clients house of shabbos but jose cline doesn't have enough room in his house for shabbos so what does jesse clyde the magnus ayers do check this out it's unbelievable you put the rv in front of the house two literature guys i know betsy freeman doesn't want to be called the ludwig but his father's a serious looks like he became uh you know high image later on but come to my house with rang i don't have room we'll get an rv so i called them the song and this morning i said new how was darvey he said it was great but i want to tell you one thing and he says this is you could tell the islam i promise you that i'm not exaggerating one word he said that's what he said yossi klein sat on shabbos for five hours and learned with his son the seven dafa gemara of that week he does he said he was sitting there baha'u's mother and he does this every single shabbos so he says just no it's not standard he's holding with the dot seventh gemara and one shabbos with the sun unbelievable okay so now that we know about yossi klein oh let's continue the thing so here here's the chart go back to the charges for a second so now you have this daughter the little girl whose responsibility is it is it the late husband on the on the left the ruvain or is it her own father shimon but the father shimon he's not a real father he's a real of course he's a real genetically rude but he stepped in to be a yavam to take over his dead brother's place he's locking so maybe it's reuven that's responsible and not yasie klein not the son of shimon it should be responsibility somewhere else that's the shy letter yes does yasi cline does the kid from another marriage have to support his half-sister who's the daughter of the young kid it happens to be that shimon who steps in to marry the obama doesn't have to give her a ksuba the tsuba comes from reuven and then we have the whole shiloh there because actually shimon inherits everything from ruben and he gets his okay fine let's learn you know i'm actually going to say bala rich in less law yossi klein is not obligated because now it falls to ruvines or delmark even the islamic shine the lesla mirishan if the if roovene is uh any doesn't have money to give her super tequila about a machene they said okay let chiming do the subus over here also there's no missiness in the tsuba to support that little girl is not in miksuba so it's as if he's poor so if he's poor shimon has to take care of it who's shimin shimon is gone shrimp is no longer alive yossi clyde has to take care of it a wonderful day [Music] you