Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 39 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning rap boys i here i am in black rhino so you know we have an amazing executive director his name is tomer levy he's just a tremendous balmeidah it's a great guy quiet guy unassuming but accomplishes a ton his brother i didn't know about this his brother gili levy he arranges these kind of tours and he put me up in this unreal this place is crazy i'm in the kitchen area in this eating area there's different rooms here it's a whole crazy matter look at this place it's unreal and um each one of my kids has like their own beautiful beautiful it looks like this room but just large and it's just each one and we have the entire property for ourselves and it comes with a ranger and a jeep and this ranger takes care of the whole property and takes us on these game drives beijing hashem tomorrow morning early in the morning we're going to go on a game i'll let you know how it went but if anybody wants to go on this amazing kind of tour you gotta reach out to this ghillie levy i don't know you i don't even know how to reach him but you could maybe email us and uh the plays i don't it's beyond real this is the first time i ever had something like this uh a private chef with a with a masjid full time and they also have their own house it's me suga and the price is insane okay raboisei just uh because it's been as mana over here just one short email by yaakov schreiber somalia valley i wanted to give you shikoya to you for the immense amount of effort that you're putting into this year by the way stop just to describe this gili levy and how he's the all these levees the tomer and the dani and their destroyer and it was also part of this whole thing we didn't even say anything to him we were we flew into johannesburg last week and we went on another safari and without telling us he met us in the airport he knows that my kids love pizza he got them pizza he got the rest of the guys sandwiches with beef and this garnish without saying anything he's that kind of guy it's unbelievable like a yoshi yashar guy that does he delivers a lot more than he promises so just if anybody wants to go on a real good tour here in africa right into daphne rama yaakov schreiber show me bella i wanted to give you israel to you for the immense amount of effort that you're putting into this year from a different continent with almost no reception and the challenge of not having the equipment and safari thank you very much true still don't have farm the equipment is very simple just an iphone the reception here i hope is better i think it's better we'll see i thought that you might get physics seeing these clips of my children excited for this year even though they were having fun on vacation one is from the pool in the sattai by the kineret and the other is from hamad gadar it was a hazard from hashem that the hot springs were practically empty here's a picture of that place oh so here they are boys here's a video real quick one of the sadiq rabbi schreiber this bachelor learning the deaf and his little siblings and the palm trees in the background give all the good stuff [Music] he's losing to share and they're screaming good morning invalid stuff all right here we go the kyle this month is sponsored anonymously disclose all the new people that joined the sheriff exuberance paris hakko number two avi and rachel kaminsky in memory of rachel's mother razel reza gitl bass esther rita should be in melitsa yashara on behalf of us and our children the parents are kylo for the day israel and stephen herlich on the other side of stephen's father being yeoman shall new jersey because toyota's the best gulab number two if it's rl 149 as this goes for my family myself and for the sadiq of salah number three leading us number [Music] on their 12th yard side then the strongest should have all having aliyah princeton number five dr abram epstein in the memory of my pressure southern belle wife mother every time i get like a choke it's crazy mother and grandmother this it sounds interesting precious southern belle those words i don't know it's just because the husband the the tsar that he has i see him every day and i see this this pain in his face epstein partners of heidi's number six michael bemela multi peril and iron hirsch to be zoycha to make it to mars shauna this year paris of shavuah for of italia esther bastivio what she's not engaged yet we dive in for already two days and the paris hyoim it's this is from daf la medhas which i have to ask mahila i didn't mention berghain cassell for my mother luis lucille bass garrison on her third yard site paris reviews learning music comfort for the family thriller of romaine and the third partners knock on shore successful surgery and foolish lama for moisture frying me oh man here we go today is daf llama test and we finished obviously we started the soogi but we have to go back so we had a bain robo abaya which he said he was partial to him that if somebody's a woman and the girl passes away then he doesn't have to pay the canadas because it says in the past you give to the father of the naira and she's no longer alive and he asks it in a very interesting lesson yesh beggar baker does the girl mature and become a bugaris when she's already in the grave to the point this question is does he have to pay the fine to the son of this woman now we know that the only time a woman gets a kinesis if she's a naira she's between the age of 12 and 12 and a half 12 with simone and twelve and a half becomes a biggers so we're holding on top of lame testament out of the first words i made a brock already um bro is it possible for this girl to become pregnant when i was learning ish beggar bequever just reminded me of a video i once saw terrible thing i think it's like in new york they have a video of a person pushing a wheelchair into a bank to collect money for the person in the wheelchair just turns out the person in the wheelchair was already dead for a few days it's beggar because a person is already dead and matures collects all sorts of government funds after the death etc you know what i'm talking about um we had a number of times already in the last year there are three women who according to rashu are to use contraceptive a sponge in order now they become pregnant according to tysons they're permitted so rashi says according to rashi they're permitted because there's no hasha they must i reversed it what i said rash is reverend time is rashford time says they have to the muhoyev because it's here are the three people that can use a minia contraceptive umuberes a pregnant woman uminika and a nursing mother katana the reason is shamatha's habit of thomas so is asking how in the world did this nairo who receives a class how could she have a baby if she's aktana it says over here that is going to die and therefore she according to tyson she must use the the kundarashi she can use the mubarak if she's pregnant and she also borrows here we have a picture perhaps she will the second pregnancy if she's already pregnant perhaps she'll become pregnant a second time scientifically it we know that that's possible and the second vlad will crush the first one like a fish called a sandal here we have a in hebrew sando this is chart number one sandal is a sandal and here somebody made a sandal out of a fish a fish sand okay stamp and a nursing mother sham i'll take my lesbian because the milk is not going to be good in those days there's no formula if the child the infant doesn't have milk and doesn't is not able to nurse from the mother potential death so mela they have to use a uh they could use them less than 11 more than 12 oscar to use a monk [Music] in other words it's not a hundred percent it's it's very fun not that it's a hundred percent it's very far it's a very rough degree it's a very small concern that she might die so for that we're not going to allow it and therefore we say shoymer so but if she gave birth this girl the question is she dies does the fine go to her child but if she gave birth how's it possible she gave birth when she got pregnant when she was like tanner we just said that she gets pregnant she's a tanner she's going to die then he died in the abrupt she so going back to the chart chart number two neither we say is when she's 12 years old from 12 when she has simone till 12 and a half so perhaps is the kamara she got pregnant when she was a naira and she gave birth when she's in naira wait a minute um we know that naira is only six months how could she give birth in six months more hey may neither is the background you see on the chart that the whole period of nairos is only six months from twelve to twelve and a half vegeta minbo to the liquid and maybe you'll tell me that it can't be less than six months but perhaps nairo's last more than six months but the lesson is you only have these six months you only have the schneiders so i apologize if the focus is coming in and out it's one of these cameras it's the iphone the lighting okay be michael and be back in your show baser hashem wednesday so we must say that the question is a little different not if the girl dies does the child yash she doesn't have a child she can't have a child says the concern is does the father have a source in her can astronaut because what happens is when if she didn't die she was violated when she was in nairo and before there's an opportunity to go and get upset in from the basement she became a bugaris let's say the the violation happened two days before she turned 12 and a half and until they went to bed she she had a 12 and a half birthday she gets the konas not the father or dilma ain't bigger so if she gets the canas now that she died and she turned into baguettes in the grave maybe the father loses it or forget about that she had a birthday that she had she been alive she would have turned twelve and a half marblevasha wants to know perhaps the moment she dies she flips into bargains that moment not because she she she was dead for six months and she turned into baguios miso isobarus does the death itself create a situation where the father loses his host of the knights he doesn't he doesn't he's not entitled to it anymore or yeah or death doesn't cause this other age of bad gurus taku we have to wait tish be tired we'll wait until comes to what if this disgusting human being violated her and then she got engaged perhaps the class goes to her even though she's still a naira and when she's a naira the father gets the canas but because she got engaged perhaps she leaves her father so she gets also the the canaanites now for other things she's still in the father says it doesn't say that you give the knights to the father of the naira who's not engaged we're talking about when the violation happened that's the only time we care about at that point was she engaged or not engaged ashore larry rosso at the time of the violation not later on at the time of the payment that's not important to us oh this girl who was violated not she got engaged she got married completely is the knack is latimo so why why should she be entitled to the cannas it doesn't say give it to the father who of this woman who's not married no it's different i'll tell you why if she gets married is different than if she got engaged because [Music] when she turns 12 and a half she leaves her father's rushos he's no longer in control over and when she gets married he's no longer in control magnum baggers bottle bugger latzmo just when she becomes 12 and a half the class goes to herself why let's see the possible chart three vinos it's the father who gets the knack the father of the narrow but if she's if she's no longer narrow she's a baguera she's the next day she's 12 and a half the father's not entitled to it afternoon swim but love and he says so two when she gets married and by getting married she leaves his control lots more than the kinda should be yourself hello says but how can you compare it to getting engaged she never left her father's control completely but now we learned a vo bala mafia [Music] when she gets engaged the father and the hassan they both have control over so the father didn't lose complete control he lost 50 control of whatever you want to call it but he's still in control to the point where if she makes another she swears she's not going to do something the father and the husband together in conjunction they are the neder says the hillary mishnah where's last mission that we had wow i thought i moved that already let's see sorry no i didn't move it but to the wrong place oh official mission is sponsored by moishiko in facts with limu that toyota now the mission is going to describe to us the different payments that one has to pay a woman a girl that he violated and the difference between an inus and a mafatu is somebody he violated forcefully without consent fat is somebody seduced says a person who seduced a woman he has to pay her three things vainasaur and the one who violated her forcefully he has to pay one more for hamilton [Music] so here's the list of typical payments you have to pay a a person that you damage nezeksar repu chavez bushes so that's chart number four you all save the mafata has to give boys which is humiliation i saw this incredible that shimon and levi went into shechem and they took the whole loot because they claimed that was the bushes that they caused dina and each person and we're gonna see that on tomorrow's death each person on a different level the entire loot the the value on a slave market and they cannot is the 50 shekel that we're talking about this fight myself and a person who did a forcefully noise in the satsar he has to pay the pain what pain are we talking about they were talking about the pain as the commander is going to describe different types of pain what exactly it is okay if you do hear that noise that's an ice maker don't worry about the noise sounds like an animal trying to get in here the ranger tells us that we shouldn't worry if we walk to the room see the leopard that's a lot of times the leper comes in don't run the first thing do not run make look stare at it maybe stomp with your feet never run away from it biggie soy my father told me to see soy mustard haskell never ever run away from an animal especially dogs live in the city and from people are very scared of dogs never run away from an animal you always look at the animal the animal will run away from you okay stamina a public service announcement and if you ever walk in by a parking you happen upon a leopard do not run away from the leopard says the mission of either so the hoiness gives the tsar an additional payment payment number two on the list highness noise immediately you have to pay up i thought there was some sort of line in english also the bed you made the the pot you whatever but this is basically like a toilet don't drink from your own toilet bowl disgusting you you dug your grave so to speak whatever the lushen is in english you put yourself in the situation you were honest this woman so now you're stuck with her if she wants to marry you vama fatim wrote a lot mighty but a person who seduced the woman if he wants to get divorced get divorced there's a whole neither in here that let's say you have a couple that became about bali trouba they're not married yet she considered them a futo he seduced her while they weren't from and now they're from is to marry her name if they both agree to it then she's not a mafuto a very interesting allah saw in the rama that this idea of mefato is even when she's a bagueres the knas is not when she's a big heiress but the feel of that the marriage part is even when she's a big heiress okay russell heights he might see if he wants a divorce or he could divorce him okay that's about to say what does it mean he's drinking from his own path his own toilet bowl so to speak even if she's lame i feel like sumo she's blind she has a terrible condition where nerva he has to marry her is when he violated her the strong election raped he threw her down on the floor that hurt her and for that he has to pay muscular elements nowadays he threw her on top of a soft mattress soft clothing so now there's no tsar so yeah in that case a woman he doesn't pay the time why is it interesting because let me just say the lotion because she's eventually going to have that sire from her husband now she's not going to have her husband's not going to throw her on the floor the huston is going to take his column throw on the floor no so i was going to talk about a different type of tire the tire that we thought were talking about not the tire of it getting thrown on the floor oh my lord and they respond to rip shim and yes there's a tsar but the tsar that that a woman has when she's willing is different than the tired that she has when she's unwilling economy see we're not talking about tsar of getting thrown to the floor and this is here in places certain things you can't say it's the tower of basulem because a woman anyways is going to lose her suleim and she's going to have that tsar so she can't claim it now she's going to have to go through it anyways at a certain time in her life etc just the anukuda here it's time to think about a little bit you know in yeshiva i don't know your youtube it might yeshiva a bunch of wild guys every once in a while you were spacing out you're looking forward also somebody would whack you on the back you turn around and you see it's your best friend so you smile what happens if you turn around it's your enemy it's not anymore nah you're mad who that hurt in other words depends who the hitter is it could be the same wack but if the guy is your good friend you're okay with it if he's not your good friend you're not okay with it that's what they're saying here it depends if it's the husband it's not somebody else is a big tire so perhaps the trick is because we always go through siren life we always get a whack in the back that's what life is all about the wax in the back and how do you respond to the whack in the back it depends if you have a tire you turn around and say oh wait terrible my enemies just hit me that's one way but if you turn around you say oh it's like that hit me it's my friend he whacked me in the back but he's my friend then you go along in life in a whole different way [Music] hello the side we're talking about here is spreading of the legs and says in the pasta that we use this lush in the sprach but the [Music] it's like they're spreading their legs wherever they go for everybody like zoinos so if a person seduces a woman so is she she's masking but at the end of the day this is the tower of peace life [Music] is if a person is agreeable that you should hear my shirt i tell you go ahead you see i see you in a bad mood take my suit tear it up into shreds and you'll be okay so that guy obviously is not hive you gave her shoes so two over here the mafuta she gave the guy rachel's so she can't come back and sue him who was a big talmud of the haziness he's very interesting person he he lives in venabra he was a a contractor but a huge huge town with hachem and he's considered a goverabid some rescuers said listen i'm going to the castle now do me a favor could you can i make a kitten could you buy my shirt so it's not my shirt she's okay king sooner he says okay now give me back the shirt i need a shirt and i need to rip the shirt so darling i said i'll give you the shirt for ripping but after the guy ripped his shirt and i said now you have to pay me for the shirt it's my shirt you ripped my shirt the guy said yeah but you said i could rip it he said no more bubble comments says naphthalic base you have to say potter if you don't see how menacing departure you just say you can rip my shirt that's not enough so now you owe me for the shirt you're just trying to show them that you're playing stick with buying a shirt selling your shirt i'll also play okay but it's interesting to remember this idea that you have to say says so again we're saying it says if this woman said i give you your shoes like a person tells his friend i give your shoes to rip my clothing the potter and you'll be potter you see the gamer even says the lotion v potter it's up to this girl to decide that she there's no kanas here it's not even hers it's her father's how does she have the right to be michael or fathers the reason why you don't pay for the tsar because the smart women know me futa in lotsar a woman who was seduced doesn't have time but there is the famous stepmother of abaya who told him all sorts of things throughout chas including this one [Music] here a picture here this would be picture number six here we're talking about a bald man it happens to be that i'm with this guy already for a week and a half so sometimes i wish i could pour some hot water in his bald head this happened to me my son throughout your vlogmas we called him yehuda like hot water on a bald man's head not to me it seems like a lot of time everything was trying to say yeah niska fair look it's not not something you have to pay for it's a little bit of a quick burn not a big deal the i actually had a reben square when i looked like when i was a kid i learned in square and i had a rabbit that went through the lager went through the concentration camps and he had one of those thermoses you know they i guess they still sell them thermos and he had hot water in there and if you didn't behave so some of the rare beam took a stick and they whacked you in the hand if you didn't behave you would fill up like a little bit of water hot boiling water and he says if a guy gets in high sevasa and you toss boiling hot water on you no i got it a few times taco i'm thinking about it not in the world a little hot it came from seven feet away no never had any long-lasting burns from it okay we're in a different generation you know what the kids today maybe they need a little heist of acid they need a few sticks i don't know yeah who knows what the problem is today but i i'm quite sure that the hot water is not the eight ether and the hitting is not there it's a but something something we need a little bit more zombies so that's that's a bias thing how much does it hurt his stepmother said like high sevasto on the head rav omar lee bastrophie's the funny lotion who was robin married to the famous story that the the he saw the daughter of frieza saw him and who was it oh you've very forgotten it he said i'm going to be married to both of you so rafa said and i want to be the second one because if i'm the first one that means i'm going to die first he married reference's daughter so the daughter of rather in other words my wife told me instead of saying my wife told me he says my the daughter of africa told me oh i'm thinking out loud maybe it means because i heard this from frisda he's quoting the daughter of not his wife because maybe he heard this trafficking she heard from okay what he do it's like going and letting blood like getting a shot in the arm like a little needle in the arm my wife told me also the daughter of abuse like bread akusho very hard bread in the palette like hard bread sometimes cuts you or hurts you in the top of your mouth for that we're not going to make the guy pay it's not the end of the world says mishna has to pay his obligation immediately when he divorces him it's not his wife what do you mean how's he's how is she his wife emo you know when when he has to pay her liquor nice when he decides he doesn't want to marry her when she doesn't want to marry him the father doesn't want he doesn't want he's not marrying her then he has to pay up and we see the same thing the one who seduces has to pay his obligation when he doesn't marry her in other words the nast is when he decides he doesn't want to marry her but the two other three of them the bushes and the begam noisemiad that he has to pay even if he doesn't marry her says in the passage here in my mind of violence if the father refuses to let this guy marry his daughter then he has to pay after if he's not going to marry the echoed whether she was forced whether she was seduced she and her father can decide that she doesn't want to get married i can understand the woman in my mouth like in this possible chart five emails via the father has the right to deny the marriage mine he doesn't want to let him marry her but how do we know her doesn't say the positive she has the right twice but if she was violated she could refuse the marriage velocity how do we know that the father has the right again this beautiful idea somebody who sins we shouldn't reward him in other words before he violated this girl the father had all the rights in the world to deny the marriage he was in control so this haha what is he going to do he wants to marry this girl he asked the father he said absolutely not you're a jerk you're a terrible guy and he is a terrible guy so you know what he does he goes and he violates her and then he can marry her that's this guy that is a guy who who's over in a veyro gets rewarded so we need to keep the father still in the picture to deny the marriage so he doesn't lose so he doesn't the father doesn't lose and this guy isn't gay [Music] she was agreeable but the father is not agreeable so from the two of them only one of them was not agreeable and that's the father and who could deny the marriage both of them one of them was not agreeable the father and the girl and the father could both deny the marriage hoynes that's a via it's a cover so the guy that violated her forcefully and it was against her will and against the father's will so it's both of them didn't have dancing lycology so both of them should definitely be able to deny or deny the marriage now since it's not a possum it's a carbohydrate so you're trying to mask a very unsettling question it's hard to even read the question the roshan say why does she have the right to deny the marriage talking about a girl that was violated by a man don't understand how it's possible she should have the right why because until the violation the father is full in control so just because she was violated where does she come into the picture that she could deny it up until that point the father can marry off without her will so why should the father lose that right just because she was violated they're going to different than the summoner says he's paying a lot of money 50 shekel he says a few thousand dollars or whatever it is maybe not according to rav schoenberg it's a little less okay but it's still it's a penalty so he's not benefiting he still it doesn't pay for him to violate her because he's going to get a hefty fine a bailar corrobo me fata [Music] the violator has to pay immediately so you are saying a tremendous condition who when he divorces her aimla allah there's no suba you hear what's going on here if he pays her the 50 shekel for the violation and the fine then afterwards when he divorces her he doesn't pay her aksuba unbelievable we have to remember this says what do you mean when he divorces her me mati ma how could a person divorce a woman that he violated says the puzzle velocity of right me multimapping what if she wants to get divorced if she wants to get divorced he divorces her and then she doesn't get oksubo mace what if he dies after he gave her the cannas typical woman whose husband dies gets a suba 200z 50 shekel the same amount as a canas mace but over here it's different over here over here the father got the knees so the father gets the 50 shekel then he divorces her and she gets zero or then he dies and she gets zero [Music] there's no divorce but he cannot divorce her the only time he could divorce her is if she demands a divorce so mello there's no reason to to make aksuba the whole reason like subba is that it should be hard for him to divorce or he's gonna have to pay out a hefty fine he can't divorce her review you know what he is going to torture her until adam rahila he's not he's not he's not dumb he's going to verbally abuse her let's say until she says i hate you i want a divorce oh you're one of those here's divorce so we say okay but if you're gonna do so you're gonna pay a kness pay a hundred and that will prevent him from being mean to her raboisei have a wonderful day you