Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 2 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] everybody I'm turning this off [Music] we baby [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] sh he [Music] bab CH my [Music] go morning Raab boy [Music] it's overwhelming it's unbelievable you know there's a special BR special zon you make when there's over a thousand people and today we're expecting over 1,600 L it's it's it's very humbling it's unbelievable [Applause] before we begin I just want to thank every single one of you for coming out it's a tremendous some of you came from far and some came even from further distances the people that flew in from toor Levy Gary boshe AI kamansi special to be here tonight my wife my children [Applause] it's a big for me I want to introduce to you my later on he flew in from Chicago and there's many others I heard there's some people that flew in from London people came from all over we have people that drove very very long distances so for coming out everyone that came is a for everybody else so I want to say before we begin again the new guys I didn't I didn't get the updated number but I know it's over 700 maybe 800 people I don't know where schy Rosenberg is I think yesterday it was in the 700s so welcome all the new guys trust me you're going to enjoy it's going to be a life Cher and we're going to hear more about that throughout the program tonight this week's par the very very famous this is the person dies in a tent soes in thear says that t is not n you can't be kind of unless you're you have to kill yourself over Tyra B you have to kill yourself you have to sometimes it's difficult we went through a pretty difficult for many many it was the hardest in and I know everybody's excited tonight to start look at the do them they're shorter they're much easier they flow easier you have to be M on the I heard a beautiful story there was Brothers the shriber brothers one of them was Penny shriber and they survived aitz by escaping to Iran and eventually they made their way to and when got to Unfortunately they try to bealle them they cut off their payis and they try to convince them not to be from and penish shriber kept on giving kuk to his brother so don't listen to them and there's this other guy there his name was reim El I think his name was and was a young guy and he kept on giving to the shriber bo there was one of the m one of the counselors that his job was to to get these kids off the D get them away from their home he's told Penny he said listen I know you're hungry I know you do anything for candy I'll give you the key to the canteen you can get any candy you want just stop being M these people and he said no I'd rather the key to Ganan than the key to the canteen so one day they took these kids to the cotel tour and pinning his brother disappeared they hid under AI guys's talisi says what are you doing here get out of here said we're from kids he said no so they started repeating they said a couple D gar they knew gar they started saying garas so thei was very very shooken and he took these boys to the brisar and he said look these boys they know D ofar and the bris couldn't believe it kids without pay shaved heads looked like started saying over gamar and they say this was only one of two times that the brisar ever cried in his life posha cried kids that went through the logger went through and the point is this penny more it's too loud oh that's better this Penny turned out to beber became AZ in his son is run shriber T first you have to choose sometimes in life you have the option of choosing choosing the key to the Canen to the gmas choosing the key to Ganan he chose the key to G but more importantly the says kill yourself of a says so which one is it you're supposed to kill yourself or you supposed to live with it obviously if you kill yourself at to you you you know this is what saved these kids they lived they got life because once upon a time they were so before we begin M we go through the usual routine I'm going to take some out put some new ones in but the new guys but also for the old guys the guys out here need they need they need to remember you have to doar all the time so the first that gives for people that are starting the da and people that are with the da my favorite saying it's not about the dff it's about the Y why do we do y and why do I believe it's the most successful program out there it's because not because it's another learning program there's a lot of learning programs do it's because it's the most consistent program it's a program that forces you to learn toyra every single day to connect on the highest way that we know how to connect it's not about the it's about the Y it's to do the da what does that mean it gives to your life everybody that started all ask those Sol guys it's the coolest thing in the world to do the da it puts in such a such a such a frh kite right it's to do the to do the [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] hey [Applause] all right the next so is that the da and Tyra in general but the fact that we're learning gimar which includes T everything even it even includes gar will make you a better person will make you a better husband a better businessman a better father and oh people ask me all the time but what's what's the what's theide why why is it so much why are there so many people by the way think about it look around the room I don't know how many people are here maybe a thousand we're expecting more it's only 10% of the amount of people that are learning with us every single day 10% it's unbelievable because of the you look around the the bow ties the regular ties Dr list house the the the mag whatever he is it's a whole it's a whole mix and S and it I can't think but that is looking down at a thousand people from all walks of life when do you have something like this that a thousand people 1500 people getting together for one purpose to celebrate T learning T together it's unbelievable so the cader in the AK is what's so [Applause] special and the daff because it's so consistent and because you learn it every single day no matter what rain or shine Sim people send them pictures learning during the birth of their children on vacation on the roller coasters on the boats on the PLS that consistency brings so much consistency to life in other areas you become more consistent you work out more you you diet better you you learn mikra you do otherly and just you become a more consistent human being all right so on to the shear we do sponsorships but today we're not we cut out out a lot because of the and it's the first D there's no emails today it's a special those of you who love emails sorry it's not today the sponsored the M we have something new two people paid close to $10,000 each they sponsoring the entire M so get used to the names is tonight for my children we'll cut it down a little bit the second sponsor of the is Jeff of my son and by the lack families L New Jersey because T is the best Gul also where is he where's Mr L hi nice to meet you he's been sponsoring and he's the first 10,000 donor towards the you know tonight I know you guys think that the $49 covers it but it doesn't even cover the security from it's a soes a young guy who such such a life of the she and his n from from Yak this month as children to be KES safe healthy happy and know hasm loves them sponsor today and have tremendous success in my business my new business in honor of thank you for bringing us all together here tonight Aron ail in honor of RI do they know that they each other sponsored I'm not sure I guess so in hon of my father I didn't read this before P Zion Mel something like that learning sping by the boy family is the last one who passed away the shabas after the last event in New York he loved him the and was proud to be part of it and I was to be in his very very last picture that they ever took of him so hisa should have an Aliyah here we go there is a is thank you we're going to be talk Talking And discussing the different obligations that a a husband has for his wife and the wife has for the husband before they get married after they get married that's the m we know that it's AER [Music] to live without auo if you're married it's AER I myself had the unfortunate situation that my wife gave herba under the to a certain person who happens to be married to my father-in-law here and he got lost very quickly and people oh you can't go home you can't we had to write a right there and then okay you have to have a maybe and perhaps you could say that just like you can't live without auba you can't live without and here we are today beginning what the calls SH now I had to learn it real quickly today from cover to cover and I realized it's not really shasan doesn't have much Kum in it doesn't have much may in it nevertheless maybe the learned in yeshivas I don't know they did I don't know but it's called it has tremendous amount of suas and if we learn it well we could take this and use it throughout CH and be familiar with so many different topics so here we go how much time do I have left minutes was hungry huh the buzer yeah the buzzer so we're going to see a lot of interesting things here today if by the way before before we start I just have to say quick I'm going to say it again but just to be to so many people and I hope I don't miss people I I said the guys that flew from and you should know that a a function like this takes enormous enormous I'm talking about enormous amount of time and effort I know of many many Zoom sessions that lasted more than four to 5 hours each but many the the details of where every seed is going to be and where the food and how much food and who's coming and who's this and what are they going to say and who's going to speak that it's crazy so I hope I don't miss anybody and not in any particular order by the way nanel younger also fleu in from ER yes he's getting paid a little bit that's his job but very very little he gave a tremendous tremendous discount maybe a third of the price what he usually charges maybe less maybe 20% I don't know a joke p a joke he's part of this year he learns with us every day and he really wanted to do this he did a phenomenal job in remates and he really took off a big oil from everybody that was behind scenes so tremendous to him for being here tonight and arranging it marad Nash had the idea of doing it I'll talk about him later we're in middle of a Shear now we'll talk about it is supposed to be in his backyard in his neighbor's backyard and gave him a brilliant idea to switch it last week I'm very happy he did everybody's happy we're able to get bring that many more people and not be in somebody's backyard with it just rain over there and was it's muddy whatever the Gans behind the scenes y Vala Yi k um schi Rosenberg unbelievable amount of hours and every email every every booking everything went through him he probably got an email from him inor to get in here everything and he has crazy jobs he runs events like this and chargering Europe with with tech and how he does it we don't know so we have rip ficial sitting over here in the front who sponsored all the garas for a lot of the garas or most of them and a lot more so official and we'll talk about the others we have shom Ren Yoshi I got to say thank you to Yoshi by the way we'll talk about him later but the artist that all the crazy the amount of work and if you see that beautiful mural in the back over there all new art well he doctored it up and made a beautiful beautiful beautiful thing that AI Kam commissioned soosi and I'm hope I'm hope I'm not leaving out beny fredman my partner who's here tonight all right we'll about all these people a little later a woman who wasn't married could only get married on a Wednesday now we know today it's different and we going to see the reason why it's different today and why the time of the mishna was like that only on a Wednesday a woman that was married before get married on a Thursday two days a week let me just make sure I didn't miss people things you know how it is okay fine I don't know if you have be my Ezra was Ming 10 things one of the 10 things is that there should be a b twice a week on read on the spot over here says it's not like they went on vacation they were learning T and they pass on Monday and Thursday so if it's Monday and Thursday what does it have to do with getting married on a Wednesday person gets married and he thought that his wife is aula and he finds out that she's not he should have the opportunity to go the next morning following morning to bz I'll ask you a question and if it's two days from now he found out she doesn't have wa two days from now what's the why not so we always talk about this and it's for tonight if you are not one of those people doing the da and you're here to check it out you don't push it off to the next M you don't push it off to the beginning of bras it's now because if it's not now it's never when you have that inspiration when he has an inspiration to go to bezden and TI on his wife you must do it immediately because if you don't do it immediately you're going to give in you're going to be she's going to say something and be we don't want you to be because maybe she was misana in those days there were mades a woman you gave her a ring and then they said goodbye for sometimes a year or so and if she's m during that year she is that strong say over the famous to say there's a that and they asked him a question and he didn't know the answer and he said well it's and he had such he said tus how did I not remember the tus he was in the middle of a meal he didn't bench he didn't do anything he walked away into a room he locked himself up in the room I don't know how long days weeks until he finished again so they ask did he do the right thing and he said well it's a problem to leave a meal without benching but had he waited until after benching he most likely wouldn't have had that inspiration and most likely wouldn't have finished ass like that so when you have that inspir ation it doesn't matter what if you want to go on a diet whatever it is you do it today because if you push it off after shabas to whatever as we know the get you and here's the right here in the M we have to make sure that's right before the bz because if it's not before the bz we'll be over says so why R if we just said that the bzden is in session on Monday also and on Thursday so okay R I understand because he want him to go to bezin onishi but why can't he get married on Sunday and go to B and if he has a problem go to B on Monday so it's talking about uh tells the k okay let's go let's get married get ready no how long does it take to get married to get ready for a so were talking about this guy this guy made a he goes like this he said I saw that my father and mother they were preparing to go to a once and it was taking forever and by the time my mother said let's go my father said I have to shave she said you just shaved he says yeah I shaved but then you got ready and I have to shave again they say the researchers say not making this up the same 20 minutes that your wife says yeah yeah I'll be ready in 20 minutes I'll be ready in 20 minutes and we'll leave then those are the same 20 minutes that the man says yeah I'll be home in 20 minutes it's the same they just they're leaving they're coming I upon him it takes 12 months 12 months to get ready for now the 12 months come and go and he's not ready he's not ready now he has to shave again whatever it is so this is fascinating we cannot relate to this at all but food is a big thing a very big thing in those days and the whole argument there is how who owes who food for three days give me some food for three days no I don't owe you food okay I'm going to take you to bz then none of the food you know here in America I here I don't know I heard that there's schs that literally have five to seven different types of CH on chabas food is not a it's not a big deal you we the Kam his also came from Wow rabar B chushan sitting behind them all the way from Los Angeles my son from Los Angeles unbelievable lazarian okay names go on and on in our show and they could testify to you when a kid becomes Bar Mitzvah many people don't even do and what they give us at The KES for us here in America is mish a joke they give you a piece of cougle and a pickle Z they're done no CH no Herring nothing am I exaggerating there's a some well no the fancy guys the wealthy guys give some hering so so that's AR and then take it back 70 years think about how there's no food no food even 70 years ago but in the time of the gamar was like a big thing that's why if you think about that's why parents married off the kids so young take care of my kid I I can't feed them p can't feed them here they are who's going to take care who who owes who now you said you're going to get married in a year here's the year it's here so pay says thear so if the year falls out on a Sunday don't worry about it you don't you don't ow anything that piece of bread that you thought about giving it you could save it you're to get married to get married on a Wednesday you saved yourself three days now four days nowan asks the obvious look it up in a calendar and see when the when the year comes out what do you mean you you said a year and you now it's not your fault it's your fault look it up real quickly on the iPhone or whatever you know so first of all he says in those days they didn't have they didn't have calendars they were M he didn't know when the when exactly the the year 365 365 days are going to fall out or whatever another thing is maybe not to look it up in the calendar he said a year year finished it's a they used in the today we say what he's giv me a reason based on something that's not said says what's not said exactly what's not here if you're getting confused this is our why the M gives us a reason Mas because he should go be able to go to B I'm asking you why on Wednesday why not on Sunday so you're giving me a miss it says if the time came the year they eat now doesn't say a reason over there it doesn't say what it doesn't say anything okay I just threw in a chart here why not we used to yamus which I'm going to miss dearly and all the characters that we had and the potato heads and then the baldman brothers by the way Standing Ovation okay no don't stand but a round of applause for the Balman brother a kamansi who it was mysterious nefes literally I used to kill him off almost every day he never said a word it's a big thing so how could you give take a mishna that doesn't give a reason and explain our mishna that gives a reason it doesn't make sense say the g says goes through what we learned in the mishna so let them get married on Sunday he could also get up in the morning on Monday says went down deep into it they delved into it and they realized that it's good that the should prepare three days of should have food for the for the CH and if he prepares so much be more accurate with his of he'll make sure that what he's saying is real nobody's going to work for three days straight you know again today we have the conest that people shouldn't spend you know over a million dollars and invite 700,000 get you know the whole thing and then they had to make a Tak that he should work three days on the suda okay it's very different times very hard to relate to works on the sud Sunday Monday Tuesday and on Wednesday he gets married now that wouldn't be good if there's a shabas you can't work on Friday because then you have shabas no Refrigeration the food is going to spoil not a good idea so now we do Sunday Monday Tuesday the only day left is a Wednesday because the ban is on Thursday now that we know the reason now we could apply this to what we learned in the mishna later on in Z that if the year comes he's to give her food and if he's a Cen she's permitted to eat truma here's the chart why not let's talk about and CH if you have produce you have to give two% to the Cen and the Cen can feed that 2% to his wife even though she's is now if they got engaged they should be able to eat that 2% but this is not to but in this case since the year came and went she could eat truma even though she's not 100% married yet there's no there's no there's no there was only a okay says the now continues and he says now we learn what if he became sick or she became sick yeah the guy comes home his wife says you're not going to believe it I have such a headache says wow I was just going to take you to the mall there's unbelievable sales in the mall she say no no no I was just kidding he's like I was also just kidding yeah okay she became sick knew is that not he's a she's a she's a she became Aid can't get married there a problem with can't consummate the marriage so whose fault is that is it they knew about it it's his fault he's sick it's her fault she's sick what what's going on no he's not now before I confuse it too much here all we're going to have here is basically two simple Shas R and Rashi say that anus somebody who's engaged only provides Maus if they physically get married anything else if he's sick she's sick neither that nothing unless of course he doesn't want to get married he's a he's B amazed not getting married but if there's some sort of aus doesn't matter what he's you have says that on any kind of delay but if she delays and it then you're not so let's see inside some people say it's not so it was actually a question what happens if he gets sick now if the year falls out on a Sunday and we said he's not to bring he's not to give for three days until Wednesday okay he's anus and now because we mentioned this word o we're going to go into a little bit of it's not his fault that the year fell out on a Sunday so over here also he's sick sick he wants to get married on Sunday he's just his hands are tied behind his is back because they say get married on Wednesday so in that case they said you know you parted from giving her and if you're going to tell me that if he gets sick he has to give her what about her what if she gets sick what's the question look here I'm here I have my tuxedo I'm ready to go you know sometimes it's too bad you ran out of luck your field flooded I'm your field it flooded it I have I have M I can't get married Co what am I going to do it's my fault I have Co says the Goro now interesting because just today I looked over real quickly don't ask me why and there's literally on seven very unique to we're going to have fun there seven times okay over here only a couple and if she could actually Tiner look you bought a field so it flooded it's your problem it's your what about if she says that's we have to separate there two there's two ways if it's when it happens every month that's not even a sh we just turn to that b b I don't have my I don't know what I did with it so sponsored by m horn M horn is in the house I don't know what it is okay you know what it is and sponsored what's the other one anybody oh RAB Medi so that no that's M rabi the best basketball player that ever lived and met him last night and then in honor of who brought him to the D [Music] so if it happened on the regular time of the month then what is she going to do then it's not a oess it's it's it's it's it's expected so she can't say oh you're your F flooded what happens if it was somewhat of anno it happened a different time of the month it wasn't during it's like and she says you're F [Music] flooded if I make a mistake in Reading it's because the lighting is not you know they sh so it's normal that once in a while it changes days so it's within reason it's within something to expect and therefore it's not considered comes and that we have in the blue if you still have it he so going back to the if the year came he said get ready so from the time he says get ready not from the time he gave her K not from the time he gave a ring but from the time get your clothes ready 12 months later they didn't get married he has to provide that even if she's a she eat is a of the man it doesn't say the man had a he didn't want to get married it says from the grammar it seems like the problem laid with her she had something now what could it be it could be that she got sick could be she became a if she the woman is the one that caused the delay that why is it that she gets to eat it's her fault so this is the question that we're asking it's not that she put her foot down I don't want to get married she has some sort of vus there two things or no you're going to be M from the grammar no I'm not going for it maybe I could say that no matter what she got sick he got sick you don't eat and it's the that we're talking about he he created but you had a problem with the way it said it says so why say why say is a better if we're talking about the man so uses this all the time since we started off talking about the the woman what's going on here well this is classicar because we have to understand again we cannot relate to this most of us can't relate to it but if if you imagine that everything that you learned entire had to be learned to write it down so the M had to be written in a very poetic way and they many times dropped the grammar in favor of memorization and here's a great case of it it should have actually said nasu you're right but it didn't say that rebbi when he wrote the mishna he preferred the word because it went together with the ra of and it's just easier to remember says [Music] the will the this idea that if a person has some sort of he could get get out of paying misus that doesn't work when it comes to get if if somebody gives his wife a get and again we don't really relate to this but in time of the gar Somebody went on on a on a business trip think about it he went on a business trip it's not that he got on a uh a commercial Earline that the safety uh rating is out of this world it's it's you know whatever we don't want to but there hasn't been a serious aviation accident in America in a real large commercial airline in I don't know 20 years right long time somebody's going to correct me now but a long time those days you go on a ship and you know it's a 50/50 you might not come back so he has to write a get that to write gon to the wives all the time is a normal thing some women had you know 200 gon in their house every time he went on a business trip you know I'm not giving you any ideas OB over there but you know a lot of guys in R ches they have to go to America and travel and business it's a normal thing give a wife a get you say if I don't come back you don't have to I have a creepy brother I don't want you to to follow ium now a lot of you guys don't even know what ium is so we'll tell you if I don't have a chart I really should get a chart here whatever if a man dies without children the wife Falls Le and goes to the to the brother-in-law now sometimes the brother-in-law is not a great guy the husband knows it he lived with the guy his brother for many years so he says okay I'm going to get you out of this here's a get if I don't come back here's the get great says this doesn't apply if he had some sort of vess he couldn't get back too bad he say oh I got Co I couldn't get back they didn't let me back on the plane they stopped me at the border too bad you wrote a get it's a good get when it comes to food if you can't get married it's not too bad I I'm not going to pay you the three days of bread but the get get goes through so now we're going to do a little you see it's going through different person [Music] says I expect to be back in 12 months if I don't come back here's your get and he died within 12 months ain't no get it's not a get now the reason is because how could it be a get that means after he died he gave the get that doesn't work you can't give a get after you died it's only because he died it only says one case if he dies it's extreme case then it's not a get but what if he had a simple he got Co he got sick it's a good get so you see that there's no oess when it comes to G by the way heads up I'm loving thisas everything we're learning now repeat tomorrow the whole is just basically well at least half ofad is just three beat so listen nicely today it's going to be it's going to fly nicely tomorrow I looked in the art scroll it's like these little two and a half pages six pages each each on keep on turning and turning and turning what's going on here subis two and a half officially you hear this you only have to give volume one it's like most cuas I think I didn't check but fine it's easy stuff what I'm saying it's easy it's join us stay with us you love [Music] it so okay so you see that if this it's a good get the is not a good excuse perhaps being sick is not is not a get in other words it's a good excuse and that's exactly what we coming to say over there a differentes you're asking me so say talk about why do you have to say that he died say bigger KES even he's alive why do you have to kill him say that he's alive and he got sick and it's not a get oh because I want to tell you a different they get I'm trying to tell you that if a guy in another case it applies to other cases there's no such thing as a get going through after death it's possible to do a retroactive get that was a month before but there's no way that a get could be given after a guy dies says Whoa you don't need to be that's here your if I if he dies from this disease here it is that case that you're talking about you tell me it's not even the words here it says before in the words here's a get after I die zero nevertheless I could still be and say or be maybe it's coming to emphasize that we don't hold like what now going back we have to go back a little bit to if I was in I pull out my shoe the whole thing wherever he is he's here say to him he made it with his own hands an original if RAB say that this woman the get is such a good get you don't even have to do something we throw in a you know just to be do you know of give her no no need to do why because the get is a great get so I want to take away from that who are you know just like today we have there was once was I don't know if it called but their oil the the oil is a and the came along and said it's and they so you look at thear and you see the time in thear and you see that it's written two months ago so we're going to go by the star we're going to go by the date not by the date of the death that what the talks about rash brings the Su of if somebody wants to give his children when he's alive he wants to give them the business how do you give a business to your children when you're alive now he wants to benefit and make a living he doesn't want to be kicked out into the street but he wants to give him the entire business now if he gives him the business after he dies it's not going to work he wants to give it to him today so you have to use a lan Rashi says from now retroactive from now and after I die okay so you look at thear by us also you see look here it says that he wrote it a long time ago and retroactively that's when it works there was a there was a swindler who wrote in the he wrote a fake I get the the whole yha he comes to the court to B whatever here's his and they looked at the the date and the r was able to prove from the date said you know whatever it is I don't remember the dates over there but October whatever it he looked in the the date and he saw that it fell out on yipper it's impossible that he wrote it he's a from guy didn't write AER sometimes is okay so we're not learning from there so this is the classic guy says it should be now today retroactively if I don't show up in 12 months when I don't show up in a year from now it's going to be today it's not afterday when he's alive and then he died within the 12 months I raise again it's a good get why because it was given before he died it's retroactive so from this say so it's when he dies and also obviously if he's sick says the G so you see from here that doesn't work it's a good get it's not the get says no maybe it's not Ma and it's only only if he dies do we go retroactive and if he's sick you'll say sick is less no sick is worse why because his whole idea is to save his wife from his brother does he shouldn't F and that's only if he dies so may whether or not if a person becomes sick is that or not how did learn it don't worry about it we're almost done we're not going to finish the whole we're going to go to the next if a person says here's your get if I don't come back from today till 30 days from today till 30 days Leo then should be a he's there he's this close to getting there the ferry going over the river is stuck he's going he's going crazy CRA he knows if he doesn't get over the water his wife is going to be divorced and what's going to happen if his wife is going to be divorced let her let him get married no she doesn't like him very much he's going to get stuck says rashy she's going to say no no thank you for the get no thank so he starts screaming from the other side of the river and he says I'm here I'm here but he's not here he's on the other side of the river he didn't get there as they say in English maybe it comes from here he missed the boat he P missed the boat he was he's trying to get over the river and there's no go and finally right before we were mamish done uh yeah this idea of before we go in there and eat and have a great time and dance it's going to be electric it's going to be fire don't miss the boat don't say I wanted to I wanted to start cuis I I I started yamus and I fell off the bandwagon and it's too late now I'm not going to do it it's a no you could scream I wanted to hey stop stop the shop no you're here now the boat's sailing right now we're starting subis get on board with us and bem we'll finish suas together and we'll finish Shas together have a wonderful [Applause] day e