Daf Yomi Gittin Daf 74 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning wrap boys Mordechai Israel thank you for sticking around a few of you we had a little bit of an emergency pushed off the share by it by an hour so you just got sticking around so we'll get right into it maybe one email the zoom their belly I live in Montreal Canada I've been following your daily dive for over two years I want to thank you for starting my day each morning with energy and focus before this I'm gonna learn gamara when I had a chance but now the day begins with your share over 30 years ago my brother-in-law Emoji took Ezra this is Sal from Atlanta and Thomas from net ISRO bought me a shot and so that's sure when I would start learning or Hashem your help I'm learning each day the death it's amazing what learning in front of our kids can do oh I think I forgot to put his picture on it oh yeah that's not good so maybe also will do that here's my youngest child shiman wakes up each morning with your good morning he's gotten really good at it good morning raboysai has become our daily fun ritual thank you good Chavez hoodie gaslin and today the coilo sponsored by Anonymous from Lakewood is sponsored by myself and I'm able to thank him for everything that I have um memory of the 30 yard side of his beloved race and the Art of the month for complete reforms here we go we aren't that fine so if you recall yesterday we had two possibilities we're talking about if a person says I'm giving you a get from now if he dies and when he dies retroactively goes back and it's a get and I think Mario said that the magleic is with is in the second case very similar but different it's that they get to be how one moment before the person dies so every every moment now a moment later we know that there was no divorce and therefore no do we look at it as we say that there's a Suffolk a continuous Suffolk here yes so when a person says the second thing one moment before the guy passes from this world the get should be how what happens in between also if she finds amitya he could get them at CEO why because it's not as severe as having relations that could be different problems with it whatever over here now I know a moment later he wasn't there she found it yesterday so he gets to keep the Messiah she earns money he has to keep that over first in the real he's still a husband basically he's a husband for everything including uh taking away here in the Durham the yarsha and the inherits to his wife and we say well this moment she might not be your wife but he goes ahead and he's been Tama and what's very interesting is that if you notice it doesn't mention Heroes Paris okay another type of mice you dying is a fight there was a message and I'm sure you know a lot of these stories especially you Gerald in the real estate business a guy decided to do I forgot what it's called a reverse mortgage I think it is basically he went to a very elderly lady and that's so very elderly maybe let's say she's 70 years old and he was 40. so he figured he's going to do a nice stick he said I'm offering you every month you know she had a nice house worth a million dollars here's a uh you know fifteen hundred dollars a month and what happened was eventually he ended up dying before her she like lived till you know 100 and he died and said he thought his entire life he's paying and paying and paying hoping to get a hold of his house meanwhile she's she's just benefiting benefit and she he never got the house and she she got everything over here no just remind me because he says okay he's so sure he's gonna die he has a mouth he's about to die so he says okay this is your get it turns out she died before him okay and he happens to be a client so he could be matama to her because this is the rule the bottom line is since the get his only child one moment before he dies so she's his wife for everything Chinese says you don't have to get another get so if you look at rashy all the way on the top of Angelo and Olive sirashri says so reviews of the opinion that since the get is only half one moment before death so therefore if she has a relationship with somebody else she's now we're gonna have three sheets that are very very similarious so you have to understand that when mayor here holds that when somebody says he says the same thing as the Russian right above the lotion of Macy in other words it goes retroactive that's how a remainder holds that when you say goes retroactive to the time that he gave her the get so therefore be Allah so okay so we have to see did he live did he not live and therefore we'll see in exactly what's going on here [Music] no we're still going with him that it's the second thing that it's from the moment before he lost a Suffolk so what's the difference between so if he dies from this disease he's dead he died from this disease so now it becomes clear that she was divorced and she wasn't Asian so at the end of the day Rebellion says you have to bring the awesome taller because it wasn't so clear at the time but if he didn't die from that Mahala so she's ish excuse me says very similarious so it seems like three seconds here he must die from the first original disease that he thought he's gonna die from okay what's the difference between the two first ones remember because so according to everybody that says we go backwards you don't bring ocean taluk there mayor what's awesome Tali so if a person doesn't have vary by mistake what if he's not sure if it was an averon aloe vera so it brings it's the same kind of thing is it's hanging he doesn't know exactly what he has to do so myself according to rbic there's a Sophie gear a real suffix y because he said it's from the moment before he dies so at any given moment that could have been the moment so at that time we didn't know an embryer you don't go back and you say retroactively I understand that he's not dead now it wasn't the moment before but at that time when he was over the isolation he had a Suffolk so for that stuff he has to bring out foreign since she can't get married to anybody else at this point so her husband is Hive to feed her now rat what's very interesting is that Rashi asks a bomb Kasha you don't have to go very far to see raji's Kash if you just look at an angry base the top top line very easy to find it says read muguration says this is the exact same lotion is so what's enough communities he says I'm forced to say that there was two tonight that explains two different Chinese okay a person says uh I heard of a lot of these stories unfortunately younger guys may be married to wealthier girls come from wealth of your families they say I'm a bad guy you want me to get divorced great drop a million dollars in my account then we'll talk myself yeah I've heard of these stories says he tells her but you wanted the boy I don't want to divorce you you want a divorce pay me it's a condition Charles what are you smiling about you know about these things you're saying you wish now you think oh that's a great idea wow it works and she has to it's like a condition if Dustin says this is your guest you have to do 400 jumping jacks you do 400 jumping jackets again he says here's again give me 400 you get single 400 dollars he puts a limit on it within 30 days even that's another situation what's the biggest thing we're all talking about obviously she has to do it within 30 days even live in Russia's then if she doesn't complete the the the condition then she's not divorced is also going to talk about this because usually when the minister brings a story it comes to argue or corroborate something this the story has almost nothing to do with anything but this is a very famous story because if you're familiar with the term that Allah this is season this is the famous season right here this is a story my the the love is like you're feeling a little everywhere besides over here and two other places give me a suit give me a nice coat of this you could understand I don't know maybe you don't understand this but I have children that want these I forgot what they're called already they cost like two thousand dollars four thousand dollars it's the same quote but it has like a stemple on top of some company I want a coat you want to get the I want a code now it's Cisco it's delici Michael you borrowed it you give it back Valdez Lisa and it got lost so this is actually my flag is going to seem like a Morrow when he makes a condition on a certain item on condition you give me this particular item right here and this item got lost could you substitute it for cash did he mean I want the value or maybe this means a lot to say tomorrow so we have a big maclagus here when he makes a condition he says you're divorced and condition give me a hundred dollars when is she divorced when he gave her the divorce or when she gave him the hundred dollars it's a big enough Community it could be two months apart immediately and she just has to she has to fulfill the condition when and if she ever pays up my denial so what's the difference la maisa where does it where does it come into an Africa if he tore up the get if the git got torn up or got lost says she's divorce just fill up fill the agreement so she pays 100 and she's divorced even though right now there's no get why because she's divorced yesterday not today you don't need to get anymore foreign I want to get married to you on condition that I give you 200 Zeus you might be pushing himself to do something to the show that he's serious he should give the 200. so now we have the exact same there's a lot of redundancy today not the whole day but in this year we'll see like some things you think okay maybe we don't have to say them so we have some freebies here she's engaged he just has to fulfill his condition and give her the the tour foreign [Music] and then she'll be engaged to the first one the second one is a joke according to Ravi who the they only become engaged when he fulfills his condition the second guy jumped in as a college or like the famous maiso I this is the most famous myself probably but it's could I have to say it once every two or three years where the guy in Chill on shabboslan says uh I have a car for sale you're interested in the shop is garrette because he held it if you say in the shops get red it's motor so like I said in this shop is garrette how does she want the shop is great I want three thousand dollars let me think about it and he came back 10 minutes later and he says no okay I want to do the deal in the shops get red he says nashovsky red I already sold it so why did I say it's dumb it's not mommy but sometimes the cover Travis not to stuff those guys they didn't show us great guys they say oh since it's a Joe someone stomach some amistama you could say in the shot is good and it works okay says all he has to do is be my kindness now you give the 200 and that's it and she's engaged to the first one okay says so the first part okay we need the two closest the second part is is cavana when a person wants to get engaged most guys that want to get get engaged you want to get engaged right now they don't want to wait around so why did he why did he promise for money stop to make sure that he that he gets the job done the crew because it he's he's he wants it right now may actually from this moment that's his cover he said okay I'm gonna do I'm gonna make a deal with you I'm also going to give you more money but he wants to get engaged now okay [Music] when it comes to getting so Rashi says if you're looking around here it's very interesting I'll get the hook cause he says most people very reluctantly are they megarish their wife they don't really want a divorce or hook up so his kavana wasn't I want a divorce right now when and if it happens then you're divorced and he says he's hoping that they can go to counseling and they can work things out that's cavana so I have to throw this in because it's still we're still in um is still burning now the I heard a beautiful thing on everybody always asks the question what does it mean the basement was destroyed because uh how do you say you know for no reason hatred for no reason baseless thank you baseless baseless hatred what does that mean baseless every single time you hate somebody there's a reason he stepped on my foot he stole my parking spot he looked at me the wrong way there's a reason so he said chat no because most of the time there's a fight is because you didn't look into it you didn't look at the you didn't call the guy up and ask why did you ignore me today the maybe had you known had you seen maybe if you would have looked into it maybe you would have found out a piece of information that you're missing and you wouldn't hate the guy that much A lot of times you just assume certain things and based on those assumptions you hate that person and that's why it's baseless so I just want to stick in this Miser and it has something to do with divorce because a lot of times you get upset with your spouse and had you known certain information you wouldn't be upset I know people don't get divorced because of one thing but and I said the story well guys son was in a very very bad car accident and they found out that there's only one surgeon I guess this was in Israel they found it was one surgeon that could do this surgery and they called him they made him ashuga and he wasn't picking up the phone and finally they picked up he says okay whatever and this kid is dying away literally he's between life and death and the surgeon is not showing up and the family's frantic and finally the the surgeon shows up and and the father runs over to him and says aren't you embarrass yourself this is how you're treating a kid how do you like it if this happened to your child in the surgeon doesn't answer nothing he keeps on going and the nurses come over to him and said what's going on keeps on walking he does the surgery instead of going and speaking to the family it went very well the whole thing he leaves the hospital runs away so everybody's Fury is fuming Etc what happened was that this surgeon's son was in another car accident that day and died and the surgeon came from the funeral to do the surgery but meanwhile everybody's upset at him and everybody's yelling and I was screaming he manages he can in other words if you have the information sometimes you're not upset song Anymore if I said it only by Gershon I would say okay you know what since they're in a big fight so the husband has no problem going and demanding that she pay up the hive and be behind it's not what if a person gets married his wife doesn't want to sue her he's gonna start bothering her to pay him you know whatever I'll turn a blind eye hey mother review [Music] over here there's a reason for me to say that you have to wait until you give the money why because foreign [Music] this is your get unconditioned they give me 200 zones here's a big cash I review the one it says oh that's literally what we were speaking about in a case because you want to say what's enough coming in between the two Cheetos if the get gets rides you hear this of course we have a big problem according to review the you need to get you have to fulfill the condition then you have a get if they get disappears before the condition was fulfilled then it's not a get so over here in this case where the get was ripped and destroyed or lost according to review though she shouldn't be divorced why does it say that she's divorced it's a big question she can't get married another problem you give me 200 and then he died um all right if she fulfilled her condition so she's divorced and she doesn't go she doesn't follow evil if she didn't feel the condition then she was not divorced she's not divorced she's still married then she falls to her brother now listen to this unbelievable I don't think anybody thought about this one is yes if she didn't fulfill the condition she could still fulfill it by giving it to a relative ah it's like a get locked armisa no it she fulfilled the condition after death but the get was how the day he gave it to her it's not like this is like the furthest of Allah usually it's like okay the condition is that the guy has to die over here the condition is that after he dies he's going to pay somebody money but when was Ohio way before he died accordingly if she could fulfill the condition of giving the 200 not to the husband but to give it to the husband's father or laugh at his brother says but this is [Music] could you fulfill a condition by giving it to to somebody that inherited the husband well myself everybody agrees that it's retroactive at the day that he gave the get review though um so one of the ways to get out of a bomb question is to say listen you're right all this adds up against me but since this is I'm gonna go with another tab tomorrow [Music] and here is the oh yeah I forgot to show this okay so now the only piece of art from today that's it it's not even for learning purposes um for amusement only I could have used this for yesterday I was talking about first class this is literally the type of deal I was thinking about with that dress the long sneeze dress and the hat and it's the first class people okay so this is how you saw it in shots or it's actually my focus in other words when a person says unconditioned they mean this moment it's gonna happen it's gonna take effect right now just you have to fulfill the condition later out so Reb is of the opinion okay let's do your certain shots one if you say those words on Condition it's as if you said it should start right now however says review then what do you want from me I'm going like the majority it's even better I go like we're about me and the second we're going to see that maybe nobody argues with zero when I was in Buffalo when we were in bubble we used to say hold on me please that's what Ravi Huda said right but when I went there to strawberries at all everybody agrees that if you say almanaz it starts right now so review the according to this is going to be a big problem okay address that really but according I go with one side now everybody says remember the case where the guy sort of contradicts himself he says it should start today and after that so when he says and after death does he mean did he retract the mahayom forget about the word and he's saying it should happen after death or he's he's just explaining it should start now and end later so the necklace is in that exact location and we bring you a rice as rashes is only in one case because if it was in the other case it should have said in the first case no but when a person makes a tonight if a person says everybody agrees why because the homage as you see is this case this very hard case it seems like a contradiction okay so that's in this exact case when a person contradicts himself he says no it's a good get you know why because they should start now it should and research will work retroactively foreign because we wanna it's very interesting since we're mincing our words every word counts we're only going to pick one of the two Michael I guess should we pick let's pick it's a tremendous to say that when a guy seems to contradict himself he starts off saying they get to be today and then a second later he says to get to be after he dies it's contradiction even in that case Remy says it's a good God no to show how powerful Ruby holds rubby's very very strongly opinionated about what he says robot maybe say the mahoga says in a simple case when a person says almanas and even in that case it's not um to tell me how lenient is much harder to them being any road could be mahmer and say oh yeah don't eat on the tissue when you come to the road and the Rob says you could eat on Tish above that shows that you're that you know what's going on you know and you're not you're not afraid to pass it it says in the mission that we said our Menasha didn't leave me combatulations if a person made a condition this is your get a condition that you give me x amount of money within 30 days so she should get within 30 days she thought of course it's not going to be a gift she gives it after 50 days now the same uh pay the love maybe he wasn't so I'll give an example if you live in Australia you know exactly what I'm talking about when a person writes in this invitation are destroyed 6 30 exactly it means not before 7 30. nobody in the right every single house if you show up let's say an hour from within what it says in the invitation you'll see an empty Hall not a single table set not a single waiter even shows up I know people yeah he's like come there I said 6 30. see the exam they show up at 6 30. you'll think you're in the wrong hole okay that so why do they write 6 30 . it's a minute it's that's how it is by most people I think by at least by the ashkenazim I don't know how it works I'm assuming it's the same thing he's just another thing this is this was to me a big big finish I don't know what what would you say if a girl isn't she doing and she's 26 years old and all her friends that are 26 years old they say the shot in the 24 years old yeah I guess it's a message unfortunately 28 year old say the 26 you know you have to thumb for a little bit to do huh lie a little bit that's that that's what the minute is the meaning is to lie I don't know for sure I heard the reacting planets he told somebody to say what everybody says if you call a 26 year old a 24 year old the problem you know because the father said listen if I say the truth then no then they'll say that she's 28. if you say that she's 26 people say oh 26 means 28. so you have to say the date anyway fine it's Millions like I'm talking about the time say 6 30 you mean 7 30 24 you mean 26 okay there's a certain meaning of people in certain places when I was a a caterer there's always a certain certain type of people like the elderly this they would the club is called they show up at five you know five minutes before the time and then and they hack your child like they want the food right away where's the s'more was this certain people yeah are shipping them oh sorry let's just repeat that about the same though it doesn't really mean through this is he gave her like a timeline ooh within 30 days if you don't tell me within 30 days that was all the time like I want this real estate deal if you don't answer me within 12 hours it's of course you want the deal even after 12 hours you're trying to get the guy to he's trying to to get him going fine no he was very serious about his time 30 days 30 days after 30 days nothing inside sit down silent call it any way you want my time my time of the tournaments what exactly happened in the mishnah that we threw in the story says of course what the mission meant to say is [Music] Lisa what happens he said I want my coat and the code got lost it's the least enough to come along so the time of time actually argues and he says when a person says I want this coat he means I want this coat this is a code inherited from his grandmother from his grandfather it means a lot to him he doesn't want the 25 cash he wants to go no she could replace it with money Barbershop inside on and that's why he said this is where somebody said I want my code both of this is she could uh substitute with money everybody gives me 200 zones foreign this thing costs food in the bed and 100 so after him keep her the brother came to pay up so let me just said no no I just wanted to make sure that you really you're really serious about it you wanna you're taking it you're not just gonna take somebody's seat and come back you're you're in it you're in it that's fine then that doesn't cost money so crazy and I'm making a decision you really want this good I have to make sure you're really into this get you really really want it give me 200. I see she comes with the money okay you might be serious fight I don't need your money you could ever get now here's a big Shiloh it's a beautiful Shiloh this is how I'm learning Rashi I hope this is the shot it says uh I could read Rashi for you and then you'll tell me if this is a shot it says do we consider it as if he received it in other words a person doesn't have a right to be Michael at naira she's saying if he makes a condition with the get you can't retract that condition you have to be Makai in the condition so one thing you do is she could take give him the money and he could give it right back to her or you could just tell her I don't need the money it's as if says Rashi who suddenly ratchet doesn't say oh he's movather in the night that's not what he says [Music] they went through this just there wasn't any physical thing happening in other words I don't want to mess everybody up they I don't think anybody answered what I just said okay the bottom line is if a person makes a condition you have to keep the condition just when it comes to money I could be Michael you and it says if you did the condition and therefore they get to be a good get or not doesn't matter or perhaps that doesn't work she has to give him the money and if she doesn't give him the money boilers say that if there's a Code he says I want a code you cannot substitute the code for cash I still have a questionnaire Adkins he didn't he was a mugler he said I want a coat she shows up with a bag of money but he never said who says he could substitute money for a quote I said I want a Coke but over here he said if he got the money you can't say over there it says if he got the code because he didn't get the code he got money and he didn't say I'm okay with it I did my feelings he holds that if somebody says I want a coat you could substitute it for cash because he got a coat in cash he got something at the end of the day he received this tonight just it wasn't exact code it was the money the value of it but he got a physical thing but just to be Michael with your mind with your mouth that's not enough so we have a question according to both cheaters no it's not a divorce you have to receive the tonight you have to get it tonight if deny was do 10 Jumping Jacks and she didn't do 10 jumping jacks he can't tell her oh I might tell you the 10 jumping jacks that doesn't work so we're gonna say I'm gonna pretend as if you did a tender that doesn't work either money you could say I I could take the money give it right back to you so Mila I'm just gonna save you that that whole hassle but then they know it doesn't work you have to receive the money in your hand s person tells his friend um I have nothing to do with you you're not going to be able to benefit anything from me my son is getting married he goes over to the to the wealthy guy what do you need so much money for I want you to give all I want you to give XYZ to my son if not I'm not gonna do it okay but that's what he did there are people like that says he can't benefit from until he act physically gives so we know what a thousand dorm is this is a thousand dollar I gave a guy goes to the she says listen you don't even have to go to you you just saying anybody could just say to the guy he said listen I don't know what I was thinking I was I was overwhelmed with the whole wedding so I decided to take advantage of you and force you to give my son some some money for the Hassan but I really feel bad about what I did and I might kill you okay and now you're gonna have to do with him so is that a good ride or not is that a is that a question on what we just said awesome um he says to his wife soon to be his ex you want to get a divorce give me 200 so he's trying to to paint her relate Sierra he didn't he didn't he didn't he didn't uh it didn't come to fruition so Melo it's not a guest is trying to gain and then he decides he doesn't need it in other words it goes like this if a person says I I understand over here that you give me money you're I put you in in a needle unconditionally you give me money he's trying to benefit he's trying to squeeze the guy so for that you can be my squeezing the benefit I can be Michael because I'll just pretend I got the benefit and then I might but Sarah you can't pretend you got that Sarah there's no such thing so therefore once you put a condition that I want to pain you I want you to do 10 jumping jacks I want you to pay me money not because I want to benefit but I want it to come out of your wallet I want to see you suffer then I can't be muscle that suffering that doesn't work I can't just be my color tonight there was a amazing a guy went on a huge campaign against her statement and he got married and didn't have children she decided oh I better ask him maybe it's supposed to that say when I I sold my own eyes I saw people when understanding was nifter they were they were screaming they were all happy in the streets in certain neighborhoods to fight they put out crazy sign people are you know people like to do funny things so this guy goes Thursday man and he says for what thousand I went on a whole campaign against you I put a villain all day she says no you did me a big favor of course I don't have to be you don't have to ask makilo it says listen to safer that uh you only get parts of Finance from busyness he gave me the business I need and um no problem sends the guy out I said well come back he says that's good whatever for me but please don't do these favors for other people [Music] he's trying to be Miser he's trying to be tired going on campaigns people need such Sarah I'm doing her favor she needs to get a mahila phylomantis great says tomorrow let me ask you here think about this question I think it's uh it's unbelievable Shiloh think about this for a second you hire a gardener to do certain things in your in your garden one of them is to water the garden okay you told them if you water the garden for every week four times a month I'll pay you a hundred dollars then comes rain and he didn't have to water the garden do you have to pay the gardener or not is it the gardener can say listen it's my luck uh Hashem helped me he watered it for me he says no I hired you to do a certain job you didn't you didn't do it you didn't have to do it so I don't want to pay over there it's a little different what there was no snow pay for the winter right what happens no snow so that's the opposite that's about Tyson like it he was paid to take action and the action happened Mr mind over there you're saying the opposite it also smells different because people understand how it works anyways here's the question the murder talks about this I'll grab a dominantly say he tells the sheer crap a amadola class everybody in the neighborhood they water the fields three times a month but actually River and they because of that they eat 25 they get 25 profit includes also plowing and and and uh seeding it the whole thing everything terrible I want you to do a little extra I want you to water it four times the whole tilt them for that instead of getting 25 you get 30 percent 33 will save us listen he didn't do what he was supposed to do yes you're right he couldn't do because Hashem already did it for him but he didn't water the field didn't want to feel they don't get paid he wanted to he just didn't have to so anytime you thought like that hold on I shouldn't have done so far so the the law has always like grab when this is besides three things so let's go back over here okay um yeah fine on okay here show you this who says the orus doesn't get any extra money Hashem made it rain he doesn't get paid for that ring reborn and say that if I give you money instead of a coat it doesn't work anymore says maybe they they both add up to each other labor invasive don't care about them the rabbits of the opinion that the r is gets extra I could exchange it or whatever I could I could use the rain from him and over here I could I'll change it for money instead of a code says the gamara with this bro but this is a big problem why you tell me The Two Reds line up the two Blues line up lines of the training wheel you guys have lines up with her bottom but that's a big problem why what kind of is gonna say the rabbit that lock is always like rabba when he argues with the repressive so dialogue should be like the red box on top top right the problem is that we have another halafah that Allah and our mission is not like so the problem is that these guys don't add ah the red and the red can't add up because the lock is not like it is when you have it in boxes like this it's great but the people listening have no idea what I just said gets 33 instead of 25 percent but that law is not like Jimmy Leo in this case where he substituted a co uh money for a code so they can add up together I'm gonna say that everybody holds like we're born on the wad that you cannot substitute money for a quote reviews so okay as we said adds up with the robot on a Snapchat but not some buy the code foreign he wants to make money well Israel and at the end of the day he didn't need to come onto it let me just see if we should go right there sure yeah let's let's finish over here raboysai have a wonderful day have a great job for coming