Daf Yomi Bava Metzia Daf 58 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] a good live fromo somewhere thank you for joining us dear iing and I'm missing shows me how much entire means to re re be able to enjoy many more with his entire for many more years to come this is all about me today reell his emotional tears as he finished the Shar 56 reminds me of a speech by when introduced the song interpreted the meaning by saying we have to group the words by the way Mark I listen to the share so either I'm really slurring and and and listening or it's the uh microphone on this on this phone you have battery on your phone uh yeah I hope so I don't know if I have battery or not but if I don't we'll find out soon I just watched the video of 56 when you were so tired that you almost had a nervous breakdown almost had a nervous breakdown it's a tremendous mus that I wish to take personally although you're so tired you didn't take any easy shortcuts and explain the concepts bottom of 55b in full detail please look after your health yes great idea from the US army chaplain and how they keep up with MD do oh yeah I think it was a picture I forgot to put in here de Ellie couldn't Mo these two Army chapain one who is South Carolina the other is Connecticut suggested the way that they are able to keep up the da is because they and push each other as the JS arm is very challenged to say the least they suggested you start a new initiative called mdus so I want to tell you a little secret that part of what I want to do with the money that raised is do something like this I had this idea it's a little bit more involved in Kus but that's the idea I want to do many many groups within the groups can have kusas and stuff like that but just to be uh touching more people on a personal level with 20 25,000 followers they feel many are just like they are many are even living the same building and don't even know they are so close Ellie I can tell you from experience in your in our program which is the largest online program in the world 22 years have seen that the ones that finish in just a 2-year program succeed finish witha they have kusas we do this every day matching kusas and you like our help or be happy to help organiz with our goal is to help MD grow and to do this this could help MD raise the many more Millions it needs to reach a base of 100,000 correct we want to reach 100,000 the chap also felt that the reason that 6,000 contributed instead of all 20 25,000 by the way it's not even 6,000 of mdy because many many people that contributed are not even from MD we something because they are not connected enough that's the point I want to get everybody connected enough they felt it's almost impossible not to send something $18 36 they're truly tuned in and see how much you and entire mdy puts in 7 days a week even a dollar when two people push each other will go much further I follow you and contribute $1,000 to the campaign this is ficial Todd from L he contribute ,000 to the campaign besides what I've gave before because without a doubt it's really an obligation when one spends an hour or more a day with MD seven days a week the 14 to 19,000 that didn't contribute is because our army chap feel is that are not connected as they could be they had okay so listen if I remember when I put this whole initiative I wanted to do something special where all of MD is connected through um that is the idea and within that is gal so maybe chap they know what they're doing please give it some thought and if you'd like our help please do not hesitate to reach out PS my daughter-in-law n Greenberg the granddaughter of rer from Chicago told us about your head shark she went to school with your daughter in Chicago yes we had a tank of small sharks when we lived in New York one of the other from Lakewood okay galic what else do we have Harry belly I just wanted to share with you that this past Shabbat we had a baby boy I understood it was a kiss from because the backwards is B I joined about a year ago another nine months later LOL the and speed return of all theages business and all my Endeavors the third of the totally embodies thank you not once missing throughout the with his daughter and the healthy baby it almost seems like you know like has this name that wow it's so tough I believe it's going to be very but many times before these [Music] tougher gives us like a like a gift like a couple day break of so today's day one we're holding we're holding two lines from the bottom it says in that when we're talking about and we're talking about there is no and they don't pay they don't swear one of the four things that you don't that doesn't have to swear is for so the way it worked like this I sat in this room probably three years ago gives me nightmares I have trauma little literal traa I'm not kidding cuz I sat here had to give two or three sh in one day you know is but imagine if I think it was three imagine if in America there shabas and then one day two days so it's three days straight so that means I have to give three sh in a row on AR so that is couple that with which is one of the toughest who was very very rough to say the least I've sat in this room G so part of had this thing this is not the rough part and some of it was very easy interesting it goes like this in order that all of kol every single PE person even the people living in Los Angeles the people living in spat everybody should have a portion of the carbon T that comes every single day obviously you're not going to pay for every single carbon you're going to give a half a shekele and that's that's going to go into a pile from that pile we're going to buy cbas yeah when okay so first of all let's see this we said that there's a very good artist his name name is Rabbi Nathan Farber he used to put out a picture every single D I spoke to him I said why don't you do some work for MD blah blah blah I want to do my own thing Hal he should just come on board with us and give us some stuff once in a while we spread his tire out he's a rebi and told me and he works really hard and this was very hard him to keep up back in the day he was still knocking them out every day and here's something that he's done with his art he's trying to show the different types of shers a Scher is a push that's in the shape of a Scher meaning it's Wi on the top narrow on the bottom and you put the money in there when you come to Bas you put for different things either means the old the new and there's six that say okay there's a pile of money and from this pile we take truma we take the truma we take an amount right off the top and whatever is left over is called and that's from but the point is that we take from the top and we go we buy animals now when the Cen removes from the top all of K will become Partners in that even those who sent money in and the money didn't arrive yet and the money got lost Etc they're all Partners so it says the if a city they sent their money in with a messenger but it got stolen on the way or got lost if as you see in this picture they removed the truma if it was before they removed the truma the messenger must swear make to the guy in charge of the sorry means if the Trum was already taken let's go back theum was already taken then you make a to the G if the trumo was not taken yet they have to swear to the people of the city they have to donate the instead [Music] so this is not important our but we're continuing that if they found the money or they found the the new that they donated and the old it's all unfortunately you cannot use the new for the following year it all goes to this year the problem is that this is there why in the world is we just said that when it comes toes there is no I forgot to mention this when we was asking the question understood that we're talking about so why does he have to swear the says no we're not talking about and what's going on here and the reason why they swear is in order to get paid as why are they swearing to the they should swear to the people that are paying them to the city people says right they do swear to the city people they do swear to the people of the city but in the presence of the gizbar of the why because the at the end of the day loses so they're there they represent so that the gizbar should not be suspicious of the messenger that the messenger shouldn't be called a bad guy a person who's neglectful he because of him the money was lost stolen so he swears in front of the gizbar there's a person who I don't know if you heard the story so there's a person who lost a lot of money he saved a lot of money and he lost all his money and he fainted they woke him up the they pour some water in his face they woke him up he wakes up and he said oh you lost the money goes back wake him up again he realizes he lost his money faints again so they go Tois we got to make a a charity campaign for this guy we got to raise some money so when he comes to and he's completely with it he says you know the truth is I didn't I didn't faint because I lost money I'm not a person that's into money I I I fainted because I was so embarrassed that people going to think that I'm that I don't know how to take care of money said oh for that that's not a problem let me write you a letter that you're not you're a good guy okay so we're going to stop the campaign say what's going to be with the money ah you do like money I hear but some people they're concerned that they shouldn't be called a but we're talking about a situation the money was stolen or lost at the end of the day the paid Watcher he has to pay for stolen and lost stuff okay so the Watcher doesn't have to pay for the for the why because it's why should he make money over here why she get paid which reminds you of the m there's a kid that went on to a bus and he was crying the bus driver says why are you crying he tells the bus driver I'm crying because I don't have money I lost my money so the bus driver says you know don't worry about it I'll pay for you this kid was very happy sat down suddenly the bus driver noticed this he's crying again so the bus driver says why are you crying now and he says I'm crying now because the bus driver you didn't give me change you should have given me change change I put you on the bus for free what change gives us every single day he gives us life he gives us oxygen he gives us we can see things we can feel things we can taste things we have blood growing through our veins we're alive for that we don't say thank you but when we're missing one thing when when our finger doesn't Bend correctly our knee doesn't work all oh oh that's the change all of a sudden all I want the change that that's silly say thank you for the free bus ride we're here on this world the free bus ride so this is also he's complaining that he's not getting paid what do you mean not getting paid what I paid you to watch was stolen gone and and you want to get paid says G no and we actually had this gim twice before but this is the source right here over there was quoting like RAB said no this is the source this guy that's watching you pay him to watch he's an it was stolen and it got lost at sea in a storm so it's not his fault so you do you should pay him was held up at gun point it's not his [Music] fault responsible remember we had the is a beer that is belongs in the zoo zoo only this animal that's we say me it's not this particular animal I in general want to bring a animal and if this animal dies I'll bring another one that's when you have then you swear on that that's why you know why because we're talking about a situation that before they removed the to buy the once the gives removes the money then it becomes it becomes that you're not responsible for that's it the giz took it that when they removed this the schull from the pile right over here from this pile then it counts also for those for that money that was lost for that that was already collected and that you're gonna collect going back now we're not talking about we're talking about somebody who's not getting paid to watch the reason why swear we don't want people to look down at and say look he doesn't have to swear nothing happens to him so got lost no no no you're going to be very careful you're going to watch with all your might and you're gonna have to swear to show that we're serious not only I'm not have to swear but a a paid Watcher doesn't have to pay when it comes to question learned in the to what do we do it says we know when a person becomes T the only way out of it is to get sprinkled with paruma ashes you take a paruma which is very rare cost millions of dollars you burn it on a lot of wood and you take the ashes of the wood you put mix it with water from a spring and you sprinkle it on the third day and the seventh day now we have to make sure that this paruma doesn't do any work and if it doesn't work it's possible so we s put a guy there and we make sure we watch it not only that the guy that burns the par has to has to be completely T so we go through this extreme thing that we take children that were born without any Toma put them on a stone a hollowed out stone that has no Toma and they grow up over there for years without any T and they are the ones that bring the C in and help the whole thing in the water so it looks something like this let me just see where it is oh now it's in place here are the kids at a car on a carved out Stone you can see there's a guy in the corner over there watching them this is what Yoshi did years ago when we're learning nazer I think it was here's Dr Factor has a riddling gun watching these kids that are going out of their minds they live on a rock for who knows how many years want to get out of there already when was it yesterday to watch the the grain that grows the barley that grows have to make sure we have enough for the so that people could eat the new crab so if a guy is watching this this worker who works on shabas we don't pay him for shabas you're not to pay for shabas so since he's not getting paid for shabas he's not responsible for shabas but if he's working for a whole week or he works for a whole month or he's working for a whole year for seven years there's something called have have have means that I will pay you for Sunday Monday Tuesday W Thursday Friday and shabas is included in that so you could work on chabas included in what just happened all right so there's a mus called have law La means that if you work for me for a week for a month for a year so we'll just count chabas we'll throw it in there it's included so let's say somebody learns in a on chabas you can't get paid for chabas but if he learns there on Friday or was shabas then we'll include it also in that so we're talking about a guy who's watching he's a working for watching the watching the children so it says here that if something happens he's responsible even onas my love does mean he responsible we just said that the Miss toay why all of a sudden does have to pay talking about whether or not could even get paid not that he has to pay from his packet but let's say he's working for head something happens to the kid something happens to the to the parum he's watching a paruma that nobody should use it and somebody came snuck in there and put 20 pounds on the animal and used it so now this part of is worthless what happens has to pay from his pocket it seems like he has to pay from the pocket says theor no he doesn't have to pay from his own pocket but he doesn't get paid for that day's work doesn't fit in well because we said in the beginning that if he's only working it's not his responsibility so how you gonna explain that talking about that that's not his responsibility meaning he doesn't get paid doesn't paid anyway because he's only working one day a week on chabas somebody works one day a week doesn't get paid for sh so what does it mean a he has no that he doesn't have to pay that he doesn't lose his salary of course he doesn't lose his salary because he doesn't have a Sal talking about this case that they did they made a deal about it he said yes be your responsibility no matter what and that's why he is other there's a concept when it comes to M you can make any deal in the world you want if that's the deal you made so you're we had who says that if you are personally responsible for this Hees then there is the concept of a that if you overcharge a six you have to give it back but if you're not responsible there is no so we're talking about over here something called if I give you something to watch and you deny it and you swear that you don't have it and then we find out you do have it so it for the principal plus 25% plus a carbon as so the t is set in front the that if you're responsible then why the question how to read the B here's the simple reading of the somebody human being who who sinned and was over and then if you see over there under the word b a that's that means and he denies he denies the the so if there's a comma would look like this I just threw in a Comm just to show to emphasize it doesn't say like that but I threw it in the Horseshoe is a comma so we're saying no take out the comma and what we read it is without the comma that if it's then you're over on this but if you're not responsible now then I read it differently I read it like this like you're supposed to read it like it like we read it period that his lying was to his friend not or you can read it okay if you are that means that's more like yours not hashem's became yours your responsible it's not hashem's you're taking full responsibility not only that but in the M says that we you don't make a on something that's now saying you do make a on something that's what's going on here let's just finish this thing and do the sponsor we remember oh it's so strong your cas remove it completely doesn't make any sense not not the until now we were learning that the only time if it's no on other things also on that's the and how do I know because because we have this okay EAS now and now a little bit of really says that if you sell I could upcharge much more than six I could upcharge $50,000 instead of 100 50% is so valuable it has such unbelievable and value how can you put a number on it if I need a sa I'll pay a million dollars to have a sa that's why not when it comes to animal and a valuable Jew let's say a woman has an earing she has a a two two and A4 karat Diamond area so her husband wants to match it to the other one so going to look for 2 2.25 karat diamond he very hard to find he's willing to up upay for that let's say a person has two animals or he has an animal for for plowing he needs to buy a second animal if he buys a really weak animal that will ruin a strong animal says Rashi a strong animal that plows with a weak animal gets ruined so he's looking for the same animal with the same of horsepower oh say how many horsepower does this horse have two okay 2.2 gal imagine a horse has one horsepower and we have cars with 500 horsepower it's crazy go 500 times 500 the power of a horse sponsors oh yeah the sponsors thank you m just forgot it taco thanks for the my uncle off of respons learning and by the brothers what are we already 32 minutes of our grandfathers oh this is a story that the like to say that happened with the Reg and the L Fox like to say that it happened with and I say that it might not have happened but remind me I haven't said this in a long time that there was that was so the principal calls him into the office and says listen it's exaggerated you guys all you stories about Reb Reb Reb throw in a little bit of L stories once in a while kid comes home and he tells his father ABA you told me that you learn pun in all these years you never told me that used to give out dollars on okay the are switching over the stories from the that was for you schy CL all right hope he's watching I'm gonna get a message right now oh you everything a person wants to match up this thing to that thing and whatever it is not only animals Inus or animals and margolus these are very important these are not important how much do you upcharge somebody it's not unlimited their value in other words you allowed to take up to 100% more but not more than 100% so if a typical sa today cost let's say throughout a number $100,000 so you let charge up to $200,000 but not 250 250 210 is too much if a person sells a horse the and a sword and armor in war time let's say I sell here uh in the war you selling uh the the missiles for the what's it called the uh what's that system called that knocks down the irome Iron Dome Iron Dome missiles I could I could take a million dollars take $2 million that's it it's I take whatever I want or on a more practical thing a Mas in during Cor the beginning of Corona how much is the mask cost $50 okay it's $50 for a piece of paper people were paying crazy money then why says like this this is for life so where somebody in the the Holocaust was very very hungry he went to his friend he said listen give me your bread he says I'm not giving you my bread I'm starving he says give me half he says no I need it he says okay I'll give you my gold watch so I thought about it he says okay for gold watch I'm willing to starve few weeks later when they were um liberated liberated thank you they were liberated so the guy goes to him he says give me back my watch you fooled me so you no he says no I sold it to you so eventually they made it to some Rabbi and the said there is no why in the time of the Holocaust this piece of bread is worth more than the watch you made a deal you made a deal finished there's no on a watch when it comes to oh which is another M there was a person who had an egg during the Holocaust and he decided he wants to give to his rebba so he's thinking to himself how do I give to my re my re won't take it so he came up with this idea that as they're going to go on this March they're going to go to the work in the fields over there in the cold he's going to slip the egg into his pocket there was very very weak and he puts his hand in his pocket and he couldn't believe it there's an egg in his pocket takes the egg eats the egg years later they singing in America somewhere and the guy that SL the egg into the packet he hears this the grandson of the reev saying of the re my grandfather was in as and he was in the March and he was about to die he felt like he was going to die he had no nothing and he put his hand in his pocket and you're not going to believe it know put an egg in his pocket he took the egg out and he ate the egg and that's how these M happen should I tell you the end of the story M the Mish answer by you sharian you want to say it what do you say what are you making even sugar with this old baby business we could do tror right now on the spot how am I supposed to say it nothing you don't remember who delated this your friend this uh kilu ah it's very important what I just thought about something that if somebody oh excellent I just thought about something we're talking about before that if you you work on chabas then you have to like include it include it now what about the bank the bank gives you interest if they pay you interest by the day that doesn't work in America they give you by the day or by the month by the day might be by the day so your money is making money on chabas they can't pay you for chabas so what do you do little before be blow out with everything else yeah but it's per day there's a problem talks about it trying to think where becomes a real problem that there's no have love but anyways the was that M says he says to give it to to give that amount to without any recognition whatsoever you have any from it whatsoever so deliver a check to mdy don't say a word can't use it for your no you can't use it for your because you're not have off of it so you take it it's it's all these guys in the stock market all these I'm trying to think when it becomes a real problem hold on a second let me think if everyone is a problem I think it's a problem sh is a problem for everybody you short so so no all your interest 12 days of the year y oh I think the problem is more y [Music] maybe I don't remember I have to look it up again I just remember that he says in that case you have to give it away to without anybody in the world knowing not a fake Anonymous but like an anonymous what I'm saying like a real Anonymous goes to the St with zero recognition okay here we go beautiful stuff says just like this something called stealing from your friend even worse than that and that's the is going to say is insulting your friend with words hurting your friend one of these Halas is going into a store and asking for a price when you have no havina to buy that to purchase that that object you don't want to buy just going in there to figure out how much it cost you want to get a better deal on Amazon and you go in there and you ask him how much it cost that's giv what are you stealing guy's wasting time on you coming think he's yeah he's wasting time on you but that mean that's his job he does that he shows people but he's getting all excited thinks he's going to make a sale in a second and you walk out some people do it when they're really hot they're really hot they're waiting for a bus and AR TRW right now it's like it said it broke records 85 year record right now hottest days ever for yesterday was howest day in 85 years for this up guy's waiting for a bus he knows the bus coming 10 minutes so he walks into the shoe store he tries three pairs of shoes makes the guy nuts meanwhile has smack air conditioner and he walks out it's way yeah I hear what he's saying he saying should be don't say such a thing don't tell you remember what you used to do you be big Shak you now I just want to remind another is I told you so you tell your friend I Told You So or I told you that you're GNA get this you're GNA have this accident you're going to lose the money I told you not to invest in Bitcoin I Told You So that that hurts a person it doesn't does it doesn't no good over here shouldn't be saying I shouldn't be teaching people this CU I'm not so good at this says over here what's shouldn't tell a g don't tell him oh you follow this I got show this picture first the picture they're talking about a mus hurting somebody with words even this is like good picture wow a lot of detail there okay so says that sometimes a person is is very shrewd he wants to hurt a guy's feeling so what does he say he says instead of saying you're says Ah how was how are you to be where you where you where you're at when your grandfather was such a bad guy when your father is man to know whatever and he's sitting in jail today how did it like instead of talking you K and people that hear the conversation they don't say oh look what a bad guy he's being mean to but the guy that's receiving it he on understands very well and it hurts him so when I saw this I was reminded some people a lot of people they tell me when I go especially in America say how to give such a she so sometimes they mean it seriously they want to know like the're serious like wow how is a guy like you BOS how did he become a m some of them like saying like you're such a loser like so instead saying hey Ellie you're a loser they say how it's a great way that's what he says it could be it's around it's like a sarcastic way to insult somebody and it says not wrong don't pressure him says shouldn't steal from him which is very interesting that this is what weing tomor we have four I believe that are in the not to insult somebody somebody feeling with words is in the it's not abundance steal talks about stealing it's not to come to say because if the Tor says twice the same thing then obviously come to say put it into unless we can't then says that then it means it's two so in this case let's learn another okay don't remind his bad Deeds oh remember you killed somebody your grandfather's a terrible guy you ate so many bad things you come learn with that disgusting M Learn that came from there's a lot of people are unfortunately people are they know how to give to people so they see somebody that lost a child so they come you say you know why you lost a child you deserve it you that's you know person sick burying his children don't say like the friends of you if you were clean if you had no AAR wouldn't punish you like this cannot say that this is like the kids do they call off the pizza place and they order 27 pies for their rebi or the guy in B goes to the bakery he says hey you got a th000 Rolls he says no th000 rolls it's way too many comes the next day you got a th000 Rolls no third day comes you have a th000 Rolls the guy says actually yeah I see that you come every day so I picked a th000 Rolls so loser I don't want a th000 Rolls just want to know if you have a th000 rolls oh that's so you don't like that you think it's more like you made him b a thousand R the guys are asking for weed don't say go down the block over there they sell weed Gonna Knock on the guy's door and they're gon never sold wheat so what are you doing we have to think about it let's stop first second I'm thinking out for myself where can it apply in our day-to-day life you tell a guy go down the block you know there's nothing there go over there go theck that guy if you go down the block the guy will give you you know it's not true embarassing making feel low about no embarrassing is something else yeah some of this is embarrassing some is not all sorts of things that make a person feel bad look telling a guy that you deserve that your kids died that's I don't know that's not embarrass but that's like really hurting it's hurting it's hurting somebody over here you're not embarrassing the guy you go to the store you pretend you shop around in a store just to get prices what you could do is you could go into the story say I've done this because I learned this gar I've done it a few times already I go into the St listen I'm very sorry I'm not going to buy from you could you please tell me how much you charge for this item if he wants to tell me you can tell me but I I notify him in the beginning I'm not buying from you stop you want to do me a favor and tell me your price fine no is that okay yeah he's okay with it you're telling him before telling him before most of the time they're fine I don't remember a guy ever resisting but I want to be open with them I don't intend to buy I'm curious I need to know for something else I'm not buying from you let it out you could say that some some stores don't really care it depends on the situation but let's try to be careful with this these are things that are in the heart you know why you're saying this to your friend you're trying to hurt his feelings only knows what's in your heart so just because the other people around you don't know doesn't mean you're not a that is even actually worse than when people do know it's worse to insult somebody hurt somebody with words than to steal from him when it talks about words it says you should fear and stealing doesn't say you should fear when you hurt somebody with in his body rather than his pocket you can return money you can't return bad [Music] words when you make your friend's face white it's as if you killed them saying beautiful you see person comes in red and walks out white so explains you see people turn red why do they turn red I thought they turn white first person turns red in order and then the blood rushes away and then he becomes white that's what it means and that is like killing somebody says if it's like killing somebody why is it not from the three or the should be the fourth and Hur embarrassing your friend in public why is that not for so says the reason why it's not the it's just but not not specific the it's not one of the four it's not added to the three so someone to say that is M like killing somebody and would be if it's m like kill and this would be very very farfetched well let's say you know somebody's going to embarrass your friend can you take a gun and shoot him and kill him he's a you see he's about to kill your friend he's about to embarrass him and like killing kill him first maybe there such a thing I don't think anybody says that far but it's really bad very good says thank you I have it here I not on the bottom but okay says why is it called you like that one huh was at the in Hebrew which was first he says you spilling his blood what's the blood of many says beautiful says when a person embarrasses somebody in public so that person that became embarrassed let's say he embarrassing sh in front of the entire show tremendous Bush turn red white all thing you killed him he comes back to show a month later and he sees the guy that embarrassed him he relives the whole trauma all over again so he was plural it happened more than once oh we'll say this later um what are they very careful in from insulting people three go down besides three everybody go everybody goes comes up are three they go they don't come up somebody embarasses friend call his friend bad name but you're embarrassing that person even though this person was embarrassed by this hundreds of times people call him ah you m you this you that so he heard it a thousand times he's embarrassed thousand but when you call it you're the person that goes into gam doesn't come up so there's all T this here about people that go into G don't come up the whole thing but T says at the end a very very important thing he says I think it's very important and I say this and I'll say it again I have a very very close friend who's over a very big a and he went toot he wants to do CH he wanted to do CH told him that he should learn a lot of and so here's it for that person any person who has a guilty conscience a lot of people the the guilt eats them up and doesn't let them continue with life so you have to know this [Music] B the people that go to they come up those are people that didn't do anybody could do even for the even for killing a human being you do and it works even says we have to remember this that shua works for every single a no matter how great a is a great day a great week we'll see you tomorrow