Daf Yomi Bava Metzia Daf 33 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] good morning rap [Music] Bo [Music] Brooklyn wow what a first of all as you might know Wasim M tinest area where and they made a whole mat and they got 350 hat members to join the WhatsApp group and to start the D and the was buzzing and everything was going turns out that ATA is not a big fan of once hit it's like now we're down to randik not so much I depends on depends [Music] [Laughter] no wow perfect timing perfect timing it's a it's a real to be here with people who save so many lives and I got to tell you I'm also in a way in Thea business it's a little bit of a different business but I was just saying it maybe two three days ago in this year you guys save lives and mdy [Music] saves we save people through Tyra when you learn Tyra every day you become consistent and you learn Tyro yeah take the whole thing it changes your life and you could ask every single person that ever joined the shear this is not a regular Shear this is a Shear that the T changes lives it's possible to be guy and save physical lives and save thees also it's not a contradiction do both so it's a real honor for me to be here in the organizers to all the people the food was excellent the mat is great and um as you might know I came from AR straight running off the plane right away to Baltimore to to Brooklyn to Chicago this morning got up early gave for sh yesterday got up early this morning caught a flight and immediately I already gave a Shear today here in this building in Hebrew and here we are so if D was a little concerned they said you've been slurring your words and that's all the guys are ready to go with oxygen and all it's just a guy hasn't slept in a few days it's not a big deal don't worry about it we're it happens to be that today's a very special day today we're finishing peric the most famous one of the every kid starts of and started so we're straddling two of the most famous Pro we're going to start so usually we start with emails and I have to tell you this is one of the only times in my life that I prepared an entire Shear on a plane I don't do well on planes to begin with with the oxygen and the noise and this but that's what it was it was a little bit in the taxi a little bit on the plane it is what it is keeps on moving it doesn't wait for anybody and today is another day today's another she and we got to go besides I was told that there's some sort of function in like 45 minutes we got to really keep it going we're holding a beautiful literally the last two words and the question of theor today is is that's the shil m treating an animal the rise to their so what kind of animal are we talking about not every single not every single animal we're talking about specific animals that help human beings like donies cows and even cats and dogs says the rashba actually not the rashba the other FR in the because in general there's not a is to says at least to kill animals is not a problem to be animals might not be a problem theza says it's an issue we don't want to be don't be okay yesterday we discussed you might not have heard what [Music] about what about the Shila is what about the your fellow Jew are you being you hear the question you go to your friend you pull his ear if you pull a cat's ear over what if you do to a human being so actually human being there certainly other there's also know things like that but in terms of okay so here we are here you have a picture of an animal that's Ro it's weighed down by the load the to pick him up to unload him load him back up you're doing this for the owner but not for an animal that just keeps on doing this over and over again so this is the of yesterday one of the most amazing we had was all the way at the end of the which talks about the we have to help our enemy before we help the people we love that's our our tells us that we must help our enemies the people we dislike why do we dislike them because we feel like dislike not because we because the person that to dis like okay certain times a person is over certain we dislike them but there's a person we just don't like the way he looks we don't like his been hug him we don't like he he's he's L and he's AI whatever the reason is you don't like him to help his donkey before you help your best friend's donkey that's your enemy but not a donkey that constantly does this he's habitual donkey here this is a when it gets to it oh here we go St a lazy donkey you don't have to help him out another thing we learned from this and not a donkey that's standing it has to be laying down now we don't necessarily passing like this but this is what this m holds and he's under the load of the weight of the load a donkey that's already unloaded now the first word over there the origer says that the extra adds takes a word one time means many he says like many many in this month like we say you constantly over and over you forgive us this is a weight that is typical for an animal here's a funny picture of of a donkey maybe for a small donkey that's a lot but each donkey and and the weight that it can carry I want to prove to you something if the idea is that you're not allowed to watch an animal be B and when you see an animal B you have to go help him out it's unbelievable I'm thinking out stop thinking out loud here with you this whole parag is about helping another Jew when you see a Jew in pain when you see a Jew losing money you see that he left his air conditioner on you see that he left his light on the car and who more I'm thinking now stop I'm sitting in a room with people that their whole life is about helping another yid 2 3 in the morning to jump out of bed it's all about helping that's what this par is about fam helping another year you see that he's suffering with his donkey it's not going well you help him out who cares if the donkey keeps on doing it if he's habitual or not at the end of the day you have to help a donkey out and if you're helping a donkey helping another yeah the famous the guy guy says oh learning says they have to help a donkey so certainly know year she sees a woman in in the her you know people don't have cars it's very hard to watch in my neighborhood you have people that they slept the groceries literally women slept 50 pounds of groceries for 10 minutes straight it's n to watch so the guy sees this woman he sees him slipping so he runs he's like behind he runs he runs and he gets to her he he realizes his wife say I just came to say I'm going to co have a great day here it's standing it's not standing at the end of the day if the animal suffering you help it out says that and is only right so we can't really prove it you're not going to prove it from here because yes you're right it seems like it's not a big deal but that's because it's goes like says it's not a big deal it's only the it talks about a load that you could that that the animal could take and not take far who's the one that makes the distinction whether or not it's very heavy you shouldn't have loaded up it's the owner's fault who told him to load up so much that's only that it all goes like as interesting question must doesn't make sense to say that goes why it talks about in the that you're supposed to unload the animal and not if it's already unloaded what does that mean Cloud that you don't have to help somebody load up a car load up a donkey so now we're ready so the here there's two one is p one is Tina PR means to unload the animal Tina means to load up the animal so here in the all the way in the bottom says H talk you have a Mitzvah to help somebody load today we don't have donkeys so you help him load his car to go to the mountains there a Mitzvah so you can't say that says you don't have to help at all you have to help load you might be able to get paid for it if you have to help him but you could demand payment but who's the that says you can get paid it's only R who make the distinction between getting paid and not getting paid not how you telling me who said there is but maybe in agreement with that when it comes to loading up an animal you do get paid like who told you that he argues on everything maybe only argues on one thing when Theus says here you see your friend's donkey how far away are you where are you where's this donkey compared to where you are you're on a bridge you're on the 100th and 10th floor you looking down you see him walking like where are you exactly do this she think you're very far away binoculars you saw you bumped into bumped maybe have to touch him no you saw it so so which one is it you see or you bumped into it it's a little bit of both 17.5 of a mill it's approximately 500 feet let's say 500 feet so he's standing a distance of 500 500t away from somebody you see him struggling you go and you help him so this is the that we said yesterday also once you get involved that's it you're stuck you get involved now you have to walk for a p how much is a p 30 times the RIS so you see him from 500 feet away now you and then you come close and you help them out you have to make sure that the animal is able to walk without falling for a full parel is okay but we're on it and we we don't we're not mire animals especially animals that are domesticated and help human beings says the Mish respons should have very interesting mishna this mishna I know somebody came about he didn't like it so much in the beginning we all know you're supposed to give cover to your father to your mother but what happens when you have a rebi how how do we view a rebi in so the M starts off saying go step by step if you and your father son and a father lose something and you could only retrieve one of the objects who do you tree first you or your father you come first one of you're re drop the watch in the ocean you also you could go in and just grab one who you get you come before you're ready with he was and was a big big a lot said remember he said I wish I could take some of Reis said I see you don't know simple G so said he maybe maybe re meant this m that when a a person has an AA together with his rebi you have to you have to worry about yourself first person that care yourself take care of your re so was saying to him first your health comes first then your re don't don't volunteer your body like that to sorry now we're jumping he's not in the picture anymore you have his father you have a re which one should he take care of first a father or rebi a Reb goes before her father father brings him to this world in Galia they would start teaching the kids from this m not from the beginning of why to teach them that comes before a father you should know as a child rebi comes before a father going to say what kind of rebi not the rebi teaches Mal as much as a re that teaches him we'll see if the father's a he now it happens to be in and also also say the same thing that if a father pays for the reeving so maybe in our generation we pay tuition not like what is it it's already 20 grand or something no then the father comes first because the re is only there because of the father that's what they say some of these are tough some of these are tough to to to hear your father and your rebi are carrying something heavy he helps his re first unload and then this is the hardest one you see your father in captivity your father somebody's father is in Gaza and he can only say either his father or his rebi from the tunnels you save your rebi first as aate maybe that's what the guy didn't like so much why ca his reab brings him to and his father brings him to there's a guy in our troll waiting for a doctor and the doctor walks he stands up that's what he standing up I never saw that before he says no no no says it says my father brought me into I heard about you already I heard your reputation you bring a lot of people to oh once again if the father he's his father first because has both he's his father so we D this that you have a a person has not to be poor what does that mean if a person could work he has a job he has a paying job and he decides I want to rely on the I wna I want to feel what it's like to be poor it's awesome obviously if a person is UN and he can't find the job obviously we're not talking about about a person could avoid it and he doesn't avoid it he has a problem he's over of in other words understands that a person must take care of himself before he takes care of other people I'm sure everybody in this room heard that from their wives or whatever what are you running and taking care of these calls your family comes first no only only you only you I see everybody's shaking okay good you guys what I'm talking about anyways when you're so involved in sometimes you forget take care of yourself and your your your health goes your this it's a dangerous thing says first you take care of yourself if you have and everything else that you can take care of other people so Rashi says like this maybe it's to see rash inside say this situation why because you have excuses you're concerned that maybe you're not going to have it maybe [Music] this nevertheless a person should give the go beyond the letter of the law even though he could say listen I need to take care of myself first I learned have to take care of yourself first so I'm not sure I have enough money what if tomorrow have a better r day and I need I can't give you now no because if you act like that yes Hally you're right but then is gonna act like that also a person is always super uh concerned and and he has anxiety about giving money because what if uh you know I need money tomorrow he gets rid of a terrible curse will happen he himself is going to be for so Rashi says basically you shouldn't have anxiety for these kind of things like says says that you're not allowed to have anxiety okay it's easy to say hard to people that that suffer from anxiety they they'll say listen I try he says what are you going to be worried about I know people I might be married to one I'm not going to say but the water there might be a shark sometimes even in the bathtub there might be a shark what are you worried about what when was the last time somebody got killed by a shark one a year two a year you have to know statistics says you have to know statistics how many people get killed by sharks every year two you're not dying from a shark impossible how many people die flying on a Boeing 737 zero in the last 15 years in America zero so why you why you fly you're shaking like a Le you have to take pop the pills cuz you're not you're not working with Statistics you you're letting anxiety take over there's a a mice I just heard yesterday there's a guy I don't even know when was the last large plane crash in America after September 11 that was 20 years ago what rock rock how long ago was that October 11 yeah that's 20 years ago 20 you know how many millions and millions of flights it's so much more dangerous to to you have probably more of a chance getting hit by the garage door than you know that goes up 1.2 seconds you know so there's a guy his job was to operate the D9 you guys are familiar with the D9 right those giy bulldozers knock over the buildings in Gaza D9 he's in Lebanon and he's operating at D9 and unfortunately an Israeli tank saw him and they were convinced it's a Lebanese D9 and they shot him kiter he got out the beness but he had tremendous uh trauma and everything now in this war they called him up they said listen you're a professional D ner we need you let's go so he gets into the D9 he's in there for about two minutes and he had a what is it called you know the panic attacks pbsd exactly has an attack they grab him they ink him out they say you're going home right now you're never coming back so they put him in in a in a Jeep and they start going so he calls up his wife says I'm coming home I had a panic attack his wife says you're not coming home until you kill killed 10 terrorists at least I'm not don't even think about it she starts yelling at him kider the P of his wife he told his Commander said listen I don't know what to do it's either PTSD or my wife i i p is I'll take that any day so they send him back in there so you could overcome there there easy ways to overcome a trauma it's not yeah so says the so that's what Rashi says it's stop being concerned you're not gonna have money just give yeah you're right you have all the right to be concerned and if you're concerned but at the end of the day you should know that you are not going deal with you you want also Overlook things and not go by the letter of the law because if he go by if he goes by the letter of the law it's all over for us both his father and his re are carrying something he should help your re out first what does it mean this is a re that Tau him say what's what does mean to there's a lot of to what kind of toyra g g so all you guys are thinking to yourselves and I'll be straight up with you I sawur in that anybody that ever went to my Shear it's all over I'm before your fathers that's it don't push you you didn't go my Shear that's why we don't want you anyways I see already what kind of guy you are what's explains explains the contradictions between the it explains where the comes from you guys go like ah I got to tell you because we just said I got to tell you this it's a probably but it's it's good it might have some truth to it the tell somebody listen I need you to go collect money for one of your relatives he's the Evan he says are you kidding me I'm not going to collect money for him every year giving him money he's not going to be heavan anymore what I'm GNA do next for him says he explain to you one that's your now listen to this this is gonna blow okay this that says that if you have a a vessel a clean that has two purposes one side is a spoon and one side is a fork and one side broke off it still is considered and it's so the is very understood it's very simple but what is it what's this lising I don't know what it is he explained to him what it is and from explaining to him what it is he became his rebi so here's a the idea of a lot what we do it's a lot of pictures yeah there a lot of visuals and here's here's what it looks like let me see if I can find it here check this out this is aiser right and when the rebi shows the tal here's a picture this is what it is it's above and beyond what the is says okay if half this here it is here's the list you become the guy's re just by showing him depicting it that makes you ripped for a parent for for one of the he ripped on on person The Who explained to him this thing right over here it works like this I don't know if I could do this let me see if I have a laser here no okay no do you see this uh mouse or this yeah you do okay so this is the the he's door the this is where the is this is where they put the this is um what else do we have here the on this right and the entrance to the which is right over here so every morning they would open up the door but not this door right over here what they would do is they would a guy would come through this little hole here in the wall he would stick his hand in up to his armpit and with a key he would open up the next door and then he would get in from the small door you can see right over here I think it's like this right over you see this line right over here this is how we get into the yeah okay it is kind of large over there the Val so all he's saying is that one of the doors he opened up by extending his arm all the way to until he can't reach and then he opened up the other one was immediate he was able to go like this he had to keep it was like very easy to open up from the inside was opening up the door from the inside of the already so this taught this idea and he became his re to the point he ripped K he can't he can't fix the clothing anymore it's not like today you know you buy his to cost 50 bucks and you're done you did a Creo you go to the class real quickly you hear that a parent you go you take your worst suit and that's do talking about a beggar that cost $10,000 in those days however much it cost crazy amount of money because they had to do it by hand K that's it it's done he did it to this R why because he taught him one key goes all the way to the armpit and the other key you open up immediately stands up as if the other is his and they one for the other will as if you're dealing with another re we could be on the same level but you give me cover I give you cover I decree on you you decree on me and when it comes to a lost object so if you're dealing with a friend who's but your F so yes he goes before your father but you it has to be this this friend is not is not a real re mu so only a reab muok will go before your father St a friend your father goes before him ah you just treated him like a RAB you just stood up for him you did Korea for him well he's dead now but on your other friends you do cre for if they're if they die now that they're alive you stand up for them when it comes between a friend and a father father comes first unless it's your this is a very very sad story and there's a lot of lessons to be learned from the story ra asks raun raun was his re five words what happens if you have a talmid in front of a rebi but the talmid is is he has knowledge that the rebbi doesn't have knowledge of he knows different things that the rebbi doesn't know about what's the how do we treat is he is he like do you do cre for him do you stand up for him raun didn't like it raun thought that is hinting him what about me I'm your tal but I know stuff you don't know rebi maybe you should stand up for me maybe this he says to him I don't need you there's a where to put the period maybe it's really or they were they were mad at each other for 40 years or you can read it like like the art scroll has the like has that's B in you need me until you're 40 years old in other words once you're 40 okay then you have whatever so they weren't mad at each other so many years this might have happened when in the when was in his 30s okay so few years or the other they really mad each other for 40 full years they didn't come see each other raun ra fasted 40 days because he was he sad that he made run feel bad he misspoke he didn't mean to insult him he asked him a question rauna took it the wrong way nevertheless you have to fast also ra also the re also fasted 40 [Music] days because he suspected wasn't true he wasn't trying to be says that you need to learn most of your from somebody in order for to be considered Mark how's the lift going today the LIF what what which ones oh I see I see okay that if you just learn one from somebody that is enough to be considered a re how could you say see you need is why because it says says we go byous what does it say Anonymous you you a re who brings you the re who teaches you like I keep on repeating this because I was very very moved I received a three-page letter from Ben rodnik so he finishes off the letter just now for the plane finishes off the letter I showed it to somebody let somebody read the whole thing on start cry but the the end of the letter he writes he says thank you re for but just as important thank you that through the she has a better so what's a re that brings no no no we could explain it's not one of those who learn it's a nice thing but not such a nice thing not so not so great all you do the whole day is learn so I need to tell the I'm really telling myself as a we didn't learn that much we didn't learn no at all so Victor Miller always said that you should learn even 20 minutes a week 30 minutes a week you have no idea how much you can accomplish if you another week goes by another another 30 minutes instead of just giving up and saying listen I don't know no forget it I'm just going to it's to add a s like that says what if you learn M now I have to tell you I have the you know wherever I go whoever I bump into I'm a missionary I say listen what about you're gonna learn some so you know how many people tell me I hear this all the time says I don't do the da what do you learn every day yeah I learn heard it hundred hundreds of times or some some people say I learned What's d what should you learn what should you learn if you're only going to learn one thing maybe maybe maybe maybe what well the problem is if you learn you're not going to get to this G so you won't know here it is says like this if a person just learns it's great you'll even get an award for it but learning again what's rash explains what we call today that is the greatest that's the highest level and that's why we learned that's the reason the says the way what you need to learn if you're only going to learn one thing I'm not saying don't learn saying if it's between and there's nothing greater and always explained contains it all contains everything it's all in here now the contradicts itself second ago it said which is it this was said in the time of [Music] re the whole world forgot about the Mish and they went into the gar allow me to read this long rash for you I'll do it really quick but it's it's aakashi Rashi explains the the history of what happened and why things happen a certain way very I think to know this [Music] topash explains three generations before the author of The Miss three generations before that there's major TL in CL between all the hundreds of it's literally like there was two different that we had said this and said that was a disaster how did it happen says because of the that put us in such we couldn't get to the bottom of things there such a that there so many we don't know what to do with him so re three generations later he came along and he fixed it explains rash how did he fix it why the king of Rome an loved re they were best friends whole which R even says that I think it's over there the famous gar where an would visit rebi every single day he had a tunnel he'd go when nobody looked he'd go underneath and he take two slaves with him and when he went into re's house he'd kill one and when he got back to his his Palace he'd kill the other one bury them both and I don't know if he buried them left them there and every day would repeat nobody knew that he went to visit rebi but they were best friends because they best friends rebi had the ability and the luxury to reinstitute T and figure out what's what's what and give a I heard he talks about okay the bottom line is rebi made a big S there now theor says because in the time of re if you went to like like I went to and I can tell you that I could relate to this we used to learn so much and so many that you ask somebody what the gar says he didn't even know nobody like we we was just learning and raid and raid and some what was the I don't remember I don't even know what all I know middle of I worked on for two weeks basically that's what is going on here the forgot about the mishna they were so excited about the garar says stop you got to know where you're coming from you got to know the history we're over here it's very nice to do raid it's nice to do you have to know about the mishna brisker said about the bris said my son knows gor rashal the whole so somebody said what's a big deal he said what's the big deal cannot say until you know call with rash that's what he said you have to know about pet before you say one why because maybe Rashi says something some exactly your somewhere else maybe can't you have to know gar Rashi that's what he said is the don't say it in because they'll throw you out of there but you have to know says G later on he said because they were all running to Gar he said no do M first my daughter where did you get this brush from oh I want to take a pause here in your your I want to tell you why I'm here no pressure but I'm here for one reason and I'll tell you in a second mdy is doing a charity campaign but the reason why I'm here I will not leave this place until shom ran takes a page that's why I'm here Bo I need all your help anybody have that on status what that's right there's a bedroom upstairs he said so AAS I know we're in a big rush I'll tell it to you in one and a half minutes what is mdy and why is mdy raising money and has nothing to do with you just you can tell your friends and get somebody else to page and as long as Shan takes a page we're all good if Shan doesn't take a page all you guys take a page so put the pressure on mdy is more than a sheer mdy through Tyra reaches approximately 25,000 people a day 25,000 people a day I just started giving the year in Hebrew two months ago and there's over 3,000 Hebrew speaking Watchers a day we have 12 employees and we have to add more now especially with the Hebrew one we have to get another editor another camera operator we feel that 25,000 people is galic and the mount every day I get emails you know I read emails before she usually besides today and whatever on this trip but I read emails and the the overwhelming uh theme of the emails is you changed my life through T you changed my life for instance guy wrote in the other day I during the the the the I did MRA I never believe two years ago M middle of P yeah or how many people I got four or five emails this the first time in my life that I learned on pter guy came over to me yesterday this is the first time in my life I learned the P small changes that are really huge changes changes that the entire family the wife the children everybody noticed people are learning to from the children now by the table I personally believe and everybody that's in MD believes that we could reach another 25,000 people easily in the next year or two but for that we need a stickle money I asked a guy that has a beautiful Yeshiva in Chicago just asked him yesterday a 75 buffer newberger I'll tell you his name new maybe I shouldn't say his name so I didn't say his name erase cut cut so I won't say the exact number he 75 B his budget a year is over $2 million for 75 Buck it's normal we are reaching 25,000 people a day and more and our budget is one and a half million and I really believe we could reach 50,000 and we will we we gave out over $300,000 worth of garas he ask me why why do you have to give this because for $50 we change a person's life he gets the free gamar he gets addicted to learning and his whole life becomes so boy say if you can if you have it within you to help take a page you don't have to give a dime all you have to do is pressure other people to give a dime done you took a page you took a page I don't believe it I don't really okay right there I'm going right there a word is a word I will tell you this though seriously I had four meetings so far four meetings Z since I came to America each one gave me $118,000 and one gave me 25 say it's tremendous money but it's beautiful beautiful and sometimes instead of taking a page if you go to one because this so many of them out there they give a lot of and you explain to them what MD Y is it's not just another she it's say she I I'll say I'm not biased I'll say this might be the largest cure of organization in the world right now because through Ty people the M I'll tell you one story and I go a with a beard up to here with Pace up to here Many Of You' seen him at the shabat came over to me I speak to you privately with my wife I said okay comes to the side by the time I got to the corner they were both crying literally tears that scaming down his cheeks he couldn't really talk took him a minute to compose himself and he says listen for five years I didn't D in once not evener and since I watch yesir I haven't missed a minion in over a year that's cure of C it's a guy that looks like every other in the world you would never see in a sec you can't tell had the same bber same be as everybody else but inside something is missing and through to and and I'm not putting people down I am a through this year so I'm I'm thinking and hoping that other people here you have K over there who it's his fault this whole charity thing he Yi stand up for one second I want to say I want to embarrass you for stand up Yi clined every shabas and ask every one of his friends he he doesn't go to sleep shabas afternoon he used to schl like you know like everybody else three hours straight he does Kar on all seven d that means he changed his life his life is his life is Kazar his life is about helping others he did the charity he did the shabbaton he's a plumber from for months no he took it upon himself to do it what does he know about charity compains what does he know about life changing than you for [Applause] coming take a page go out of your comfort zone and let's raise some money here no teams found what what some R I'm not going V there okay we're gonna go there not gonna do it shom I saw you do how many of these campaigns have you seen on a statuses plenty and I saw that he makes fun of the campaigns this one is a life changer song Life Cher how much I want to know don't tell me a dollar okay whatever you do as long as you did a page like [Music] this just tell me if we have enough time to start we're gonna stop by okay so we start we'll start tomorrow nice and fresh so let's get to the end of the peric and you guys are free to go and open up your own Pages now tell to your nation it's a mistake I'll consider it like they did it on purpose deliberately what is that these are that the opposite what they did deliberately as an a we're going to make it as if it was you got to be careful with with with if you pass him and I said this all the time in cheer don't ever pass him based on what Ellie said in cheer I'm not a far from him I never passed him all I do is I like to push people's butttons so I'll tell you that's like way out there but it doesn't mean that's ask local Rabbi when you make a mistake and say listen I thought that that was said no no consider it as if you did a deliberate the ones who are fearful of his word these are people that learn the brothers of those who learn they they're always asking the people you don't know from from so they always have to ask the people what's the your people that you hate the those who own they they despise the people that learn says your distance as you know yeah you say it's that's it they never gonna get comes we're not going to look at them he's going to be happy in the time of maybe he'll be embarrassed they they not they will be embarrassed we should be able to see thank you so much for coming out have a wonderful