Daf Yomi Bava Metzia Daf 31 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] a [Music] [Applause] good live from Chicago or depending where you are such a nice very shabas like that beautiful so yesterday we were in bar Park the a default flew in people came from all over we had uh over 300 people and uh it was a very very nice evening we were two days ago we in Baltimore which reminds me of the same ma to ficial he has a but I don't have old the information a golden dove the kits are another grandchild so ma ma um came very very nice hel in Baltimore Brooklyn's Brooklyn you know you can't compete with Brooklyn uh the total for brookin they took upon themselves to raise a quarter million dollars so it's very nice we see what happens bem and was a very successful evening so here we are I'm only here today tomorrow night um this a year 9:30 right and Sunday I'm off back to Brooklyn so just came to spend Shas here with the in-laws and and friends so for having me we're not going to do any fundraisers don't worry we're here to enjoy T um so that's that's pretty much it then I guess this Wednesday or Thursday I'm going back to so it's about trying to get people to pledge money to why do we need money we're trying to grow the the organization we're trying to bring more people to Tyra change people's lives it really changes people's lives I get to emails every single day people come over to me all the time so I know it changed my life I know it changed many people's lives in this room that came over to me told me in the past so we want to bring more more ye ver is us that mine sounds like it's coming from your computer possibly no it's not my computer okay ah we found it we're going to skip the emails today shabas we're going to go straight to just a few sponsors sponsor anous for the save and Speedy return for all the hostages thank you of the month anous child birth his daughter in a healthy baby so we have a today very very interesting D yesterday the we learned the mishna that describes what AA is if it's you see a cow grazing on the side of the road you have that in your in in in the safon up north unfortunately we haven't been able to be there for a half a year or so I once heard that the reason why so many cows up there is that the Army wanted cows to graze and if there was like a mes how do you say m in English a mine a land mine we rather that cow blow up than a human being like they didn't want to spend all that money looking around they just let these cows go but when you go up there you'll see the cows that's normal to have a a cow in a Vineyard the mission says that's not normal so over here we have um see oh a cow running through the vineyard is two things are are wrong over here basically it's going to destroy the vineyard it's going to destroy itself a cow Grazing In The Vineyard it's not going to destroy someone could destroy itself but it's destroying the vineyard you see over here you have Graves on the side cow running in the street so over here we case you don't know what it looks like St cow in the street those things are not as slow as you think the kider so what we're going to do is we're going to see that there's an in between case and we're going to try to find a RI what do we do with this in between case so says like this that's that's later on but before I have I have a question for the is interesting child bz paskins on a certain person that that's it they're about to take him out the guy makes a run for jumps over the porch jumps down two floors and starts running are you allowed to shoot him in the back they're going to throw they're going to give him they're about to take him away yes or no anything it's not the process it's not the process but he just ran away anybody anybody say yes only knows huh I mean jump off the roof that's no you got to be pushed off the roof on your head not jumping huh we are today we're on the bottom of L so as you're going to see in theor I knew I should ask you that because the answer is he could shoot him shoot him what by the way I got to tell you the rule you could only ask one question so you want to use it up now no okay good he doesn't want to use it now there's one left keeping tabs so the Miss describes this cow that went that came there's only one type of a what about all that that we learned in AB what kind of AAS do we learn no no no types A bik do we what did M talk about we had money we had a a wallet we had all sorts of things all M says oh this is an AA a cow a cow that that's that's great raising that that's running through a Vineyard what about all the other ones this is what [Music] means I have a rule this is the rule found an ax a cow just grazing on the way that's not considered if the donkey is upside down like we had yesterday the picture part of or this cow that's running through the vineyard as so this is a rule in other words this is different this is not the norm this is considered if you pay attention to the whole peric you know we have to emphasize this the t is very mive other people's money and to the point where you have to sometimes go out of your comfort zone you have to lose your own parosa you have to keep you have to help other people save their belongings there's a question stop think about it how's it get guy stuck in the snow with a car are you to get out and push his car question anybody if a person is stuck with a donkey with a donkey so help him with the car and what if he doesn't want to push he's lazy he wants to be inside in the driver's seat and do the the steering wheel thing yes what he does what that is true somebody does have to do that piece and and also we don't care so much about yeah we don't care that much about what that guy does and what he doesn't do it's your you have to and it's your problem not his so says the that's consider since it's different than usual he's running through the vineyard he's going to destroy the whole Vineyard you can imagine people spend a lot of money on the vineyard a lot of time it's could be hundreds of years old and this cow out of control just running through the vineyard that's considered to take care of the situation what if you see a cow on the side of the road you're not to return it what if it's there for a month you see there every single day never went home it's still forever you have three days what do you mean you saw that three nights two in the morning you see a cow there it's a little strange right so even if you this is the first time you saw it you know it's lost it should be in the barn at two in the morning see middle of the day so then 10 days in a row also it's not AV you saw it like time you saw it like it's a little strange but not 100% strange they usually don't come out that early don't go that late but three days it's possible something happen there more than that it's already brisker said if it's three days you have you have an excuse so how come not four three and a half days also what happened to your excuse you have a reason so he said it's a very very St line he said it's better to have one terret than three T in other words when a person says um I couldn't come today to the DA why I had I had an appointment okay second day he's like I had and my my stomach was hurting so it's better rather than say three different excuses it's one excuse you don't want to learn that's it it's one it's better just to say one thing it's not it's it's not a it is a don't don't say oh maybe four times forgot and this that that we don't say we see a similar thing find a you find an an ax in a street you see strange things happening you see a cow running right through a Vineyard running not walking grazing running this is consider but what if you see a garment next to a wall it sort of has a to it the axes by a wall now this is a little bit different it's not running it's relaxed is eating that's not see three days one after another that's considered so we see this idea of three days you see water overflowing coming towards your friend's field boy say this is in our daily lives we have these situations now you don't have water coming to your friend's backyard that could also happen but you have other situations I don't know let's say you see your friend left his light on in the car you have a to tell him do you have a she climb up the stairs trouble yourself there's an there's an idea in the T that tells us that when your friend is losing money you have a to step in and help water is coming towards your friend's field here we have a picture it's towards your friend's field so you have to like uh put sand bags whatever you have to do you have to make sure that the water doesn't come in fine says continuation including nonmovable objects like prove it to you isn't that similar to what we just said that if you see water coming towards the field you have to stop it you have to prevent it that's not a great right to me over there so maybe that's why you have to stop it you have to prevent the damage to theal to the to the bundles of wheat so what's you have these the what do they call the ha Stacks that are that are needy or whatever this hay is that needs the ground whatever it is I don't think it's attached but let's see it is it's detached needs a ground let's let's say that's the case since it's needy to the it's considered you never less you have to take care of says let's understand the middle case so let's see what we have here you see a you see a cow just grazing so this is this is two pluses it's mining it's not running it's not when it runs it could damage itself its body gets damaged when it's in a Vineyard it damages itself there there's a lot of thorns stuff fine that's not what happened there what happened there is it has two pluses it's on the way it's on the side of the road and it's dcel it's eating normally says okay so now we have to in this is the classic right you can infer one thing one way from the ra and the opposite from the only causes grazing what if here it's running no what if it's the middle case it's running on the side of the road like that c was running between the cars is very dangerous for the cow or it's just grazing peacefully in the vineyard have that is considered it's only because it's very D on the side of road but once it's running it's considered and therefore from the last two times we had it we had one yesterday the few days before when we have a from the a from the sa and they contradict each other so the last time said okay so can't but now we're gonna say something else what do you see from the when it's on the extreme the donkey upside down everything's flipped over not the you know the things it's carrying is upside down and this is the the worst case scenario you have a cow running through the V but if it was just running not in the vineyard on the side of the road then it's not and if it was just running through the Crum then it's but it was was standing still in the vineyard Ang so we have two contradictory no it's not a contradiction we could learn one from other what the t is just teaching us that if it's grazing on the side of the road that's an A but you should know that if it's Grazing In The Vineyard it's also not so if we stop right over here we have a big question what's the question why don't you tell me this one this case is much better case tell me if it was Grazing In The Vineyard it's not an AA why you telling me the weak one if it's grazing on the side if it's grazing on the side of the road if it's Grazing In A Vineyard where it could damage still damaging components over there in the vineyard even so it's not that's the case you should tell me the big that's what the is gonna ask only when it's running it's out of control that's one of the CLW if it's running on the way it's not AV sorry where am I you're right if it runs in the vineyard it's considered AA and if it runs on the side of the road it's also NAA so again you should tell me that that if it runs on the side of the road without any Thorn sticking out it's and certainly in the vineyard it's tell me the other case and I'll know all cases from it listen tell me the case of running on the side of the road it's not really so damaging still consider of course I would know I just had this of speaking to the my son wanted to go check it out he's thinking about going there so told me said listen we take American boys they're different than Israeli kids your kid lives in Israel so I'll tell you the American kids they're they're they're onah they're looking to they're looking to grow the Israelis they start over here they're they're the same level right now but it's where they're coming from that's told it's not always like that but it's where they're coming from the Israeli might have a stronger background but maybe he's he's on his way down now he's he's starting to get a cell phone and this you know's he's starting to think about it the American already pass that stage he's he's already thinking about getting rid of the cell phone but okay so I'm just giving you a muscle that's what the is saying over here not not exactly that but they might be in the same spot but where are they heading this animal's heading into the desert this animal is heading back to the farm so not I met both of them in the same exact spot they were both in the middle of the street somewhere but one is heading home and one is heading away so one is heading away that's that's a he's facing to the to the the midb to the Wilderness and this one's facing the city we don't have a contradiction grazing and grazing when we're talking about that the animal is going to cause damage to itself you have to save the animal you have to save the owner's Vineyard so I'm not so concerned about the animal I'm concerned about the guy's Vineyard when I say that it's not when I say that it's Grazing In The Vineyard is considered why because you destroy somebody's destroying somebody's Vineyard need stop when it runs between the vineyard it gets injured it just grazes in the vineyard it's not going to injure Itself by from all the the thorns and the the The Vines and everything said don't worry we're almost done with the we're gonna get into and when it grazes nicely peacefully in Vineyard it doesn't injure itself at the end of the day it's destroying the guy's Vineyard don't you have to stop that says oh I forgot to show you this whole thing let me just show you this whole thing because worked on it that's hold on we don't need to see this I thought I had cusy over here oh here cusy these are today they're supposedly the real deal they [Applause] have okay so don't you have to save this cow why because you know today in theim Mara you go over there in Africa whatever they midle the jungle if if a like a lion or something comes to attack one of they shoot them right away on the spot if if animals come into your territory you could die you know that's how it is even here in America coyote whatever boom so if this cow comes into the vineyard to destroy the farmer will come out a nice redneck come and kill the cow so AR you saving the Cow's Life says asked for the master of other it's a special place where they first warn the owner they don't shoot right away cause the guy $2,000 damage they warn him say okay so now they see account going into the vineyard maybe it's after the warning he's about to get a bullet if he was warned the owner and he didn't he wasn't careful now the second time the S goes in there it's not your problem to take care of it you should the owner should have been careful so you you caused your own damage hold on so to this we had a few interesting things first of all this I didn't show yesterday but if you want to see this shavis this is a honey badger honey badgers are very M animals the lion you know about this animal M animal lions can't kill it they fight lions they fight lepers it has a certain thing that if it gets bit on its head the skull moves to a different place like you can't bite it you can't hurt it cobas can't cobas can't kill either cobras can't nothing they they very vicious they're tiny but they they they're ferocious [Music] animals anyways the point is here this is this is what the our [Music] guy it's a little bit off basically is even 100 [Music] times I do have I'm not in the mood of going back now so it says in the there's a double and this is going to invoke the entire is going to go through all the times that the T not all the times many times n 10 times the T goes through to a double other as well so it says over here says perhaps it means you should return it two times not more than twice but the the of the word the understanding of the word means just forget about how many times the word constantly return so when it says to you should return it to him in a normal fashion to his house what if I return it to his garden is a major when it comes it's different than anything else if your garden is a you know there's a guards and a very high fence so what's the if it's not a watch Place am why could you return somebody's bike into Open Garden no it is watch says there's a fence but you don't need to notify the owner let's say by Geva for instance you must notify the owner I'm returning the Geva I stole from you go to the candy store you say when I was a little kid I stole $10 worth of candy from you and here's the money but you cannot slip it into the cash and walk away has to be everything in the needs the owner knowled says you learn from the extra words what do you learn from the extra word that you could return turn it in many different places and now the gar goes on a ride through sh through many different where is that said the what if you want the eggs or the the chicks you have to send the mother away so why does it ter say it twice now we know is even 100 times if the mother keeps on coming back before you get the eggs you got to shoot away 100 times but it seems like tce the word like we said seems like 100 times so what do I do extra word why does it have to say twice the what if you want the the chick you want to eat it okay so send the mother away but what about what if you want the mother for a for a carbon or something it doesn't matter you have to chase the mother away you cannot keep the mother for your mitah so now again we're going through the this is a very complicated Mitzvah in our days because it's not so simple that you could give somebody rebuke somebody give somebody because most people don't listen but assuming that you should and you could somebody does something wrong maybe you should stop after two times or again it means even 100 times interesting so your neighbors you tell him once you tell them twice tell them three times there's no end you have to tell him 100 times why is it going to help he didn't listen to you after 90 times why is he going to help it helps something sinks in sinks in the Dr mum says that what the means over here is that if you have 100 things to tell your friend he's TR he talks in SCH whatever it is so you don't you don't just lay it on him in one shot you go to him 100 separate times tell him one small thing at a time it maybe they say that forever for every criticism you have to give at least how many three let's let's be make you have three compliments so you have to give three compliments criticism three compliments criticism it takes a long time that's saying here upon it's not that you're saying the same thing over you're giving him different CRI in different places you hear this even a person should go ahead and give if his re doesn't do the right thing you have to give it to him in in a proper way like maybe to father said in a way didn't what's in this case didn't you teach us something like this and this give you have to [Music] be what do we have the so we have two when it comes to a donkey one is one is is to remove the load okay so logically speaking it's a lot easier for us to understand some what's your name Michel James from where very nice a GU I'm a guest you're also a guest so there's a you see your your friend's donkey loaded and it's hurting it's causing damage to the donkey because it's too heavy you have a to undo the load but say maybe should say one word says maybe it's only when the the owner is there helping what if you're not getting any help to push your car when you're not around to help you you're what about here wow Chang colors on me used to be blue interesting Tina is to Lo up the donkey says do I know I have toad so you see this is where you see this idea that if your friend's car breaks down to help him and if the friend decides that he wants to be in the driver SE in the in the nice warm this snowing outside and you so so be it you have to help him you have it's a double why I have to say one about loading and unloading we have two things going on first of all the animals in a lot of pain second of all the animal is going to lose something it's going to lose that's it it it only stand that for so long for the rest of it life it's going to have a limp or so who knows what right now it doesn't have any and there's no loss of money L maybe you don't have to help says two here when you load up an animal you can demand payment when you're unloading the animal you cannot demand payment so I think not to do something for free no difference both are free so then there if you look at these here's here's do say anything about putting a load on an animal about PR no maybe it's Tina so because I don't know what it is says it must be that's why I need two because otherwise I'm going to say if there's only one pos I would say it's talking about PR unloading that's the that's that's the most logical thing you see an animal suffering unload how would I know they have to load an animal it's not this that's talking about loading doll and automatically one will be for won't be for isn't it the same concept and idea that I'm helping out another Jew he's losing money I found his his his cow Grazing In A Vineyard to take it back so the the the donkey is losing money also you're losing money here I have to help him out the the owner has a tire the animal is suffering interesting today this morning in New York in JFK my wife left her phone in the Uber you should have seen the and the first thing I went through in mind is how am I going to communicate with my kids like how my kids are going to call me for shabas I was like and the problem is that she ordered the Uber so we can't even get back to the Uber that she ordered because phone she's going crazy so I called I called the phone or nothing and uh we started going first we went through security and she's ice match you know her all life how do you function without going like you know what I'm saying it's like it's like sh is on a Friday it's no volum it's a new one I never anyway bar the guy the guy actually my son my thing that you could do you could get it's allow like an emergency my daughter did I I left it in a taxi at DC I was like so what do you do there's a your kid young kids will tell you there's a there's a blast and it'll like emergency blast but how do you get to that blast you don't have a phone the guy will pick it up but if you don't have a phone how you get to that blast you got to call your phone you can send I I could blast your phone you could blast Ione tell the kids the don't do it dur this year anyway the bottom line is my kid tried reaching my wife as usual you know 20 times a day and the guy picked up and he said you know he started saying I'm I'm already in Brooklyn but I'll bring you back no problem give me 100 bucks and everything say we got the phone back but I told my wife I said you know I'm M learning the right now I showed her no now she went to her mother's house I couldn't Comm we still she doesn't have her phone it's still in New York we but we're going back on Sunday B she'll she'll be reunited but until then it's going to be a big problem she can't order food she nothing her whole life is anyway huh you have a yeah he doesn't sh no I'm trying to prepare sh I only had an hour and a few minutes to prepare but my computer didn't have the the Wi-Fi I don't know the Wi-Fi so now I have to call my wife but she's had to walk over to where she was get a Wii you know like in the olden days go to the pay phone find out with the Wi-Fi numberers so when you lose something who H who has the pain the human being not the phone the phone couldn't care less if it's lost or not so maybe you don't have to return it maybe when there's a double loss you have to return it when the animals in suffering in agony and and the owner is in suffering fine then I understand you have to you have to be nice but if there's only one suffering maybe not interesting when you have a lost object you have to give it back because by the way you know what that means but these two the owner there why should I help somebody why he help somebody when he's there himself let him help himself but the truth is loading an animal with two people is a lot different for the animal feels better for the animal everything's different so you help him out the Turning of the D is sponsored by n t of Baltimore in honor official and Sim gross Sim is the uh I just met him he's the maybe I met him before on but he's the the chef over there and he came up with this idea that 137 people could learn Tyra was unbelievable I said yesterday I say it again for those of you didn't hear is is a interesting has all sorts of Y over there but many of them weren't really into learning and uh as he said yesterday said Kar is good the Rob said that he was very brave and he said said Byer he's going to try to get the shter Le five minutes of tired each person five minutes of tired that was and he thought he was crazy and to see that 137 people were learning over an hour day and they were talking about the da on their SP time and they were saying isn't is so one of the questions I remember that they were discussing because I brought up in she is like if you have a full elevator and the final guy comes into the elevator who's is it the final guy is the guy that pushes the button and they were discussing it it was was thing have brilliant people there lawyers doctors this that Shing about so 137 people learned 16,000 over 727 th000 minutes of tremendous so just for that it was K to go to Baltimore see those see the the kids was a kid there I said yesterday also there a kid 15-year-old boy not from n but uh like a matter kind of kid learned 500 500 it's unbelievable says where are we on top of we're going we're continuing it's very because we're talking about different here we're talking about a killer he must die die he shall die why double die the says he should die with a sword if you cannot kill him with why he ran away he's on a boat how do you know he allow to drown him says rashim how do you know he let us shoot at him says rash he talks about shooting shoot an arrow at him today we have guns kill him you're allow to kill him with a gun shall die in any way says where we holding here 42 minutes okay is this talking about I don't have that one okay is oh did I was the screen even on was so hakak is talking about a complete City ripe City 51% do have a also I think it's poison them whatever you want to do here we go another so this is very interesting what's the if I ask you what's the of anybody know anybody could tell me beautiful but what's the story what happened tell me the whole story from the beginning million and doesn't very nice but does he take the mashkin on day one or he takes the mashin when he's supposed to return the the the the so I believe it's talking about when he has to return but very good when he has to return the somebody borrows money and he has to return the loan and he doesn't have what to return so then you go to bzen and they give you something of this you should give it back to him he took his PJs give back PJs his night garment could use his [Music] pamas you didn't have permission how do you know you have to give it back any time any any way you have to give it back you shall also same we're talking about a Mal you have to give it back talking about a morning garment and evening gar should give you should open up I I plan on going to a famous G here in Chicago and he's going to tell me I know what he's going to tell me I have to give to White te I support white te I only give the city you say Le today what am I talking about you know what do you mean you know what I don't have a phone do me a favor take a picture of it's also this is also for the city take a video take a video start from over I'm gonna say tell me when to go ready so we're learning here we're middle of a she and there's certain of the city here in Chicago you say I only support Lo can't give to anything else I don't know it says you should give now could be it has it has but here I want to show you take a video mdy happens to be Chicago also no it's pretty much Chicago Chicago it's AR shabas KES look at the clock over there 3:12 in the afternoon and we have a nice seber here from Chicago it's not just MD is not out a town organization every town organization nothing [Music] my phone he's not gonna like it no your friend you say I don't know if we're talking about the same [Music] person no oh good when you have a slave you have a not a slave you have a i a Jewish slave when he leaves you give him gifts tanic also a double A here oh I saw a very good chat here very I forgot who it was yeah I forgot who says it though you see take a look over here that you this is here same exct things so he want to say I for it was somebody famous that it's to tell you have a to convince other people to give money you hear that it's not about you you get a bigger Mitzvah what's I remember to to get somebody to do to make to have somebody do a Mitzvah you get more of a Mitzvah than you yourself how do you know okay I can't afford I can't give a $10,000 check so give a dollar don't say All or Nothing give a small how do you know to give a small amount again another maybe only if you see a special since that EV came to your house to work Al you see things are going well what if things the opposite not going so well how do you know you should give according to that says that if the house was because of this then you give him gifts if there is no because of him or him he says you actually don't have to give him gifts why does the sayt so I had that there's two types of slaves one is a Slave of his gmas you're a slave to to your parasa you work 247 you're you're slave bet you're slave you work for somebody else and he pays you every day and and you don't have a say really you're a slave and then there's a slave you're I know I'm a what does it mean means that you're locked in it's a new way of thinking slave today locked in sometimes when you want to do something that's that's fun you have to go to you have to go I don't know what but you can't because you have to go to the DA you have to you're slave you owe somebody else something you can't you can't just do what what you want oh so then you have you see over and over I said this say it again I'm carrying this letter with me this is Ben I'll show it to you I'm not going to show you what it says here but I just show you why I'm carrying with me because this he gave me a letter to read on the plane you know the kids give you give letter and M me because I I started crying like a baby on the plane here it is three won't show the three-page letter handwritten and he says that since he started doing the everything changed the whole attitude of of of now his kids want to learn his kids want to marry Learners not that AG but they the they see the father learning all of a sudden everything the wife appreciates it she she's more her husband the kids are more father so there's a house that's the the person that's a slave to and there one that's not so why do you need the extra so now we're going to use the same T that we had before you know what sometimes the not all these cases we brought nine cases every many cases some of them we have a good brush when we when we're stuck and we don't have a good brush we're going to use this you know what sometimes the talks like human beings they use the double that's a to lend money to the poor spus that's only if a person doesn't have money but he's worried to take money from somebody else yeah there's people like that they don't have money and they're embarrassed P embarrassed to take from somebody else so there's a about I forgot I pronounce his name no um zich or something something like that I don't know fine he he had a bunch of guest coming over shabas he said listen I don't have money I need to charge you for the meal is that okay if I charge you for whatever so he said fine then they ate they drink the whole Z and after shabas he tells them okay Z is I don't want money so why do you tell us it cost money because I want you to enjoy every minute figured if I was giving you good wine good meat you start being worried I want you to feel good you're paying me drink and eat as much as you want now you felt like you deserve it now because there are people that they feel bad they feel bad taking so to give them a good a good feeling of I don't know I don't know if it works for everybody because I think sometimes they have my guest would feel like what took money from me for shabas disgusting the whole shabas they have a bad feeling about it but okay garim right your guest would would like that skip that no let's go back pretend that you're giving him alone but if he has money but he doesn't want to use his money you still have to give him alone that's interesting now we have to look into the guys money doesn't want to use his own money to give him alone if he has money but he doesn't want to use it we don't take care what do and we're just going to do these two lines here if a person cost him let's say he's a doctor he makes a sell an hour and cost him an hour of his life to to return the Lost object me he only pays him like a work so what's the problem he gives him like a something that's not working a bottle at the end of the day he's not a guy that's not working he is working he's working to return the bike so why are you treating him like a guy that's not working you're giving him whatever a guy that doesn't work I don't know what that means the guy doesn't work guy sitting at home whatever they they pay you whatever the government pays five bucks an hour why you pay him five bucks an hour he deserves 10 bucks an hour because he's returning the bike no no no no it's not the 5,000 hour you ask a doctor how much money would you want not to go to work today to sit back I'm going to give you money if you don't go go to work he makes $1,000 an hour they'll tell you listen for 100 bucks an hour I make a little money but I can relax I'll take the 100 bucks oh that's how much you have to pay him have evening week wherever you are because this is gonna be shown so have a great week we'll see you M shabas over here live at 9:30 Chicago time for