Daf Yomi Bava Metzia Daf 17 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] we [Applause] are [Music] welcome welcome to all the guests what's your name oh that's right Stan fireman you're supposed to be on Friday we got you in today sh what's your name I know you from somewhere sh and you I'm not going to be able to reach you but from Tom's River Tom's River Jonathan Jonathan from what's your name Rabbi lost his wife he's the kaman's principal and he has a lot of other things for coming who else he did no that's it for the guest tonight um hope all is well shabas is soon approaching I'm glad to report another full week on the da Wagon in a previous email I mentioned how for me listening to the introductions was a great source of I think I could have had much more today after I got to see my dear friend gold gland at the shear along with his father and brother I wish they would have told me beforeand descendant of the it's really very inspired to see the two of you together side by side all the very best we continue to attract such great quality and Neighbors on the campaign Shalom Daniel from Miami this I'll show tomorrow with a very very interesting um this little video clip but I don't I don't have the subtitles show tomorrow something very interesting happened on Friday in the she show tomorrow and finally a picture of of two guys doing the da you don't see them they're doing the da in China in the airport I thought it was cool they are M and Cohen uh what else do we have here for the nothing nothing much but I do want to announce one thing tomorrow I'm going to announce we had a now we're up to 230 people that took PID let me explain what a page is and what's going on here so we're doing a campaign you see this all the time these people send you these links uh you donate a page means that a person doesn't take upon himself to raise to give money what he does is he says I think I have enough friends that I could raise for mdy let's say $1,000 so he takes upon himself a page and he sends out to his friends and family and hopefully he reaches that goal again so people thought oh but if I say that and I have to bring a th no you don't you just say I think I could do this Z you here here good so I'm going to announce some names to tomorrow but the one that stuck out the most was Simi Mandel B he took upon himself $220,000 a lot of people uh there's like 20 people already that that well 230 people so far signed up that they wanted to take a page and there's like maybe 20 people that said the amount already Sim was one of them 20,000 that was the largest amount there some many for $1,000 a bunch for 2,000 and a bunch for Five K I'll announce it tomorrow um Raa who does the weekly thank you he is in charge of the group here Ines B we're going to have some sort of uh get together right here in the B with some sushi stuff I don't know how it works and he's asking to participate so so far no one showed up yet maybe one or two all right here you go we're always the last bet I'll be on your team we'll beat them all okay Bader with that being said we're going to jump into the D I just have to say the sponsors the sponsored by Anonymous for the safe and Speedy return of all the hostages the dayand this is a very sad one very sad I think the is going to be sad to hear this oneand parentsi and Carolyn mandam brother and ESI Zer sister and last but hardly least mik mandam is marking one year I'm not faking this this is hard for me to say marking one year since my little brother a lifter he was a huge part of this year huge everybody that was on Zoom saw him every single day for years he was the the loudest guy on Zoom he was about and many many other things he had the funniest or funkiest backgrounds uh on on his on his Zoom what he was the first one every single day on Zoom probably the last one off no the last one that's somebody else he I me and Gary went Gary and I we went to his house we did a she m shabas in his house where did he live it was the first offsite sheer ever we sat around the table with five people he wasn't sick then that was like before anything anyway so it's already year it's unbelievable uh in his the the first the it was the largest undertaking of learning D of for his 5,192 da will learned in his one shot that's a lot that's double shots uh it's unbelievable the art of the month Anonymous of the oh in honor of Stanley fireman who's attending the shear in person today take I don't know who it is I said it on Friday but I looked around it wasn't here he was on a plane then Anonymous for the for easy for his daughter and healthy baby that's the art of the month we're holding towards the bottom like 12 lines from the bottom you got it if you find oh can't go without doing this not too many though don't worry about it let's see oh I didn't put it hold on let me let let me get out of here for a second I apologize we got to do something called this it's on a different D okay some of them are easy as usual some of them are not some of them are my son started coming to the she bem and it's a big for [Music] me live not on a on a video so he's here and he's young he's 13 so I'm teaching him you guys could join in also hefer bz and hefer is a concept oh you know that's actually not one of the things sorry we get sa means that if a person borrows the talking about let's say uh wheat you borrow a certain measurement of wheat it's prohibited to return that amount of wheat because the price fluctuates and then it's ribus you might give more dou typically Mar Pas that you could sell or or say let's say tell a woman I'll get married to you after you become a gus that's dou it didn't come to the world yet whether or not that works this is a good one to remember because it's counter I don't know if the word is counterintuitive but it just seems backwards but what it means means that when you don't see the in a document you don't see the the lean to real estate in the document you should know it's a it's a mistake and it needs to be there this is a tricky one we learned it many times this is good this I actually asked my son y on Chavis and he knew it he knew the answer from being here once sh so the kid is listening means that you write a document that says that regardless of whether or not I take out a loan you could go after my property starting right now MD is AAR we might talk about a little bit today is AAR that has the wrong date it's predated and when you predate something then it's very problematic because you could go after the lean the lean starts when you wrote thear when you dated it and you only took out a loan later and that's not fair because the lean should only happen when you took out the loan people that buy property that have a lean that has a lean on it you can take the property away from them because there well it's not fair they bought the property before there's actually a loan canun is something similar within that is that you make a deal between the malva and the lva and the malva pretends that he was never paid back he goes after a property that there aen on they take away the property and they split it between the L and the Mal they make a deal all right and that's it for today and now we're going to get into our Su so if one walks down the street and he finds a document that says so and so owes a million dollars to somebody else hemp so now we could look at this for a second hemp these are all nice things to remember hemp is means that there's a certificate on thear bz certifies thear they say this is a goodar we interviewed the a everything is legit so oh it's a legit star so give it back no you don't give it back to who's theum in this case the Mal certainly when there's no certification maybe they wrote but they never actually there was never Al alone even though there was alone and we have we interview and it's a legitimate even though it is it's how do you say m in English was established you don't give the document back because we're concerned that the might have paid it off says about this gamar he says that the famous story with is 120 years old and the Romans caught him and they started they tortured him to death death literally to death they took these metal Combs and they were they just scratched the skin they were they used the Combs on his skin hot Combs and he said and then and said re and he said I I was waiting my entire life to say I said uh we say every day in at least twice three times you have to give your somebody for different things you have to give up your life he says I was saying it every day and I was waiting to be this this uh this POS say when will it come to my hand I'll be able to be so explains that I came on this Cas is you say every day so now finally when you do give up your life for so then it comes retroactive that everything that you said you were serious you really meant it I'll give up my life and then it comes the guy comes with a gun says okay do have and then you bow okay so all that you said your whole life was a lie here was it's of like a of you m you say I am certifying thear today that means thear that was written yesterday is a goodar and at the end of the story he was he said the word very long his left as he was saying [Music] says it says that when you find a document that comes from azda you give it back so how come over here you're telling me you shouldn't give it back to the owner with concern that maybe is paid off says Rashi he wasn't a son but he called it's a it's a language of endearment of you're my son in Hebrew they say a it's B my son I guess when you're it's not true not every single document you find give back when the is a liar then you can give it back depends cause the was once found to be a liar so that means he's never going to return money so we had these I don't expect anybody to remember basically ad draa means that bz are saying we looked into this and you could go ahead and claim property say of that after he already took the property they're saying this is what happened this is the story but these are not documents that you could go and grab property with although ad seems like you could so that's why some are not really sure that the word belongs here we explained yesterday that are not documents that you go ahead and you are go with you don't you don't take somebody's property with those documents Theon this is where I get it from sometimes there's a word in the gar and I go off on a tangent on a story says oh it says the word kaon the guy was a liar oh let me tell you something let me tell you something so here's a question I wasn't sure myself and then I asked and they also weren't so sure let me see what you guys say if a per if the bezant says the word go out and pay or they say you are to pay which one is a stronger which one would you say that bz are serious about or which one is they're not so serious again go out and pay you are to which one anybody anybody say the other one say no you and Y why you're disqualified the you'll say the opposite great so we're going to see over here that is not so serious say me is serious okay means already said you're to pay now it's talking about that there's noar over here because if thear then forget about it but there's noar and bz says we establish you have to pay and he says wait a minute I paid already he's believed rash says right away but's I'm gonna say this word and you think what it means right away what does mean yeah it's one of the you're right the the says you don't have to pay if you deny everything but neveress you have to make if the Mal says let's write up a document and a dra or something you don't you don't do it why we believe him that he paid off however if the basant says You must give give the money they're not serious what they mean to say is we think you have to give let us think about a little bit more I heard a story here there's a couple going to court for three years a couple the one of them wanted a get the other one the other one wanted therapy so he went to court for three years after three years I'm not making this up after three years the bz came up with abak both of you are not acting correct ly we're not giving you a that was after three years so it seems like you should go to therapy we don't we we have to think about it a little bit more come back in three years you have to pay and on that the says I paid it back why think about it logic if the B didn't say straight out they're not 100% sure so why in the world would the Le go ahead and pay you're suing this guy in court and all is's going to pay without any kind of he's not believed if the Mal wants to write up document to say that said that then you could because we don't believe whether you say it in a of go out and pay or whether he say you're to pay and he says why basically like the confusion that we had over here all of us thought including myself when I read it first time like should mean I I didn't know that Rashi says means oh bz has to think about it for a day and come back so regular people on the street don't know either so when they hear the L of say the hears say say he doesn't know so to him it's all the same and therefore he denies it he says she's believed but there is a there you could make a distinction here between and if they told him go ahead and pay which they meant they were serious and he says I I paid it off oh he's caught red-handed he lies in front of BZ he's a he tells bezin I paid it and two show up and say no you didn't what is that called Hon oh you remember we said the word kaon and the says oh I want to tell you a story about kaon I want to tell you something about here it is that what that this guy is an established liar since he went in front of bezan and he said bz say pay and then he said I paid already so he's a liar and two come in now he's an established liar a so he no longer could say afterwards oh I paid it too late you ready caught red hand red-handed however different also brought they didn't say the say they said and on that he says no I paid and said that no you're a liar and then he comes back and he says for second time I paid even though he caught once before you hear the him red-handed he's not a liar why he understands thatz might come back in three years from now he realizes how hard is to get a an appointment with the bz took the first time took months the second time they they come back and finally now they're saying but you got to come back we got to think about it again no think about it could be a long time why should I pay today so what do I do I say I paid it already get off my back now I have vacation until bezin really comes back with a troop sa so he's not a liar if we could understand why he lied so he's not a liar if he's straight out lies that's a liar but if he's just trying to buy time then he's not a real lie he's not a c and then we'll trust him when he really says just thinking yeah uh I think it was him yeah on the bottom of is also they brought again says okay owe me 100 he lies he says or he says no I don't owe you a dime you're a liar and then he say oh you know what not first he says I don't know who you are and then when the Adam say what do you mean you don't know who you are we saw you borrow oh yeah yeah I paid back he's not believed to say now you're only saying that that P because you were caught initially he said you don't know this guy so you're not believe says the which reminds me that you also heard the sh on Friday I saw you on Zoom then when we're saying he was the son of a big he was the guarantor on his daughter-in-law's cloak beg that she had that she brought into the marriage and she was worried that her is not going to pay for it or whatever if they get divorced so the father-in-law shap said don't worry about it it's on me [Music] now they get divorced and now they're looking for theba she has no proof that the father signed on this B so they come to the father pay off this uh beautiful garment I don't recognize you I don't know what you're talking about I never signed anything also in I forgot to look at up but I I remember that he that it's brought down his name is brought down somewhere else and I thought that he was a from over here he's not such he wasn't such a great guy cuz he lied I have to look it up again I I looked it up like two days ago it seemed to me like he was saying like he's talking and learning that g okay also no he's lying there that say we remember he promised her oh no caught me I gave it to her so the same we said before you're a liar now you're not trusting when it comes to that garment you have to pay for the Garment another similar to this you owe to your friend what's the typical owe let's say your friend says you owe me 100 and you admit to 50 and he says swear so he's to make he's not believed we're not just talking about sometimes even in hour vernacular sometimes somebody says hey you me 100 bucks he said I swear to you I don't owe you 100 bucks well you willing to swear yeah I'm willing to swear okay that's just between me and you it's not the best forcement to make a no we're talking about B me but if he says himself I'll swear to you is believed why it's normal for people to throw words around and say I swear to you and they don't really mean it but when then that's it you can't lie about it if you lie then you you must make another so they went back to to say Hey you see whether it's your own also was talking about this from same thing a person had to make a in it says over it doesn't say like like said this is say said I witnesses that say it's not true so you're a liar you have to make another it's to remember these things what does hemp mean certified here we go hemp certified you can pretend you're big ask people you don't do the what does mean what does dra mean you don't know okay great I had one of I had I had a guest with shabas so I was messing with him the whole shabas like you know CU you know what my guest is he just switch his La he's a big but he learns very slow he's in you know he's in one of these learns very slow so the whole what happens when you punch someone in the face youus you're notus wrong what that me what is him the whole the whole from beginning to okay I'll do the da fine I'll do the D no that's not what he said but he's thinking that maybe not over his dead body he said a guy finds a and it's certified so this is we start off the like that today start over with this with this case but this is interesting it says in the start today today is different why is today different again you find the it says what do you do I mean oh good thing I said I didn't think about this I if I forget I should somebody remind me tomorrow we just made a see on saer it's a huge thing a lot of people from the she are doing and if not it's a great time to start it's a big thing people that do it goes hand in hand many many people came over said they wanted they wanted to do it they try to do it there was a here that told me he did it every single week of his life but never ever finished the whole safer this is the first time he finished the entire thing from beginning to end so it's a good thing it goes hand in hand we learning how to be consistent on a daily basis and works to be you do one Aliah a day that's it 8 minutes a day and if you're if you read slow 10 minutes a day not a big deal and that's it so to all those who were and we're starting you can start even tonight huh 21 Mt 2 m do 8 Minute do.com or something okay we're not it doesn't yeah yeah there's nothing to go on there for you're not getting your anymore you're not going to hear any look at the ceiling you'll know what it is uh there's some people that come to the she to listen and there's some people that come to the she to see how much time is left of this year and they let you know every she how much time is left and those same people they used to give the shear instead of me so they're little they're waiting they're waiting what what are you Whispering over there yeah we got to finish up in seven minutes not a big deal look at B short so the CRA this's a crazy story you find thear with everything it says aen the whole thing it's today in this case then you can give it back why think about it if they never use the it's not true it's certified so somebody use the and if you're concerned that the L paid it back the loan was on shabas and he paid it back on shabas that never happened that day somebody took out a loan and paid it back right away unless he's a con artist and he wants to take out another loan tomorrow like five times them out so but most con is much smarter they don't pay back that day they they wait until like almost when it's the time to give it then give it one day earlier not an hour later this is the famous story a guy bought a a Rolls-Royce for like $300,000 and he goes to a dealership and he walks in there and he says I want to sell you the the Rolls-Royce for $100,000 here look I bought it today here's here's my receipt $300,000 they look at it they see it's today $100,000 say $100,000 why I can't say well can't kids said they call up the they didn't know what to do they call the cops cops come down they start asking why do you want to sell it for so cheap they were very suspicious I'm not saying I I have a right not to tell you I want to sell I but I need the cash right now so the banks weren't open the whole thing so they take this guy and they put him in jail it was extended weekend holiday weekend this that he comes the guy after 3 days they they couldn't they couldn't they couldn't figure it out so he let him go so he sued the cops he sued the police station or the police for $2 million and he won they put him in jail that was his whole plan he had he he just wanted to go to he wanted them to put him to jail for a few days and he and he took out that's the I don't know I read it somewhere I don't know if it's it's true huh oh so it's not a true story I'm just kidding okay it sounds good happened in America didn't happen because over here you could Su whatever you want they're not going to give you anything say oh that that somebody paid off on one day we not said his name AAR that you borrowed money and you paid you cannot go use that same as explain you want to be cheap you don't want to you know go find cyer it's very difficult to find cyer in your city you don't even have it so you finally have AAR you go to the same person every month you buor ,000 you return and then you go again so it says the wrong Daye new the problem is you can't use it why because every has a lean in it once you pay it off the lean is gone you can't use that that star again there's no more lean says but let's understand what's going on when did this happen it happened he found it the next day or two days later means like says so as we know there something called MD it has the wrong date what is a MD so we have let's say thear was written in t so it says in thear that there's a lean on the property but there's actually no lean because the loan happened way later 6 months later so you go ahead and you sell the Lea the borrower sells property but it still says in the there lean on the property so somebody could go ahead and take the property away and then later on you get a loan 6 months later and the truth is the property has no connection to the loan because the property was sold prior to the loan that's not good that's called a m it's AAR with the wrong date it's possible you can't even use it so it can't be that we're talking about the only possibility in is somebody lost AAR he wrote AAR and on that day he wants to use it again he didn't lose it he wrote AAR borrowed $1,000 returned $1,000 then goes back to the same guy says could I borrow th000 hey by the way can I borrow $1,000 why did you pay it back because I had a concussion I don't know why I used it I I gave it back now I want to use it again on that says don't use it oh you see the people there pay back the same day did I say an absolute rule that it never ever happened of course there's a m here and there that pays back the same day I said we don't have to be concerned for something like that but of course once in a while it happens ra yeah a guy borrows money then he realizes he has the money doesn't need why should he bother him see then he realized oh the money I thought I do have oh it's my wife's so okay fine this said that if you find the with the same on the day on the this you find the it says today's date you could give it back says why can I give it back because the person admits the says okay so then what's the says it's true I borrow the money today oh he did give it back why does he say I did it so perhaps he paid it back but maybe he's just being stingy if that's the case the who pays for thear Thea pay for thear maybe he's trying to be cheap and he wants to use thear again but the Mal would never allow that why I'm the will hear about it and they'll say thear is not good and then I lose my whole lean the ma wants a guarantee for his money the Mala will never allow it if so if the Mala will never allow it so how can we have this story that we spoke about 20 times read in the last week that was written in and the Lo in the ma won't allow it you found the loan document and it has a lean in it you shouldn't give it back and we established that theit that he owes the money because of this exact case he wrote it in in niss oh why I write thas yeah okay fine now he's going to he's going to take the how come over here we don't say oh the's not going to allow don't worry if it was written six months earlier the M would never let you use it the answer is very simple when in this case when it's a six-month difference then the Mala gains why because he could grab real estate that he doesn't really deserve he could give a loan and all real estate that was sold within the last six months he go ahead and grab it's great for him why should he tell anybody for six months he doesn't say anything over here he has nothing to gain it's the same day thear was today what does he have to gain why would he allow a old star when he could demand a Newar there was no real estate sold today and even if it was it's not it's already too late it the star was today so of course the m is going to say no I'll give you a like yeah in the re used to say if you're faking was a kid you know the the 13 14 old they go like this they St in like 25 minutes more and you see them looking around to see if anybody's looking at them oh that guy okay now that so the re would say if you're already faking and you're counting to 5,000 you might as well say Ash so if you're already if you already have AAR get another star you have nothing to gain if it's a six-month difference great so then you could you could uh sell you could grab properties that are not yours if the M was a liar you could grab properties but over here what properties he going to grab it's today so anyar that has no real estate attached to it is worthless another we got to remember this because this is going to go into as well if person claims about a like a our is talking about auba it could be uh the mess of a woman and and and you know alimony and child support all this stuff and he says I already paid it off nothing we don't trust him at all sponsored by of Baltimore Maryland not official in Sim gross thanks to them 137 people learn 16,1 166 over 700,000 minutes um these few people I don't know how many people there is I have to count maybe 20 30 people collectively they set a goal to raise over $150,000 so we take extrapolate that to 230 people we could raise some nice money and I'm telling you right now that it's going to help every single person to sh is going to help bring more people to T that's it most of us do this voluntarily nobody's making salaries here some are only 12 people but a lot are not shops he's not making a salary he spends how much time do he spend this year a lot no an hour a day least no bad there's a lot of people like that running around even garish is basically voluntarily okay so and he has seven other jobs my so if a woman comes to bz she says listen my husband owes meba she doesn't have theba with her and the husband says I paid it off we don't trust him when there's a from to pay something it's as if she is holding on to auba so how could you say it's paid she's holding on to the document if you paid you should have you should have proof that you paid it why are you telling me a massive here what's the anytime somebody comes forward and claims a claim thatz like if you marry a woman you must give her she's you have to give 20 200 if she's not it's 100 but that's already if she comes forward and says hey I just got divorced I want my 200 there's no way you could say says he says that nobody knew you cannot say you paid it why because it's that's it let me ask you a question isn't why is have to say it what's if a woman produces a get but she doesn't have she gets without showing so why do have to give us a it's a that you get Au even without listen to this this is unbelievable if not for the fact that I lifted up this piece of rock here you and the found you wouldn't have found the Pearl underneath it I exposed the Pearl so you found it l musall it happens to me a lot and I heard afterwards that it happens to a lot of people you hear about this new car yeah uh you read about I don't know Tesla y why Tesla okay you didn't know about it before as soon as you get on the road all of a sudden you start seeing this guy has one this guy has one right when you buy a car all of a sudden you notice that hey there's a lot of people in the same car as me so it says tells him yeah it's in the mishna but you didn't notice it in the mishna it doesn't say before in the mishna now that I brought it out to light I said that what that if you claim that you paid off auba we don't believe you so now you could see it in the mishna says the mishna if she produces a g and she doesn't have auba she could get auba doesn't say meish that that he denies it not Den okay you didn't see it t says theat is this he says how many times have you ever went in on a sidewalk and kicked over a piece of a rack or something underneath the rack you found the Jewel a pearl and that that never happens oh means to say is in the ocean you go on the ocean over there you have nice rocks and you pick up the rck you find the jewel okay so at the end of the day when we focus on what what there is in our life we can find pearls in other words tell there was a woman threw out I told this to my son I hated the story you guys are going to appreciate it the teenagers are that there's a woman who was a widow and she was struggling with her children whatever her children was a big Troublemaker like 18 years old 19 years old POS a lot of TR she decided without consulting the professionals and the rabal she kicked him out of the house she kicked him out of the house so he's very upset and he's like basically homeless sleeping on a park bench and this guy walks over says what are you doing on the park he says I got kicked out of my house that's terrible he says come with him this that takes care of him guy he sleeps in his house for a few weeks he's get food the kid tells him listen I don't want to be here in Israel I want to go to America sure yeah so fine let me he says you know what I got some money to put together here here's the ticket go to America he goes to America and he's looking for suitcases and all of a sudden P the guy happened to be there and say what are you doing here looking for something says oh you know you look like the perfect guy to come work in my company see gives him a great job gu's young kid he's rolling dough in New York he's all excited heing with this guy inel he still kept up guy in says why why don't you uh contact your mother you know it's about time you youo with her nah my mother she threw me no so he calls up his mother and he says Ma I'm so upset of you you hate me you know you don't care about me you know she says let me tell you something you know sitting on the Park Bench yeah I hired a guy to go to the park bench and SCH with you and take you into this house and then you wanted to go to America right yeah I paid for your tickets who's what's the name of your boss you says Freeman no no no your boss the guy that owns the whole company says svitz whatever no what's my ma name ah it's my it's my uncle he owns a company he gave you a job what you think go this time a guy walked over you while you're looking for your suitcase I sent him there what do you mean I don't care about of course I care about you I set you up this whole thing so many times we don't we don't see the we don't see the small things we don't see the things that was throwing our way says that every business de that we do there tremendous how you bumped into that person how you found this how you heard about it the whole thing just we don't open up our eyes if we look we see we see this thing one last thing I want to tell you that's somewhat connected this it's a beautiful thing the B told somebody because now we're talking about kki and he had his kid when he's 88 years old and a lot of people are upset at him and a lot of people say he's right and wrong whatever all the everybody has their DEA but it brought to mind this one thing that somebody came to the Bas said rebba I have major problems I have five children I'm married I don't have peros I can't I can't support them do something for me so B got out of his chair and banged on the table he said you realize you have five children you have a wife how many people are not married have such Sor how many people don't have children for 20 30 years see kki 88 years old again I'm not going into the whole but imagine a s for 88 years not having a kid that's your problem you know don't worry about your paros and I was thinking like how many people knock on his door on on the basis th's door and say listen Reb my kids don't have I don't have children he hears it over and over and all of a sudden this guy comes in I have five kids and I have a wife and I get out of here you that's a Sor next anyways fine I'm not saying I'm not putting down the Sor what yeah himself that's why he himself lost his family and the that was him I thought that was and also the the tan and okay okay let's finish up here is almost waiting here by the door we have to remember this Shak because that's how the starts tomorrow what exactly did you see in this mishna over here maybe that whole m in that says that you have to give herba without her producing is not at all it's a place where you don't write Au the get so if you don't write a there our places like we learn they don't write auba so how does she prove that she deserves she has a get and then when he pays theba he rips it up and he writes in the back you could still get married because this is the get Etc in a place that you do so you can't prove from that Mna anything he got you good kind of like he's saying you fell for it oh it's no it's not doesn't say anywhere in the mishna that it's a place that writes for anything I made a mistake because if talking about a place there's no if it's in a place that you have to write au but if you don't write Au in a place that you don't write auba sorry in a place that you write a Cuba if you bring theba great if you don't bring nothing then he asked so just to remind when it comes to marriage in the time of the there's two stages stage one Isis and that goes with a ring he gives her a ring now she becomes but they don't live together they're separated usually about a year then finally stage two is when they have a today we do stage one and two together there's a ring and the whole thing so is even if you do stage one then you have to give herba but you don't write you don't write you have to give her 200 if you if the guy dies let's say or divorc you give her now as did I skip anything if she was widowed as she's a she didn't have yet she only stage one how does she collect what she's going to produce witnesses that her husband died that her died so her family could say they already paid it back if you can say okay they could they could claim that why do they even establish a rule they have to pay every guy can say oh I paid her so so this step is we have to put it down well tomorrow I'll have it in writing now what for this year hopefully maybe I'll do it real quickly before this year that what I don't have it yet I wanted to do it I ran out of time it's not enough time next week B well next week is a problem it's PM so we have to think about that also but 12:00 to she in English 1:00 in the morning she in Hebrew something like that this Milla I don't know some somebody has to appear something so and we have the slowest B in the world just kidding he's he's unbelievable unbel maybe we should do Milla here without humans get another okay so anyways let's go we got to go so he's saying I I'll prove to you that even when you don't write auba like in the case of of arusa you don't write auba obviously she gets paid no but the thear says how do you know get if we can't prove that then we have no way to knock off his how do you even know that you made you you you uh you made a you you establish the rule and then from that rule you prove something but how do you know it's a true rule how do you know that that a widow from just stage one gets says if she was widowed or divorced even from step one she gets her entire Cuba but over here call put in your pencil means even additional money like we said by the SPM today they do 200 plus $50,000 it's standard practice that SP give crazy money in addition in the that's called but maybe that's only because he wrote in but we're talking about a case where it wasn't written so if it was written so what's the that if she's got if she became Widow from her that she gets the money was written in no because think about it which guy is going to give his kala $200,000 additional money and they weren't even married for a day they're just engaged so maybe I think that in that case he doesn't have to pay only because he thought that he's eventually going to be married her it's that no he does have to pay and I'll prove it to you because it says she she she collects everything what does everything mean if he wrote it she collects everything it was just oh I promise you I'll give you $100,000 thank you very much they say promises are nothing if it's not in writing you don't pay anything the only thing he has to pay is 100 or 200 have a good we'll see you tomorrow at