Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 51 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] good morning ra so in about two hours I'm off to the airport going to Los Angeles for at least a week we'll see what happens I have to take my wife somewhere special still working on it hi Reby stanski so right now is a it's 12: noon here in Chicago 1:00 is the shear in Hebrew and basem tomorrow Los Angeles Thursday night at the link coo there's going to be food uh they asked that should RSVP if possible we we expect last time I was there was a full house and I'm assuming the same thing today but whoever could register it will be better for them I guess M shabas she in the valley and I'm asking again the from Los Angeles if you live in Los Angeles you do the da please come show support I know some of you are shy you don't like to come and you don't like crowds be Miss gabber go out of your comfort zone and uh we want to take Los Angeles to the next level beem um Leo laugher I wanted to thank you so much for your incredible Shear I never learned gamar was always attracted toos which is more like dessert instead of the main meal I realized it was time to start learning so I just bought the entire sh and I'm the first member of my family in at least four generations if not more to own the entire chass and have it in my home but just having a Shas in my home doesn't mean much and then I found your Shear I'm currently a mon into and I'm a few years behind starting brus so I'll pause here for a second a lot of people make that mistake bras is a very nice place to start but since we are more than halfway through your place to start is if that's where you're starting or if you started a month ago so it's wherever it is that you started that's where sh begins sh is a ferris wheel wherever you get on that's where you get off it just so happens to be the brus is the but it's in no particular order you could start anywhere any day and of course I like to say this m started in middle of very close to which it's in the it doesn't matter where you start so our will be make a big that's where we're going to be finished that's our that's when we get off the ferris whe whoever started that day the eight people that started with us then and you do not worry about Bras don't go back to bras you'll make your own Mas in middle of it's going to be unique to you and your family it's going to be amazing uh I can honestly I can tell you honestly that I'm excited to learn every day and it's all your I hope to also jump in with the regular schedule and simult catch up at the same time okay listen some people try to catch up many people have started from bras recommend going maybe back to Bama see see if that works if that works do B if that works you know can make your way back eventually PS I live inadera and I look forward to coming to RBS for live Shar and to join the Epic movement you have built Leo laugher I am looking forward what else do we have here today so oh not this sorry I pushed that by mistake just in case wants to see this live in Los Angeles Thursday b andad um we have no idea where Friday is going to be it's going to be somewhere and now for a little bit of a trailer a little bit of a commercial here we go up there rabai last year shabat was one of the most amazing shabas of my life we cried we laughed we danced together we heard incredible speeches the camaraderie was just so Gish and so fun in the past few months people have come to me and said wow I cannot believe I missed that chabas don't be that guy this year save the date it's a chabas you're going to want to be there and not miss EMS EMS December 20th in Connecticut in the armone hotel same place as we were last year it was incredible I really hope that we could duplicate what we did it's not going to be the same you know it's the first time and it was right after the war started and but the just the together the the the we had so many so many so many and it was just it was incredible really uh shabis like I said once in a lifetime it was every speech every sing there's not a single speech that you didn't want to every speech if you missed it you felt bad there were all bombs and everyone was emotional and made people cry and at the same time people were laughing it was unbelievable we have some special guests coming this year and it's going to be I really hope there's enough rooms because the meel it's not even open yet and people are like dying to get the rooms there so okay here we are we're holding da oh I after sponsors sponsors of course yes sponsor of the month Rosenfeld in business the sa and speed return of all the hostages incarcerated in Ireland for complete for and the Art of the month we have all these donors today there's no part but we have the of the month the two a and a of the art of the month forell and the whole sta to continue to make to so enjoyable for so many we're starting or we four lines down from the top of which is 50 into the continuing with the theme we learned yesterday and we continue today that a woman cannot make a in her husband's if the husband has property and she works less in the property she cannot claim a that's hers so that's the other case yesterday we're talking about a man making kazaka in the woman's nursing home property and now we're talking about the reverse the wife wants to make a in the husband's property they're married doesn't work asking since he owes her support if she's in the nursing home whatever she's doing she's she's working over there and she's taking fruit off the field whatever it is that's the he promised her in theba so of course she can't turn around say SM we're talking about that he told her you're going to take from this property in Chicago and she made a k and the property in New York what is she doing in New York she has no business being there the answer is it's not a because the husband doesn't mind if sheats a little bit more she's hungry today she's eating more doesn't mind so the same that we said yesterday the same kind of idea remember we said it seems like a husband cannot make a kak in the wife's PR what if he purchases it off her it works and what's the G's question does the reason it shouldn't work why not because there's a to say that woman didn't want to really sell she just happened to be forced into it her H she didn't want to disappoint her husband but is going to ask something different when the wife purchases a car from the husband how does it work if she has she has a who said it's a good purchase [Music] this is a little bit of a concept we're going to be talking about perhaps the wife is one of those who whenever she sees money laying around she takes it for herself and hides it for a rainy day she knows the husband is irresponsible and not once not twice he went bankrupt he always cries he doesn't have money so she decides on her own she's going to do a little savings yeah look lza I just remembered a story why not I'll tell you here in Chicago everybody knows I used to be a caterer I did some winnings for Marty I think I do I did for you anybody else in this room I did your last my last was your which song was who was that really that was the last one wow there a long how many she has like and my last one she has a lot of kids no no way just 12 kids ready that was the last one that's a long time ago wow no no twins so that means she got married at least 12 years ago it's more okay wow okay so I was doing a wedding for a couple a famous couple and they have a lot of money and uh they don't like to spend the money the husband doesn't like to spend the money so I'm shooing with them and everything and then the wife comes to me afterwards and says listen I want a schorg I need you to tell my husband that the schorg is for free and I will be paying you in cash I'm telling you a true story my I don't know what I did I do know what I did but I'm not going to tell you what I did I don't know if it's logically appropriate or not anyway she was hiding money from her husband she had her own little money and um okay that's how it was I remember one day I asked her I said I don't understand why are you painting your front door what's going on here your husband has enough money to buy thousands of these doors what are you painting she goes that's how it is we got to save money she's sitting scraping the front door and painting it okay big Veer husband sometimes wants to do Discovery he wants to discover whether there's up we actually have a 2d animation from Yoshi and this is very special this this one why cuz this one was made m 2 in the morning and uh I was speaking about it yesterday the the sacrifice that all of you made a lot of people came here last night at 10:30 and here to 11:30 12 Andel also the guys were working late hours because they couldn't really do much on so here it is my dear wife do you want to buy this field anyway so all he wanted to do is make to see where where she hiding the money he comes with his spy we and whatever and he discovers where it where it is and then he can go get it why because don't forget we have a general rule of whatever a woman acquires they they have a deal he's going to support her is going to give her room and board and then if she acquires something it goes to the husband unless of course you make a condition and you say condition doesn't go to the husband so it's hers it's his he wants he wants it he's playing a trick here this is this is where the story comes in I know I said it two days ago but this is where it really fits in beautifully that I want to be mgala for the home the homeless guy that came to me and said could I afford to give him money for the bus and I said yes do you have change of 20 and he says yeah and I said okay if you have change of 20 so you have enough money for the bus that's legal that's to discover money is it a nice thing to do no depends if the guy chers you every single day you know the same guy same lie different story says I prove from here that when you sell something to your wife she acquires a you ask me a question perhaps he's just trying to see where where she's hiding the money you don't say it so if she buys property from the husband she acquires the property says [Music] the no it's not a we're talking about if you want to infer infer there a what's the he said that a woman cannot make aak in her husband's property but if there's a if she brought it bought it legitimately without Kaka she just bought it then it's hers but maybe the husband's trying to discover where the money is the answer is no legitimately with a he gave it her as a gift that she doesn't require and the the reason why that is is because by there's no money so you cannot say oh I gave you a gift because I want to see where you hide the money there's no money involved money involved there's no and therefore it's 100% hers from the de from the M when is it not hers when when is it not hers when he wants to discover money maybe but there's a case that 100% it's not for discovery of money which is a Matana so that's sure her tells us the story tells ra where were you where were you yesterday last night when we were by the is referring to the so just to go over a little bit stuff so if a person has a house he's permitted to go 2,000 on chabas in each Direction walking you're not allowed to walk out of your house without an arrow you're not all to walk past 2,000 hours now there's a trick and that's called you put down a you put down a meal approximately 2,000 away from your house and that ex that extends the 2,000 to 4,000 how does it work because in this case right over here the guy puts a Kala down at the green line 2,000 away from his house and therefore we consider the kala his real house his R is where the kala is so now the 200 goes in each direction of the Kal 2000 forward and 2000 back to where the house is typically speaking you could walk 2,000 amas in all directions of the house now we're stuck you cannot walk 2,000 amas from the other direction of the house let me show you what I mean you can only walk in this direction why because now your new house is the so you get 2,000 from this way and 2,000 that way the end where's the end of the two by your house the real house is the end your fake house the one that you're pretending is your house is where the Kal is so therefore there's a red line drawn on the other side of your house you can't even walk one inch in your backyard or the side yard yeah understood okay that's not our that's you said Aran 101 okay AR 101 yesterday in the Hebrew here he said oh Aran was my favorite M A lot of people think that Aran is super difficult but ell dykman and r skin now they're saying no it was super easy it was over 700 pictures back then the new next time around they'll be doubled that and more and with the animation without that it's gonna be super super easy people made oh yeah if you don't have these things very very simple so why is it called say the Bas of measures so the r explains because they used to build a Bish right right outside of the city 2,000 hour outside the city why because now it's closer to the cities next to it other cities could come and they could all participate in that Bas me said a nice little V he says it's like a muser thing they used to make the bage outside of the city so that when it's time to pick up your kid from GH and there Isel you see all the K guys they leave K and they run to get the kids from gun but imagine if your B me was 2,000 you're outside I don't know you don't hear you know you're not going to the dry cleaner in the last minute to go pick up because you're outside of the that's why they made it outside of to keep you into learning I'm not saying you shouldn't help your wife I'm just saying like every excuse when you're a surgeon when you're doing uh um an esthesiology you're not you're not busy doing all these little things these errands that you see sometimes unfortunately people that are learning do why I'm have work that's what my father my mother I'm like Dr Freeman my nobody calls him up hey could you get grab the stuff from the dry cleaner hey could you watch the kids I'm I'm I'm busy I'm this no he he's a surgeon you understand that okay I'm also I'm learning all day fine now I'm going to get a whole bunch of emails forget the emails just be upset of me without the emails great so I just want to take it one step further and I'm talking to myself really because I noticed that this WhatsApp business and the text messaging and the emails just takes you away and that's ex the exact opposite is talking about not only is is your Bas measur next to everything else you're in everything else everybody could contact you in middle of a t in middle of a line of gar ding ding you take a look because you know there's some sort of something goes off in your head some uh what is it called the No No the um the chemical comp compound they're like oh it's gmak we're going to I'm going to see something cool on my WhatsApp what is it called the D me whatever dopamine okay dopamine you should know this stuff and um you see that thing go off and you get distracted so the phone that's what we got to do the phone one day I'm going to do it but you guys do it first let me know how it goes away from the and then you have pure great I'm talking to you mark you hear what I'm telling you the WhatsApp I'm talking about you texting me okay one day I'm going to make one of these whatsapps that nobody can reach me only my wife and my wife I don't answer anyway so it's galic zero says um or you can be like that guy sorry to buy your reelly I know that thousands of people are texting you but I was just wondering so don't text I know yeah you're right they are and year1 he said a beautiful over there knew what was it oh we said if you sell your wife a field she acquires it we don't say that he's trying to discover money oh by the way say discover money this Gish also a trick so a guy comes home and he sees his wife on the couch like H an Agony what's going on my headache you can't even imagine I'm I'm totally out of it he says oh what a shame what a shame I was planning on taking you to the mall today we could go shopping so she said no no I'm just joking I don't have a headache I don't have a headache so she says I was also just joking yeah so I he was playing again he wants to see are you serious about this heing or not so he's legal he made he made a not nice move says [Music] thear what's that a wife could purchase a piece of real estate from the husband even if you remove the actual money from here wasn't there AAR here we learned if you have property that has an what's real estate how do you purchase real estate Bish what happened oh maybe he's doing the air condition I see it's going up a little bit it's almost at 75 all right you want to help him out let me show him how to do it might be broken might need a battery over there anyway oh here he is yeah the air conditioner it was off oh I hear it I was getting a little hot it's almost at 75 it's going up okay you hear Dr dber what's Real Estate you can purchase with money with the document what kind of K you purchase real estate with huh no not three years not three years so says that a could acquire real estate so why can't she acquire it with the we already explained the it doesn't it's not referring to regular we're talking about a gift when a woman purchases AAR with AAR it won't work unless she pays in full why because he's not to do the until there's a full amount of money so you can't trick us out of this you can't say oh there's AAR even though there's no money well if there's no money there's noar they go hand in hand you could do AAR on condition that she pays up in full didn't we say on that another two more picture this is a piece of toilet paper you write AAR in the toilet paper that's that's okay even though it's not worth a scent it says is the word so we're talking about a not a why you telling me talking about when it says in the Bri it works without money oh says the you forgot the whole you forgot the question you forgot the answer you forgot the other question you forgot he himself asked the question answer the question there is an exception to the rule when a person sells a piece of property which is so bad it's so terrible you're you're waiting for a buyer for the longest time nobody wants to buy it it's m a messed up feeli it doesn't produce it just cost you taxes everything comes along a unsuspecting guy May suspecting guy he knows you tell him cuz he can't be a GU so and he says okay I want to sell I want to buy it what do you do you sell it to him whether he gives you money doesn't give you you just sell it let's get out we'll worry about the money different time in that case he doesn't care about the money he cares about selling M we have a case where there's a that does the keny and not the money here is a New Concept that a lot of times people they'll put interesting wording in thear here we go here's here's the it's gonna say this it's sold to you and it's also a gift why why would you write such a thing you're asking me that it says that it was sold I'm telling you no it's a gift so why does it say anything about sale because I want to make it good for you you're my favorite nephew I'm giving you a piece of real estate I'm concerned that one day someone's going to come and say hey your uncle owed me money so they're going to grab it away from you now you're going to be upset at the uncle you're not going to say Kadesh for the uncle you got to be this the good uncle for the American Rich Uncle so what I'm going to do I'm going to give you a piece of real estate that has a guarantee to it instead of writing guarantee I write in the not that it's but it's a so anytime I sell you something you always come back back to the owner and say hey give me replace it was just taken away from me that's why I wrote the to give it a guarantee to make his his his ownership a true ownership as if he bought it not just got a present so let me ask you a question if that's the case why does it saying the he given to you as a gift what does a gift have what advantage is there in the it's a gift you already said it's a sale sale is great because now the nephew can go and get a new field if anybody grabs it from but why would it say something about a gift the answer is because it's something called Barra what's aetra if you purchase something from somebody the the next door neighbor has the rights what is it called what rights refusal right first refusal something like that it's not really refusal yeah he has rights to purchase it for the price that you're offering why because he has a tractor and he's plowing the field he doesn't want to put the tractor every day on a trailer and bring it to the other field that's fire away you're selling the field now it's much easier you have to be a mench to the neighbor it's not a but that's the he has rers refus that only works when somebody's purchasing purchasing the next door neighbor's property but what if he got it as a gift here like in this picture it's a gift with a a bow so you can't tell the the receiver of the gift hey go get a gift somewhere else no this is where the gift is it's right here it's a one-time thing so M put in the I say it's a gift so it's a gift the guy on the left the sh the neighbor on the left he cannot tell you hey get lost go find it somewhere else I want it it's a gift so we're dancing on two on the one hand it's a gift which it is so there's no on the other hand if the guy that gives the gift the he owes money to somebody and somebody comes and grabs the field because it hasas the ma the guy with Theus the guy with the suspenders he receives another field instead of it why because in the it says that it's a purchase 100% that's coming up very good a person borrows money from a slave and then he redeems him he lets him loose redeem is not the right word he frees him he gave he borrowed money from a woman his wife and then he divorced her they can't come after him for anything why not what's the what could the logic possibly be you see the is true there is a concept of Discovery I'm trying to see where you're hiding the money says no the reason is different because it's logical to say that the person doesn't want to be a slave to his wife a slave to his slave and by borrowing money you become a slave Yeah by borrowing money you become EV Lea you become a slave when you borrow to the to the person that lends Story by and I think let's just say rakov lent money toin one of them lent to the other and he said oh great now you become I just acquired myself slave by lend you because he said hey you have two on you I want to buy a drink whatever whatever it was he's says and now you're my slave so he says no it says so fact it's reverse okay whatever says he sent it if you sell real estate to your wife she she acquires it so this is very super interesting you sold the field to your wife but you still get to take all the profits okay so you made an extra Buck on it she W comes into the marriage with the nursing home until now you are the administrator and you're making all the prophet now you no nothing to do this you you had your own field you had your own field that you brought into the marriage you sold to your wife but you still get all of Paris so you don't lose anything says the let's just say this so that Robie starberg doesn't bother me sponsored by is Sher construction management supervision and the Life share Community protecting fam today before tomorrow's unexpected loss tomorrow well not tomorrow but more in the valley Rosenstein from the Life stre Community is going to be there at the sh he's a he's a landsman he's a or he has a lot to do with California I think he grew up there I know his wife is from there so I don't know maybe my uncle prman and says like unfortunately it's different so remember this for a little later say one way the is going to say a different way who are these by the way I'll say them now the these are the so that means if anybody argues on them and they are a previous generation then we can go with them not and this is what Rabbi B Bo what's his name no what's your last name Hogan that's so interesting right Bogan was the first wedding I did at Midwest Conference Center and you were the last one I did at Mid conference say sh to each other I'll tell you the story real quickly he doesn't know the truth I'll tell you the truth I went over to him I said listen I got at this place I want you to do the wedding there tell me if there's anything I'm saying that's not true so he said N I don't want to do it there because it's hard to get to and it's this it's that I said hey it's 20 minutes away she said it's not 20 minutes away it's I don't know it's 40 minutes away I said listen I'm gonna I'm G to drive you there and if it's 20 minutes away you do the wedding if it's not not anyways you didn't know that I'm a pilot I don't drive anywhere I fly also what he didn't realize is that I chose things giving I think it was like Thanksgiving morning there's zero traffic ddy didn't with me I'm doing 95 the whole time got there in 17 minutes and he got oh it's pretty close Okay and he did the wedding right RAB EMS did you that I took you Thanksgiving you got you got to think I don't know watching this this guy's M Shyer he does this he tells his wife that he goes he sells houses he doesn't tell his wife what are we watching here yeah what what you remember a good I was a good driver not a good salesman eving okay that was a story and since he did the first wedding and other people said listen he's a nursing home guy this that we could also do weddings there because you I MD perosa for three until until Mar Marty daber took me out of business had a closed down shop last one anyway no that's when I bought my apartments in uh in ianapolis and Abington that was one of them and says this is what Rabbi ban was saying that what truth is the husband could say I try to give my wife a gift and if I gave her a gift what's the difference a gift and a sale if I gave her a gift I'm large I give her everything I'm not going to take payis from what what does a gift mean oh I'm going to give you a gift but I take all the all the profit that doesn't work give you a gift why did he say that it's a sale you see he to make her position stronger that if comes and takes away the field he the husband nobody's going to lose her the husband's going to lose the giver is going to lose he's going to substitute the field that they took away from her with another field but it was just a gift she wouldn't get another field so this is a repeat we call this a freebie ask what about the the says that if you borrow from a slave and you and you and you freed him you married a woman and and you borrowed money from her and then you divorced her they can't come and take back their money isn't it because we're saying that they tried he tried to discover where they're hiding the money like in the cartoon sh no no no the reason is because not because he wanted to do Discovery but rather he would refuse to borrow money from his own wife he doesn't want to be a slave to his wife he doesn't want to be a slave to his slave if somebody sells a field to his own wife cons she acquires the field and the husband does eat per and we don't say what there's no Discovery so what does r say we have to remember this because on the bottom it says over here maybe not maybe I'm confusing with another B RAV says that if you sell something to your wife she acquires it and there's no legal we have a question do you say legal or not I'm discovering M maybe it's I don't know if it's that that popular so okay we won't put it in but if it's a gift now he gives her everything including all the prophets it doesn't make sense he's giving her real State and he's taking the prophets it's not true there's no difference between a sale and a gift both she acquires it Paris and in both cases the husband does not eat the prophets no no no is only things that she brings into the marriage it belongs to her you're saying it's like something that what that that she that he can't touch it okay like anything else yeah you're you're asking something similar to what somebody asked yesterday like how in the world could she have money to buy it or these are all questions like she had money that people gave her that the husband can't touch or he sold it to her on condition he doesn't touch you're right different [Music] things so not like r that what that the Kenyon works if she purchases something from the husband and the husband does not get any of the prophets the grandchildren of they're sticking off for the grandfather but they also they're not advis they said they told you left the greatest you're going to go with the lower one in other words our grandfather R is there's no argument that R was a t t he's the first MOA he's Gad and you're going to go to to later generation to to to and you did like your now what about the fact that old top of the that not like RAV the answer is because all these are to see soon so they're also like in the same position as how do you go away from our grandfather I'm I'm also doing like who don't forget the were contemporaries was was in yeah it happens to be that R was older than but actually like always between so I have have another not from the later generation from that same generation the wife Aces this is I said before that I remembered is that the husband eats [Music] the prophets but when it comes to gift she acquires but the husband does not eat as the think about it let's do it again we didn't even have such a thing she does not acquire at all and then it says and the husband eats fruit he eats the prophets so if the wife doesn't acquire what is he eating exactly it's a contradiction what so say he's not eating pis he's eating his own it's not pis why is it called pis he's eating his own stuff what what you have is pis it's yours yours is yours Paris seems to be oh it's really his wife's he's just eating his own he's eating the profits of his wife's stuff it there not profits he's eating his stuff right B if I tell you you are eating the proph of your real estate of your nursing homes that's not true you're eating your nursing home it's yours it's 100% yours not prophets Prophet means it's owned by somebody else and you get the prophets say it's contradiction there a difference here let's I got to see this again because sorry you want to buy my field it's in Hebrew then she goes and she takes out money which obviously I I called my Uncle once I told him you're not going to believe this in I was for whatever reason I took a chair and I looked on top of my top shelf and I was so excited I found a stash of cash literally this thick like wow it's free money and then I realized you sh and you put it there two years ago and you forgot that you put it there which happened to me literally this week here in lingwood I go to my drawer and I'm looking for my gun like I cannot believe it the guy that works for me who else could it be I have a guy that comes into my house every week he works for me already for like literally 20 years almost he puts the sprinkler on he does this he takes in the mail you know the whole thing I can't believe he took my gun what is he what is he thinking and I like can't tell my whole family took my gun after all these years he never took a thing and now he took my gun then I realized I hid it in the exact same spot where I hid my cash and I just same place and I forgot that I hid the gun for myself okay I'm like I can't have a gun in my drawer what if a anle comes and this and that put it on top anyway huh I have it yeah we just found the safe also that's another thing we just found my safe in my's house with the whole Misa with my stuff everything was everywhere we didn't know where anything is we just found the safe so what does it have to do with anything yeah so tell him oh so my uncle says you're not going to believe this Ellie I once had a a sewer issue in his house in neck and um he went in there and whatever he start and all of a sudden he finds a bag and inside the bag there's another bag and inside there a thing of dollars he put away money and he completely forgot that he hid thousands a kle guy thousands of dollars in his floor under the Bata like this picture it's in the Bata here's a question where in the toyra is there a place that talks about removing a Bata and taking something out of the Bata it's in the to not in tan I'm just thinking about it now all these guys are screaming on this on the screen anyways by where did they get the dirt from they lift up in lift up it doesn't say that enti but they they open it up and they scoop out dirt and they put it into the anyway says thear there's a big difference whether she's hiding cash and therefore there's good reason to believe that the husband is doing What discovery and in a case where she's not hiding the cash obvious have to say the story the very very famous story where I don't remember the musk you'll have to REM mus this woman had a little safe next to her bed and she never let her husband see what's inside so anyway the husband was very very curious one day he couldn't control himself and he broke into the safe and in the safe he finds $100,000 and a dozen eggs what's going on you don't know the story it's a famous world famous story so he says listen uh I have to admit you know I I feel bad I broke into the safe but explain to me what is going on here $100,000 and and eggs like what's the connection she goes the eggs every time you yell at me you embarrass me I put one egg in the safe very good very good but why $100,000 she says well every time I have 12 eggs I sell them what's the mus don't yell at your wife I don't I don't remember what it was don't be upset at your like people are counting's counting I don't I don't know you'll all come up with your own your own thing but you're not going to believe this RAB have a wonderful day and I'll see you B in Los Angeles doesn't come until then for