Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 39 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] good there still a little bit of an echo there I had to figure out what day we were in we're m shabas without the tie without the suit live from in Chicago for coming out on a Friday afternoon uh to the here for hosting us and hosting us for the rest of for the part that I'm going to be here besides few days I'm going to be going to Los Angeles maybe even to New York a day we'll see we'll see what the schedule was um for the last 10 years I promised my wife on every anniversary I said you know it's not a big year 21 22 23 27 we don't we don't so it's 30 I have to do something Marty you still holding but you still you still have the s for my in your pocket 31st yeah somebody said how' you get married in the three weeks it wasn't the three weeks it just she celebrate okay fine we not going to go there say just a few emails here let's see what we got I have to see if I could even read this in today's share someone emailed you about the V of not letting people live ring your head and to make shom somebody emailed me well I spoke about not letting people live rentree in your head when you have makas they take up a lot of room in your head you're always upset at them it just harms you at the end of the day I want to thank you for the it's important you saw that sure many people knew but packaging planting these important so into the Mak that much more Vivid in our minds in a practical way I wanted to share a personal example I hope it will be helpful to others a various points during the year I work with my ex-wife to create schedules but kiter has a lot of issues a lot of people when they get divorced they have issues with their ex and many times I think about being M over the past two weeks we were once again involved creating some schedule the kider and then he decided to be wanted to share this for two reasons number one to thank you and to give another concrete example to let you know how personally that you make a difference in people's lives in a real way thank you number two for the Tiber especially during the three weeks where we're try to remove happens when we create a p separation between ourselves and as individuals from other and make them individuals over there as opposed to viewing ourselves as part of one organism you and me and him are all part of one goof there's no you and me it's we with me as a hand and you as a foot of one cl Isel similar also to the V you said on Yeshua B and the orphans with that parad parad we can work out our differences as C strual SE level by working themselves free Heads live rentree in our heads that should open up new possibilities of how we interact with others what else oh we went to Nara Nara is yeshu in middle of Arab Ville where I almost drove into an Arab I don't know what it is and there was a big red sign when you see those red signs it says warning you might not come out alive like it can't be and way was saying no keep on going you know so uh here's two kids from Nara that the father he found them learning one is seven and then the kid wanted to do another death by himself the kids give stuff in the B Med now we decided because Things Fall Apart when I go on Bim so a lot of people that are used to com to they uh they stop coming and then once they stop coming they don't come back when I when I get there so he said okay we're going to start giving food food is always so sure enough we did CH and you could see in the bottom left corner this is what the P CH looked like after the year 51 people showed up maybe there's more people there than when I'm there I don't know bar the Hebrew she is going phenomenal and uh that's what we have on a nightly basis we have about 50 people there so is sponsor safe and speed return of all theost of ysph Masson all right gal stuff so we are holding I don't know if I showed you I now I'm confused everything is confused because Hebrew was before the English but was the D after the English so very confusing there was a um a little bit of a drawing that Yoshi did for the Su of buing yaa when a person sells his property he sells it with a largess he gives away all the property around but it doesn't give up B it doesn't give up like a swimming pool it's not specifically so I asked Yoshi to do it a little different I told him to put like a a pathway does he sell the pathway and if he doesn't sell the pathway the question is how does he get to the pool there's no pathway so the answer we came up with the gal answer here's the answer he does one of these things he brings a movable diving board and he's able to jump in the had a very very important child that maybe the discuss is how does he get out of the pool getting is one thing he's going to swim there forever okay here we go we're holding three lines from the bottom and here's a Shiloh I think I asked this question yesterday because I remember Yos answering the question so let's see did I ask it in the Hebrew sh is there a is to say that so and so is sitting on my property illegally I scream in the in the street this guy is a GH of did I ask it in the English no you hear the somebody's sitting in my house without permission he's squatting my house is you have to make him is making like that I'm telling the whole you know this guy R sitting in my house without so what is he supposed to do no so what do you say yeah has are you serious so let's let's let's read three lines okay good point let's read oh very good say what's your name what your sh's kid B wow you know I once your father once did a favor for me I don't remember what so I said you know I'll take you skiing took him skiing ask him we went to Colorado together I know your uncle I know your father Z evolving okay and I think you're and I just got a message from my sister that she met your father andak so tell your father I apologize my sister caused you any trouble okay Z let's get back to the question in three in three in three seconds hold on three lines we had all does have to be right in front of the you have a guy that owns the house you have a guy that's squatting in the house the guy that owns the house does he have to go to the guy squatting in the house and say hey get out of my house or he could say it in in he say it in the Mikvah what's the difference so let's say doesn't have to be in front of him a good how does it work you have to say well time out the says that's not enough that by itself is not enough has to be even more he's a gin you don't just say he's sitting he's a gin he's sitting there as a I'm taking and that's okay so once we know this the way to say is to say is Ain is to say Goin is that considered or not that's the my question okay it's still it's stealing from me I don't care how he's he didn't do it on purpose but he's stealing from me so this actually we go like the the says like RAB zupnik that is a not only that the calls it aah point it out here if I could find it it's not only okay so says this idea ofas and the 17 people on this program so that means there other people there's more people on the live than here in the room whoever's on the live all right so we're gonna continue V says the to of happens to be that the balus they say that this idea of has to do with a a person and when tries to get you to do a you're supposed to make a m but from this gar you see the idea that the m has to be also on I'm saying not only I not going to do anymore I accept it by myself not to do it in the future now do you have to say that in the you hear is it enough to say to a person or as a I'm being because a g of that's enough why is that not enough and I'm G why do I have to say and I'm going to bring him to Toda the second part okay that he's sitting in my if you just call him a ghav so maybe he'll think oh you're calling him a bad name when you explain that he's a ghav because he's sitting in your property that's great why do you have to add that I'm going to take him to bezin so in fact R says you don't have to say I'm taking to Bez that's to talk like oh I'm gon to sue him I'm gonna take him to court but you don't really have to add those words so maybe there's a way to tell him to that 25,000 people are going to hear them on the the recording maybe this should lower it a little bit all right he went down he went down now we have a series of questions what if the guy the owner says the guy says don't he tells the Adam Adam do not tell the guys squatting here that I said something here we have a stickle picture why not this is for Le's purposes only that never happened before Oh the big guy is the guy squatting and uh the guy making the MK the little guy says don't don't tell don't tell the big guy that I made a m so it says what's the says he told don't tell anybody so what kind of means that it's supposed to go out there I can't can't concentrate unfortunately okay where's y you didn't do it y did not ma huh what's that noise what do you mean there's nobody there you joking the janitor oh okay so for sure we should tell okay that's now I feel much better guys learning it's a different story how could that be when a guy says straight out don't tell don't tell anybody no says I just said don't tell the big guy the giant but tell the whole world if the whole world knows that's a why because what's the whole point the whole point of it you told him all the people that are listening thank you says of course it's a m the whole point of M is that the giant guy he should watch Hisar should be careful withar now that the whole world knows okay so he didn't tell him speci okay that's enough everybody knows he'll find out [Music] eventually because of the famous saying that a friend has a friend and a friend has a friend uh five six degrees of separation you could get to any person in the world with six people because everybody has a friend has a friend you know Trump you know anybody in the world I was and I said the other day how do you get to the aay in Iran well I have a friend that knows Yi that knows the guy he knows that it's only four degrees of separation it's not the biggest thing and I have a RI I'll show you later on I have a video of RI for it those going at the they're not going to believe it they're at the funeral yeah the here so I I just want to say I pointed out yesterday I want to point it out again because because of the and around the world so we have a very simple way of of stopping this that's to increase the whole the whole the whole she basically is based on and here somebody just sent me an email today last Sunday had a flat tire here in G New York and we're spoiled to have the great service so I figured okay service and he himself and we're talking about voler came of course I asked him if he did D with the rebell he did not so I told him how to change his life I'm not sure he signed up yet but after you here today Thursday I immediately sponsored the in the volunteer danal J Jonas Begins the D Journey so danil Jonas hopefully started today TI is truly a great investment Thomas 26 recruited by a Rome far remember who recruited him three years ago Jay Nathanson also somebody who gives and everything okay give so it happens to be that after I mentioned yesterday in Che somebody donated 300 garas $10,500 for the gar because I really believe seriously I'm going to say it again I really truly believe it's the greatest zaka investment return on investment I I don't know of a better thing you could give let's say an Alman and I'm not putting down any stock in the world I'm just making a thing you give an almana $35 you didn't change your life you help her out okay so she's able to pay for $35 you could literally change a family's life a whole family 35 guy get gets a gamar he starts learning got a free gamar we have people that are multimillionaires they got a free gamar they started learning it's not that they can't afford a gar people love free stuff so what kind of if somebody could I challenge somebody to tell me what other has such a return on investment $35 to change a person's life guy took a he gave $10,000 from the spot so I think we it doesn't mean that should stop sponsoring garas I think there's still room for volume two but it's a very very nice uh gesture so to Mr Anonymous and there was a Mr Anonymous the before they give a $1,000 a little bit more than a thousand no I'm saying be I wouldn't I wouldn't emphasize like this but be what's going on now in this particular day on chabas there's a certain unknown there's the unknown and that unknown is a little nerve-wracking today it was 7 in the morning it was the she was playing in the jump jumped on Zoom for a minute so one of the L son said yeah we're so scared here look at us from cing you know he was joking you know it's like oh what are you making us looking make us look as if we're all scared Etc but it's not it's not so POS okay what about another question what if the look at the guy that's doing the m and they say by the way thank you very much you're telling us this m we won't tell anybody look it's not a you should have once they told you this you should have found two other AD that are going to spread the word they are saying that they're not going to tell the actual squatter but they're going to tell their friends and okay third case this is a case that we don't have this is a given he tells the not one word to come out of your mouth about this he says don't not not one thing here there's two ad in his mouth that whatever you're whatever I tell you do not let it come out of your mouth you know she thought this would be a good idea don't don't ask me why it's not bad so this is no that what you told you told them not to tell anybody no one not even they're friends you know they say that the best way to get something out there to let people know about it is to tell somebody don't tell anybody that's a guaranteed way the always do say if I want the whole to know something I call I said listen I have a secret here I don't want you to tell anybody we're going on a special trip and two weeks the whole within two minutes knows fine somebody somebody what it is there is is to say over secret it doesn't work he's saying it's not a good but like we we're going to be back they're going to keep the they say that Churchill's um Barber was giving him haircut and he said I want I want uh sir could you please tell me one secret one secret so he said do you know how to keep a secret he said yeah said so do I AR rule what if say we're not going to tell Soul you're wasting your time with us you told the wrong people this oh now here papa is saying like it doesn't work we said straight out we're not gonna tell a word we have if you didn't tell them not to say he's gonna by mistake Spill the Beans he won't realize it the other way to read it is something that's not on a person's mind we use it a lot it's a it's it's a known saying when when something's not in your mind if something's not important to you then you don't deal with it for instance a guy a big marriage counselor once said so a guy came to him a husband said listen I don't know how to deal with my wife she says this and she really means that and can't figure it out you know the women are so different this and that she said listen when you were dating you you're perfect you knew exactly what to say what to write what gift to get and how to do it and how to act oh then you're a big Maven and a big all of a sudden today so what's the why today you're not such a because you don't care anymore then you care now you don't care okay right make sense we can all relate all relate besides the B I have no idea what I'm talking about so same thing like if T is on your mind this is important to you then it's something you get done something that happens it's important to you if it's not important you know didn't work out okay you have to make sure that certain things are important to you so Yosi did this from it's not bad it's a guy in vacation Niagara FS makes goes around with the sign first of all when it comes to the first line is nothing to do with the piece of property you have to just know then okay fine but I thought listen this is more check this out because of this video here they taking them with the Palestinian on his head showing him the body the so I thought you should do something this this more like he's in Iran and uh he he writes in the bottom Hadas rebell cu I told him to do it I did the other one okay so that's uh the wild eyebrows the whole thing if a guy like that is in Iran and he doesn't does it work or not does it have to be be of does does he have to be in front of him or not so says in the name of is that doesn't hold like this doesn't hold because he's bringing I hold differently say like this and I don't understand him how why would he say something like this why do you say that it works thumbs up Works sorry I don't care even though we showed This I Gotta show it again it's my first of all takes something like this takes about 30 hours of work this this one video here so we got to show it again in the time ofal when people wanted to go from ER to Spain it took 365 days to get there today it takes how long four and a half hours by car how long 60 hours but even if you do Google whatever it comes at about 365 days if you walk about five hours a day six hours a day that's how long it takes it takes about a thousand hours gets her can't go chabas here we go let's see if it's still jumps so he's doing a kazak here on the ground this guy heard it now he's he's going now the clock starts ticking whoa he's walking through the globe friends Italy the whole thing boom guys on the beach what oh okay let me go back so he starts walking the seat and he walks back 365 days that way so there a total of three years guaranteed to die you have a 10% chance you'll survive the ocean I don't know how do you take a boat you take a boat all your friend all the way through let me let's go look at it again no later so how many people survived that I think I'd rather walk it than to take that the Wooden Boat correct walking is very it's all dangerous you're right the Sun the whole so what does re say listen to this bomb question you see where the gar is getting at if I'm in Spain and somebody told me that somebody's sitting on land what should I do should I walk back to Israel is 365 days hold up a sign in Spain make it works so why do I have to walk to Spain ask the guy is sitting on the land for a whole year oh but did you notice the burn the burning garbage can today we're ripping into the in here when my father-in-law did the you know the once a year fundraiser his Sona and the whole thing so he does it in the hotel air so it's on Thanksgiving and they the Palestinians used to do a whole day and they would bring these nard in to speak so we would see them so ask them you want to be St the minion no they don't want to be part of us our minion why does he have to come all the way from Spain all the way let him sit on his recliner over there on the beach chair and make him a says you're right 100% it works the only reason we told him to come so that the guy doesn't eat up all his fruit it's his fruit you want to save that money so come walk for a whole year so you could save a few pounds of himself obviously argues how could that holds that it's a good where just yesterday we learned that holds that say right explained him nicely so retracted his and he actually holds in the beginning he didn't know it so he asked the question but then after he figure it out everything is good now he he actually hold so but his question was what was his question if it's true then why do you have to come all the way it says in the M you have to come from According to to has explain it why why why does he have to come all the way from Spain and the answer is he doesn't he was just give then I Al agreed that fun he bumped into how many people is necessary to do you can't do it in front of one person you need two people you need three people how many people to be two people what's the source of what's the what's the love this anything that's said in front of the three people brings this a few times anything any that's set in front of three people Les you he somebody wants to say if it's in front of three people not you said in it was said in front of three people then it's obvious that the whole world knows about it this is the idea the if was set in front of the three people then the word spread and if the word spread then it's not so too when it comes to spreading the the the word he said in front of three people not two people you need three people and three people that's it the word spreads so is it true that if you say something from the three people it's not is so the here says there's no once it's set in front of three goes into tremendous maybe the greatest he has it is safer is about this do not use this as a he brings other that argue on the from the it seems like yes it's but he says no that the the of is only when it's something that you could you could translate into two ways for instance says when you tell some there's fire in somebody's house what does that mean makes a lot of food so one way to understand it is he's a big freser all day long he's making steaks and and good food and hot dogs and whatever the other way to understand it is he's a great guy he has a lot of guests now if it's something that you say right in front of his face obviously you're not going to be calling him a fres or you're calling him a big so if you said in front of three people as if you said in front of his face and therefore you could translate in a POS POS way not in a negative way so that's he talks about that he says you're right when you say that somebody has a lot of food and that people come to that that itself is the bottom line is I forgot already how many um conditions gives he says in order to use you need like seven conditions I want to say something like that he doesn't agree I mean if you want to be okay but he goes out of his way to says doesn't work story about the famous story there was who's drunk him and told I want to I want to be with you in so ignored him no no no he's very persistent I need to be with you so said why he says I am I keep my mouth I keep I don't say so said if you promise me that you will never say for the rest of your life I'll be you you could be sit with me so when the B uh what's the word he soed up sobered up he's like nah that's too hard my entire life so said get this guy out of here I don't want to see him anymore so he had such an opportunity and he gave it up like that I says you need three in order for the word to spread so two is not enough the one says you need three because three people in order for the rumor to spread so perhaps that's everybody holds in order for a r to spread you need three people the so the is whether here just to make it easier as I was saying it I was saying thums upbs down because it sounds similar like gets a little confusing so if you want to put a symbol to it the the M that says that you're supposed to do it in front of two people this is a little dark so you have to pay attention it you should do it in front of two people why because he holds no good so if it's no good why two people oh because obviously you're doing in front of him you can't do m not in front of him it doesn't work so obviously he's in front of you so what do you need two people to testify that I did in front of him I'm not doing it so that he should find out us a beautiful L I love the L it's m cute look at this L he says he says since you did from face what's the whole point of is that he should find out about it there's nothing better in the world than telling him in in his in front of his face that that I'll find how how better is he going to find out than this yeah if you tell him from the three people eventually get him but if I tell to him him then of course he's going to know about it and he'll be careful with thear and everything okay says the and when you say that has to be in front of three people that you don't have to say it in front of him it's of it's good thumbs up so why I need three people so that the whole world should hear about it and eventually should get to him otherwise the whole reason why of Works according to this is because eventually hear about it so I need to make sure he hears about it how do I make sure he hears about it by saying from three people maybe everybody grees thumbs up but it's a good thing to say you can make a not in front of him Witnesses it's not that I need not that I need but I need three people to let the rumor fly says wanted to make him somebody sitting in his house he wanted to make him what did he do he found three he found three people sitting made so now turning the D sponsored by is Sher construction management and supervision and the Life share Community protecting families today before tomorrow's unexpected loss and by my uncle and I'm going to visit after in Los Angeles G to make a whole man the 15th 16th 17th in Los Angeles Hebrew English food food Stu what trying to to build up Los Angeles a little bit so here's the question well we're going to be done tell we're going to be done soon he came for the Hebrew so here's the question when you make a m who asked the question somebody asked me maybe yesterday how often do you have to make a m that was you you ask yes how once every year once every three years once in a lifetime the guy sitting there you made a m 2023 you have to make it again M 2024 what's this what's this story so says the had to make next year he came again to make it's not necessary once he made the first you don't have to make a again that's it one time that's it so I thought that these words it reminded me of a story that you all know already but I'll tell it to you again and there's a few new people here so we cover the few new people they said as B they said you know when you get married sh should learn nights at home at least nights be at home okay great idea I was learning the mirror then we had apartment in AR so first night I'm starting I'm learning they got the gar start learning you know everything's going well all of a sudden my new wife she knocks on the door she comes in she says you have a phone call so I did this whole uh calculation had wait a minute I'm only sitting here for 5 minutes already and she's in there with the phone call this is going to be a very rough year of learning so right I go she like huh said Noah she what what's like uhhuh uhhuh so that was it since then she didn't know you're not allow to talk in middle of middle of learning told you're not allow to talk oh you know talking talking that was it that lasted for about a day two now just lasted for a long time it says like this once he made you only have to do once it works for the whole first year all right somebody once asked my wife is it true that story she said yeah but you think I'm stupid what you don't think I have brother's father you think I don't know it's I didn't know thought it's a regular week but I know however you don't have to make every single year to make once every three years why why do you have to make a every three years doesn't make sense who what are you dealing with you're dealing with a guy who's a Ghana you told him to leave your your house he's a squatter he's not leaving so for a guy like that you have to be concerned every three years leave him alone let him stay if he's not GNA leave it's not gonna help you not why do you need make so first of all says the like y m this reminds of y y is M on fire today maybe he's not a g of maybe he thought and the guy told him where was it oh somebody sent me an email Tak I should have shown it a guy kicked out the renter and he moved into the house moved into the house and uh all of a sudden people start coming to his pool so what's this he had he had there's a there's an app for pools pool something what is it called so the old renter kept on renting it to people he was making money didn't live there anymore so maybe that's what happened a guy that's using your pool as a GH he's not GH on the app it said that he could use it it's not doesn't mean it's a g but he's using it inappropriately okay you read he not a g it's like a g the bottom line is call at the end of the day the is that one has to make a once every three years you don't have to make a every year but once every three years have a wonderful day shabas and if you're watching this m week have a we'll pretend that there was a tie here maybe the editor will throw in a tie for M Shas English she is at 10:30 and the Hebrew here at 11:30 but throughout the week Hebrew is first at 7:00 and English at 8:00 shabas thank you for coming