Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 134 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] good morning good news for for the anti-Semitism in America I said thank you this very very good news today yesterday we opened up registration for all those who were at the shabbaton last year the uh demand is crazy all those who were there last year and didn't receive a special code please get in touch because today we are opening registration for everyone else here he goes re [Music] boai many people here have experienced a shabas of their lifetime [Music] if not we'll have to do this again so I uh look out later on today B registration will open I believe that the rooms will be sold out fairly quickly so and uh oh I didn't put in but we have uh those sponsors I was supposed to put in somebody sponsored anonymously a nice Don the so few more sponsors still looking for sponsors um there are people from mer that would like to fly in and join if anybody wants to help out with that we're looking for sponsors for that but it's going promising to be I got a with you promises to be maybe Kenny wants to give a plane CH her a plane Kenny Kenny Rosenberg oh you should speak to him does he do it I don't I don't do that maybe if you know him you could speak to him but yeah or or it might be cheaper just to do one here and just you never [Music] know uh dear reell I wanted to share some insightful thoughts on the topic we've been learning about which might be of particular interest any I'm reading this it doesn't mean this is the it's just to open one's mind asked thereof I recently spoke to a friend the manister Klein who's not only a legal professional in the area of Wills but also specialized in diic aspects of estate planning Works closely with families helping them set up Wills that respect both alic and legal considerations and offers guidance to ensure everything's properly arranged during our conversation we discussed the Nuance approach to inheritance is prescribed by he mentioned that while every family should consider leaving a small amount extra for the eldest like a token PN kind of thing and a little more for the boys than the girls what he shared next was truly eye opening he recounted a case where a client intended to allocate a significantly larger Shar to his sons or his daughters this client sought guidance from well respected pis in Manchester and was told in the name of rner that not only is there no additional hi in giving more to the sons Beyond this small customary amount but that it is actually expected as a matter of men to treat daughters and sons equally when Distributing one's estate again I I don't know any I'm just reading this in fact the emphasized that a person who does not leave an equal share for his daughters is not considered a men this could be cont ask your this perspective profound shifting my understanding of how equity and fairness are viewed in the context of Wills R alert rebell you spread the light of T across continents quite literally I was at the border after midnight Crossing from France back into the UK there's a long queue in parenthesis line waiting to board the Euro star train I got out of my car stretch a little after a long drive I walked past the car in line a few in the line a few ahead of my car where two of your from London and mber from gold green London blasting your Shear edar yeah Edge wear and gold is green blasting she at 12:45 a.m. staging away C video What UN real K the spring the light of all corners of the world C of USI to one this is M like probably not even back from Paris and walking down just just say says that everybody can go in on the watching now live you can go and cl your room before it's too late the email it's K to do during sh it's K to do during sh you might you can do it now during the sponsorships for the sa spe return of all the hostages health and strength for reell family iney the should be filled with art of the month for reell and the whole staff to continue to make to so enjoyable for so many The Coffee corner for the week by Yan BR she had a large liver issue two years old welcome again and I heard you brought a special guest your nephew yes what's his name goldber y gold I'm not going to embarrass you and ask you for your name but public but here he is with the yellow sweater sh thank you for coming who else do we have here okay gal oh hi Jonah Jonah light but where do I know you're from I saw you in LA and from here and from you were here a few times after two three times that's it you're not a guest anymore you third time that's okay oh sh how what's your name rutenber Rutenberg from shinefeld wow okay we came at the right today we're holding one of the famous [Music] famous the story six lines from the bottom his sons were not on the D they weren't off the they were not on [Music] the person Sons weren't doing the right thing so he went and he wrote everything to who isil anybody remember who yil is the greatest Hees I think the birds that flew over him burn he the number one if that's right we'll get there but that's today he says he's the number one to it's what it says in the then we're going to get there we will see it says he's the greatest greatest but maybe if that correct correct but him discuss if it's the greatest of all the them are the greatest of that category he's pretty great the money to him not to his so anyway somebody gave him a see it's to be a god you get sometimes because what did he do so he sold a third raised a little cash and he gave a third to the this is controversial the guy is dying he doesn't want to give a dime to his children oh let me send this to is Gary I just got a great one here not a great one but the the mager from uh Lincolnwood rib on fin Stone sent me this let me send it to Gary real quick I've never done this really middle she but it's NE the okay maybe if you could put that in just as a slide he's upset at his kids he wants to show them teach them a lesson why should my money go to you I rather go to to the G to the B go to you you're going to use it for what for drugs for all sorts of nonsense give it away go and takes the money and gives it right back to the kids is that okay it his but there was a certain intent there now h i mean mean was a of Hill sh the of H comes with his this his his stick his walking stick he goes on a trip to meet and give him a little piece of his mind what's how could you doah so to speak a Mitzvah to to do everything a dead person a person is about to die he gives you a little you know what I'm saying I'm giving you this cuz I don't want you to give it to my enemy and then you go give it to the enemy it's not it's not so B so sh notice how in those days in that D their name it's not was saying if it's mine it's mine and if it's mine I sold it and if it's mine I gave it to B if you're saying that the the condition I didn't I didn't keep my condition then everything has to come back then you have to take the third from the and the third which I sold you don't want to do that so then mine 100% sorry so then I I'll give back and if not you cannot take the part that I gave back to the son says you beat me you basically you got me good you beat me says the it's like almost like in a joking manner like he realized that he he got him good so says I thinking here say there's something similar but not really you could think it's like but it's not it's there's a story in the place there's someone whose father was in a fight with him and told him I will not have any benefit from you whatsoever and this individual was marrying off a kid and the father couldn't come to the the father said from you so he wanted his father to come to the so he came up with a trick I'm giving away all my belongings to my friend so that I don't own anything and the is really my friends and and he says I'm only giving to you my friend I'm only giving it to you on condition so that my father could come here and eat and be be at the two nights ago right after she one one of the Israeli guys from the she said I want to tell you a crazy story said he went to his father's house for sukus with his wife and his children he walks in and his father says you know did you bring the money for the EST that you told me you're going to bring he says o I forgot he says take your stuff and get out of here go you're not here for suus he few minutes before says get out says occasionally his father used to have his father's big a very person but he gets triggered by with the whole family coming and the and and and maybe say yeah some trauma back when he was a kid he threw him out in front of his kids in front of his wife in front of everything and he he went his car and his mother started crying a whole M and finally he went back in there and they didn't speak one word it says right now the father just came and said listen I messed up I I don't know what happened to me I lost it I'm asking he says the first time in his life his father's done this a number of times but this is the first time his father he said I did I I was not going to talk to this guy forever there's a guy sitting here in this room that his parents got into a fight with that guy's grandfather grandparents so they fought the guy in the room has never had a relationship or knew his grandfather's grandfather grandmother died already the cousins don't speak to each other the no huge huge where nobody speaking never got to know his grandfather who happens to be a huge huge wrote dozens of SP Etc never saw him never garish noish for what for a little fight for a little misunderstanding a little GA little bad me is basically it could be in both parts you know just people not getting along for what Father and Son father and daughter mindboggling push a mind bagl so here you have the story in the gar it happens it happens to the best families I'm talking about two stories of not not simple and sometimes it happens there even more because certain feelings of do you know I am I'm this I wrote that and this how you said to me and this okay but people have to sometimes V if if somebody would have taken a little bit of time a year into it said listen we got to do something okay he was 100% wrong you come and you you so then families could be for dyus dyus no talking between any cousins gness nothing wiped off one one right here in the room sitting here in the room like that story I said it many times the guy said I'm I'm my house whatever it was so one of the neighbors it and said okay it's my house then they went to bezin so then the bz said since he was mate so the guy underneath him was kind of they try to get out of it and some like you want to be you want to be particular about a certain okay what do I have here it's coming in okay upon him the guy says like this listen I know you you want to make shom I'm all for sh but not on my account you want me to be over over here to invite somebody to your house when he's M from you he's not to step into your house that's what it's it's a it's a it's a thing in the what so go B could if you have a right thing and they have to find a thing out yeah it's not it's not so simple but he tried to do this trick does this trick [Music] work you know what if it's mine 100% it becomes he says no no no you can't make it I didn't give it to you so that you should make I give it to you so that my father can come to the I still need a house to live in so he told him huh no the reason you gave it to me is that you and your father should eat and drink and make shom it's a very nice thing shom but not and the sin of of of of nether you want it to be on me no way came up and said listen if this guy is not able to be mag then it wasn't a gift if it wasn't a gift your father can't come to the sorry made it clear tonight when he did it said I'm doing it so that my father could come to the understand yeah if you tell someone I'm giving this thing out tonight for one specific clear reason what's Happ it doesn't start what is it a mat or not a it's but he's telling him why don't come afterwards and say says over here I don't have the ability to make it he in other words it's not mine 100% it has to be mine 100% so let's let's talk about it a little bit so this's a tysus over here gar I need to get back into the things please it's we we'll work on it afterwards um okay so has over here what about every time you take a from somebody and the guy says you can't be you you he's giving it to you for a moment to go like this and then you give it back to him you don't have the right during that time to give it thear just made a statement any Matana that you cannot make it hegdish it's not a Matana so then if it's not a mat it's not that wasn't it has to be so question and that's what he was basically saying what if a guy gives a gift and says I'm giving you this gift I'm buying you a car a father tells a son for your 16th birthday I'm buying you a brand new sports car on condition I know that you love the B mdash on condition you never give it to the B mdash is that a gift or not yes it's a gift but thear just said that if you if you give a gift on condition that you don't give the B it's not a gift says tus and here it is can look inside but tus says on the bottom the meant to say is any gift that's like It's Tricky it's a trick he had no intention to give it to him it was just for one purpose that his father could go in there he didn't care for a second that that's what the gor means that it's not a not that you have to have it's not a blank statement you have to have the ability to give it to no it has to be a real gift when I give you an N it's 100% a real gift for these five minutes over here it wasn't a real gift there's nothing real about it was just so that his father it's words just playing with words so that his father can come to the wedding that's not all right beautiful piece of had 0 30 of them had were were so great that they could have had the like and 30 of them this the famous story that stop the sun should stop the stop so 30 of them could have made the sun stop they had the they were great enough for now M also had his Sun stop but he's above he's he's already he's that's already different by esim so we have 60 so far 30 and 20 how do you understand the what's greater than stopping the Sun or they're below stopping the sun huh you say greater and you say what do you say how did you learn in Suka below wrong means I know that's why I'm asking because it sounds the way the gor always talks is it's the two extremes the top and the bottom and Bim goes in between so B are even greater than stopping the sun even greater okay that's why you come here there are sometimes not so like I said before of what of the entire all 80 or of the B that's not what said okay it's not okay everything right so I believe the says or Rashi one of them says that it's the greatest of the B re so if you notice here very something very interesting just happened oh sorry I miss was going okay listen I'm going to write on the side put it right in there I think also learned the same as you right probably learned it also and he we don't understand we're small we don't I don't understand oh that's what I want to hear from that's all I want to hear from you not this is the MMOs I I don't understand what you say I understand I'm sure most of America wants to hear what how you understand it they do that's why I listen to you they told you mik up mik me up one guy said it don't get all excited no a bunch of guys said it a bunch of guys but not for the to part I think just for stories right let's go now okay it's funny that is funny the smallest of them the smallest you hear what's going on the smallest of the 80 or maybe deba him you know what just happened here they just started putting in these names ran until now but in his generation the youngest of the or the smallest whatever it is they started adding today it's you know whatever it is this rebi this RAV but there's a certain Kua of of the Zas of the the they were named by themselves and now starts who's this you didn't have one like kind of not even one did he missish and every mishna tal is when we have problems like we have in G like you have a contradiction different to infer from a mish that's Tal what's this is what told on like for instance say in a word what do you do with that V the The Gather the fences that why you sitting over there Elvis the who I just put you I was punishing you but I didn't want to put you in the corner in the back I wanted you to come to the front ah I have no idea but okay somebody tell him whatever he wants to do what's so we know the difference is something that a t and could come up with himself with his own logic is something that came from something very specific is the the way the Sun and the Moon work together and Ma and all that stuff so everybody thinks G do me a favor please go back to the thing and forget that forget it for the rest of this year thanks didn't work didn't work next I need this it's more important so a gatria people think well R not people think rash says a gatri is likeo is 52 and so is K and be you know that's a perfect gatria huh Ben that that's that's easy who G says this is what a gatria really means it's when you take a word it's a you take a word the word means says I put myself in the my is in the okay huh acronym that's a huh Donald Trump whatever you put in chat GPT will come out today anybody could be a but there's people that you tell them any name anything they throw up sukum like on the on the spot and they write it's it's a certain anyway the famous that there are for to be able to have a discussion with the and what he gain from that you could do different uh truus you can heal with it or whatever it is theum Rashi says over there that I don't know what these things are to to to to understand how the the palm trees they move and they're discussing discussions the says very interesting he says I'm telling you that didn't spend his time learning these things like he's saying that a person has to be Shak in learning not in understanding how treeso yet when a person is involved in learning he gets gifts he he starts understanding things there a story about when he was in the mirr so they told that this individual is not learning mus like everybody else see he said he doesn't have to learn mus he gets his mus from the from the G and you'll see one day he'll be a big b mus he'll already write his own and says well that was that was because back then like he was into his learning and he didn't really think that much about I love this one understand the discussions of the and great things and minor things what does that mean a great thing that's to understand what's going on up there this is a Pella what's a small thing the entire sh so everybody asked what does it mean it's isn't that life that's what we that's what we're supposed to be doing supposed to be learning so says that he asked a question guy's walking by a river and he sees a three-year-old drowning he jumps into the river with his wallet with his cell phone with everything soaking clothes comes out with the baby what did he just do that's unbelievable five minutes later he's walking down the street a guy comes over and says listen I I can't eat I have nothing to what should I do I need something he takes out of his W he gives him $20 he said no which one is the D cuton which one is the D GLE so he says the D coton is saving the baby and the D GLE is giving the guy $20 why he says there's not a single person in the universe that would walk by a river and see a three-year-old drowning that wouldn't jump in and get him and if you if you walk if you keep on walking something's wrong with you you have to go into a mentalist institution it's not a big okay you did a great thing but to do it that's easy to do says but how many people are asked for money and they go I forgot my wallet I don't know I don't know come back later you know that kind of thing that that's and you did that you have you have the ability to walk away and you don't that's so says it's this is life can't do without it it's not it's not big sitting and learning that's obviously has more than the for us to be involved versus learning we have to be involved in but that's that you have to everybody has to says I'll give is 310 worlds for those who I love so there here let me see if I can find it here he says the famous I'll give you 310 worlds why does a person get that is it for the he does is it for because of the that you learned I'm giving you worlds says thing just told us he [Music] knew everything everything everything everything what was what was he doing all day long all day long we know about seven this and that con learning mass mass mass so you can imagine Z was different level different generation with all that and when he walked in the street what was he doing thinking and learning all that the gor says about him never in his lifetime did somebody ever say hello to him before he was able to say hello to them even a go was when he walking down the street he was a and this comes first not me no CU I'm saying sometimes I walk in the street and I say hello to people and they do like this to you know who I am you know what I'm thinking about right now it's I'm gonna say hello to you you know what I'm saying sh without the beard I'm not going to say hello to you what was the last time that happened I'll tell you so I'll tell you something I told it happens off he says I went to a r the I told the r the I said why don't you guys say hello to me like this like I said hello to this guy this guy so what if you're different he says I can't believe it so the next day the guy that never said a back to me and I said I tried it 10 times I promise you and every single time I see him on Friday night because we come out show he says the worm and he gave me and he gave me an invitation to his son's and I don't even know the guy the r did something over there I don't know what happened wait wait to [Laughter] say anyway is Sayo giving out the coffee I don't know it's all it's all part of it eding me this making somebody feel what does it cost money to say hello to somebody in the morning am I there's a guy here guy he does the streets he he sweeps the streets every morning Ethiopian guy I say hello to him he gets so [Music] excited screams from the h yeah why not what's the big deal morning for no I don't have time give you a long really yeah he's like ethiopan Rabbi whatever they call really Raa okay is he religious oh yeah has s sometimes no I don't know he's a oh sorry the famous if this is the smallest of the so certainly who received the gift over here theha certainly he knew all the stuff and he did all these things [Music] when he was learning toy the toy was so powerful that any bird that flew over him immediately burnt we even have a picture of the a video of this bye a hazard reported ahead proceed with [Music] caution you got a ashy approval I'm waiting for a non-ash approval I want him to say one day that wasn't good reell that wasn't not to my liking one day yeah no I think that this wrote down twice about maybe the other place it says also of birds it could be right doesn't because every time a bird passes by burns up so he never gets a chance to hear the conversation there's a first of all I have to tell you this this is the classic but we have to say it for those who don't know was walking to the k and a bird did what a bird needed to do on his hat takes off his hat he says you know when he walked when he was learning T every bird that was above him burned I'm not in that madrea but at least the bird trembled with [Laughter] fear I see didn't know that one says the look can you imagine the just any bird just burns so the looks at him says listen but is is it or is it what is it who oh who owes who for the bird and the Spy overheard this whole thing says but could we eat the bird could you have the bird okay soinski says because a lot of times people when they get too involved in they for a while they have a lot of things they don't want to compromise on and they have a lot of things that hold them back so you go to to say that these it should be like it should be burnt burn all your burn all your all your demands all your stuff and come nice and fresh into the parish and finally people ask what about Hill if burnt a bird what about Hill so some want to say that H even if it was more than different thing but the once said I believe he said this that there was a there was a there was a big a big Conference of some sort I don't know if there whatever it was and they wanted to bring women and there's a big tumml no women yes women no the whole it's not appropriate they should be on the balcony so said look I could see sometimes the tal like everything everything next to him Burns they burn everything burn but sometimes the the god the the one in charge he he has to be calmer he has to take it in and not burn and then and not be as as you know something like that huh right yeah everybody saw boom boom boom huh himself to exist yeah imagine if didn't do that yeah says the a person looks at his son and he says this is my son neon oh so we have a video for this also it's not the same one as yesterday don't get nervous my dear Sons I have to tell you that I have another son what why didn't you tell us hey Hello nice to meet you me and my nine clone Brothers [Music] hello ashie that was that was pretty darn good okay I'm not asking you anymore that's the last time I'm asking you they all said hello at the same exact time that would be better okay I don't know that might be actually that might be the last time I'm asking you for approval but if a person asks you coming to shabbaton I wish I before you know some guy watching the sh like oh here's Ash no no no no no it's Bader I got the approvals over here leave it as a family has to take care of thatat what family okay believe yeah com I know I know so says the mishna if a person says this is my son we believe him if he says this is my brother we do not believe him just what what does that mean here we got a some fish let's say these are the brothers ruim are brothers Ru on the left says he has another brother so what you do is the guy that he introduces to everybody else he must take care of him with the yusha the other two brothers don't have to do anything according to them he's not a brother you want to say he's a brother so you give him yusa so what do you do no way it's only us three so you divide this van in half in threes and the third that this guy is on he gives him part of his van it's interesting yesterday there was a guy I wasn't paying attention and I don't think Yoshi did but there's a guy that comes to the shear and he has three of these Vans right behind the the sh over here three of them and he was laughing the whole time like yeah huh he has eight of those vans but not in the parking lot over here in the parking lot yeah because he has crazy amount of these binged up V and he takes from his Shear from the brother that Ma what if the brother dies check this out look at this ah comes takes him so who gets the part that the brother that the S who gets the dead guy's part the original guy that gave it to him the other two brothers can't say oh he had yusha now we're his brothers let's take it so what's the is what if the little mouse guy won the lottery then everybody gets to Shear in the lottery it's only that piece of the van that they don't get this Shear but if they got he won the lottery then everybody gets because it's from a different place what's that that this is my son what's the what's that for okay your son it's my son my son means you get toha the and because he has a son right before he was about to pass on to the next world he tells his wife by the way I have a son you're not in anybody doesn't know what yum is real quickly the baldman brothers this guy goes bye-bye so now this guy has to either marry her or do KH says so says Rashi so of course he could say that he's my son so that he could get inheritance why because if he wants he could give him a gift today it's AIG says I was going to say the rasham here and I even printed it says that migu only works backwards I'm sorry from here on out from here back for all but anything new that he accumulates later the Mig doesn't work and the difference between that and you can look at T on top he just says it in two words let me just see here I touched the wrong button by mistake this one when it comes to we don't says we know that this so the question ises the Mig work forwards backwards it works [Music] but we didn't even know that he has a son so M only works uh from whatever he has today but not for the future say to say that this son she doesn't have to do it's that's why we said I need it for the second part for the brother I know you're all like Pennsylvania not Pennsylvania right can't even but we forgot about it we're in a different world now tomorrow might be a whole new world we also learned that it's a person who says I have sons NE he's believed let's say he's one of those people in the 72% that didn't get along with his wife and he really wants to give it to her right before he dies like that woman always say this is a crazy story woman didn't speak to her sister her entire life her sister came to say her on her last last day so with her last breath she says I want to tell you something and she bent down and she whispered in her ear something and as she whispered she bit her ear and then she died and then so there people that are like so this husband like as one last by the way I have a brother in Russia what and he goes bye-bye so now she doesn't have a child from him and now she needs but he's in Russia where what who that's it she can't get married for the rest of her life he's not believed so we already said that if he says when he's dying I have sons neon so I don't need this to tell me that if he has Sons he's neon that she doesn't have to do he could give her a get right this a the two are needed the two are needed one we don't know that he has a brother so we don't know that he has a brother and we don't know he has a child he might have a child and he might have a brother or he might not have a brother so what is that called there's two Spas here maybe has a child and she's part from and even if he he doesn't have a child maybe he doesn't have a brother and she's part from so it's two possibilities we believe him to say that he has a son but the other case is that we know that he has a brother so now she's and even so he's believed to say I have a son and you from so that's why I need both cases [Music] say in the name of in the name of remember he later on in his life he forgot all his learning that explains a little bit of the what oh I do need to do sponsors turn the by the bich family and by Glen esterson Jacob Isel thank you for bringing the da into my life says the why did they say that neon that if I have a I have this is my son he's believed he has because if he said there somewhere that says that if a husband he could say if he would say he's believed a person is believed to say he divorced his wife so and and she would be Potter from so he's also say he could say now I have son she's from and then after repeating this says I can't believe it like we say today it's in this week's in the par it says he talks about that he the people say I don't understand this he says um you explaining aishna with like a from later generations that a husband that would say it's very similar but slightly different we have to say what we said is why is a person believe to say that he has a son somewhere not because if he said it but because today he could divorce his wife right now as he's saying I have a son he could also pull out a get and say he's not basing it said he's basing it on that you could do right now today so since you say that you could say this idea of since he has the ability right now today to divorce his wife therefore he's believed to say that he has a son a husband's believed to say divorc his wife let me ask you a question Adam come and say this woman was misana says the husband don't worry about it she wasn't misana I divorced her a month ago she's not believed or not believed huh you say believed he says not believed I love it h no the answer is he's not believed not believed but says he's believed to say he divorced his wife so what's the difference very good what's your name again Mi mat mat says the past he's not believed the future is believed says have to remember that so what do we do here what do we do if you don't believe that that a husband could say I I divorc my wife so then who said a husband could divorce right now it goes flying out the window so which one is it over here it says before says himself it's a contradiction it out who do we have here let's zoom in his face oh wow so we're holding an Al we're holding Al when he says I divorced her a month ago he's not believed but if he says I divorce today he's believed from here on out that's I'm believed to say divorce today but I have one question we'll do it in one minute why not somebody said Trump says I divorced my wife a month ago so for the month the whole month from today back a month we don't believe him but can we believe in that he divorced his wife what is that called the first word on top I believe that I don't know about split his words or not in one sentence crazy story here we pass like time a person testifies about his own wife being M with somebody else now he's close to his wife he's biased his wife he cannot testify about his wife believe it or not we kill the N We Trust his testimony what is that called We believe him on half I believe that Ru is a he's with who that I don't know about I'm not going to listen to that it was his wife cuz he's biased his wife but I believe 100% together with another Aid that he was so you see right it's a crazy case how how does this work we kill the guy and not the woman unbelievable in one word that explains all thing I believe this guy 100% when it comes to ruing and I don't believe it when it comes to shim so I'm not dividing his words I believe him 100% on a whole part M over here we want to we want to take his his words and split in one person was this woman divorced or not divorced in that one lady I want to say that she's divorced but not from Nissan okay that you can't do that's have a wonderful day and [Music]