Cut The Cord Already! #MentalHealth #ParentingTips #SelfLove #EmotionalWellness #boundaries #jewish

I once heard a son tell his mother he went through a heavy Journey his mother said could you give advice now after you went through this so he says yeah that you shouldn't take on my anxiety when I'm going through an experience cuz then you become part of my problem you can be part of my solution it was very profound and I say what do you mean what am I I'm going to un blend from you I'm your mother you're part of me you're me how can I but the truth is as they say on the airplanes when you have oxygen now you can give your child oxy if I'm choking and I'm in such a difficult State and the reason I'm so difficult is because I'm so selfless cuz I'm worrying about everybody else besides me what type of mother am I giving them what type of Father what type of person am I I'm not I can't even be here for you it's like when a husband or a wife don't have an identity and their entire identity becomes codependent whatever the other one is feeling I have to feel it's not only a miserable way of living I can't even be there for the other person because I'm busy being the other person how can I be there for the other person