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Couples need to trust themselves.
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I need to believe that they know where
they can find connection more than I
can. I can give suggestions, they try
it, it doesn't work. Let's try something
else. It doesn't work. Let's try
something else. It doesn't work. And
we're essentially troubleshooting,
trying to see what sticks. More
effective approach is to empower the
couple to notice when connection had
recently shown up. Maybe it's been a
while, but it was there, which is why
you want it. You don't usually want
something you haven't sampled. And when
they start looking for when they've
experienced connection and start
envisioning what that experience would
look like in the future,
they start realizing what the proper
pathway to connection is. We have our
own interests and because of that, we
try different pathways to connect to
people and sometimes they're not the
correct pathway. They're not it's not
how they like to be connected to.
Noticing when we had had that connection
in the past and envisioning what it
might look like for the future will
actually open the brain to understanding
more pathways of connection for the
future.
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