Counting the Omer - Chesed, Gevurah & Tiferet of Malchut - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] we are in the final week of Surat Romero the week of markets Baruch Hashem since they we missed some of the classes so we'll very quickly recap or go through has a gue violent affair late tonight basalt ocean we're going to achieve it but we missed the hesitant llengua so first of all the entire week we spoke about it on Shabbat is a week of their leadership what's called man--he good I mean we all need to be kings but who is the king and it's a week of about being a leader now in general who wants to be a leader everybody wants to be a leader at some points now it either will come out in a negative way when we try to overpower up other people to rule people to to control people and it can come in a positive way but nevertheless deep down inside we all possess in us this desire to be a leader everybody wants to lead maybe some people model more leaders less leaders but at the end of the day there's a quality that we all possess why because we are an image of a shame where selam aleykum and if a shame is a leader then must be that I have it in me because I am created in God's image it's called that silly me Loki which means whatever a shame has I have whether it's coming out to the surface or not that's a whole different story that doesn't mean I don't have it since the collage what was a leader is the leader of the world must be that I possess this power of leadership in me all depends how it comes out now needless to say that in order to be a real leader has to be done in the right way in a more corrected way where is the right term dismissed but submit to Kenneth there's a tikkun there unfortunately we now sure I'm sure most of you are viewing live the announcement of the embassy in America the American Embassy in you shall I'm and and you see a lot of leaders there and that's where you see the leaders that are the fake leaders there's some really leaders I mean they I took a glimpse I saw it came at the end so I just saw the the goodbyes but I look inside you see a lot of leaders leader of that party a leader of this party a leader of Thieves so there are leaders that are the real leaders and their leaders that are fake leaders now needless to say any type of leadership has to be done in a way that is corrected in a tikkun there's a tycoon there now if the motive is negative and what does it mean negative it will come from ego and will come from power it will come from the desire to control this is coming from a negative way many people want to lead because they want to have the power they want to have the upper hand found the leader I run the shots I call the shots here this is if it's coming from a negative place that word will drive me is power ego and so forth then nothing good will come out of it this is not the leadership that we're talking about this is the unfortunately the quality of leadership that comes out into people in a very negative way if they want to control another person's life you see that in something as personal as marriage but the husband of their wife wants to control the other person or the leader of the house can be again the husband or their wife wants to control everybody in the house then it can be in a job and it can be in a community then when it comes in a very negative way it only comes from power control and ego now we spoke about it a few times we never get got into the depths of it but the teachings of Kabbalah explains before this world was created was another world that is referred to as the world of chaos Ohama Toho and in this world were seven kings and these kings they wanted each one of them wanted to rule it says in the Torah an e/m law I will be the ruler here I will be the key here what does the Torah says later on by email or by emotes by email or by emotes it says and he had control he was the king and then he died he was a king and then he died why this came in a very destructive way what's caused in the spiritual realm what's called severe attack a limb because the control came in a destructive way it came with too much power when something comes with too much power the result will be destructive anywhere you're gonna look at it when there's too much power even if it's sounding good too much of it it will be destructive so previous to this world when the world of chaos the world of tobu these Kings that they wanted to rule the universe but it came from a place of ego a place of I want to control I don't want to share I want somebody else to go no I want to control this is ego this is the power and of course the result was destructive which come what caused the breaking of the vessels and needless to say nothing good came out of that if you want to look at the positive aspect of it then the way the way I want to rule or to control is not to control you is to better feel to make it better for you that's the real leadership a real leader is not that you serve me is that I serve you okay Davila me let's look at Rome or Milan look at our real leaders look at MonaVie know that's a real leader that he cares about you not me that's the real leadership when it comes from ego and the desire to control that's applying in a very negative way but when it's applied in a very positive way then there is no me here is you and how can I make it better for you how can I make your life better how can I make your situation better and that's a real leader now again you don't have to be emotional Boehner or Trump or anything else it's not what I'm talking about even in your own domain you are a leader and what type of leader are you are you controlling your wife and kids are you controlling your employees in a path because you have power you know what you see sometimes you see that they take a person that comes from a very low place and I gave him a position suddenly oh yes control and you see that sometimes in airports or in a different forces that suddenly nobody gets a position and who now he can control you this is called everything know that he's the slave suddenly they give him the the wand to be the king oh now he doesn't do it in the right way rather he abuses the power so there the positive way of applying the leadership power this is when I care about you and not about care about me this is the general idea and crested shoe bomber coats that it's coming from the kindness and the love and the beauty of the power of leadership but right after that then comes the Guha of markets now if you want to quickly conclude the testator of manhood and to to find some way of applying it in my life is to understand that I do have these powers in me of a leader but it has to be applied to give to give it to other person to lash peer to benefit somebody else so I have to find or in my life I can actually be their leader can be my kids can be my wife okay be my employees and you can be whoever whoever I wanted to be but how am I am applying the destroyer ship by controlling them or by never giving them a better name if I'm the leader in my household then if I'm the strongest that I should be the one who's carrying the heavy things not the rest sometimes you see a family the husband gives orders the husband the father you care release you care that you're the strongest one why are you giving the little kids to carry stuff well you see the woman carrying all the suitcases in the which is nice suit so nevertheless this is one example of many how are you applying your leadership powers are you giving are you taking when it comes to grow up well there's many ways how to look at the power of Allah specifically when Google is mixed with manhood it has a very unique power and this unique power is called concentration or you can call focus and when you apply Guha that is attached with the sphere of manhood is how are you able to focus this power some people have a lot of power they don't know how to focus it look for example in the world of the martial arts how do you think they break bricks and tiles and bottles it's only focus only concentration and then the power it comes out with such a force that that allows the the human bless you to break something that it seems unhuman how can you do such a thing so we all have we all possess unbelievable powers in us we just don't know how to focus them most people they have zero of ability with concentration and focus they all over the place there to find a person that is very very organized and knows how to control his time his thoughts his actions his words it's a very very very unique character trait but nevertheless we all have that just you know how to focus your your power most people are very they're so unorganized then they'll have a nine hour day of work they'll they'll won't be so productive in those nine hours because they worked for ten minutes then they check the emails in the chick that walks absently their core phone : they're all the place and they're not productive and some people they know how to focus their energy and they'll do in two hours with somebody else within ten hours specifically the combination of Guha all my words is to know how to take this power of concentration of focusing and and to know how to use it the right way and everybody has that you just need to know how to do it nevertheless too much love or only love is not good in any situation has to be the power of gwah the power of of a contraction on the limitation but then this is where you see the Guha is really a completing peasant because too much hazard is not good it has to be the power of control the power of Google now amazingly in a few days we're going to celebrate the holiday of Shavuot Sheva watts is the holiday when we were giving the Tala you know how the Torah was given me PA gua like because I was given from Gugu ah that's how it says ba gua sha man with the scent of the boat we heard the set of the world from the power of gua but nevertheless it was full of Crescent so how is the facet being able to be given to us only this gula only when there's a focus of power now if you have unbelievable power physical power or emotional power but you don't know how to focus it your power is worthless this is a mass and again taking the same same example and what I said with martial arts with breaking something oh it can be even there in meditation you have unbelievable power but it's not concentrated it's way too and if they're scattered that's the word I thank you I was about to say it separated but it's the power is too scattered we need to know how to gather the power that I have me in such a concentrated way but in a very monitored way that it's coming out in a very positive way this is the gua of manhood is to know how to take this unbelievable power of Cresson but to contract it and to put it in a very focused way that way I'm able to apply it in a much much better way and like I said the Torah as full as the Blessed it is it was given from the side of guellen-- so nevertheless the guevara and the custard they complete each other now how is that - - if I want apply it in something something practical I need to know how to take all my good will my good thoughts my desires that are all positive it's called a Sun table I have a red zone in me a desire in a will some of it is for good things someone with this or not good things sometimes there are no people that they all right I wish I had a lot of money I would do so much charity with it okay but you don't have the money right now why can't you do the charity without the money there are my money doesn't matter you can do charity with your time you can do charity with your with you whatever it is with your car with that's the matter so sometimes I have a lot of sonto I have a desire but nothing happens there the gouache remember what is to know how to concentrate it to focus it so actually something happens from that to want something there are people if you want to take it to a completely different direction a lot of people they have the desire to stop doing something that is not so good whatever it is right now they have the desire but nothing happens it can be something as bad as drugs alcohol smoking draw or gambling can be things that are much less than that but nevertheless having the desire that's very nice of you but if you don't know how to focus it it's in order to apply it this desire is worthless so the practically saying is to take to focus on something that I have the good desire or at some table but you know how to focus it in order so I can actually apply that now if I have a lot of good will and nothing is done that's worthless and you can have a lot of good intentions you can have amazing intentions to wake up tomorrow in the morning and show up to the minion but your intentions are worthless if you actually don't do it if you don't gather the the good will the desire and you actually make yourself get out so what good is it that you have a good intention we still need you in the minion so practically saying is you have to concentrate and to find where do I have a good wheel a desire but I'm not applying it and I'm not doing anything with it and then to know how to focus it into a way that I actually apply it now comes the third of the triangle which is the ferret what we're going to be reading tonight rosada shame or shoulder Steve on the head of the month and we mentioned that the ferret is beauty now what is the beauty of manhood the beauty of mouth is harmony when things are relaxed when things are working out and things are working in a very harmonious way now the right way when you know how to empower the mood within you the result will be to reveal this beauty and I like I said we all possess these videos we possess these character traits I just need to know how to bring it out to the surface so the right way of applying malkhut within me is that I know how to reveal this beauty that everything is harmony everything is good and well now manhood is also can be can be cold as milling man if he's a king I mean well hodiza is a kingship a kingdom but comes from the root melly-mel f is an acronym of more live covets more is a brain live is a heart and cavities and liver if a person has harmony between these three then the person will function the right way physically healthy emotionally healthy mentally healthy and so forth that's what differentiates us from animals that with animals the heart deliver in the brain are horizontal humans it's vertical brain heart liver that's what makes us different than an animal that's why animals don't know how to control their emotions or their a their instincts a human I mean most humans also don't know how to control their emotions and and their instincts and their desires but mal hoods there is an organized way of war to say so I'm took in it that is a tikkun here then you have this hierarchy everything in the world has our key if there's no hierarchy then it will be anarchy that's how you say anarchy right so if there's no hierarchy then it will be anarchy so I need to know how to balance that my more heart/liver are one above the other and the right way is that my mock my mock my brain is referred to my intellect my heart refers to my emotions and my liver is referred to my physical needs our physical needs whatever it is I need to know how to converse with my intellect with my self to control my emotions and to control my physical needs this is the way I reach to harmony and this is the defendant of alcohol that I'm able to bring out the beauty of them on hoods why because I'm able to control I may be to control my emotions I know it's not easy to control emotions sometimes you overexcited sometimes you depress you're sad you're angry you're disappointed but nevertheless even with all these bad character traits emotions of disappointment and sadness depression you still need to know how to control that because there's a higher power that is causing the disappointment or the depression sadness and so forth so the beauty of manhood is when a person is able to take his emotions and his needs and control them with emotions I'm not it's much harder but with the needs not sure a much easier task you need to you need to control your physical needs I mean what kind of a person can control it leads that again that there's no harmony in the system an animal can control it needs if you can't control your physical desire urges and needs this is a not the correct way to conduct yourself so there beauty that the ferret of market is to know how to align it the right way that the more shall it'll live the mind is controlling the art and of course controlling the the covet and this is the beauty of month what is the harmony now practically I mean again we like taking everything practically even though very soon we're finishing this whole seven week hard work of ours this but nevertheless this should take with us for the rest of the year not so what if the oval is done don't look at it take the classes and apply that how do you practically apply the TIF eret of Marco the beauty of Marcos that you have to be aware how to listen to the needs but for somebody else their physical or emotional needs I barely know how to control my own but I don't need I don't need to control yours but I need to listen to your needs and to your emotions this is how I practically apply the ferret of manhood that I whether it's my wife my kids my neighbor a stranger in the street that is standing next to me in the bus stop whatever it is everybody has emotions and everybody has needs most people if you're gonna come and tell me right now I'm depressed I need to hear this guy's headache I need to now here somebody is now bothering me because he has a emotional problem and needless to say their needs how many times people turn around to you and you brush them off right away because you don't feel like dealing with somebody else's needs or their emotion so practically to apply that this is a real leader by the way we talk at them we're talking about the week of leadership you want to take charge you want to become a leader Hashem will constantly bring people to you to share with you their emotions and for whatever reason I don't know what they chose you but they chose you to tell you how they feel today I'm sad today I'm excited today I'm depressed whatever it is so instead of showing somebody off wait a little bit listen so every minute I have an opportunity here to a little bit work on my air temperature bomber hood to listen to somebody else's emotion emotions and needs and this is how you become a real true leader is because you care about somebody else and on yourself and you want people were they like talking they don't like listening unless you get $500 an hour as a shrink and you can listen $500 an hour I would listen to everybody but nevertheless but we don't get that amount of money so but still we needed to know how to become a leader and the leadership here is to wait a minute other people sometimes just needs to get something off their hearts and maybe I'm the one maybe I'm the one that will take it and you never know you might be a good source of inspiration oh if you'll do if you approach this transaction of this encounter already in a negative way I don't want to hear your head your problems then you'll then you're already blocking and nothing's gonna happen but if you seize the opportunity and a person approaches you they already want to tell tell you what they're going through or their needs and you humble yourself and say okay let me listen to this person or give in to three minutes let me see you never know you might turn to be a very a very powerful source of inspiration or solution and then you become a leader you become a mush selim a low-key kadosh book who wants to listen I mean when you have issues and you want to talk to the calash boho you want him to listen you go to the Kotel you're not clear hello hello everybody's putting their notes there so what do you think a shipment is gonna brush you off how many times when you are in need you talk to the Kailash Mahal same way the cat logical who is the leader is the king of the world if he has time to listen to you so much more so I have time to listen to somebody else and I need to know how to empower this tell me Loki in me and that's why this week is a very powerful week it's the week when we conclude all this fear out there everything funnels into the sphere of our food and I need to know how to bring it out to the surface because that's gonna make me a real human being a real Adam why because I'm created in the image of a Shem so there's other sheriff to take care to take this week seriously and to know how to apply it and needless to say even though the the period of the Hormel is over doesn't mean that homework is done and you go on a summer vacation for 11 months now rather take this take this all this approach and who constantly recycle it rinse and repeat and rinse and repeat why because this is what really defines you as a human and not as the husband of an animal or something worse than that we want to refine ourselves the whole point is to reach to a level of tikkun whether it's my own take on the of the society or the automatic owner the takuna of the world and that can only happen when I know how to so to apply that in a practical way [Music]