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Connecting to the Shabbat Prayers - Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky
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just sit even when there's no camera I
just sit by myself and I talk and you
know so once a week we actually bring in
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it but I'm always talking so uh it's a
pleasure for me to be able to reach out
and share ideas with you so uh
as we have said throughout K should give
us a Yeshua and a
hat uh I wasn't the only one who said
there's something Messianic about this
it feels very special and like when I
went to Rabbi uh Bulman and Mosher Shiro
when the Twin Towers went down they both
told me the same thing this is the
beginning of
gogogo and uh the uh
the B who took down the Twin Towers are
continuing it's amazing when you listen
to these people because sometimes they
say it never happened it's all lies it's
Israel lies it never happened I there
Hamas videos that they themselves filmed
nope it's all AI generated it's all
phony it never happened and then they
say we hope it happens
again why would you say you hope it
happens again if it never happened and
then they say it never happened but if
it did it's
Justified so you know make up your mind
did it happen did it not happen is it
Justified do you hope it happens again
you know you find the same thing with
Holocaust deniers they say oh the
Holocaust never happened then we hope it
does it's
like
oh so uh Aisha is going to hopefully
take all of our sorus away and in Theus
of all of the kadim who uh gave up their
lives and in Theus of all of the Brave
individuals who are out there fighting
and uh uh you know it's pretty scary my
son-in-law went off the grid he told his
wife you can't reach me I'm going off
the grid I I had a suspicion that he was
part of a secret group that went to
Yemen to take out the missiles but he he
will neither confirm nor deny where he
was
but
uh has to protect us and has to save us
and we have to turn to
K to save us during these difficult
times so I'm continuing the series that
I've been doing and it's so interesting
I I actually gotten some interesting
feedback and people say you know I'm
really surprised you've never spoken
about shabas
beforehand and I didn't realize you have
so much to say about it that You' never
talked about it no I told you I got lots
to say about everything you know and uh
uh my children made me a birthday in a
very nice restaurant because they wanted
to go out to a very nice
restaurant I was
the you and uh so um but they played a
game and the game was that they would
take three cards there was piles
um you know a subject a a person a place
and they would put the three of them
together and I had 30 seconds to prepare
a two-minute speech on it I had no
problem because I could talk about
anything but uh some of them are really
very impressive I have to
say should have recorded it we could
have put it up gotten the
sponsor they could have paid for the
meal but anyway the uh uh there's
there's there's plenty say so comes to
chabas you know uh there's a lot to talk
about so what I want to talk about and
this
episode is daving Thea of
chabas and uh bed next time I want to
talk about zirus I don't know if I can
get it in on one but I'll try and you
find uh that daving is sometimes
accessed in in the Z themselves that
makes reference to different aspects of
the doing so um uh the doing is
interesting so let me try to focus on
this one of the challenges abouta and we
had a a series abouta already I'm sure
you can go back and find them wherever
you find podcasts are available if
assuming they have a search uh search
box should be able to find where we
talked about the filer but um one of the
complaints people have
is that it tends to be the same thing
right so when you're young the dining
still holds a certain amount of
Adventure to it you know I see with my
own grandchildren they start they add
this F they had that but by the time
you're in high school and you more or
less got it
down over and over again yeah it's not
as bad as the first Orthodox Jew who
went in into space you know circling the
Earth every 15 minutes you understand
that's much worse but uh it's the same
exact
Shon same exact sh over and over and
over
again and uh the reason for that is
because every day is basically the
same yeah we we we may feel differently
during the
events and there may be more dramatic
events and less dramatic events life
cycle events bring their own uh special
twers with them but if it's a regular
day you're not getting married you're
not getting buried you're you're not
having a baby you're not having a
bris Mitzvah you
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know anything like that it's basically
the same day yes this day is better this
day is worse wor but Theos were written
by the ano which are people who have
Roes and they were able to put into the
words everything that we need to express
under any
circumstances so we d three times a day
because one is connected Abraham one is
connected Y and one is conned
Yakov so uh
Abraham as we're going through these
paros now Abraham was a person whose
life was a
braa
um I it hit me when I saw this Rashi not
that long ago it says you AB has sa TOA
what does that mean he defeated all of
his
enemies he saw his son
Yak uh married and have children
he saw yesma
Dua he lived to see his father ter du
Chua and uh he died five years early so
he shouldn't see ASV go off the
Der and I thought to
myself could you imagine every single
day of Abraham's life was so incredibly
precious an opportunity to do Torah and
Mitzvah an opportunity to spread in the
world and he died 5 years early so he
shouldn't have the pain of seeing his
grandson go off the
D amazing concept yeah because his life
was
BR so uh
so those of us who don't have that braa
and Ne see children who go off the Der
you understand the pain is such that
Abraham died five years earlier because
that was more merciful than to be able
to see ASV go off the D but his whole
life was BR and that's the
morning the morning is
optimistic because it's day break if you
w to believe yes it's day break anyway
from the 70s but
um uh the the idea of the morning it's
hopeful I remember M once said even for
know New York smells good in the
morning it's it's it's hopeful the sun
is
rising yeah everything is is
there Yakov makes myv why because his
whole life was in darkness and whenever
Hashem appears to him it
was he comes to him at night yeah he has
to steal the bras his brother wants to
kill him his father-in-law wants to kill
him you know he um um he he's fighting
Wars his one daughter gets kidnapped and
raped one son gets captured the other a
sudden he thinks he dead he's got a real
rough life the point that at the end of
his life he says I had a rough life and
he dies in
Gus had had a tough time that's M if
it's
dark at night there's just the mo we
have to hope for the light
we wait we wait uh with that faith that
the sun will rise again that's my that's
yob is a
fascinating
it's everyone gets up in the morning D
shakas I'm assuming if you're Rabbi
olowski show Fish N of course you get up
in the morning go to shakas right yeah
everybody DAV my yeah hopefully we all
go to SCH DAV I remember during SP they
were coming up with all these apps and
these different things to um to uh uh
remember and someone said oh there's
there's this new thing that came out
with it's
called you all remember s it's a good
it's a good schooler but anyway um so uh
so okay but you sometimes get
stuck sometimes you're on in the r clim
Highway and you see people pulled over
to the side of the road
DAV sometimes you're someplace during
the day so okay so when you have a nice
long afternoon in
those Dog Days of August okay but during
this time of year when you have a very
short period of time to be able to get
it in h sometimes
people there's this
expression I have
to Gra a yeah um it's it's not always
possible to to depending where you are
in circumstances to be able to get there
yeah I was once walking with my
brother-in-law many years
ago on our way to Shore and I see the
sun setting in the Horizon and I said h
y son said look how beautiful it is he
says yeah to someone who's already
ding otherwise you see that sun go down
and you're like
yikes so um uh so the uh the
um uh the idea of Min is the Sun is
setting it's not night but it's not
morning and that's
y you know y
uh did not live to see the Gula he
didn't leave
erel he survived the aada
you know he uh got married had children
but he saw ASA go off the D he saw yakob
trick him and take the
bras he lived through this he he went he
saw asa's wives you know bringing Kus to
AAR he had to experience all this and he
knew that Yosef was still alive and he
couldn't tell
yakob when Abraham dies the way you know
yes did
chuva is it
says and yes buried him y let y go first
when y dies ASA goes
first yob is playing second fiddle to
him so uh y did not get to see he didn't
go into the
gullis but he didn't have the bright and
Rosy experience that uh Abraham did so
the point is that we
and although it's the same
words it's completely
different
yeah
um in the 19 early 1970s I think it is
there was an English comedy group called
Monty Python's Flying
Circus and uh it actually came on
PBS it was educational I don't know and
it was extremely
weird and uh um I have something of an
English sense of humor my my humor is
obviously a little weird and that's why
I hear these American speakers they say
I don't know I don't go over with an
English audience I
did I did fine in England because we uh
we all share that sort of quirky sense
of humor I guess but I loved Monty
Python I thought it was hysterically
funny and at least one of my brothers
had to sit with me and we had four
televisions in the house I would always
try to find some place where nobody was
and they would always say this isn't
funny this isn't funny I said so don't
watch it go some place go away from
me so Mii pan had this routine where
they were interviewing this
actor and he says well you know what
goes into delivering your lines he says
well of course you know there's so many
different ways to say it to be or not to
be to be or not to be to be or not to be
to be or not to be to be or not to be to
be or not to be so of VI goes
inflection and he says well yes of
course then there's also
inflection I thought that was very funny
but anyway uh what does it mean it means
you can say the same exact sentence and
it can mean completely different things
yeah I heard an old Jewish comic so many
years ago tells a story where the cop
says you stole chicken he goes are you
stole a
chicken ah he admits it obviously the
way you say it makes all the difference
in the world
yeah uh there's a game show called
Jeopardy came out the 1960s I saw it as
a kid art
Fleming and Don parau was the
announcer I was like each answer was
like $5 and they asked these incredibly
hard questions it's like the only
intelligent you know uh
um game show it stayed on for a long
time art Fleming died and then they
brought in Alex tbec he died and but um
I go and visit my
mother uh I was a rabbi I give shorum
all around the world um I uh am somewhat
respected in the Sor
Community it meant nothing to my mother
but when I knew the answers to Jeopardy
she thought I was just the smartest guy
who ever
lived but the C of Jeopardy is they give
you the answer and you have to put it in
the form of a
question so every now and then they have
Celebrity Jeopardy and I remember this
there was a comedian by the name of
Robert kleene it's a deep cut anyway he
was on Celebrity Jeopardy I don't
remember the exact question but it was
something like he was the first
president of United States and he buzzes
it and he goes George Washington he says
no no no it has to be in the form of a
question he goes George
Washington and then of course there's
inflection you see so I can say the
same but one time I'm saying it from the
view of the optimism of the morning and
one time I say it as the Gathering
clouds of afternoon and I the and the
third one I say it at
night in the
darkness and it's the same words but the
inflection changes
the way you say it is different the
feelings that you put into it and you
can do that which because it was written
by it has that elasticity and
flexibility that you can put anything
you want into
it okay and so you say the
same now
comes that's different that's different
obviously there's a concept of the
and so we say a different amid I can't
say because there's not 18 bras even
doesn't have 18 bras anymore has 19 but
that was only seven yeah and uh it's uh
it's a different the first three are the
same last three are the same the middle
one is about
the but you say the
same the fact is I say
AAL but it stays the
same
R yeah it's different than
the and it has a
special but you say the same
ofer is complely different
day
right so but you say the
same because the idea that the day stays
the same it just has different
expressions of the day is true about
rashash and yum and the Shum and every
single day of the year except
shabas shabas has three separate amas
not the same
one obviously the first three bras last
three bras stays the same but you say a
different one Friday night a different
one shabas morning and a different one
uh by
men there's another difference that you
may have
noticed at night you
say
is and by
is one is feminine one is masculine one
is
plural so there's something going on
here with theis of chabas that's
different than every other day of the
year every holiday every weekday is
something special
happening and that
is uh to borrow from somebody else's
seasonal uh understanding
there's the ghost of shabas past the
ghost of shabas present and the Ghost of
shabas future what is that mean that
means there a past present and
future and that ties in by the way with
the V vo and
V I smell the blood of an Englishman
anyway so uh what are we talking
about Friday night so you know we say
vulu now
created the
world yeah and that's what the BR is
about that shabas is a recognition that
created the world and rested on the
seventh day that is for sure the chabas
of the
past shabas has a special kadha because
Hashem rested on the seventh day and we
rest on the seventh
day and that's that's
vulu that's the Friday night uh
amida that's what we're capturing we're
capturing if you will the shabas of
barus the shabas that was built into the
Bria Shir shabas was not given at the
Bria though was
it Shir shabas was not given until
Hari
maybe it's a
big because when it says that we got
Mitzvah at Mor one of them was
chabas so does that mean that we already
had
a of Shir shabas starting in MAA or was
it we were given paros to learn we
learned about chabas but we didn't get
the SEO of chabas until har yeah so this
a big argument as you say in
m I mean starting at Haren we got
chabas so uh I however you want to look
at it yeah but chabas the obligation of
chabas came with the giving of the
Torah that is the shabas that we keep
now is the chabas of har that's for
Shamu sh
shab
so said
and and gave us the and mitz of chabas
and that's what chabas day is
about it's the shabas of the
present of recognizing that we're
keeping the shabas because Hashem told
us to I isn't it because Hashem rested
yes but that's not
enough we have a but SEO to keep
it yeah it's
interesting we've talked about
this when
the
um
given soem
said which thear and Hedman learns that
a non-jew is not allowed to keep
shabas what uh
amazing concept you cannot keep
shabas because shabas is for
clell yeah it's a bris between us and
Hashem like
bisa like uh like uh you know uh
anything else oi it's an O It's a bris
it's something that is special between
us and KES and the nations of the world
can't keep
it I mean the gar goes so far as to say
that a non who keep
shabas that's very strong
language but the the reason for it is
obviously that chabas is something that
was given to us at har as a unique
gift says to mosu I have one treasure in
my Treasure House something very
precious it's called chabas
and and he gave it over to us now why
that is is a deeper
discussion yeah
um I I give a par the mo shabas so the
one that I gave this past year in pares
Noah called chabas I talk about this you
can listen to that in Greater detail but
um but the Aida of during the day is
talking about us us keeping shabas
because Hashem commanded us to do it and
not because of a remembrance of the past
it's the shabas of the
present when you read the AM
by it's all about the chabus
of y shul shabas a world where it's
going to be completely
shabas six days you work and on the
seventh day you rest and there will come
a time in history where six days you
will work and on the seventh day you
will rest that the whole world will rest
along with
you that's the shabas of the world that
is the world in its completion the way
it's supposed to
be were put in the gy Aiden they were
given one mitzah don't eat from the tree
had they
listened then they would have gone
straight from that Friday into shabas
and that would have been the chabas of
the world of course instead they ate
from the tree and that put us on a 6,000
year
detour and after those 6,000 years comes
the 7th thousand
years which is the I should say seventh
Millennium I guess you would say where
it's y Shak shabas it's all chabas and
that's what the world is leading to
that's what we're heading
for uh a world that's completely
shabas and that's the
um that's the concept and that's why
when you come to we'll talk about this B
next time when we talk about zirus the
zirus of shes are all the
um
the talking of this closeness to Hashem
did
nees yeah I'm I'm I'm hard I'm I'm love
sick for Hashem yeah it's it's very atic
about this tremendous connection
to and so it builds shabas it goes
Friday night to during the day to shalis
and it gets more and more intense so
that shalis is the most intense time of
chabas filled with the greatest
potential of
Kad yeah one is feminine one is
masculine and one is
plural so in Judaism everything is
masculine and
feminine right everything has every noun
is either masculine or feminine we have
no neuter
terms there's no uh uh um
you
uh
Indiscreet it's a ATM and aten H and H
yeah everything is masculine and
feminine there's no there's no
Z for those who may be into that you
know our pronouns are he and she that's
it we only have two in Hebrew there's
nothing else everything is masculine
feminine and everything every
noun you know is is either masculine or
feminine so our relationship to shabas
is either we're relating to it as a man
or as a woman what's the difference
between the two
so uh a man is mashia and a woman is a
maab let us take the simplest example of
a man female relationship where you know
who the man is and who the woman is I
know this is no longer politically uh
acceptable to say this but that's
because the world has gone nuts and
eventually I'm sure they'll find their
mind
one can hope but uh and that
is when it comes to creating children
which is a very distinct men and women
have a very specific role in that yeah
so the man makes a
contribution an external contribution
and the woman internalizes that
contribution and uses it to create new
life and that's why sh as man and female
the rain comes down and the Earth takes
it in and produces life it's the male
female relationship so the one that is
mashia and the one that is mael that's
how it
goes
so Friday night
is it's the feminine manifestation why
because Hashem created the world and
said to us I created the world and you
are receiving this from
me you you're you're not you're not so
much a participant in this as much as
you are just the one who
is understanding that I created the
world and that's what you need to
do that's the female
manifestation parenthetically if I can
say this without uh getting too graphic
you know um in this process of
contribution and receiving so the man is
usually in the top and the woman is on
the bottom and that's why Friday night
we cut the bottom kala because it's the
feminine manifestation of
shabas shabas day
we were commanded to keep the Torah now
the Torah is on us we have a
SEO you know we now need to go out and
do shabas not because Hashem did chabas
but because he told us you do
shabas that's more of the masculine
that's more of the
Mas that's why we cut the top yeah
there's a there's a the
higher um level here where we're saying
I'm doing shabas I'm not just receiving
chabas I'm doing
shabas that's the second
one and when we look at our relation
with now remember we came out of
MIT and we had to become adults we had
seven weeks to become an adult that's
how the um how the gamar puts it that um
we were born at y MIT and we stood at
har to receive the Torah as adults we
grew up in seven weeks and at har there
are many kazal that compare the giving
of the Torah to a
wedding where the two of us came
together and that is the chabas of the
future where we're in this world to
accomplish
something we struggle during this world
during these 6,000 years to be Ro to
have a place in your mashia that we can
make the world the way it's supposed to
be not just sit back and say okay this
is how it is but to go out and do to be
attacking the world to do something with
it and when we do then us and can join
together that's the two of us are
together
which do you
cut yeah so uh it's ironic you don't
really need L mishna says the Taz for
shalas and his riah is that a every day
M would fall they made it into two
loaves they had one in the morning one
in the evening and Friday a double
portion came so they made four loaves so
they ate one Friday night excuse me they
had one Friday morning and then Friday
night they still had three kalas left so
we had they able to use m
and they ate one and then shabas morning
they still had two loaves back left so
they did but shalas they only had one
left so there was no for them to make a
on so that's why he says you don't have
to not everyone agrees yeah but uh but
the the question of which one you cut M
you'll cut the top one because uh on if
you cut the top one you always do the
first the one that's on top right away
you don't want to pass over a Mitzvah
but the point is that the daring is set
up in such a way as to take us through
the three aspects of shabas the fact
that there was Hashem created the world
the fact that Hashem gave us the Torah
and in the Torah told us give the shabas
and the chabas of of a world in
completion where us and will come
together we should be to be able to see
that quickly and when we dive in on
chabas we should understand that the on
shavas are not just like on a regular
day with the with the inflection changes
where the feelings change but in fact
there's three separate aspects of shabas
that we're
acknowledging okay and that brings us to
the question and answer
portion and uh I should point out that
um um when I H did my uh shout out to my
friend mendle from uh from Tor sweets
so um I mentioned Mendel dubinski that's
because I only know two mendal I'm not
counting Mendel the mouse yeah I really
only know two mentals so the dubinsky
are this wonderful wonderful couple that
stayed by our house uh for a shabas they
came from Texas and they were so
inspired by how much food we serve that
they became
from just just to show you and they tell
everybody that they kep from at the
owski house so I misspoke of course it's
my friend mendal Berlin and uh just you
know he says maybe just correct that the
next time fine okay Anonymous why don't
women have to wear
yamakas so we talked about this uh in in
the podcast portion and that is that
there's a difference between men and
women men are external and women are
internal as such men need
externalities in order to keep their
focus right so uh men have a Mitzvah to
wear Fillin with a write on a cloth
remember Hashem and they tie it to their
head on their brain remember Hashem and
they put it on their muscle before you
do something remember Hashem and they
pointed to their heart remember Hashem
they need an external reminder women
don't have to do that because it's
internal they have an internal
power uh the mushro I bring is from a
documentary on this subject that came
out many years ago must be about 50
years ago I'm guessing something like
that called Star Wars wherein uh uh Luke
Skywalker uh wants to uh fight the bad
guys who killed his
parents not really his parents turns out
his father was Darth V but that's
another story but anyway so uh he hang
he joins up with Han Solo who's a guy
who has a blaster and he blasts Bam Bam
Bam but his rebi obiwan Kenobi says to
him you're making mistake your K is on
the
inside reach inside of yourself and use
the force don't waste your time with a
blaster so whereas Han Solo the man is
going around
shooting um Luke Skywalker is just
reaching inside of himself to reach the
force
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and then he can kill everybody right so
that's uh that's the idea so women have
the force it's an internal
thing and what Obi-Wan told him is put
away all these things put away the
computer that's guiding you put it like
this just use the force so women because
they have this internal understanding
they they see things from uh a more
basic level to put something on their
head what's the purpose of yamaka Mal
remember God is above you so a man has
to take something and put on his head
remember God's oh yeah t yeah God's up
yeah for women that's a distraction they
don't need
that they use the force it's on it's on
the
internal they they reach inside of
themselves yeah that's why there's this
very common fight that husbands and
wives have where a wife will say you
hurt my feelings and the husband will
say no I
didn't says I'm telling you I feel hurt
you might feel hurt but I didn't hurt
your feelings I don't know what you're
talking about unless you can prove to me
that your feelings are heart it doesn't
doesn't
count but I know it I know it to be a
fact yeah that's the concept of be they
know they understand they don't have to
have it proven to them
yeah okay next
question by Anonymous does Hashem
actually say he loves us anywhere in the
Torah oh my
goodness
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the and even more love that Hashem told
us that we're b as it says
b not only does hasem say you are my son
as every father loves a child but the
Torah went out of its way to tell us
that we are his children because Hashem
wants wants us to know that he loves
us with great love hasem loves us yeah
there are many other references but
we'll go with that yeah by Anonymous
what is the proper amount of to do and
do you have any that you can offit the
singles in the par I had a
child who had
y had a clean bill of health what you
understand um uh that uh puts you at a
serious
disadvantage and he had a very long
list of what he was looking for in a
girl you
know uh you know a lot of things no I
won't go into all the details because I
don't like to give away everything
because everyone already knows
everything about my life and you might
know this from someplace else because I
have no um inner controls so uh so you
may have heard me talk about this before
but I'm trying to trying to be a little
bit more mature anyway there was a lot
of a lot of things that were working
against his
um uh you know marketability when it
came to
shidokan and uh so it wasn't always easy
to find a girl but he would go out and
he'd say no she doesn't have this she
doesn't have that you know she doesn't
this she not that you know whatever it
is so finally I said to this child
uh look you have to do
hisas and the child said to
me I
am I DAV and I have
B that's all you have to
do and sure
enough uh he found a girl I guess now
you know it was a son who met all of the
requirements that was on his
list and it was a friend of one of my
daughters so so he didn't even have to
go looking for her it was delivered to
the
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house and I looked at this and I was in
the SPO because he was not worried at
any point about any
just and have that's what you have to
do and people can get you
crazy I had a wonderful young lady who
was a former student of mine
and she was working as a secretary for
partners in
Torah basically you know helping to
arrange the shid between the people who
were going to learn and the people who
wanted to learn that's what she was
doing and she wasn't uh getting too many
dates and she calls me up and says the
sh
said that boys uh you know serious boys
learning don't want a girl who's in C of
so should I quit my
job now let's be fair she wasn't going
out into town handing out flyers she
wasn't going to uh you know Cod events
she was sitting in an office making
arrangements she said should I quit my
job I said are you helping to be marit's
toyra in the world she says yes I said
my God doesn't punish people who are
doing his rut Zone by telling them that
they're not going to get married I don't
know whose God the sh pray to but my God
will not penalize you for doing the
right thing you can't be wrong by being
right can't
be now you know none of my stories have
endings they're all L Fisher stories you
know this one actually have an ending
six months later she met a very nice boy
and got
get but uh I had a girl who was a
student of mine and now she was getting
up in years she was 23 which you know in
The Firm community it's already you know
Ring the Alarm Bells this is not a new
thing and the
gorra uh it says uh you know a father
has an obligation to marry off his
daughter uh but you know at some point
when she becomes an old maid she's out
of his Rus she has to take care of
herself that's 12 and a half so uh you
understand being over the hill is not a
it's not a New Concept imagine the go is
already 13 and everyone's making the
hilling groups but anyway so
uh she wasn't finding uh wasn't getting
too many dates so she says the sh told
me I don't dress right I said you dress
very appropriately she goes I know
that's what they think is the problem
she dress a little tighter a little
looser a little like you
know so I told him but I want a a bentor
goes yeah yeah if you want to get a
bentor that's what you got to
do and she said if the only way I can
get married is to compromise Myas I
would rather not get married
married she also got married to a nice
guy a flip out actually you know M nor
flip out you know so
uhem happily married with Children so
but the point is that you know what do I
do what's the what's the correct you DAV
and you
have and you know do what you're
supposed to do and uh when people tell
you you have to do this schoola and that
schoa you know and say n 40 times and
walk in the middle of the street and hop
on one foot and cluck like a chicken you
know if you have
B and uh um and you uh and and you
DAV there's a a sh inas where there's a
chair where if you sit in this
chair
um um you know you're going to have a
baby when I uh have the to go to South
Africa Africa and I go to juberg so I
stay with the zulberg who are just the
finest some of the finest people in the
entire world anyway so I come there once
and all their kids are big except for
this one little boy who's running around
and I said oh that's interesting because
yes we went to Tas and I told my husband
I'm going to sit in the chair and sure
enough I had a
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baby so D Kaplan who's of course very
famous speaker and educator uh he tells
the story he says that him and his wife
weren't having children and they went
toas and his wife said should I sit in
the
chair and said don't sit in the chair
and then that's you have a
baby so it's a it's the it's the that's
what you have to
do okay CK says thank you so much for
all you sh and podcast and for
everything you do for clly Isel my
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a 22-year-old girl who is passionate
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another uh letter recently from a couple
who's interested in adopting a Jewish uh
child and asked if I know of uh of you
know any means for this and how it goes
about it years ago I met somebody and
I'm talking about maybe 10 15 years ago
who had an organization where if from
girl gets pregnant you know a teenager
instead of you know they they arranged
for her to go out of town someplace have
the baby and then put the baby up for
adoption but I don't remember I have
none of his contact information so I
reach out to my rebowski audience if
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