Concentric Holy Circles | Rabbi Ari Kahn | December 11th 2025

I just want to start by talking about a couple of different structures. We have in the background of this week's para multiple relationships and if you would have paid attention we had that last week and we had that the week before as well and the week before as well but but at this point it gets a little bit more complicated and there's also this question when I did not explain my structures yet there's also going to be a question of self-perception within these various relationships. So some of them we're going to be having some concentric circles. We're going to have on the other hand some van diagrams. We're going to also have our cababalistic spheroid structure. And all of them and and I know I know that I'm talking to myself right now but each one of these reveals something about what it is which is going on. And the other thing which goes together with this is there's lots of pain which is taking place. the some of the pain is generational. You know, we can call some vertical, some horizontal, some is interconnected. You know, you you have uh the complexity of Yakov's life with his again with his brother and then you have the complexity of Yakov's life listening to his mother versus his father and then the complexity of Yako's life with his father-in-law and very much the complexity of Yako's life with his wife and then with his other wife and then with the one who he thought was his wife and and so on. So all all of this becomes extremely complicated but as complicated as that is so what happens when that spills over to the next generation and as I said you know generational so if you're Ruvane and Ruain is a perfect example I mean Ruvane has his own pain or even demons that he's dealing with I mean does Ruvane know at some place in his mind does he know the backstory does he know at some place his mind that his father never really wanted to marry his mother if you really want to think about it and nobody does right nobody does that Yakov is a victim of what legally would be considered rape. You don't like if I say that, right? If it were the other way around, if it was if it was a woman who agreed to sleep with somebody and then figured out it was somebody else afterwards, yeah, that's uh that that would not be considered such a nice thing. You going to tell me just because it's a guy then everything's okay or because they stayed married afterwards is okay. I'm just saying that there's complexity over there. And then how does that impact Ruvane who knows that his on at least on some level that maybe he was even produced by that action right I'm saying does that make everything so much more interesting and so much more complicated and then on top of all that you afterwards have the the relationship between the Reuben and Bilha- which is just going to cause all kinds of other again my concentric circles now or even better here is going to be my ven diagram. So now, how does it impact on the children of Bila and Zilpa specifically? How does that how does that impact on the children of Bilha? Which means essentially he's looking at their mother, you know, meaning how do you get worse than a woman who's guilty of uh of implying that she was somebody else during the relationship. He has now de deg degraded Bilha into being simply uh own something which is owned someone who's owned by the father and therefore it's property and therefore he says you know I could take the property as well which means now these other children have have had their mother abused. So I'm just saying is that there's a lot more pain going on and if we're already talking about pain and sexual misconduct so then how can we avoid Dena? I mean then we have the whole Dena story. So, what I'm just saying is that Ruven's walking around with his pain. Yoseph for that matter has his pain. Yoseph's pain is that his mother has has uh has died, you know, by the time we get to this week's para. So, you you have Yoseph who's an orphan. By who's more of an orphan, I mean, he's younger and therefore again in completely different kind of trauma. And then you have the children of Bila and you have the children of Zilpa. And you have uh you have the you have the children of Leia who all know, you know, where they stand in this. So I'm just going to say is that again I've called this generational pain but I have these if I want to build my circles I can have my my Leia circle my my raal circle my bill is open I can put them together I keep them separate because again there is is different kinds of trauma going on I have the the the dena issue and then I have the shimon and levy response to dena issue and that's phenomenal because according to khazal it is shimon and levy who are the ones who want to kill yoseph so the ones who are so passionate about protecting their sister's honor are the ones who are so passionate about removing Yoseph from the equation. So again there there is something which is really interesting about about this probably the most important relationship which again will have some kind of a inverse at least karma but much more than that will be the Yehuda Yoseph relationship and that's the one which is obvious on a literary level that that that's just has to jump out at you which means again what do we do in chapter 37 we develop the Yoseph character until we remove him from in the story and this is this is really I'm sorry for saying this this is good literature it's great television then then you take him and you put him aside and then what do you do then you build up the Yehuda character and what what per for what purpose do you do this is because these characters are going to meet down the line so just in case you guys don't know parigosh is coming par is coming of yehuda but of course there are other levels to this and that is all of the deception that takes place and there's so much deception that takes place but if you talk about deception which takes place now we can go back to Yakov and we can go back to Yakov in front of his father which means when YaKob's kids are going to deceive him now again I'm going to the generational deception which is taking place and if you want to go to generational so it's not just Yakob and his father it's also Rael and her father right so again there are so many I called it concentric circles but then on top of this there's something else and that is our wonderful cababalistic spher chart where in case This is not easily accessible within your memories. You have on the one hand Ara on one side and on the other side but then you have Yakov in the middle. Yakov is deferret. Yakov is the balance between the two sides. But again you have Mosh Aun on the two sides but then in the middle you have Yseph. Yoseph is the center. Yoseph is Yseph is sadikod. Yseph being the center is the continuation of Yakov. And and that already is the puk in the very beginning of the para told yseph. Now that that that itself is a completely completely bizarre puka told that's not what it should say right and again maybe I'm not reading right. So I'm not explaining anything but you do realize that we have more drama over here which is taking place. You have again we have now new circles our new circles will include well one circle will be you know we'll have our vertical and our horizontal. We have Jacob and Yoseph who are connected and then have Ysef and Benbil and Basil are connected but they've connected but it's an interesting connection because he is shephering them. What an interesting term to be used. He's shephering them. So, is Yoseph a shepherd? Well, I don't know if Yoseph's a shepherd. His brothers are shepherds and he shepherds his brothers. But already an interesting relationship has been uh created. And if all of that is not enough, we're told every single clause in that verse is almost impossible to understand. If I would have started off and I would have said to you, who is Yako's favorite? you all would have told me Yoseph and then I would have counted and said in no place does it ever say that Yakov loved Yoseph more than the others and you would have said but of course it says it and I would have counted and say it doesn't say Yakov it says Israel and then I would have asked you so what exactly is the difference in this context between Yakob and Israel why does the Torah that very much knows that there's two different names and what is the meaning of those two different names what are the implications of those two different names and why over here is it and if you even want to stop after the first clause stop right why he bends low but he's not the benzunim. Why is he not the ben zakun? Because there's been so therefore what does ben zakun mean? So benzunim uncle tells us he's because he's so smart. He's so smart. Not not that he is the youngest son. He is the smartest son. And that actually completely resonates with us because every single person who ever meets Yoseph knows how smart he is. Of course, except for one group of people, our another circle that we have and that is his brothers. everyone else realizes. They can even be staring at him and meeting with him and and talking to him and not know that it's him. And of course, they don't know it's him because how can that be him? Yseph is completely incapable. And that, my friends, is when you completely don't understand somebody's capabilities because of your biases and because your hatred and so on. But everyone else sees it. Everyone immediately sees it. But if that's not enough, then it says that he makes them, which then again, we want to kind of wonder. So what in the world is this konic pass? But I'm going to come back and say something for today for our discussion. The most important relationship that I want to speak about is a do y and and again that's the beginning that's the starting point that leads to the other things that the observation he's a ben zakonim and it leads to the action that makes him pim and some of us who are playing our proverbial Monday morning quarterback we have those in Brooklyn right Monday morning quarterback. So then we would say well what a mistake that was and there is a voice in Kazal that say you know what a mistake you know you favor one kid but it wasn't Yakov who favored the kid it was Yol who favored the kid and and that's something which is critical and that's something which again if if you miss that then like the whole story doesn't make as much sense because as much as we are speaking about family dynamics we're also talking about a nation and within the dynamics of a nation there are other things over here which is taking place but again I want to go back to this a told ysef now if you were to do what I did and that was spend the whole week on this particular point on this point and then you try to search through all the commentaries and midrashimal and uh any other places you can look and and then you would look for real imagined now that that itself is really good real and imagined shot and midrash and I'm not equating imagined with midrash although midrash sometimes is the function of wonderful positive imagination not in not saying anything negative and try to say now what actually is the or is there any commonality between yakov and yose so I have a chart in front of me right now which produces 33 different points of connection between the two of them. I don't know how many I would need to tell you that you would accept and say, "Oh, maybe there really is something going on." And again, I'll right away say some of them are shots, some of them aren't. Meaning, and and some would have thought about and then some others only in retrospect, both of their mothers had a very hard time giving getting pregnant. Both of their mothers had a complicated pregnancy. I mean obviously Rael's was worse than Riiffka's but Riiffka also questioned you know am I going to survive this and again that's part of the background and again admit it you never would have lined those two things up and thought about them but again I talk about trauma so there is trauma over here which is taking place both of them by the way have one brother very different inverse relationships between that brother we have every reason to believe that Yseph is completely dedicated to Binyamin and we have every reason to believe that Yakob and Asov aren't okay. So again, but that's a relationship. Still a correlation and an inverse still creates a uh a relationship. Both of them in a complicated way end up with the status of Bur. Now when I say complicated, different complications, but they both end up with the status of Bakar. Both of them have brothers who hate them. Again, I don't know how many I need to keep on going before we have some kind. Both of them are involved in murder plots. Yoseph of course as the victim and then Yakov also as a potential victim. YaKob succeeds in running away and Yosef succeeds in now I don't want to use use the word running away but I'm sure you can come up with a better word to describe what happened. They both escape. They both end up escaping. Of course, Yakov is somewhat somewhat we'll be careful somewhat engineered by himself, of course, listening to his mother and and and and Yoseph had a different travel agent who arranged for his uh for his travel in order to get to where he needed to get to. But again, they both end up leaving because of this plot in the background to kill them. Now I'll say something which I already said but you didn't hear it necessarily the first time. They're both shepherds. YaKob works as a shepherd but now we find so does Yoseph but Yseph shepherds his brothers. And that of course creates some of our uh both of I I'll call the comp the complications. They both end up spending a extended period of time Yoseph and far more extended outside of the land of Israel even though there is this profound connection understanding so much so that the medish says regarding Yoseph that Yoseph and Gamatria is Tion Yoseph is Zion Yoseph is Tion and the Medish it's a beautiful medish and it goes if you really notice everything about Yoseph has happened to Tion as well they have completely parallels in terms of their existence and it's the beauty of Yoseph and the beauty of of Zion and most likely Zion in this context means and um but there's also another gamatra that it hints at. It doesn't tell you but it also says that they both were victims of jealousy ka. So the same way that Yoseph is equal to 156 you can check at home afterwards and is equal 156 k is also equal to 156. Can you use this? You can't even do anything with this. What value over there? Something that you can't use. You can still but but it is profound children. >> But yeah, okay. It but but it really is profound to understand this about Yoseph. So here's this Yoseph who um becomes the leader of this other place. And here's Yakov ends up spending all the because he got the braha to inherit the land of Israel. So now he has to end up living all these years outside the lands of Israel. So again there there is something interesting and certainly to be compared they both have dreams and that's probably far more important. I'm going to come back to at least some of them. Um I'm skipping lots and lots of these things because I want to get to one particular thing. They both die in Egypt. They both get embombed and they both have their remains taken out of Egypt and taken back to the land of Israel. So again, all of that was easy to kind of not pay attention to except it's exactly the same. So, so and those are the easiest ones. So with all of that, source number two, which is the Medisha says of Yoseph, and again I'm not convinced that that's the way to read it. I think with the Trump it's right. I think that that's really the proper way to read it. But the medish understands that you can't avoid what's staring at you because normally has afterwards. By the way, it shouldn't have stopped there. You should have said Shimon Ley, right? Yehuda. Well, by the way, if you're Ruven and you saw this P, once again, you're going to get you're going to need some more therapy, which means why am I not included in this? Whatever happened to me over here? So, there there there is nonetheless, you know, this mus is telling you something. Why does it say specifically Yoseph everything that happened to one happened to the other? Would I have gotten more credibility if I told you everything I just now did was actually what the medish told us to do. That's the medish. Medra says check. Everything about them one everything one is found by the other now. But it says things here that you wouldn't have accepted necessarily because again much more midashic imagination. Men of Nolah. They're both sadikin from birth. They both were born and they already had a Brit I guess that saved on the bagels or whatever back in in the day. So again that that's something that that if you would have thought about it you would have realized right mother had two mother had two but again that's as we know more complicated Zenistan was hated which nouns you realize that almost everything I just now told you and I just read it as a list you realize it's just stare staring at you in the in the midn that you have to work a little hard to understand each one the their surroundings were blessed with wealth as soon as they arrived. Each one married women outside of the land. This one has children outside of the land. And this one has children outside of the land. This one was accompanied by angels. And this one is a compul angels. So now you have to work hard to say exactly where does that happen? Um in this week's par at least one time where Yakov bumps into this man along the way. >> Sorry. Sorry. Ysef. Thank you. Yseph bumps into the man. So who's that man? Zahish Gabriel. Usually it said this one became great based upon a dream as did this one. This one, his father-in-law's house was blessed because of him. This one to Egypt. One caused the the famine to end, the other caused the famine. Then one caused food to be plentiful. That one caused food to be one gave a commandment. This has to do with after they die. And this one commanded And you saw that I've already laid all that out. By the way, if you want to try harder, you'll look at the very last source which is Rafkasher in his Torah Schlma. This is footnote number six. And he goes off commenting on this idea, giving you a whole another list and much more things to say about it, including he plays with the with the traaf y and yakov never bringing a tra and and and he plays with a couple of other things which goes again beyond what we have here. So if you want to make your list longer, but I want to I want to actually start with uh one of the earlier thoughts that I had this week which was part of the problem is that I had so many thoughts going in different directions. But uh so bal without unnecessary bragging this is just a question of compulsion on my part and that is that I believe learn dafomi every day. So it's not my first time and it's not my second time and I don't think it's my third time and I don't know how many times I do it which means I do it because I can't stop doing it. That's why I'm going to say again it's compulsion but I know that I've already done it before. So I know that I've already learned it and again I'm looking for certain things as I'm learning and but but but you I've done that. So instead of stopping that cuz I can't stop. So I took upon myself to do other things. So I took upon myself to do Mishnaomi. Mishnaomi makes a great deal of sense. Why? Because there's all kinds of Mishna that you'll never get to if you do dafomi. Whole story you're not going to get to if you do dafomi had to do Mishnaomi. But on the other hand, if you want to learn colrakula, then you got get to other things as well. So therefore, I also started bined to do yushami yomi. So uh so so that that's what my early morning is like. I get up at I want to say ungodly hours because I'm involved in godly activities, but I uh I I I tend to it's a good day if I've learned everything before I I daven. So that's that's a good day. that that that that makes the rest of the day much easier. I mean this morning for example I I learned Mishnam only one of I still have another left to do. >> Well what can I do? We'll get back to it later. >> No no no no whatever my my minion schedule is complicated also days I teach and whatever. So here's the interest. >> Sorry interrupt you. I apologize. You can recharge your schedule. It's not somewhere in my schedule. That's all. So they get up for D3 4 in the morning. I do my morning learning. >> Yeah. Yeah. It's the way to do it. >> I do me and then I go to show. >> That's right. I'm saying that's the way to be effective. You have to you get all your learning in before before you actually before before you actually have to quote unquote start your day and then you have a good start to the day. But that's not I I didn't want to simply tell you what I do in the morning. And by the way, get getting when I fall behind or I didn't do everything, then I get to ma early and then then I I'll finish all this before ma if I haven't learned it beforehand. Anyway, I can't tell you the statistical probability of what I'm about to tell you. One of the things in this week's para which specifically intrigued me and I already told you this I don't know if you heard it when I said it was the coat of many colors the pim midashically there are sources I can show you that will connect this coat together with Asov's coat his big mudot which then connects it back to Adam Harishon's and as I said that's an interesting comment But if it is the coat that Yakov took from Asov, then that coat also became the focal point of again we have our generational connection now between the hatred of Asov versus again that's the tangible thing the hatred and on the other hand it is the tangible point of the hatred between Yoseph for others and Yseph which may be the motivation behind the medish again the truth or historical veracity of Midrashim are not as interesting to Okay. As understanding what in the sukum are they trying to explain. So if you hear to say it's the same coat does really crystallize something for us. So the coat was interesting to me. The the specific trauma having to do with the coat is when they rip the coat off of him. And that again we want to talk about trauma. So now Yoseph is is in the pit which is presumably cold and he's presumably scared and we know that he's screaming. The reason that we know that he's screaming is that later on when the brothers finally have this moment of guilt, they said, "But we heard our brothers cry and we ignored him." in real time they just sit down and eat and enjoying a a casual family outing, but later on they admit that they heard his screaming in the in the background and then you just have to try to process that. So how exact you know when somebody's screaming if it's a neighbor if it's something outside it's it's jarring. So therefore again their imagined response imagined sorry the their real response to the imagined cries that Dena had they don't hear it but it's their imagination of the terrible trauma she's going through and then the trauma they put Yoseph through. This is just such again it's our concentric circle over here just pointing out something which is just again we we don't know how in the world they're sitting there how and and now you have to say that hatred must have been just so profound to have allowed this but I I want to go back now that that's part of it and then they take a goat and they kill the goat and they take the blood and they take the code and dip it in the blood. Now, I'm going to tell you where my mind is going with this and then I'll go back to my dafomi. The place my mind is going about here is one of the ideas of the code and again there's there's at least three things I can say about it. one and this is a really easy path is to say that the code has to do with kingship and their response of course to the dream will be what right are you going to be the king over us so kingship is in the air we've discussed this in the past I've written about this in the past and therefore I'm not pursuing this now the other thing which is not mutually exclusive and this is especially going to be true when you get to par it says that originally ruain this is already commentaries I believe the taragum as well that originally Ruin was supposed to inherit three things. He was supposed to be the Bur but as the Bur he was therefore supposed to be the Cohen which means the Bakur and the Cohen are interrelated that Ruven was supposed to be the king supposed to be the Bur double portion and was supposed to be and was supposed to be the Cohen. Ruven ends up losing all three of these things, right? The double portion goes to Yoseph. He becomes the Bakur. The kingship will move over to Ley which is fascinating. The Cohen I said king. Thank you. The the Cohen will move over to Ley when and why and all that takes place needs to be explored. But the kingship will somehow move over to Yehuda. And that's something which is not so easy for us to understand. But it's before that. Ruain has everything and I've said this in the past. He does an action by taking the plegish of his father which is out of the playbook of Adoni Yahu in terms of Davidid and therefore trying to establish himself as the one who will inherit kingship and what ends up happening is that he loses everything because of what he did. So I'm saying seeing kingship in the background is good. But I'm going to say it again that this coat of many colors could be the coat of royalty. And we find it later on in the house of Davidid where you find Tamar and Amnon which again an interesting sibling relationship. You can call it love, you can call it hatred, but again you have a sexual outrage which is taking place and and and it is some kind of echo of all this and this time in Yehuda's Davidid's family but I don't want to move away from the cohain again when we're commanded to where sits it with is a royal color. It's the royal blue. One of the reasons that may have fallen into disuse other than geographical complication of finding the source once you move away from the Middle East, one of the complications may be there were rules as far as what who was allowed to wear which colors. There were royal colors that only royalty could wear. On the other hand, the co when you start thinking about the clothing of the cohane and the cohen especially, you're going to realize that again you look at all the back of some of the kumashim or you look at the books that deal and recreate the colors themselves are royalty which means that this connection between the royalty wearing a royal color or the toned posim being something connect royalty and then the clothing of the coin. So, just to go back and make this easier, when I read that Yakov chooses Yoseph, I put that word in. And Yakov determines that Yoseph will have this particular coat. Did he just now give him royalty or did he give him religious royalty in terms of a role as a cohane? So, let let's just think about that for a second. When you're thinking about Yoseph as Cohane again, why don't you think about this? Cuz it never never manifests itself. Now, you think about them taking the goat and slaughtering the goat and dipping, which means you slaughter the goat and and just realize if you don't, a goat is always a sin offering. All the sin offerings that we have are goats on the holidays, right? They take aim and and andal connected to Y on holidays we're so to gather together as families. We need to recognize that uh that there was a Y again there was there was generational trauma which has happened again happens once and it continues continues and therefore it's something that we need to fix especially when we get to holidays. So again you now you see my mind going on thinking a little bit more about what's taking place in terms of uh of cohain in ter where's the misbeh's beta mikdash over here so the beta mdash has been uh has been replaced what we have instead is yse going now you decide which is the vfim is it going into the pit by himself and yseph is completely rejected as He's rejected as a leader. He's rejected as their cohain. Yoseph is not going to bring them any kind of forgiveness. Actually, it's the complete inverse. What's Yoseph going to bring them? He's going to bring them culpability. He's going to bring the sin upon them. He's going to put them in a situation where they are now guilty. And then again, I start thinking about about I I think about Yakov. When Yakov goes, where does he go? into the holy of holies which is Yeetszk's home. Yeitzk's tent and what does he bring with him? Well, Rifka just read the Rifka kills two is that Yumashem Zazelle two goats just think two goats and Yakov and and two goats. So, one of them of of the goats was for Rashes to put all the hair on him. That's the Asov. That's lazel. On the other hand, the other one is to take care of and is to feed. That's lashem. That's the yoda. So now when they take Yoseph and they throw him into the pit and afterwards he'll be put into a second holy of holies and that will be his wonderful I don't know if it's a chariot or what it is where he's being in the cattle car being taken off into into Egypt. And now if you already understand that he's with the bisim there, that means he's with the that's the that that that point right there should have completely said, hold it a second. Maybe there's a little bit more to this than just my uh wild imagination. But I told you I wanted to look at today's dafomi. So if you look at source number seven of sorry that's not today's dafomi but just notice the name of what does he teach about so again he is part of this whole Yoseph narrative hold on to that for a second and instead go to source number 13 because again of okay so over Here it says this is today. So anybody who's behind right now what does what does the have to do with the clothing of the coin? Just as corbano bring about atonement, that's really interesting because we're dealing with the brings about forgiveness. It used killing the goat dipping it in and therefore the atonement which the coin is being told to wear is one to bring about forgiveness for murder. By the way, it's interesting because they didn't actually murder him but as I said and then it goes through the whole list over here of all the various things and and how each thing is connected and how each clothing of the god brings about forgiveness. I also like just a little later on, three, four lines later, it says, but two sides of a coin. An aphodim. So keep in mind that we have the aphod and we have theim. Of course, trfim should remind you of something. >> Okay, so it should remind you of something. So just keep that in mind. So this is today's dafomi in the today which is source number 14 and so on. It says and brings the verse it's and it brings the exact same and the exact same. So I don't know what the odds are of me wanting what of me wanting to give a class about the konet and about how what's taking place there has something to do with avoda and yoseph is supposed to be the the cohen and the cohen and both the dafomi in bavi and ini on today are both telling me that that's the suga that we're supposed to be learning so apparently that's the sugi that we're supposed to be learning so I don't know how many other rabbis in the world right now had the same thought I don't know how many people learning the same I don't know how many of them are giving the same uh shear I don't know and uh and so on but but but to me as I said I actually asked my chat GPT can you figure out the odds the short answer is no it could not figure out the the odds it it couldn't figure out the odds which means what I guess you can multiply how many pages there are in the Baldi and how many pages in the US and how many sugot there are that it it couldn't begin it couldn't even begin to think it through on how on what the odds are anybody could could do a better job in terms of the statistics in this the it's um I don't know I don't know if any if anybody can work it out I mean I think it's astronomical to uh to to have e both of them telling you the same thing on the same day which that is the day that we should be talking about this but as I said so that for me was at least a minor motivation to uh to say you know what may maybe maybe I will uh I will talk about it. By the way, just pan parenthetically when I did ask transg what are the odds of the so it says okay let's just you know what are the odds on the tenth of tate that you're going to learn both of those things and I said why did you pick the 10th of tid and it said oh I got confused and I said you know the 10th of t is my birthday right so I said so what are the odds of you choosing my birthday in order to give me my illustration so at that point it kind of exploded and and and it said it wrote back to me I'm speechless that's what it wrote back to me yeah He goes, "I'm speechless. I have nothing more to say about this uh about that." Do you have any other questions about anything else? So, let let's try again because there's something else. Another thing about yam kipper in the middle of davening on yam kipper when we get up to musaf maybe the most dramatic section is when we get to source number 15 is when we start talking about yose as part of the avod on yum kiper and therefore what ends up happening you sold y and then the 10 martyrs ended up getting killed but the background for that is mak yoseph again don't Don't ignore it. There's also this other wonderful line. And they sold him. What does it say? It says that's one of the ten commandments, his kidnapping. And then it ends up saying, and they sold him four shoes, which is based on the in 16 that you sold a righteous person for shoes. And there is this uh in the pseudoraphica in the testament of the 12 tribes one of the discussions there it says oh we sold him then we got some shoes. So which which I believe that the background to all this should be khalitita khalitz is when you take responsibility for a brother who has died presumably natural causes and you didn't kill him and right can you imagine that okay I killed my brother now I got to do yub and I could do khalit I mean that's not the way it's responsibility and the one who does khalita is because he didn't take responsibility and build his brother's home which by the way goes right back to our now concentric circle with yehuda's sons who are involved in heum or not doing yum and there's khalifa and then the shoes but they bought shoes and so And so I'm just pointing out that that that the these inter relations which are going on in all of this are just far more interesting than I think that we uh normally pay attention to because what we do is we just look at the story and we don't look at the interconnected stories which are taking place. But but I do want to go back to Yehuda for a moment. I mean Yehuda does something which is really outrageous. you who first of all the first thing he does outrageous is he marries a Canaanite who even though there is a uh there is well who Tamar is there's a little bit of uh of some kind of defense that there because there are those who claim she's about coh that's why he wanted to do I know this is somewhat again imagination and it says oh she must have been then a daughter of shame or a or something and therefore it puts her back into to become on somebody who's from Shem as opposed to somebody who's from Kam. But as I said, I mean, first of all, he marries the wrong family. Secondly, his kids act in an inappropriate way. And there's a lack of fraternal responsibility. Now, should we be shocked about this? Which means Yehud is the one who engineers the sale of Yoseph. So why would we be so surprised? Again, you can say this in terms of karma. You can say this in terms of learned behavior. You can say this in terms again a secret which is kept by at least 10 people. Does it remain a secret? Which means does the family know? Does the larger family know about other things? What is the story? What is the narrative being told? But but Yehuda then continues in terms of his relationship with Tamar. I know he could defend himself. He didn't know he was sleeping with his daughter-in-law. He thought he was only sleeping with a prostitute and so on. Again, there there are certain there are certain unfortunate defenses that one could try to uh use. But the more important thing is then to compare that with Yoseph who says no, right? Just say no. Yoseph just says no. And he says no again and he says no again and he says no again. And we're told that he that he says no on a on a on a daily basis. Kazal though pick on Yoseph. They're not nice to Yoseph. They should be far nicer to him. But let let's let's start. That's the Gmorra that I started to read before. Just one second. And that that was in source seven. That was name of Nick again the comparison which means at the end of the day Yehuda stands up. The difference in Yehuda stands up. He stands up after he fell down. Yoseph doesn't Yoseph is dragged down, but Yseph doesn't fall down. Again, there's there's a very big difference between the two, but it does make this compar. Yoseph with nobody watching says no and and Yehuda with everybody watching says oops, I may have made a mistake over here. But again, that that is significant. Why is picking on Yoseph? Why did he say that Yoseph is has right to go inside in order for this to to take place? It does not sound that way from the and this is this wonderful let's blame the victim, right? Let's blame him. Let's blame Dena. Let's blame let's blame. Why not? Right? Again, if I were to say, well, Dena was wearing a skirt that was too short. So, what would you say? you would say stop and you should say stop and if I say well was he was there I mean that that that so not only is it same conversation one says one exonerates says no he had work to do that day and one says that he went in to fill his own needs No one's there. Is it possible you can have such a busy big, you know, important house? No one's there. They had a celebration. Oh no. Thanksgiving. >> Pyro's birthday. It's always parro's birthday. She feigned illness. I think on yu Torah my most downloaded shear is one that I called and here's to you Mrs. Potifar right so uh so Mrs. stays home and makes believe. She doesn't feel well. This is my opportunity. She grabbed him by his clothing. Can also be the word. She grabbed his inner conflict. She grabbed his inner rebellion. That means that he was a willing participant. Blame the victim. Right? This is a great great midrash. At that moment, his father's image came and appeared in the window. Your brother will be written on the stones of the aphod. By the way, you noticed I read aphod a moment ago. We talked about aphod which brings about forgiveness for trfim. You realize that trfim was the sin of his mother. So you're wondering, by the way, Yoseph's Yoseph is the only male in Kish whose looks are mentioned and he's being described as Yare, right? Where is it? Look at source. No, that that's too late. He's the only one described that way. The only other two in described that way. This is for to impress your children. One is Rael and the other is the fat cows. So >> So you can do with that anything that you want to smell. >> Um not not both. Not >> not both terms not the dual language. So as I said that is just a dvarra waiting to happen >> or not. Do you want to be included within them? Do you want to get cut out and instead be called a shepherd of Zonote? That is just so interesting because Yseph is a shepherd of his brothers at home. By the way, that is from Mish. Go ahead, look at the whole chapter in Mish. I can turn every single verse in that chapter to be part of the Yakob Yoseph story. I said that's your homework to do. This is why I got lost this week because there there was just too much to do. So, let's stop for a second. Okay, let let let's try to make a little bit more sense of all this and eventually we're going to have to stop. Even though we don't have to stop, there's nobody afterward me today. I I I I can just go on. >> So, let's make a little bit more sense of this. How ironic that Yseph is there in Egypt, isolated, kicked out by his brothers all by himself. And and and the threat over here is you won't be included with your brothers. Which brothers? The the the ones who don't consider me a brother. The ones who you know from our circles. He cut he cut out that they all cut out that circle. They threw him away. They they they got rid of him. And and this talks to Yoseph. By the way, we're back to the Cohen again. We're back to this Cohen. Do you want to be in the clothing cog? Like like like what what's going on now? Yseph is never going to be the Cohen. He's never going to be the but there there is something interesting here. And I want to add another thought. The code of many colors may be a metaphor because if it has many colors, I don't know which colors it has. And by the way, that's the English Hebrews tone it pim. I don't know how many pim it has, but we imagine that there's lots and lots and lots of lots of colors. So, I want to go back to Yakov, then we'll come back to the code, and I want to go to back back to Yakob. We'll get to Yoseph and and and the dream because all this is going to come together on on on this point of the of the unity. Ruven sins. I don't know if I have Ruven Sin here at any place. Ruven sins and he sleeps with Bilha. I know there's a cover up that it never happened, but apparently it happened. >> But apparently it happened. What do you want to say? I mean, this is the time that someone has to say that you don't want to say that he slept with her because it could lead to mixed dancing or something like that, right? So which should not be made fun of because it's a quoting somebody which is quoted by the and I can show you the so that sins and there's a p right there's a verse within the verse it says that it's heard and YaKob has 12 sons. So YaKob's response to the outrage of Ruain is I have 12 sons. It could have been I now have 11. It could be that we cut him out of the circle and say good luck because this is this is not acceptable behavior. And Yakov could have said the same thing to Shim Ley when he rebukes them for what they did. And if he ever would have found out about Yehuda, he could have done the same thing to him. And he could have cut all of them out for all the things that they've done. Again, let let's now get except for, you know, he could you know what? He could have ended up with just two, Yoseph and Binyamin. And it's the only one we ever loved anyway. And no, Yakov has 12 sons. Do you know who internalizes this either consciously or subconsciously? The one who it's Yoseph where in the dream why he sees 11 stars. Imagine if he would have gotten says, you know, I saw 10 stars and all the brothers are looking at one another. By the way, Ruvane, Ruvane again going through his trauma because he did something wrong and he's punished by it. And Yoseph's inner world is I have 11 brothers. On the other hand, you can accuse him of narcissism. My 11 brothers are bowing down to me. But he still has 11 brothers. Which means as far as he's concerned, there are 12. We don't kick anyone out. And what do they do? They kick him out. So Yoseph's inner world is of all 12. Yakov's world is there's 12. Yakov is gonna fight to keep his kids. Maybe that's what he took away from Yitzk. Yetsk did not want to send Asov away and maybe Yoseph sorry maybe Yakov is saying to himself okay that's what we need to do we don't get rid of any we are we are going to somehow work out and we don't a kid could be off the derek but you don't kick him out of the house. So who's the first one to say that? Jacobu says it unless already said it before. So Y no so Yakob says I don't care but Ruven I don't care levy so I talk to them he talks to them he educates so I have to talk to them differently maybe he lost some roles maybe he lost some privileges but no and you and Yseph a told Jacob Yoseph so what's Yoseph's inner world the same inner world as Yakov's inner world and therefore when he's being threatened over here by Yakov's vision or whatever you know you're not going to be with your brothers you who's been kicked out you're not going to be meet with your brothers others and that stops him on the spot and you're not going to meaning can you imagine this he's about to sin and his inner world is talking about the the begam of the cohindul right again just think about that that's Yseph's inner world again how you blame the victim I don't understand at all but Yseph's inner world is a place of kaduca where he sees his father and so on by the way there there may be a deeper idea to all this so again let let me try to cover as many of as these as we can. What I wanted to point out about the same of in source number six, he talks about the and he says that the has a smell which is bad together with the smell which is good. And ultimately the way the Torah works is the sum total of gathering everything together which means is that you need to have good overcome bad and the sum total is something which is holy. It's it really is profound. He continues and he says, "For a fast to be a fast day, it needs to have sinners as well. If only sadik can fast, it doesn't help." By the way, go back to that scene by the by I I can't move away from it. Go away to that scene taking place by the pit. Okay? One word. It's yum kiper. Only one person is fasting. And that's the coing. And what are the brothers doing? They're sitting and eating. And what do they trade them for? They trade them for shoes. What are you not allowed to wear in Yumiper? You're not allowed to wear shoes. So they're eating with their shoes on Yumkiper. And Yoseph then enters into the holy of enters into the holy of holies together with the Torah. And Yos, right? And there's all this bad. And Yoseph says, "Yeah, but we can work out all this bad." Because the way the Torah works is that the good can overcome the bad. And therefore, Yoseph can still be optimistic and still believe that his brothers are going to be on. Can you imagine that? He still believes that his brothers are going to be on the stones of they mean why wouldn't Yoseph again do any of you have well-developed Yates? >> Any any hands going up here? If if you had a well-developed Yates Sahara, right? And you ha and and you're about to sin with Mrs. Pokeifire and then you have this uh you know epiphany. Hold it. You won't be together with your brothers on the apho. Are you kidding me? My brothers are not there anymore. What do you mean with my brothers? They can't be there anymore. Do you know what my brothers did? Do you know what Ruvie did? You know what Chim and Ley did? Do you know what Yehuda did? Do you know what they all did to me? Just just think about it a second. The Ben Zopa who Yoseph befriends. There's a great target on this. It says when they sent the coat, you know who sent the coat? It says Ben, Bill and Bezop. Because they Yakov wouldn't suspected them as much as he would have suspected Ben Lea. And they're standing there at this moment. They've been ridiculed. They've been ridiculed by Bena. Ruain sleeps with Bha Pleish. Yoseph befriends Ben. Yoseph considers them brothers and considers them equal wives. Ruven looks down on them as being pen. And therefore, that's the background. They would make fun of them and now they've been making fun of them, making fun of them and now Yoseph is coming. Let's uh let's get rid of him. Ben standing staying there. What the what would the moral thing to have done when Ruvie stands up and says, "Oh no, they should have run and say, hold it a second." It should have been five against five, by the way. That's what it should have been should and they should, but they're silent because Yseph unifies his brothers. How does he unifies his brothers? By becoming the victim to all of them. That's not the way to unify, by the way. He be he unifies them and they're all together and Yoseph should be writing down to Egypt saying, you know, goodbye. That's it. It's over again. They threw me out. I'm not part of them anymore. And when they come looking for food in the future, by the way, he never should have sold them food at all. Oh, you're having a hard time. Let's go back to that again. Okay, good luck. And his father again, all of this should be so much more interesting. And Yoseph's Yates Sahara should tell them my brothers are not there either. This whole thing is over. What beta mikdash? What kohhing? What a f all of this is completely imaginary. So so and and again it's bizna who points out both of these things about yoseph and then about the again I can't move away from connecting them. Um a couple more things. One is I found one source source number 11 which says which which brings the same thing and it says that he saw his father's image is that ends the line come to him in a dream instead of a cameom which which again I again could it just be a mistake of course it would be a mistake but that's the only place that I saw that but just with the dream motif in Yoseph's life and the dream motif in Yakov's life that then just becomes a little bit sharper a little bit more interesting. There's also a in source number 10. He saw his father's image and it chilled his bones. It chilled his blood. Right? He was hot-blooded and that that cooled it down. Rabbi Rabbi to remember remember this one that it comes from Ami just think he saw his mother's image his mother walked into the room said Yseph what are you doing so so you could decide who you uh who you prefer to be the representation you know of uh this is the super ego who exactly it was over here was this his father who appeared appeared to him. His mother appeared to him. But there's there may be a whole another way of understanding this. Look at verse number eight. That when he saw his brother, he saw that his brother looked just like his father. Do you know who else looked just like his father? >> He did. So when he looks in the window, do you know who he actually sees? He sees himself but when he sees himself he sees himself looking like his father which means a told Jacob Yoseph Yseph sees himself but he sees himself not looking like his father by way he can also see himself looking like his mother because Yoseph very much looks like his mother there's also there's a Zohar we don't need more of this right now because I think that we already have enough Yoseph sees himself but when he sees himself he sees himself looking like his father you know a little bit time has gone by and maybe now he grew grew a little bit of a beard and now he's suddenly he's looking and he and he looks like his father. Would his father do such a thing? By the way, his father was also involved in a uh compromising situation as I mentioned earlier and Yoseph is saying no, this is not something that I can do. This is something that I have to that I have to stay away from. But but now I'm I'm going to say it again is that this intergenerational Yakov Yseph relationship is fascinating. The intergenerational relationship of the Yak of the of the Rael Yoseph relationship is fascinating. The selection of Yoseph by giving him this coat and a coat now becomes of course the whole background of the story again in terms of the deception. And how much do you want to move on the deception? The deception that YaKob had by putting on Asov's clothes. The deception of of Tamar when she puts on other types of clothing. the deception of Leia when she then causes deception to uh to YaKob. The the the again it's it's this constant taking place over here and then of course with Yoseph constantly being having his clothes changed. Yoseph having the coat ripped off him and who knows what he's wearing when he's carried down to Egypt and sold off as a slave and then he has the clothing ripped off him again. Don't you realize that the moment that Yseph has the clothing ripped off him by Asia Potifar that should have been a triggering moment where he then reles the trauma of the last time the clothing was ripped off of him which takes us right back to that moment when I'm saying in my own imagination that Yoseph is at that moment the coing the the the cohen and I want to say another thing about the clothing which I don't think I got this far if it does have all these colors and the understanding of Jacob is that I have 12 sons. And then the standing of Yoseph, he's got 11 brothers. Then I can also say, and I don't know if I saw this someplace, I think I did, but I couldn't find it. Is that the coat then represents all of the colors of all of the flags because this is the representative of all of CL Israel. And that's what the Cohen guttle is. But at that moment that the clothing is being ripped off has to trigger the previous moment that it was being ripped off. And the previous moment that's being ripped off, you have the Cohen gut being again You remember the P about Zakaria that they killed a Cohen and a novi on the same day. The first time that that took place is Yoseph. No, they didn't kill him in the end, but they rejected Anvi and they rejected the Coenul and they don't want him as the their and they rip the again. They rip the coat and I'm seeing this scene with the blood and with the goat and with the avoda and then Yseph going in with the I'm seeing Yoseph as this rejected Coen who's about to be killed but somehow he lives but he doesn't lose his dream at that moment when he's in Egypt again he sees his father he sees his mother he sees himself I don't know what he sees he sees the he he he sees all the stones and I don't want to be the one who's rejected even though he was rejected I want to be there. But he also believes and is in his world that is all all of his brothers are still there. How can they be there? Well, that's why we need yum kipper. Why do we need yum kipper to forgive us of all these sins? Again, going back to the dafomi, we need all the clothing of the coin god to forgive us for this sin and for that sin and for that sin, that sin. You know why we need this? Because we're very imperfect and we're very imperfect and we sin. And if we sin, then we need to fix things. Of course, part of fixing things is recognize we've done something wrong. But Yoseph is there. Hine has not given up on his dream. Yoseph searches for his brothers and he's still searching for his brothers and he still believes in them. They may not believe in themselves. They certainly don't believe in him but he still has. It's still a Todd Yakov Yoseph and Yoseph never abandons the belief that all of his brothers are brothers and this is Claus Israel and they will one day all of them be on the aphod of the Coen God. And even if he's not going to wear he's not the kind of person well if I'm not going no one's going. outgoing gold that don't care about them and he could be rejected or he could be thrown away. He could be his circle could be cut out and he could be sent far away and Yoseph still in in his inner world even though the logical psychological experience shot should have been to relive the trauma of that moment that his brothers reject him. Instead he's thinking about that other side of this. He's thinking about the He's thinking about the Cohen. He's think about the coal. He's thinking about the Ephod. He's thinking about the unity of all of Kalai Israel and therefore he's not going to do something to break that unity which is just so absolutely fascinating. But now you realize that's what it means. A told Yakov Yoseph that Yakov will not reject. Yoseph will not reject. Even though Yakov not rejecting means he has to take a deep breath. My son did this. Okay. Got to take a deep breath and get past that point. And but Yoseph on the other hand has to take a whole different kind of breath. Yoseph said, "So, they tried to kill me. They rejected me. They ripped off my clothing. They threw me in a pit. They sold me. But they're still my brothers." Why? Because a told y