Cleansing the Doors of Perception - Likkutei Torah "Hayam Raah Vayanos" #2

the yeshiva dotnet so what was the summation the summation of what we learned was that the soul essentially NASA mission Assad to be Tahiry right then a summer is before burro sets to higher in other words it's higher than being on Everett's part of the pirate it's part of the pirate which is basically an idea even after you're born it's what the neshamah is then the source the core of the soulless tohave it's beyond Bria and the truth is this is an explanation there's a safer kuzari safe Ragusa bernabéu de la vie it's considered one of the most basic works on Jewish philosophy and theology ethics review de la vie who lived in the ten hundred 11th century in Spain he was a poet he was a philosopher he was a great leader his name was a vue de la vie the kuzari Seifert gazzarri is basically a novel it's a it's a fiction novel about a non-jewish king from the from from the Caza right it's basically near the Black and Caspian Sea southern Russia who converted now that's a historic fact that there was a king of Kooser who converted and converted his whole country and from a few hundred years there was a Jewish Empire in southern Russia until it was destroyed but the kuzari created a fiction around how he converted so basically the King has conversations with a Muslim Christian and with atomic holcomb to decide which is the true religion and then he becomes a Jew and he converts his entire nation that's a real story in history but the Kazari made a book based on it of the so called conversation that the king had with the Muslim to Christian on the Jew so it became a very fundamental working in Judaism called the Khazar it's accepted my mama's universally by everybody so in the kuzari he says over there that this four categories and debris and his diamond said mayor i'm a dabber and then he says this omaha sir Ellis does the Jewish people it's not part of diamonds in Mannheim my job and it's so very hard times and what does the Kazari me but this is what he's referring to he's referring to the idea that the soul is not considered a hey look of the Bria the soul is considered a hella cover the body ray of the Creator not of the creation and that's the holiest site of what we explained yesterday what a woman is and woman means because of this dimension of the soul the soul experiences the creator just like it experiences itself and this is really the secret of the Jewish people there for example the obsession of anti-semitism against the Jewish people which is irrational nobody never knows why can't figure it out there's something about the Jew that just sticks out like a sore thumb in the consciousness of humanity and it's always been that way and whatever the Jews try doing it didn't help secularizing integrating assimilating ultimately it came back to haunt them because the hatred of the Jew is really that the Jews carry the burden of God in history even the most secular Jew in the world and this sense is not less than the vine in the most religious Jew the distinctions between religious Jews and secular Jews ultimately is external it's not in this level on this level there's complete equality between the Gundel Shiva column and the cottage of McDonald because distant it could it doesn't have to do with his choices his level of observance his knowledge for his commitment this Nakota has to do with the fact that out of a cart under Michael Harmon that the neshamah is a hella cover the boy rain not a fail ik of the Bria this is in him how he harnesses it how much he's aware of it what the outlet is or this differs you can't compare to how Freud experienced his godly soul how Carol marks experienced his godly soul how Albert Einstein experiences godly soul to how the Baal Shem Tov experiences godless you can't compare it but there is a common denominator and all of them and that is they all tried to change the world they all felt that there they weren't content with the status quo there's a revolutionary spirit that I have to go beyond the world I have to change the world that Jew doesn't know how to make peace with the world because he's rooted in a place that's deeper than the world that's higher than the world so that's why there's a spirit of revolution what the spirit of revolution is that could be very different but they both have that common denominator and that is that there's an angst there's a a yearning a deep mix of about Colson off see he may not even know to what but there's a certain lack of minutia so nefesh there's a certain lack of serenity because there's something pumping in him and that is not part of the grid it's part of the glory for it to be nurtured it has to embrace what it really is fully fully become aware of it and embrace it and then it's like a fish in water as rebbi akiva says when the fish is not in water it's very very anxious to see what the fish looks like and sometimes when the fish is not in water it's much more much more leopard big than when it's in water so actually you think that the fish is much more alive because it's out of water of course it's busy dying it's not busy living sometimes you see a person out of water and they're much more a lot in the person in water their life seems so interesting every night they're somewhere else every week there with somebody else life is so interesting because whenever you're busy dying life is always interesting whenever you're in water as things are peaceful so sometimes you're in water with in the summer sometimes not but this is the Nakota that the Kazari makes that you're dealing with diamonds and their time at dabit and then there's a realm that's above any night ah good morning shop estar de sinaloa massage now but if summer doesn't remain in the state of Tejada the neshamah comes from tied into a state of Barossa becomes a liver so this is what the ballet Tania says here that for the neshamah north into a new identity it's always me the Samantha's metres her mouth was Hashem mullahs gave us love ich is the lavash that allows there to be a yesh cuz aid mell of Balaam for a MELAS to be a Melek there has to be an armless separate you can be a Melek even if you have a thousand children even if you have a hundred children you're not called a Melek on your children a father who calls himself a king is not in touch with who he is a father is not a king why there's a relationship of a father to a children a relationship of a mela to a nation it's a different relationship one's relationship is based on the fact that they are essentially one you're one with your children this doesn't mean the father doesn't have authority but it means that the nature is a different type of authority where a mela the very nature of the relationship is that were actually not the same we're separate and we choose the relationship amel affair is not just remember in these days in the this my myrrh was said the concept of a melon was daily reality for awesome Melek doesn't exist really you have the Queen of England as a Schrock the queen and the king of denmark is a shrunken king maybe in America you have a king but the concept of a real king doesn't exist a real monarch so it's hard for us to understand even the Jews for them every muscle so many mashaallah more MELAS Malik Malik because I mean that Shama smell asylum because MELAS was was ingrained into the fabric of society it was like it was like breathing you grew up with a melon you were born into a melon everything was the melon right even in stories in richard sherman you had to write in the years of the mela a human everything was the mela so metals are very common metaphor but the idea of a MELAS is any relationship that exalts you it puts you on a pedestal as a result of people who are not obligated to you choose to give you a position of authority that creates a certain dynamic in you that can't happen if one of two things are it's people who are not separate from you it's people who are naturally part of you that will never happen and second of all it's people that you force to choose you and then it also won't happen so you understand these are two elements of maluca number one it's people who are naturally disconnected from you and choose to put you on a pedestal in terms of what you can give them and that creates the dynamic of maloja it brings out something very deep in a person what does it bring out it brings out the quality of Malacca of leadership I can't have this with people who are organically connected to me it doesn't bring out that concept of Melissa and it does not happen if I force the people to do it because then it's not them Malu say we rocks in queue our lives over is your children you can't be a melon on the other hand you can have a hundred million ants you could go to a colony of a hundred million ants and be a Melek over them you think you're gonna feel like a member it's not gonna happen you know why because the hands are not choosing you in fact the ants couldn't care less if you if you go up another pace of somewhere else you split those two concepts before when we talked about tougher LAN party they're weird it's not a melon coupling hockey gears which we used where one we're an organic that was the relationship with the part of the organism on the other hand was it was stoic fear right so that's the issue in the world of Tyra with a nationalist or higher there's no malice mouth was necessitates the world to experience itself separate from God only if I'm separate from you can I become Ella I'll give an example that's more contemporary but it's really a similar kind of even though it's not the word Melissa and that is marriage can you force somebody to get married you could but it's not a marriage a maccaption osetia element data a forced marriage is not a marriage by definition you have to want the person if you don't want it has to be based on one you have to want the person if you don't want the person it can't be that relationship now take another example what happens to a president a president of the United States the day before these election of the day after he's elected Adam and I mean I'm not talking about our contemporary president whatever your opinion is you love him with your lovin talked about the concept does the president the day he's elected learn anything new in terms of information whatever he knew before he knows today right whatever he didn't know yesterday he doesn't he doesn't know today besides maybe a few secrets of the CIA but nonetheless he's a new person what makes him a new person what makes him a new person he may have been a top lawyer for many many years a top judge from any minute top senator for many many years he knows yesterday whatever he knows today but once he's elected as a present he's a Mayan meant it's not the same person what is it with the Somalis okay I'll give another example somebody sits in medical school for 20 years and studies and studies and studies and knows everything and then one day suddenly the head of the hospital of the neurological department whatever department is gone and they bring him in and they appoint him that day he didn't learn anything new in the medical field but he's a different person why he became a melih that day he was chosen by people who didn't have to choose him it's not a dictatorship and they put him on a pursuit in a position where he became a leader it turns you into a different person depends there's different relationships the aspect of teaching over there it's not a Mela over there it's four carats it's it's a Ravan at home and it's not an immune of mullah then there's a concept of mullah under his leadership malucia represents man he goes Malka upon added element of namaha but it always has to be bharat sir a rebel who forces his authority and his Hasidim is not a rubber it doesn't exist and there's no relationship the whole relationship that Hassidim had with the red but the first prerequisite was voluntary if it's not if it's voluntary then it's very powerful right if it's legal you have no choice because I'm gonna throw then it's it's it is what it is I guess we're not gonna go there at the moment huh no it's a different relationship it's fine it's a diffe relationship and the top talk about the nature of the person the prerequisite of a real relationship with with the dead man the house it was completely voluntary completely once he chose he chose but it's like married once you choose you choose you have to be responsible person but a misogynist is shallow midnight he can't tell a woman you have to get married it's not a relationship it's not a relationship mal who's able Rutzen keep loyal and they had to be rotten almost Kings were not most Kings were been dictators some of benevolent dictator some were not but it's not melosa it's called monks Allah mashaallah is Bal card huh maluca is Bronson Mao who said Bharat cently mahadba dotson that brings up a lot for Hashem to be a Mela he has to be in a relationship with people who are outside of him if there's no outside mist is normal water ain't Mela beloit up let's see right well ok Mickey Mouse Lucy gamma c32 the wine starts on Malthus middle of a nuclear mouth was yeah that's why in Kabbalah whenever it says yam the seed it's a metaphor for Malthus why he um he he made the Gemara says and Hulan listen to this homage there's be a boss realized by yeah the moderates : whatever you have on dry land you haven't there in the in oceans and seas today we know you go down to the bottom of the Seas you have a whole universe there everything you there all types of creatures and plants you can wear to make such judgment whatever your yeah but and the other way also what's the difference dr. Shane near in LA I end Kamiyama Casa Molly the difference is in dry land you see everything you see the diversity you come to the ocean the what is it called the the water the surface of the water the water bed covers over you can see what's inside you could see a few fish maybe on top of that's it the castle of Milan yeah Borgia ham represents two realities lamella what do we mean by love my love my love I mean in the spiritual realms he may I see see are ye rakia Matthias color luminous aimbot sillas the latter is he here let there be light you hear a Kia let there be a heaven these are just examples he means all of the letters that created the world are so to speak in the world about Scylla so to be in the world of a still as they are divine energy but I am show our mouth was Mikasa lion and then you have an ocean a see that's Mallos that's why the yamen Kabbalah's Malthus the young covers it bill T is Galilee never I am I'm a sorry man so that the ISIS should not be revealed to any of the creations that are created from these letters shame are you miss Gollum if the ISIS would be revealed if it wouldn't be i yama would be a Borgia oh yeah Higashi is bottle bill honest the gaseous would be completely lately bottled it would be completely lost in the spiritual energy commercial beetles if Hashem as the mayor asked money his favorite Marshall one of his favorite McCallum like a light wave in the solar core what a motion a light wave in the solar chords there but that doesn't occupy a significant space the a9e really yes Alabama constraint I'm more near when the light wave leaves the modern a place where there's no more right here we don't have to solar core thank God we're alive because of that the light wave is very significant it fills your house with light that fills your world with light but in the Moyer itself if you go to the Sun the light wave is there but it doesn't occupy space because it's obvious that it's simply completely submerged another fight in the my car gosh miss I miss IVA your bottle the McCoy are you listening somehow if we would see the ISIS the gosh Mears would also be here everything would be here but what would be noticeable was the roomiest that gives it feels the EF Shelia Smith seus neshama mala shame finis no froggen Rock shame Brava holy Ehlert Shaina look who's big you we believe mom's you can't even have Anna summer or a Mauer who are separate because even though they're in love with God but there's somebody who's in love with God unless Allah curse is not beguiling even the highest mala for him to exist the highest neshama for it to be on the summer that has IVA Eliquis can't be regularly the hell investors are their mouths hos keys a cloud gobble this is a cloud gobble what's the cloud goggle Shama Lucia girl Emma sleeves premise yesh mouth dose is the cause of the issue mouth nose is the ocean the sea the arm that covers up everything that's there even though there but you can't see it and because you can't see it therefore they can be the experience of a of a yesh what's the havona here what's the have on the Havana here is that basically the world projects itself in a certain way that perception of how we experience the world would it be completely altered if our eyes and our minds would be able to perceive the nature of true reality because we don't see the nature of true reality therefore we could live in a certain dynamic we could live in a certain world what world is that that's a world of yesh what would happen if we would see the ISIS of the Brya really the whole Bri is created from Isis it's really the energy of the ISIS that constitute the Brya but what do we see the Brina we don't see letters what do we see we don't see letters we see physical brute reality you have this even as we spoke a few times they have this even before you get tell the cause before you get your look amaze you have this even in - miss you have even in gosh - that our eyes don't perceive the nature of reality if our eyes would perceive the nature of reality so I'm looking at a cup I wouldn't see a carpet what would I see if my eyes would be able to perceive all the layers of this color so it's abot ups and how many you're dealing with with the numbers that I'll be even beyond their imagination a one with with with 18 zeros or so and these atoms are in constant movement constant flux it's a whole world and remember they're so tiny they're so small and atoms have different components different components and yet yet an atom which is made up of different components of the atom most of the atom is empty space most of the atom 99.9% empty space but it's so small that my eye doesn't acknowledge the empty space and what does my eye do it puts things together just like two stars that are a billion light years away and it looks like it's basically kadai I feel this press to get from one star to the other stock it's a pistol Adamas even though it's only a billion light-years away which means which means you could travel not only your life you could travel billions and billions of lives and not even get close but the eyes are not going to sit my eyes it's a sheer you look solid ahh --mess that itself yeah that itself the eyes themselves so the I say what it's a solid Cup even though 99.9 air is empty space so on one level it's one thing on another level that's another thing take a person a person is really DNA what's DNA I see yes it's all osseous DNA they call a digital computer code that's osseous that's what it is the whole world is AI seus the whole world is divine Isis divine letters but if we would see it it's not that they wouldn't be gastrin is there would be gosh myths but the gosh trees wouldn't have a Trisha schmuck him I wouldn't ask you by space and wouldn't have a yay shoes it would be completely butter to the Russians what do we mean by buckle buckle means you wouldn't see it as anything but the reflection of the roughness that's what it's all Macias would be and therefore the muscle for that is the light the light rays that come into our home come into our planet they don't begin here they begin in the Sun if the Ray is in my house it's certainly in the Sun it comes from there what are we saying Abdullah in kala Aden on Shabbos - my ship are allocated Sun and millions Eve will be faking like I ever thought about that redundancy what shot Nilayam save my Victim NIDA Malay Meserve means what they're filled with radians become Nagas means they emit light what's the difference Malaya Meserve is the way the XIV is inside Malay observe the fake the way it comes out inside the Sun you also have the light of the Sun but I asked you a question if we would travel to the Sun what I say hey look look look you remember the light that came into our house look it's there it's a joke a light wave in the solar core it's there of course it's there for Kant it's near in an even more powerful way than it's here because that's the source it's severe even more than it's here but because it's Lear it doesn't have its own name it doesn't have its own identity if you would see the erroneous of the world the iciest something that wouldn't be Gaussian is for carrots the gas which would even be more powerful because you would see it in its source but what's shot shot is it wouldn't have a heritage of the Asia so wouldn't have a anguish of separateness so we have a paradox you look at the world on one level the entire universe is really consciousness the entire universe is really divine letters divine thoughts that's what it is it's consciousness and yet you're walking on a sidewalk all you see is a sidewalk all you see is a car all you see is a house all you see is a body you don't see anything of the inner core which really captures the entire essence of the Geshe and the Geshem if you would see it would not be typhus not a woman of its own name what creates this transition this metamorphosis this is mythos amazos mythos her mouth was means that our Shem wanted that the world should experience itself as being separate being distinct he wants a relationship that it's chosen by that which is outside that which is separate that which is distinct in other words in Judaism as much as the vagus is important separateness is equally important because that's what the age creates God doesn't only want you to be one he also wants you to be not one if he wanted you to be one and there wouldn't be me the somalis me the samantha's means that you're something who is experiences itself as a human being and that comes into the relationship you come into the relationship with yourself so the very self is the critical component to the relationship because if there's no self there's not me the Samantha's a MELAS below yeah you bring the self into the relationship and that's what the yam is the yam has everything but it's concealed I look at the yam all I see is water I look at the world all I see is Geshe all I see is the physical I don't see anything else even though it's really a whole different reality with my brain with my soul I can begin to discern later to hire the true nature of reality but this is a fascinating thing you know if you nibble a little bit of literature of modern physics the way some physicists describe the world today is incredibly incredibly unique because it's literally you'll read osseous and secular magazines or essays that in the put to Toyota is common language for example I remember I once read an article and basically the whole universe is thoughts the whole universe is thoughts that's what it is that's really really what it is when you go to deeper layers of subatomic particles sub subatomic particles yeah they don't even speak about them as having a state they're not even a state it's basically paradoxes are happening all the time and your thought your observation of it puts it into a particular reality affects it so it's like you're dealing with an entire dynamic universe that's very different than what we experience intuitively it's a whole different experience but that's really really what's happening and yet we live in that world that's part of the plan it's not a mistake it's not a tragedy we don't live in that world of what's called the quantum world we live in huh Olivia we live in the world of societies that transition happens to be the some of us a melancholia that's why Malthus is the app and even on a shaman and a mala for it to become a bit seus that has love we're not only talking about the physical homonym Allah he says could not be a neshama know Malik until the coast was beguiling there has to be a hell of a stir there's to be a concealment of Eliquis for the neshamah to be able to be on a shaman in my life if this is the case we could soon come to begin to understand the concept of Kriya Samson what the whole concept of curious yam surface the splitting of the sea is not up as a small technical thing I mean not stop a miracle of a splitting of the sea splitting of the sea represents a transformation of consciousness as he will continue the Helen the Hester's who are their mouths call Marcy SB abortion yes maíam but in the young everything is concealed so in Kabbalah tiresome mr. yam is associated with Malthus he's a clown goggles are malluci Agora Mosley is penis - penis killer this is a claw goggle while gobble means it's a fundamental principle that the hester comes through Mallos meters a mouse's is what causes and allows there to be a eh other nests in other words it is the cosmic sea that eclipses the true nature of the universe so if all the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear as is infinite but the doors of perception are not cleansed the doors of perception are clouded they're tainted by the cosmic uyama the cosmic sea which gives us an appearance that we see water and we fail to see what is beneath the water of course the mussel is an incomplete muscle because in the arm the water actually exists on top and it continues to go down it's just there are many other things we don't see here of course what we're saying is that essentially it's the light wave in the solar core it's part and parcel of the part and parcel it's an expression of it it's a detail of it the gosh meanness is completely an expression of the ruination doesn't have a Shiva's buffet absolutely simply an outgrowth of the divine energy that cosmicllama is mythos amazos why because but the relationship of meat as a Maoist necessitates other nests for me to love you you don't have to be you don't have to be separate for me I could love myself to hopefully you love yourself the half dollar Erica come icons a clear posture they a lot of love yourself yeah you should love your friend like you love yourself you don't need somebody else for love you could love yourself not only that there's people who sit on mountains or in forests and they write poetry of love to the universe to humanity the global warming to some perceived friend that they have in reality or illusion on the contrary till you meet them the love is usually stronger it's much better so the same is true with every other media in the world Kozma you don't need other news for hakama for bina for Gura for tavares at all the Middle's you can experience within yourself and visa vie yourself or visa vie other people but without the experience of other people there's one exception Malthus mouses experience of Malthus cannot happen without other Ness it just won't happen and I'll give I'll give a good an example you could love without anybody else on the country you can sit on a mountain and write love letters and love poems to God to humanity to yourself to somebody in your life to your child to a best friend whatever it is but here's the question can you actually be married to yourself could you be married to yourself no I'm saying could you be married what do I mean the definition of marriage is the experience of life in relation to another that is the definition it's not the person I sign up as I add in that is the definition it's the feedback it's the head and head collision of police mounted collision but it's the fact that two people encounter each other in life that is the experience you'll say oh let me go away from forty or forty years I'll go somewhere and we'll be married okay man you can do that theoretically but the definition of it is what happens to you as a result of the other there's no Mela I can't experience mouthfuls if I'm not in a relationship with my arm there's a relationship with somebody who's not me somebody who's outside of me and all the other mussalam of leadership in any form of fashion the MELAS is the quintessential form of leadership really any form of leadership it's about the impact of the people it's the impact of the people I'm eligible oh um that's what it means hey Melanie William is not a technical thing why don't you say ain't all you have below ah who say the same thing ain't are you have below oh there's no lover without somebody being loved of course there's no lover without somebody being loved but the object of the love could be me well the object of love could be somebody I never saw my life or the object of love could be somebody that I'm not connected to and the love could be very intense in fact as I said sometimes it's much more poetic when you're not there because there's nothing that disturbs it not even you like somebody once said you know why do you have to come here to remind me that I don't love you if you wouldn't be how I would think I love you would be wonderful ain't no below us but the old doesn't have to be person and reality right in front of me melih I can't sit on a mountain and say I'm a mela with verse best on melon the melon is the experience that happens from the contact to feedback the relationship it's being in an active relationship it's not in a theoretical relationship all the other minister be CEO etiquette we're talking about a leader can't experience the the the emotion of the so-called mouse close the fuse of the so called Malthus cannot be experienced if there's no actual relationship with another Kozma bina I could sit in my room and be Maskull as calm as I can be very intelligent four-carat the more isolated the more wisdom right no no in many ways because you have the mental space to be able to think to be able to develop right great minds when int isolation for a reason you didn't want to be bothered by anything the Melek needs the arm can be a mellifers out there every every soul has made us Amol hose every solves one of the ten minute one of the tenth kosis but meters how malkos can only come out through a relationship with somebody else you cannot bring it out in yourself I told you somebody could be could to be studying medicine for 70 years and they know everything it's not Malthus it's wisdom the day they're appointed as the head of the hospital they become a Mela hat but that they can do on their own it's basically the fact that the people appointed you and you're in a relationship with them you're responsible to them you understand you could think about you could see the same as true every all these types of experiences the author somebody could write a book in his library again for 50 years with great karma but it's the publishing and people reading it and the response he gets from them that puts him into a different place if he can't you can't facilitate that on your own you needed that arm to bring that out in you it's a different prema it's a self-awareness that only comes from people outside of you from the feedback from the experience from the collision comes about because he hides his true self even present beyond Marshall in our relationships we don't develop relationship with other by withdrawing who are real in the southern relationship can you birch we're at dependent on having too high to change ourselves to him at some same it's not the exact same there okay that's a very interesting question do is of IV's difference between Hashem Malthus and our models since Hashem is annoyed Movado it's the only reality so for Hashem to be a harem to be a maven to be a hesed a husband he doesn't need a hell of a I just have to conceal himself but fresh m to be a Mela what does it mean if I am to say very vulnerably i want to be your mela as the gemara says in richard shana even rule the funny mouth easily Shoshanna today it's a tumbling only I like that really it's like you'll turn to an ant and say do me a favor I really need you to make me a king over you now trust me the relationship between us and an ant it's far closer than the relationship between man and God it's okay answer some is much smarter than men and much much more ambitious and much more planned out there a little small they're weak but the answer comes cautious what they do and still we understand it would be a joke you're asking an ant to make you to turn you into a Malick and you want to feel good so God Asham who's infinite looks at every and he says do me a favor understand some that don't let don't leave me in the dark stumbling honey I like him would it ever would say over the Gemara before your son he would say that a bursted Betts's by hidden mock me ramela Hashem betcha he begs a Jew I need you to make me a Malick really and if I don't make you a mother what's gonna happen you can have a nervous breakdown you can have a self-esteem crisis cuz I'm not gonna make you a melon just go out of planet Earth and just look at what planet earth looks like from from a spaceship right not only am NOT a speck of dust I'm not even a fraction of a fraction of an infinitesimal of a speck of dust the whole planet looks like a a marble looks like a P looks like a P so in the P imagine you go to a pea you know what appears I'm good even a P and you go into the P and you find it's a little little venomous um when you say do me a favor make me a Mela make me make me a mother and then he says yeah you're my Malik I'm like oh now I feel good samsara a modernist ah yeah but the truth is that this is the condition of muscles the finish of Malthus is that God in His infinite II craved to be in a relationship with that person that he creates and if he moved the moment he stops creating him the ant at least I don't creates at least the ant is different here he creates and then he says oh I want you to make me I'm out how am I gonna make you a melon with my mind and my breath that you gave me so there's one condition that has to be and as Hester there has to be concealment that I and my identity should be able to feel that I'm an ant or even better I am my own man but that's only for me this omalo Smither some alko's requires others now the truth is by people hashem conceals his infinity so that we don't see ourselves as the light wave in the solar core we don't even see the light wave we see completely separate there's three stages there's the light wave in the solar core there's the light wave outside of the solar core but you know it comes from the Sun and then you don't even know that they don't even see it's a light wave you call it biology you call it having no chemicals amino acids whatever you call it yeah we have names we have names for it that's why Malthus is always the bridge between the higher world and the next world because it conceals the reality of one world and it allows a new reality to emerge as a result of it so everything comes to Malthus but it's done in a way where it creates room for other nests by a person you also have something but it's not much the same comparison because in a relationship you also have to be able to create space for another if you don't create space for another you can't have the benefit of Malthus you can have a dictatorship but you can't have the benefit amount the number of mouths this means it's always what you in how you impact me but it's how you impact me if I am controlling the you then it's me impacting me you can't be a MELAS over your computer you understand what can you be a Malik over your computer because whatever your computer is telling you it's what you told the computer to tell you yes yeah you can't be a Melek over somebody that you control because then you're not benefiting from the relationship you tell yourself you're benefiting but you're not it's not a relationship with another because you are the one controlling it you have a joystick and you're going like this like this that's why it's always about the autonomy the more freedom you give the more autonomy you give the more you could be a melon the less freedom you give the smaller you become real mouth was only happens by giving people space why are dictators frustrated people because they know that they're not malach enough they know that there's no real relationship it's just we're forced in other words you're in a relationship with yourself you're on religion that's why they're so frustrated so what do frustrated people do they dictate even more because they're frustrated so that makes them only more frustrated the more you move back the more space you give the more success you have because it's actually a real relationship the thrill is much deeper it's people really choosing it so when you control the situation it looks good but it's nothing it's rotten it's a joke you take this what I'm saying this is a very biggest site not the space is the concealment that you thought the space is the concealment the space means that I create space for you where I am not present so you can be here you could shine you could make decisions now if you decide to be in a relationship with me it's gonna be powerful if I decide you're gonna be in a relationship with me okay so it's me talking to me fine it doesn't fill the void of a relationship that's the point it will not fill me the somalis we have in the genome of the soul you have neither some alko's there's a void that comes when there's no malice where there's no relationship that void can't be filled if I dictate it it looks like it's filled but it's not this is one of the great challenges of relationships so you need that symptom that hellim you have to have the young that covers up your presence in order to allow the other person to be the other person to flourish the other person to emerge any relationship and their relationship I have to hold back as much as I have to express if you don't express there's also no relationship that's the other side right a person who doesn't express anything you know guess I have to express but as much as I express after expressed to the point where I have boundaries I can't kill your eye I can destroy your eye then it's over then it's just me fine you want to live yourself you can live yourself you're not gonna be able to fill the void that Malthus fills because Malthus is a kayak of the nefesh this is true with every put with with all types of relations you especially see it in close relationships when there is that element of camaraderie thus yes yes yeah yeah exactly exactly you know the t-shirt I'm very easy to get along with it once you learn to worship me if you could just learn to worship me it's good it's even brought in Syria Kabbalah the reason that condition we do condition could happen through three ways caster for our BM there are mob brings in children are oh no hug their abdomen says and no sensations now go call you stall the cottage the Casa furbish of the castle we do condition the castle there are mob rings and show tomorrow nog Yule the cottage battabox we use a ring the Ashland tumba de Kooning sir from the few places Michelin RF quotes designer there are more quotes desire why we use a ring because that's not an Aloha why we use a ring okay one of the so in TECO nazar is the whole idea about at Abbas one of the ideas that's brought in is that the Tabas the ring really is a graphic image of Simpson it's brought in the result says that before the world was created God's life was infinitely is infinite so there's no place for anything so you have to withdraw and conceal his light and create a vacuum and in that vacuum in the Comal that's where the world emerges the table ass when you look at a ring you have the encircling gold or silver or white gold the white silver and inside you have a vacuum an empty space so essentially it's a graphic image of penetrating creating a hole and emptiness and around it as the light which is the image that's used in Cibola for the universe the light is around that save of Kalama and inside is empty so when the man the costs in place is a ring on the collars finger what he's saying is God wanted to get married to us he wanted to get married to us that's essentially the purpose of creation I'm not my Hashem wanted to be a melon he wanted to be a melon sure Tom Leone LA there's only one issue he wanted to get married to us now you cannot you could be a perfect bachelor in America especially you could be a perfect bachelor you could be a bottom at ala Milas you can have your own company you can have your own business you could own three homes a private jet you could be slim and handsome and all the Milas in the world the only thing a perfect bachelor canopy is can't be married by definition you need somebody else for that so I mean I don't know if the expression is probably improper but I just want to bring out the point God essentially is a perfect bachelor he has all the my lists in the world and beyond the world right there's perfect but he's a bachelor he's alone by definition he's alone he wanted to get married he wanted to get married there's only one problem you need somebody else so how do you make somebody else see how to make it since some yet to conceal themselves so there could be somebody else so when we put the ring on the collars finger what we're saying is I also want to get married and notice they get married I also understand that I have to create room for somebody else if I don't create them for somebody else I can't get married so the ring is the empty space that I create in my ego where you could come in if my only the only space that fills my life is me I have no space for you so we may be living in the same house but whenever you express yourself I have no space for it I block it out it's me to exclusion of somebody else or it's her to the collusion of somebody else the kind of a relationship put like that you can't so what happens in many relationships one of two things happens either one of them wears the pants and the other one becomes subservient you familiar with that model so basically technically you obliterated one party and that's fine or you basically live separate lives because you can't connect so your inner wall the other one is in another world in other words you run away from each other because if you're together you're dealing with two Bulls untamed who are goring each other so can't be either one becomes a sheep and one becomes a bull or they both remain bulls and they detach physically or conceptually or it is a third model and the third model is the model of Malthus the Malthus says the understanding that I don't have to be afraid of it on the contrary there will be a void in me that will be filled as a result of me not owning the entire conversation not owning the relationship there's the value that emerges through a real relationship with a real person who was outside of you it's scary for many people it's dramatic but the mystique the blessing and the challenge of a relationship is exactly that the emotion of love I can experience within myself I don't need the actual tangible knocking against your head but the experience the mouse is the sense of a certain sense of exaltedness in the South that happens as a result of the impact of the other that I need the other I cannot do that in myself I can't create it in myself I could sit on a mountain and be filled with love to trees to worms people do it the plants to the galaxies to myself a person has a sits on a mountain and he imagines his girlfriend and he writes poetry to her it works huh platonic yet not I'm creating no no no I'm not if it's trying to fill me then it's not multiple that's a good question so this is another important you site about Malthus Malthus and Yiddish guy is different than Malthus in the world Malthus in the world is you have a New York Mayor who will spend a hundred million dollars from his own money to get reelected in other words he's craving the position right he buys the office because he has a void whatever it is that he wants to fill fine Malthus in Judaism so take for example government yeah didn't want it moisture Bengal didn't want it didn't want it they both had to be pushed and forced it's brought that the baal shem tov did not want to be he didn't want to be public and basically his rabbit told them i fear she only told them because of some subtle sin that you did you're gonna get punished what's the punishment they you have to reveal yourself for the loss symptom that was a punishment the fact that we could say his name today was a punishment because for him are much better he's Vegas with God was toughness the idea of world fame didn't speak to these people why because they were completely wholesome inside of themselves for character to take them out of it was a punishment it was a punishment it was a you to told me he remembered in 1950 they were pushing Obama never to become an Arab he said no no no whole year so once he said if you're gonna neuter me again I'm gonna take my wife and we're gonna run away and we're gonna live in a Milan for the rest of our life and nobody's gonna know where we are stop nudging me and he meant it he was very genuine why is it it's not stand because they're good people it's it's it's a definition of Malthus if I become a leader or a river or a monic because I need it then I can't be here for you you're here for me if I need to be a rubber for whatever reason the money the power that covered the whatever it is whatever the reason is or maybe Miami then I need you so then I can't be here for you why can't I be here for you because really I'm a slave to you this type of Reb is a slave to the people because the people are the one who give him the service so you actually can't even think about the people the people have to be thinking about him he becomes subservient to the people he's actually not a mellow he's a Nevitt that's why the moment he sees that people are not with him he goes crazy because it's all about what he needs from the people a real leader means you're actually leading the people you're here for the people how could you be here for the people the people are here for me the people are here to make me the leader the answer is it's a punishment actually I'm very happy you want to throw me away that's wonderful that's a reward why am i doing it I'm doing it as a sense of a duty of a privilege this is my missions my fries so now I can actually say what are the people need so real mouth cause by definition has to be has to have a component of selflessness yes that's what merely it's not it's not real malice it's a different thing yes individual love you can give much more to people right when you're not sitting there and asking how can they feed me ask not ask not what the people can do for you ask what you can do for the people the only one who can really do that is a moistur a banal who says I don't need this I don't want this I'm happy in a desert with sheep you don't get this I don't get a thrill from the attention I don't need it Moisture says it's not like if Chiron smiles to me and says he's such a good guy he's such a good looking rapper yeah here use my beer my my Lamborghini yeah moisture gets a thrill he doesn't care either it's a punishment for him now you can actually be there for the people in marriage it's the same thing the greatest moment in a relationship is when you could be there for the other person not because you're waiting for their compliment I can actually be there for you for your sake and what happens in you your mouth this actually comes out very good question so why do you feel fulfilled afterwards it's the result excellent but at one step deeper because NASA odd them but some men who couldn't say no because we're creating in the image of a shop and this is where modern psychology didn't hit the spot yet it's gonna get there in a few years but it didn't hit yet in all therapy today the focus is you have to have your needs met you have to have your needs met always which is an important idea is the relationship fulfilling your needs what are your needs what are your fears what are your concerns what are your issues right Express Express Express our grandmother's didn't have needs and concerns they just follow the program and in our generation you have to talk about your needs and your concerns it's all that self expression which is an important idea what they're missing is the fact that part of the soul is malos because were created in the image of a son why did I Shem neither be a melon he also needed attention God said you know I'm pretty lonely here nobody tells me I'm nice I never had a mother to nurture me I never had a father to hug me I'm Amish alone in the world so basically I'm gonna create a universe and I'm gonna have them say hallelujah 900 times a day which is what UD ISM looks like and scream I'll look I'll look I'll look a you're the best you're the best you're the best you're the best you're not a resurrected dead you heal the sick you kill us you give us life you support as you give us rain you give us no have 50 million who say it every single day three times a day that says it feels good little is our share little is Austria how many times I mean the most egomaniacs don't have to hear it every time so many of so many times it's like a pleaser so it becomes a little pathetic no it's like enough so those who don't think God is listening don't have an issue with it so that's it works it works for a lot of people but if you really believe that God is listening to you it's like well imagine you do this to your wife you think I'll work I work for five minutes ten minutes two days three days if you sit an hour three times a day you're this you're that see that mr. Hsu can I get out of here it's Adelaide do you think I'm so insecure yeah so yeah so you have to understand in the code that then because there really is that mouth Ozlem I'll is not because I needed a validation right it's because the resources have brought in many Swarna menachem Ella Tavakoli hated my hate in the brew of means Malthus means that garden is a poor felt he wants to share himself with another why does he want to share himself with another not because this self was missing something not because I feel horrible about me and I need your validation it's coming from a place of wholesomeness it's a choice it's not God needs us and therefore he loves us it's the other way around he loves us and therefore he needs us that's a very big difference so one of the ministers were finance might but become a Kabbalah man the philosophers there was a huge mark like this the philosopher said God needs you it's a joke doesn't need you you need him he doesn't need you the word need it has to be obliterated from the vocabulary of Judaism the Rambam and others no need no need is no needs whatsoever everything is for you you you he gets nothing out of anything not math entitled I'm not mrs. and I know it's all for you you you the Makah balan there was like a whole romance you know in conquer God as a husband and a wife it's all love and of course he's vulnerable so huge McLucas if avoided sir avoid this you this guy do anything for God does he get anything out of it or not the Philosopher's of course not well what's he get out of it again you'll tell the little end go right and answers not going left but a fashion he's very angry because the ant went left really imagine you have an ant in front of you said go right put on tefillin and don't eat that worm cuz its trace and the answers I'm gonna eat and you go crazy in Buckeye State LA how I'm gonna destroy you I'm gonna kill your kids I'm gonna kill your family the whole world is gonna go crazy the world's gonna become like metal the won't be rain you're gonna become a sugar we'll eat you up really cuz the Frog didn't listen to you relax relax so the philosophers the philosophers always said nothing doesn't mean it God doesn't get angry and doesn't get upset and doesn't get nervous and there's nothing happened there's no emotions well he does things that if a person would do it you would say all these angry that's what he says that's how they'd so they created this detachment because they had to protect the integrity of God it's understood the McCallum with the other extreme they're like no avoid this side of cavora Hashem is a very deeper limit very vulnerable in this the outer ever was the one who wanted to make peace between the Kabbalah and the philosophy of the Miraval commentaries huh so he explains basically that it's not that God loves us cuz he needs us it's he needs us cuz he loves us meaning avoid us a sham does affect Hashem but it doesn't affect a sham because he is essentially a frail creature who's dependent on the validation it's because in his core in his essence he chose to shear himself with others he chose to be vulnerable he chose to be in a relationship because he chose to be in a relationship out of choice out of love therefore I'm in that relationship you're going to affect me the ain't scythe is essentially untouchable but because it's ain't safe it has no law rules and they ain't safe chose to be touchable out of its choice that's what mouth was accomplished so meters her mouth hose is not because I'm needy me thus a mouth was is because I'm choosing to be in a relationship with you and to be affected by you in tiny the ballot Angie says it says Anita Morris has a mammoth see it's a political thing that he compares it to the governor brings about certain on Miriam over very big physically they were so the Morse's how did that change them physically didn't work so the Gemara says hava the trek assess a busser love makes the flesh shrink so the love to their spouse that made their flesh shrink and they can have children with puppy oh yeah the whole song with of gomorrah exactly how super Lamia so the Baba kinda brings this Gemara and he says the Rebbe initial alum is infinite so you also can't have soldiers he can have a relationship he says however the heck is a samosa his either made him shrink made him shriek you shriek man can have into the sea he thinks the Gemara that some shot other they said cuz of us it made him shrink it made him finite so what he says in tiny pea crime tests it made him finite if he's finite now this place for you why cuz that's what Alva does other makes it allowed him to denounce himself for the sake of your son so the theater philosophers were harwitum is just a euphemism it says that though he's angry the freedom of Kabbalah know it is in it is an impact as an effect in the reconciliation that becomes very interesting because the vicara Afra schambach m is based on a choice so therefore it can always be healed it can always be cleansed you understand it's it's real but it could be cleaned because I'm not defined by it when I love you because I need you I'm very very defined by it and if you hurt me it's over you're done because you killed me at my core but if I need you because I love you so there was a choice so there's always freedom in the relationship because there's always freedom in the relationship so we're never stuck yeah yeah yeah yeah that's why this period is free choice so therefore Bosch amethyst amethyst is not because I made you it's rather I want you since we're created in God's image so what is by us mouth was the same thing there's a certain component in me that I want to be here for you for you not for me and if I do that it fills my Medusa malthus and if not there's a void so here's a very interesting concept there's a void in us that's created when we don't have a relationship for the sake of the other person not because our needs are not met but because we don't have the ability to give the way God gives that void is a different type of void it's not I have a void because I didn't get from you what I now got that's something else it's a void because I didn't live up to the truth of my soul there's a truth in my soul which says that I'm a melon what does it mean I'm a MELAS I'm a melon means I can experience to be in a relationship for the sake of giving and as a result a void is filled but it's not a void because my needs have to be met because I'm not confident there's a wholesomeness in me but nonetheless as a result of the relationship with you there's a certain self that gets satisfied the Khazar in brazil is creating our shams image it's a deeper type of void yeah it's a deeper type of void it's not a void that's born of lack of security it's a void that comes from wholesomeness because a wholesome person can give if I'm not wholesome I always have to take that's why any rabbit become any leader who becomes a leader because they crave it they could never do their job right because they're always following the cue of the people they can't be there for the people the void is always bigger you that voice is always bigger that's why generally you know somebody asked to me well how do you know if he could trust somebody could trust a rabbi I said if he tells you not to trust him you could usually trust them in other words if it's about him then you have to be careful but when you see a person who fights tremendously for a position of leadership right you have to you have to look at it a little bit with it because because you know what's going on it's all for God that's mommas forgot fine but you know you want to examine that you want to examine that because you want to know I mean you want me to surrender completely when when what is gonna be done with my surrender you want to protect you have to protect the real MELAS is not a melon there's a pasta Kimmel welcome when Schley Muhammad Allah passes away Yorick of them takes over and the Jews asked him to take down the taxes because his father was very tough Slimer was took a lot so recoverin consulted the younger divisors and the senior advisors senior advisors said they're right let them go they'll be easy the young advisor said no be tougher on them so they revolted he lost that was over it's a mistake but they told him if you're gonna be an evidence a they'll treat you as a king if you will be a slave to the people then you'll be a king what's chopped a real mela is a bigger effort than any effort the gomorian hurry is to become Leo said I'm going to appointed two people to become the leaders they said we don't want from Leo set commit Duma assure our Ronnie nice of my hand after sunny nice summer you think I'm making you leaders I'm making you avoid them I'm making you slaves what's the Vaart what do you mean the melanism by the mouth is high of Missa yeah the Demario says in Broca's hemella given shekhar assuming is i cooking everybody must win astra you go borrow Qatar Shimon you stand the Melek once he goes Bharata he stays down his head has to be down till the end of Swing that's just imagine and sure the king his head is down the whole time and everybody is like this if you want you could throw spitballs on him you get for the watermelons on him he's like this I'll host you in SA he's down all the way really well it's covered Amma I'm standing in a he's meal he's he's frustrated because the MELAS is really a bigger ever than everybody else does around woman he'll since Malacca the Rambam says a shame just like the Turner says you have to honor a king with tremendous covered car the Toyota says he has to be humbled what's the Kasane caucus to separate dinner even though the tailor says you have to honor enemy has to be humble the practice is to send gather the reason the mela has power is because he's really powerless the MELAS power comes from the fact that he's a slave to the people in other words it's not him it's the people the moment that becomes him he's a dangerous person now not many Kings lived up to this ideal we know that most Kings were dictators at best they were benevolent dictators that's ultimately why democracy became such a powerful force because humanity suffered in the hands of tyrants and monarchs who were either absolute crazy nut jobs or at best they were dictators who were not so evil and malicious but they were dictators you know from louis xiv to nevada nights at our strategy etc but the real malice the ideal mela his head is more bow down than anybody else why because he has so much power he has to remember it's not that I deserve this power or I own this power I need this power now I'm happy to be in my bedroom I'll serve God on my own I don't need this Yakov who I caught the lover do I caught in my son of much so why am I doing this to serve who to serve Hashem and to serve the people in order to serve the people I represent the people because I represent the people so the power of the MELAS comes from the people from the fact that he embodies the people the moment it's a personal thing you're here for me and I'm gonna manipulate you then there's no cover to the medal the whole cover to the MELAS is because he's completely selfless if he's selfless when I give honor to the King Who am I giving honor to I'm giving honor to that which the king became that which the kingdom bodies what does the Kingdom body selfless dedication passion the classes is strong more than anybody else because he represents the leader that's a real leader that's a real leader he's a much bigger ever than everybody else what other people have a personal life other people have their own life and he actually doesn't have that he doesn't have that I'll tell you some an interesting moment in something that happened once in 1985 there was a very interesting debate of a very interesting court case that happened you familiar with the story the six Lubavitch should ever had a grandson yet three daughters one was killed he had one daughter who married little bobberts sure I bet he didn't have children he had an oldest daughter who had a son name was Gary he decided that his father-in-law died his Seder died in 1950 at a huge library one of the biggest libraries he had already in Russia a tremendous library things like the baal shem tov siddur kiss Veda they were shining like very very expensive library very precious so his grandson he had two daughters one was killed one was Schneerson and one was Gary so he said that fifty-fifty and he cast acts as 50% he went in without but he didn't ask the Rebbe because he knew it's not so simple he took a lot he took hundreds of books and he sold them the loud should have been found out and he told his brother-in-law he said this wasn't a private library doesn't belong to me doesn't belong to you it belongs to belong to the rabbit as a Reb belongs to the Chabad movement doesn't belong to us we can't we can't sell the books he didn't want to stop there was a court case the court case huge court cases 1986 and I went 1986 was a major and it was a very interesting court case the question was a Revit built a library who does a belong to if it belonged to him as an individual he died he had two daughters fifty-fifty schneir Sanger re if it belonged to the rabbit not as an individual but as a Reb he's a leader so it's not that his children can take it away even the next rapper can't take it away it belongs to fascinating debate there was basically people like Elie Wiesel testified in any Britain Britain there was a famous conservative Kabbalist Louis Jacobs philosophers it was very interesting yeah on Adams Street on Adams Street the judge was judge Sifton who was a son-in-law of Niels Bohr Niels Bohr son was one of the greatest physicists he said not that Jewish guy was a fascinating fascinating court case they went who the Baal Shem Tov was is one of the biggest question was how does it ever get power we does he get to cope with it we know how a president gets power there's elections what we're doesn't we know how a tycoon of business gets power you own a lot of money oh where does a rebel get his power ah we do this is a fascinating quiet who the starties are never what type of rights does he have can you sell your house can he take your mommy can he take your books this was a very interesting very interesting so they brought in secular experts on custard this how it works and how it worked in Chabad so at the end they people to testify the best were the daughters of the previous lab amateur ever he had two daughters alive mr. Schneerson for vouch for his wife Roberts a kind wish medicine and her sister her older sister her name was mrs. Girardi mrs. Khanna gir re the oldest her older sister so they both but they were one mother decided with with her son because it was her song the bow should have his wife felt otherwise but the sisters were very close but this was a very serious debate so she was an older lady ready she was in her 80s so they brought they decided I'm gonna bring her to court they're gonna go to her house well Bob would have his house and have her testify so they brought all the lawyers from both sides and you know they do what does it call that position yeah position went for hours it went for hours and she was an older lady with the two sisters were ready in there this is in the 80s 86 87 so the lawyers on behalf of the of the Habad side were very afraid because that did the positions you know they play with your mind you know they they danger yeah if there's some lawyers yeah the Babich first tried with rabaah with her than toyota whatever he didn't want so they went to court they went to court to make a nickel to make a restraining order and then ultimately the whole thing went into court first after astray because he was taking books he made a lot of money sold a lot of books they got the books back they got all the books back it took years but they got the books back he got to get other books back this the Communists confiscated the most of the library yeah that's the only developed Anya's life so they posed so they were afraid so Rob I could ski who ran the cases well by whatever Saturday I heard from him that he went into the Rebbe and he said you know they're gonna really grill your wife it's not gonna be simple she says you don't worry about my wife the Aatish natesan cup she has a sneeze in hand so passed with flying colors don't worry my mom and we they grilled her who I saw the video of it there's a video somebody took them yeah they take a do it they grilled her and they try to confuse it you know when you're 86 87 years old you know two hours boom back forth back forth they didn't stop they didn't stop they wanted to prove the library is personal property at the end they turned to her there are lawyers of kirari and they say mrs. Nelson tell us the truth who did the books belong to they belonged to your father what do they belong to to the your the community so she looked and she said the book Oh to the Hasidim what did the custard then she said the books belonged to my father so they were like whoa bobert said of his wife legitimize everything and she said but my father belonged to the Hasidim my father belonged to the custard though my whole father belonged to the customer my father didn't have anything else he belonged to that that's what she said they were like wall and Sifton in his verdict this was the line that's this was the line he said that made him decide yeah he said he understood that the relationship doesn't have its counterpart in the legal and secular world it doesn't have it it's a different relationships related that's completely based on choice on both levels he said he realized it's a different relationship on both sides the costs it can't be forced to choose a Zaremba if yes it's a different relationship he has to freeze to choose it can't be forced the Reber can't be forced to go in it's all voluntary although the rabbi's to choose and the custard has to choose because there's no legal telling you we don't own anything and I don't know you don't know me I don't know you he said once they choose because it's a choice they decide that it should be complete if I don't choose if I'm gonna be complete because there's a part of me that resents it if I'm forced to be in a relationship with you so part of me is in that part of me is not in it if I choose it then it's a free relationship he says once they choose it it's complete then he says this is my life I'm completely dedicated to you not because I need not because you need me because I feel you need but it's not to fill my need so therefore my very entity belongs to you so in a way because it's a choice it could be much deeper why could it be much deeper cuz it's not here to fill my void it's being done from a wholesome place and it leading them from a wholesome place then it's absolute so that that occasion is a different type of dedication from a position of strength because if it's coming from a position of weakness at the moment you become strong you like get out of my life you know some people go into relationships out of weakness and then when they become stronger they're like I really don't need this I really don't need this the only reason I need you is cuz I'm not independent because I need somebody to tell me that I'm great because so the moment I don't need that the moment I go to therapy bye-bye charlie if it's from position of strength it's from a choice it's all different in yin that's mouths us because we each have mouthfuls we each have this quality in our own way when I don't live this quality I have a void but it's a different type of void this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot AUC banette / donate