Cleaning Out Our Inner Chametz In Staten Island (Rabbi Yaron Reuven New York LECTURE TOUR)

[Music] T always good to be back here at all Tora the only sh that I know of that has a living you have such a r the uh kazal says that when it comes to Zim when it comes to teaching Tor the uh the words that the the speaker the rabi says all depends on the K meaning if the guy is coming to make money that all depends on his pocket depends how much money he wants to get in his pocket if he wants to get a lot of a lot of donations you can just tell everybody everything's allowed you want to drive on Shabbat enjoy you want to eat T eat twice you want to go out with a non-jew go out with two of them anyone that wants a lot of money will just tell you everything's allowed and I'll find you something in the Torah that somehow shows them that it's allowed even though it's not allowed on the other hand when somebody's actually trying to help you do chuva it's very different and the reason why is because things that come out of the heart reach the heart anytime somebody's actually going to try to help you do Chua he has to do with a full heart and the reason why is because there's no money in it number one number two which is even more important is that it's a thankless job most people you're going to have a room of 10,000 people the rambam says a stadium of 10,000 people and he says if I know that what I'm going to say is going to offend it's going to offend 9,999 out of the 10,000 people they're not going to like it but one guy is going to do Chua the rambam 900 years ago says I care less about the 99,999 people I only came for the one guy to do Chua because he's the only one that actually was looking for the truth the other 99,900 99 we're just looking for excuses so sometimes when you actually try to help people do chuva you get some people to do chuva but sometimes you get enemies instead people don't like to hear the truth all the time and already told us that we're we're stubborn people we don't like to be told what to do we don't like to be told what to do by our spouse our husband our wives our kids our bosses our customers no one should tell us what to do so as soon as somebody comes on and starts telling you you have to change your life and you have to start doing Chua immediately we are defensive so for example if you start telling somebody listen you have to do chuva immediately tell you what you know how many how much I give okay great so you should do chuva then are you know how much how I go to beet great that's good so you're already starting you just continue the Chua but you know what how much to I learned when I was a kid good job you have a good start that means you have to do chuva but you know I was born religious even a bigger PL you still have to do Chua and after doing this for the last four years five years already seeing people from all over the place from Israel to all over the United States and talking to a lot of ranim that have actually been doing it for much longer than me there's one conclusion everyone agrees there's no such thing as religious anymore there's only Bala it doesn't matter if you have a black hat or blue hat or no hat or a small keeper or a big keeper everyone has to do chuva some people have to do Chua by keeping Shabbat some people have to do chuva by marrying a Jewish woman or marrying a Jewish man some people have to do chuva and start eating kosher all the time and not just sometimes some people have to do Chua because they have to start wearing clothes if it's women they have to actually start becoming modest some people have to do chva by not stealing anymore and as crazy as that sounds kazal says that one crime that practically everybody is guilty of unless they work on it is stealing and the reason why is because we don't know how deep the details are in our business when it comes to actually doing anest business so in pesem tells us that we're supposed to honor this extraordinary day that he took us out of Egypt after being there for 210 years 86 of those years were very hard labor to such an extent that it didn't even matter if we build something or we didn't the Egyptians didn't even want to give us not only didn't give us any money didn't even want to give us any Joy so as soon as we built something they destroyed it just to make sure we stay down so after dealing with this heard our screams started making some major Miracles one after another month after month month we saw a new plague started with the blood and if you actually see some of my older sheine from a couple of years ago I showed what kazal says the sages say about each one of the plagues having an actual reason it wasn't just a m it wasn't like a happen stance he decided you know what let's just turn the world into blood see what happens every single ma every single plague had a real reason so for example the blood had a few reasons first one is because they didn't allow to go into the mik and in Judaism if a woman doesn't go into the mikve you're not allowed to be with her even if you love her even if she's great even if she begs you and even if you beg her a woman that does not go to the mik a husband is not even allowed to touch her finger not allowed to touch her finger and that's why if there's ever a situation and unfortunately today there's many where one person does chuva and the other doesn't the husband does chuva but the wife doesn't or the wife does chuva but the husband doesn't and in the beginning it's a problem because the wife wants to keep Shabbat she wants to keep she wants to keep modesty she wants to do all these things but the husband still wants to go to clubs he still wants to look at every girl that walks he still wants to do whatever he wants to do he still wants to be the same free guy that he was his whole life and she tells him listen there's a new rule in the house there's I can't be with you for half the month now if he says okay good the marriage continues even if he's a Shabbat even if he continues to violate Shabbat the hope is that he'll eventually do chuva eventually he'll start keeping Shabbat eventually he start eating kosher eventually he'll start doing things but if he refuses if he refuses to allow her to keep and she goes to the bed most of the time they give him a very limited time frame to either change his mind and allow it to go to the mik or they give him a get it's the one thing that breaks up a marriage it's the one thing that there's no excuses even if the guys which according to Judaism is the worst sin in Judaism still that we say there's time there's time maybe he'll do chuva next month or in six months or in a year or in two years but if he lets a go to the mik at least he's honoring Hashem to some extent but if he's that empty that he can't contain himself for even a couple of weeks then that means there's no hope for this marriage the same thing vice versa if he does chv thank you thank you if he does chuva and his wife doesn't want to do chuva and he tells her listen you need to go to the mik once a month you have to go to the mikve during the time that you're pure we can be together during a time that you're not pure we can't be together it's about half the month approximately not exactly and she says I'm not going to the mik not going to the make the problem is that he can't touch a finger he can't sleep in the same bed he can't eat from the same plate and if she continues with this attitude he goes to the rabbis the rabbis say you have to get divorced yeah but I have seven kids have 18 kids doesn't make a difference why there's no marriage without mik so there's certain rules in Judaism that are make all break off it's either Make It or Break It And there are certain rules where Al we do it hopefully we get to that stage p is one of those rules P tells us we have to clean up our a person that eats eats P eats something that's not koser for p on on PES the de is K KET is the worst possible punishment in the entire world because it's not a one-time punishment it's forever now we can't think of forever we could think of a week a month a year if you're really smart five years anything beyond five years just imagination but that's all we can think about we can't think about forever Hashem can't Hashem can think about forever it's not he can't not think about it because he's Eternal he thinks Eternal because he is eternal for him the past the present and the future it's all the same thing so just as much as we would love to only get the love part of Hashem because he has unlimited love he also has unlimited wrath meaning that when we do something he doesn't want us to do the punishment is just as severe as the love is and that's one of the things that most people don't like to hear about they like to hear about the lovey-dovey part they want Hashem to be Santa Claus where he just gives us presence all the time and as soon as he doesn't give us presents we don't like him anymore that's like it's business if he if we do good he gives us good if not it's somebody else's fault people always ask if God is so good why did the sh happened why did the Holocaust happen the reality is anyone that learned just a little bit of T just one year worth of tah meaning that he went through every in the T every in the T at that point you will reach at least two both of them explain exactly why the Holocaust happened and it tells you exactly 3,000 years before it happened who did it his name is God he told you if you do this this and this I'll bring the Holocaust it's exactly what it says he even tells you the Holocaust will have a symbol of an eagle it'll be a foreign nation and so on and so forth now why does hasem talk so much almost half the Torah talks about punishment the reason is fear of hem is the very basis of connecting to Hashem it's the very basic level if we don't fear him there's no way that we believe in him we believe in something else so for example one of the main things that's very critical forem is to respect our rabbis so for example when you have a rabbi like it's very easy to respect him why he has great midot somebody has to be crazy to go against them there's something wrong with you why would you who did he ever harm he does a fly says sorry to him for landing in the wrong place now unfortunately today's world there's a lot of people are not exactly that there's a lot of people that are wicked but they just have a long beard so it's hard to tell who's what who's who's good and who's bad that's we have to check but the just a couple of weeks ago we read it Z says there's certain things that happen in the world it's not because Hashem wants it to happen it's only because we did something you do something hashm has to re act there's an action there's a reaction there's a cause and effect he says when you're you you embarrassed a you have a serious problem but the zor says you don't even have to get to that extent if you simply don't give enough respect to somebody that taught you one piece of Torah you asked them listen what's the par this week he says that's a for you you didn't know what was he told you it's he says where say it says Okay that was the first time you ever heard that you never knew that if you violate Shabbat hem puts you on the bad list until you do Chu it's a for you it's new that guy whoever he is is officially according to the is your Rabbi meaning you owe him respect and the Z says if you now decide I don't want to respect him there are two angels which were not allow owed to say their names that their job is to punish people that don't respect their Rabbi that's their only job in the world hasm created them just to punish people they don't have a job of being uh giving you presents that's different Angels so we see that the weight of some of the crimes we make is significant especially since we don't even know it's crimes a lot of the things that we do we don't even think it's bad like for example anybody here think that saying I Told You So to somebody is a bad thing like you told somebody something and he didn't listen and then it happened whatever you told them happened and you say ah I Told You So hases anybody here think that's such a bad thing no no normal person thinks it's such a bad thing it's actually in today's world especially in the western world it's a common thing people do it all the time but if you look at the Proverbs schl says it and also you'll see at the beginning of every G beginning of every G it says it says may your will my God that a mishap not come through me meaning I don't learn the wrong thing and that I don't stumble in any matter of law because of learning the wrong thing I instead of learning ker I I say it's instead of I say it's instead of allowed I say it's not allowed meaning not learning the wrong way why so my colleagues my friends the people in the Kil the people in the community don't celebrate because I failed and then later on it says that I don't celebrate because they failed meaning I don't tell them I Told You So and they don't tell me I told you so why is it such a big deal why do we say this in every single you're going to find this blessing every single one this is also in the Mish Mish came before the this is also in Proverbs Proverbs it's before the Mish this I Told You So is a big thing why because the Torah says someone that takes honor in his friend's failure loses he can keep Shabbat he can keep he can give until the end of the year unless he does chv for that specific thing he has a serious with most of us didn't even know it's a crime most of us didn't even think it was a mitvah to tell them I told you so I told you I'm reminding you that I told you so no it's a problem the only way you're going to find out these things is by learning Torah and that's one of the things that I found out only way you're going to find out the truth is by learning TOA you're not GNA find it learning five minutes a day you're not gonna find it learning an hour a week you're going to find it by regularly studying at least in the morning and at least a night half hour an hour in the morning if not more half hour an hour a night if not more I know everybody works I know everybody has a family I know everybody's got a lot of things to do but you didn't come to the world to make money you came to the world to serve hem and that's the mistake that we're making now p p is that reminder P says you have to clean the now most of us think the he's talking about is stop eating bread and yes he says stop eating bread but in reality that's not the biggest Mitzvah if you eat bread you have a serious problem it's but the bigger problem is not the bread every one of us is GNA have a and everybody has different some people eat this some people eat that but if you ask people what's the of the you sit with your family have 10 20 60 people whatever you have you have many more but now what's the biggest mitvah one guy's going to tell you eat mat another guy's going to tell you drink wine another guy's going to tell you eat everything in sight you see it eat it as long as it's not moving if you're Chinese if it's moving too you could eat but now is anybody going to tell you that the mid is the biggest mitvah of the only the Torah what's the mid the mid is talking about the Exodus talking about what actually happened 3,300 years ago but not just saying the story hey by the way guys God created the world fast forward a couple of thousand years we were in Egypt we were in big trouble he bailed us out then we got T that's it eat the is to say the entire story all the way until you go to sleep until you can't talk anymore now what about if you start talking and you have energy but other people are falling off this guy falls asleep that guy falls asleep she fell asleep the baby sleep everybody's sleeping but you're still not asleep you start teaching yourself until you fall asleep that's the biggest that's the biggest it's not eating it's nice to eat enjoy but it's not eating you want to eat matah enjoy the matah it's not it's not the matah it's not the wine it's the mid why is it the mid you have to know where you came from in order to know where you're going to go and most of the kids today at the letter said instead of talking about mosu and they talk about baseball football basketball Pokemon smokemon all these different games that are out there because that's their life now us as parents the only point of Hashem making us parents is to make that change is to let them know that Pokemon is notu baseball is not actually important is it's a big responsibility to be a parent now eventually we get to Mount sa in it says that is stood Under the Mountain so the first question the sages ask did the mountain have a cave Mount sa had a cave says no no caves so how do they stand under the mountain says because hasem took the mountain and he put it on top of them similar to AA he made it like a keepa you know you have AA there's a wedding we had a wedding over here you have a wedding have a he made mount saai like a it says told is this is our if you accept our Torah you accept the Torah that I already wrote 974 Generations before I created the world this will be our wedding if you don't want the Torah this will be your burial ground meaning I'm going to bury you with the mountain the sand is already ready so the sages ask didn't we say that accepted the Tor when you say he accepted the Torah that usually means we had like a choice if you tell somebody listen take me to work or I'm going to kill you that's not really a choice it's more of a threat what's my choice really you either going to I'm either going to take you to work or you going to kill me so B TOS say yes we had a choice we had a choice to live or we had a choice to die said yeah but it's not really a choice he say what did you think our God is irresponsible and he's going to leave the entire Destiny of the entire world up to chance that maybe they're going to change their mind they say they're going to accept it a month ago and now they're going to change their mind and say no no you know what we don't want it anymore because if they don't accept the Torah there's no world there is absolutely no world there's no point to the world once we start understanding the significance of these things and we realize that the Torah is not a free choice it's just Choice things change most of us think that we have free choice free choice means you could do whatever you want if you go to work you get paid if you don't go to work you don't get paid that's what we think we have free choice the rambam explains we don't have such a thing what we have is choice choice means if you go to work you get paid if you don't get to work the boss sends people to the house and he breaks your legs that's what we have we have reward and we have punishment we do good reward we do bad we get punished that's what we have anyone that tells you otherwise is a he's lying to you there's no other thing this is one of the 13 principles of faith meaning if I take you to the uh to the bed in Queens want to convert let's say they're going to ask you what's the 13 principles of faith meaning what's the 13 things you have to believe in order to be a Jew if you don't believe one of them you cannot be a Jew if you have one problem with one of them you're saying ah maybe n not so much you can't be a Jew so if you tell him listen I think that everything happened mashia is going to come Hashem is great mosu is the prophet of all prophets everything is wonderful but the whole reward and Punishment system I don't really see how it works my friend drove on Shabbat nothing happened to him my other friend went out with a non-jew nothing happened to him the other guy ate nothing's happened to him the other guy's a thief nothing happened to him so I don't really think this reward and punishment is really applicable anymore to Our Generations so I don't really believe in it at that point the bedin says goodbye goodbye now if the person's already Jewish he loses theira until he does Chua why at that moment he became a means a heretic and that's a serious problem now most of us have a hard time believing until we see something so Shalom used to say that the rambam says that at the end of days you're gonna have to have you have to have Merit to do chuva not everybody's going to do chuva and just like there was three days of darkness in Egypt as one of the uh the ninth plague is going to be 15 days of darkness before mashia comes now during that time hasm is going to clean up the world of all the all the people that violate Shabbat all the people that go against is and so on and so forth now to be one of the selective few you actually have to have Merit why you have to do chva before it happens meaning the is coming to help the people that used to be P used to be criminals criminals what what they used to be kill people not necessarily could be just simply criminals against hem that's who the mhia is coming to save he's coming to save the doesn't say the guys that wear a hat or the guys that have a beard doesn't say that it says pesov meaning all of is but the one that did cha the ones that did Chu that's who the mhia is going to come to help now if somebody says I believe in everything except reward and Punishment he cannot be included in that list so this is why there's a few things that you should know about the mashia in the page Yeshua Ben leevi meets his best friend you know who his best friend wasi you have a chair for him over herei was his best friend he showed him G he showed him G showed him a lot of nice things so yes Le says when's the mashia gonna come when's he gonna come he says mashia go ask him go go ask him goes where is he he say he's at the Gate of Rome he's over there they they destroyed bet mikdash balagan lot of craziness he's over there with all the people that are suffering so like us yes thought he's going to go see somewhat a you know really fancy beautiful big strong what does he see he sees a bunch of MIM a bunch of people that are wounded and they're all replacing their wounds they all have different uh wounds all over their body and each one is taking off the uh thing that's covering it they're taking off everything and then they replace it but the mashiah the mashia has wounds all over his entire body but he doesn't take off all of the he doesn't take off all of the uh all of the stuff that's covering it what you do he just takes off one at a time so the first question yesu been leaving ask him why you only taking one at a time why don't you do the whole thing why like everybody else he says because at any moment they're going to call me to be mashia I have to be ready I have to be ready he says when you going to come come he said tomorrow H tomorrow I'm going to go tell everybody he goes back he's excited waits for him tomorrow he didn't come so he goes to he says no he say he's gonna come tomorrow this is 2,000 years ago say he's gonna come tomorrow he goes no Yeshua Yeshua you didn't understand what he meant what he meant he's gonna come when am is does CH that's tomorrow tomorrow if you do Chua tomorrow I'll come tomorrow you do Chua in a week from now I'll come week from now whenever you're ready I'm ready so now the sages ask why does he have all these wounds why does he have all these wounds why isn't he like powerful and strong 20 feet tall likeu says mhu and most of the leim were 20 feet tall 20 feet tall to us it seems like what they were giants no that's how big they were because in order to carry the M you had to be that big so now how come the mashia is not huge and strong and everything why does he have all these wounds the sages teach us suffering was divided into three Hashem divided there has to be suffering in the world onethird of the suffering of the entire world was given to the yov and even Moshe davidl all of the Giants in ISM had to suffer in order to become Giants is a requirement to be a Jew and I don't mean just a Jew because your mom is a Jew a Jew that's a holy Jew why because in order to get close to Hashem you have to sacrifice so the sacrificed the most was willing to sacrifices his son was willing to sacrifice himself yob willing to sacrifice everything the second third was the second third of suffering was given to the the difficult Generations that went through the Holocaust went through the inquisitions went through the pilgrims and all of the suffering that am is has gone through over the last 3,000 years the BET mikdash by the way if you read the mid of what actually happened the destruction of the bet mikash with all the respect of people that live through the Holocaust or know somebody that live in the Holocaust what actually happened in the BET mikdash and the destruction makes the Holocaust seem like a small little thing it was much much worse than a bet mikash we had many many po more people die and it was much much more brutal we only know the Holocaust because we have pictures of it and we know some people that lived through it one of um a student of mine that lives in Florida he's 94 years old and he's Holocaust Survivor it's never too late and he told us what he saw he says everything he says it's much worse we had a sh about some tough things he start at the end of he's 94 years old he was already there for two and a half hours he says to everybody in a low voice everything he says it's much worse than what he says I saw it it's much worse than what he says so now the second third of suffering went to those Generations that suffered that we know of and we heard of what's the what's the third third of suffering the third third of suffering goes to the mashia and the say that every month ones Abraham and yob all go to the mhia and they beg him to continue suffer why because every single time every one of us sins he suffers for it too so one of the biggest bushot one of the biggest embarrassments that every one of us is going to have when we meet Masia if we have the Merit to do chuv and actually see mashia when he comes very soon is you going to see the wounds and immediately say oh oh you see you see that infection over here that's from you you yeah that that scar over here that's from you we're going to want to melt imagine we have he's coming to visit he says oh by the way the scar is from you you said remember you went out with that girl remember that one time yeah that's from you that's from me you just thinking about it should cause us like some type of Anguish you suffer for it like I cause this sadik that's the reality that's the reality as hard as it is so the biggest mitvah is for us to learn all of these things because the only way we can do chv is by learning these things now the said what does it mean to be a Jew does it mean that you do MIT says no doing Mitzvah is easy the hard part of being a Jew is that the Torah is supposed to fix you the Torah is supposed to fix your midot it's supposed to fix your character traits you're brought into this world with certain challenges some of us are more Angry some of us are cheap some of us are arrogant some of us think we're the smartest people in the world and some of us have no confidence at all each one of us have different midot the Torah is supposed to fix them that's the point of the Torah now how do you fix them the number one way to fix your mid is by in mus every day now everyone knows everyone has heard of the right heard of the it's not a cookbook in one sh I said said yeah it's a cookbook no not a cookbook it's the book of laws of all the Tor so was written by RAB and he got his was an angel he studied with an angel every day an angel would come to him and teach him and he wrote a journal this is 500 years ago he wrote a journal of what happened to him every day what the angel told him and one time he wrote in a journal he said today the the angel rebuked me yelled at me why did he yell you he says how come you didn't learn enough M as we told him how come you didn't learn this is we learn all of our we we hold by him this the person that his best friend was an angel and he's getting yelled at by an Angel why you didn't learn M why you only learn two hours of M if he had to learn two hours of M we should learn a thousand hours of M why because that's the point the whole point is for the Torah to fix us if it's not fixing us it's the wrong Torah now most people think that tah is difficult so Hashem says if it's heavy for you it's not my Torah what is it like one time there was a businessman that told one of his assistants like listen I forgot my briefcase in that building in that office go get the briefcase and uh bring it back he goes catches a cab drives 20 minutes gets to the other building goes in there he sees there's a bunch of briefcases he remembers what the description was of the briefcase he picks it up goes back in a cab returns to the boss here you go boss and he's like carrying it like it's really heavy like here you go it's really heavy what do you have here rocks what do you have here goes it's not my briefcase goes how do you know it's not your briefcase it's not my briefcase goes how do you know you said it has a white strip you said it's black you said it's this big this is exactly the description he says yes it's exactly the same briefcase but it's not my briefcase he goes how do you know it's not your briefe briefe you didn't even look what what's inside he goes I know it's not my briefcase cuz my briefcase is full of diamonds diamonds are not heavy you're carrying something that has something heavy like steel my briefcase has diamonds if the toah is heavy for us it's because it's not the Torah it's something else that we created and most people that you read about today that were born religious or were religious and stop being religious it's not because of the Torah they didn't stop becoming religious because of the Torah in the history of mankind since the beginning of the world all the way until the end of the world no one will ever stop being religious because of the Torah no one it's impossible and the reason why is because the Torah is good for you people all they want is good for them which means that the people that are leaving Judaism either because they were born religious now they decide not to be Rel reles or they did chv but then they decid it's not too much they don't want to do it anymore the only reason is because of things that were added to it and we call those things minim the the stringencies the things that are above and beyond the steel on top of the diamond the good news is is that in order for us to see mashia in order for us to get to we don't have to do any we don't have to do any all you got to do is keep the basics you're not all to drive on Shabbat not all to play with your phone on Shabbat not to light fire on Shabbat not allowed to do business or talk business on Shabbat which by the way today most people think doing business means you don't go to work no in today's world business is very different 99.9% of all business is talking the reality is very few people actually do any manual labor most of the business you do is talk oh yeah I'm gonna buy that property okay fine so what's the acttion you just bought a $500 million property by what one word eventually a month later maybe you have to sign some paper but that's not the real deal the real deal is that you said I'm going to buy the building $500 million transaction was just one word you say that on Shabbat that's Shabbat you say oh I like that car I'm gonna buy that car for my son oh it's Mitzvah no it's not Mitzvah it's Shabbat it's shabat can't talk business can't talk about what you're going to buy what you're going to sell you can't even plan to go get a haircut after Shabbat on Shabbat you plan for Shabbat only thing you could do on Shabbat is Shabbat other than that you could plan a Mitzvah meaning you could plan let's say for example on Tuesday we're gonna have a shi T you could plan that sh t on Shabbat why it's a Mitzvah other than that all you could do on Shabbat is Shabbat that puts us in a very big dilemma because we have to start finding things what to talk about cuz most of us talk business on Shabbat some people you tell them you know you can't talk business so they tell you what else do we talk about say talk T try it goes I don't know Tor that's the point of learning today you could learn by simply pressing a button and the book arrives to your house it's called Amazon go to Amazon go to Art scroll go to F feldheim go to all these websites you press a button to minutes you have a book a day or two it's in your house it's very easy and if you can't afford it come to the sh I'm sure will give you plenty of books to read you can't read you don't know how to read come learn a that's shab it's very simple eat drink rest a little bit talk T finished that's the number one mitvah in judism the second thing that's very big is when it comes to modesty for women since women are not obligated to learn T they're only obligated to learn just enough to run the house they have to know the laws of kosher the laws of Shabbat what to teach the kids the basics of the Kash but they don't have to learn all the intricate details like the husband is so the number one mitvah for a woman is Modesty that's the number one Mitzvah how big is that mitzvah the sages say some critical things about it pus Shalom one time when he moved to he saw that there was a poster of a e modest woman an advertisement for I don't know phone company or some company it was immodest woman and even though he was older and not in the best shape in the world he climbed and ripped his poster off now a couple of Israeli cops saw him and they arrested him took him to jail and eventually he went to the court and the judge told him no why'd you do it he said listen your honor I'm not a criminal everyone knows who I am I'm a big b i help a lot of people I teach Tor but you have to understand that in our Tor in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 23 verse 15 it says it says our God tells us that he will not see nakedness among us because that will cause them to turn away says you see is has an army and I think I heard that the judge has a son in the Army right judge says yeah he says see I think that maybe you don't know but I just saved your son's life because Hashem says that if there's nakedness Among Us he's going to leave us so if you want your son to come back from War I have to rip the poster but if you want someone to knock on your door one day it says excuse me your honor yeah your son we're sorry we're sorry why there was a poster Hashem said says there's there's immodesty in the streets bad things happen two verses later says there shall never ever be never ever be a promiscuous woman why is a promiscuous woman right after immodesty because immodesty symbolizes promiscuity one thing leads to the other that's why RAB if there was a percentage major the Torah it says what's the weight how much out of 100% of the mitv of a woman how much is Modesty modesty is the difference between passing and failing for a woman meaning that a woman could read T from here till next year she reads T she has groups for she is they even mention her in a everything is good great Shabbat she keeps the kids she feeds them kosher everything is great but she's not modest because she doesn't want to cover her hair or she wants to wear mini skirts or she wants to be like Michelle Obama with no sleeves you know all those things like today she's not modest unfortunately she failed she failed the test why because if 100% is what we have and a passing grade is 51 modesty is 51 meaning that even if she's perfect with every other mitvah the best she's going to get us 49 a failing grade but that means she's perfect with Shabbat she's perfect with everything else which realistically it's very hard to be that's how big modesty is and unfortunately today that's the equivalent of for us that's the equivalent of like sacrificing our kids because women today they depend on their man they depend on their man for confidence now when a man gives his wife compliments Non-Stop when she wakes up in the morning and she looks like tab when she goes to sleep and she looks like Tab and in the middle of the day when she looks like she's a princess either way he's always giving a compliments likes it doesn't like it he only has good words never a single thing to say that's bad if she cooked something that that's uh that is terrible he still tells her he loves it all he has is compliments he is helping her build a confidence now if she walks in the street and all he has attention to is her that builds our confidence if every time she calls him he's asking how you doing instead of what do you want that builds our confidence if he actually cares about what she has to say and spends a few minutes a day talking to her that builds a confidence she wants to be modest why she says my husband's eyes and attention are all mine I want to be only his on the other hand if it's the opposite if he's like a a g if he's a Reincarnation of one of these M what's m in English sprinkler sprinkler you know sprink go he's like this his head is like this he looks at this woman that woman he looks at every woman that moves he's a in reincarnation of a uh of a uh sprinkler immediately the wife loses all of our confidence why you look at other women that's because you're looking for something better how come you're not looking at me immediately our confidence goes into the garbage she calls him she asks him how you doing he says what do you want confidence drops to nothing she cooks something it's a little bit less salt than what he wants and instead of just putting the salt on there and being quiet he says Ah you don't know how to cook confidence garbage all of these things destroy the woman's confidence what does she want to do she wants to be I got to get my confidence is from somebody else when Steve and Daniel and Mustafa and Marcus from the supermarket say ah wow you look good ma'am you look good that gives her confidence she has to get it from somewhere you just have to decide where and the reason why is because the Shabbat page 54 says that someone that doesn't rebuke another person gets the sin himself but the rambam says something worse there are four people there are four people that hasem can't stand them to what extent to the extent where he doesn't want them to do chuva he doesn't allow him to do chuva he says you stay R I don't want to help you meaning it's going to be very hard for you to do chuva one of them is someone that doesn't rebuke he sees somebody do something wrong he doesn't say anything the other one is a someone that causes other people to sin when a woman walks around IM modest she's a she's someone that causes other people to sin she's in serious trouble with Hashem if the husband is the reason he's in the same basket with her so when you got married and you said I you know I yes yes you yes yes I marry her you really married her through thick and thin you're going to stay together might as well go to ganeden together not the other place it's much colder the reality is is the Tora it's not a I'm not teaching you anything I'm not telling you anything that you never heard or if you haven't heard that you heard it now but it's nothing new this is not my own said that there's five levels of Jews five levels the someone that's boiling someone that's hot warm cold and Frozen the K about 50 years ago one Shabbat he saw an Israeli guy smoke a cigarette on Shabbat and immediately he saw some run past him run past the k run past him run to the Israeli guy slap him in the face until the cigarette came out and start screaming at him why are you embarrassing my father the guy was so shocked he didn't know what to do he ran away the guy was smoking a cigarette so the Kish told his helper go go get this guy get him get him go get him get theid he brings him he thought maybe something he did wrong no you have a new job what's the new job you're going to be the Mas of all theu theu is a very big responsibility anyone that carries anything on Shabbat has to depend that there's Anu if there's no U you can't carry anything you're going to respond responsble of the entire Ro of and all of the mik meaning every single house that has a wife that's pure is depending on you because if the mik is not pure we have a serious problem goes yeah but thank you very much for the offer I appreciate it but I don't know the for and I don't know the for so how could I be responsible for these things says no don't worry that's the easy part learning the is the easy part the hard part is finding a boiling Jew a Jew that's on so much fire from loving hasem that he's willing to run across the street and slap his brother to wake him up because it hurts to slap your brother but sometimes you have to for your father sometimes you have to that's the hard part the hard part is to be that boiling Jew that's constantly fighting for hem now there's very few Jews that like Arabs the reason why is because they're terrorists for the most part there's over a billion Arabs in the world almost two billion today a recent research that was done by Prager University and a few other places PW research and a few other major research houses proved the world wrong that this whole concept of islamophobia where're we're scared of people from Islam and it's really being racist and it's not really nice they're not really all terrorists they did a research how many of the people that are Muslim believe that the world should go into sharayah law into Sharia law Sharia law means that if if someone violates the law they could kill him in the middle of the street no questions asked doesn't matter what the government says that is the government it also decides that circumcision is not only for boys it's also for girls they torture their women because Shalom the woman would actually have any enjoyment in her life and they add all these different things that torture their people and it's allowed to lie and you're allowed to steal and you're allowed to do a lot of things that are against God even though they say it's allahar all the time in it's against God from day one till the end so most Jews don't like them not because of the Sharia law they don't like them because they TR constantly try to kill us but there was a recent documentary made byi an Israeli journalist who actually showed something that should make us embarrassed he went into the Arab world in Israel in France in Turkey in the United States in Germany and he saw that there's one common denominator there's one common thing among all of the places that have these two billion Muslims the research that the research houses did confirmed that most of them believe in Sharay law which means that most of them believe that terrorism is perfectly okay blowing yourself up in order to just for the sake of Allah or for the sake of Muhammad or someone in between is perfectly okay meaning most of them are terrorist for sure that's what their belief is even if they themselves are not terrorist that's what they believe but what found out is the the is is that every single one of them in order for them to be a Muslim they have to do something called da da is the equivalent but it's the equivalent of what Judaism calls K meaning making people do chuv now as a Jew you tell somebody listen not only you do chuva but go help other people do chuva you're like listen let me fix myself first then I'll worry about somebody else let me fix myself first the Muslims on the other hand there's no questions asked you want to be a Muslim go recruit people to be Muslim so the the question is who he says there's 8 billion people in the world two billion are Muslims go recruit 6 billion and that's why every single time you'll see the Halal trucks all over New York all over Jersey all over everywhere pretty much today you're always going to see a sticker and the sticker says that God is the only God and Muhammad is the prophet so ask the people ask the people running the trucks why do you have this sticker why do you have this sticker he says because I'm trying to help people become mus Muslim he goes yeah but they're Christian they're other people he goes yeah exactly I'm trying to help them to become Muslim goes oh so through your business you're also doing dawa he goes no I'm doing dawa and sometimes business meaning my number one thing as a Muslim is to get people to be Muslim then do business we're Jews our number one thing is to go do business then be Jews that's the problem that's the root of the problem they have falsehood the Christians have falsehood but they play as if it's real they believe it as if it's real every neighborhood has a Christian guide that knocks on people's doors whether it's Jehovah Witness or Jews for Jesus or some they created for the week every neighborhood has somebody dropping off some Bible by you or asking you to talk or asking you to come to church or they even willing to pay you they're willing to pay you buy you a house buy you whatever you want just go worship their Idol every single one of them to be a Christian you have to do it you have to be missionary to be a Muslim you have to do daah the secret is told the prophets to be a Jew you actually have to do K it's not just about you doing chuva it's actually about helping other people to and the reason why is because even if you start keeping Shabbat perfect you never talk business again even if you stop driving on Shabbat even if you leave the non- kosher business and start a kosher business even if your wife becomes a tadik everything is perfect she looks like better than the raban even if you start learning to off from morning till night everything is good you're good from today on the problem is until now the problem is what happened until now when we go up to sh says good job you've been keeping Shabbat for 70 years straight great the problem is the first 50 years the first 50 years you didn't keep Shabbat somebody has to pay is a missing account of Shabbat he didn't keep Shabbat for 50 years so we're going to Discount the first 13 years of a guy we're going to Discount the first 12E girl other than that you have to pay the bill now you have two ways to pay the bill one you pay it over there it's very expensive and very hot I have a Sho about it if you guys want to know the cheaper way the better way is to go help and the reason why if you give him a CD or you bring them to a sh or you help somebody do a sh whatever it is you get them to come and do Chua every single time they keep Shabbat you now kept two shabbats your Shabbat and their Shabbat they married somebody and that person is now going to keep Shabbat because of them now you kept three shabbats every week you kept three shabbats every year over 150 shabbats so now instead of after 120 you arrive to shamim with a great account for seven years a terrible account for 50 now you have extra now you have extra that's why for all of you that are asking how come how come they have so many they have so many that people could ask them please pray for me in sh help me out why what what gives them so many merits the answer is to help people do chv when you help people do chva that gives you extra he arrived to shamim not only with his Shabbat he arrived with all the people that did Shabbat because of him he didn't arrive to shamayim with just his he arrived with everybody else's he didn't arrive to to Sham with just his kosher food everyone else that ate kosher and every single mitvah goes to his account too because mitv are like fire when you take one candle you want to light another candle the first candle has fire the second candle no fire after you light the second candle both of them have fire but the first fire didn't change that's a Mitzvah once you do Mitzvah if it's just for you it stays just your fire you help somebody else do Mitzvah your fire stays the same and now you have two fires though that's helping do and that also helps you do CH so during this P we're GNA actually start working on what we're supposed to do and not just eat and not just talk business and not just make money because the is important and all the things that we do as are important but it's not as important as fulfilling our purpose in the world our purpose in the world is not to stay MIT we left MIT 3,000 years ago because we were slaves if we're only working and we only focus on work today we're still slaves nothing changed that's what PES is all about get out of the slavery and start thinking about Hashem any questions you had some questions in the beginning said you had topics can usually I close the camera there's 25 questions everywhere so yesterday we had a they had uh some questions and answers and everything in Queens there was over a 100 people it was packed it was almost a three hour Shure now after three hours of talking to people mitv arguments this that they asked me about the wig about Shabbat and different things three-hour conversation three- hour recording you figure it's finished right people starting to leave okay we stopped the recording thank you very much and then 25 people came and started asking more questions we stayed there for another three hours another 3 hours worth of questions by the time we finished 4:00 in the morning so usually when I shut off the camera there's more questions the only thing is today I have another sh in Brooklyn at 10:00 so you only have about a half hour with the questions if you want Ken Ken Ken okay so well first off when it comes comes to the the non-jews the prophet says that at the end of days at the end of days all of the non-jews are going to have a choice just like the Jews they also have to do chuva some of them are going to actually convert to Judaism they're going to take on the and the page 3 a 3B and 4 a says that before the mashia comes there's going to be many converts and we're seeing it every day in the old days once in a blue moon you'll see somebody convert because Jews were persecuted were being killed every week why would anybody want to be a Jew today every day hundreds of people are converting so one thing we're seeing we're seeing that prophecy come true so many of them are going to convert to be Jews the second thing is is that many of them are going to learn what the Torah is they going to choose to follow it and they're going to become what the rambam the righteous among the Nations the righteous people among the Nations that are fulfilling the Torah because hasm said so but not the same have they have the laws of seven which is seven core laws similar to our Ten Commandments plus all ethical laws like honoring your parents and other things of being honest and so on so total for the there's about 50 MIT this is seven just like we have the 10 Comm Commandments they have seven and then there's about another 50 we have another 600 now the rambam says that if a non-jew keeps those mitv like they don't murder and they don't commit adultery and they don't eat a living animal and they don't believe in a false god and so on if they don't do all those things just simply because it makes sense not to do it it makes sense not to kill people you don't have to have the tat to understand it's a bad thing to kill people if they do it if they keep the Mitzvah because it makes sense the rambam says not only do they not havea they have no reward but they're now instead of being they're called they called the stupid people among the Nations why they did all the work but they're not going to get paid meaning that the reason to do all of the mitv is not because it makes sense to us and not because it makes sense to them the reason to do all of the mitv is because it makes sense to God if you do it because God said so then you're fulfilling the Mitzvah in says a person should never say I hate eating milk and meat or I hate stealing or I hate committing adultery you should never say that you should say I want to steal I want to eat milk and meat but what can I do when my father said I'm not allowed meaning I want to eat cheeseburger but my Father in Heaven said I'm not allowed so I can't do it it the is not to not do a crime against theem because it's bad the the the wisdom here is to not do it because Hashem said so that's the entire Tor that's the entire it doesn't make a doesn't make a difference if it makes sense to you or it doesn't make sense to you if you agree with it or you don't agree with it if you're going to wait to agree with every single Mitzvah you won't have enough time to live and that's why we have the Mitzvah of the the red heer says this one shows me I know nothing he was the smartest man of all time but he says once I got to I realized I don't know anything what about par you don't know anything go no I don't know anything about anything everything I learned I realized it's I don't know anything why he says because I thought the mitv are supposed to make sense and that's what you do the doesn't make any sense and you still have to do it that that's the entire Torah makes sense or doesn't make sense you still have to do it why God said so that's the entire Tor that's Shabbat that's that's everything it doesn't make a difference if it makes sense or not you go up to Sham they're not gonna ask you did it make sense to you sir oh it didn't okay GED don't worry about it it's fine it's fine you're cute you made some funny jokes go go GED go m is waiting for you m was waiting for you because it didn't make sense to you the reality is that first of all it does make sense for anyone that learns it but even if it doesn't there are certain laws that don't make sense for example circumcision circumcision doesn't make sense logically it doesn't make sense why would you put your son at life risk on his eighth day wait for a year until he's more healthy wait for a year wait for two years why are you even cutting a piece of your skin if I told you listen there's a new mitvah I just ran the r you have to cut your ear anybody's doing it raise your hand cut your ear cut your ear no no one's raising in the hand why you're crazy I don't want to cut my ear okay cut the other ear cut the nose cut your finger why I'm not cutting anything so why are you cutting your son why you cutting a son even a more sensitive spot why don't you wait to ask him until he's a little older and he has an opinion ask him no my son you want me to cut you why not doesn't make any sense that's the the entire T the entire T is it's not supposed to make sense if it made sense it wouldn't be from God it would be from a human being rambam says if I understood him I would be him there are certain things that are nice there's something called there's like a taste there's a flavor where you know what on the eighth day it happens to be that the vitamin K in the body is the highest level it's ever going to be in your entire life so it's nice that you're able to heal faster if you do bre mil on the eighth day than if you do it any other day in your entire life now we only found this out in the last 20 years though so for the last 3,000 years we still have to do it meaning that with or without the vitamin K we still have to do it now if Shalom the kid is sick and he can't do he has he has jaundice and he can't he can't do on eth day and by the time he's healthy he's two months old like it happened to a friend of mine his son by the time he was healthy he was two months old do we still haveit still have but he's not at but there's no vitamin K you still haveit why the vitamin K okay it's a nice thing it's a nice feature it's like power windows but it's not the reason you have the car you get the car to drive the car it's not the reason you do B you do because God said so Shabbat is nice you have a vacation once a week but that's not the reason you have Shabbat because in reality if it's vacation go to Vegas it's much more fun go to Taj Mahal go to uh Bali go to Tahiti go to Israel go to somewhere if you really want vacation go to Vacation it's not the vacation part it's Shabbat Shabbat is not about the vacation Shabbat is about learning Torah if you're not enjoying Shabbat it's because you're not learning t on Shabbat it defeats the whole purpose if all you're doing is playing basketball and football on Shabbat you're not keeping Shabbat you're playing basketball you just have a day off of work because what happens when you play sports and you do all these secular things number one there's no on Shabbat you're keeping something that's not Shabbat you've made Shabbat into something else that's number one number two you put yourself in a situation you have to take a shower you not take a shower on Shabbat now I'll take a shabb shower on Shabbat yeah but I kept the entire Shabbat except I took a shower once you have a problem why what is it like if I told you that if you email me you email me an email tomorrow morning at exactly 8:00 a.m. as soon as the email arrives at my inbox $1 million would arrive in your bank good deal no everyone's doing it though everyone's ready to with depends what my email is okay so I tell you what my email is j.org now you all after the year immediately even during this year you're starting to write the email now just to make sure you write it now by tomorrow at 8: a.m. you see no million dollars you call me no what's going on with the million dollars I tell you there's no email what do you mean there's no email let me see I come to the house and show you there's no email so why there's no email so I check so what email you have he said or I said Ah that's the problem you missed the dot the dot inorg like the dot in because ah such a long email I missed one dot what's the big deal the one dot is everything no dot no email you don't keep Shabbat 100% it's no Shabbat you don't keep kosher 100% it's not Kosher the is the entire Mitzvah not the Mitzvah you not the part that you like not just the K Everyone likes the K I remember I used to like the K too and then go to the movies then go to the clubs that's not Shabbat that's not Shabbat that's not not just wearing a dress it's wearing a long dress a lot of people wear a lot of women wear short dress they think oh I have a dress now no it's better off you didn't wear the dress where off you wear pants now why it's so short the pants are more modest so the reality it's not just half the Mitzvah it's the entire Mitzvah why just like we want if you ask for today we have David Ben and we need for them we did this whole for we also did for these people we need their to get stronger the ones that are here and the ones that left us now if you ask for says you know what I'm going to give you 99% 99% I'm going to give you everything's going to be good you have ears eyes nose legs teeth everything is going to be good except you're can to have a little bit of small tiny tumor in your brain that's it no more everything else is going to be good a tiny little tumor just a little one deal or no deal no deal why you want you want the entire not just some you tell you want what's I'll give you money okay how much money just $1,000 short of how much you need no no that's not I want exactly what I need and maybe even more I need ex I need 5,000 a month I need 10,000 a month no no I'll give you $1,000 short every month of what you need that's not we want hem to give us the whole thing and more Hashem says can I ask for something too can I ask for the entire Mitzvah can I ask for the entire Shabbat can I ask for the entire TI eat and not just sometimes and not sometimes and not Kosher sometimes and not modesty sometimes the whole thing I want if you do it do it right that's P because entire PM says this you keep P you eat you drink everything is good a lot of food everything is good but if what you're eating has a little bit of there's no P it's it's the worst punishment in jwim why it's an incomplete Mitzvah it's an incomplete Mitzvah an incomplete Mitzvah is a Mitzvah that's full of poison it's not a Mitzvah it turned into a sin so P it's time for us to do Chu why we did chuv 3,300 years ago to such an extent we're able to get the Torah now we have to remind AEM why we still have itm this will help us continue growing with Judaism continue growing with stop playing games get but also have [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]