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[Music] we're uh back on Wednesday night sh stump the rabbi tonight sh will be for Rafael Ben Ben Abraham D Mercedes Esther Bora sah B David and all of goof so here we are we have a um this week's par starts off starts off with some very uh interesting laws of theen where specifies to Bon the sons of Aon not just the sons of Aon at the time but the sons of Aon until this day that they are different than the rest of they have different rules now before theim with theim the position of priesthood was given to the first born firstborn kids but that was taken away and given to theim say that when the mashia comes the firstborn will also get special uh roles will always have it also anden will be theen but uh nonetheless the special position of theim makes them different when we do and they have the which will come back soon the um first alah goes to the Quin then the Le then is who's isra the rest of Cl is so it's very pertinent that a Jew know that if he's a Kan he's different he's got different rules now some people have a problem with this you know they want Unity because of their liberal mentality you know they uh they want it's not fair I particularly find it interesting that many converts have a problem that they can't marry kohanim like as if they ran out of people in the world and there's no other Jews they only want to marry the quen they don't even know quen but they want to marry quen whyu stolen water are sweeter what they don't what they can't have that's what they want but that's only pertaining to a woman cannot marry a uh Coen a guy can marry a that's a convert can marry a coin a woman that's a coin um but a as far as a girl cannot marry that's a convert cannot marry a Coen but also others other types if she's a uh divor if she's a uh Widow special rules now one of the things that it says here in uh chapter 21 beginning of the par and verse 7 217 it says they shall not marry a woman who is a harlot or who has desecrated who has been desecrated and they shall not marry a woman who has been divorced by her husband for each one is holy to his God so tells tellim tell everyone if this woman is is a harlot she's been desecrated she's not allowed to marry Cohen she did Chua good for you you can marry somebody else now just because you were a harlot doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person if you did says Where do we learn this from raav was not only a top Harlot but also she was one of the most beautiful women in the world and she was a but because she did not only welcomed her into is but she married yeshu so sometimes guys say oh listen Rabbi you know I want to marry someone and uh but I want to make sure she's a virgin I make sure she's a virgin are you a virgin no but you know Rabbi you know I don't want to know make sure oh so you're better than Yeshua you're better than Yeshua benon go go fly kite go go go with your arrogance you and your arrogance leave my health two of you both of you leave don't leave the arrogance here and you go right people want to judge other people they don't want to judge themselves the guy has been with a football team and he but he wants his a uh his wife to be a newborn baby doesn't mean that you look for this and look for that of course is an extraordinary value that if a woman has never been desecrated never been touched and so on and so forth but you don't judge them based on that but that doesn't mean that everyone should just uh do whatever they want why because of what I'm about to tell you I'm about to tell you it's probably going to hit some nerves what does this really say says if a woman's a prostitute woman is a harlot woman is z not let to be with a coin if she was divorced not let to be a coin asks what's Z what Z say oh it's a woman that uh you know works at a certain place she does everything no it's all this profession in the world no Rabbi no you know z a Jewish girl that one time in her life one time she was with a go she's according to the T one time according to the Tor that's T calls so that means that if she when she was 18 19 20 years old she didn't know right or left Mustafa and Chris were competing for her she picked one of them one night uh stand ISO and she went back to her life 10 years passed finally found a nice Jew finally did Chua she wants to marry him what's the problem he's a coin comes from the coin family what does to say not allowed yeah but he loves me good for you not allowed yeah but I love him it's very sad a lot of tears not loud now you know who has the worst position here the rabbi because the rabbi is the one that has teller and I had this Merit to fulfill this Mitzvah was very very difficult I think I cried as much as the girl to tell her that the one that she thought is a fiance cannot be a fiance why he's aen and according to the T she's forbidden even though yeah but she goes rab did CH already I I said you're you're an amazing person if I had a son i' give him to you I had a son your I'll give it to you no problem but Tora says no what if we do it anyway if you do it anyway then you're going against God then you're going to have problems what kind of problems just imagine the worst kind a little worse than that both of you why you're going against the so here we learn that it's not just gam that we have to worry about the fiery horrible place that we've discussed but rather that we have a principle in the Torah where like life is a big circle you know the uh G call what goes around comes around or Karma all types of other terms that they stole from Judaism and just put their name tag on it it's like you created the product but they put their logo on it China so Torah says that everything is a circle don't think that you do something now it's not going to have some type of ramification good or bad so says tells his wife after he saw her gave money to some poor person he says to his wife please next time give money to a poor person but the next time if you see the poor person coming if you already see him from the window and you know he's coming open the door already and go out and give it to him go towards him to give it to him she says uh my dear husband why you just come here what's the goes no because if you go out there and you treat the homeless person with extra Grace and you make the effort to give it to him maybe AEM will do the same thing for our children when they become homeless now you tell this T mother why you cursing my kids cursing you're cursing our kids because no Shalom not curing our kids but it's a well-known thing that life is a circle that one day you're up and it could be that another day you're down one part of your life you're rich and another part of your life you're poor and if it's not you it could be your kids and if it's not your kids it could be your grandkids at some point even if you're the richest man at some point someone along the line one of your descendants could be completely broke so if you're a conscious person that understands what Torah actually says here you're can already think about not just you you can think about past you not because you're saving money for a retirement plan no retirement plan is going to help you with this there are certain people from some of the wealthiest families in history that are completely broke to the extent of being homeless now if you hear some of the names you say oh yeah he must be rich no no he's homeless what do you mean but his grandfather was the richest man in America one of the richest people in history how could it be he had enough money for a million years if if they would have just simply spent money a million dollars every day he'd still be rich doesn't work that way decides who's going to be rich who going be poor yeah what about the grandfather grandfather had the Merit to have money great great great grandson not so much why decided who decided one King asks his dear friend tells him my my dear friend you are a very wise person I respect you I want you to please give me a gift but a gift that is going to help me in life says what kind of gift to help you in life so you see I have everything I have money I have a castle I have control I have everything but I don't want this success to go to my head so how do I do that everybody says yes to me everybody agrees with me except you you tell me the truth but what do I do if you're not around Rabbi says no problem I got something for you few weeks pass says your highness I have the gift for you now if you're a king that has a castle full of diamonds what are you expecting expecting something honorable expecting something expensive the rabbi gives him little silver ring ch cheap ring you buy it from Chinatown $115 but on it as engraving of three letters gazi gim zud says who's this gazi who's this gazi on this cheap ring so no it's a very precious ring made it just for you who who is this gazi says gazi stands for G this too will pass your highness you need to know that no matter where you are in your life if the times are really really good don't take it to your head this two will pass and things will turn around and it's not going to be so good one day the maggots are going to eat you for lunch one day the enemy may win One day things are not going to be so good one day you're not going to be so healthy and young but don't get depressed if you have a down month you have a down year you have a down decade things go bad don't get depressed why this two will pass the bad time will pass also your highness life is a circle this was the Priceless gift why a person that knows that no matter where he is in life this two will pass automatically half of the concern about his problem is gone why because one of the primary reasons that people get to the point of desperation depression and even commit suicide is because of this reason where they don't believe that this will pass the problem that we make as human beings on a regular basis is that we believe that wherever we're at right now it's permanent hence the reason of why when people become successful especially if they're young and unexperienced or inexperienced they start doing a lot of stupid things they start buying expensive cars start buying houses they can't don't even have any enough people to fit in they start doing a bunch of dumb things because they believe that if they're successful now surely they're going to be successful in 5 10 20 30 years we call those people new money what happens to new money broke most of those people go broke why they spent a lot of money assuming that their income and their success will continue only to realize shortly later that their hot stage is gone their top product is no longer wanted it's discontinued their idea is uh no longer valid it's obsolete their uh athletic career their physical ability their idea is no one cares about it anymore why something better came along so they spent a lot of money and this happens a lot with very successful entrepreneurs athletes all types of uh uh people that deal with in Hollywood of of some kind they make 10 20 30 50 1002 200 million in a very short period of time and then you read about them in the news five six years later that uh they're are living in their mother's basement how could it be you had enough money for a small civilization how could it be I wrote a paper years ago that uh shows that nearly 90% of uh the NFL athletes go bankrupt and lose every single penny that they have within three to four years after their career is over now you would think oh yeah but if he has let's say at least 15E career 20e career you know he went from 20 to 40 years old he at least got some time to enjoy the money no wrong average career less than four years yeah but he made $100 million and he lost all of it in less than four years sometimes less sometimes less it's same thing with the NBA same thing with the Major League Baseball same thing with everything same thing with the all all types it's constant why they have this mindset that their success is permanent the people that you see that have a lot of have gained a lot of wealth and are really really successful you know after a very long career are few and far in between they're literally one in a million now on the other hand what ends up happening to those people or people like them is when they fall they get very depressed if money was the substance that they used to give themselves spiritual High then what ends up happening is when that substance is no longer valid they have very severe withdrawal systems psychological withdrawal systems meaning that they now have lost their purpose to life because that was their drug that was their fuel that was their purpose to live which in essence means they now have a purposeless life the truth is they never had a purpose the truth is they had a purposeless life even before this they didn't know yet they were addicted to the money they were addicted to the fame they addicted to the success assuming it's going to continue but then they realize that this is gone and now they think oh my life is over no no your life was over beforeand you just didn't know yet what is it like sometimes there certain electronic devices that you know they have these lead lights and you take out the outlet take out the uh the uh electric the thing from the electric outlet but the lead the lead light stays on for a little while but there's no electricity how is it on there's no electricity answer is there's still a little bit of remaining electricity that the system already got that this lead light is living off of for these extra few seconds or or so that's the same thing with those people while they were living their fake life that was completely based on materialism and getting their spiritual h of money and living a purposeless life what ends up happening is that they think no no it's going it's going everything is okay everything's okay I got a lot of money everything's okay no everything's not okay you happy well no I'm going to get happy but you you have the money that you wanted though yeah yeah I just need a few more things though I need a few more but you have a lot yeah yeah just it's one more thing I need to get married I need to have another care I need to have another house I need to build this company I need to have this deal it's always something else what material why they realized their goal didn't get them to their goal they achieved their goal but it didn't get them to their goal this type of purposeless life is very very difficult to live it's unfortunately very common because what ends up happening is that once these people lose their money they now have not only no money and no purpose but they don't even know know how to get themselves out of this situation cuz they're not used to it they're not used they're not used to recovery so this is a battle literally a survivorship battle now how could they get out of this situation same exact principle gazi this two will pass what do you mean how am going to make money is going to send you money yeah but I don't have any money I used to have $100 million I didn't tell you hm is going to send you another $100 million he may he may not but if he sends you 50,000 you could live well it's so tough no no no it's only tough if you want to maintain the same lifestyle but live you can no but I'm so used get unused to it stop being a baby but what did I do a lot a lot of wrong things you're lucky even alive why are you saying that Rob are you cursing me no no that's what to says T says that money is considered damim money is called blood in the Torah several names for money one of them is blood Bloods plural why Bloods say because people spent their entire life attaining it they spent all of their blood attaining it and what ends up happening is that sees that the time is up on this person he's made a certain amount of sins she made a certain amount of sins and they're ruining their own life and now if they're going to do chuva they have to start soon or else they're G to simply not achieve chuva soem sends them different Messengers sometime he sends them a rabbi sometimes he SS in the movie one of themm took back his millions maybe sometimes he did sometimes he do different things but sometimes they don't get those messages they don't get no no I don't want to watch the movie it's too long it's an hour and a half too long yeah but the movie in the movie theater for 3 hours X-Men you watch them they don't want to listen to the rabbi they don't want to listen to the moonm said something else what do he do IRS lawsuit competition divorce medical problems all types of horrible things that happen to people where literally within a almost overnight it seems all of the money they've believe they worked hard for gone 5 10 20 30 40 50 100 $200 million gone money that you would think how could such a person spend that kind of money I mean if with that kind of money if the guy spends a million year could still live for 100 years how could he lose all of it could lose could lose happens every day cuz no one just sits with their money in cash and puts it in some safe what do they do they invested in different things why they want to make more money they want to protect their assets you now they protect their assets by putting their assets at risk in reality is one day uh yes sir listen we have a uh uh we have something to tell you sir why you know that mutual fund the uh Franklin tumbleton fund that you invested uh $10 million yeah uh yeah it's not worth1 million anymore what because the market went down a little bit yeah something like that what happened it's why it's down what 9.5 because you know it's a conservative fund conservatives Frankin tempton it's a big company trillion dollar company so what 9.5 when lost a little bit why why why you so nervous uh Mr broker no no sir um it's uh it's not worth anything what what do you mean it's not worth anything yeah you see the the Franklin Templeton company uh they announced that uh well the assets are not worth anything what happened to them well you know we don't really know actually sir we don't know but we're just announcing the news two weeks ago but your next statement is going to have a a pretty uh Fair change what kind of change well it used to be 10 million okay so what now zero okay sir we got to go well what do you mean you got to go you just told me I lost $10 million yeah but we have a bunch of other people lost $10 million and more but thank you for your business sir we hope that you come back to us as a client this happened right now you know how many times this happens it continue happening no I lost everything there's no purpose to life I'm going to kill myself and some people kill themselves why because their life was purposeless to begin with what really changed absolutely nothing in reality nothing change cuz the money is not like money that he was using to buy groceries and uh you know he was uh you know he needed the money to to go pay the tuition for the kid the money was on some statement it was some digital number that was on a piece of paper or on a screen better yet that he would see once a month but now that he feels like he doesn't have it anymore there's no purpose to life in reality all that happened here is that he realized that his life was purposeless and now eats even worse now he can't even get that dopamine that dopamine Rush that he gets for half a second every month to look at his statement and see another few 00,000 up few 00,000 down he didn't even have that pleasure anymore so when people are so focused on on materialism it's very very simple for them to become very depressed and once they get depressed it's very quick for them to become suicidal but if a person takes this concept from the Tor of gam this two Shall Pass they'll realize that it's all a circle and yes you lost everything yes you lost a lot yes things are down yes there's a heart broken yeah bad stuff happens in everybody's life at some point or another it's not a curse it's a reality the longer you live the more stuff you're going to experience some good some bad we all have only good it's just let's get so now what does a person do once he gets to tough times he has to remember G this to shall pass so yeah I'm down I'm out of a job I'm out of this I'm out of that I got tough times it's not going to continue this way how long is it going to continue I don't know but I got buckle up stay strong and keep pushing why life is worth it now I can tell you that I have a lot of experience with this when I was going through the worst parts of my own personal battle in health life money all these different things everything there was like a storm of all storms everything was collapsing all at the same time where one day I wake up and aside from my health being in a toilet and aside from my company also being in a toilet there was a little bit left and there's a few million left wake up oh bad news what your portfolio is down 84% sir what do you mean sir it's my portfolio I'm the manager yeah yeah exactly so what do you want uh we need you to come up with a few million dollar in uh two hours I don't have I just lost yeah so you're going to have to sell everything for a loss no chance to recover why can't you give me a couple days that's not the rule sir got $30 million on the line here $40 million on the line here every few minutes it could be worse you could be in a negative okay so let me just try to sell this that no no no we're going to sell it for you yeah but you guys don't know how to sell you're going to ruin it even worse sir thank you for your business Click by the time they finished they made it much worse instead of being left with few million $111,000 now you got to call the clients I'm sorry I didn't do anything wrong I didn't do anything illegal but I'm still sorry all right you gave me responsibility and I failed many people took it well we appre appreciate you we've done a lot of business with you and so on and so forth but a few not so much who are those few didn't take it so much the ones that their whole life was based on material and those people usually the closest to me the ones that I invested the most in the ones that I invested the most in the ones that I helped a lot the ones that I put everything into all the energy best part yet the ones that I made them all of the money not me but in my practice and all the different things that we did for them is obviously the one that does everything but when they came to me they were uh out of verge of bankruptcy within three four years turn these people into multi-millionaires all of a sudden they are big shots [Applause] ah they're the ones that accused they're the ones that if you look at the uh uh on the internet you look it up you know all my enemies they like to look me up so it's good for them it gives them something to do and uh look they say oh yeah look lawsuit look couple people suit him he's a criminal you do business people going to sue you the more business you do the more likely you have to get sued if you didn't get sued you probably didn't do much business you do billion dollars in business get suited for 3 million that's pretty good it's pretty good now smart people also understand that it's not about the lawsuit why it's about the outcome what's the outcome somebody sues you for a million dollar wins a million dollars obviously shows you're guilty but if somebody sues you for a million dollar and settle for 9,000 settle for 9,000 why would you settle for 9,000 if you really have a real claim for a million dollar $2 million what does it show there's no claim there's no no no case but the enemies are not going to tell you that they going to tell you ah see he got sued criminal criminal no no you're just a you never made any money in your life you do a billion dollars in business like I did billion with a B billion do a billion dollars in business then you can talk but Circle did a billion dollar business now you say thank you for people that send you 200 bucks for staka right right life circle life a circle now what do I prefer 100 million zillion zillion percent saying thank you for 200 bucks why all the money in the world did not give me any blessing what gave me blessing toah so when a person uses the fall as a way to connect to the fall turns into a blessing when he realizes this two shall pass and eventually gets out of it you realize all thing is a blessing one big blessing person doesn't do that his life turns into one big curse and for a while it was a curse why you're dealing with pain you wake up in the morning in pain you go to sleep in pain during the day you're in pain sometimes more sometimes less depending on the uh you know on the volume what decid to give you for that hour friends sometimes pain you're pretty much disabled laying there wherever you fell not wherever you lay down wherever you fell you just sit there screaming yelling crying no one can help you sometimes sometimes you have to boil yourself in water hot water like boiling water why because the pain from the water is uh better than the pain that you have otherwise Sometimes the best solution is to go cut your body up why you got to go to the doctor she cut you up give you other pain give you a surgery why that pain suffering there is better than the pain that you have and so on and so forth now when you deal with so much pain what happens it's depressing it get you to a point where you think this is going to be forever I'm going to be sick forever I'm be in pain forever who wants to live such a life oh well you know at least a little bit of money so I could buy some stuff to you know to give me some uh happiness oh money's gone oh okay so money is not good okay so friends you know a couple friends oh no no the friends yeah yeah they just robbed your office sir you know those friends that you know the ones that you bought them the house the ones that you helped their marriage the ones that you did all that stuff for yeah yeah they just robbed you oh no friends though okay so friends money help what do you got uh okay so I'm going I'm just going to die I'm just going to jump off a bridge no no no you still got a few things that are good what the few you know your wife your mom Brothers when you're in hell in your mind you don't think that this is valuable in reality Priceless why you realize G now when I was in my hell and I wanted to commit suicide and I wanted to do a lot of different things to to end it I wasn't thinking like this why I didn't have Tor in his Mercy send us the message and a little by little we woke up to realize that there's much more value to life than money than this than all these different things that we talked about and with without the pain and whether the pain goes away or not is irrelevant there's still value to life and you start realizing that you got to keep pushing you got to keep moving forward you got to keep doing things that are good and you can enjoy life even with the suffering even with the difficulty and little by little you start getting yourself into situation where you start dealing with the problems differently it's not that you start doing chuva all your problems go away sometimes that happens but not necessarily always and not necessarily uh right away either even if it does go away but the Beautiful part is is that you still you start living life with a purpose because all of a sudden your new life has to do with purpose of life with the Afterlife with continuity it's not just about here it's about later on it's about after and so on and so forth but a lot of us don't think like that a lot of us don't think that we uh are uh you know we don't think Beyond this life we think about just now and we get very very very depressed because of that and that's a mistake so the first thing that we need to know is that this life is just a corridor to the real life and this life whether it be 70 80 100 years whatever it is it's not real life this is the place you work where you enjoy the benefits of your work is a place that's Eternal or you pay the consequences when a person starts thinking about the next World his actions his decisions his mindset our mindset are very different why because now you start realizing okay wait a minute hold on so maybe what I'm going to do right now may uh cost me a lot of money maybe to give $1,000 St I'm going to have $1,000 Less in my bank to help out a friend give him a job even so uh I really uh don't want to give him a job but he needs a job because or else he's not going to be able to feed his kids and just to give him money it's not really helping him so I'd rather just give him a job yeah but that means I'm spending and this and that you start doing all if you do the math in your head it's never going to work out but if you do the math for it'll work out why it's much better to give somebody a job than to give somebody why cuz when you give somebody a job they don't feel like you're giving them anything feel like thank you do me a favor but I'm working I'm working for it you still have their honor still have their respect give somebody it's very difficult why a person is ashamed so now if a person understands that if they continue pushing for life they continue pushing pushing pushing and fighting through the struggle and it's going to be over at some point without giving yourself a time frame a lot of people have a problem because they give themselves a specific time frame oh no no if I don't get a solution if I'm not healed if I'm not making money if I'm not married if I'm not this or that by next year by next month by within the next two years that's it I'm giving up no no don't don't don't give don't give AEM a clock he's not your employee you got to keep pushing and living life and going through the struggles because that's what you got to do don't put a clock on it why clock will always disappoint you the clock will always disappoint you so make sure that you're pushing without the clock why because it's the right thing to do it's the right thing to do this is what you're supposed to do live and use whatever you learned from that difficult experience to change your actions if you have to do it all over again now what a lot of people don't know is that the although the main punishment that happens to a person happens in and the main reward surely happens in there are different things that does in this world where he runs the world with measure for measure that's as strict as can be so much so that the says anyone says that anyone says that Hashem just lets things go Hashem gives them an extra punishment just for thinking that tell is a let go everything has to be paid for everything either by chuv or by suffering you pick so now at the time of the there was a young man successful that uh was a landlord and his poor Widow and her kids weren't able to pay the rent so the landlord came and he started intimidating her and yelling at her he said I'm sorry just give me some more time I I don't have anywhere else to go I don't have money for food I just just let us you know at least give us a Ro we'll get you the money no lady you got till 2 hours but I don't have anywhere else to go I don't have family I'm alone here in the middle of nowhere in uh the the the uh uh countries of ashkenas you Europe over there I have anything it's freezing outside you know just give us a little more time this R remove the roof you know was it wasn't like today's roofs and today's houses remove the the roof of the house let the pouring rain go into the house so she had to run away from there when heard about this still young they told him about this he said I wonder what a is going to do with him I wonder what kind of punishment hasem is going to give this person now everybody heard about the story everybody got shocked not only to be so vicious to another Jew but to a to a widow woman you know just has kids and no husband to pay nothing so vicious one je to another so everyone expected hasm to give judgment a year passed nothing guy continued making money another year nothing another year nothing 10 years nothing 20 years nothing people forgot about it already 50 years passed 50 years passed that means 50 y 50 50 opportunities at least once a year do CH that's where you go do CH I'm sorry shouldn't have done it 50 years nothing one day it's announced in the community it's a very horrible case older man got bitten by a dog that has rabies in those days they didn't have the Cure Torah always had the Cure by the way it's mentioned in thear but not everybody learns but anyway man got bitten by dog has rabies the guy is in so much pain he's barking he's this he's yelling he's screaming Agony it's hard to even be around it this person is extremely successful this person has a lot of things this that but no doctor could help him nothing can be done and he's suffering something that no one's ever seen before he suffered so much from the pain of the of this rabies he died from pain it's called strange death heard about the story he says I wonder who this person is he investigated who is it it's the guy that threw out the Widow and our kids removing the roof wait for wait for wait for him 50 years you got it why doesn't give up doesn't let go gave my opportunity say oh where's the kindness what do you mean where's the kindness what do you mean where's the kindness he waited 50 years if that's not kindness what's kindness somebody owes you 500 bucks you you call them every week no no you have the money I need the money I need the money no no I don't have it right now ah come on what are you doing this to me you start yelling at the guy insulting him yeah you don't wait for two weeks he's hasem waited 50 years 50 years waiting for this guy to do chuva every year he made sure there's a holiday that's a chuva holiday day nothing nothing that's not kindness what's kindness and that's only the punishment here we're not talking about what's waiting for him over there says here we see again measure for measure it's another time F told me the story says that um true story that uh just happened a few days ago a uh ra by name of raani said it and heard it and he knows the person himself true story says there was a uh woman that uh went into a bank and uh as the T to uh withdraw 300 shekels about 100 bucks from our account tell say no problem looked in the computer negative balance says I'm sorry ma'am I can't give you you already have a negative balance in the account you've already borrowed against the account then now there's a negative balance and you haven't paid we can't give you the woman says to him listen don't do this to me I need money to feed my kids I'm a widow I don't have any money I need money just to feed my kids I need you know $100 to feed my kids says I'm sorry lady I can't I kid it's a bank rules but listen I need the money I need to I need to eat we need to eat I can't lady I can't I'm sorry it's not my money it's the bank she listen look go the guy got so frustrated he started yelling at the woman ah what do you think this is what you think he charity the woman was so insult in front of everybody you know it's a bank guy's yelling at her so insulted says this is she starts crying histerical he says that's how much you embarrass me over $100 and she runs out of the out of the bank now the president of the bank saw this he couldn't take it and he ran after the lady went outside and said thisen this lady I'm sorry I'm sorry takes 300 shekels out of his pocket he goes here you go you don't have to give it back she's crying no no no I don't want I don't want I don't want nothing I don't want I don't want I don't want he said I tried to convince her no way she's not taking it not taking it and she went away when the president of the uh Bank comes back in he's a little shocked but then he sees in the office he sees that the vice president is crying emotional of the story well so he goes in the goes what happened you okay something happened no no no no it's okay it's okay no no tell me what happened listen it's just it's okay it's okay no no tell me what happened tell me I saw what happened yeah is it remind me of a story that happened 40 years ago what happened 40 years ago he says when I was a kid was a little boy my uh my dad died my mom had to take care of us and uh she didn't have much money and we went to the molit we went to this you know the store Delhi and you know the way it worked in Israel doesn't work like that in America is that even if you don't have money he writes it in a book oh listen I'm buying this this and this put it on my tab put it on my tab and you know over time you pay it it's like uh Community Bank I remember when we left is over 30 years ago my mom God bless her she uh was very struggling financially at the time build up a tab of almost $5,000 which is an enormous amount of money to the molit the fact that the guy Rafi hasem bless him I don't know if he's still alive or not but the fact that he was able to carry such tab for my family is a big big but one of the greatest things that I learned in my life is that despite the fact that we moved from is to America my mom sent the money every single month until she paid the full tab till she paid the full tab took a few years but she sent them all the money until she paid the full tab could away come out I'm a different country has a no honesty is honesty you don't have to be the most religious person in the world to be honest to be ethical somebody did you a favor an ungrateful person so this guy this Vice President says I uh remember 40 years ago I was a kid my father died went to the deli my mom brought you know got a few things minimal stuff some bread some milk cheese so we can eat went to the counter and the uh owner looked at his book so I'm sorry I can't do it so my mom wh whispered to him thought I can't hear that was a little kid she didn't think I was paying attention but I heard every word and she whispered to him don't do this to me don't do this to me please it's the only thing I have I need food for my kids I don't have anything in the house I don't have anything in the house please the guy looks at her and he gets angry it's my fault you don't have anything I can't do it return it please don't do this to me she's still Whispering the guy gets so angry he takes the bag from her the basket takes everything out gives uh puts back empty basket he says now get out of the store kicks her out of the store he said the my mom cried and the pain that I saw my mom's face says the worst pain I've ever seen on anybody's face my mom not to have food for kids might as well be death I sorry my mom and went home we overcame it I grew up became successful became vice president of the uh Bank over here and now this happened so the president of the bank says wow it's quite a story now he goes I'm not finished see sir that Storyteller over there the the the the owner of the Delhi that threw my mom out his daughter was that woman that the bank teller and our bank just threw out of the bank that was his daughter that was his daughter life is circle life is circle tells us life's Circle that's how Works person needs to know but there's also good ways at one point was ready to build this is about 120 years ago bu giant rich person comes says oh I'll pay for the whole thing we're trying to build the $20 at a time we're waiting for the guy that's going to come say paid for whole thing right check $10 million right check for a million no something not yet not coming soon but somebody were Sho stringe but he wanted to build we're trying to build he did what was needed but trying to do what's needed follow the instructions of our forefathers when will my actions reach the actions of my forefathers is what a Jew is supposed to say every day said I'm open rich person comes says I'm ready to pay for all thing says something I don't think anybody in the world is going to say no can't pay for the whole thing no no but for I insist I have the money it's not about the money can't pay for the whole thing I keep Shabbat I keep it it's not about you keeping I know you keep I know you come to show everything we like you you're good guy can't pay for the whole thing why not for the love say the most you can get is one wall you can pay for a wall pay for a wall put your name on the wall that's what you can pay for but why I want I want to do the whole thing you see we don't have the BET mikdash right now we don't have the bet mikash that means we have to get as many MIT as possible we need as many people as possible to get involved in this mitvah to show that we want to build a mdash so we can't give all the marit to just you because every single person that donates money for the sake of Tora is fulfilling the entire Tor a person that does not donate for the sake of Tor it's going against the Tor so much so almost made he made but then he retracted it say someone doesn't support has no share of the world to come but then he said to the guy no no remove it go why it's not a met it goes to then why we removing it says because if I make this a they're going to make a in sh too nobody has a chance all the people don't donate for instead they donate to Hanah parties they donate to horses they donate to dogs that's least give them a chance but that's damn it you have to support to how much as much as you can at the very least your if you could do you can do 20 saying do 20 point is you have to give money for why that shows your more most important investment in eternity it's much more important than your second house it's much more important than a nice car it's much more important than any jewelry you get right it's Investing For it's investing to build the Tora and sanctify K's name every day so this man rich guy says I that's what I want to do I want to pay for the whole thing I will invest for says no you invest for but only a will why everybody else also has to invest so the guy accepted it got a from the gives him a very respectable blessing makes the wall a very special wall in puts his name on it as you would have it life is a circle puts us here puts us there puts us that all types of places a few years passed and the guy dies the donor dies of course the government don't need much excuses to take all your money if you're a Jew that's enough of an excuse second he died said yeah yeah we he owed here he owed here he ow there wiped out everything that he had took the house took everything left the wife and the kids with nothing zero z0 zero heard about this brought told the people bring the woman here cry say no no nothing to cry about here let me show you takes to Thea come over here here you go this your room this is your house your new house you and the kids are going to live here you have a designated room in the Yesa why why people no no no it's the least we can do this is what the owes you ow your husband you see when a person invest into Tor invest into helping do invest into sanctify kosh's name he's not doing the Torah a favor he's not doing the rabbi a favor he's doing himself a favor why Life's a Circle the money that you have today saying no no I'll donate at the end of the year who says you're going to have the money at the end of the year what's the most important mitvah we have inah you have now which mitvah whatever you you can do right now do that's the most important mitvah yeah Shabbat Shabbat big deal but Shabbat is not today when Shabbat comes that's the most important Mitzvah but right now you can't do Shabbat it's not the most what you can't do it's 10 o' at night can't put on 10:00 at night it's not the most when is the most in the morning when you can do you put layer what can I do right now you didn't get the point yet you can learn T you can give you could share this lecture do [Applause] K three me in 5 seconds and there's plenty of others that's the most important that's the most important person needs to understand that it's not just the size of the Mitzvah but it's also the timing and when a person utilizes these few different tools that we talked about he's going to make himself be placed in a good place in this circle regardless of which you know sometimes we're up sometimes we're down but at least if we make the right decisions when we're up Hashem will also have mercy on us if we're ever getting to the point that we're down or our descendants are down and that's what was trying to teach his wife when the poor man comes to collecta go towards him go towards him don't wait for him to come to you you already see he's coming go towards him extra kindness why soem if it gets to the point where our kids or our descendants are down are homeless are in bad shape hasem also extends somebody to us that they don't have to embarrass themselves extra why life is a circle life is a circle with that being said who wants to come up with some questions Joshua free the questions guys freeths G months so this says that go 12 months but then there's another and there an entire section in the Z his entire teaching in the and many many other holy books that talk about how from the same Rim says some people get G for a very long time eternity Forever Until the is destroyed so one side you say one year other side you say many years or infinity or you look at the uh when the beginning it says go to G for one year he says but some go to G forever says what's the difference says if the ones that uh the ones that go forever they make sins both they make sins what sins they make they make sins with their body say give me an example everybody understands the example but the example that the comes up with is someone doesn't put on someone doesn't put on every day just simply decides not to put says he goes to G no PR and of course other bodily sins wasting seed adultery going with and so on these are different big sins that a person that if he doesn't do CH or she doesn't do CH very very big problem but here we still have a contradiction okay how come one time you telling us one and another time forever I mean there you know there a middle ground somewhere right so anyone looks in yii says the there's two there's the there's it says that are poor in one place but are rich in another meaning that when you learn about a subject in the Torah specific issue in the Torah you must learn it from all of the different places that are mentioning that subject and not just one place there's not a single place in the Tor to learn about any issue in the Tor it's dispersed all over the place so for example the boys right now are about to complete now you know what's the good news they're learning right now things about now if you think that this is the last place you're going to learn about mistake why because that's about to complete guess what he also learned about yeah but how come they didn't put it in why don't they just put everything and everything in Shabbat related to shabbat that's not how it works how does our work our Torah works like our nervous system where our nervous system if you ever saw any of these visual illustrations on the uh computers and so on see our nervous system is completely connected everything is connected to everything so sometimes a person can have a pain in their foot that has nothing to do with their foot it has to do with some clot or some nervous issue that's in their back sometimes they can have something in uh their chest but has nothing to do with their chest could be something that's in happening in a different part body part so that's why for example anyone you know these in the medical world they tell you that uh if you have certain symptoms then you should check your heart say oh yeah if my chest hurts no no no KN chest hurs other things there other symptoms why because your whole body is connected there a nervous system everything's connected so this also explains people asking why I don't understand how could everything go so bad from a simple uh hemor hemor rectomy hemorrhoid rectomy how the whole body being pain from that surgery that you had how could it be because again the whole body is connected if you have a problem with one nerve it could literally affect the entire body the entire body needless to say from there we learn our Tor is just like this we do not learn Torah from just one book or one line when we learn about a specific subject we have to learn about it from everywhere that encompasses it and that's why you'll see that every time it's mentioned anywhere it gives you the source of where he got it from so of course everything starts with the five books of Moses so if you see it in the I tell you where did you get this from oh this is based on the verse and such and such this it's in a it's in the uh it's in a in and so on and so forth on this verse going tell you the source but also it's mentioned in a different G and you see there's another it's also mentioned in the and so on and so forth so you see that they're all connecting things and you see that this is also discussed in five different other places so then when you see it for example you see it in the of whatever you're looking for he's going to tell you oh yeah I got this from this on this page but also from this this page and also from this P at this page why can't you just give me one no no can't just give you one why because this one is discussing the right side of this Mitzvah this one is discussing the left side of the Mitzvah and this one is discussing the middle of the Mitzvah hypothetical point is that it's not just one place there's different places there's different facets to the diamond that's how we learned toah so when you see a single statement in the Tor that says something that seems like like it's contradictory to what we've said it doesn't mean that it's we're wrong what it means that you have to learn more and that's why many times when you see uh uh quality speakers they'll give you one source sometimes two but if you see that same speaker right a book in the book they may mention five sources 10 sources why can't he just give me one like he did in the lecture why is he trying to show me smart he knows a lot of sources no no no you don't speak the way you write and you don't write the way you speak doesn't work the same way so when you're learning from the you're learning from the books you'll see that every single major thing has countless different sources countless different so for example if you're going to go over a certain today it's going to tell you yeah this we got it from the in this in this page and this in that section now you're going to go to to go to the source right is going to tell you okay we got this from where ra and such and such and Page such and such and such and such now you go to the r the com the rambam himself didn't put sources but the that came after him put the sources of where he got what he got so other people have an easier time so you look at the r and you see oh the r wrote this where did he get it from oh he's using such and such so you go to and that says it's because of a different and that and that and then where all they got it from it's all from the and so on and so forth now we don't get from the as far as the the prophets or the uh the writings but we get a from them meaning it's like an assurance that this is the right direction of what we're getting is only from the five books of Moses but the point being is is that why didn't the guy that wrote the book today just mention the original Source why didn't he just mention this Allah is from in this and this why do you have to give me the and gave me the ra and the r gave me one of the p and this and that and then I went to the and eventually I got all the way to the promised land and a w Night written Tor why didn't I just get it from the guy that wrote a book today why is he breaking my head because that's how you learned toah that's how you learned to you can't just go and say oh if I could just read the I'm going to understand you're not going to understand anything now only you're not going to you're not going to understand anything you're not even going to understand how they connected this unless you go through all of the steps and in reality I'm minimizing it it's a lot more steps than what I'm telling you why because the guy that wrote the book today the G that wrot a book today he's not just mentioning he's mentioning 5 10 20 30 50 150 sources for one single thing what one yeah but there's hundreds of major Pro scheme that went for that went against and he's giving you both sides and why we chose this side to show you that everything you could possibly think of was already thought of everything you think about so now when it comes to the issue of G if you see it in a regular book that was written by some with all do respect to all of them that says one thing or the other one sentence one little tiny paragraph do not by any stretch of the imagination think that this encompasses the entire subject of Gom or any other subject and even if you ask that himself if he's an honest person he's a real is this encompassing the whole subject think no of course not there's thousands of books written about it thousands not hundreds thousands thousands of books written about it thousands of spoke about this subject not own thousands when we did a sh on G we covered hundreds of sources but when we did when it was pertaining just to meaning not Gom discussed by all of the in history but just there was a second Shield that we did g based on meaning that you've narrowed down the search the research that was done done for that was over 1,400 sources from 1,400 sources 1400 1,400 different places now you guys get on a silver platter sounds like oh it's easy yeah I can do this I can do what he does yeah yeah I could do yeah I could do everybody could do it yeah yeah same thing no that's so simple why is a genius I try to learn as much as I can and benefit as much as possible and give it to you guys on a silver platter but the point is is that we see from there that just on the aspect of there are literally hundreds and hundreds of that discussed this particular issue needless to say there are thousands that have discussed this issue in a grand bigger scope of Judaism which is much bigger than just everybody understands that is not all of Judaism you know Judaism existed before 250 years ago when Kaz started so this specific issue is only debated in this generation with this specific argument no one 50 100 200 years ago debated the issue of whether Gom is a year or forever no one debated that why it's obvious it's clear first of all it's a clear that says it's it's much longer second of all anyone with a brain knows that it's not possible for everyone to go to Gom all the wicked to go to Gom for just one year why if you have a brain let's use it for a second okay brain turn on you put the button on go now start running now okay Manis that told you that GOM only one year worst case okay let's see manness how does this work okay one guy he kept went to the shield did this did that da but one time he did something bad no matter what it is he did something bad let's say we call the guys obviously has to pay we just had a whole hour talking about how nothing's for free right so hasem says okay you get a year and gay home right another guy did not just that one sin that this first guy did a million times more see tell me he's also getting one year and G home so that one guy did One S gets one year in G home and the other guy did a million times he's getting only one year in G that's it everybody gets the same punishment if you say that the in sh says that makes a person 100% a heretic can't count them in why because saying that everyone gets one year in Gom turns God into a vicious God but everybody gets the same sentence second say yeah butab I'm keeping everything so what the worst things happened to me one year I don't know what what do you mean you're keeping do you know everything it also depends how many time you make sins because even if a person makes a sin okay I messed up you don't just make one sin in your life you make a bunch so if every sin is one year in Gom already you have millions of years so what's our answer don't focus on going to gain home focus on going to ganeden how do you focus on going to ganeden do mitv become so busy doing mitv you don't have time to make sins and the time that you failed and you made a sin do Chua which is a beautiful thing why because when you do chv you know what happens you know what happens when you do chv gives you reward for the Chua not only you you're a criminal but now you did Chua says you did Chu son I'm going to give you a reward for doing Chua in essence you got rewarded for being a thief because you did cha it's not rational but that's how much hasm loves us but if we focus only about going to Gom G Gom Gom then we're probably going to go to Gom because we Manic the presence it's good to know that GOM is much longer than a year because if it's really only one year honestly I would tell everybody do whatever you want anyone's go everybody's going to G for just one year it's the worst thing do whatever you want what's the difference if you violate Shabbat you murder people yall going to go one year what that's the worst thing can happen what's the point obviously everyone understands it cannot be one year and that's why theim were very very adamant about this point to the extent with the ran one of the greatest one of the greatest ever had literally wrote that anyone that says such a thing is 100% heretic just like he violated the entire 13 principles of Faith so why does the one or the one SE say one year or this or that because again like we said in the beginning we learn from thei thei says that the way the Torah Works in one place it's poor and another place it's rich and one place going to give you one sentence and another place they give you five sentences that doesn't mean that you by default go to the five sentences doesn't mean that what it means is you take the one you take the five you combine them and after that you look for some more you look for some more more more more more and little by little you start getting yourself a serious answer and a serious uh understanding of a specific subject that's how tah is learned so if you ever see something that's contradictory don't jump to conclusions don't get a uh all riled up this is not the entire scope of the subject regardless of what the subject is does not just gain them anything next question same price 1% no um okay um we with that um our purpose here is to really with the to really help us fix TR and so as we learning and trying to do everything that we do and let's the subject of knowing that and everything that comes to you it's because so so like you're working with other people and you yourself you're trying to that focus and but you are put in situation that people are kind of they don't understand that idea and their focus is like whoever that's I'm doing business with that person is um don't that's video so they give them that that whole glory and you have to be put in a position to kind of pretty much serve that person in whatever they do whe or right so you say you work for a com for you you work for a person that does not believe in and so many words is not a person that's preparing themselves for ganed they're preparing themselves for very different world they believe that their effort their uh strength is what's making the money and what's making their their success and so on now this is the norm so it's not a unique situation the overwhelming majority of the world literally 99.99999% of the world unfortunately has the belief that their effort their skill their wisdom their intellect their idea is what is going to bring them success their luck their being at the right place at the right time their coincidence and so on and so forth people take credit for all of the good that hasem gives them as if they got it themselves this is the norm now what happens when you work for those people what happens when you do business with those people well the truth is if you didn't do business with those people you simply wouldn't be able to work in the world because the majority of the people are like this either they're your boss or they're your manager or they're your employee or they're your customer or sometimes Shalom your spouse or or your friend or a family member they're everywhere that's how people are so we have to understand that the Torah doesn't tell you that you're only allowed to associate and do business with people that are you know that are completely righteous one of the 36 that are you know that the world exist on it doesn't say that you conduct the way of the world is you know it's a uh the uh the way of the world and running the world is something that you need to understand and to apply to your life and make sure that you do whatever is necessary in order for you to fulfill the Torah meaning that you're allowed to work with such people as long as they're not uh you know uh preaching idol worship and uh and getting other people to idol worship or something like that if they're just uh mistaken in their ideology and so on you're still allowed to uh to deal with them to work for them to do whatever but understand that your role is to fulfill the Torah through your life which includes your job so how do you fulfill your Torah through your job by being an honest employee an honest boss an honest customer doing your role so when you work for somebody you're getting paid for it make sure you work don't have him pay you for stuff that he that you're doing for somebody else if your boss is paying you to work for him for let's say I don't know ask him amount of hours he's telling you that from let's say I don't 8:00 in the morning till 6:00 at night or till 10:00 at night whatever your schedule is you work for me I'm paying you you're you're my employee right you're not allowed to do any side projects on his time or her time you're not allowed if you do you're 100% Thief gazel now yeah but he never saw he never got hurt it doesn't matter if he gets hurt it doesn't matter if he saw he's paying you to produce for him she's paying you to produce for her not for somebody else so so yeah but I got my work done doesn't matter that extra time that you had to do that site project you could have done that site project that he's paying you for and made him more money you took that time that he's paying you for to work for something else for yourself for somebody else you're 100% a thief you want to work for yourself either quit and go work for yourself or that's at times that he's not paying you for you cannot do that so that's in essence how you fulfill the Torah when you're working doesn't matter that he's a bad guy or he doesn't believe in God or he's a doesn't make a difference you still have to be a Jew you still have to comply with the Torah you still have to do what you're doing you still have to be honest if you're the boss you have to pay people on time if you're the customer you have to make sure that your check clears and you're not giving people uh some checks that are practically less than paper if you're the uh employee you have to make sure that you're an honest employee and so on and so forth you have to fulfill your role and be a light to the Nations that doesn't mean that everyone is going to be attracted to your light but surely after they see you being a light for a long time they'll see he's a light he's a light and that's actually what happened many many times throughout history where when the G saw that they mentality that their uh their power and their strength failed you know the money didn't help the weapons didn't help the nothing medicine nothing helped they were in Dire Straits what did they do they went to the Jewish people to persecute the Jewish people why they're holy yeah but just six months ago you made fun of them yeah I made fun of them doesn't mean it's true they're still holy yeah but just six months ago you're making this you're making that doesn't make a difference they're they special people they're the light and we fail we have to go to them so the way you are at work is you have to be honest you have to be ethical you have to do what you have to do and that's why now the other way is another thing is you could try you could try to influence the public aside from your actions by also sharing Torah with them in a direct or indirect way by uh giving them if they're Jews giving them one of our CDs giving them a poster sharing a text message if you socialize with these people uh you know you give him a text message one of the lectures you could try to do kir that way but one thing doesn't steer you know doesn't uh contradict the other one thing is not more than the other first and foremost you have to know as an employee you're getting paid for a certain service that's it whether the boss or manager or whoever is good or bad person doesn't make a difference if you're going to get that money you want that money you have to do the service you have to provide the service now I can tell you from experience of dealing with I don't know how many but it's definitely in the thousands of people in business thousands customers as well as vendors and so on service providers and so on I have yet to meet a single person that's honest in business one person I'm this this is not one of those times where I'm exaggerating just for th I'm dead serious not a single person have I found that's actually honest now sometimes they're good in the beginning first transaction you give them something they provide it so what do you do you come back for more right that's when it get you sometimes it's two times or three times or four times some six months sometimes it could be two years but it eventually happens with every single person I've ever dealt with every single time never failed never failed I've never I I just it's it's it's unbelievable to me he said yeah I'm honest in business I laugh in my heart like yeah right you're either the mashiah or you're you're lying to yourself why people don't even know what honesty is they don't think it's wrong to do what they're doing you know they decide listen I'm going to charge my customers I don't know 100 bucks a month to go clean their pools how of you going to come I'm going to come once a week okay 100 bucks once a week no problem all right the guy comes once a week month two three four five months good right then all of a sudden you see the guy didn't come this week oh okay maybe I didn't see him all right then you he comes next week okay fine but then you start noticing after a while he's only coming twice a month but he's still paying for four what happened no no he came he came no no he didn't come I'm home all day I see he didn't come no no he came he came I think you're I think you're too busy no no I'm not too busy I see he's not he didn't come what the guy think he thought that you're not going to see why because usually people are not home and he's figuring listen the pool's clean no one's using it anyway so what what's the big deal for this customer if I just skip once the big deal is you're a thief that's the big deal to the customer in reality it's not a big deal why the pools clean or whatever the service is it's not a big deal but in sh 100% big deal sh they're going to take care of you for what skipping same thing with other things you pay a person oh is a commission to do such and such job oh yeah I'm going to do this I'm going to do this I'm going to do this I'm do guy doesn't do it I had one time I was building or one of my many websites in business websites are like my mini nightmare in life I've spent so many tens of thousands of dollars on them and I've built so many they're like my tun in life I think uh I don't know I can't be a website developer on the previous goo but I did something to do with it anyway one time I had a guy come there yeah pitch me this whole thing for business this that how much do you want $47,000 to build this website and this and that this whole plan okay no problem gave a piece of the money started doing some work that delay delay delay d okay sir here's where you have after I don't know however many months waiting for this thing he already got out of the 47,000 he already got 40,000 of it which was a mistake on my end by the way you should never pay somebody that much money for what incomplete work but anyway 40,000 okay what do you got I look at the product I'm like this is not even half finished ah I'm not doing anymore what do you mean do I paid you all the money I'm not doing anymore click you tell stuff like this happened to me in life wo I can give you the stories the world would would would end and the stories wouldn't countless lawyers doctors web developers all types of uh business everything why people are simply dishonest to the extent where they don't even realize it's wrong you know who realize it's wrong people that have and that's why the says someone who doesn't have you shouldn't even be in a room with him alone why he may kill you why because he has he may kill you yes where we learn it from says to says how come you didn't tell me that your wife is really your that your sister is really your wife abah says to him I sure there's no here so they would kill me over my with my wife person have don't deal with them at all but the problem is it's can be very very hard for you to find customers managers uh employee everything so you have to deal what people that but just be very careful be very careful and expect the worst don't be overly optimistic with certain things because it's a reality it's reality certain people promise a lot if they would deliver half of what they promis it's already miracle and that's how it is practically in all of the dealings that I've seen in my life and trust me even if you said no no maybe have bad luck it's not I don't have bad luck other people tell me story just a few days ago a few days ago somebody says listen for a guy that uh was struggling because of Corona and everything else he's a builder or whatever he is and he can't build nothing so I felt bad so we figured you know what let us give some this guy some work get some work in the house so we hire told listen come to the work you know fix up this place I don't know $10,000 job you know it's good money when you don't have any money or anyway oh $10,000 job good great okay after you finish the job okay great all right all right thank you got the money okay very good thank you very much see you after guy leave honey where's the boxes we got from uh UPS today I don't know what do you mean you don't know we got we got some stuff I don't know let's look at the camera look at the camera the guy stole the stuff from them the guy stole the boxes there all cameras the guy stole the boxes the same guy they just fed him he was broke had no money to pay nothing they gave him a job he stole from them oh I'm sorry yeah no I know yeah yeah yeah okay just bring it back it's okay I don't know what got into me okay every day why you have no you commit murder in a second needless to say dishonest in business so what is what do we learn from here be careful set your expectations where they should be and not where you want them to be be careful expectations don't be overly optimistic don't be overly pessimistic either because you're pessimistic you can't move on in life you have to be optimistic to a certain extent but when it comes to people set yourself up in such a position where everyone is replaceable do not depend on anybody being here tomorrow don't think anyone owes you anything don't think that anyone is going to promise you anything whatever promises people tell you have it one year and out the other not because they're dishonest not because they're bad people but because today that's what they're saying who knows if they still believe what they're saying next week people change people change was aad people think that K was a gangster K was a sadik you know how I know he was a navi it's a prophet he saw a prophecy that is in his lineage sh is coming hasem doesn't give somebody uh such fishs what happened with K his wife whispered in his ear told him man you knowu the wicked wife he listened to her next thing you know instead of loving he hates him that's what the Torah says a woman builds a woman destroys if she's righteous then she'll tell you listen mosenu is's a good Rabbi you should listen to him yeah but he said something I didn't like he rebuked me listen he's a rabbi if he rebuked you say I'm sorry Rabbi you're right yeah but I'm not sorry sh I'm sorry why you re he's right well he's not right he's right how do you know he's right you didn't even hear what he said if he said it he's right why he's the rabbi by default he's right by default doesn't have to explain himself people are no no can you explain this I don't have to what you're the rabbi I don't tell if I ask my Rabbi certain questions and he gives me an answer against what I want I say can you explain it to me please why do you have this Ence I say that sometimes you want more to learn but not because you're trying to have them justify so somebody tells you oh listen where is this to say what you said is there a source for it what you think I'm a liar now if you're asking for a source first second third fourth time no problem or because you don't know maybe I'm a liar maybe make stuff up but after you've gotten a 100 sources from me already you're still asking for a source is it for learning purposes or you trying to see from line I just made it up for entertainment purposes and that's the problem you have to understand you have a certain role rabbis have a certain role have a certain role employees have a certain role uh the boss has a certain role customer has a everybody's got a certain role you have to have certain expectations certain things put everybody in certain things and just understand that not everything is always going to dance to your tune and work according to your plan but you got to keep pushing keep pushing do what you got to do put your head down Focus good things will follow good things will follow but as far as disappointments from people the longer you live the more you become used to it because that's what happens that's what happens this is what it is this is what it is go ahead hopefully you guys have less disappointments than I did in my life but uh I don't know I know a lot of Old-Timers and uh they uh they uh kind of had similar similar Strate similar uh Journey that's how people are next we're almost done what time is it5 okay no guys asking some big uh philosophical questions today big uh you can make shim out of these questions no give me an easy one no sun got one okay no okay it says you have to look at the commentary of exactly where he said it what Rashi says over there um you know yes so so surely a person has to judge everyone based on Al and it's a forbidden for a person to uh to ever judge a uh uh a person based on his circumstance meaning that if Thea says that let's say for example there's a uh big uh uh lawsuit between a rich guy and a poor guy and the rich guy could afford to lose he's got tons of money and the poor guy can't afford to lose can't afford to lose so sometimes people want to be nice and philosophical and say listen the rich guy can afford to lose let's just give the case to the poor guy says such a such a such a person that judges like this is destroying the world why you're manipulating to you're not allowed to judge this way not allow to judge this way so what I believe David may be referring to over there when he says judge the uh uh the the poor favorably is an aspect of the legitimacy of their case meaning that sometimes rich people Sue each other without any legitimacy just to get back at each other just to hurt each other not because they actually have a case not because they they they really have they have a loss they're suing their insurance company for damages that didn't even Cur why cuz they figured let me make some money out of this they're suing their partner for something they don't even have no you hurt me have punitive damages my reputation is down I want $10 million your whole life is not worth five bucks you want $10 million for your reputation no I'm going to sue for this amount because I think I deserve this so sometimes the rich people not necessarily just billionaires but just people that are relatively successful and not poor they press charges against each other and lawsuits against each other without leg legitimacy whereas a poor person generally he's not going to do that why he's already struggling as it is he doesn't have that kind of time to waste like the rich part he doesn't have the luxury of time to go sue people for no reason he also doesn't have the budget to do it when you're a rich person you could just pretty much have a your own in-house lawyer or a law firm on retainer and pretty much just sue people on a regular basis I had a guy like that actually he used to be my boss ended up becoming my employee and this guy was the most litigious person in in the world now I can't even say his name cuz it's like Beetle Juice you say his name three times he shows up now this guy is the worst person like literally one of the worst people on Earth and he's a very dangerous person and anyway this guy was the most litigious person in the world everybody he sued if you looked at him the wrong way sued you if you did this sued you right or wrong sued you worst person everybody had a law every company ever worked at lawsuit every company bunch of his customers lawsuits it was unbelievable how many lawsuits this guy had anyway I made the mistake of actually hiring this guy he used to be my boss and then you know I went my own way I became a lot more successful than he ever was and one day he uh connected to me and then he uh wanted to become friends again and he talked to uh my brother he says listen maybe we could work together sold us a dream of how he can help us build a firm and I really wanted to go in a different direction so I needed somebody I needed somebody to run the division the the the company and uh I brought into it I said okay you know what I'll give you a job I'll give you this whatever you want whatever you want I gave it you know I was generous I did okay no problem within a a week my whole office is like upside down because of all the Havoc this guy's going but I say you know what let him go let him do whatever he's got to do he knows what he's doing all right he gets his paycheck he gets his this he gets his that he's building okay you know sometimes when there's change you know there a little bit of turmoil in the beginning but I start seeing the employees are complaining there's different difficulties we never had before so already within the first few weeks my wife already comes to me says this is a mistake mistake mistake okay but how do we get out of this mistake we have a contract with this amalik in my office I have a contract with this guy so whatever he'll bury himself one day so we continue doing what we're doing within a matter of maybe a month and a half two months he started burying himself as he always does and uh gets into an argument with me you know does a few things out of line and uh we catch him stealing we catch him stealing so oh okay you stole this violated the contract on this this this and this that's it fired that night he got his loyal to send that night it was like M prepared already that night he already had his lawyer sent me like a 20 Page Letter with 50 accusations of some crazy stuff that he just made up of different things he wants to sue me for $50 million or $250,000 cash right now one of them I'll never forget this he said he cuz he was not Jewish and uh he was an Italian guy and I like Italian people but this guy even the Italian people don't like uh and uh he uh he said that uh he felt persecuted every time the uh Rabbi the kabad guys used to come to my office like three times a week he felt persecuted that when the religious uh Jews would come to the office because he wasn't Jewish uh and they would whip we would whip him we would whip him because he's not Jewish the craziest stuff in the world then he said that like the secretary touched him this guy is like m a giant and his little secretary says she touched him in a in a provocative way like all types of crazy stuff and the lawyer doesn't care about anything why cuz he's a just like him in the end he got zero I told him to go fly a kite and uh you know go play this game with somebody else but uh not 50 million not 200,000 not zero he actually owed this money till this day but the point is is that there some people are just like that some people they're always the victim they want to sue everybody everyone's wrong listen one time two times three times everybody's wrong okay maybe but if you're in a lawsuit on a regular basis check yourself check yourself can't beat everybody now I know I'm kind of contradicting some or it sound like I'm contradicting some of the things I said myself I said I've never met a single honest person I didn't I didn't sue all of them I just they're not honest I moved on my life already at this point I don't even waste my time I don't waste my time suing people and F even arguing with them I see somebody actually just uh two weeks ago somebody made an agreement with me said he's going to uh uh do something and uh I told okay it's time to do what you said you're going to do two years ago oh I don't remember saying that uh you sure I said that I said listen I remember stuff from 3 years I remember what you said I remember what you said yeah no I remember that I said all of a sudden he remembers I remember that I said it but I don't think I meant it that way I said there's no other way to mean it but don't worry you don't want to do it do whatever you want you don't want to do it don't worry it will send me the money has will send the money you don't want to do it you owe me the money you don't think you you don't want to do it no problem go no no you don't understand no no no I understand perfectly fine if you want to give me the money you owe for me give you don't want to give don't give why take care of it fight with you go to bed was time for that what it's time for that what it's time to go fight if I'm entitled to the money will send it right to my door if I'm not I could fight till I'm blew in the face and I'm not going money I got a guy that owes me a half a million dollars right now you know how much a half a million dollars is more than what I have half a million dollars okay I lent them half a million dollars years ago supposed to give it back in 90 days it's been 13 years 14 years I never sued him I won't sue them I don't even call the guy why because if I'm entitled to the money will send it to my door without asking without nothing you know why I didn't get it I don't deserve it why I don't know I do good things with my money I give I give 20 everything good but decid that I don't deserve it maybe I don't need it Whatever It Is decision if you need it you want it there's all he's going to take care of everything that's how it works that's how it works what about the bed b is also good use it when you need to use it use it when you need to use it but if you're able to havea to the extent where you know that everything that's yours will be given to you you'll never be short changed he could steal from you but hasm can give you the money in a different way if you understand that hm runs the world you don't even have to use bedad says that bed is for for people have know but that's a different story that's for in his level so if somebody steals from you you try to get the money back from them if they don't want to give you the money back you go to the bed to uh you know uh tell them listen listen if you don't uh take you to the bedine if they don't want to go to the bedine you get a permission from the bedine to go to civil court you're allowed to use that there's no no problem with you doing that that's not a problem but if you've gotten yourself at a point where you believe that you are you have the that you know that nothing's going to be short changed and you're going to get everything that's you're entitled to you don't have to use the bed but that's as long as you're not suffering though meaning if you're not going to go to the bed you can't like you know eat your heart out every day a I can't believe you did it to me when I'm going to get the money back no if that's your attitude go to the bed go to bed if it doesn't bother you at all doesn't bother you at all you know has is going to give it to you you're patient don't bother don't waste your time go learn to with that time go with that time that's that's again everybody different level and I'm not telling you that I always this way I'm not telling you that I got this uh overnight or it's not it's it's so easy but the point is is that you're going to have UPS you're going to have Downs you're going to have good things you're going to have bad things but if you do good things with your money I promise you that K will do good for you and I'm going to finish it tonight with a real life story real life story you know when I get the story an hour before the lecture I always tell you guys you guys want Miracles come to the lecture a wonderful woman who's going to be writing this story on our website as part of the chuva stories she says Rabbi I have to tell you something something happened twice you know when something happens once something happens once you know oh you know it's a incident coincident this that happened twice one time a guy donated I was teaching or whatever he says donate $500 which was not a lot of money for him but a lot of money for his stinginess an hour later he tells me wow you're never going to believe it so what said I donate $500 you by the way it took him three years to donate this $500 I tell $500 you're never going to believe it just some woman out of nowhere called me says listen I I want you to do this uh job for me pick up stuff in my house I'll pay 500 bucks hasm paid me right away what I donated what a miracle what a miracle in reality I'm a v so anyway this wonderful woman she says RAB I have to tell you something I have proof that I said I know I have proof I have proof also in the T no no no I have proof in the Torah a life a real life so what happened he said a mon ago I donated money to B to the organization and that night that night I donated an hour later I went in the car with my young daughter we're going somewhere somebody blew the stop sign smashed into our car aah came they looked at us says I we have no idea how you're alive without a scratch on WE a scratch on my was an hour after I donate the money somebody blew a stop sign but nothing happened to us she says last night was a month ago last night I got this uh natural uh thing for uh that she started take trying it out she didn't know she's allergic to it she took a bite of this thing and she started feeling her throat close up within a matter of minutes she starting to have a hard time breathing atala come this that came everything said lady you're allergic to this thing they give a shot what seconds save the life everything she's everything good when was that an hour after she died she said Rabbi I was supposed to die twice supposed to die twice I gave has saved my life say Rabbi please do me a favor spread the story tell people that it's 100% true you donate you donate for donate for it's gon to save your life maybe today maybe tomorrow maybe this but everything at some point everything you do will have an outcome your prayers will have an outcome your takaka will have a outcome it may be an hour from now it may be a year from now maybe 10 years maybe in your kids lifetime who knows but for sure you're going to get paid for it for sure make sure that all of those Investments that you're doing and you're making are good ones the Investments you make with your mouth the Investments that you make with your pocket make sure that they're good so the payment that you're going to eventually get or that your descendants and kids are going to get is a good payment why because that's the type of payment that Hashem loves the most he wants to give you a good payment he wants to save your life but he also wants you to see that technically it could have been something else it could have been something else so that people are doing the right thing and they're helping day after day by supporting may they continue supporting may we be able to open the Yesa the K this huge community that we're going to build in South Florida for all those that want to donate a million and up you could text me 917 468 2324 no phone calls please have some mercy on me I have hundreds of messages to to deal with uh but on a serious note it's when you donate to you're donating for yourself you're donating for your investment for the second house the first house all the extra kitchen all that other stuff that's just this world we all have to donate for l so anyone that can should and even if you can't try to get other people that can everyone can do something you have a few friends you have a few family members that you can get together try to get people to uh do as much as possible because right now we're hot we're doing good people are uh you know people need this people want this and that's where we got to take advantage got to take advantage of the opportunity that we have because again if we do uh enough work in a relatively short period of time we may even be able to start something already in the next school year but if we delay so much and people pretty much you know crawl you know sending $20 a month for for for the sake of it's it's going to happen long time so we want everyone to be involved why because we don't want to give the the Merit to just one person just like that we learned from the one wall one wall why but I want to donate a million dollar okay so the million dollars will be for one wall we still want the million dollars it's not like less money it's same money one wall why because we want all of to be involved there's a lot to do there a lot of a lot of movies a lot of books puzzles all types of ideas cartoons we got lots of stuff in the works we need need enormous amount of funding says to me he says listen honestly I think even even if people donated $100 million it still wouldn't be enough I said for your ideas alone it wouldn't be enough he has a new idea by by the second God bless him so uh there's a lot of good things to do but we need as many partners as possible it's the investment is for you the investment is for you we all set ourselves up for good for for to be in a position that he wants to be in which is to give us good and we do good for others be a light to our own Nation be a light to the Nations and bring amen [Music]